double standards

[punjabi godess]

different standards for a girl and for a boy...

girls cant do shit or get away with shit

then the boy comes along and does the same thing...but gets away with it..the one set down..well maybe not the one..but A setdown to being a girl

but it only seems to be in the indian society..

discuss..

*note: whoa my first serious thread...i think lol

[KeyserSoze]

Every hear of a guy claiming sexual harassment?

[punjabi godess]

cuz girls dont harass :rolleyes:

[Ac89]

and yet you complain? desi parents don't look down on you or judge you because you're a girl....
and wiht more stupid desi guys doing it..a.dn the more these ppl gossip..the worse the guys become...

:no:

[DJDaNGeR]

different standards for a girl and for a boy...

girls cant do shit or get away with shit

then the boy comes along and does the same thing...but gets away with it..the one set down..well maybe not the one..but A setdown to being a girl

but it only seems to be in the indian society..

discuss..

*note: whoa my first serious thread...i think lol
girls can get away with walking naked or in bikini on the street, i doubt guys can

[ShivaChrist]

different standards for a girl and for a boy...

girls cant do shit or get away with shit

then the boy comes along and does the same thing...but gets away with it..the one set down..well maybe not the one..but A setdown to being a girl

but it only seems to be in the indian society..

discuss..

*note: whoa my first serious thread...i think lol

No, its not only in the indian society. Might feel that way because you're desi but its in almost every society, if not all of them.

[bewakoof]

I got sexually abused today at breakfast..

[punjabi godess]

and yet you complain? desi parents don't look down on you or judge you because you're a girl....
and wiht more stupid desi guys doing it..a.dn the more these ppl gossip..the worse the guys become...

:no:

theres always more of a standard for a girl tho..lyk household stuff..what guy has ever been told to lyk mop the floor..?

and DJ not when theyre fat.. :rolleyes: old bald white guys do the fat shirtless things lyk 24/7 eww bad image

and shiva good piont but i cant see it from ne other piont
and from where i see it...all my white frends party every weekend hang out every day where am i...yes at home :(

[GeminiPinay]

girls can get away with anything and or guys..it all depends on how well you can decieve or get mischievious, or just know how peoples minds work. Some people get caught for doing dumb things because they simply dont know what they are doin.

[KeyserSoze]

cuz girls dont harass :rolleyes:

You're a lying whore.

[ORaNGe dAsY]

I got sexually abused today at breakfast..
by his own guy friends, it was disgusting, :puker:
:no:

[thaiz]

Yes, double standar, if ur 6 y/o son come home after the day in the school and tell u he likes 2 or 3 girls u will tell everyone and ur husband prolly will be proud of him.... but if a same age girl come and tell u she likes a guy at the school u will scream and think she is a slutty so yes double standars...its how the world work

[KeyserSoze]

Yes, double standar, if ur 6 y/o son come home after the day in the school and tell u he likes 2 or 3 girls u will tell everyone and ur husband prolly will be proud of him.... but if a same age girl come and tell u she likes a guy at the school u will scream and think she is a slutty so yes double standars...its how the world work


You have a weird family.

[biatch 604]

i was talking to my mom abt my uncles marriage ..... he had a lot of gf's before he got married .. i asked mom if my aunt had a lot of bfs be4 she was married wud my uncle have married her??? she said no because then she would have been considered "inappropriate" .... well then y is it considered appropriate for my uncle to have a dozen gf's ??? " cuz he is a guy" :mad:

[pachaas Paisa]

you girls are fuckin ungrateful for what you have. do you not realzie in this country women get more favor. IN everything... accidents, women are favored better, court cases... same thing, you fuckin stand out in the cold askin for a lift.. a guy would be nice enough to give you one. Women are far more respected than men. stop complaining, the only reason parents keep an eye on you is because girls when let out, do stupid shit. A guy fuckin doesnt get pregnant.. but a girl does. A guy is more balanced when it comes to social life than a girl. And think of it this way, physically youre weak, and its easy to get raped. I could go on and on

[punjabi godess]

You're a lying whore.

:Pissed:

[Ac89]

theres always more of a standard for a girl tho..lyk household stuff..what guy has ever been told to lyk mop the floor..?

:(

well then, missy, it depends on what family you're born into and the way your parents raise you....i know a lot of guys that got bitched at...and had to...do dishes...etc...
look at the Wayan bro's....(they ain't desi)...their mum taught all of them to clean, cook, and sew ...among other things...

and about getting away with things...a guy comes home late at night tells his parents he was studying (say he actually was)...parents likely to believe him??
case #2: girl comes home late at nite (she wasn't studying..but out partying..) and tells her parents she was studying?? are they convinced??

answer: case 1) hell nooooooo
case 2) "our beti is so smart....a doctor she will become!"

guys can't get away with shit...even if they mean well....

[DJDaNGeR]

cuz girls dont harass :rolleyes:
oh come on. there is something called adam teasing just like the traditional eve teasing. it has come of age now with female empowerment and all. girls sexually harass too. maybe i agree that its kind of hard for them to rape a guy cuz they are physically weaker in many cases and also the penetration wont work if the guy isnt aroused

[thaiz]

You have a weird family.i was talking in general i dont have kids...

[punjabi godess]

you girls are fuckin ungrateful for what you have. do you not realzie in this country women get more favor. IN everything... accidents, women are favored better, court cases... same thing, you fuckin stand out in the cold askin for a lift.. a guy would be nice enough to give you one. Women are far more respected than men. stop complaining, the only reason parents keep an eye on you is because girls when let out, do stupid shit. A guy fuckin doesnt get pregnant.. but a girl does. A guy is more balanced when it comes to social life than a girl. And think of it this way, physically youre weak, and its easy to get raped. I could go on and on


its obv we have a diff piont of veiw lol

[Ac89]

you girls are fuckin ungrateful for what you have. do you not realzie in this country women get more favor. IN everything... accidents, women are favored better, court cases... same thing, you fuckin stand out in the cold askin for a lift.. a guy would be nice enough to give you one. Women are far more respected than men. stop complaining, the only reason parents keep an eye on you is because girls when let out, do stupid shit. A guy fuckin doesnt get pregnant.. but a girl does. A guy is more balanced when it comes to social life than a girl. And think of it this way, physically youre weak, and its easy to get raped. I could go on and on

:applause: :applause: :applause:

well said...

a guy stands in an elevator wiht another girl....guy takes a couple of looks...the girl hates the guy and is all creeped out
same thign..but girl checks out ugy....guy is turned on...(this wasn't a good example...was it?? :p)

The P man's riteeeeeeeeee

[punjabi godess]

well then, missy, it depends on what family you're born into and the way your parents raise you....i know a lot of guys that got bitched at...and had to...do dishes...etc...
look at the Wayan bro's....(they ain't desi)...their mum taught all of them to clean, cook, and sew ...among other things...

and about getting away with things...a guy comes home late at night tells his parents he was studying (say he actually was)...parents likely to believe him??
case #2: girl comes home late at nite (she wasn't studying..but out partying..) and tells her parents she was studying?? are they convinced??

answer: case 1) hell nooooooo
case 2) "our beti is so smart....a doctor she will become!"

guys can't get away with shit...even if they mean well....

:no:
if a guy wa sto say ima go to a party what parents would stop him? very few would..a frend of mine rite now is lyk 15 or something and is in ny rite now with only 1 of his frends...i mean how is this appropriate..at 15...

[punjabi godess]

:applause: :applause: :applause:

well said...

a guy stands in an elevator wiht another girl....guy takes a couple of looks...the girl hates the guy and is all creeped out
same thign..but girl checks out ugy....guy is turned on...(this wasn't a good example...was it?? :p)

The P man's riteeeeeeeeee

lol

[DJDaNGeR]

you girls are fuckin ungrateful for what you have. do you not realzie in this country women get more favor. IN everything... accidents, women are favored better, court cases... same thing, you fuckin stand out in the cold askin for a lift.. a guy would be nice enough to give you one. Women are far more respected than men. stop complaining, the only reason parents keep an eye on you is because girls when let out, do stupid shit. A guy fuckin doesnt get pregnant.. but a girl does. A guy is more balanced when it comes to social life than a girl. And think of it this way, physically youre weak, and its easy to get raped. I could go on and on
agree 100%. also in crowded places girls are offered seats. not us. dont we get tired too?

[KeyserSoze]

its obv we have a diff piont of veiw lol


This is by virtue of the fact that you are pointing out obstacles you face because you are a girl and he points out ones he faces because he is a guy. Obviously you will have different points of view. Your perception's are skewed because of it. There are double standards guys and girls both run into.

[ORaNGe dAsY]

you girls are fuckin ungrateful for what you have. do you not realzie in this country women get more favor. IN everything... accidents, women are favored better, court cases... same thing, you fuckin stand out in the cold askin for a lift.. a guy would be nice enough to give you one. Women are far more respected than men. stop complaining, the only reason parents keep an eye on you is because girls when let out, do stupid shit. A guy fuckin doesnt get pregnant.. but a girl does. A guy is more balanced when it comes to social life than a girl. And think of it this way, physically youre weak, and its easy to get raped. I could go on and on

:shock: times infinity, :Pissed: How are women more grateful, respected when we get paid far less than men at the same exact job? A guy gets a girl pregnant and leaves the girl with all the responsibilities. What makes you think that guys don't do stupid shit as well? And besides I think we're all talkin about desi double standards, desi guys i know can totally get away with anything they do and the girl can only watch and do nothing, how is that fair, how are we more in favor?

