arranged marriages?

[Barbiedawl]

yeah so we're all desi here, well mostly, right? so we know the whole deal with arranged marriages, what do you guys think of em?

my parents have kind of been trying to get me hitched with this one guy...yeah and i really don't like it, and i don't want to disrespect my parents but i really think that marriage is supposed to be from love, and i know eventually in arranged marriages ppl end up falling in love...but idk

...
so what ya'll think?

[house-fly]

love after marriage is better:D

[Siddy3242]

just say no, if y'all dun like the guy
if ur rents luv ya, which is natural they wud.......they'd respect ur opinion..

[Siddy3242]

love after marriage is better:D

you crazy crazy cracker:no:

[*BROWN3Y3Z*]

well im not desi
but i think its kinda dumb
how u gonna commit to someone u dont like
i mean if u like the person its cool but if u dont
how u gonna live the rest of ur life.

[house-fly]

you crazy crazy cracker:no:
:rofl:

[(sic)]

wtf why you disrespecting your parents? haraam! do them a favour and marry the guy. hanukkah!

[SaMeeeeR]

yeah so we're all desi here, well mostly, right? so we know the whole deal with arranged marriages, what do you guys think of em?

my parents have kind of been trying to get me hitched with this one guy...yeah and i really don't like it, and i don't want to disrespect my parents but i really think that marriage is supposed to be from love, and i know eventually in arranged marriages ppl end up falling in love...but idk

...
so what ya'll think?

so Shud i send ma parents over to ur place ?:wavey:

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

if you dont like the guy then dont go ahead with it.

simple as that, why get into something that you are not comfortable with

[Hands]

yeah so we're all desi here, well mostly, right? so we know the whole deal with arranged marriages, what do you guys think of em?

my parents have kind of been trying to get me hitched with this one guy...yeah and i really don't like it, and i don't want to disrespect my parents but i really think that marriage is supposed to be from love, and i know eventually in arranged marriages ppl end up falling in love...but idk

...
so what ya'll think?
if u know all this then tell em to stfu or u stfu

[Rcade]

well im not desi
but i think its kinda dumb
how u gonna commit to someone u dont like
i mean if u like the person its cool but if u dont
how u gonna live the rest of ur life.

i dont think most arrange mrrgs today are forced ...... it's more like your parents introduce you to someone and you see if you like them and go from there

true arrange mrrg is one where the girl/guy don't have any say, and their parents get them married...i dont think ppl do that esp. in west

[Siddy3242]

so Shud i send ma parents over to ur place ?:wavey:

playa in d house........

[*BROWN3Y3Z*]

i dont think most arrange mrrgs today are forced ...... it's more like your parents introduce you to someone and you see if you like them and go from there

true arrange mrrg is one where the girl/guy don't have any say, and their parents get them married...i dont think ppl do that esp. in west

thats wat im tellin her its different if they make u without knowing..but if u meet the person and u like then its ok to get married

[Romana]

The whole idea of getting married is bullshit... :no:

Living in without getting married :cheers:

[Hands]

i hope its your cuzin

[Rcade]

thats wat im tellin her its different if they make u without knowing..but if u meet the person and u like then its ok to get married

she can't say no because she feels shes disrespecting her parents....you gotta live your life not ur parents...SAY NO!!

[Janq]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arranged_marriage

Positive points:
*The parents of the wealthy man may feel secure knowing that their son is to marry a person of their own country and traditional culture rather a woman corrupted by Western influences.

*The parents of the bride hope that their daughter enjoys a higher standard of living.

*Couples and their parents need not have to cope up with differing cultural and social backgrounds

[*BROWN3Y3Z*]

she can't say no because she feels shes disrespecting her parents....you gotta live your life not ur parents...SAY NO!!

im glad im not desi..no arranged marriages for me lol
though back in the day it was kinda like that..the father would find a good gentlemen with good class to marry the daughter even if she didnt want too

[jat_jatt_sardar]

just say no, i am sure they can find u another man

[ssjasper2003]

Are you going to give in soon?

[Rcade]

im glad im not desi..no arranged marriages for me lol
though back in the day it was kinda like that..the father would find a good gentlemen with good class to marry the daughter even if she didnt want too

i'm indifferent to it, as long as it's not forced.....if my prnts find someone for me i wouldn't mind considering

your not desi? then what are you ...latina messican

[ArTmALik]

love after marriage is better:D

Word;)

[*BROWN3Y3Z*]

i'm indifferent to it, as long as it's not forced.....if my prnts find someone for me i wouldn't mind considering

your not desi? then what are you ...latina messican

yea thats good

no not desi...mostly everyone knows by now im messican girl lol

[piñacolada<3]

im gona have 50% love and 50% arranged
lol
im gona get married to a guy that ive understanding with and love and someone who my parents can accept too!

my parents dont believe in arranged marriages

[jat_jatt_sardar]

im gona have 50% love and 50% arranged

yeh i might have somethin like that lol

[Rcade]

im gona have 50% love and 50% arranged
lol
im gona get married to a guy that ive understanding with and love and someone who my parents can accept too!

my parents dont believe in arranged marriages

i bet ur parents were arranged

[Rcade]

yea thats good

no not desi...mostly everyone knows by now im messican girl lol

i dont know whats going on here all the time...i dont frequent this site ...only when im procrastinating ... when i should be studying, like right now

[*BROWN3Y3Z*]

i dont know whats going on here all the time...i dont frequent this site ...only when im procrastinating ... when i should be studying, like right now

lol then get out n study

[americanmohit]

arrange marriage is :gay:

[piñacolada<3]

i bet ur parents were arranged

nope 50\50

[Rcade]

lol then get out n study

i will in 5 mins...appreciate the concern :salut:

[jat_jatt_sardar]

nope 50\50
60/40????

[Rcade]

nope 50\50

wth is 50/50? :sarb:

[*BROWN3Y3Z*]

i will in 5 mins...appreciate the concern :salut:

you better

[piñacolada<3]

wth is 50/50? :sarb:

refer to post 24

[Rcade]

you better

of course i will, o/w i will faillll

[*BROWN3Y3Z*]

of course i will, o/w i will faillll

wat u gonna study?

[Rcade]

refer to post 24

lol...thats not arranged...ppl use this word loosely...arranged is when parents get you hitched without any say from you....wat is 50% of that mean? lol

but i get what your saying

[Rcade]

wat u gonna study?

pathology

[piñacolada<3]

lol...thats not arranged...ppl use this word loosely...arranged is when parents get you hitched without any say from you....wat is 50% of that mean? lol

but i get what your saying

well if you mean strict arranged marriages then my family hasnt had the tradition for almost 3 generations now!
i mean that like if i like a guy n i introduce him to my parents n u know if my parents like him and etc then we get married that ways i am happy and my parents are happy too! (lol thats my 50/50!)

[Rcade]

well if you mean strict arranged marriages then my family hasnt had the tradition for almost 3 generations now!
i mean that like if i like a guy n i introduce him to my parents n u know if my parents like him and etc then we get married that ways i am happy and my parents are happy too! (lol thats my 50/50!)

50/50 is a funny way to put it...thats just regular marrge with your parents consent

but sounds good .. gluck with that

[jat_jatt_sardar]

lol...thats not arranged...ppl use this word loosely...arranged is when parents get you hitched without any say from you....wat is 50% of that mean? lol

but i get what your saying

no that is "forced" arranged marriage

[Rcade]

no that is "forced" arranged marriage

that is what traditional arranged marriages were like..i don't know if they still do them anymore...but in older days ppl didn't have any say esp. the girl

[in*no*sense]

lol...thats not arranged...ppl use this word loosely...arranged is when parents get you hitched without any say from you....wat is 50% of that mean? lol

but i get what your saying

lol.

that's not the concept of "arranged" marriages, that's more like a forced marriage that you have described.

arranged marriages are when your parents find prospective partners for you. you do get to have a say!

[in*no*sense]

no that is "forced" arranged marriage


you beat me to it. :P

[paki_guy786]

The whole idea of getting married is bullshit... :no:

Living in without getting married :cheers:


:werd:

[in*no*sense]

that is what traditional arranged marriages were like..i don't know if they still do them anymore...but in older days ppl didn't have any say esp. the girl

unfortunately, it still does exist in this day and age.

[Rcade]

im talking about traditional arranged marrgesl....ppl use this word loosely, arranged mrrges today are more like ur parent introducing you to someone and you deciding if you want to take it further....that's not what traditionally arranged mrrgs are like or were like...that;s all i was pointing out....just clearing up semantics ppl

[jat_jatt_sardar]

that is what traditional arranged marriages were like..i don't know if they still do them anymore...but in older days ppl didn't have any say esp. the girl

yeh in older days it was just taken as normal and done and dusted :D

[jat_jatt_sardar]

you beat me to it. :P
:-P

[paki_guy786]

i think love and marriage threads are becoming popular.

[badfish]

yeah so we're all desi here, well mostly, right? so we know the whole deal with arranged marriages, what do you guys think of em?

my parents have kind of been trying to get me hitched with this one guy...yeah and i really don't like it, and i don't want to disrespect my parents but i really think that marriage is supposed to be from love, and i know eventually in arranged marriages ppl end up falling in love...but idk

...
so what ya'll think?
i'm deleting you from my friends list, pushover.


:P

[in*no*sense]

i think love and marriage threads are becoming popular.

it's just a part of some ppls lives..

[vgirl]

well if your parents are keen on it, theres always the option of meeting the guy and getting to know him, i.e. talking on the phone, meeting on occasion etc before you decide anything. this is the direction more arranged marriages are heading in. you get to know the guy, see if you like him and possibly can fall for him, you might even fall for him whilst talking etc, then after some time, get engaged, have a reasonably long engagement before marriage. that way you can still love the person before getting married, and you will be marrying someone you know and trust

[ancient_warrior]

Fucck marriage. Bitches are too moody as it is and to live with them for a lifetime is truly a turture :ugh:
Be happy that U are girl marrying a guy. Atleast U are not marrying a nagging bitch :rofl:

Oh yeah fuck love. Love is for fucckin pussies.

[paki_guy786]

Fucck marriage. Bitches are too moody as it is and to live with them for a lifetime is truly a turture :ugh:
Be happy that U are girl marrying a guy. Atleast U are not marrying a nagging bitch :rofl:

Oh yeah fuck love. Love is for fucckin pussies.

:werd:

[SS424]

in the desi world= first comes marriage, then comes love.

[Siddy3242]

Fucck marriage. Bitches are too moody as it is and to live with them for a lifetime is truly a turture :ugh:
Be happy that U are girl marrying a guy. Atleast U are not marrying a nagging bitch :rofl:

Oh yeah fuck love. Love is for fucckin pussies.

:werd:

[*BROWN3Y3Z*]

pathology

oh i c

[Pompeii]

My post in another thread.

I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with them as long those involved have the final say in the matter. Today the perception of arranged marriages is influenced by misinformation which is blow out of proportion by most including those in the media. Yes there are cases were people are forced to marry someone but a forced and arranged marriages, in my opinion, have to be distingused as they involve completely different set of factors.

If somebody doesn't find their ideal match through their own initiative, because they were too busy with their career, education or just down right lazy, an arranged marriage could certainly be the answer to their singularity.

Would I have one? I don't know if I'm single by 28 and my mom had someone in mind at that time and perhaps asked what I thought I wouldn't hesitate in going along and meeting that person and their family. However, since the age of 15 I've only been single for six weeks at maximum, so I don't think I'm personally going to need it.

[¤ * HoneY * ¤]

the guy i love thinks its haram to love before marriage.... sayin i love you is haram etc... my whole world was built aroundlove like ve always thaught te one i love wud propose me in the front ov the eiffel tower etc lol ...

[¤ * HoneY * ¤]

in the desi world= first comes marriage, then comes love.

ahhhh wrong! maybe its like dat in your house, my mom doesnt beleive in arranged marriage..

[jat_jatt_sardar]

in the desi world= first comes marriage, then comes love.
These days alot of desi guys r able to take advantage of desi girls cos they believe in too much love be4 marriage 1st. lol

Then unfortunately the guys don;t marry them and move on.

[kameeni]

yeah so we're all desi here, well mostly, right? so we know the whole deal with arranged marriages, what do you guys think of em?

my parents have kind of been trying to get me hitched with this one guy...yeah and i really don't like it, and i don't want to disrespect my parents but i really think that marriage is supposed to be from love, and i know eventually in arranged marriages ppl end up falling in love...but idk

...
so what ya'll think?

For some reason, I jus get annoyed ... I don't want to disrespect my folks either, but I jus get really annoyed.

[desichick_usa]

I wouldnt Mind :-)

I think love grows after living under 1 roof together.

[Hands]

I wouldnt Mind :-)

I think love grows after living under 1 roof together.
yeah me and my cuzin been married 3 years now, i still hate the bitch

[Mr_Mention]

hmmmm

[Punjabi_Link]

I'll never let my parents choose who I should get married to.

[SexyTemptress]

yeah me and my cuzin been married 3 years now, i still hate the bitch


are you joking?

anywho i think it depends on the person. its right for some and not for others

[*desi_girl*]

yeah so we're all desi here, well mostly, right? so we know the whole deal with arranged marriages, what do you guys think of em?

my parents have kind of been trying to get me hitched with this one guy...yeah and i really don't like it, and i don't want to disrespect my parents but i really think that marriage is supposed to be from love, and i know eventually in arranged marriages ppl end up falling in love...but idk

...
so what ya'll think?



Depends.

[addiction01]

Seeing that my relationship is pretty much down the drain, and I knew that's where it was headed, I think I'm just going to wait it out and let my parents pick now. I really have no energy left to do the whole thing over again.

