Forced Marriage

[hey luv]

This is the first survey conducted in the US on forced marriage issues in the South Asian communities. Please take it, the final report will work it's way up the government law enforcement offices. It may actually make a big change in a lot of people's lives:




http://cgi.umd.edu/survey/display?forcedmarriage/Pradeep


Thanks! :D

[skyfallsin]

..bump
take the survey guys please, it's not fake and it's really short.

[the light]

i have delt with this in the worst way my girl friend either had to dump me and marry who her parents picked out for her or be dis owned by the family. now she's engaged and she dosent want to be with this guy. she is still in love with me as i am with her. I could of married her if i wanted but i know her love for her family was so strong it would have killed her to leave them unhappy. I told her that her parents happiness is her missery and when she stops pleasing everyone else and starts pleasing herself she will always know where i am. I could have been selfish with her and just disregarded her family but that would have been wrong of me, she has to make the decesion on her own. We will be reunited one day and untill that day ill wait and if that day never comes i will carry on with my life untill that day comes.

[The Anti Desi]

I completed that survey, and now I it is my quest to stop this barbaric action. I don't mind if my parents find me a woman, but in the end, I am the one who accepts or rejects.

[DesiPrince005]

I completed that survey, and now I it is my quest to stop this barbaric action. I don't mind if my parents find me a woman, but in the end, I am the one who accepts or rejects.

there is a difference between arranged marriages and having ur family introduce you to somone..
if ur family isnt forcing you, that isnt an arranged marriage

alot of people, desi or non-desi meet people from a family member or relative

[hey luv]

i have delt with this in the worst way my girl friend either had to dump me and marry who her parents picked out for her or be dis owned by the family. It was a good survey.


i'm SO sorry for what you had to go through, and the worst part is it probably happens more then we like to think.

[hey luv]

I completed that survey, and now I it is my quest to stop this barbaric action. I don't mind if my parents find me a woman, but in the end, I am the one who accepts or rejects.



that's Great, unless people break the habit of forced marriage it won't change.
Also on a side note this survey was made by a male friend, who's current fiance :D
was forced to stop seeing him, But she basically told her family to go :madfawk: themselves.. and now they're engaged, and in my opinion are so perfect for each other :D

[DesiPrince005]

that's Great, unless people break the habit of forced marriage it won't change.
Also on a side note this survey was made by a male friend, who's current fiance :D
was forced to stop seeing him, But she basically told her family to go :madfawk: themselves.. and now they're engaged, and in my opinion are so perfect for each other :D


thats a hard situation to be in. You dont want to hurt ur family, but at the same time, if u meet the one person that u know is perfect for you, its hard to let them go
Your parents happiness is in important but thats jacked up if ur parents happiness depends on whether u marry someone who they chosen for you
if ur parents raised you well they should trust ur judgement on who you choose to marry
my parents werent arranged, im a product of a mixed marriage (indian/pakistani)
they cant force me to marry anyone, but i want to respect their say
ill most likely marry a desi girl, i love desi women
but if i meet another girl from another culture, and she is muslim, i think it would be just wrong for my parents to say i cant marry her
i mean, what if the person they chosen never ends up loving you? or the marriage isnt as perfect as they thought it was suppose to be? what do u do?

[hey luv]

thats a hard situation to be in. You dont want to hurt ur family, but at the same time, if u meet the one person that u know is perfect for you, its hard to let them go
Your parents happiness is in important but thats jacked up if ur parents happiness depends on whether u marry someone who they chosen for you
if ur parents raised you well they should trust ur judgement on who you choose to marry
my parents werent arranged, im a product of a mixed marriage (indian/pakistani)
they cant force me to marry anyone, but i want to respect their say
ill most likely marry a desi girl, i love desi women
but if i meet another girl from another culture, and she is muslim, i think it would be just wrong for my parents to say i cant marry her
i mean, what if the person they chosen never ends up loving you? or the marriage isnt as perfect as they thought it was suppose to be? what do u do?


True, alot of the times parents think they know best when it comes to choosing a partner, sometimes they do sometimes they don't. But obviously it's not the 18th century anymore, people are alot more independent.When parents decide who You are marrying for the rest of your life, without your consent that can mess up the rest of your life. Of course it's difficult for alot of desi kids to hurt their parents, sometimes it comes down your happiness or their happiness IF they really love you they will learn to love the person you choose to marry. But yea since your parents have a mixed marriage it'd be so hypocritical if they didnt' let u marry someone you wanted to.