Dating a non-desi person

[Xxmichelle917xx]

Hey guys, I just wanted to Know what are your opinions on dating a non-desi person.
My friend recently turned 18 this year and her parents found out that she was going out w/ this Spanish guy and they threw her out of the house!! She's a really good girl...like she's on a full scholarship and honors and stuff...and her parents stopped paying for her R&B also, so ever since the starting of the semester, she's been living with my family. She has broken up with the guy but her family has totally disowned her.
I feel so sorry for her...I mean my parents want to see me end up w/ some desi guy eventually (my dad sends me to all these desi events bc he thinks im too amer. lol), but I don't think theyd disown me if I didnt? Ok who am i kidding, mb my dad would...but my mom would stand behind me....
So I was wondering what's it like with other families...I mean do all desi parents still think like this? And also, do u think they were right in disowning her?
tOo MuCh dESi pOlitiCS!!!

[SIXPAK GQ]

Hey guys, I just wanted to Know what are your opinions on dating a non-desi person.
My friend recently turned 18 this year and her parents found out that she was going out w/ this Spanish guy and they threw her out of the house!! She's a really good girl...like she's on a full scholarship and honors and stuff...and her parents stopped paying for her R&B also, so ever since the starting of the semester, she's been living with my family. She has broken up with the guy but her family has totally disowned her.
I feel so sorry for her...I mean my parents want to see me end up w/ some desi guy eventually (my dad sends me to all these desi events bc he thinks im too amer. lol), but I don't think theyd disown me if I didnt? Ok who am i kidding, mb my dad would...but my mom would stand behind me....
So I was wondering what's it like with other families...I mean do all desi parents still think like this? And also, do u think they were right in disowning her?
tOo MuCh dESi pOlitiCS!!!

she did a bad job hiding from her parents. my family is open minded, cool with any ethnicity.

[desi_chic_07]

^ well I guess ur just lucky then

It was completely unnecessary for them to disown her...theres Indians for ya :eek:

[xtcshri2222]

Hey guys, I just wanted to Know what are your opinions on dating a non-desi person.
My friend recently turned 18 this year and her parents found out that she was going out w/ this Spanish guy and they threw her out of the house!! She's a really good girl...like she's on a full scholarship and honors and stuff...and her parents stopped paying for her R&B also, so ever since the starting of the semester, she's been living with my family. She has broken up with the guy but her family has totally disowned her.
I feel so sorry for her...I mean my parents want to see me end up w/ some desi guy eventually (my dad sends me to all these desi events bc he thinks im too amer. lol), but I don't think theyd disown me if I didnt? Ok who am i kidding, mb my dad would...but my mom would stand behind me....
So I was wondering what's it like with other families...I mean do all desi parents still think like this? And also, do u think they were right in disowning her?
tOo MuCh dESi pOlitiCS!!!


i don't care about raise, And as for your friend i'ed deck my parents if they ever pulled some bullshit like that. I like my parents but shit don't get between me an my woman. But i shouldn't have that problem my parents eloped however they are hypocrits half the time. Ofcourse they wrong how the fuck you disown your daughter cause she was dating a spanish guy, they some dumb people out their.

I work in sales, i meet desi people omg wtf is wrong with them, half of the desi people make me feel ashamed to be indian they are a damm disgrace. Her parents are one of the fanatical morons that make me feel so. How the hell you bring your brown ass to this country an think your liniage is gonna stay all pure brown.

[budz]

Absolutely disgraceful parents.

[Xxmichelle917xx]

i don't care about raise, And as for your friend i'ed deck my parents if they ever pulled some bullshit like that. I like my parents but shit don't get between me an my woman. But i shouldn't have that problem my parents eloped however they are hypocrits half the time. Ofcourse they wrong how the fuck you disown your daughter cause she was dating a spanish guy, they some dumb people out their.

