Cheating on your wife...........

[SillyKitty]

wat u think? can you do it? well my dad never cheated on my mom.. so for me, that is the norm.

Can a guy's guy really stay faithful to one woman for 23 years? With a parade of daily temptations? And his friends egging him on? Apparently it's a tough job

I want to tell you a secret. It's something I'm deeply proud of yet also ashamed of. It's about being a man and about being less of one. It defines who I am while it defies who I am. It's a dichotomy that's difficult for even me to understand.

How I feel about this secret depends on who I'm with. Alone, or with my wife and family, I feel pride. But with other men--coworkers, drinking buddies--I'm often embarrassed. Even though it's been 23 years, I've never admitted this to anyone--not even my wife. Then again, I'm sure she's never seriously doubted me and will not be surprised by what I confess.

My secret is that for almost a quarter century, I've been faithful. Although I've lusted after many women, I've never slept with one, or left even a lingering kiss on a pair of expectant lips.

I am successful. I am fit. I have money. I dress well and no, I am not ugly. Yes, I've had opportunities. Yet...

That's me you've seen in those sports-bar crowds, clinking pint glasses and clapping shoulders at sexual innuendo. That's me you've overheard commenting on the sassy new intern. Yes, I think about it. Yet...

Those surveys that reveal how many husbands cheat on their wives (and vice versa), I've considered them all. I've been tempted by the idea that monogamy is outdated. Yet...

And of course there's the blandness of the long-term relationship. It's seeing her in sweats scrubbing the toilet. It's running out of things to say over dinner. It's making love in the same position in the same room at the same time year after year. I crave excitement and variety. Yet...

...I've never cheated. And I haven't admitted it because, well, men typically don't do that. No matter how sensitive we'd like you to believe we've become, our brother-cliques still rely on bravado and conquest for acceptance. The minute we confess to not being on the chase, to turning our backs on our genetic drive to procreate, our gorilla chests start to shrink. It may sound small-minded, but that's the way it is, at least in my world.

[cococrisp]

:drama:....

[BadFingerBoogie]

:ughJit:.

[Hands]

no, men are only as faithful as their options, if u marry an ugly man he'll be faithful

[Hands]

no, men are only as faithful as their options, if u marry an ugly man he'll be faithful
QFT

[SillyKitty]

:drama:....

lol i thought it was a good read.

heres the link
http://body.aol.com/healthy-living/relationships/cheating-on-your-wife?icid=100214839x1200705670x1200027398

[Romana]

My husband knows what he's gona get for not being faithful.. so I ain't worried :hand:

[SexyTemptress]

no, men are only as faithful as their options, if u marry an ugly man he'll be faithful

ugly men can be unfaithful also. a lot of women go for guys less attractive than they are.

[Hands]

ugly men can be unfaithful also. a lot of women go for guys less attractive than they are.
lies all lies

[Siddy3242]

no, men are only as faithful as their options, if u marry an ugly man he'll be faithful

:werd:

[Guddia]

good read

so sad how guys mentality works

for us ladies, it’s the other way around...

[Romana]

ugly men can be unfaithful also. a lot of women go for guys less attractive than they are.

Those are the women who ''think'' they are hot

[PRCIV]

My husband knows what he's gona get for not being faithful.. so I ain't worried :hand:

what exactly ?

[Irreligious Left]

My husband knows what he's gona get for not being faithful.. so I ain't worried :hand:


You gonna cut off his dick, tuff girl?

[Hands]

You gonna cut off his dick, tuff girl?
:Ohno: evil psycho bitch :ugh:

[jardras]

You gonna cut off his dick, tuff girl?

No shes going to open her mouth

[Guddia]

I think part of me would die if I ever found out my life partner was cheating on me...

it kills me to even think about it...

[snak3]

I think part of me would die if I ever found out my life partner was cheating on me...

it kills me to even think about it...


awwwww......

[Guddia]

awwwww......

OMG SUNNYYYY

Hi!!!!!

how are ya?

kha thay?

