Relationships going into college

[kiran917]

id like to know people's views and experiences. When two people are dating - one's younger than the other - 1 yr younger, 2 grades younger. youngers going into 10th, older in 12th. will this be a complication? b/c the senior will have college aps and four ap courses to go through (ap = college-like courses). one will not get home til like 6 pm and the two can only talk online. they can see each other weekends tho.

and then what about college? does this type of relationship have doom written all over it?

personally i think that if the ppl work hard enough and dont want to give up on each other they'll make it through -- senior yr at least.

*sorry if this makes no sense lolz, i dont feel like im explaining this thoroughly enough

[gujiguy2k4]

You can make it work if you really want it to. Most people decide to end it because they get some freedom at their new college.. and a hot new batch to choose from..

[kiran917]

yeah thats what i believe, but see one person - the person not becoming a senior - feels diffrently because he thinks hes holding the girl back and what not.

[bruin_now_whut!]

You can make it work if you really want it to. Most people decide to end it because they get some freedom at their new college.. and a hot new batch to choose from..
i disagree...the older one must be atleast 17...a 17 yr old shud not "Try" to make a relationship work...thers an age for everything..if it works effortlessly ..then gr8...but it ussually shudnt...coz u're growing up..u're mentally developing...u know wut im gettin it? u have alot to look forward to...studying comes first...no matter wut...im not being an "aunty" im not saying dun date ..go on and have fun...but dun commit urself...n i repeast...if it works out then gr8 but if it doesnt...dun make an effort..

[kiran917]

i disagree...the older one must be atleast 17...a 17 yr old shud not "Try" to make a relationship work...thers an age for everything..if it works effortlessly ..then gr8...but it ussually shudnt...coz u're growing up..u're mentally developing...u know wut im gettin it? u have alot to look forward to...studying comes first...no matter wut...im not being an "aunty" im not saying dun date ..go on and have fun...but dun commit urself...n i repeast...if it works out then gr8 but if it doesnt...dun make an effort..

the older ones 1 month away from 17. but i think in any relationship u need to work hard and not mind some non-communication once in a while - the two people get along great. do u think if they want this bad enough they can get through? and hwy not commit? i think the person is worth it

[kiran917]

i guess this is pointless-- every relationship is different right?
does anybody have experience i can learn from?

[bruin_now_whut!]

the older ones 1 month away from 17. but i think in any relationship u need to work hard and not mind some non-communication once in a while - the two people get along great. do u think if they want this bad enough they can get through? and hwy not commit? i think the person is worth it
yes i agree u need effort in a relationship..but thats only when thers a guaranteed future...when u meet a guy around the age of 22 or 23..coz sweetie there'll be times when u meet someone n u think "thats it ...im gonna be with him forever" but ppl change...trust me they do..n no matter how badly u dun want em to change,...they still do...its jus how it is...and u're 17...dont sit there and think abt how much u love him or he loves you..its not ur age to worry abt it...like i said tehres an age for everything..n right now u may think u're old and mature enuf to know wut u want..but u're not..u've got ALOT to add to that list...

[bruin_now_whut!]

i guess this is pointless-- every relationship is different right?
does anybody have experience i can learn from?
haha me again.me n my ex were almost 5 yrs

[kiran917]

yes i agree u need effort in a relationship..but thats only when thers a guaranteed future...when u meet a guy around the age of 22 or 23..coz sweetie there'll be times when u meet someone n u think "thats it ...im gonna be with him forever" but ppl change...trust me they do..n no matter how badly u dun want em to change,...they still do...its jus how it is...and u're 17...dont sit there and think abt how much u love him or he loves you..its not ur age to worry abt it...like i said tehres an age for everything..n right now u may think u're old and mature enuf to know wut u want..but u're not..u've got ALOT to add to that list...

i like that, it makes so much sense. thank youuuu!
btw,its not that i think hes the one, id just like to stick with him a bit loger ykno? and id really like him to be with me when im going through my hellish senior yr

[bruin_now_whut!]

i like that, it makes so much sense. thank youuuu!
btw,its not that i think hes the one, id just like to stick with him a bit loger ykno? and id really like him to be with me when im going through my hellish senior yr
yeh i gues thats wut i meant...be with him while u can...dont make an effort...coz..its pointless

[ronica91588]

haha me again.me n my ex were almost 5 yrs
u broke up w/ him!?

[cutedesi4eva]

id like to know people's views and experiences. When two people are dating - one's younger than the other - 1 yr younger, 2 grades younger. youngers going into 10th, older in 12th. will this be a complication? b/c the senior will have college aps and four ap courses to go through (ap = college-like courses). one will not get home til like 6 pm and the two can only talk online. they can see each other weekends tho.

and then what about college? does this type of relationship have doom written all over it?

personally i think that if the ppl work hard enough and dont want to give up on each other they'll make it through -- senior yr at least.