I work in sales, i meet desi people omg wtf is wrong with them, half of the desi people make me feel ashamed to be indian they are a damm disgrace. Her parents are one of the fanatical morons that make me feel so. How the hell you bring your brown ass to this country an think your liniage is gonna stay all pure brown.

That's what I'm thinking also...but desi parents are so strict...
there are so0000ooo many desis out there to go out w/ but some desi guys are so controlling or narrow minded or both! I guess that's why girls go out with other types of guy...
I think it's sad tho....I mean i went out wiht this guy who was white n punjabi..and my parents were ok w/ it ... but i think theyd be more proud of me if i had gone out w/ fobs or something like tht lol
My aunt was telling me that if u get married to someone who is not your race, then there will be a culture barrier and that's the first thing they say when u speak abt it...theyre like oh well they wouldnt undy ur culture blah blah blah

[SIXPAK GQ]

^ well I guess ur just lucky then

It was completely unnecessary for them to disown her...theres Indians for ya :eek:

nope, even if they were the like original poster posted. i'd still make my own decisions.

[Rachana]

my parents think that way but i dont think they will disown me..... they start freaking when i im talkin to a desi guy for about 20 mins

[reo1]

my parents would kick me out of teh house for having a girl friend! even if she was desi :eek:

[HateU2Mafuqa]

man my parents knew iw as talkiin 2 a desi guy n did my mom kick my ass or wat....hes my religion race n he live right there nor is he illegal like most the guys that wanna marry or somethin like that

[@psara]

when ma rents found out bout ma guy even tho he was desi i jus got 2 slaps, dey wudnt chuck me out dey kno i'd walk out nyday lol

[Xxmichelle917xx]

when ma rents found out bout ma guy even tho he was desi i jus got 2 slaps, dey wudnt chuck me out dey kno i'd walk out nyday lol


Sometimes ppl say theyd walk out but then when it comes to tht..its very hard to live on ur own...lol....who will pay for skool and stuff like tht? Even tho parents are wrong with this whole" u cant date" or " u can only date someone we apporve of" thing, I don't think I'd walk out of my parents house for a guy...unless he signed a document saying tht he will always take care of me which includes financially, etc...otherwise...heck no!!!

[ignitedfury86]

I mean you can always find another bf/gf but you can never replace your parents.
I think its better to just like, stick with desis cuz your never sure how your parents would react, and you would be looked at differently in the family if you started a family with a non-desi...
i dont think they should have thrown her out if she broke up with him...i woulda just said to break up with him or your out. im sure its not easy on the parents to actually get rid of their kid :eek:

if u think/kno that your parents woldnt like u gettin involved with a non-desi or someone other than your religion, than its better to not get into a relationship like that. think of it as a guideline...itll be better in the long run :wavey:

[indibro]

i havnt gone out wit one desi girl yet!! all wogs and aussies! deres no desi girls in melbourne :-

[budz]

i havnt gone out wit one desi girl yet!! all wogs and aussies! deres no desi girls in melbourne :-
Hahaha!! Is this the same melbourne ive been to? I thought melb has the biggest population of Sri Lankans outside SL. And surely there are tons of other types of curry people too. Try coming to the canberra region, hardly any :(

[indibro]

yeah i no heaps of lankans but all like 20's! and desi gilrs here = BS!!

[.C.R.E.A.M]

Hahaha!! Is this the same melbourne ive been to? I thought melb has the biggest population of Sri Lankans outside SL. And surely there are tons of other types of curry people too. Try coming to the canberra region, hardly any :(


HAHA u think melbourne is bad... SYdney is fuckn 10 times worse.,.. everywhere u go u see the same old few desi chicks... dun even bother going after desi chciks no more!!!

[indibro]

deres was just one deis-fijian girl in my whole skool man! otta like 1500 ppl! and like 1000 asians!

[.C.R.E.A.M]

deres was just one deis-fijian girl in my whole skool man! otta like 1500 ppl! and like 1000 asians!