[snak3]

OMG SUNNYYYY

Hi!!!!!

how are ya?

kha thay?


janam mey lol.......i dunno...last i checked i had a life albeit a sucky one

how are you? :D

[Guddia]

janam mey lol.......i dunno...last i checked i had a life albeit a sucky one

how are you? :D

I hate when you say that

I feel like I don't have a life :p

I'm doing well...

my sis had her baby :love:

our yeha kab aarahe ho janab?

[snak3]

I hate when you say that

I feel like I don't have a life :p

I'm doing well...

my sis had her baby :love:

our yeha kab aarahe ho janab?



oh ho...kiyoon magar? lol....ahhh thats good to hear...congrats to your sister and ummmm.....i have no idea lol....i'd rather go to the uk as i have somebody special there haha

[jumpn jza]

Depends on the incentives to cheat...we all work on incentives.

[sheenaz89]

From an article:

Can a guy's guy really stay faithful to one woman for 23 years? With a parade of daily temptations? And his friends egging him on? Apparently it's a tough job

.

No one can pressure anyone into cheating its a personal decision. yeah there are circumstances where friends and people around you may pressure you into doing something but its on you to take it or leave it.

and yes its hard to be faithful to the person youve been with for so long and even the person u've been with for 1 month but only cowards cheat instead of backing off a relationship like a real MAN/ WOMAN.

If you're in a relationship theres going to be gorgeous women and men in the world and around you all the time and looking at those people is OKAY and NAtural everyone does it...but in my opinion because there are relationship where there is alot of control and jealousy people tend to hide things from their partners and do things behind their back which leads into cheating... lol im smart

[desi_shawrty]

I think part of me would die if I ever found out my life partner was cheating on me...

it kills me to even think about it...

aww
Hopefully he never will

I really wouldn't care. Well i would care and would be upset about it but it really wouldn't keep me down for too long. He cheats then w/e he cheats and there will be more to life beyond him. I wouldn't start hating him for it either and cut off all ties... probably get a divorce if we're married at the time or break up.
...


Anyways many men can stay in relationships. Although in alot of cases guys might really be into a girl and want to be with her but still go after other girls but the girl they're with is the one they want to come home to and care the most for. It's really an asshole thing to do for them but i still think a lot of men can be faithful. For someone to say that girls are more likely to stay faithful isn't right either.

[sheenaz89]

I think part of me would die if I ever found out my life partner was cheating on me...

it kills me to even think about it...

never let the sparks die between you and your partner always keep it up and going. that doesnt mean physically but mentally also if you wana do both lol

[sheenaz89]

reminds me....cheating on ur bf/gf is totally diff from cheating on wife and husband! thats soooo wrong of ppl to do such things espically if married

[Hands]

I've been engaged to this girl in Pakistan for 9 years and she's my first cousin. I agreed to get engaged to her and it was all my idea as I really liked her at the time, even though I had just turned 17. My parents weren't too keen on the idea but I insisted on the engagement.
So after 9 years of being engaged, my family and I decided it was time I got married. My parents even asked me if I was still sure and whether I wanted to go ahead with it and I said yes.
So my parents went away to Pakistan to make the wedding arrangements and whilst they were gone I met this Pakistani kuri who lives locally and we went out on a couple of dates, first to a bar and then to a restaurant. Each date lasted only an hour or so.
Anyway, I told this girl here that I'm going to Pakistan but I didn't tell her I was going there to get married because I thought she might turn around and tell me to fuck off.
I was going to Pakistan with my elder brother who I can discuss anything with and whilst we were at the airport I told him about this girl I met here. I told him I was having second thoughts about getting married to my cousin in Pakistan but he said it was too late as my parents had already been in Pakistan for 2 weeks and all the arrangements had been made.
Also, whilst I was at the Airport, I was continuously on the phone to the girl I met here and was telling her I'm going away for just a holiday.
When I got to Pakistan, again I was continuously on the phone to the girl in England. On the day of the Mehndi I decided to tell the girl that I was getting married. She pleaded with me not to get married and insisted that if I came back to England tomorrow then she would marry me the same day.
I really liked this girl in the UK the minute I met her but didn't think she liked me that much, after all we had only met each other twice and been on just 2 dates.
I told her I couldn't cancel the wedding as my parents had made all the arrangements and all the guests and relatives had arrived. I even spoke to my mum and she also said it was too late and that it would be too much besti if I pulled out now. After all my cousin had waited 9 years for me and her parents were so happy to see me after 9 years. I decided to get married.
After the marriage I was still in touch with the girl from here via phone and she was unhappy that I didn't tell here I was going to get married. We chatted to each other every day and my wife was getting a bit suspicious. The UK girl said she wanted to meet me when I got back and so we arranged to go out for a night somewhere.
When I got back to the UK I met up with her and we went and stayed in a hotel for the night and things happened there. My wife is still in Pakistan waiting for her Visa. I told my parents that I want to get out of this marriage and be with the girl I met here but they got very upset and very angry and insisted that if I leave my cousin now then I'll also have to leave my parents' house. My mum was in tears and my elder brother found out what I wanted to do and he also got angry and he said that I have to stay with the wife for at least 6 months and see what happens from there because if the wife doesn't get to come here then again it will be a lot of besti on our family and on the wife's family in Pakistan.
The problem is I have feelings for the girl here and I know she likes me a lot but she insists that if my wife ever steps foot in this country then she'll never speak to me or see me again.
I still see the girl here every day and I know it's wrong but I have true feelings for her. She's on the same wavelength as me and we get on really well.
I'm in a sticky situation here and would appreciate any advice on what I should do from you people. Thanks and have fun and stay happy