[tjnptel1]

:no:
if a guy wa sto say ima go to a party what parents would stop him? very few would..a frend of mine rite now is lyk 15 or something and is in ny rite now with only 1 of his frends...i mean how is this appropriate..at 15...
like Prat said, you are being close minded

[punjabi godess]

This is by virtue of the fact that you are pointing out obstacles you face because you are a girl and he points out ones he faces because he is a guy. Obviously you will have different points of view. Your perception's are skewed because of it. There are double standards guys and girls both run into.

true...and evrything every guy has said in this thread is actually so true..and wat started out half serious to me
is now makin me sit here laughing soo hard :p

[punjabi godess]

:shock: times infinity, :Pissed: How are women more grateful, respected when we get paid far less than men at the same exact job? A guy gets a girl pregnant and leaves the girl with all the responsibilities. What makes you think that guys don't do stupid shit as well? And besides I think we're all talkin about desi double standards, desi guys i know can totally get away with anything they do and the girl can only watch and do nothing, how is that fair, how are we more in favor?

i aplaud her hardcore

best not mess :nono:

haha

[Ac89]

:no:
if a guy wa sto say ima go to a party what parents would stop him? very few would..a frend of mine rite now is lyk 15 or something and is in ny rite now with only 1 of his frends...i mean how is this appropriate..at 15...


either one of two things...1) the level of trust is immeasurable
2) the parents are going to lose this kid to drugs and teh whole 9 yards....
3) (ok there's one more) he's there on imp. business...family matters maybe??

and instead of comparing and contrasting what you don't have and can't have...try being grateful for everything you do have....
sure, parents are strict...and parents can be unfair....but they are your parents. the only one's that have known you since the first day you opened your eyes to this world....so thinking that they are wrong ... maybe justified...but have a little faith in them....Most of the time..they know what's really good for you!!!

and like i said....All depends on what family you born into...all parents are diff...and how diff. they are will eventually depend on how mature and able their son will survive in the world.

[KeyserSoze]

true...and evrything every guy has said in this thread is actually so true..and wat started out half serious to me
is now makin me sit here laughing soo hard :p


I don't take anything seriously around here, you can tell by what I post. My signature is a microcosm for my RD personality.

[tjnptel1]

:A guy gets a girl pregnant and leaves the girl with all the responsibilities.
I know you did not just pull that shit. It takes two to have sex. TWO. the girl should have known teh consequences of having sex before she engaged in it. so fuck that pityful shit.

[KeyserSoze]

:shock: times infinity, :Pissed: How are women more grateful, respected when we get paid far less than men at the same exact job? A guy gets a girl pregnant and leaves the girl with all the responsibilities. What makes you think that guys don't do stupid shit as well? And besides I think we're all talkin about desi double standards, desi guys i know can totally get away with anything they do and the girl can only watch and do nothing, how is that fair, how are we more in favor?


If the girl has any ounce of respect for the world, she will abort that baby. More babies need to die, we have too many people in this world.

[pachaas Paisa]

:shock: times infinity, :Pissed: How are women more grateful, respected when we get paid far less than men at the same exact job? A guy gets a girl pregnant and leaves the girl with all the responsibilities. What makes you think that guys don't do stupid shit as well? And besides I think we're all talkin about desi double standards, desi guys i know can totally get away with anything they do and the girl can only watch and do nothing, how is that fair, how are we more in favor?

there is something called being careful. if a guy is not careful in a homosexual area im sure his butthole can raped too. Guy gets a girl pregnant? and the girl is stupid enough to give in... and avoid a condom worth 50 cents. Of course the guy who isnt even mature enough is gonna help her raise the baby :roll: might as well get an adoption done. and no desi guys dont "totally" get away with anything, we also do get in trouble.. get locked down (well not at this age) but yeh.. i used to get in mad shit and also get punished at the same time. OH HEY GUESS WHAT? my sister lives 100 miles away,dorming.. havin fun doinw hatever she can and I am in livin at home being a too goody serving mommy and granny. You know why? because im the only male figure in the house. If my mom catches me talking to a girl on the phone? she will flip out.

my 2 cent

[Ac89]

:shock: times infinity, :Pissed: How are women more grateful, respected when we get paid far less than men at the same exact job? A guy gets a girl pregnant and leaves the girl with all the responsibilities. What makes you think that guys don't do stupid shit as well? And besides I think we're all talkin about desi double standards, desi guys i know can totally get away with anything they do and the girl can only watch and do nothing, how is that fair, how are we more in favor?

:nono: aw helllll nooooooo
so let's see....in a world...society..where women are more respected than men...in a world that looks highly upon women as successful, ambitious....women, acc. to you, are still subjected to double standards???
A woman can flirt her way to almost anything....even a job...and yet you say men are better off??
Ppl expect men to fail...they expect men to get drunk and have sex and live a life...w/e.....They expect women to be successful...goal driven....ambitious...dedicated.... (wow, women so have it hard)

[ORaNGe dAsY]

I know you did not just pull that shit. It takes two to have sex. TWO. the girl should have known teh consequences of having sex before she engaged in it. so fuck that pityful shit.
oh puh-leaze, what if the girl is raped, then what? how the phack is anything her fault? The girl and the guy should know the consequences, not just the girl, why is it automatically assumed that the girl should know the consequences and never the guy, you just said that it takes TWO, soo pssshhtt, so eff that shiznit.

[ii_khushi86_ii]

cuz girls dont harass :rolleyes:

noo.. hunny, you are wrong. many girls DO harass.

there have been cases where women abuse men, but when authorities get involved, they blame the men.

[tjnptel1]

oh puh-leaze, what if the girl is raped, then what? how the phack is anything her fault? The girl and the guy should know the consequences, not just the girl, why is it automatically assumed that the girl should know the consequences and never the guy, you just said that it takes TWO, soo pssshhtt, so eff that shiznit.
That's why parents are more strict on you girls so you don't go out and get your ass raped. As for the argument about rape.. you were trying to pin the whole thing on guys.. i wasn't saying guys weren't at fault, but they are just as much responsible as the girl, but if the guy walks out, girls should be willing to handle it themself. :rolleyes:

[KeyserSoze]

oh puh-leaze, what if the girl is raped, then what? how the phack is anything her fault? The girl and the guy should know the consequences, not just the girl, why is it automatically assumed that the girl should know the consequences and never the guy, you just said that it takes TWO, soo pssshhtt, so eff that shiznit.


You are using quite an extreme with rape. Well biological plumbing isn't going to change, so women will have to use a little more discretion before they fuck a random guy without a condom.

[punjabi godess]

either one of two things...1) the level of trust is immeasurable
2) the parents are going to lose this kid to drugs and teh whole 9 yards....
3) (ok there's one more) he's there on imp. business...family matters maybe??

and instead of comparing and contrasting what you don't have and can't have...try being grateful for everything you do have....
sure, parents are strict...and parents can be unfair....but they are your parents. the only one's that have known you since the first day you opened your eyes to this world....so thinking that they are wrong ... maybe justified...but have a little faith in them....Most of the time..they know what's really good for you!!!

and like i said....All depends on what family you born into...all parents are diff...and how diff. they are will eventually depend on how mature and able their son will survive in the world.

i ono bout ur 1 and 3..but 2 maybe..i hope not he could be prettycool someday :no:
but no he went there for new years..i find that so hard to believe and his parents are lyk very eh..they let his 17 yr old sister go to india by herself to stay in india by herself
not with family its jst so hard to beleive..

[DJDaNGeR]

:shock: times infinity, :Pissed: How are women more grateful, respected when we get paid far less than men at the same exact job? A guy gets a girl pregnant and leaves the girl with all the responsibilities. What makes you think that guys don't do stupid shit as well? And besides I think we're all talkin about desi double standards, desi guys i know can totally get away with anything they do and the girl can only watch and do nothing, how is that fair, how are we more in favor?
not really. they get paid the same but get previleges. let me give an example. other day I received a package from UPS and the driver who was a lady came to my door and said "oh ur package is heavy can u plz pick it up from the truck" and i had to walk outside and do it. can a male in the same position who gets paid the same amount say so? as for the pregnancy, there are girls who abort babies even though the father of the baby wants it. their argument is like its my baby in my body. i can do watever i please. didnt the guy had equal hand in making of the baby? as a desi guy i have been told 100 times by my rents. u gotta be responsible for yerself, u goota study hard, u gota focus on yer carreer cuz ur gonna be the guy in the family. meaning if i was a girl i would have a easier life and live off my husband. not that i agree with the above theory but its a double standard in itself from my POV.

The point is that there are double standards everywhere. i can point out 100 from POV of guys and u can point 100s from POV of girls. so it aint true that double standards exist just for women. u just gotta open ur mind and look at the other side too.