Go NZ ro Sydney, there plenty of fijian indian chciks

[Kavita]

Hey guys, I just wanted to Know what are your opinions on dating a non-desi person.
My friend recently turned 18 this year and her parents found out that she was going out w/ this Spanish guy and they threw her out of the house!! She's a really good girl...like she's on a full scholarship and honors and stuff...and her parents stopped paying for her R&B also, so ever since the starting of the semester, she's been living with my family. She has broken up with the guy but her family has totally disowned her.
I feel so sorry for her...I mean my parents want to see me end up w/ some desi guy eventually (my dad sends me to all these desi events bc he thinks im too amer. lol), but I don't think theyd disown me if I didnt? Ok who am i kidding, mb my dad would...but my mom would stand behind me....
So I was wondering what's it like with other families...I mean do all desi parents still think like this? And also, do u think they were right in disowning her?
tOo MuCh dESi pOlitiCS!!!

I sort of understand...I mean my parents are sort of like that. My dad hasnt really discusssed to much about if i should be dating an Indian guy or not, but my mom is so pressuring about it. Im seeing this white guy (no commitment yet) but if it becomes serious, it could be hard.

And no not ALL desi families think like this, there are some that are really open minded about the fact. A big factor could be the relgion and other stuff if the different races have diff relgions

Sometimes I wish some of us were open to other things, the rite guys aren't always found within ONE race.

[the big d]

Hey guys, I just wanted to Know what are your opinions on dating a non-desi person.
My friend recently turned 18 this year and her parents found out that she was going out w/ this Spanish guy and they threw her out of the house!! She's a really good girl...like she's on a full scholarship and honors and stuff...and her parents stopped paying for her R&B also, so ever since the starting of the semester, she's been living with my family. She has broken up with the guy but her family has totally disowned her.
I feel so sorry for her...I mean my parents want to see me end up w/ some desi guy eventually (my dad sends me to all these desi events bc he thinks im too amer. lol), but I don't think theyd disown me if I didnt? Ok who am i kidding, mb my dad would...but my mom would stand behind me....
So I was wondering what's it like with other families...I mean do all desi parents still think like this? And also, do u think they were right in disowning her?
tOo MuCh dESi pOlitiCS!!!


i cant believe the parents acted like that. what is thier problem, it is embarrasing. i'm a guy, so my parents let me do whatever i want in terms of dating, actually they are the same for my sister. when she was younger she felt she needed to hide the fact that she was in a relationship, but now she tells my parents everything. my parets are real liberal i would say tho. they def. want us to date ppl and get to know them. it is the only way that u can know if they are marrige material down the road...

[Xxmichelle917xx]

i cant believe the parents acted like that. what is thier problem, it is embarrasing. i'm a guy, so my parents let me do whatever i want in terms of dating, actually they are the same for my sister. when she was younger she felt she needed to hide the fact that she was in a relationship, but now she tells my parents everything. my parets are real liberal i would say tho. they def. want us to date ppl and get to know them. it is the only way that u can know if they are marrige material down the road...
ur parents allowed u to date? i recently broke up w/ my bf bc his parents were forcing marriage!

[xxjessxx]

aw thats really sad..im sure my parents are exstatic with the idea however they accept it..my sister is going to marry someone nonindian, and at first they were really upset but they met him and realized everything would be okay..but i think if i married someone nonindian they would be upset bc they already had one daughter do it, they need one indian son in law but they would never disown me..now if i got pregnant b4 marriage, they would..i think

[SIXPAK GQ]

Sometimes ppl say theyd walk out but then when it comes to tht..its very hard to live on ur own...lol....who will pay for skool and stuff like tht? Even tho parents are wrong with this whole" u cant date" or " u can only date someone we apporve of" thing, I don't think I'd walk out of my parents house for a guy...unless he signed a document saying tht he will always take care of me which includes financially, etc...otherwise...heck no!!!

you are going to live on ur own someday, not going to be a daddy's girl all ur life, so the earlier u get out, the faster u learn...there are people who work and go to school. so basically u r kissing ur parents a*s*s? now why should a guy support u in first place? are u dependant?

