have you ever been in a relationship

[yeahwhat]

where you just can't decide on what you want? you weigh out the pros and cons about the relationship but you're still on the fence about whether you should stay or leave? How do you motivate yourself to make a decision and stick with it.

[MURDERTIME]

pity post

[di vinci]

nope

[addiction01]

Lol. Ah man you can never decide, and once you make the decision the other person just won't let it go. Once they're ready to give it up, you decide to think it over again.

[GBROS]

where you just can't decide on what you want? you weigh out the pros and cons about the relationship but you're still on the fence about whether you should stay or leave? How do you motivate yourself to make a decision and stick with it.

you just gotta let your instincts follow and make sure whatever decision you make, its for YOUR OWN best. ima be honest. in order to be successful you gotta do you and let people do them. be fresh off the surface from the word go and they wont be confused as to the type of person you are. holla! :cool:

[RacingSoul]

i wish i could give you serious advice on relationships...i really do.

[yeahwhat]

I didn't expect serious posts so it's ok. at least i got a couple

[**bambina**]

Hhmmm... you see, when I have to make a decisions as such, I completely let go of my emotions. I will be more logical and see if this is the right thing for me. (I know sounds selfish) I make up my mind and I stick to it. If need be, I will take a break from communicating with the person for awhile. I can easily block emotions and put a brick wall up and go on with my life. :-|

[creatinekid]

The way i figure it is, if you are questioning whether to stay or leave...then its not meant to be.

[(sic)]

dump him

[bingley13]

Hhmmm... you see, when I have to make a decisions as such, I completely let go of my emotions. I will be more logical and see if this is the right thing for me. (I know sounds selfish) I make up my mind and I stick to it. If need be, I will take a break from communicating with the person for awhile. I can easily block emotions and put a brick wall up and go on with my life. :-|
couldn't have said it better myself.

[desi_playa]

what's a relationship? is that kind of like paying someone to suck you off?

[imsocrazii]

Stay together

[vikvik12]

Now this just goes beyond my level of thinking and understanding.

[imsocrazii]

:d .

[yeahwhat]

Hhmmm... you see, when I have to make a decisions as such, I completely let go of my emotions. I will be more logical and see if this is the right thing for me. (I know sounds selfish) I make up my mind and I stick to it. If need be, I will take a break from communicating with the person for awhile. I can easily block emotions and put a brick wall up and go on with my life. :-|

I was always able to think logically and not let emotions get in the way of my rational mind but now i can't get past my feelings and do whats best for me

[Rogue]

if you're having to motivate yourself this way just to stay put and don't actually feel strongly enough about the person from within - i'd take that as a sign that ending it is the way to go instead of having it drag on. the latter will not accomplish anything.

[yeahwhat]

what's a relationship? is that kind of like paying someone to suck you off?

something like that

[Siesta]

Hhmmm... you see, when I have to make a decisions as such, I completely let go of my emotions. I will be more logical and see if this is the right thing for me. (I know sounds selfish) I make up my mind and I stick to it. If need be, I will take a break from communicating with the person for awhile. I can easily block emotions and put a brick wall up and go on with my life. :-|
good stuff

[yeahwhat]

if you're having to motivate yourself this way just to stay put and don't actually feel strongly enough about the person from within - i'd take that as a sign that ending it is the way to go instead of having it drag on. the latter will not accomplish anything.

staying is easy motivating myself to leave is the hard part.

[Rogue]

staying is easy motivating myself to leave is the hard part.

why are you considering the leaving part if staying is easy?

[**bambina**]

I was always able to think logically and not let emotions get in the way of my rational mind but now i can't get past my feelings and do whats best for me

Feelings are never right or wrong. They are just feelings. But one thing you can do is control them. I think you need to take a break from everything. Do things you really enjoy. Happiness comes at a price. Do whatever will make YOU happy now and tomorrow. Let yesturday's happiness be memories.

[jassika]

yes my 1st love was like that. i was so crazy bout him (maybe still am :Oops: ) but i didn't actually see a serious future with him but just love him so much i duno what i want him as. we confused each other and i think it was an unhealthy relationship. complicated shit

[Bullo]

If you have question yourself or the other person often and are confused about it... it ain't working and it won't. You might be able to find temporary solutions, but in the long run it won't.

[Bullo]

yes my 1st love was like that. i was so crazy bout him (maybe still am :Oops: ) but i didn't actually see a serious future with him but just love him so much i duno what i want him as. we confused each other and i think it was an unhealthy relationship. complicated shit

well thats dumb Jassika.

[**bambina**]

If you have question yourself or the other person often and are confused about it... it ain't working and it won't. You might be able to find temporary solutions, but in the long run it won't.