[Ac89]

i ono bout ur 1 and 3..but 2 maybe..i hope not he could be prettycool someday :no:
but no he went there for new years..i find that so hard to believe and his parents are lyk very eh..they let his 17 yr old sister go to india by herself to stay in india by herself
not with family its jst so hard to beleive..

lol
then let it go

[ii_khushi86_ii]

oh puh-leaze, what if the girl is raped, then what? how the phack is anything her fault? The girl and the guy should know the consequences, not just the girl, why is it automatically assumed that the girl should know the consequences and never the guy, you just said that it takes TWO, soo pssshhtt, so eff that shiznit.

women can rape men too, you know.. and obviously, i don`t think a guy has to worry about getting pregnant, so the woman should be a little more wary.

[Ac89]

women can rape men too, you know.. and obviously, i don`t think a guy has to worry about getting pregnant, so the woman should be a [lot] more wary.


:yes:
listennnnnnnnn 2 herrrr

[ORaNGe dAsY]

there is something called being careful. if a guy is not careful in a homosexual area im sure his butthole can raped too. Guy gets a girl pregnant? and the girl is stupid enough to give in... and avoid a condom worth 50 cents. Of course the guy who isnt even mature enough is gonna help her raise the baby :roll: might as well get an adoption done. and no desi guys dont "totally" get away with anything, we also do get in trouble.. get locked down (well not at this age) but yeh.. i used to get in mad shit and also get punished at the same time. OH HEY GUESS WHAT? my sister lives 100 miles away,dorming.. havin fun doinw hatever she can and I am in livin at home being a too goody serving mommy and granny. You know why? because im the only male figure in the house. If my mom catches me talking to a girl on the phone? she will flip out.

my 2 cent

Being careful is required from both the guy and the girl, fine if the girl was stupid to give in then, its both the guys and the girls fault, never just one person, they were both stupid enuf not to use a condom, so a mature guy would never help raise the baby huh? interesting, mature or immature, both the guy and girl are now in deep shiznit cuz of what they did and now they gotta face it. It's good that some desi guys get in trouble, some guys should know that what they do isn't always for the better. Good for your sister, what makes you think that she does whatever she can, if your parents raised her right, then shes doin ok, and as for you, I'm sorry that you think that taking care of your family is a burden for you, cuz you see there isnt a male figure in our house, my mom and I live together, I couldn't live in a dorm if I tried and I wouldnt want to anyways cuz then my mom would be alone, I effin have full time school and a full time job, yeah i complain, because I'm tired, my mom in no way is paying for my school and she never will, I take care of her and myself.

[punjabi godess]

women can rape men too,

but do they...wudnt that be kinda hard..in the end it would jst end up being sex none the less :rolleyes:

[DJDaNGeR]

every individual visualizes the social norms from his own angle. this thread is the proof of that. make a thread between desi guys and white guys, desi girls and white girls and still u will see each one ranting how they are disadvantaged

[Ac89]

Being careful is required from both the guy and the girl, fine if the girl was stupid to give in then, its both the guys and the girls fault, never just one person, they were both stupid enuf not to use a condom, so a mature guy would never help raise the baby huh? interesting, mature or immature, both the guy and girl are now in deep shiznit cuz of what they did and now they gotta face it. It's good that some desi guys get in trouble, some guys should know that what they do isn't always for the better. Good for your sister, what makes you think that she does whatever she can, if your parents raised her right, then shes doin ok, and as for you, I'm sorry that you think that taking care of your family is a burden for you, cuz you see there isnt a male figure in our house, my mom and I live together, I couldn't live in a dorm if I tried and I wouldnt want to anyways cuz then my mom would be alone, I effin have full time school and a full time job, yeah i complain, because I'm tired, my mom in no way is paying for my school and she never will, I take care of her and myself.

:applause: about the hwole takign care of oyur family

but like you said "both should be responsible and own up for their actions"
thus, no double standard...
most ppl, nowadays, aint stupid about jsu leaving the girl while she's pregnant

[ORaNGe dAsY]

That's why parents are more strict on you girls so you don't go out and get your ass raped. As for the argument about rape.. you were trying to pin the whole thing on guys.. i wasn't saying guys weren't at fault, but they are just as much responsible as the girl, but if the guy walks out, girls should be willing to handle it themself. :rolleyes:
because the guy couldnt handle it, or because its the girl who is pregnant and carries the baby

[punjabi godess]

every individual visualizes the social norms from his own angle. this thread is the proof of that. make a thread between desi guys and white guys, desi girls and white girls and still u will see each one ranting how they are disadvantaged

everyone has opinions..this thread i think was my greatest amusement for lyk the week :yes: lol

[ii_khushi86_ii]

but do they...wudnt that be kinda hard..in the end it would jst end up being sex none the less :rolleyes:

would it be right to use the raping situation against a guy in an argument like this?

[ORaNGe dAsY]

:applause: about the hwole takign care of oyur family

but like you said "both should be responsible and own up for their actions"
thus, no double standard...
most ppl, nowadays, aint stupid about jsu leaving the girl while she's pregnant
but then again most ppl are stupid, they cant handle it, sometimes they think its not their issue so then its all left up to the girl

[pachaas Paisa]

Being careful is required from both the guy and the girl, fine if the girl was stupid to give in then, its both the guys and the girls fault, never just one person, they were both stupid enuf not to use a condom, so a mature guy would never help raise the baby huh? interesting, mature or immature, both the guy and girl are now in deep shiznit cuz of what they did and now they gotta face it. It's good that some desi guys get in trouble, some guys should know that what they do isn't always for the better. Good for your sister, what makes you think that she does whatever she can, if your parents raised her right, then shes doin ok, and as for you, I'm sorry that you think that taking care of your family is a burden for you, cuz you see there isnt a male figure in our house, my mom and I live together, I couldn't live in a dorm if I tried and I wouldnt want to anyways cuz then my mom would be alone, I effin have full time school and a full time job, yeah i complain, because I'm tired, my mom in no way is paying for my school and she never will, I take care of her and myself.

i know my sister better than you do and im pretty sure she gets to do whatever she wants. of course freedom for me is limited... i just stated it ! and im really fuckin sorry to hear what u go through, should i go on stating my weakness? yeah i "DID" mention that taking care of my family is a burden for me....right? fuck off

[ii_khushi86_ii]

like tj said, it takes TWO to have sex.. and thus, it should take TWO to prevent anything.. woman on the pill, man using condom.... don`t blame shit on the guy, because the girl is equally responsible. :Rolleyes:

[bewakoof]

because the guy couldnt handle it, or because its the girl who is pregnant and carries the baby


so.. here u are.. i have been lookin all over for u..

[punjabi godess]

would it be right to use the raping situation against a guy in an argument like this?

hold on i said if a gilr tried to rape a guy..

it wudnt work..but if cuaght the girl would blame it on the guy and yes she prolly would get away with it.. :no:

[Ac89]

but then again most ppl are stupid, they cant handle it, sometimes they think its not their issue so then its all left up to the girl

well if the guy's like that in the first place...then what stupid girl goes ahead and sleeps with him and doesn't use protection???
blame that on the stupid girl to begin wiht

but no...there's those of you girls out there who just "love" to forgive ..."he will change"...:no:

and i don't think your comments about Prat's family were very appropriate...i don't think he said all that about his family to point out it's a burden for him...he was merely arguing his position about how a responsible, mature desi guy is subjected to these double standards (should they even exist)....

[ii_khushi86_ii]

hold on i said if a gilr tried to rape a guy..

it wudnt work..but if cuaght the girl would blame it on the guy and yes she prolly would get away with it.. :no:

what do you mean it wouldn`t work?

[pachaas Paisa]

well if the guy's like that in the first place...then what stupid girl goes ahead and sleeps with him and doesn't use protection???
blame that on the stupid girl to begin wiht

but no...there's those of you girls out there who just "love" to forgive ..."he will change"...:no:

and i don't think your comments about Prat's family were very appropriate...i don't think he said all that about his family to point out it's a burden for him...he was merely arguing his position about how a responsible, mature desi guy is subjected to these double standards (should they even exist)....

dont need to mention it dude, i dont like her attitude anyways

[rubayath]

who ever mad this thread is smart :rolleyes:

[punjabi godess]

well if the guy's like that in the first place...then what stupid girl goes ahead and sleeps with him and doesn't use protection???
blame that on the stupid girl to begin wiht



there is a such thing as protection not working..

[ORaNGe dAsY]

i know my sister better than you do and im pretty sure she gets to do whatever she wants. of course freedom for me is limited... i just stated it ! and im really fuckin sorry to hear what u go through, should i go on stating my weakness? yeah i "DID" mention that taking care of my family is a burden for me....right? fuck off
Just where was I stating my weakness? and it seemed as if you were implying that since you're the guy in the family, you have to take care of them and you dont get to live in a dorm or do whatever you want, sheesh.

[DJDaNGeR]

like tj said, it takes TWO to have sex.. and thus, it should take TWO to prevent anything.. woman on the pill, man using condom.... don`t blame shit on the guy, because the girl is equally responsible. :Rolleyes:
see there is one unbiased female *applause*

[punjabi godess]

what do you mean it wouldn`t work?

how would a girl rape a guy..think about it..he could probably kill her if he wanted to..some girls can handle themselves..but takin that big a risk.. is kinda not smart..

