Arranged marriage - how do I know she is the right one

[ideas]

How do you know whether the person is the right one?

I am not the best looking person or confident person, and I carry some excess weight. I'm also a Singh with an uncut beard, although I'm not that religious (another story). I know that the vast majority of sikh girls look for someone who is clean shaven or sometimes someone with a cut beard when trying to find someone through an arranged marriage. No one in my family drinks or eats meat, and that again is a factor because most girls don't want to marry into such a family. So these factors exclude the vast majority of sikh girls.

I've spoken to this girl a couple of times and we get on well and based on what she has said I like her, although I haven't see her pic. However, she is very religions and that is the number one thing in her life. Whereas I am not. I think we are different people. But I also know she thinks I am OK although the very different attitudes towards religion is also an issue for her.

But how do you know whether or not this is the person who wish to marry? I am unsure. Part of me thinks our different views towards religion is going to be a factor but I also like her personality. A part of me does think that if I say no I will not find someone better, as I've explained most girls wouldn't want to marry someone like me. So what option do I have?

[FatGeezer]

you dont. your fcukd.

[desi_playa]

contact angel_pyar, problem solved.

[amani]

hmmm...
go on a date w/ her or something.
take her out for dinner... talk face to face, as friends.
but tell her who you are & don't hold anything back.
you will get the idea if she is gonna be okay w/ you not being religious, or if she'll hate it.
also, you will know better if you like her or not... would you really wanna be someone who is constantly reminding you of something you don't care all that much abt?

[BurntToast]

You haven't seen her picture? Get to that first, all that 'its the personality that counts' stuff is bullshit. As for knowing if she's the right person or not.. you might want to ask her a few questions before its too late yeah?

And don't go through with it if it still doesn't feel right, marriage is kind of a big deal.

[FatGeezer]

hmmm...
go on a date w/ her or something.
take her out for dinner... talk face to face, as friends.
but tell her who you are & don't hold anything back.
you will get the idea if she is gonna be okay w/ you not being religious, or if she'll hate it.
also, you will know better if you like her or not... would you really wanna be someone who is constantly reminding you of something you don't care all that much abt?

are you taking the piss? he's probably mirpuri and was engaged to her since 2 or something

[amani]

are you taking the piss? he's probably mirpuri and was engaged to her since 2 or something

okay, well he didn't say that.
so you're assuming & i am one of the few on here giving my sincere advice.

[FatGeezer]

okay, well he didn't say that.
so you're assuming & i am one of the few on here giving my sincere advice.

does thsi look like the samaritans website to you?

[amani]

does thsi look like the samaritans website to you?

do you think i care to go w/ the crowd? :)

[Exotic_Princess]

How do you know whether the person is the right one?

I am not the best looking person or confident person, and I carry some excess weight. I'm also a Singh with an uncut beard, although I'm not that religious (another story). I know that the vast majority of sikh girls look for someone who is clean shaven or sometimes someone with a cut beard when trying to find someone through an arranged marriage. No one in my family drinks or eats meat, and that again is a factor because most girls don't want to marry into such a family. So these factors exclude the vast majority of sikh girls.

I've spoken to this girl a couple of times and we get on well and based on what she has said I like her, although I haven't see her pic. However, she is very religions and that is the number one thing in her life. Whereas I am not. I think we are different people. But I also know she thinks I am OK although the very different attitudes towards religion is also an issue for her.

But how do you know whether or not this is the person who wish to marry? I am unsure. Part of me thinks our different views towards religion is going to be a factor but I also like her personality. A part of me does think that if I say no I will not find someone better, as I've explained most girls wouldn't want to marry someone like me. So what option do I have?