[americanmohit]

The whole idea of getting married is bullshit... :no:

Living in without getting married :cheers:

you are retard

[Siddy3242]

yeah me and my cuzin been married 3 years now, i still hate the bitch

hands stop cheating on wonka

[limpfaraz]

an interesting article on arranged marriages...written by my sis

http://www.hindu.com/mag/2008/04/13/stories/2008041350040200.htm

[desicandyshop]

tell em you need some time to think/like someone....and you dont like the guy they are pushing your towards

[ajcrunk]

yeah so we're all desi here, well mostly, right? so we know the whole deal with arranged marriages, what do you guys think of em?

my parents have kind of been trying to get me hitched with this one guy...yeah and i really don't like it, and i don't want to disrespect my parents but i really think that marriage is supposed to be from love, and i know eventually in arranged marriages ppl end up falling in love...but idk

...
so what ya'll think?


i tried that love thing...it didn't work out too good, i got bored with the girl aftee several years cz i talked to her so much. I think you should give it a chance, I'm going with arranged thing, well may be after 6 months of dating the grils but try it.

[ancient_warrior]

Till Death do U apart :rofl:

[ajcrunk]

Till Death do U apart :rofl:

right

[ancient_warrior]

right

Shutup newb :ugh:

[ajcrunk]

Shutup newb :ugh:

make me

[ancient_warrior]

make me

:bash:

[Presence]

Arranged marriages work better then love marriage.

Love is an emotion, emotions get worn out, it's like buying a new pair of shoes, you love them after a week or so.


...but then there's THAT OTHER type of love...That grows and grows and grows...it's not needy, it's more human...

family and income are important when it comes to marriage. make sure he has a good family and good income.

[ajcrunk]

Arranged marriages work better then love marriage.

Love is an emotion, emotions get worn out, it's like buying a new pair of shoes, you love them after a week or so.


...but then there's THAT OTHER type of love...That grows and grows and grows...it's not needy, it's more human...

family and income are important when it comes to marriage. make sure he has a good family and good income.

ur right, im going arranged

[bonita_larki]

I dont really understand how arranged marriages work? Is there some dating going on before a wedding is decided or do you all met the guy only when your family is around?

[dutsqg]

yeah so we're all desi here, well mostly, right? so we know the whole deal with arranged marriages, what do you guys think of em?

my parents have kind of been trying to get me hitched with this one guy...yeah and i really don't like it, and i don't want to disrespect my parents but i really think that marriage is supposed to be from love, and i know eventually in arranged marriages ppl end up falling in love...but idk

...
so what ya'll think?

If the girl is bangin than arranged marriage can be great

[SarcasmicBengali]

up to the intro part is fine.

but i'm against anything that removes free will and choice from any decision.
plus also against making personal decisions based on the considerations and thoughts of others.

[jat_jatt_sardar]

I dont really understand how arranged marriages work? Is there some dating going on before a wedding is decided or do you all met the guy only when your family is around?

I think these days they let them get to know each other outside as well.

[ajcrunk]

I dont really understand how arranged marriages work? Is there some dating going on before a wedding is decided or do you all met the guy only when your family is around?

nowadays the girl and guy's parents introduce them to each other and the guy and girl talk to each other like several months before they decide to get married

[Presence]

I dont really understand how arranged marriages work? Is there some dating going on before a wedding is decided or do you all met the guy only when your family is around?

love works well in dating, dating is fun for the short term, but very very fucked up for them long term if you can actually see it. What's your background?

[bonita_larki]

love works well in dating, dating is fun for the short term, but very very fucked up for them long term if you can actually see it. What's your background?

pakistani

[memories_fade]

Now days u gotta attach ur CV with ur photo and your Brothers n sisters cv's
so rents can see the persons background.
but arranged marrages are kinda like ebay
highest bidder always wins
dnt matter if ur fugly

[Dream_GirL]

not if it ends up like dis.. my heart wud sink into my stomach :no:

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[jat_jatt_sardar]

love works well in dating, dating is fun for the short term, but very very fucked up for them long term if you can actually see it. What's your background?
dating is nice with liberal girls LOL, its not really good for marriage

[kaseem]

yeah so we're all desi here, well mostly, right? so we know the whole deal with arranged marriages, what do you guys think of em?

my parents have kind of been trying to get me hitched with this one guy...yeah and i really don't like it, and i don't want to disrespect my parents but i really think that marriage is supposed to be from love, and i know eventually in arranged marriages ppl end up falling in love...but idk

...
so what ya'll think?


arranged marriages are the way to go.. listen to your parents bitchs try to detach you from parents and guys wanna hit that pussy before marriage and wanna marry somethin else

[TYPE_R_GINO]

love marriage for me....

just like my parents, my sister and my brother did