[pachaas Paisa]

Just where was I stating my weakness? and it seemed as if you were implying that since you're the guy in the family, you have to take care of them and you dont get to live in a dorm or do whatever you want, sheesh.

and thats a burden ? i dont think so, im glad i am takin care of my family but what i mean is... i dont get to do anythign i want.. im in my fuckin twenties and my mom cant understand the fact im mature enough. I cant be out at night? how ridiculous is that

[Ac89]

dont need to mention it dude, i dont like her attitude anyways

i think it's just stupid how some girls think this world's unfair to them ...and start blaming things right left and centre....instead of just concentrating on their careers and lives

look at Verin...u don't hear her bitch about this....she's about to be a med student...has a wicked bf...and takes life for what it is...not for what it hasn't done for her

You make what you want of your life....your decisions affect you and those around you...if you're stupid enough to blame it on other things...then take a closer look at yourself

[punjabi godess]

who ever mad this thread is smart :rolleyes:

lol :p

[punjabi godess]

and thats a burden ? i dont think so, im glad i am takin care of my family but what i mean is... i dont get to do anythign i want.. im in my fuckin twenties and my mom cant understand the fact im mature enough. I cant be out at night? how ridiculous is that

dude prat thas some hardcore shit rite ther..i give u props

[DJDaNGeR]

how would a girl rape a guy..think about it..he could probably kill her if he wanted to..some girls can handle themselves..but takin that big a risk.. is kinda not smart..
it wont be a rape using physical force. there is something called emotional blackmail or other ways of forcing a guy to do wat he doesnt want

[ii_khushi86_ii]

how would a girl rape a guy..think about it..he could probably kill her if he wanted to..some girls can handle themselves..but takin that big a risk.. is kinda not smart..

are you kidding me?? what rock are you living under? now who`s using double standards?

there are plenty of girls who can overpower guys.. and there are plenty of guys who are weaker than girls. may not be a risk to them.

[DJDaNGeR]

dude prat thas some hardcore shit rite ther..i give u props
u cant be out at night? lol man. that used to be the restriction on me till i was 18 and i went to college. now its all good

[Ac89]

and thats a burden ? i dont think so, im glad i am takin care of my family but what i mean is... i dont get to do anythign i want.. im in my fuckin twenties and my mom cant understand the fact im mature enough. I cant be out at night? how ridiculous is that


wow..i neva woulda guessed that about you....and yet you and Drea are doing good....she's in great hands man :)

and yo...u know this...sometimes life(god) tests us early in life so that when we like in our 40's and whatnot...we'll have a good life....
isn't it better than havin a hard life when you're in your 40's..wiht kids and what not???

your kids are gonna luvv youuuuuuuuu

[DJDaNGeR]

are you kidding me?? what rock are you living under? now who`s using double standards?

there are plenty of girls who can overpower guys.. and there are plenty of guys who are weaker than girls. may not be a risk to them.
ii_khushi86_ii, i beg to differ here, even if the girl overpowers the guy the penetration would be impossible unless the guy is aroused. the girl can force other methods though like emotional blackmail etc. or force him to take viagra so that he is erect, lol

[punjabi godess]

are you kidding me?? what rock are you living under? now who`s using double standards?

there are plenty of girls who can overpower guys.. and there are plenty of guys who are weaker than girls. may not be a risk to them.

i did say "some girls" and in wat scenario would u find that a weaker guy jst happenes to be with a stronger girl..? if u wer strong u would want a strong guy..

and ya that whole double standards thing..this thread went off of wat i was thinking wen i even started it...so now its jst kinda blah and im jst makin opinions going on wat ppl are saying and wats in my head..

[ii_khushi86_ii]

i think it's just stupid how some girls think this world's unfair to them ...and start blaming things right left and centre....instead of just concentrating on their careers and lives

look at Verin...u don't hear her bitch about this....she's about to be a med student...has a wicked bf...and takes life for what it is...not for what it hasn't done for her

You make what you want of your life....your decisions affect you and those around you...if you're stupid enough to blame it on other things...then take a closer look at yourself

guys throw blame on others too... trust me, my cousin's ex.. :x :x

speaking psychology.. many people believe destiny controls their lives.

[ORaNGe dAsY]

i think it's just stupid how some girls think this world's unfair to them ...and start blaming things right left and centre....instead of just concentrating on their careers and lives

look at Verin...u don't hear her bitch about this....she's about to be a med student...has a wicked bf...and takes life for what it is...not for what it hasn't done for her

You make what you want of your life....your decisions affect you and those around you...if you're stupid enough to blame it on other things...then take a closer look at yourself

Just how some guys think that the world is unfair to them, what careers and lives are girls supposed to concentrate on when all their parents have in mind for them is to get them married as soon as possible. And I'm glad for Verin, I don't know her but she seems to have a good head on her shoulders. Sometimes you don't have a say in life, what if its already decided for you by your parents? then what? Everyone should have a say in what the want to do with themselves, yeah decisions affect everyone but what if it was a decision that you never made in the first place, there are other things that can complicate a situation or make it worse, but yeah I don't know if you can just solely blame on that particular thing and not urself either.

[Ac89]

i did say "some girls" and in wat scenario would u find that a weaker guy jst happenes to be with a stronger girl..? if u wer strong u would want a strong guy..

and ya that whole double standards thing..this thread went off of wat i was thinking wen i even started it...so now its jst kinda blah and im jst makin opinions going on wat ppl are saying and wats in my head..

but if you were strong...would u rape someone stronger than you???
:no:

[ii_khushi86_ii]

ii_khushi86_ii, i beg to differ here, even if the girl overpowers the guy the penetration would be impossible unless the guy is aroused. the girl can force other methods though like emotional blackmail etc. or force him to take viagra so that he is erect, lol

haha, yes, but hey, a woman could use physical strength to shove the viagra down the guy's throat.

[ii_khushi86_ii]

Just how some guys think that the world is unfair to them, what careers and lives are girls supposed to concentrate on when all their parents have in mind for them is to get them married as soon as possible. And I'm glad for Verin, I don't know her but she seems to have a good head on her shoulders. Sometimes you don't have a say in life, what if its already decided for you by your parents? then what? Everyone should have a say in what the want to do with themselves, yeah decisions affect everyone but what if it was a decision that you never made in the first place, there are other things that can complicate a situation or make it worse, but yeah I don't know if you can just solely blame on that particular thing and not urself either.

generalization.

[pachaas Paisa]

wow..i neva woulda guessed that about you....and yet you and Drea are doing good....she's in great hands man :)

and yo...u know this...sometimes life(god) tests us early in life so that when we like in our 40's and whatnot...we'll have a good life....
isn't it better than havin a hard life when you're in your 40's..wiht kids and what not???

your kids are gonna luvv youuuuuuuuu

i cant tell u my life story but i can give u a lil description i came from a point... livin freely.. havin all sorts of freedom.. to a jailcell! thats what happeend to me and its hard to deal with. i could leave this house in an instant and feed myself, live off what i have but i wont do that. In a girls case, if shes trapped the way I am.. but has the income to survive on her own, she'd flee away, im sorry girls... thats not stereotyping but its the truth

[punjabi godess]

but if you were strong...would u rape someone stronger than you???
:no:

ok proven wrong...

[punjabi godess]

i cant tell u my life story but i can give u a lil description i came from a point... livin freely.. havin all sorts of freedom.. to a jailcell! thats what happeend to me and its hard to deal with. i could leave this house in an instant and feed myself, live off what i have but i wont do that. In a girls case, if shes trapped the way I am.. but has the income to survive on her own, she'd flee away, im sorry girls... thats not stereotyping but its the truth

ur strong..but also look at daisy...girls have a weakness in them that SOMETYMS will not let them leave even if hey could

[DJDaNGeR]

ur strong..but also look at daisy...girls have a weakness in them that SOMETYMS will not let them leave even if hey could
generalization. i know quite a few guys who are attached to their families and quite a few girls who are not.

[ii_khushi86_ii]

ur strong..but also look at daisy...girls have a weakness in them that SOMETYMS will not let them leave even if hey could

sometimes you have to get over that weakness... women go through a whole bunch of shit, but you still hear about them overcoming everything to meet their lifelong goals. look at women such as elizabeth blackwell and harriet tubman..

[Ac89]

Just how some guys think that the world is unfair to them, what careers and lives are girls supposed to concentrate on when all their parents have in mind for them is to get them married as soon as possible. And I'm glad for Verin, I don't know her but she seems to have a good head on her shoulders. Sometimes you don't have a say in life, what if its already decided for you by your parents? then what? Everyone should have a say in what they want to do with themselves. yeah decisions affect everyone but what if it was a decision that you never made in the first place, there are other things that can complicate a situation or make it worse, but yeah I don't know if you can just solely blame on that particular thing and not urself either.