Ok I just read and analyzed everything you said. Fine it is an arranged marriage, but you cannot just walk into it blindly and not know what you are getting yourself into. Just because it is arranged doesn't mean you cannot meet her before you tie the knot. You need to have more means of communication with her and you need to see her in person. Get to know her better. People are not always who they seem or who they appear to be. If you think you can improve in looks then you can do something about it. Its time to take care of yourself and get healthy. You don't have to be the most cut or handsome guy. Exercise and meditate; this will put you on a path to self wellness perhaps it my slightly boost your confidence when you start getting in better shape. Your beard doesn't have to be extrememly long. I am not saying to shave the whole thing but make it more manageable and more groomed. As far as religion...it is always good to have god in your corner. You need god to find inner peace. I am not saying you have to be a religious freak, but if you are planning to have kids and if you plan on getting along with your wife in the long run then you need some kind of foundation of religion. You want your kids to know that a god does exist and that a god is out there. If you aren't going to save your own soul at least save theirs.

[FatGeezer]

do you think i care to go w/ the crowd? :)

actually yes i do

[amani]

actually yes i do

okay, then you are mistaken.

[BurntToast]

The girls would have the longest replies.

We're so lame.

And FatGeezer, you're such a troll.

[FatGeezer]

The girls would have the longest replies.

We're so lame.

And FatGeezer, you're such a troll.

not a troll. just honest. you girls keep living in laa laa land

[FatGeezer]

okay, then you are mistaken.

i rarely am.

[amani]

not a troll. just honest. you girls keep living in laa laa land

take her on a date, get to know her.
that is la la land?
haaah.

[BurntToast]

not a troll. just honest. you girls keep living in laa laa land

This is true.

[creatinekid]

If her personality is good...chances are shes ugly.

[BurntToast]

If her personality is good...chances are shes ugly.

lol. :werd:

[Exotic_Princess]

If her personality is good...chances are shes ugly.

:slap: omg ur horrible...hah

[FatGeezer]

take her on a date, get to know her.
that is la la land?
haaah.

dates are useless because if she likes him initially she'll agree to everything he says and will go out of the way for him. once theyre married and reality sets in all politeness goes outta window and the personalities will revert to their true selves. at this point all the initial dating etc means jack.

[Import]

Well let's face it, you are probably pretty ugly and fat. I mean I could tell you lack confidence by the way you type. And on top you are telling us you are not the best looking man out there, so yeah. I mean look at you ready to get married..you want to fuck a bitch. I don't blame you, it's pussy afterall. Pussy is pussy man, true punjabi women usually do get fat in the long run, but hey like I said pussy is pussy. Plus you are lonely bra, just stick with this bitch and pop a baby or two. But please don't let them turn out like you.

[Exotic_Princess]

Well let's face it, you are probably pretty ugly and fat. I mean I could tell you lack confidence by the way you type. And on top you are telling us you are not the best looking man out there, so yeah. I mean look at you ready to get married..you want to fuck a bitch. I don't blame you, it's pussy afterall. Pussy is pussy man, true punjabi women usually do get fat in the long run, but hey like I said pussy is pussy. Plus you are lonely bra, just stick with this bitch and pop a baby or two. But please don't let them turn out like you.

^ uncalled for dude.

[xogirlie girlxo]

Rofl. Ouch.

[creatinekid]

lol. :werd:

Explains your personality.

:slap: omg ur horrible...hah

:love:

[FatGeezer]

If her personality is good...chances are shes ugly.

plastic surgery does wonders nowadays

[Drumline]

we're desi. sometimes it works that way.

but i'd say improve yourself before you do this. what Auro is saying is right, you're not that confident and that'll lead to problems down the road.

exercise, work out, groom yourself etc etc

[amani]

dates are useless because if she likes him initially she'll agree to everything he says and will go out of the way for him. once theyre married and reality sets in all politeness goes outta window and the personalities will revert to their true selves. at this point all the initial dating etc means jack.

... the initial feelings they have towards one another will either be more or be less after they meet at least ONCE.

[Exotic_Princess]

:love:

How have you been?