[Xxmichelle917xx]

you are going to live on ur own someday, not going to be a daddy's girl all ur life, so the earlier u get out, the faster u learn...there are people who work and go to school. so basically u r kissing ur parents a*s*s? now why should a guy support u in first place? are u dependant?
duhhhh rite now Im a dependant...at least i dont have loans or any of tht shit other ppl my age got...and im not lookin to live off any guy...I have a long way to go, ugrad and then grad and im not gonna mess it up by giving up the opportunities that my parents have given to me :-) and i wouldnt be living w/ them all my life either...but for now I do... and even tho i dont always agree w/ them, I'm ok w/ it....

[Xxmichelle917xx]

aw thats really sad..im sure my parents are exstatic with the idea however they accept it..my sister is going to marry someone nonindian, and at first they were really upset but they met him and realized everything would be okay..but i think if i married someone nonindian they would be upset bc they already had one daughter do it, they need one indian son in law but they would never disown me..now if i got pregnant b4 marriage, they would..i think
hell yea my dad would disown me if i got pregnant....that's an issue he always discusses lol and the thing is we live in new york ( well not in the city but close enough) and there are loads of teens who have babies and they wanted 'em....and my dad would be like " that's soo disgraceful'" and u kno the rest lol...My mom wouldnt disown me tho bc she understands shit happens lol.....but she'd be disappointed....

[SIXPAK GQ]

duhhhh rite now Im a dependant...at least i dont have loans or any of tht shit other ppl my age got...and im not lookin to live off any guy...I have a long way to go, ugrad and then grad and im not gonna mess it up by giving up the opportunities that my parents have given to me :-) and i wouldnt be living w/ them all my life either...but for now I do... and even tho i dont always agree w/ them, I'm ok w/ it....

loans like 'student loans' are good debts which build ur credit history.

[Kavita]

you are going to live on ur own someday, not going to be a daddy's girl all ur life, so the earlier u get out, the faster u learn...there are people who work and go to school. so basically u r kissing ur parents a*s*s? now why should a guy support u in first place? are u dependant?


Yeah thats true. Its better to remove yourself from that shelter and throw yourself out into the world....the more shit you go through, the stronger you'll be. My only regret is not learning this until just recently. but NEVER think you have to marry a guy for dependency...a guy (or woman) in someother cases, should not be responsible for supporting you...thats ur job.

Anyway I know i will be with the person I want to be with, parents dont like it,but in they end they care about ur happiness...if they see you are truly happy, they will soon give in..thats what i think...oda parents may not be like that.

[cutealicious]

my parents dont care..i mean wen im out of college im allowed to marry any race i want as long as hez a good guy u know thats what counts..

[MaximumAwesome]

you should lower the bar one notch at a time, so they don't expect so much from you. i doubt if my parents would be surprised if they found a methlab being run out of a broken down bus put in a pit just outside kingston.

[Sikh4Lyfe]

my parents would be happy if i brought a brown girl home...as for meth lab in a broken down bus in kingston....i wouldnt doubt there is on....

[CaramelPrincess]

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I know how its like when your parents dont approve of your bf. I went out a/ a non desi he was blk and my mom didnt like him at all. He was a nice guy and he treated me well but my parents were not having it. They didnt throw me out though. I told them about him after we broke up, but they kinda knew that I had liked him. They told me to get over him and that there was someone better for me. Honestly they want you to be w/ your own kind. They say it's much easier when the other person shares your culture.
I think its sad that they threw your friend out they could have handled it another way but what's done is done. Its also really sad because your friend and her bf broke up, its like she told them and just ended up w/ nothing. Makes you wish you wish you didnt say anything. Tell her to be strong, you're a good friend to take her in. There will be someone new and maybe with some time her parents will come around. I hope for sake that they do.
Take care,
\~*~/ Princess :)