Sometimes decisions have to be made, not so you're happy, but so that the rest of the people affected are happy. In life, things happen for a reason and just because you don't konw what the reason is...does not (never) mean that there isn't a bigger picture involved....little things happen to lead to the big picture...or the big picture jsut hits like a bomb.
Just because things in life seem unfair...and on the mere argument that you had no choice in it...doesn't mean that double standards and other excuses should be made to lament your argument...or sorrows.
Instead of focusing on what the decision is and how your life is turned upside down...and doing a little school girl performance...GROW up and accept life...grab on to those challenges and hurdles that face you and stand tall. Get the people you need and love to be your army and kick those walls...those bricks of hurdles down.
These things are placed in our lives as a means of testing our nature...our minds...our purpose ...in this life. Don't blame other things for ways in which life hasn't been fair to you...and instead walk...head held high...and kick the shit out of those hurdles.....It is only you who will become stronger...more mature...and less dependable on others...on your way to success.

[punjabi godess]

generalization. i know quite a few guys who are attached to their families and quite a few girls who are not.

thas y i said sometyms ;)

[ORaNGe dAsY]

generalization.
well arent there many generalizations here? Or that could just be the standard that a girl has to just live up to, what else is there for a girl sometimes, ok get an education but then what, your parents just want you to get married and raise a family. My mom even told me this, you're gettin a degree but its like something to fall back on when needed, and I was like wtf, I'm gettin an education because I wanna do and become something for myself.

[punjabi godess]

this thread seriously got ppl thinking...or should i say expressing their emotions.. :rolleyes:
lol

[ii_khushi86_ii]

well arent there many generalizations here? Or that could just be the standard that a girl has to just live up to, what else is there for a girl sometimes, ok get an education but then what, your parents just want you to get married and raise a family. My mom even told me this, you're gettin a degree but its like something to fall back on when needed, and I was like wtf, I'm gettin an education because I wanna do and become something for myself.

my parents don`t really care about me getting married off and having my own family.. all they want is to see me happy with a job i love.

[Adelante]

but i guess thats just how things are... its kinda hard for ppl to go back on what they have been doin for generations, despite the fact that we are different ppl and have different ideas from the past generations...

but we also have to know that there are differences between guys and girls... we are not the same... and even if girls wanted to be treated the same as guys, there would be limitations, and it is not always possible in every situation for a girl to have the same responsibilities as guys... it just may not be physically possible...

[Ac89]

i cant tell u my life story but i can give u a lil description i came from a point... livin freely.. havin all sorts of freedom.. to a jailcell! thats what happeend to me and its hard to deal with. i could leave this house in an instant and feed myself, live off what i have but i wont do that. In a girls case, if shes trapped the way I am.. but has the income to survive on her own, she'd flee away, im sorry girls... thats not stereotyping but its the truth

Prat, don't u ever think....or has this thought crossed your mind...that maybe this is life's way of growin you up...to become a better man...a better person? Sure, you'd be out partying ...getting girl after girl....but maybe this was given to you...because you'd be happier this way....maybe not now but later on down the road.
I know a lot of guys who have that "freedom" you refer to...but they have nothing in life...they use and abuse their parents money...and will most likely do nothing in life...or amount to anything. Prat...even through all this...i think you've got better and bigger things ahead of you...and this was the only way to teach you ... and get you there...
FUck... look at how many people on these forums have respect for you and like you....some of the chicks and dudes fawkin admire you....
I, personally, think you have it wayyyyy better than you make it out to be.
and your mum's one lucky lady to call you her son!

[DJDaNGeR]

bah ppl. everyone in life has problems, difficult situations, tradeoffs to be made etc. saying something like "what careers and lives are girls supposed to concentrate on when all their parents have in mind for them is to get them married as soon as possible. " doesnt help. it has to be taken as a problem and solved to the best of ur abilities. everyone can look at their lives and make a generalized statement about their problem like "what im gonna do when blah blah blah" i know its harsh but this is what life is.

[punjabi godess]

off topic : Ac89 that was such a nice comment lol

[ORaNGe dAsY]

Sometimes decisions have to be made, not so you're happy, but so that the rest of the people affected are happy. In life, things happen for a reason and just because you don't konw what the reason is...does not (never) mean that there isn't a bigger picture involved....little things happen to lead to the big picture...or the big picture jsut hits like a bomb.
Just because things in life seem unfair...and on the mere argument that you had no choice in it...doesn't mean that double standards and other excuses should be made to lament your argument...or sorrows.
Instead of focusing on what the decision is and how your life is turned upside down...and doing a little school girl performance...GROW up and accept life...grab on to those challenges and hurdles that face you and stand tall. Get the people you need and love to be your army and kick those walls...those bricks of hurdles down.
These things are placed in our lives as a means of testing our nature...our minds...our purpose ...in this life. Don't blame other things for ways in which life hasn't been fair to you...and instead walk...head held high...and kick the shit out of those hurdles.....It is only you who will become stronger...more mature...and less dependable on others...on your way to success.

There are always things in life that are going to be unfair but sometimes it seems that there are more unfair things for girls. However, in this day and age, there are many things that a woman can accomplish and are accomplishing and thats gr8 but then you have to fall bak to ur own cultural standards as well. And I've already grown up and accepted life, my family and i have gone thru almost every challenge you could toss and we're strong but we're still going thru it, challenges don't necessarily mean good outcomes and the obstacles that you do face just come back to haunt you even more. Sometimes success comes with a price and other times you never reach it no matter what you do, no matter how hard you try. That doesnt mean that that person didnt give it his or her best or didnt become stronger.

[bewakoof]

Thanda thanda paani

[punjabi godess]

^^ lol

[pachaas Paisa]

Prat, don't u ever think....or has this thought crossed your mind...that maybe this is life's way of growin you up...to become a better man...a better person? Sure, you'd be out partying ...getting girl after girl....but maybe this was given to you...because you'd be happier this way....maybe not now but later on down the road.
I know a lot of guys who have that "freedom" you refer to...but they have nothing in life...they use and abuse their parents money...and will most likely do nothing in life...or amount to anything. Prat...even through all this...i think you've got better and bigger things ahead of you...and this was the only way to teach you ... and get you there...
FUck... look at how many people on these forums have respect for you and like you....some of the chicks and dudes fawkin admire you....
I, personally, think you have it wayyyyy better than you make it out to be.
and your mum's one lucky lady to call you her son!

crossed my mind several times, i have it hard and i admit it, hate to be like this at the moment but i believe in karma, in the end alll good deeds pay off. Most of the times i hide my feelings from people when im socially involved, and i can take in a lot of shit and thas why people always look at me as if im a happy individual. im sure everyone has problems and i shouldnt complain at all. If u say my mom is a lucky lady, i want her to think im the best son she could ever have... but she complains every night that im the worst thing that ever happened to her, i just wish there could be one night where shes happy with what i can do for her.. not what I CANT

[Ac89]

There are always things in life that are going to be unfair but sometimes it seems that there are more unfair things for girls. However, in this day and age, there are many things that a woman can accomplish and are accomplishing and thats gr8 but then you have to fall bak to ur own cultural standards as well. And I've already grown up and accepted life, my family and i have gone thru almost every challenge you could toss and we're strong but we're still going thru it, challenges don't necessarily mean good outcomes and the obstacles that you do face just come back to haunt you even more. Sometimes success comes with a price and other times you never reach it no matter what you do, no matter how hard you try. That doesnt mean that that person didnt give it his or her best or didnt become stronger.

no ...that means that you weren't meant to reach that goal...and there is something else in sight...even thru clouds and rain there is sunlight....
have faith....u'd be surprised how much life is better

fall back to cultural standards??? lol..well let's see...desi women are supposed to be at home cooking meals...and nothign else....hmm..let's see how many women in the next 5-10 years do that....
desi women...have stupid shit like that against them....but if that doesn't make you stronger...and if that doesn't make oyu want to kick the shit out of ppl who say you can't do it...then you shouldnt' be doing it in the first place....

[ii_khushi86_ii]

There are always things in life that are going to be unfair but sometimes it seems that there are more unfair things for girls. .

oh quit it.

stop trying to bring in a pity party for the girls.. its equally unfair to both sexes.

[bewakoof]

stop gangin up on her..all u guys quit

[DJDaNGeR]

and if desi women feel that the culture has inherent disadvantage for them, then why go with it and make no effort to change it? remember, u should be the change u want to see in the world.

[ii_khushi86_ii]

and if desi women feel that the culture has inherent disadvantage for them, then why go with it and make no effort to change it? remember, u should be the change u want to see in the world.

thats the problem.. many people complain, bitch, whine.. but they don`t get up and do something about it.

[Ac89]

crossed my mind several times, i have it hard and i admit it, hate to be like this at the moment but i believe in karma, in the end alll good deeds pay off. Most of the times i hide my feelings from people when im socially involved, and i can take in a lot of shit and thas why people always look at me as if im a happy individual. im sure everyone has problems and i shouldnt complain at all. If u say my mom is a lucky lady, i want her to think im the best son she could ever have... but she complains every night that im the worst thing that ever happened to her, i just wish there could be one night where shes happy with what i can do for her.. not what I CANT

oiyee Prat...u make me want to come down to NY ...hit u in the back of the head...and fly back to Canada...
think about it..who else but those ppl that love you would criticize you?? Honestly, my dad does that a lot....and ya, it's messed up...like you're never good enough in their eyes....but you know what i know...and don't share?? WHen my dad goes to sleep at night...in his heart there's this flame that burns bright...and there's a little picture of me next to it...without the picture...the flame doesn't burn.
Your mother...i'm a bazilllion % sure....feels the same way. Some times, peopel don't always express their feelings (even though they should)...and sometimes they criticize ...or nag...or say this and that to you....but it's only because they love you. Silly goof, If you really sat down wiht your mum...you'd see that without you...she wouldn't be able to get out of bed in the morning...she couldn't see or smell...or touch...because the one that means that much to her isn't there.
Mothers are really weird....and to think that each one of the girls in here are gonna be mums....but thru a mother....her eyes and feet...and hands...her heart...is controlled by her son(s)...her children.
Don't ever let your mum fool you in any other way!!!!!!!!

and karma thing....i believe in that too!!!!