[xogirlie girlxo]

Join a gym.
Shave/trim your beard.
Hang out with friends, watch movies, listen to music.
Buy new clothes.
Go to museums, learn how to ice skate, carve something out of clay.
Change your life.
Worry about this in like 3-4 yrs.
Go live your life.

[BurntToast]

Explains your personality.

Explains your face.

[amani]

Join a gym.
Shave/trim your beard.
Hang out with friends, watch movies, listen to music.
Buy new clothes.
Go to museums, learn how to ice skate, carve something out of clay.
Change your life.
Worry about this in like 3-4 yrs.
Go live your life.

she is such a freaking gangster. lol.

[FatGeezer]

... the initial feelings they have towards one another will either be more or be less after they meet at least ONCE.

theres no lower tiume limit to infatuation. People can be infatuated to people they havent even met or just seen photos of

[amani]

theres no lower tiume limit to infatuation. People can be infatuated to people they havent even met or just seen photos of

& meeting will determine if that infatuation has any real potential or not. he needs to be practical & meet her... otherwise this infatuation is likely always to be just that.

[Import]

Do not learn to ice skate, I repeat DO NOT.

[FatGeezer]

& meeting will determine if that infatuation has any real potential or not. he needs to be practical & meet her... otherwise this infatuation is likely always to be just that.

bullcrap

[creatinekid]

plastic surgery does wonders nowadays

Too expensive and she'll still have self esteem issues.

How have you been?

Great! about to go eat breakfast. You?

Explains your face.
:love: :ugh: :love:

[Import]

Look man, just get rich. Then girls will rub their tits all on your beard. sucke sucke

[jattniz_chuttni]

#1: Don't pay attention to half the bullshit people will say on here.

#2: I know exactly what you're dealing with. First meet her, get to know her surroundings and see if she's the type of person you'll have patience for.

#3: Looks are important. A lot of gursikh girls have low self-esteem and delve themselves into their religion because they don't have much else. I'm not saying the have terrible personalities- they're usually shells of what they could've/can be. So get to know her.

#4: Meet her friends if she has any. Most gursikh girls often think they're too good for others. See who she feels most comfortable with and see if you mesh with them, as well.

#5: Analyze her family. A lot of these girls come from a place where their parents have a mental leash on them. They're very oppressive and imposing of their beliefs,and who knows- they might be straight up paindhu. This means that her parents' upbringing will affect that of your children since they'll find the need to be taken care of you, have control of your children and make the rules.

There's no rush, no matter how much your parents try to push you to marry her.

Marriage in the sikh community has now become a competition. Don't fall prey to it. Arranged marriage just doesn't work in our society.

[Drumline]

emulate Import. he gets mad bitches

[Exotic_Princess]

Too expensive and she'll still have self esteem issues.

Great! about to go eat breakfast. You?

:love: :ugh: :love:

I am at work right now. I have a big ass cut in my mouth and it hurts a lot. I bit the inside of my lip while eating :neutral:

[Import]

emulate Import. he gets mad bitches

Oh please...we all know how you roll

*drums*

[Drumline]

Oh please...we all know how you roll

*drums*

lulz
that's about all i'm rolling right now.
too busy for bitches

[xogirlie girlxo]

Learn how to ice skate! Esp if you know how to rollerblade!

[creatinekid]

I am at work right now. I have a big ass cut in my mouth and it hurts a lot. I bit the inside of my lip while eating :neutral:

LOlllll, sorry, but thats funny it happens to me only when I'm starving and I stuff my face.

[Import]

lulz
that's about all i'm rolling right now.
too busy for bitches

A true man.

[FatGeezer]

#1: Don't pay attention to half the bullshit people will say on here.

#2: I know exactly what you're dealing with. First meet her, get to know her surroundings and see if she's the type of person you'll have patience for.

#3: Looks are important. A lot of gursikh girls have low self-esteem and delve themselves into their religion because they don't have much else. I'm not saying the have terrible personalities- they're usually shells of what they could've/can be. So get to know her.