[NinjaPanther]

http://nataliedee.com/042108/makin-koolaid.jpg

[jaanvar]

http://nataliedee.com/042108/makin-koolaid.jpg
that is quality..haha

[sheenaz89]

I've been engaged to this girl in Pakistan for 9
I'm in a sticky situation here and would appreciate any advice on what I should do from you people. Thanks and have fun and stay happy

for starters you can maybe tell ur cousin the truth. not on the phone or email...but ehh if any possibilities together in person and just let her know everything instead of hiding it from her and doing it behind her back...

[Irreligious Left]

never let the sparks die between you and your partner always keep it up and going. that doesnt mean physically but mentally also if you wana do both lol

damn, baby. you got some hatas.

[sheenaz89]

damn, baby. you got some hatas.

im loved

[Hands]

for starters you can maybe tell ur cousin the truth. not on the phone or email...but ehh if any possibilities together in person and just let her know everything instead of hiding it from her and doing it behind her back...
im scared, didnt u read it all, i poured my heart out and u read the first two lines :no:

[ssjasper2003]

My dad has cheated not sure how many though.

Not sure, depends on who im married to.

[sheenaz89]

im scared, didnt u read it all, i poured my heart out and u read the first two lines :no:

i did read the whole thing crazy but i didnt want to quote it all...

and you didnt tell ur wife...instead ur leading her on...you dont have to make her ur enemy sometimes you dont have to know a person for years to love them...it can take 1 time to fall for someone JUST LIKE THAT! and not letting ur wife know whats going on with you will hurt not only you and her but everyone else in the long run...so you should get face to face with your wife and tell her the truth...its hard and their could be worst of the worst that can happen between you two but atleast you wont commit any more sins...

and the girl that your talking to...you might not even be in love with her...but dating her made you realize that you might not be ready for marriage yet and want to seek relationships with other people right now...(just a thought)

[Siddy3242]

cheating?
never..............:no:

[sheenaz89]

oh ya sorry...forgot...and what you just wrote its scary to thing of the possibilties and things that can go wrong...plus not to mention drama and family respect from everyone.. but you have to thing about what you want and what will make you happy..ur the one who has to live ur life. you already cheated and once you cheat you will do it again once ur wife gets her visa.

[Hands]

i did read the whole thing crazy but i didnt want to quote it all...

and you didnt tell ur wife...instead ur leading her on...you dont have to make her ur enemy sometimes you dont have to know a person for years to love them...it can take 1 time to fall for someone JUST LIKE THAT! and not letting ur wife know whats going on with you will hurt not only you and her but everyone else in the long run...so you should get face to face with your wife and tell her the truth...its hard and their could be worst of the worst that can happen between you two but atleast you wont commit any more sins...

and the girl that your talking to...you might not even be in love with her...but dating her made you realize that you might not be ready for marriage yet and want to seek relationships with other people right now...(just a thought)
ok i just copy pasted that from a different thread, not my situation, but hey atleast your not a heartless bitch :salut:

[sheenaz89]

ok i just copy pasted that from a different thread, not my situation, but hey atleast your not a heartless bitch :salut:

errrrrrrrrr you fken slut you wasted my advise

[Hands]

errrrrrrrrr you fken slut you wasted my advise
:lol: it was nice to read it, i made note and il use it in future if ever i need it, thank you

[sheenaz89]

:lol: it was nice to read it, i made note and il use it in future if ever i need it, thank you

lolll i was about to ask you if that was a girl in ur sig lolz but i read ur comment before that lol

[Hands]

lolll i was about to ask you if that was a girl in ur sig lolz but i read ur comment before that lol
lol, no this gurl is speshal :love:

[sheenaz89]

lol, no this gurl is speshal :love:

sister lol

[sheenaz89]

you know that was ur story lollllll

[Hands]

sister lol
:ugh: fuck no, thats disgusting :hand:

[Hands]

you know that was ur story lollllll
so was not, it was magpies thread, its called marriage advice needed or some shit, lol

[sheenaz89]

so was not, it was magpies thread, its called marriage advice needed or some shit, lol

h mmmmm

[Hands]

for real niqqa

[Hands]

http://forums.ratedesi.com/showthread.php?t=260028

i aint no cuzin marrying scum

[PRCIV]

most married men I know at work and socially cheat on their wives...

[Hands]

most married men I know at work and socially cheat on their wives...
its the way forward :yes:

[PRCIV]

its the way forward :yes:

lol what the wives don't know can't hurt 'em right...

[Hands]

lol what the wives don't know can't hurt 'em right...
exactly and when the cat is away the mice will play, men are only as faithful as their options :yes:

[SillyKitty]

for starters you can maybe tell ur cousin the truth. not on the phone or email...but ehh if any possibilities together in person and just let her know everything instead of hiding it from her and doing it behind her back...

Hmm you sound like a reasonable person.. never seen you here before..
i am saira btw..

[SillyKitty]

http://forums.ratedesi.com/showthread.php?t=260028

i aint no cuzin marrying scum

LOL :lol: i was gonna tell her that ur messin with her

[Hands]

LOL :lol: i was gonna tell her that ur messin with her
:lol: i dont think she believes me :|

[SillyKitty]

most married men I know at work and socially cheat on their wives...

thats why my man aint allowed to go out :evil_lau:

[Hands]

thats why my man aint allowed to go out :evil_lau:
evil woman, i bet he be out macking when you be at work :yes:

[SillyKitty]

:lol: i dont think she believes me :|

:lol: i was gonna say you are a boy..

well who can blame her, most of the forums are different from RD, they go to discuss their personal problems.

and in RD people like to joke around and mess around.. and post about who hates who etc.

[SillyKitty]

evil woman, i bet he be out macking when you be at work :yes:

no way :hand:

[SillyKitty]

exactly and when the cat is away the mice will play, men are only as faithful as their options :yes:

are you for real? thats why i keep my man on the most tightest leash ever.. :evil_lau:

[sheenaz89]

are you for real? thats why i keep my man on the most tightest leash ever.. :evil_lau:

jealousyyy....ahhhhhhh it will take you down sooooo fasttt you wont even know it...

[XxXanamikaXxX]

I really wouldn't care. Well i would care and would be upset about it but it really wouldn't keep me down for too long. He cheats then w/e he cheats and there will be more to life beyond him. I wouldn't start hating him for it either and cut off all ties... probably get a divorce if we're married at the time or break up.



:ugh: u'll probably to go cheat on him before he does.

[Hands]

:lol: i was gonna say you are a boy..

well who can blame her, most of the forums are different from RD, they go to discuss their personal problems.

and in RD people like to joke around and mess around.. and post about who hates who etc.
yeah RD is a bit of a battle free for all with everybody trying to get one over each other, like india :love: place is madness, but entertaining as hell

no way :hand:
u never know, what you dont know wont hurt you, no what im sayin
are you for real? thats why i keep my man on the most tightest leash ever.. :evil_lau:
dont opress the poor man, u sound like a muslim husband :no:

[Hands]

jealousyyy....ahhhhhhh it will take you down sooooo fasttt you wont even know it...
cos sharing is caring right :cool:

[sheenaz89]

i like relationships where theres friends going out having fun...No leash controlling name calling and all that stuff....

[sheenaz89]

cos sharing is caring right :cool:

no one wants to share w u

[Hands]

no one wants to share w u
hah but no

[jaanvar]

:ugh: u'll probably to go cheat on him before he does.
:rofl:

[sheenaz89]

hah but no

HANDS GOING ONCE>>>TWICE>>>>SOLD = FREE

[DasJa]

I for my part, would say that i'm prolly to lazy to cheat on my wife. Coz cheating, hiding from the misses, all that takes work, planning etc. Fuck that! A lotta the times men cheat is because the woman keep them on a leash...so when they do get a chance...it's a mini-rebellion against the authority. lol..

[paki_guy786]

well people shouldn't be getting into relationship cause if they can't be faithful to there partner then whats the point of getting in a relationship.

[sheenaz89]

I for my part, would say that i'm prolly to lazy to cheat on my wife. Coz cheating, hiding from the misses, all that takes work, planning etc. Fuck that! A lotta the times men cheat is because the woman keep them on a leash...so when they do get a chance...it's a mini-rebellion against the authority. lol..

i agree....

[sheenaz89]

just cheat it brings out the fire

[vgirl]

its interesting that the guy was not proud to admit that he hasn't cheated, but then again, i'm not sure either that most men would be 'proud' per se of admitting they DID cheat either. it still is against most peoples social mores and i doubt it would be condoned even by most people.

[Hands]

just cheat it brings out the fire
wor, i think thats the only quote worthy thing youve said all night

[SillyKitty]

its interesting that the guy was not proud to admit that he hasn't cheated, but then again, i'm not sure either that most men would be 'proud' per se of admitting they DID cheat either. it still is against most peoples social mores and i doubt it would be condoned even by most people.

The people he is hanging out with are assholes.. :dunno:

[TYPE_R_GINO]

I wouldnt cheat....cheaters never prosper

[SillyKitty]

jealousyyy....ahhhhhhh it will take you down sooooo fasttt you wont even know it...

Hey cute pics.. damn who is hating on you in this site.. :-|

I am quite jealous about the people i love.. my man, and my parents..
i am so jealous when my mom g ives my bro the bigger piece.. :mad:

[SillyKitty]

I wouldnt cheat....cheaters never prosper

:hug: yaay.. i know right..
u will get "baddua's"

[TYPE_R_GINO]

:hug: yaay.. i know right..
u will get "baddua's"




yeh u kno what they say about "A woman scorned......."


How have u been :bhapi:

[SillyKitty]

yeah RD is a bit of a battle free for all with everybody trying to get one over each other, like india :love: place is madness, but entertaining as hell lol yes, thats what makes me come back.. cuz its different from other forums, the other forums are soo supportive, they will try to listen to you, and say stuff like " aww " " we are with you" "hug"
that kinda gets really tiring.. :ugh:


u never know, what you dont know wont hurt you, no what im sayinHm yea i know.. but i told him that, even if i SUSPECT you cheating, i dont have to get any proof, just suspect it, i will hit you with my baseball bat, till u pass out. like i dreamt it in my sleep(which i actually did)

dont opress the poor man, u sound like a muslim husband :no:lol. i will do it as long as i can.. cuz in the future i wont be able to.

[SillyKitty]

yeh u kno what they say about "A woman scorned......."


How have u been :bhapi:

YES SIR, :yes: "hell hath no fury"

I am doing not so good.. :( have a research paper due, and business final, psychology.. :( scared, cuz i dont like the novel i picked, cuz the pigs win.

[SillyKitty]

i like relationships where theres friends going out having fun...No leash controlling name calling and all that stuff....

that would b SOOO boring.. :bored:

i want fights, and name calling

[SillyKitty]

I for my part, would say that i'm prolly to lazy to cheat on my wife. Coz cheating, hiding from the misses, all that takes work, planning etc. Fuck that! A lotta the times men cheat is because the woman keep them on a leash...so when they do get a chance...it's a mini-rebellion against the authority. lol..

lol hmmmmm.

well, i keep a leash on him cuz he admitted to me once that he cheated on his former gf...


so i was like.. ok.. that was stupid, cuz, from now on, i would keep you on a leash..

[SillyKitty]

well people shouldn't be getting into relationship cause if they can't be faithful to there partner then whats the point of getting in a relationship.

well some people THINK they can be faithful.. so they get in a relaitonship..


And then again, they get in a relationship cuz they dont want other people think that theres something wrong with him/her.

[imsocrazii]

are you saying men really think its an embarrassment to be faithful? whattttt? thats news to me.

[SillyKitty]

are you saying men really think its an embarrassment to be faithful? whattttt? thats news to me.

well if that man is around assholes.. sure.

[imsocrazii]

well if that man is around assholes.. sure.

why you make them your friends then? maybe you should find better ppl to hang around with.

[miss_kuti_kamini]

I think part of me would die if I ever found out my life partner was cheating on me...

it kills me to even think about it...

word

[SillyKitty]

why you make them your friends then? maybe you should find better ppl to hang around with.

Well, they are mostly his co-workers.. you cant quit your job just cuz you need new friends can you?

[TYPE_R_GINO]

YES SIR, :yes: "hell hath no fury"

I am doing not so good.. :( have a research paper due, and business final, psychology.. :( scared, cuz i dont like the novel i picked, cuz the pigs win.


yikes!!!! :shock:


so watcha doin on the forumz missy???

btw...which bloody novel did ya pick?? :sarb:

[SillyKitty]

yikes!!!! :shock:


so watcha doin on the forumz missy???

btw...which bloody novel did ya pick?? :sarb:

:(

i am here cuz i had a thread goin on about novels.. and i dont know if i should put another thread about the novel i picked..

I picked "Animal Farm" do u know about it?

or better yet, what novel can i pick(short)?

[TYPE_R_GINO]

:(

i am here cuz i had a thread goin on about novels.. and i dont know if i should put another thread about the novel i picked..

I picked "Animal Farm" do u know about it?

or better yet, what novel can i pick(short)?


never heard of it and have i ever mentioned how much i hated readin novels while i wuz in skool?? :ugh:

[SillyKitty]

never heard of it and have i ever mentioned how much i hated readin novels while i wuz in skool?? :ugh:

:( no you havent.. i hate readint novels tooo :(

[imsocrazii]

Well, they are mostly his co-workers.. you cant quit your job just cuz you need new friends can you?

usually im a strong person, i dont give a fuck abt what ppl think abt me. i know they usually look up to me though because im usually doing the right thing. ill yell at someone for thinking like that. im not afraid to let someone know whats up!

[SillyKitty]

usually im a strong person, i dont give a fuck abt what ppl think abt me. i know they usually look up to me though because im usually doing the right thing. ill yell at someone for thinking like that. im not afraid to let someone know whats up!

Thats a very admirable trait.. I am like that too, my friends give me a hard time cuz i dont drink, that doesnt make me wanna drink.


Too bad 70% of the people aint like that. They are always trying to get approval.

[imsocrazii]

Thats a very admirable trait.. I am like that too, my friends give me a hard time cuz i dont drink, that doesnt make me wanna drink.


Too bad 70% of the people aint like that. They are always trying to get approval.

then why do you care what they think yaar? if they give you a hard time, should they be the ones to be listening to YOUR lecture?

[SillyKitty]

then why do you care what they think yaar? if they give you a hard time, should they be the ones to be listening to YOUR lecture?

I dont care what they think.. :neutral:

I am one of those who doesnt really care of aprovals.

but its not about me yaar, lol. its about this guy.

I am just saying that this guy in a way is weak, he feels embarrased, that he cant live up to his friend's expectations..

[TYPE_R_GINO]

:( no you havent.. i hate readint novels tooo :(



u mean my horrorscope neva mentioned it :lol:


another thing we have in common ;)

[imsocrazii]

I dont care what they think.. :neutral:

I am one of those who doesnt really care of aprovals.

but its not about me yaar, lol. its about this guy.

I am just saying that this guy in a way is weak, he feels embarrased, that he cant live up to his friend's expectations..

:shock: ohhhh ok, silly me, i didnt read the whole thing i guess.....i thought you were a guy! :rofl:

[TYPE_R_GINO]

:shock: ohhhh ok, silly me, i didnt read the whole thing i guess.....i thought you were a guy! :rofl:

sillykitty not sillykat :p :p

[addiction01]

How the eff would you know if your dad's cheated on your mom or not? Seriously. And what kind of question is "How do you feel about cheating on your wife?" Hmmm let me think about that. Fucking thick cunt.

[chowdury]

wat u think? can you do it? well my dad never cheated on my mom.. so for me, that is the norm.

Can a guy's guy really stay faithful to one woman for 23 years? With a parade of daily temptations? And his friends egging him on? Apparently it's a tough job

I want to tell you a secret. It's something I'm deeply proud of yet also ashamed of. It's about being a man and about being less of one. It defines who I am while it defies who I am. It's a dichotomy that's difficult for even me to understand.

How I feel about this secret depends on who I'm with. Alone, or with my wife and family, I feel pride. But with other men--coworkers, drinking buddies--I'm often embarrassed. Even though it's been 23 years, I've never admitted this to anyone--not even my wife. Then again, I'm sure she's never seriously doubted me and will not be surprised by what I confess.

My secret is that for almost a quarter century, I've been faithful. Although I've lusted after many women, I've never slept with one, or left even a lingering kiss on a pair of expectant lips.

I am successful. I am fit. I have money. I dress well and no, I am not ugly. Yes, I've had opportunities. Yet...

That's me you've seen in those sports-bar crowds, clinking pint glasses and clapping shoulders at sexual innuendo. That's me you've overheard commenting on the sassy new intern. Yes, I think about it. Yet...

Those surveys that reveal how many husbands cheat on their wives (and vice versa), I've considered them all. I've been tempted by the idea that monogamy is outdated. Yet...

And of course there's the blandness of the long-term relationship. It's seeing her in sweats scrubbing the toilet. It's running out of things to say over dinner. It's making love in the same position in the same room at the same time year after year. I crave excitement and variety. Yet...

...I've never cheated. And I haven't admitted it because, well, men typically don't do that. No matter how sensitive we'd like you to believe we've become, our brother-cliques still rely on bravado and conquest for acceptance. The minute we confess to not being on the chase, to turning our backs on our genetic drive to procreate, our gorilla chests start to shrink. It may sound small-minded, but that's the way it is, at least in my world.

has it eva worried u tat ur wife cood av done it te neighbour?

i wish i cood av a soul mate like u av?

at leats its stable family... how many kids?

Stable families r te best they perform the best.....

[chowdury]

I've been engaged to this girl in Pakistan for 9 years and she's my first cousin. I agreed to get engaged to her and it was all my idea as I really liked her at the time, even though I had just turned 17. My parents weren't too keen on the idea but I insisted on the engagement.
So after 9 years of being engaged, my family and I decided it was time I got married. My parents even asked me if I was still sure and whether I wanted to go ahead with it and I said yes.
So my parents went away to Pakistan to make the wedding arrangements and whilst they were gone I met this Pakistani kuri who lives locally and we went out on a couple of dates, first to a bar and then to a restaurant. Each date lasted only an hour or so.
Anyway, I told this girl here that I'm going to Pakistan but I didn't tell her I was going there to get married because I thought she might turn around and tell me to fuck off.
I was going to Pakistan with my elder brother who I can discuss anything with and whilst we were at the airport I told him about this girl I met here. I told him I was having second thoughts about getting married to my cousin in Pakistan but he said it was too late as my parents had already been in Pakistan for 2 weeks and all the arrangements had been made.
Also, whilst I was at the Airport, I was continuously on the phone to the girl I met here and was telling her I'm going away for just a holiday.
When I got to Pakistan, again I was continuously on the phone to the girl in England. On the day of the Mehndi I decided to tell the girl that I was getting married. She pleaded with me not to get married and insisted that if I came back to England tomorrow then she would marry me the same day.
I really liked this girl in the UK the minute I met her but didn't think she liked me that much, after all we had only met each other twice and been on just 2 dates.
I told her I couldn't cancel the wedding as my parents had made all the arrangements and all the guests and relatives had arrived. I even spoke to my mum and she also said it was too late and that it would be too much besti if I pulled out now. After all my cousin had waited 9 years for me and her parents were so happy to see me after 9 years. I decided to get married.
After the marriage I was still in touch with the girl from here via phone and she was unhappy that I didn't tell here I was going to get married. We chatted to each other every day and my wife was getting a bit suspicious. The UK girl said she wanted to meet me when I got back and so we arranged to go out for a night somewhere.
When I got back to the UK I met up with her and we went and stayed in a hotel for the night and things happened there. My wife is still in Pakistan waiting for her Visa. I told my parents that I want to get out of this marriage and be with the girl I met here but they got very upset and very angry and insisted that if I leave my cousin now then I'll also have to leave my parents' house. My mum was in tears and my elder brother found out what I wanted to do and he also got angry and he said that I have to stay with the wife for at least 6 months and see what happens from there because if the wife doesn't get to come here then again it will be a lot of besti on our family and on the wife's family in Pakistan.
The problem is I have feelings for the girl here and I know she likes me a lot but she insists that if my wife ever steps foot in this country then she'll never speak to me or see me again.
I still see the girl here every day and I know it's wrong but I have true feelings for her. She's on the same wavelength as me and we get on really well.
I'm in a sticky situation here and would appreciate any advice on what I should do from you people. Thanks and have fun and stay happy