[ORaNGe dAsY]

oh quit it.

stop trying to bring in a pity party for the girls.. its equally unfair to both sexes.
I said sometimes, it's just from what I've seen.
You may say that I'm such a "pity party" for the girls yet you make urself out to be the cheerleader for the guys.

[bewakoof]

I said sometimes, it's just from what I've seen.
You may say that I'm such a "pity party" for the girls yet you make urself out to be the cheerleader for the guys.

lol

[punjabi godess]

I said sometimes, it's just from what I've seen.
You may say that I'm such a "pity party" for the girls yet you make urself out to be the cheerleader for the guys.

ooooo shit lol

[Ac89]

I said sometimes, it's just from what I've seen.
You may say that I'm such a "pity party" for the girls yet you make urself out to be the cheerleader for the guys.

Khushi's a realist...she doesn't blame life or "double standards"

Khush...teach this girllllllllllll

[pachaas Paisa]

oiyee Prat...u make me want to come down to NY ...hit u in the back of the head...and fly back to Canada...
think about it..who else but those ppl that love you would criticize you?? Honestly, my dad does that a lot....and ya, it's messed up...like you're never good enough in their eyes....but you know what i know...and don't share?? WHen my dad goes to sleep at night...in his heart there's this flame that burns bright...and there's a little picture of me next to it...without the picture...the flame doesn't burn.
Your mother...i'm a bazilllion % sure....feels the same way. Some times, peopel don't always express their feelings (even though they should)...and sometimes they criticize ...or nag...or say this and that to you....but it's only because they love you. Silly goof, If you really sat down wiht your mum...you'd see that without you...she wouldn't be able to get out of bed in the morning...she couldn't see or smell...or touch...because the one that means that much to her isn't there.
Mothers are really weird....and to think that each one of the girls in here are gonna be mums....but thru a mother....her eyes and feet...and hands...her heart...is controlled by her son(s)...her children.
Don't ever let your mum fool you in any other way!!!!!!!!

and karma thing....i believe in that too!!!!

do it come to ny!

you're right, i do agree with you, and thats what exactly my thoughts are, i just want her to appreciate me once and i will be happy

[ORaNGe dAsY]

and if desi women feel that the culture has inherent disadvantage for them, then why go with it and make no effort to change it? remember, u should be the change u want to see in the world.
I agree that they shouldn't just go along with it but do something so they and others can have a somewhat better lige but some women don't ever get the chance to do something or they can't for fear of their family or themselves being shamed or badmouthed or killed.

[ii_khushi86_ii]

crossed my mind several times, i have it hard and i admit it, hate to be like this at the moment but i believe in karma, in the end alll good deeds pay off. Most of the times i hide my feelings from people when im socially involved, and i can take in a lot of shit and thas why people always look at me as if im a happy individual. im sure everyone has problems and i shouldnt complain at all. If u say my mom is a lucky lady, i want her to think im the best son she could ever have... but she complains every night that im the worst thing that ever happened to her, i just wish there could be one night where shes happy with what i can do for her.. not what I CANT

you aren`t the only one.

sometimes, parents say something and they have no idea what the effect it has on their children.. my parents always compare me with my cousins who had 3.0+ GPAs and are now doctors. :rolleyes: makes me feel worthless and now i feel even more worthless because i failed a class.... at those times, you gotta prove that you can be great.. take that criticism and change it into motivation to show you can be the best.

the harder they criticize.. the more harder you work to achieve.

[IPunjabi.Blood]

Whoa! This is great to see guys and girls clearing their misunderstood agendas up. It's so nice to see intellectual minds at work. Instead of flipping each other off, try to make each other understand the weak points. I mean make this thread useful of something. Since ya all so keen to type your thoughts out, then type 'em in a sense where the other party wouldn't feel misunderstood or left out.

I wanna be like Prat someday. :p

[Ac89]

do it come to ny!

you're right, i do agree with you, and thats what exactly my thoughts are, i just want her to appreciate me once and i will be happy

lol...well said...
wow...i'm completely speechles....

Prat...you're a wicked dude....she'll do it:)

[bewakoof]

ooooo shit lol

arent u havin fun?

[pachaas Paisa]

Whoa! This is great to see guys and girls clearing their misunderstood agendas up. It's so nice to see intellectual minds at work. Instead of flipping each other off, instead try to make each other understand the weak points. I mean make this thread useful of something. Since ya all so keen to type your thoughts out, then type 'em in a sense where the other party wouldn't feel misunderstood or left out.

I wanna be like Prat someday. :p

i kinda flipped off, but i didnt mean it whole heartedly

u dont wanna be like me :p :p

[Ac89]

you aren`t the only one.

sometimes, parents say something and they have no idea what the effect it has on their children.. my parents always compare me with my cousins who had 3.0+ GPAs and are now doctors. :rolleyes: makes me feel worthless and now i feel even more worthless because i failed a class.... at those times, you gotta prove that you can be great.. take that criticism and change it into motivation to show you can be the best.

the harder they criticize.. the more harder you work to achieve.

harder they come...the stronger we become

we ride together
we die together
Bad Boys for life

(i jus saw that today..had to throw it in somehwere...lol)
so true(about what the girl said)

[DJDaNGeR]

crossed my mind several times, i have it hard and i admit it, hate to be like this at the moment but i believe in karma, in the end alll good deeds pay off. Most of the times i hide my feelings from people when im socially involved, and i can take in a lot of shit and thas why people always look at me as if im a happy individual. im sure everyone has problems and i shouldnt complain at all. If u say my mom is a lucky lady, i want her to think im the best son she could ever have... but she complains every night that im the worst thing that ever happened to her, i just wish there could be one night where shes happy with what i can do for her.. not what I CANT
human nature buddy, people think more about the bad things than good things. havent u urself thought about some person as bad because of 1 bad thing he/she did, ignoring 100 other good things? (i have, i dont deny). thats the same reason why we all whine about our lives (like in this thread). we dont appreciate the good things life has given us but critisize and blame our destiny for being so cruel to us. i am guilty of this too....i do it all the time and then some night i realize how life has been good to me compared to so many disadvantaged people all over the world.

[ii_khushi86_ii]

I said sometimes, it's just from what I've seen.
You may say that I'm such a "pity party" for the girls yet you make urself out to be the cheerleader for the guys.

i`m not being a cheerleader for anything.. did i say guys have more issues than girls or anything along the lines of that?

be realistic, woman.. open your eyes. you act as if one sex goes through a certain something more than another, and then you talk about double standards and whatnot.. what hypocrisy.. guys and girls go through shit EQUALLY.

[ORaNGe dAsY]

Khushi's a realist...she doesn't blame life or "double standards"

Khush...teach this girllllllllllll
I don't need to be taught anything, I learn from my own and from what I've seen and experienced and read. I can make my own opinions and statements. And where did you get that notion that I blame life, there are double standards in some things but why would I blame life when I've been able to accomplish so much. I'm not done yet with what I wanna do with my life and neither are most ppl on these forums, so you never really know what life has in store for you, there are surprises in every corner.

[pachaas Paisa]

lol...well said...
wow...i'm completely speechles....

Prat...you're a wicked dude....she'll do it:)

heh i hope so too! thanks for helpin me calm a little :o

[papercut]

"her eyes and feet...and hands...her heart...is controlled by her son(s)..."

HAIN?

my mom never wanted a son. I like being a girl, i get pampered :D

[Ac89]

I don't need to be taught anything, I learn from my own and from what I've seen and experienced and read. I can make my own opinions and statements. And where did you get that notion that I blame life, there are double standards in some things but why would I blame life when I've been able to accomplish so much. I'm not done yet with what I wanna do with my life and neither are most ppl on these forums, so you never really know what life has in store for you, there are surprises in every corner.

true..and how you handle those surprises is what makes you more or less of a person

blaming life?? You seem to be talking (and cheering on really nicely) this thing about double standards...and how life doesn't give you the chance to make choices...and u got to live with what you're given not what you make/choose

double standards = excuse

[Ac89]

"her eyes and feet...and hands...her heart...is controlled by her son(s)..."