#4: Meet her friends if she has any. Most gursikh girls often think they're too good for others. See who she feels most comfortable with and see if you mesh with them, as well.

#5: Analyze her family. A lot of these girls come from a place where their parents have a mental leash on them. They're very oppressive and imposing of their beliefs,and who knows- they might be straight up paindhu. This means that her parents' upbringing will affect that of your children since they'll find the need to be taken care of you, have control of your children and make the rules.

There's no rush, no matter how much your parents try to push you to marry her.

Marriage in the sikh community has now become a competition. Don't fall prey to it. Arranged marriage just doesn't work in our society.

self-ownage if i ever saw it

[Exotic_Princess]

LOlllll, sorry, but thats funny it happens to me only when I'm starving and I stuff my face.

:-|
it sucks, it has been like this for qalmost 3 days now and hurts like a *****. I put salt on it...but doesnt help that much. It stings it at first but then kills pain for a few mins. :-|

[jattniz_chuttni]

self-ownage if i ever saw it
Totally.

But, no. Really. I've met those type on chicks almost on a daily (every weekend) when I was younger because I used to go to Gurdwara with my family.

Some of the shit they'd say was crazy. Their mentality is fucked.

Maybe this chick is different. I's dunno.

[xa16ax]

dont do it yaar

[Drumline]

A true man.

for some odd reason it became apparent to me that bitches come in a distant second place

[Import]

for some odd reason it became apparent to me that bitches come in a distant second place

That's great. You are a level ahead of these boys

[FatGeezer]

Totally.

But, no. Really. I've met those type on chicks almost on a daily (every weekend) when I was younger because I used to go to Gurdwara with my family.

Some of the shit they'd say was crazy. Their mentality is fucked.

Maybe this chick is different. I's dunno.

the person she (and he) will be in 10 years time will be completely different to what she is now. its just luck of the draw if it'll work or not

[xogirlie girlxo]

Why are women being referred to as "bitches"?

[SS424]

i think u should continue to talk to her and get to know her before making a huge decision like this. religion is a big deal, and it will definitly affect your marriage. take your time in getting to know her, and dont rush into getting married despite how old you are or whatever pressure might be coming from your family.

[jattniz_chuttni]

the person she (and he) will be in 10 years time will be completely different to what she is now. its just luck of the draw if it'll work or not
You are correctomundo. :)

I'm just stating a few things I've observed and from a few conversations I've had with close family friends about the process.

[FatGeezer]

Why are women being referred to as "bitches"?

theyre being polite

[Import]

Why are women being referred to as "bitches"?

Why do you ask such simple questions?

[BadFingerBoogie]

man, that sucks.

[xogirlie girlxo]

Because I am a simple person. But I am not a simpleton. No, no, no, no.

[ali_tx]

yo, she could be a tranny

[FatGeezer]

yo, she could be a tranny

so could he

[BadFingerBoogie]

while we're on topic, i think it would be cooler to be peter pan than get married.

[Import]

while we're on topic, i think it would be cooler to be peter pan than get married.

:rofl:

[xogirlie girlxo]

Oh my gosh Ive always wanted to be like Peter Pan.

[bingley13]

while we're on topic, i think it would be cooler to be peter pan than get married.
lol.

[FatGeezer]

Oh my gosh Ive always wanted to be like Peter Pan.

what, you want to play with little boys and girls?

[xogirlie girlxo]

what, you want to play with little boys and girls?

Little boys and girls make the bestest of friends, and their minds are vivrant and fresh.

[Import]

Little boys and girls make the bestest of friends, and their minds are vivrant and fresh.

haha this reminds me,..

one of my fav topics of RD

http://forums.ratedesi.com/showthread.php?t=156488

[FatGeezer]

Little boys and girls make the bestest of friends, and their minds are vivrant and fresh.

is taht going to be your defence?

[random guy]

looks always come first

[Import]

looks always come first

no sir.

