what do you if.....

[idonknw]

you find out that one of your closest friends has always liked you a lot, but has never confessed it to you directly. But, they have been telling others about their feelings for you, around your circle of friends...but hasnt talked directly to you about it. What are you supposed to do then?
I mean like what or how should you react, if they act 'differently' around you?

p.s. only serious responses please. :Oops:

[punjabified]

I think a friend fancying a friend is sort of disturbing :| Tell him to get lost for being so perverted unless offcourse you fancy him too, tell one of your mates to tell him.

[idonknw]

I think a friend fancying a friend is sort of disturbing :| Tell him to get lost for being so perverted unless offcourse you fancy him too, tell one of your mates to tell him.

Yeah I'm very confused. I mean he's a great person and everything and I do like him but he doesn't talk to me about these things himself, I always hear things from others. And I get intimidated by him cuz I don't know how he would react if I were to say something. I don't even know.
I think it's just that I'm a honest person and i say things very clearly and directly and he's not using this technique to express what he exactly feels.

[punjabified]

Yeah I'm very confused. I mean he's a great person and everything and I do like him but he doesn't talk to me about these things himself, I always hear things from others. And I get intimidated by him cuz I don't know how he would react if I were to say something. I don't even know.
I think it's just that I'm a honest person and i say things very clearly and directly and he's not using this technique to express what he exactly feels.

Do you know that these people are actually telling you the truth and not just playing? How can you be certain?

[idonknw]

Do you know that these people are actually telling you the truth and not just playing? How can you be certain?

See, that's the thing. I doubted this myself, but then I even started seeing changes in him.... it's weird cuz he's 'different' around me, even though we have been great friends for over a year now. He takes all of his 'advice' on any issue pretty much only from me, and he tells me this too. :-|
He really thinks about the things that he says to me, compared to everyone else he just blabs whatever....

[punjabified]

See, that's the thing. I doubted this myself, but then I even started seeing changes in him.... it's weird cuz he's 'different' around me, even though we have been great friends for over a year now. He takes all of his 'advice' on any issue pretty much only from me, and he tells me this too. :-|
He really thinks about the things that he says to me, compared to everyone else he just blabs whatever....

Dude i think you need to toughen up and tell him how you feel, whether that's one on one or through your friends. Don't leave it until too late you might lose something special :hug:

[idonknw]

Dude i think you need to toughen up and tell him how you feel, whether that's one on one or through your friends. Don't leave it until too late you might lose something special :hug:

I think your right, it' just I was a bit confused with his behaviour...but maybe I should take the first step. I do like him as well, and def wouldn't want to miss out with a great friend/person. Thank you punjabified! :grouphug:
I'll try to sort this out. :joy:

[punjabified]

I think your right, it' just I was a bit confused with his behaviour...but maybe I should take the first step. I do like him as well, and def wouldn't want to miss out with a great friend/person. Thank you punjabified! :grouphug:
I'll try to sort this out. :joy:

Hurry up and please let me know what the outcome is :hyper:

[idonknw]

Hurry up and please let me know what the outcome is :hyper:

Lol, im gonna have to be realllyyyy strong in order to do this! but i think i will have too in order to clear everything up!
Don't worry, I'll let you know! thank ju once again! ;)

[Siesta]

you find out that one of your closest friends has always liked you a lot, but has never confessed it to you directly. But, they have been telling others about their feelings for you, around your circle of friends...but hasnt talked directly to you about it. What are you supposed to do then?
I mean like what or how should you react, if they act 'differently' around you?

p.s. only serious responses please. :Oops:

Well if they are telling all your friends it obvious they dont want it to be a secret. They know that if they tell your close friends it will get back around to you. And it did, so now its either you are going to confront them or wait on that 'really shy' friend of yours to approach you. So his tactic was to spread the word hoping you would say something to him and he wouldnt have to do much work. Slick right...yes.

[zarahomme]

talk to the friend...and tell them how u feel...yay or nay......in a calm manner if is a no...and tell them that they should get over it for the sake of the friendship...say something like..ur a cool guy..a lotta girls would wanna go out with u

[gooberloo]

tell him to grow a pair and confess everything

[Siesta]

tell him to grow a pair and confess everything
That was almost what I wanted to tell her first

[gooberloo]

That was almost what I wanted to tell her first

great minds think alike :love:

[doaly69]

what do you do

:no:

[vsaigal]

great minds think alike :love:

if u were great.

[Siesta]

if u were great.
she is :slap:

[idonknw]

Well if they are telling all your friends it obvious they dont want it to be a secret. They know that if they tell your close friends it will get back around to you. And it did, so now its either you are going to confront them or wait on that 'really shy' friend of yours to approach you. So his tactic was to spread the word hoping you would say something to him and he wouldnt have to do much work. Slick right...yes.

Lol, yeah i guess. And now that I do know, I'm confused with if I should just straight up talk to him about this...or just let him approach me first, and let him talk first. I think I would rather him be honest with me first and know exactly what he feels. I mean I don't want to ruin our friendship or anything, but I also wouldn't mind him being something more...but I think I'm just gonna go with the flow, if he feels like he wants to go ahead with this, then I think I should let him decide on what he wants.

[idonknw]

talk to the friend...and tell them how u feel...yay or nay......in a calm manner if is a no...and tell them that they should get over it for the sake of the friendship...say something like..ur a cool guy..a lotta girls would wanna go out with u

See, that's the thing. I have told him that, but he replied back by saying that he doesn't really 'care' about the other girls and that he likes hanging out with me. In fact, I'm the one who always 'suggests' girls to him, haha and I guess he doesn't like that....which really confuses me cuz then again he doesn't directly speak his mind to me or what he's getting at. :no:

[Fresh-Connection]

Tell him you have feeling for someone else, then see what his response is...

If he doesnt go and beat that other guy up then he aint worth it.

[Dream_GirL]

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[Dream_GirL]

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[idonknw]

Tell him you have feeling for someone else, then see what his response is...

If he doesnt go and beat that other guy up then he aint worth it.

Lol, I did this too actually so that I could pick something out of his reaction.
He reacted by saying 'what about me' lol...& then it sort of got awkward. I didn't know what to say to him at that particular point...i kinda regret that I didn't say anything. We just started laughing. :-| omg, rofl.

[idonknw]

maybe his just too shy to tell you how he really feels.. u got to get him to tell u since his been telling everyone else but i think yeah like u said just go with the flow.. see what happens.. :dunno:

Yeah, I think he's 'too shy' to actually confess this....but then I am mean he's an outgoing guy. I just don't know, lol. But, yeah if he does like me then he should just confess it rather than making things complicated. So, Imma just go with the flow, I'm cool with it.

[Fresh-Connection]

lolll.. dats maybe one way of gettin de truth out of someone.. but wat if he just backs off instead?

Then you just remain friends, and live happily ever after.

wanna be my friend? :rolleyes:

Lol, I did this too actually so that I could pick something out of his reaction.
He reacted by saying 'what about me' lol...& then it sort of got awkward. I didn't know what to say to him at that particular point...i kinda regret that I didn't say anything. We just started laughing. :-| omg, rofl.

Well you had the oppotunity there and then to straighten everything out, you should really just get it out in the open because the longer you keep it all in the more awkurd it will get.......

[Dream_GirL]

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[baliwala]

Nothing should be decided until they people have had sex with each other.

[idonknw]

his shy cos he likes u :kekeke: even de most outgoing, talkative type of guys can be shy when it comes to girls they like.. just give it some time.. lol

Yeah maybe, the thing is... this has been going on for a while & I can't play these mind games anymore, so I don't know how much more time I am supposed to give to this. That's why I mentioned that im just gonna go with the flow, whatever happens...happens.

[Dream_GirL]

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[idonknw]

Nothing should be decided until they people have had sex with each other.

BALI! :rofl:

your suggestion does not fit into this scenario. :-| thats why i said SERIOUS REPSONSES... lol :cool:

[Dream_GirL]

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[idonknw]

if he is playing mind games.. den play mind games back.. he should just tell u instead.. see wats in ur kismat :Paper:

Yeah. I def don't have the time/strength to play mind games. That's why at times I just 'act' around him as if I don't care. I mean I am fine just being friends with him right, but I also dont like the fact how he's 'hiding' his feelings from me...when really it's not that big of a deal lol :no:

[idonknw]

Well you had the oppotunity there and then to straighten everything out, you should really just get it out in the open because the longer you keep it all in the more awkurd it will get.......

Your right, I did have the opportunity. But, at that moment I just didn't know what to say. I was kind of in the 'shock' mode lol..I mean I do regret it, but you can't do anything about that now.

[Dream_GirL]

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[idonknw]

anyways, I think I just want him to be straight up with me. I don't believe in 'chasing' someone you know. I will just leave it to him.

Thanks for all your advice everyone! :grouphug:

[Siesta]

Lol, yeah i guess. And now that I do know, I'm confused with if I should just straight up talk to him about this...or just let him approach me first, and let him talk first. I think I would rather him be honest with me first and know exactly what he feels. I mean I don't want to ruin our friendship or anything, but I also wouldn't mind him being something more...but I think I'm just gonna go with the flow, if he feels like he wants to go ahead with this, then I think I should let him decide on what he wants.
I think he is doing that because he is not sure how you feel about him. Starting doing things that would let him know you like him. Dont be over zealous in your approach. The idea is to get him to approach you first. Men want someone to chase, dont start chasing him. That would give him more courage to say something to you?