HAIN?

my mom never wanted a son. I like being a girl, i get pampered :D

damnn u....

lol....or daughter...read on...i say "CHILDREN" but i guess u'r copying and cuttin and pasting forgot that part :p

[DJDaNGeR]

you aren`t the only one.

sometimes, parents say something and they have no idea what the effect it has on their children.. my parents always compare me with my cousins who had 3.0+ GPAs and are now doctors. :rolleyes: makes me feel worthless and now i feel even more worthless because i failed a class.... at those times, you gotta prove that you can be great.. take that criticism and change it into motivation to show you can be the best.

the harder they criticize.. the more harder you work to achieve.
i get it all the time. my mom says u dont study ur gpa is only 3.4 look at so and so etc. i get angry but i look at it saying that oh she is right, if i studied say an hour everyday i will get a 3.8 too. but its just inherent in me that i open the book the night before the exam. cant help it

[punjabi godess]

arent u havin fun?

haha yes i actually am :P

[Ac89]

heh i hope so too! thanks for helpin me calm a little :o

:) yup

[bewakoof]

haha yes i actually am :P

u made this thread.. u know u goin to hell for this.

[pachaas Paisa]

human nature buddy, people think more about the bad things than good things. havent u urself thought about some person as bad because of 1 bad thing he/she did, ignoring 100 other good things? (i have, i dont deny). thats the same reason why we all whine about our lives (like in this thread). we dont appreciate the good things life has given us but critisize and blame our destiny for being so cruel to us. i am guilty of this too....i do it all the time and then some night i realize how life has been good to me compared to so many disadvantaged people all over the world.

heh the truth is we worry about not having full freedom and get to whatever we want in our young years. its true.. everyone should admit it, u feel as if ure growing up and not being able to do ur desires and what if later on when u stand on ur own feet.. it's too late. Reality is, there are reasons behind it. I am not fully mature yet i could get into some sorta trap and never come out of it. Parents been through our stages, and they know it better i guess.

[punjabi godess]

"her eyes and feet...and hands...her heart...is controlled by her son(s)..."

HAIN?

my mom never wanted a son. I like being a girl, i get pampered :D

hahahah

[punjabi godess]

u made this thread.. u know u goin to hell for this.

hey now..i dint mean it to go this far... :rolleyes:

[ii_khushi86_ii]

SO IN CONCLUSION.. yes, double standards do suck.. but hey.. complaining about it isn`t going to do much.. go out there and do something about it.

[punjabi godess]

SO IN CONCLUSION.. yes, double standards do suck.. but hey.. complaining about it isn`t going to do much.. go out there and do something about it.

a very good conclusion lol

[IPunjabi.Blood]

I'm also impressed with what 'ORaNGe dAsY' had to say on behalf of her kind. That woman has great point of views, but they are bit clouded as it goes the same for Prat and AC89. It started of as a misunderstanding but now it’s turning into a grand solution for the great controversy between men and women. This is just great. I feel like :(.

[papercut]

damnn u....

lol....or daughter...read on...i say "CHILDREN" but i guess u'r copying and cuttin and pasting forgot that part :p

haha. well actually, i get pampered b/c im an only child but that means my parents are extra extra overprotective of me. For example, i wasn't allowed to go to the uni i wanted to b/c they wanted me to stay at home and commute. And..and..I'm never allowed to sleep over any friend's house who is anything but Muslim :D :D

Everyone be happpppyyyyyyyy :p

[punjabi godess]

hahah
opinions are opinions
i dint seriously think there would be such lyk commotion in this random thread...gess not :rolleyes:

[bewakoof]

thanda thanda paani..

[ORaNGe dAsY]

true..and how you handle those surprises is what makes you more or less of a person

blaming life?? You seem to be talking (and cheering on really nicely) this thing about double standards...and how life doesn't give you the chance to make choices...and u got to live with what you're given not what you make/choose

double standards = excuse

I was talking about in some instances where in some desi cultures, choices and decisions are already made for you and even if you had that will and power to do something about it, you couldnt for other factors. There are people who aren't ever given a choice. I've made my own decisions from the choices that I had in front of me. We'll see in the long run if I've made the right decisions and will keep on making the right decisions and if not then I'll learn from my mistakes and then become a stronger person so I dont do it again and that goes for prolly a lotta ppl. I've been given the opportunity to become whatever I wanna become but the obstacles that you face sometimes aren't fair so then what do you do, some give up because they mite not have a choice but others and I applaud them, have the ability to take it to the next level and overcome that obstacle. ppl just need to take life one step at a time and not take it to the extreme and the steps that you take can create the better person that you've wanted to become.

[Ac89]

I'm also impressed with what 'ORaNGe dAsY' had to say on behalf of her kind. That woman has great point of views, but they are bit clouded as it goes the same for Prat and AC89. It started of as a misunderstanding but now it’s turning into a grand solution for the great controversy between men and women. This is just great. I feel like :(.

the ref has come.... good timing

[punjabi godess]

I was talking about in some instances where in some desi cultures, choices and decisions are already made for you and even if you had that will and power to do something about it, you couldnt for other factors. There are people who aren't ever given a choice. I've made my own decisions from the choices that I had in front of me. We'll see in the long run if I've made the right decisions and will keep on making the right decisions and if not then I'll learn from my mistakes and then become a stronger person so I dont do it again and that goes for prolly a lotta ppl. I've been given the opportunity to become whatever I wanna become but the obstacles that you face sometimes aren't fair so then what do you do, some give up because they mite not have a choice but others and I applaud them, have the ability to take it to the next level and overcome that obstacle. ppl just need to take life one step at a time and not take it to the extreme and the steps that you take can create the better person that you've wanted to become.

do u by ne chance wish to become a lawyer..

[ORaNGe dAsY]

do u by ne chance wish to become a lawyer..
hahahaha, I've been working at a law firm for the past two years, goodness, someone get me outta that hellhole, asap

[bewakoof]

do u by ne chance wish to become a lawyer..

she works in a law firm.. !!

[Ac89]

I was talking about in some instances where in some desi cultures, choices and decisions are already made for you and even if you had that will and power to do something about it, you couldnt for other factors. There are people who aren't ever given a choice. I've made my own decisions from the choices that I had in front of me. We'll see in the long run if I've made the right decisions and will keep on making the right decisions and if not then I'll learn from my mistakes and then become a stronger person so I dont do it again and that goes for prolly a lotta ppl. I've been given the opportunity to become whatever I wanna become but the obstacles that you face sometimes aren't fair so then what do you do, some give up because they mite not have a choice but others and I applaud them, have the ability to take it to the next level and overcome that obstacle. ppl just need to take life one step at a time and not take it to the extreme and the steps that you take can create the better person that you've wanted to become.

wow...even after all this..i must say..i agree wiht what you wrote...nicely put :)
and u'r absolutely right! the individual who can overcome the obstacle, by takin it to the next level, by ignoring all the stupididy and ignorance of those around him or her, preventing him/her from reaching that ultimate goal...is and will be a better, mature, understanding, civilized person

[pachaas Paisa]

yeah but ms lawyer likes to jump into conclusions :rolleyes:

[royalbengal]

man im tired of this 'double standard' bullshit.. face it.. we are equal but different..

a guy has his responsibilities and chicks have their own..

u dont see chicks going out with homeless guys, poor guys, etc.. so shut the fuck up..

and when u do have more 'freedom' and shit u fuck it all up.. so stfu and go make chicken tandoori

[IPunjabi.Blood]

i love you too, jay.. despite the fact that you didn`t even mention me in your post.

This is what I'm talking about, misunderstandings. Even though my intentions weren't to leave you, out. It just slipped out of my mind. Why you women must see the negative in everything? I respect what you had to add to this great thread, but just because I forgot to mention your name, don’t mean I didn't appreciate you whole worthy.

Don't take me seriously, because I love you too. :love:

[punjabi godess]

hahahaha, I've been working at a law firm for the past two years, goodness, someone get me outta that hellhole, asap

damn im good lol :p

[DJDaNGeR]

I agree that they shouldn't just go along with it but do something so they and others can have a somewhat better lige but some women don't ever get the chance to do something or they can't for fear of their family or themselves being shamed or badmouthed or killed.
u will always, i repeat ALwAYS be shunned and ostracized for defying social norms. blacks who fought for their rights, women who fought the victorian norms were all shunned by the society. still they didnt sway from their stance and did it. im not saying or implying that its easy. all i said was that whining and doing nothing wont help. u said ur working? guess what, if the victorian norms existed today u wont be able to do that. i think till around 60 yrs ago women were paid less than men for same job. several women fought against it and so it has changed. Hence its said that "Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of
trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition
inspired and success achieved."

[papercut]

u dont sound like u work in a law firm

[bewakoof]

damn im good lol :p


in bed may i add

[pachaas Paisa]

u dont sound like u work in a law firm

you could be working at a mortgage law firm? :confused:

[punjabi godess]

y is ur name paper cut? yes random shut up

[punjabi godess]

in bed may i add

:no:

[ii_khushi86_ii]

y is ur name paper cut? yes random shut up

LP song?

[pachaas Paisa]

y is ur name paper cut? yes random shut up

maybe she worked at a law firm too and got a lot of papercuts? :rolleyes:

[punjabi godess]

maybe she worked at a law firm too and got a lot of papercuts? :rolleyes:

hahahah :p

[punjabi godess]

LP song?

theres a paper cut song... :confused:

[ORaNGe dAsY]

wow...even after all this..i must say..i agree wiht what you wrote...nicely put :)
and u'r absolutely right! the individual who can overcome the obstacle, by takin it to the next level, by ignoring all the stupididy and ignorance of those around him or her, preventing him/her from reaching that ultimate goal...is and will be a better, mature, understanding, civilized person
exactly, and it took us only 6 pages to figure that out. I totally commend Prat on what he's accomplished and what he will accomplish, it takes a lot and I sorta understand (I mean one will never fully understand a person's situation) what you're goin thru, so dont worry chicken curry!