[vgirl]

talk to her about the things that are on your mind, about her opinions on your different views on religion, how she thinks it will effect things, how she sees you and your beliefs, and whether she thinks this will work as a marriage, and what she will do to make it work.

[random guy]

no sir.

for 99% of the population

[Import]

for 99% of the population

well i dont know 99% of the population, lol

[hakuna-matata]

You haven't seen her picture? Get to that first, all that 'its the personality that counts' stuff is bullshit. As for knowing if she's the right person or not.. you might want to ask her a few questions before its too late yeah?

And don't go through with it if it still doesn't feel right, marriage is kind of a big deal.

I think you're wrong.

[DESI-PEACHES]

Attraction comes first and that spark will deffo grows when u get to know her personality. Get her pic and see if u can find anythin attractive about her and meet her and then get to know her and then make ur decision

Simple as that.

[hakuna-matata]

Attraction comes first and that spark will deffo grows when u get to know her personality. Get her pic and see if u can find anythin attractive about her and meet her and then get to know her and then make ur decision

Simple as that.

So can I see your picture first?

[Import]

So can I see your picture first?

smooth operator

[hakuna-matata]

smooth operator

I've learnt from the great Aurovon;)

[Import]

I've learnt from the great Aurovon;)

Is that so? Well looks like you are doing a better job than himself.

[(sic)]

i'm getting an arranged marraige. can't be assed with the hassle of the other option

[BurntToast]

I think you're wrong.

Personality alone? I think that's legit.

[BurntToast]

i'm getting an arranged marraige. can't be assed with the hassle of the other option

Marry me plz.

[(sic)]

Marry me plz.

you arent even legal little girl. you want me to get arrested>?

[BurntToast]

you arent even legal little girl. you want me to get arrested>?

I am for you.

Excuses, excuses.

[(sic)]

I am for you.

Excuses, excuses.

no i turned gay last week.

[Import]

no i turned gay last week.

:gay:

[BurntToast]

no i turned gay last week.

You're breaking so many hearts.

[Import]

not mine <3

[BurntToast]

You're lucky. </3

[naz4]

Hey,
I know how you feel. But listen, arranged marriages these days are becoming more and more liberal, I say you meet up with her a couple of times and actually live with her for some time without actually marrying her, that way, both of you will know how compatiable you guys are.



How do you know whether the person is the right one?

I am not the best looking person or confident person, and I carry some excess weight. I'm also a Singh with an uncut beard, although I'm not that religious (another story). I know that the vast majority of sikh girls look for someone who is clean shaven or sometimes someone with a cut beard when trying to find someone through an arranged marriage. No one in my family drinks or eats meat, and that again is a factor because most girls don't want to marry into such a family. So these factors exclude the vast majority of sikh girls.

I've spoken to this girl a couple of times and we get on well and based on what she has said I like her, although I haven't see her pic. However, she is very religions and that is the number one thing in her life. Whereas I am not. I think we are different people. But I also know she thinks I am OK although the very different attitudes towards religion is also an issue for her.

But how do you know whether or not this is the person who wish to marry? I am unsure. Part of me thinks our different views towards religion is going to be a factor but I also like her personality. A part of me does think that if I say no I will not find someone better, as I've explained most girls wouldn't want to marry someone like me. So what option do I have?

[dirtybrownkid]

fake thread lol

[btown-paki]

How do you know whether the person is the right one?

I am not the best looking person or confident person, and I carry some excess weight. I'm also a Singh with an uncut beard, although I'm not that religious (another story). I know that the vast majority of sikh girls look for someone who is clean shaven or sometimes someone with a cut beard when trying to find someone through an arranged marriage. No one in my family drinks or eats meat, and that again is a factor because most girls don't want to marry into such a family. So these factors exclude the vast majority of sikh girls.

I've spoken to this girl a couple of times and we get on well and based on what she has said I like her, although I haven't see her pic. However, she is very religions and that is the number one thing in her life. Whereas I am not. I think we are different people. But I also know she thinks I am OK although the very different attitudes towards religion is also an issue for her.