[Xxmichelle917xx]

loans like 'student loans' are good debts which build ur credit history.
i have awesome credit..it's called having ur own credit cards and paying 'em on time :-) not taking loans in which, come four years from now, u're living pay check to pay check...
but all im trying to say is...that..my parents are willing to pay for my education...so y shud i screw it up by taking out student loans? They wanna pay for it...i dont think they have anything else to do w/ their money
.....btw ive seen my cousins who have done it the way i did and theyre pretty successful...so there is nothing wrong w/ living w/ parents
and im only there during vacations...

[SIXPAK GQ]

Yeah thats true. Its better to remove yourself from that shelter and throw yourself out into the world....the more shit you go through, the stronger you'll be. My only regret is not learning this until just recently. but NEVER think you have to marry a guy for dependency...a guy (or woman) in someother cases, should not be responsible for supporting you...thats ur job.

Anyway I know i will be with the person I want to be with, parents dont like it,but in they end they care about ur happiness...if they see you are truly happy, they will soon give in..thats what i think...oda parents may not be like that.

but ur only 19, so right now is about the right time.

[SIXPAK GQ]

i have awesome credit..it's called having ur own credit cards and paying 'em on time :-) not taking loans in which, come four years from now, u're living pay check to pay check...
but all im trying to say is...that..my parents are willing to pay for my education...so y shud i screw it up by taking out student loans? They wanna pay for it...i dont think they have anything else to do w/ their money
.....btw ive seen my cousins who have done it the way i did and theyre pretty successful...so there is nothing wrong w/ living w/ parents
and im only there during vacations...

credit cards are bad debts unless u r paying it in full amount. thats great that ur parents are paying. lot of students do not get that opportunity. u may think that they don't have anything to do with their money but in reality they worked their a*s*s to save up that money for ur college education.

[Xxmichelle917xx]

credit cards are bad debts unless u r paying it in full amount. thats great that ur parents are paying. lot of students do not get that opportunity. u may think that they don't have anything to do with their money but in reality they worked their a*s*s to save up that money for ur college education.
yea all my credit card bills are paid in full...and yeap and they do work their ass to pay for my sisterz n me...but it's all good since my brother gradated already..now it's just 3 more to go .. . :-)

[XxXanamikaXxX]

Hey guys, I just wanted to Know what are your opinions on dating a non-desi person.
My friend recently turned 18 this year and her parents found out that she was going out w/ this Spanish guy and they threw her out of the house!! She's a really good girl...like she's on a full scholarship and honors and stuff...and her parents stopped paying for her R&B also, so ever since the starting of the semester, she's been living with my family. She has broken up with the guy but her family has totally disowned her.
I feel so sorry for her...I mean my parents want to see me end up w/ some desi guy eventually (my dad sends me to all these desi events bc he thinks im too amer. lol), but I don't think theyd disown me if I didnt? Ok who am i kidding, mb my dad would...but my mom would stand behind me....
So I was wondering what's it like with other families...I mean do all desi parents still think like this? And also, do u think they were right in disowning her?
tOo MuCh dESi pOlitiCS!!!

Woahh :eek: that is a bit too harsh now. Well as for me if you are just dating as in like chilling or just doing young teenage-ish stuff together.. i guess nuthing wrong with that. But if u have plans to get married together..umm i dunno abt others, but my parentz wont allow that :neutral: Has to be a desi... and most def. a hindu too :rolleyes:

[~Eksy~]

wow! sumtimes parents can be harsh...alot of parents who are conservative or even semi-conservative wouldn't let their lil gurl date a non-desi guy i dunno why maybe cuz they dont trust em'...but bein thrown outta da house is sumthin no one should deal with just cuz we're still teens and all.
down here in bkk parents are pretty chill but a lot are still in to the whole "must date only a guy from your culture" and into the whole "arranged marriage" thing