It's sometimes the hardest things in life that push us to towards a betterment in society. To realize that hey, there are better things in this world than this and that this is maybe just temporary, the real world with real opportunities is just waiting out there and its time to grab it and see what we can make outta ourselves instead of just sitting there and doing nothing.

[IPunjabi.Blood]

maybe she worked at a law firm too and got a lot of papercuts? :rolleyes:

It's a she. That explains why she called my thread dumb earlier. :shocked:

[ii_khushi86_ii]

theres a paper cut song... :confused:


its not about papercut.. its just called papercut.

[papercut]

ur asking for a papercut. behave

[punjabi godess]

its not about papercut.. its just called papercut.

o i see..

[pachaas Paisa]

It's a she. That explains why she called my thread dumb earlier. :shocked:

what was the thread about? :p

[punjabi godess]

It's a she. That explains why she called my thread dumb earlier. :shocked:

:p.

[ORaNGe dAsY]

maybe she worked at a law firm too and got a lot of papercuts? :rolleyes:
hey! I'm on papercut number 109 and yeah I noticed that I jump into conclusions but mehhh, i'm still learning, not done with school yet, still have like 100 yrs to go

[IPunjabi.Blood]

what was the thread about? :p


check it out.

http://forums.ratedesi.com/showthread.php?t=40736&page=1&pp=25

[Ac89]

hey! I'm on papercut number 109 and yeah I noticed that I jump into conclusions but mehhh, i'm still learning, not done with school yet, still have like 100 yrs to go

modesty :p

[pachaas Paisa]

hey! I'm on papercut number 109 and yeah I noticed that I jump into conclusions but mehhh, i'm still learning, not done with school yet, still have like 100 yrs to go

papercuts are not pretty :(

[pachaas Paisa]

check it out.

http://forums.ratedesi.com/showthread.php?t=40736&page=1&pp=25

:no: @her comment

[papercut]

no i get more papercuts than anyone. hence the name

[punjabi godess]

papercuts are not pretty :(

buut for som reason such little lyk scrapes seem to hurt..bad

[papercut]

i left 2 comments in that thread :(

[ORaNGe dAsY]

papercuts are not pretty :(
tell me about it, :no:

and AC89, modesty shmodesty, whatchu talkin about willis?

I'm off, I just realized that I hafta be up at 6:30 for work and it's already after 2:30 here, bleh, but see I've got my priorities str8, wooo-hoooooooo, phack! school starts 2marro too, oh you ppl are addicting, :shakefis: times infinityyyyyy

[IPunjabi.Blood]

:no: @her comment


I want you to add ur opinion to my thread as well. Get right on it. NOW.

[pachaas Paisa]

buut for som reason such little lyk scrapes seem to hurt..bad

yah, last year my barber blade (its dangersou), slipped through my hand while iw as tryin to take the blade out and slit my index finger, i dint feel pain but blood was gushin out! i still got a scar :confused:

[IPunjabi.Blood]

i left 2 comments in that thread :(


OMG! your such a liar. you left 3 comments, not 2. :no:

[punjabi godess]

yah, last year my barber blade (its dangersou), slipped through my hand while iw as tryin to take the blade out and slit my index finger, i dint feel pain but blood was gushin out! i still got a scar :confused:

thas happened to me to..with lyk this medical (ok this is ironic) paper cutter..lol and i lyk sliced my middle finger... the scar goes almost all the way up and down..i dont even know wat the hell i was doing with the knife thing.. :no:

[papercut]

yah, last year my barber blade (its dangersou), slipped through my hand while iw as tryin to take the blade out and slit my index finger, i dint feel pain but blood was gushin out! i still got a scar :confused:

omg. Do u ever slit ur fingers while shaving ur legs and back? dude like total pain :rolleyes:

[pachaas Paisa]

thas happened to me to..with lyk this medical (ok this is ironic) paper cutter..lol and i lyk sliced my middle finger... the scar goes almost all the way up and down..i dont even know wat the hell i was doing with the knife thing.. :no:

yah but did u get 13 stiches? :mad:

[pachaas Paisa]

omg. Do u ever slit ur fingers while shaving ur legs and back? dude like total pain :rolleyes:

do i look like i shave my legs and back??? :Pukeright

[punjabi godess]

yah but did u get 13 stiches? :mad:

arite u win...ive never gotten stitches..

and ryt about now..i dont understand if paperecut is a boy or girl...

[papercut]

i sound like a guy? whats wrong with u

[IPunjabi.Blood]

yah but did u get 13 stiches? :mad:


yeah, with lyke so many stiches on his index fingers. It's lyke not a small cut, I tell ya. Lyke this happend to me too. Lyke this guy tried to cut me with lyke this knife kind of thingy, right, and lyke got me bad on my wrist. And lyke it didn't hurt but lyke it cut deep, so lyke i had to get 14 stiches. totally dude, totally.

[punjabi godess]

yeah, with lyke so many stiches on his index fingers. It's lyke not a small cut, I tell ya. Lyke this happend to me too. Lyke this guy tried to cut me with lyke this knife kind of thingy, right, and lyke got me bad on my wrist. And lyke it didn't hurt but lyke it cut deep, so lyke i had to get 14 stiches. totally dude, totally.

ok i can tell wen ppl r making fun of me...and ur cuttin it kinda close

[punjabi godess]

i sound like a guy? whats wrong with u

ok girl.. :p

[IPunjabi.Blood]

ok i can tell wen ppl r making fun of me...and ur cuttin it kinda close

Lyke how close?

[punjabi godess]

Lyke how close?

lyk pretty close..

arite i no i talk lyk a white valley girl...:no: disgrace..i cant help it
either im white ro im a total fob accent and all...theres nothin in between..

[pachaas Paisa]

lyk pretty close..

arite i no i talk lyk a white valley girl...:no: disgrace..i cant help it
either im white ro im a total fob accent and all...theres nothin in between..

haahha we got a valley girl in here :love:

[IPunjabi.Blood]

lyk pretty close..

arite i no i talk lyk a white valley girl...:no: disgrace..i cant help it
either im white ro im a total fob accent and all...theres nothin in between..

Lyke totally, dude. I understand. :D

[punjabi godess]

hahah ok dont even start..

[punjabi godess]

jay r u in cali..
cuz ur bringing out a little surfer...dude

[IPunjabi.Blood]

jay r u in cali..
cuz ur bringing out a little surfer...dude

That's because I ride big waves and yes, I'm in california. I go to half moon bay to catch the biggest wave. :cool:

[punjabi godess]

haha its funny how jst lyk an hour ago this thread was lyk ahhhhhhh crazy now its so chill lol

[Sikh4Lyfe]

yea totally.

boy comes home at 3am its ok

girl comes home at 3am its not ok

but im a guy so......um......Im happy.

[IPunjabi.Blood]

haha its funny how jst lyk an hour ago this thread was lyk ahhhhhhh crazy now its so chill lol

Lyke totally. Thanks to me. :rockon:

[r-town_chickee]

That's because I ride big waves and yes, I'm in california. I go to half moon bay to catch the biggest wave. :cool:



CALIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII

[punjabi godess]

Lyke totally. Thanks to me. :rockon:

ok enuf! lol

[IPunjabi.Blood]

CALIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII


OMG, OMG, it's youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu!

[WildWolfdog]

I got sexually abused today at breakfast..

this desi aunty kept staring at me every now and then during the whole freakin 35 minute train ride .. so weird .. then i got pissed and stared back at her

[Serenity]

then i got pissed and stared back at her

Is tht so ? :eyebrow:

[dezi_divaa]

u r rite.. mah bro alwys get to go to games..and dad is picky abt me going..he let mah sister go to a trip for 3 days...and he wont lemme go to senior trip cuz i m not "mature enuff" mah is sis 4 yrs ynger den me!! thats just planned double standards against me :confused:

[SAHI_PASHTOON]

different standards for a girl and for a boy...

girls cant do shit or get away with shit

then the boy comes along and does the same thing...but gets away with it..the one set down..well maybe not the one..but A setdown to being a girl

but it only seems to be in the indian society..

discuss..

*note: whoa my first serious thread...i think lol


LOL this is like the topic of every asian-oriented forum.

Anyways ..thats because the stuff guys do has much more detrimental consequences to women cuz women have a much more delicate nature.

Men are much more solid and conformed so they can naturally absorb such things better.

[Ac89]

TO the people who still respond to this thread wihtout reading through the rest of the pages

GO BACK AND READ

it's done...settled...finished....dont post

[ORaNGe dAsY]

TO the people who still respond to this thread wihtout reading through the rest of the pages

GO BACK AND READ

it's done...settled...finished....dont post
yes, please tell them :no:

[DJDaNGeR]

TO the people who still respond to this thread wihtout reading through the rest of the pages

GO BACK AND READ

it's done...settled...finished....dont post
lol true