But how do you know whether or not this is the person who wish to marry? I am unsure. Part of me thinks our different views towards religion is going to be a factor but I also like her personality. A part of me does think that if I say no I will not find someone better, as I've explained most girls wouldn't want to marry someone like me. So what option do I have?

first step is to have more self confidence

[sarblohsinghz]

How do you know whether the person is the right one?




u will know when its the right one... it will be when u talk to her and u start to pre-cum :love: :hs: (thats another story ;) )

:D Hey SSA bro


I say u link her man, meet her up, i doubt she will change her ways for a more modern way of life.

Gym vich muscle bana ferda, dholia they shere pavai fer da ;) (jazzy b)
Go gym pump some iron, buy some designer shirts :cool: and buy a beema lol

On a serious note, u need go places where u can meet more gals, for example take up music lessions, or go jogging to a southal park, or go gurdwara n do seva, so u can meet up with ppl, and hopefully find some1.

gtg

[HeAvYmAcHiNeGuN]

leave everything to God

He is the one who makes better decisions for everyone

[Riddemz]

leave everything to God

He is the one who makes better decisions for everyone

oh thats great

let the whole of humanity sit idle and leave everything up to god

[jumpn jza]

At least go out on a date with her. Chances are that you'll like her and she'll like you. Just be confident when you're with her, last thing she'd want is a man who's unsure of himself.

[cyber_satan]

its a gamble

[Desi MC]

hmmm...
go on a date w/ her or something.
take her out for dinner... talk face to face, as friends.
but tell her who you are & don't hold anything back.
you will get the idea if she is gonna be okay w/ you not being religious, or if she'll hate it.
also, you will know better if you like her or not... would you really wanna be someone who is constantly reminding you of something you don't care all that much abt?

I like you. :hug:

[amani]

I like you. :hug:

aw, thank you! :love:

[Desi MC]

aw, thank you! :love:

Do you think we can be friends ?

[amani]

Do you think we can be friends ?

lol.
there is always room in my e-heart for e-buddies.
:)

[Desi MC]

lol.
there is always room in my e-heart for e-buddies.
:)

lol

Drop the "e".
:hug:

Where you from ?

[amani]

lol

Drop the "e".
:hug:

Where you from ?

haha.
amrika.

[Desi MC]

haha.
amrika.

Itni duuur :(

I was in Amreeka about few months ago.
NY :love:

[amani]

Itni duuur :(

I was in Amreeka about few months ago.
NY :love:

haha, sorry?
ny, lol. not where i am.
hmmm...
so are you from scandinavia? ...

[amani]

Scandinavia Is My Dream.
Djgkdfireweiropedflkajsdfjsdfkljsdklfjskldjfkdjfkl djfklsdjfds.

[amani]

^in CAPS.

[Desi MC]

haha, sorry?
ny, lol. not where i am.
hmmm...
so are you from scandinavia? ...

What are you ?
Indian, Pakistani ?
You don't speak urdu ?


Where you at ? if not in NY. :-|

Yes Scandinavia.
Denmark. :D

[amani]

What are you ?
Indian, Pakistani ?
You don't speak urdu ?


Where you at ? if not in NY. :-|

Yes Scandinavia.
Denmark. :D

pakistani.
i do speak urdu.

i'm currently in the south.
& omgomgomg.
scandinaviaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.

[amani]

i meant sorry as in, sorry for being "itni duur." not as in, "come again?" haha.

[Desi MC]

pakistani.
i do speak urdu.

i'm currently in the south.
& omgomgomg.
scandinaviaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.

Kiya haal hein :)

South... so is that Chicago ?


Have you been to Scandinavia ?
It's world's best place to raise a family.

[Desi MC]

i meant sorry as in, sorry for being "itni duur." not as in, "come again?" haha.

Oh my bad. :$

:D

[amani]

Kiya haal hein :)

South... so is that Chicago ?