[Xxmichelle917xx]

welcome Eksy and Anamika :-)

[Fatty4life]

I dont mind it, neither do my parents. as long as the guy is decent, and has a direction in life :)

[~Eksy~]

maybe the parents just fear it cuz they all hear about the " relationships all gone bad" when a indian good gurl has a white bf

[~Eksy~]

btw thankx for the welcome gurl! hehe! :)

[sharpeyes]

Well the funny things is parents in the US are far more conservative than those back in India. Maybe its cause they left the country long ago and still retain the culture of when they left which was long ago.

I have a friends in India who date foreigners and their parents are cool about it. At least Im sure most parents wouldnt disown their daughter for this!

Love sees no race or religion or reason. You cant control falling in love....otherwise it wouldnt be called "falling in love" :cool:

[harshad]

My parents don't mind...lol... obviously... their pretty desperate to get me some person.... :p :p


but my friend's parents don't have a problem with it... has long as the other family is open-minded.. and that certain person is the "right" one...
who really gives a fuck...?lol

[~Eksy~]

Well the funny things is parents in the US are far more conservative than those back in India. Maybe its cause they left the country long ago and still retain the culture of when they left which was long ago.

I have a friends in India who date foreigners and their parents are cool about it. At least Im sure most parents wouldnt disown their daughter for this!

Love sees no race or religion or reason. You cant control falling in love....otherwise it wouldnt be called "falling in love" :cool:

agree withchoo all da way!

[EwLookItsYou]

Hey guys, I just wanted to Know what are your opinions on dating a non-desi person.
My friend recently turned 18 this year and her parents found out that she was going out w/ this Spanish guy and they threw her out of the house!! She's a really good girl...like she's on a full scholarship and honors and stuff...and her parents stopped paying for her R&B also, so ever since the starting of the semester, she's been living with my family. She has broken up with the guy but her family has totally disowned her.
I feel so sorry for her...I mean my parents want to see me end up w/ some desi guy eventually (my dad sends me to all these desi events bc he thinks im too amer. lol), but I don't think theyd disown me if I didnt? Ok who am i kidding, mb my dad would...but my mom would stand behind me....
So I was wondering what's it like with other families...I mean do all desi parents still think like this? And also, do u think they were right in disowning her?
tOo MuCh dESi pOlitiCS!!!

ugh idk but my mom wud be really.. upset.. maybe not so much my dad cuz his mentality is different..
im dating this white dude n wow my mom wudn go crazy if she even knew i was going out with someone let alone a white guy.

but as far as relationships my mom is like.. HAS to be MUSLIM and HAS to be BENGALI
so like.. eh.. my mom wud totally die..

[Ac89]

Hey guys, I just wanted to Know what are your opinions on dating a non-desi person.
My friend recently turned 18 this year and her parents found out that she was going out w/ this Spanish guy and they threw her out of the house!! She's a really good girl...like she's on a full scholarship and honors and stuff...and her parents stopped paying for her R&B also, so ever since the starting of the semester, she's been living with my family. She has broken up with the guy but her family has totally disowned her.
I feel so sorry for her...I mean my parents want to see me end up w/ some desi guy eventually (my dad sends me to all these desi events bc he thinks im too amer. lol), but I don't think theyd disown me if I didnt? Ok who am i kidding, mb my dad would...but my mom would stand behind me....
So I was wondering what's it like with other families...I mean do all desi parents still think like this? And also, do u think they were right in disowning her?
tOo MuCh dESi pOlitiCS!!!
this politics bullshit exists in everything...even religion...and in temples. How sad is that?
it's a branch from the ego tree....it can only lead a soul to corruption and on the wrong path!
i think her parents ARE 110% stupid and wrong in disowning her...how can u? what kind of parnets are you?? shame on them!!!

anyways...i think the idea exists in all desi parents....more or less. and my parents want to see me with a indian girl...but i don't care. If she and i are on the same wave lenght and we can live with each other for the rest of our lives..accepting our differnece and similiraites....then i don't see why religion should matter!

