my BOYFRIEND is getting married

[imsocrazii]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:

[Hands]

wtf

[imsocrazii]

wtf
yaaaa..... thatsa what i say

[maliky204]

your white?

damn its a shame about ur bf.. i hope ur not thinkin of stayn with him just coz his wifes gona be in india

[SpicyBrownRapper]

Hahahahahahaha

HAAAAAAAAAAahahahahahahaha


wait...


wait...












Hahahahahahahahaha

[jay_desi]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw....

ye, my GF is getting married too... ugh.. sucks... cuz her father didn't like me.. oh well.. all i can say is.. i know it seems like the end of the world.. but you'll get over it... :hug:


:edit:

[PRCIV]

that sucks....you should move on with your life

[supremed]

im sorry to hear about ur situation. Honestly your best bet is to move on...he may try to console you and drag you along saying you can still be together etc...but honestly you should just move on...if he cannot stand up to his rents to be with you...yet still tells you he loves you...thats not a man...and not a person worth knowing

[imsocrazii]

your white?

damn its a shame about ur bf.. i hope ur not thinkin of stayn with him just coz his wifes gona be in india
nooooooooo hes married, that doesnt change anyting.. i was making the point becuase it seems more like they are hiring someone to take care of his mom instead of getting married.

[jay_desi]

he'z an idiot.. he'll regret it.. you're cute :love:

[Angel_Face_K]

Everyone is goign to give you a ton of advice some shit some oki.
Bottom line is... Walk away. You're far too young and shit to get tied up like this.
It'll be hard but you'll get over him in the end.

[musicchic33]

ahh dude, I feel bad for you, but that won't change things. It's pretty much a typical desi dude move to pull though. Chalk it up to experience. Just give it time, and you'll be fine.

[jay_desi]

Everyone is goign to give you a ton of advice some shit some oki.
Bottom line is... Walk away. You're far too young and shit to get tied up like this.
It'll be hard but you'll get over him in the end.

exactly, listen to her :-)

[imsocrazii]

ye, my GF is getting married too... ugh.. sucks... cuz her father didn't like me.. oh well.. all i can say is.. i know it seems like the end of the world.. but you'll get over it... :hug:


:edit:
honestly it really helps to hear that... that someone else knowssssss

[NYC101]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:

how many times a week did y'all bang?

[maliky204]

nooooooooo hes married, that doesnt change anyting.. i was making the point becuase it seems more like they are hiring someone to take care of his mom instead of getting married.
sometimes you have 2 sacrfice alot for your parents, it may look like there gettin a carer for his mum insted of a wife, but it stil dont change things, there gona be married. are you gona stay with him?

[Siesta]

this is crazy

[madam_jade]

Just don't let him tell you that he's marrying her for his parents but he really loves you and all that bs. Don't let him try and keep both of you on hand, just walk away.

[imsocrazii]

im sorry to hear about ur situation. Honestly your best bet is to move on...he may try to console you and drag you along saying you can still be together etc...but honestly you should just move on...if he cannot stand up to his rents to be with you...yet still tells you he loves you...thats not a man...and not a person worth knowing
he says" even if i get married, i will always love you" uhhh :ugh:

[The Genie]

Everyone is goign to give you a ton of advice some shit some oki.
Bottom line is... Walk away. You're far too young and shit to get tied up like this.
It'll be hard but you'll get over him in the end.

:werd:

[BadFingerBoogie]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:

HAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAH AHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHA

[PRCIV]

he says" even if i get married, i will always love you" uhhh :ugh:

Translation: I still wanna bang you from time to time

[desi_gunda]

I swear you mentioned like 2 days ago he was keeping your relationship with him on the down-lo. Well, I'd tell you to move on, dont know how attached you were to him. Good luck either way.

[Irreligious Left]

Desi dudes are generally scumbags. You should have stuck with a white dood.

[madam_jade]

he says" even if i get married, i will always love you" uhhh :ugh:

LOL I knew it. :rofl:

[sunny333333]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:
weed drinking and lots of sex thats wat chu need :gayfight:

[imsocrazii]

Just don't let him tell you that he's marrying her for his parents but he really loves you and all that bs. Don't let him try and keep both of you on hand, just walk away.
sometimes i believe that it really is for his parents sometimes he acts like he could care less, i really just dont know what hes thinking. or if it got too serious and he didnt think it would, you know?