Have you been to Scandinavia ?
It's world's best place to raise a family.

alhamdulillah... ap ka kya haal hai?!
chicago's in the north. :)
& NO.
i have NOT been to scandinavia YET.
like i said... it is my dreammmmmmmmmmmmm!!!

[Desi MC]

alhamdulillah... ap ka kya haal hai?!
chicago's in the north. :)
& NO.
i have NOT been to scandinavia YET.
like i said... it is my dreammmmmmmmmmmmm!!!

Mein bhi acha hoon. :)

Oh well then i don't know.
I been to DC, NY and NJ. I liked NY.

You should come and check this place.
Seriously its beautiful specially in summer.

My dream place was America.
But trust me its no way better than Scandinavia.
The only good thing coming from America is the Entertainment business.

Anyway....may i ask how old are you ?

[amani]

Mein bhi acha hoon. :)

Oh well then i don't know.
I been to DC, NY and NJ. I liked NY.

You should come and check this place.
Seriously its beautiful specially in summer.

My dream place was America.
But trust me its no way better than Scandinavia.
The only good thing coming from America is the Entertainment business.

Anyway....may i ask how old are you ?

HAHA. just barely legal. i am much younger than you.
you have been to the upper-eastern region of america, i see.
have you been in scandinavia your whole life?
& I WANT TO COME CHECK OUT THAT PLACE!
agggh! :crying:

[Desi MC]

HAHA. just barely legal. i am much younger than you.
you have been to the upper-eastern region of america, i see.
have you been in scandinavia your whole life?
& I WANT TO COME CHECK OUT THAT PLACE!
agggh! :crying:

Much younger... hmmm any exact figure ?

America is good for visiting, but for your whole life.. Neh
Nah i was in Pakistan moved here in 2001.
But i been to whole Europe.
You name the country i been there :D

Aww don't cry, you can visit anytime.. and don't worry about the place to crash.
You have a friend in Scandinavia :D

[amani]

Much younger... hmmm any exact figure ?

America is good for visiting, but for your whole life.. Neh
Nah i was in Pakistan moved here in 2001.
But i been to whole Europe.
You name the country i been there :D

Aww don't cry, you can visit anytime.. and don't worry about the place to crash.
You have a friend in Scandinavia :D

hahahahaha. lolz. thanks.
yah, been here my whole life. :(
have you been to amani? it is an island off of greece. ;)
named after me.
my age, lol. eighteen.

[Desi MC]

hahahahaha. lolz. thanks.
yah, been here my whole life. :(
have you been to amani? it is an island off of greece. ;)
named after me.
my age, lol. eighteen.

Hehe.
Where in Pakistan you from ?

No I haven't. But i been to Greece only at the Airport transact :D
Haha named after you...

For real 18 ?
No offense or anything and don't mind but you look older.. i thought you was even married. :-|

[zarahomme]

hahahahahahah

[amani]

Hehe.
Where in Pakistan you from ?

No I haven't. But i been to Greece only at the Airport transact :D
Haha named after you...

For real 18 ?
No offense or anything and don't mind but you look older.. i thought you was even married. :-|

lahore. you?
hahahahaha.
hahahahaha.
hahahahaha.
married?
hahahahaha.
lololol. not yet, bucko!

[amani]

i am going to bed! PM me if you like.
khudafiz!

[Desi MC]

lahore. you?
hahahahaha.
hahahahaha.
hahahahaha.
married?
hahahahaha.
lololol. not yet, bucko!

Nice.

Rawalpindi.

I am sorry. :$

[Desi MC]

i am going to bed! PM me if you like.
khudafiz!

Good night.
Nice talking to you.

Allah hafiz.

[Clueless_uk]

This is something I have thought about for a long time...and still have no idea about.

All I know is....I ain't marrying anyone I don't feel right about.

[aznpdaddy]

dont marry someone cos you feel obliged to not only will you screw their life, but your own... youd be lying to yourself... id know im divorced...

love has to happen, if it doesnt it WILL break down..