*sorry if this makes no sense lolz, i dont feel like im explaining this thoroughly enough
Your in a similar situation like my two friends were they're both 2 yrs apart age wise and 3yrs apart grade wise and have been dating ever since high school. And yes the boyfriend did become very busy with school, but then again so was the girlfriend. And when he went off to college they wouldn't see each other that much, but only on the weekends and when he'd come to see her.

What im trying to say is that they loved each other to keep their relationship alive, and have been going at it. They have been together for almost 6 yrs now and plan on many yrs ahead. Now if ur serious about this relationship you don't want to worry as long as ur committed.

[bruin_now_whut!]

u broke up w/ him!?
uh yeh lol

[kiran917]

Your in a similar situation like my two friends were they're both 2 yrs apart age wise and 3yrs apart grade wise and have been dating ever since high school. And yes the boyfriend did become very busy with school, but then again so was the girlfriend. And when he went off to college they wouldn't see each other that much, but only on the weekends and when he'd come to see her.

What im trying to say is that they loved each other to keep their relationship alive, and have been going at it. They have been together for almost 6 yrs now and plan on many yrs ahead. Now if ur serious about this relationship you don't want to worry as long as ur committed.


wow 6 yrs. so i guess myb i just shouldnt think about it- what will come will come
at least i wont ever regret going out with this guy .. hes taught me so much and has helped me through so much :)



thank u sooo much for your awesome advice bruin n cutedesi :bhapi:

[bad_cheque]

Long-distance relationships are tough to maintain. Everything else varies from person to person.

[sigdelt]

Well, I kinda had a similar situation. My boyfriend was in the same year as me in high school. We started dating at the end of our junior year. We went all through our senior year together, and we made time for each other, just like any couple who wants to spend time together. But, we both ended up going to different colleges. He ended up going out of state and I stayed in state, but still decently far from the 'rents (haha!) Anyway, he changed a lot when he got to college, probably because there were so many other girls to choose from who didn't know him. Our relationship went sour, but I tried to work hard, but any kind of relationship is a two way street, one person can't just pull all the weight...it takes two, and it also takes two to ruin a relationship. Anyway, on the whole I am glad we weren't together through college because I would have NOT enjoyed myself at all, he was waaaaaaaaaay too overbearing and protective. But, yeah, that is my story. The end. :D

[Baal Chaamon]

Long-distance relationships are tough to maintain. Everything else varies from person to person.

Indeed.My brother has been with his girl for 4 years now and their still going good even though they live 300km apart.I guess for them the distance is what helped them maintain their relationship instead of being in each others faces all day.

Concerning the topic of this thread,as people already said you're still quiet young and shouldn't worry about these things too much and just go with the flow and how you feel.Clinging to the way things used to be is not going to have any positive effect on a relationship and people have to change eventually,no way of avoiding that.

[grandprix606]

well i totally know what you mean.. dating someone younger or older than you is rough since you're both in diff. stages of your life.. it's easy to date someone the same age as you cuz then you can be there for one another through things. like my bf that i went out with during junior year was a junior too and it was cool because we were both taking similar classes, ap's, act's, and sat's together so i dunno it just worked really well... but if you're both patient and understanding it doesn't really matter how many years apart you guys are

[sharthap]

Mods, i think the Dating and Relationships Forum's hyperlink is corrupted. It seems to be accidentally leading people to the Serious Discussions forum.

[TrueIndiAnSOul]

First of all, All the people who think any age is too young to fall in love or try and keep a relationship going, are dumbasses. How can you put a minimum age on something like that. I know a lot of people who had an age difference in HighSchool and they worked hard at their relationship and ended up getting married. Actually 2 of them are about to get married sometime next year.

So Listen, if you want this relationship to work, don't put everything in God's hands. You have to work hard at it and if you really like(or love)the person then in future years you'll be Soooo glad that you didnt break things off.

And whoever said "Dont make an effort to save the relationship" honostly is outta their mind. I mean if you just have a small infactuation n your going out, yeah then go ahead. But if you two really like eachother and/or are in Love, Then for your sake(and his sake) do what ever you can to make the relationship work.......Impossible Is Nothing.

[bad_cheque]

trueIndiansoul, I agree with you.

Relationships need hard work (the reason why I don't get into them) and there is nothing wrong in working to save one. People are lousy these days and want quick pleasure and don't want to work hard and be loyal. That doesn't make them right. But again long distance relationships can be a bit hard. Good luck.