[ShivaChrist]

Hey guys, I just wanted to Know what are your opinions on dating a non-desi person.
My friend recently turned 18 this year and her parents found out that she was going out w/ this Spanish guy and they threw her out of the house!! She's a really good girl...like she's on a full scholarship and honors and stuff...and her parents stopped paying for her R&B also, so ever since the starting of the semester, she's been living with my family. She has broken up with the guy but her family has totally disowned her.
I feel so sorry for her...I mean my parents want to see me end up w/ some desi guy eventually (my dad sends me to all these desi events bc he thinks im too amer. lol), but I don't think theyd disown me if I didnt? Ok who am i kidding, mb my dad would...but my mom would stand behind me....
So I was wondering what's it like with other families...I mean do all desi parents still think like this? And also, do u think they were right in disowning her?
tOo MuCh dESi pOlitiCS!!!

The world is full of stupid people. I'm talking about the parents.

[STYLE GOD]

Ay I will make this one short and easy.
It look better when you are with your own kinds.
For example like..
A sikh with a sikh.
A muslim with a muslim.
A hindu with a hindu.
A christian with a christian.. etc.

Stick to your clan, always be proud of your roots.
I am sorry for how it goes and I know that everyone from every nations are beautiful. But this will make a less of trouble for your ancestors and your future children. If you know wot I mean.....

True parents trained you 60% of the time while the other 20/20, 30/10 or 40% of the time you were on your own making the decisions. But please respect your parents because you are living under their roofs and try to understand why they either like it or not. Simple as that.. if you make a mistake or make one of your parents unhappy.. just apologize and let them know that you won't make that mistake again. Once you are out of college/university without getting any distractions or family problems you are better off on your own and then you can do about anything for yourself. But again its your decision to make and don't forget wot your parents have taught you.

[desi_gunda]

Very well said.

[ShivaChrist]

Ay I will make this one short and easy.
It look better when you are with your own kinds.
For example like..
A sikh with a sikh.
A muslim with a muslim.
A hindu with a hindu.
A christian with a christian.. etc.

Stick to your clan, always be proud of your roots.
I am sorry for how it goes and I know that everyone from every nations are beautiful. But this will make a less of trouble for your ancestors and your future children. If you know wot I mean.....

True parents trained you 60% of the time while the other 20/20, 30/10 or 40% of the time you were on your own making the decisions. But please respect your parents because you are living under their roofs and try to understand why they either like it or not. Simple as that.. if you make a mistake or make one of your parents unhappy.. just apologize and let them know that you won't make that mistake again. Once you are out of college/university without getting any distractions or family problems you are better off on your own and then you can do about anything for yourself. But again its your decision to make and don't forget wot your parents have taught you.

Unfortunately with that attitude we as a human race will never get anywhere. We are all human beings, and every single thing that keeps us seperated was created by us and the only purpose it serves is to keep man (and woman) divided.

[Km Tipsy]

Well Depends who it is...what type of family you have grown up through, what they expect from you... ( they = Family ) ...some families arent the same...some agree with dating outside da desi world...w.e is ur taste is ur taste...u were created with it and no1 can stop u...unless...its ya parents n ur gonna get kicked outa da house or somethin

[toasted]

Hey guys, I just wanted to Know what are your opinions on dating a non-desi person.
My friend recently turned 18 this year and her parents found out that she was going out w/ this Spanish guy and they threw her out of the house!! She's a really good girl...like she's on a full scholarship and honors and stuff...and her parents stopped paying for her R&B also, so ever since the starting of the semester, she's been living with my family. She has broken up with the guy but her family has totally disowned her.
I feel so sorry for her...I mean my parents want to see me end up w/ some desi guy eventually (my dad sends me to all these desi events bc he thinks im too amer. lol), but I don't think theyd disown me if I didnt? Ok who am i kidding, mb my dad would...but my mom would stand behind me....
So I was wondering what's it like with other families...I mean do all desi parents still think like this? And also, do u think they were right in disowning her?
tOo MuCh dESi pOlitiCS!!!
prob a lot of desi parents think like this. but personally i think for a lot of muslim famiilies it'll come down do religion in the end. so if the guy is muslim they're accept it sooner or later..

[thebOngb3b3]

Hey guys, I just wanted to Know what are your opinions on dating a non-desi person.
My friend recently turned 18 this year and her parents found out that she was going out w/ this Spanish guy and they threw her out of the house!! She's a really good girl...like she's on a full scholarship and honors and stuff...and her parents stopped paying for her R&B also, so ever since the starting of the semester, she's been living with my family. She has broken up with the guy but her family has totally disowned her.
I feel so sorry for her...I mean my parents want to see me end up w/ some desi guy eventually (my dad sends me to all these desi events bc he thinks im too amer. lol), but I don't think theyd disown me if I didnt? Ok who am i kidding, mb my dad would...but my mom would stand behind me....
So I was wondering what's it like with other families...I mean do all desi parents still think like this? And also, do u think they were right in disowning her?
tOo MuCh dESi pOlitiCS!!!

damn gurl i feel ur frendz pain.. i'm in luv with this guy whOoz half kOrean and half german/irish... and my parents HATE him... sO they think we've brOken up... and we're plannin on gettin engaged as sOon as i graduate... yeh... i dunno how to make my parents understand he'z not a bad person... she's obssessed with tha fact tht hez had sex with more gurlz before me and blah blah blah... sO what? shez threatened to disown me if i get serious with him... man.. talk abt drama... i really dont understand why it's such a big deal.... tO all tha hunniez gOin thru tha same shit - i feel u hun...

[lilgttasha]

well my parents are sorta like that too.....its hard when your whole family is against you going out w/ someone non-desi....my parents would bury me alive! lol i understand where they are coming from but then again sum parents need to lighten up a little.....my family totally disowned my cousin when they found out she was going out with a black guy. when my family found out o man all hell broke loose! she's not with that guy anymore but my family still does not speak to her!! and that was two years ago......

[babiiface]

my parents are really weird... if i come straight out and mention guys we'd end up in an arguement with me walking away to my room + slamming they door + blasting the music... well actually this only happens with my mom cause shes the only one who would bring all of this up...

and the thing about dating (any) guy my parents would murder me if they knew
marrying a guy of a diff race....
my mom would want to murder me BUT my dad wouldnt mind if we were that serious + if it was true love... he would seriously be getting us married off... BUT if its just dating + we have no intention of marrying... he would really disown me

[Fallen-Angel]

My family's the same, im going out with an arab, and im pakistani....you'd think that the fact that he's muslim would be fine but noooooooooo and he's well off, got both parents as doctors, sisters a lawyer, brother runs his own business, but nooooo still, they don't know as yet but when the doooo........... :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

[Xxmichelle917xx]

according to my mom...goin out w/ muslims are ok ...like u know...at least a desi muslim... and my dad wants me to go out with someone christian lol...so i kno ill nvr satisfy wht they want...but my bf was paki...and we had to break up bc his parents were forcing us to get married since if ure muslim ure not supposed to date before ure married..... so i was like that's the last muslim guy im dating...it was soo sad bc he wanted us to get married and stuff but he was 21 and im 19? wtf lol and my dad said it was up to me...but i couldnt do it...we're too young....we'd drive each other crazy! and then he said oj we shud go out and just not let his parents find out abt it ...but then i was like u shudnt do tht to ur parents...i'd nvr do it for any guy.....