[Siesta]

dont marry someone cos you feel obliged to not only will you screw their life, but your own... youd be lying to yourself... id know im divorced...

love has to happen, if it doesnt it WILL break down..
You have been married before?

[aznpdaddy]

You have been married before?
yeah with an onion ring she was my childhood sweet heart then we got separated at the age of 12....nooo only kidding!

i was just saying that to see if anyone catches that out! i like ur observation...

[Siesta]

yeah with an onion ring she was my childhood sweet heart then we got separated at the age of 12....nooo only kidding!

i was just saying that to see if anyone catches that out! i like ur observation...
:rofl:...next time make sure you have ketchup and mustard for that onion ring..maybe that was the problem.

[aznpdaddy]

:rofl:...next time make sure you have ketchup and mustard for that onion ring..maybe that was the problem.
euwww i hate ketchup even if im eating chips etc i get my mates or whoever eating it to move it away from me even the bottle, cos it reminds me of someting u dont even wna know, but im sure u cud guess! iv never been fond of ketchup and after all if she was i wudnt have even saved my last onion ring for my childhood love machine!

[Siesta]

euwww i hate ketchup even if im eating chips etc i get my mates or whoever eating it to move it away from me even the bottle, cos it reminds me of someting u dont even wna know, but im sure u cud guess! iv never been fond of ketchup and after all if she was i wudnt have even saved my last onion ring for my childhood love machine!
You ahte ketchup...argh :|. lol at your mind relating ketchup to something nasty :ugh:. You have seen too much my friend. You need to get your head back to normal...lol

[aznpdaddy]

You ahte ketchup...argh :|. lol at your mind relating ketchup to something nasty :ugh:. You have seen too much my friend. You need to get your head back to normal...lol
no man not intentially, i went to a public unisex paid toilet once when i went in i saw all over the floor and all over stuff that i hope i never have to witness again, but then i spoke to soon iv seen that nasty shit too many times in public toilets... if men cant pee on toilet seats why do some women ehem ehem on toilet seats!

make me a cocktail pls siesta

[Siesta]

make me a cocktail pls siesta
Ok you are wierding me out...dont talk about that :Puke:

One cocktail coming rite up :joy:

[Ozzy-]

I just had to drop by into this thread. Some people earlier were talking about personality only matters is bullshit. looks won't get you past a few years. When you see it personally you understand that. You're talking marriage and kids here, so you have to be on the same base in values and beliefs at LEAST. and after that, look at personality matching and attractiveness. Anything else you get is a plus. Don't bother looking at lifestyle matches, you'll never meet your match. And lifestyle changes drastically after marriage anyways.

[lil_gangsta_]

arrange marriage = its lik 100,000pound gamble, u lose u fukd

[lil_gangsta_]

i mean lifetime gamble**

[americanmohit]

you dont. your fcukd.

lol

[KISS ME QUICK]

How do you know whether the person is the right one?

I am not the best looking person or confident person, and I carry some excess weight. I'm also a Singh with an uncut beard, although I'm not that religious (another story). I know that the vast majority of sikh girls look for someone who is clean shaven or sometimes someone with a cut beard when trying to find someone through an arranged marriage. No one in my family drinks or eats meat, and that again is a factor because most girls don't want to marry into such a family. So these factors exclude the vast majority of sikh girls.

I've spoken to this girl a couple of times and we get on well and based on what she has said I like her, although I haven't see her pic. However, she is very religions and that is the number one thing in her life. Whereas I am not. I think we are different people. But I also know she thinks I am OK although the very different attitudes towards religion is also an issue for her.

But how do you know whether or not this is the person who wish to marry? I am unsure. Part of me thinks our different views towards religion is going to be a factor but I also like her personality. A part of me does think that if I say no I will not find someone better, as I've explained most girls wouldn't want to marry someone like me. So what option do I have?

:rofl: u dont know shes the right one till bout 5 years later :rofl: