Relationship Help

[RoMeO6969]

Hey i need some relationship advice. Alot of the older RD memebers will remember my long term relationship with my now ex. well we broke up cuz of religion well im a shia muslim and shes a sunni muslim. So anyways its been 6 months since we broke up. she went on and dated a white guy and i told her it would last more then three monthgs and i was right they are no longer together. They broke up about two weeks ago, and since me n her have broken up we have talked to each other for endless hours everyday it was more her calling me instead of me calling her. well during their relationship she always said wut if we were still together, u treated me so well blah blah i love u blah blah. Since her and her ex broek up well shes made a few surprised visits to my house and waited for me to come home. and well u no two teenagers, no parents and a empty house leads to one thing to another and well now we are thinking about getting back together. My question is what shall i do about this situation. If it helps we were maadly in love with one another and wanted to get married

[chiquita]

wait that doesn't make sense. Is the white guy muslim? If not then she obviously doesn't have problem with the religion part of the relationship?> :sarb:

[disconnected]

Hey i need some relationship advice. Alot of the older RD memebers will remember my long term relationship with my now ex. well we broke up cuz of religion well im a shia muslim and shes a sunni muslim. So anyways its been 6 months since we broke up. she went on and dated a white guy and i told her it would last more then three monthgs and i was right they are no longer together. They broke up about two weeks ago, and since me n her have broken up we have talked to each other for endless hours everyday it was more her calling me instead of me calling her. well during their relationship she always said wut if we were still together, u treated me so well blah blah i love u blah blah. Since her and her ex broek up well shes made a few surprised visits to my house and waited for me to come home. and well u no two teenagers, no parents and a empty house leads to one thing to another and well now we are thinking about getting back together. My question is what shall i do about this situation. If it helps we were maadly in love with one another and wanted to get married

my advice life is too short to let love go...be sure you want her to be the last person next to you, because when you grow old, your parents wont be around, your siblings might not be around, your kids wont be around, she will be the one holding your hand....be sure thats what you want and go for it....:D inshallah all works out for you ;)

[baliwala]

Romeo needs relationship help? What has the world come to?

[Hands]

did you fuck her?

[Hands]

Romeo needs relationship help? What has the world come to?
hes a fag and he sucks dick, thats what the world has come to :no:

[RoMeO6969]

wait that doesn't make sense. Is the white guy muslim? If not then she obviously doesn't have problem with the religion part of the relationship?> :sarb:
no he was not muslim

[Ozzy-]

She is rebounding. You're original problem hasn't gone away right? If you get back in it, you'll have the same problem, and it'll hurt worse this time. If you really want to get back with her, BRING UP THE ISSUE before you go through it. The religion issue. I really don't see a big problem between shia and sunni muslims, as long as she's not ismaili. If she is then there might be a bigger difference.

[RoMeO6969]

my advice life is too short to let love go...be sure you want her to be the last person next to you, because when you grow old, your parents wont be around, your siblings might not be around, your kids wont be around, she will be the one holding your hand....be sure thats what you want and go for it....:D inshallah all works out for you ;)
hehe thats exactly what i want, i have no siblings, i have a sick father and a mother who is strong but her health is slowing everyday. This girl is the one who puts a smile on my face every time i see her, i love her so damn much and shes the one i see myself with u no shes my soul mate

[RoMeO6969]

She is rebounding. You're original problem hasn't gone away right? If you get back in it, you'll have the same problem, and it'll hurt worse this time. If you really want to get back with her, BRING UP THE ISSUE before you go through it. The religion issue. I really don't see a big problem between shia and sunni muslims, as long as she's not ismaili. If she is then there might be a bigger difference.
haha shes not ismaili but me on the other hand I AM and thats thje problem there i dont follow my religion and well i dont mind convertin but my mum will not allow it

[Ozzy-]

haha shes not ismaili but me on the other hand I AM and thats thje problem there i dont follow my religion and well i dont mind convertin but my mum will not allow it

You're mom cannot "NOT ALLOW" you to do anything when it comes to belief. Belief comes from within the heart. If she is a real muslim, she cannot forbid you from finding your own way if you are sincere about it. Forcing an islamic belief on someone is forbidden in islam, just so you know.

If you're mom is is not even going to discuss it, then be ismaili to her face, and your gf's faith from the inside and with her. Simple as that. You're heart cannot be controlled by anyone but you.