how old was she wen u were 17? 9 years old? or still a kid?

[desi_shawrty]

:ugh: u'll probably to go cheat on him before he does.

what made you jump to that conclusion?

You're wrong, i would never cheat on anyone and definitely not on a husband

[desi_shawrty]

lol says the jailbate


k im off for now. later gator.

Says a person with morals ;)

[TYPE_R_GINO]

Says a person with morals ;)


ur still jailbait??

[desi_shawrty]

ur still jailbait??

For five more days :D

[TYPE_R_GINO]

For five more days :D



nice....any plans for the big occasion??

[desi_shawrty]

nice....any plans for the big occasion??

I don't know

I think i'm just going out for icecream the day off and then just hang out with friends and have a party with like 10--14 friends the following weekend.

I just came back from a shopping trip in chicago and i went with a friend and i was allowed to go alone and all and the trip was like a $1,000 so i don't really care to do anything big.

Any ideas though?

[paki_guy786]

well some people THINK they can be faithful.. so they get in a relaitonship..


And then again, they get in a relationship cuz they dont want other people think that theres something wrong with him/her.

well i am not in relationship and there is nothing wrong with me and who cares of what other people think.

[SillyKitty]

u mean my horrorscope neva mentioned it :lol:


another thing we have in common ;)

LOL yea same here.. i think we are both capricorns ;)

[SillyKitty]

:shock: ohhhh ok, silly me, i didnt read the whole thing i guess.....i thought you were a guy! :rofl:

:lol: nooo

if i was a guy i would have to be a gay one dont you think? with this kinda user name?

sillykitty not sillykat :p :p

:lol: exaactly

[SillyKitty]

well i am not in relationship and there is nothing wrong with me and who cares of what other people think.

well ur young. i am talking about the guys who are 25 or up.

people start wondering whats wrong with you if u are not with someone..
just like they start saying.."must be something wrong with her cuz she is 28 and aint marriet YET" for the gals.
and dont tell me you havent heard people saying that.

[Siddy3242]

never..never.....never

[pakistani_boy]

huh

[Shariq16]

ok i just copy pasted that from a different thread, not my situation, but hey atleast your not a heartless bitch :salut:

:rofl: u fucker, i felt bad for u lol.

[¤ * HoneY * ¤]

shudnt cheat your wife...otherwise wifey wud cheat you as well....will you like and accept it....?

[desichick_usa]

cheating on your wife.....

mhmhm...

would you want your dad to cheat on your mom?

[SillyKitty]

cheating on your wife.....

mhmhm...

would you want your dad to cheat on your mom?
No

but that doesnt stop alot of guys who cheats.

[roy_desi]

in the long run, women end up cheating more.

the real dudes here will know what i'm talking about.