Agree.

[yeahwhat]

why are you considering the leaving part if staying is easy?

I don't see things working out for us in the future so i feel leaving now would prevent heartache in the future.

[AfgSpartacus]

where you just can't decide on what you want? you weigh out the pros and cons about the relationship but you're still on the fence about whether you should stay or leave? How do you motivate yourself to make a decision and stick with it.

Weigh out pros and cons about the relations? :shock:



And I thought relationships start from heart, not mind. :-|

[Bullo]

Agree.

you made me feel like Dr. Phil :lol:

[**bambina**]

you made me feel like Dr. Phil :lol:

Please tell me thats a good thing.......?

[samads porn star]

if you have to weigh out pros and cons then you shouldnt be in the relationship

[indesicive]

So long as the grass is greener on the other side, doubt you'll ever decide.

[Bullo]

Please tell me thats a good thing.......?

It is. :D

Thou the guy is a douche, but hes considered to be the relationship expert by mainstream media.

[AfgSpartacus]

if you have to weigh out pros and cons then you shouldnt be in the relationship

As I said.

:)

[**bambina**]

It is. :D

Thou the guy is a douche, but hes considered to be the relationship expert by mainstream media.

Lol. Its very easy to give advice but very hard to follow it.

Anyways, I am glad I make you feel good! :love:

[Bullo]

Lol. Its very easy to give advice but very hard to follow it.

Anyways, I am glad I make you feel good! :love:

No. I just wanted to get your attention and say Hello ;]

[**bambina**]

No. I just wanted to get your attention and say Hello ;]

You know, you will always have my attention. And theres many ways for you to get it. :Oops:

[fattygirl]

You have to consider what will become of the relationship in the long run; don't ignore your instincts.

[Bullo]

You know, you will always have my attention. And theres many ways for you to get it. :Oops:

:eyebrow:

[. :: a L i ::.]

where you just can't decide on what you want? you weigh out the pros and cons about the relationship but you're still on the fence about whether you should stay or leave? How do you motivate yourself to make a decision and stick with it.

if ur in a stage where ur not motivated enough then there is nothing left..u may aswell end it there..save ur time and his :Paper:

[**bambina**]

:eyebrow:

Its true. :Oops:

[fr00ti]

where you just can't decide on what you want? you weigh out the pros and cons about the relationship but you're still on the fence about whether you should stay or leave? How do you motivate yourself to make a decision and stick with it.

I live for the now, more than the future. I don't know what will happen. I can't prepare myself as to what will happen. Do I think about it? Yes, it's natural. Women think too much for their own good.

You can only make the decisions to life that you have control over. Something to do with love, is just hard. Heartaches are bound to happen with anyone you fall for.

Happiness doesn't always come through the door. Live it while you can.

[sarblohsinghz]

where you just can't decide on what you want? you weigh out the pros and cons about the relationship but you're still on the fence about whether you should stay or leave? How do you motivate yourself to make a decision and stick with it.

u cant decide wheter to stay or go :rofl:


its all about mind control, u either make that commitment and then not look back, or u can decide to open ur mind (and the legs) to any tom dick or harry :-| , u decide

[sarblohsinghz]

Hhmmm... you see, when I have to make a decisions as such, I completely let go of my emotions. I will be more logical and see if this is the right thing for me. (I know sounds selfish) I make up my mind and I stick to it. If need be, I will take a break from communicating with the person for awhile. I can easily block emotions and put a brick wall up and go on with my life. :-|

omg 4 real :love: , i do that too,

i duno if u read my thread, but i avoided this gal at work for over a week, completly forgot her and kept away from her, but then by chance i bump into her and shes smiling....
and i thought to my self, im single, she likes me and i do have serious feelings as well, so why not give it a go... and im not gonna look back. minds made up ;)

[jassika]

I don't see things working out for us in the future so i feel leaving now would prevent heartache in the future.

i believe it should be possible to stay friends as long as you can cool the feelings down and accept friendship better and as long as HE is a decent enough friend that wont end up pissing you off but if theres a chance that your feelings are gonna be too strong and he's gonna affect your mood then it's unhealthy to hold on.

[Cunard]

if you're having to motivate yourself this way just to stay put and don't actually feel strongly enough about the person from within - i'd take that as a sign that ending it is the way to go instead of having it drag on. the latter will not accomplish anything.

:werd:

[hakuna-matata]

If you got to go, go now

[hakuna-matata]

Ask yourself, do you love him or are you just extending good will? Do you need him half as bad as you say or are you just feeling guilt?

[uglyDuckling]

I wish I knew. I'm going through the same problem but still I'll tell you what I think is the best way.

If you strongly feel that this will not work out in the future then I usually talk to my partner about it. If we feel we can work it out then we try otherwise we just move on. That way it is mutual .. instead of deciding something yourself and having the other person deal with it.

[hakuna-matata]

I wish I knew. I'm going through the same problem but still I'll tell you what I think is the best way.

If you strongly feel that this will not work out in the future then I usually talk to my partner about it. If we feel we can work it out then we try otherwise we just move on. That way it is mutual .. instead of deciding something yourself and having the other person deal with it.

Hello

[uglyDuckling]

Hello

Hi there. What's up?

[hakuna-matata]

Hi there. What's up?

Not much. Going out tonight but I can't be arsed to get ready. What should I wear? I'm thinking

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[yeahwhat]

I wish I knew. I'm going through the same problem but still I'll tell you what I think is the best way.

If you strongly feel that this will not work out in the future then I usually talk to my partner about it. If we feel we can work it out then we try otherwise we just move on. That way it is mutual .. instead of deciding something yourself and having the other person deal with it.

If we break up it will be mutual. He's a couple years younger then me and doesn't want to settle down till later in life, I can see myself getting married in the next 3-4 years. It seems at some point or another will have to go our separate ways because our future goals just don't match up.

It's hard to break up with someone you shared a lot with and still really care about but it would also be a 100 times harder to break up later on.

[uglyDuckling]

Not much. Going out tonight but I can't be arsed to get ready. What should I wear? I'm thinking



Oo la la ... Take me with you? lol


It looks very nice.

[uglyDuckling]

If we break up it will be mutual. He's a couple years younger then me and doesn't want to settle down till later in life, I can see myself getting married in the next 3-4 years. It seems at some point or another will have to go our separate ways because our future goals just don't match up.

It's hard to break up with someone you shared a lot with and still really care about but it would also be a 100 times harder to break up later on.

It's hard but then you have to decide. If you are 100% sure you will breakup in future then better to do it now.

You'll meet someone great later on too and his goals will probably complement yours. So, don't worry about that. And yes, if you both breakup now you both will hurt but if you breakup later you will be hurt even then so I don't see what's stoping you. Just sit down with him and talk about it.

[Geezer]

where you just can't decide on what you want? you weigh out the pros and cons about the relationship but you're still on the fence about whether you should stay or leave? How do you motivate yourself to make a decision and stick with it.

It's the type of relationship where the person has the qualities that you enjoy in a partner but simply hasn't got the right umph-factor to keep you interested. You weigh up whether staying with that person will benefit you in the long run. You try to work things out but it just isn't meant to be. I was in a relationship like that and I let it go on for too long until it became a rather harsh break up.

[hakuna-matata]

Oo la la ... Take me with you? lol


It looks very nice.

It's a boys night out and even though I'm first going out to dinner, I'll be very hungry when I get home due to some other activities.

So mehh, I rather lock you up in my kitchen and command you to cook like 3 curries and 15 chapatis for me :razz:

[uglyDuckling]

It's a boys night out and even though I'm first going out to dinner, I'll be very hungry when I get home due to some other activities.

So mehh, I rather lock you up in my kitchen and command you to cook like 3 curries and 15 chapatis for me :razz:

:squint: What other activities?

And, like I said before ... I am not your wife :hand:

lol

[hakuna-matata]

:squint: What other activities?

And, like I said before ... I am not your wife :hand:

lol

lmao.

Well like you said, I'm not your husband, so I need not have to explain myself to you! :hand: lol

drinking ofcourse

[uglyDuckling]

lmao.

Well like you said, I'm not your husband, so I need not have to explain myself to you! :hand: lol

drinking ofcourse

Well, have fun and hope you get laid .... erm ...

okay bye for now!

[hakuna-matata]

Well, have fun and hope you get laid .... erm ...

okay bye for now!

lol. hey that's not what all of us go out for. if it happens, it happens.

anyways I also need to go.
xx

[AX Model]

where you just can't decide on what you want? you weigh out the pros and cons about the relationship but you're still on the fence about whether you should stay or leave? How do you motivate yourself to make a decision and stick with it.

go with instinct. if your stuck in a situation where your even debating your relationship, then your basically losing faith in it, in one manner or the other.

It's best to just move on and be single for a bit, instead of forcing things to appear one way, when in all reality they aren't.

[zarahomme]

where you just can't decide on what you want? you weigh out the pros and cons about the relationship but you're still on the fence about whether you should stay or leave? How do you motivate yourself to make a decision and stick with it.

put paper bag on it