[RoMeO6969]

You're mom cannot "NOT ALLOW" you to do anything when it comes to belief. Belief comes from within the heart. If she is a real muslim, she cannot forbid you from finding your own way if you are sincere about it. Forcing an islamic belief on someone is forbidden in islam, just so you know.

If you're mom is is not even going to discuss it, then be ismaili to her face, and your gf's faith from the inside and with her. Simple as that. You're heart cannot be controlled by anyone but you.
ive aleady decided that ill continue to b ismaili and wel im willing to learn and practice my ex's religion and live my life that way alot of my family practices two religons and it works for them btw are u ismaili

[Ozzy-]

ive aleady decided that ill continue to b ismaili and wel im willing to learn and practice my ex's religion and live my life that way alot of my family practices two religons and it works for them btw are u ismaili

I am a sunni muslim. I was born a sunni muslim. However, I spent about 3 years going through all the known religions. I wanted to find out what was right. Most people believe in a religion from their heart. That wasn't enough for me. I wanted to understand from my head WHY it was right. I ended up back here after going through all the religions I could find.

The basic problem I have with ismaili is that they believe that their imam knows hidden meanings in the qur'an that normal people don't. But in god's eyes we are all equal, so we should all understand it equally. If the imam knows hidden things, he can just make up rules to suit his needs. He is not a prophet, he is not infallible, and he can become corrupt. Aside from that, all muslims are pretty much equal =).

[Hands]

Are we talking about 9 hours of Grand Theft Auto IV?
i think hes talking about 9 seconds of penetration

[disconnected]

She is rebounding. You're original problem hasn't gone away right? If you get back in it, you'll have the same problem, and it'll hurt worse this time. If you really want to get back with her, BRING UP THE ISSUE before you go through it. The religion issue. I really don't see a big problem between shia and sunni muslims, as long as she's not ismaili. If she is then there might be a bigger difference.

totally agree with Ozzy, bring up the issue now and clear it up, push it out of your mind now and you will regret it later dont make that mistake...

hehe thats exactly what i want, i have no siblings, i have a sick father and a mother who is strong but her health is slowing everyday. This girl is the one who puts a smile on my face every time i see her, i love her so damn much and shes the one i see myself with u no shes my soul mate

well just clear your issues first and if thats how you think of her...then tell me when the nikkah is :D

[gooberloo]

If you honestly think that you and your ex will be able to overcome the cast issue (dealing with each others parents) or will be okay with one of you converting if it should come to that..then go ahead! love is a pretty strong reason to make such a commitment if you 2 are really that crazy about each other.

[RoMeO6969]

Are we talking about 9 hours of Grand Theft Auto IV?
no i wish haha

[RoMeO6969]

I am a sunni muslim. I was born a sunni muslim. However, I spent about 3 years going through all the known religions. I wanted to find out what was right. Most people believe in a religion from their heart. That wasn't enough for me. I wanted to understand from my head WHY it was right. I ended up back here after going through all the religions I could find.

The basic problem I have with ismaili is that they believe that their imam knows hidden meanings in the qur'an that normal people don't. But in god's eyes we are all equal, so we should all understand it equally. If the imam knows hidden things, he can just make up rules to suit his needs. He is not a prophet, he is not infallible, and he can become corrupt. Aside from that, all muslims are pretty much equal =).
see i feel the exacy same way we all belive int he same thing at the end of the day

[RoMeO6969]

If you honestly think that you and your ex will be able to overcome the cast issue (dealing with each others parents) or will be okay with one of you converting if it should come to that..then go ahead! love is a pretty strong reason to make such a commitment if you 2 are really that crazy about each other.
im postive we can work it out cz thats wut we have been wanting to do for months and we still love each other to death and want to b with one another

[Ozzy-]

see i feel the exacy same way we all belive int he same thing at the end of the day

Yeah. Actually I am very annoyed at some of these parents. They have no right to force this on their kids. Their job is to guide and strongly urge towards islam. What type of muslim shouldn't matter really. Thats the person's own choice isn't it?

Don't worry, he who knows all knows of your plight too =).

[gooberloo]

im postive we can work it out cz thats wut we have been wanting to do for months and we still love each other to death and want to b with one another

then go for it...just be practical about things and you 2 should be just fine. you guys have to keep a lot more than just your love for one another in mind

[RoMeO6969]

then go for it...just be practical about things and you 2 should be just fine. you guys have to keep a lot more than just your love for one another in mind
and that is wut im going to do lol like a bollywood movie

[RoMeO6969]

Yeah. Actually I am very annoyed at some of these parents. They have no right to force this on their kids. Their job is to guide and strongly urge towards islam. What type of muslim shouldn't matter really. Thats the person's own choice isn't it?

Don't worry, he who knows all knows of your plight too =).
hey man i really appreciate the advice, im hoping i can get my mother to b real old fashioned and understand that I am all she has in her life and i no she wants me to be happy so she mihgt as well let me do what i need to do to stay happy

[Ozzy-]

hey man i really appreciate the advice, im hoping i can get my mother to b real old fashioned and understand that I am all she has in her life and i no she wants me to be happy so she mihgt as well let me do what i need to do to stay happy

Of course, If I can help more let me know. But try to keep your mother happy too, she's the most important person in your life don't forget that =).

[RoMeO6969]

Of course, If I can help more let me know. But try to keep your mother happy too, she's the most important person in your life don't forget that =).
oh i no she is and after everything we have been though i no i have to keep her happy

[gooberloo]

and that is wut im going to do lol like a bollywood movie

good luck sweety :)

[RoMeO6969]

good luck sweety :)
hey npo thanks for the help btw im faheem and who u b

[Ozzy-]

oh i no she is and after everything we have been though i no i have to keep her happy

Good for you. I wish you the best of luck man.

[T.Dimera]

Hey i need some relationship advice. Alot of the older RD memebers will remember my long term relationship with my now ex. well we broke up cuz of religion well im a shia muslim and shes a sunni muslim. So anyways its been 6 months since we broke up. she went on and dated a white guy and i told her it would last more then three monthgs and i was right they are no longer together. They broke up about two weeks ago, and since me n her have broken up we have talked to each other for endless hours everyday it was more her calling me instead of me calling her. well during their relationship she always said wut if we were still together, u treated me so well blah blah i love u blah blah. Since her and her ex broek up well shes made a few surprised visits to my house and waited for me to come home. and well u no two teenagers, no parents and a empty house leads to one thing to another and well now we are thinking about getting back together. My question is what shall i do about this situation. If it helps we were maadly in love with one another and wanted to get married

oh boy, you two started to have sex again didn't you! how old are you two by the way....you should know that lots of people in your community are getting married to people from other faiths...keep searching for that common ground and try not to give your parents or her parents any heart attacks ok?

[gooberloo]

hey npo thanks for the help btw im faheem and who u b

names Charmaine :)

[RoMeO6969]

oh boy, you two started to have sex again didn't you! how old are you two by the way....you should know that lots of people in your community are getting married to people from other faiths...keep searching for that common ground and try not to give your parents or her parents any heart attacks ok?
lol im 21 years old and i told my mum this is canada and its not 50 years ago and back home where it was wrong to marry someone else

[RoMeO6969]

names Charmaine :)
nice to meet u

[T.Dimera]

lol im 21 years old and i told my mum this is canada and its not 50 years ago and back home where it was wrong to marry someone else

one of my best friends is ismaili, and he married some persian girl, he practices his religion, she practices hers...and they live happily ever after.

btw, you didn't answer the question so im going to take that as a yes...just don't slip up or you'll have a Jr on the way:shock:

[T.Dimera]

oh and i know some ismaili girls from calgary and they are all down to earth and very very attractive, you are sitting on a gold mine my friend and u don't even know it

[bonita_larki]

Hey i need some relationship advice. Alot of the older RD memebers will remember my long term relationship with my now ex. well we broke up cuz of religion well im a shia muslim and shes a sunni muslim. So anyways its been 6 months since we broke up. she went on and dated a white guy and i told her it would last more then three monthgs and i was right they are no longer together. They broke up about two weeks ago, and since me n her have broken up we have talked to each other for endless hours everyday it was more her calling me instead of me calling her. well during their relationship she always said wut if we were still together, u treated me so well blah blah i love u blah blah. Since her and her ex broek up well shes made a few surprised visits to my house and waited for me to come home. and well u no two teenagers, no parents and a empty house leads to one thing to another and well now we are thinking about getting back together. My question is what shall i do about this situation. If it helps we were maadly in love with one another and wanted to get married
IF your both so religious, then you should know by now its haram to be dating!!!!!!!!

[gooberloo]

nice to meet u

likewise.

[RoMeO6969]

oh and i know some ismaili girls from calgary and they are all down to earth and very very attractive, you are sitting on a gold mine my friend and u don't even know it
lol well yesh we did, and i love ismaili girls they are extremly beautiful problem is im a shy guy and i dont practice my religion there fore its extremtly hard for me to meet an amazin ismaili girl

[RoMeO6969]

likewise.
so wuts up lol sorry its been ages since ive been on RD so i dont remember anyone

[gooberloo]

so wuts up lol sorry its been ages since ive been on RD so i dont remember anyone


noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooothing...proba bly going to fail my calculus paper tomorrow and and and im BORED! :no:

[RoMeO6969]

noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooothing...proba bly going to fail my calculus paper tomorrow and and and im BORED! :no:
lol school started early for u lol what are u takin in school

[T.Dimera]

lol well yesh we did, and i love ismaili girls they are extremly beautiful problem is im a shy guy and i dont practice my religion there fore its extremtly hard for me to meet an amazin ismaili girl

one thing i know about calgary girls is....they are very old fashioned so you gotta make the first move, and you being shy, pretty much kills any chance on meeting/dating the attractive ones

[gooberloo]

lol school started early for u lol what are u takin in school

no no its finals time...last week of exams and if i pass everything i get my university degree but seeing as how well my calculus preparation is..im gonna get my degree in another 3 months! :no:

[Echelon]

Lol, looks like this bitch took you for a ride? Anyone see the funny here? You broke up due to religious differences, so she went out with some white guy!? Seems like she just wanted a dose of vanilla before she settles down.

[RoMeO6969]

one thing i know about calgary girls is....they are very old fashioned so you gotta make the first move, and you being shy, pretty much kills any chance on meeting/dating the attractive ones
lol not to mention im butt ugly lol actually there is this one girl but we decided we gonna b jus frineds

[T.Dimera]

IF your both so religious, then you should know by now its haram to be dating!!!!!!!!

if its haram to date, they have kinda blown that out of the water...their doing a hell of a lot more then just dating:shock:

[RoMeO6969]

Lol, looks like this bitch took you for a ride? Anyone see the funny here? You broke up due to religious differences, so she went out with some white guy!? Seems like she just wanted a dose of vanilla before she settles down.
not only for religous reasons but also cuz she wanted to see what was out there

[RoMeO6969]

no no its finals time...last week of exams and if i pass everything i get my university degree but seeing as how well my calculus preparation is..im gonna get my degree in another 3 months! :no:
lol finals in august, and why are u not prepared for calculas and whta degree u getting

[T.Dimera]

Lol, looks like this bitch took you for a ride? Anyone see the funny here? You broke up due to religious differences, so she went out with some white guy!? Seems like she just wanted a dose of vanilla before she settles down.

haha we all are thinking the same thing....this Romeo guy is still very young when it comes to women...and when he grows older he'll understand...what a woman says and what a woman does are 2 completely different things

[banshod]

i think hes talking about 9 seconds of penetration

lol

[Echelon]

not only for religous reasons but also cuz she wanted to see what was out there

I.e. White cock.

Again, even though you're not the most handsomest bloke in the world and you're a shortie, I'm sure you can find a better looking oppressed desi girl to manipulate. There are plenty out there, even on this site, waiting in their little rooms for Romeo to whisk them away into the sunset.

You can do better than your girlfriend. She isn't very attractive, far from it, in fact, I liken her to the hunchback of Notre dame.

[AX Model]

if this is her, no homo, but you can do better

http://images.ratedesi.com/gallery/66083_1138300328.jpg

i think its about time, that you go explore white women.

[gooberloo]

lol finals in august, and why are u not prepared for calculas and whta degree u getting

i am not prepared because calculus is a retarded subject and im getting my BBA

[zarahomme]

if this is her, no homo, but you can do better

http://images.ratedesi.com/gallery/66083_1138300328.jpg

i think its about time, that you go explore white women.

lollerzzzz...tru said

[idonknw]

hehe thats exactly what i want, i have no siblings, i have a sick father and a mother who is strong but her health is slowing everyday. This girl is the one who puts a smile on my face every time i see her, i love her so damn much and shes the one i see myself with u no shes my soul mate

I think that religion is one's own personal belief, and that people should just respect each other with what they believe in. So, the main point here is that don't let religion/caste come into the way of your relationship. I know it can be a problem for the family maybe, but it can get better further down the road. If this is the girl that truly makes you happy, like you have mentioned that don't let it go just because of your own beliefs. Sometimes, you can't help it with who you end up 'falling' for, but when you do it's better to accept it, then regret it further down the road.
Good luck.