[desiT21]

he says" even if i get married, i will always love you" uhhh :ugh:
lol :rofl: ok this sounds like bollywood movie...

[PRCIV]

Desi dudes are generally scumbags. You should have stuck with a white dood.

wtf is your problem ?

[musicchic33]

ahh dude, I feel bad for you, but that won't change things. It's pretty much a typical desi dude move to pull though. Chalk it up to experience. Just give it time, and you'll be fine.


yah, I'm quoting myself for troof.

[imsocrazii]

Translation: I still wanna bang you from time to time
lol not happening.....if hes married... definately not.

[madam_jade]

sometimes i believe that it really is for his parents sometimes he acts like he could care less, i really just dont know what hes thinking. or if it got too serious and he didnt think it would, you know?


He's 22 and desi, he's really not thinking much at all. 7 months may seem like a long time but it's really not and walking away now will save you a lot of heartache.

[madam_jade]

yah, I'm quoting myself for troof.

QFT.

[Siesta]

how many times a week did y'all bang?
:rolleyes: :arrow:

[musicchic33]

He's 22 and desi, he's really not thinking much at all. 7 months may seem like a long time but it's really not and walking away now will save you a lot of heartache.

werd, what dude gets married at 22 these days anyways?

I wonder what does for a living.

threadmaker: what's he do?

[imsocrazii]

lol :rofl: ok this sounds like bollywood movie...
tell me abt it

[itismyusername]

Just don't let him tell you that he's marrying her for his parents but he really loves you and all that bs. Don't let him try and keep both of you on hand, just walk away.
exactly.

[imsocrazii]

werd, what dude gets married at 22 these days anyways?

I wonder what does for a living.

threadmaker: what's he do?
hmm welll hes in school right now... other than that... his family owns like 5 gas stations...

[PRCIV]

lol not happening.....if hes married... definately not.

good....more for the rest of us ;)

[eshwaar]

move on to somthin better...if you stayed with him you would be leading a double life....or you could say living a lie

[madam_jade]

hmm welll hes in school right now... other than that... his family owns like 5 gas stations...


HE'S GUJU??!?1

Dude...:arrow: yourself asap.

[musicchic33]

hmm welll hes in school right now... other than that... his family owns like 5 gas stations...

hmm even if they're making a comfy living with 5 gas stations, that's friggin' young as hell for a dude to be getting hitched


whatever happened to good ol' fashioned hiring help to do these kinds of things?

[imsocrazii]

good....more for the rest of us ;)
lol...
:no:

[Siesta]

run for the hills girl :run:

[musicchic33]

HE'S GUJU??!?1

Dude...:arrow: yourself asap.

hahah werd, jump ship

[thebrownreason]

damn people still do that? :no:

[imsocrazii]

HE'S GUJU??!?1

Dude...:arrow: yourself asap.
lol no punjabi. y?

[Irreligious Left]

wtf is your problem ?

This would not have happened if she had stuck with a white guy. They generally aren't pressured into marrying at 22 and threatened to be disowned and kicked out for dating someone. The guy's a pussy who can't stand up to family pressures.

[musicchic33]

my money's on this dude sleeping around even while married.

:idea:

[madam_jade]

lol no punjabi. y?

Poonjabis are players. Don't do it.

[imsocrazii]

hmm even if they're making a comfy living with 5 gas stations, that's friggin' young as hell for a dude to be getting hitched


whatever happened to good ol' fashioned hiring help to do these kinds of things?

he says its cuz his mom is sick and wants him to get married. or have someone take care of her by getting her engaged to him. :dunno:

[thebrownreason]

This would not have happened if she had stuck with a white guy. They generally aren't pressured into marrying at 22 and threatened to be disowned and kicked out for dating someone. The guy's a pussy who can't stand up to family pressures.

:werd:

[madam_jade]

my money's on this dude sleeping around even while married.

:idea:

He is most likely sleeping around right now.

[thebrownreason]

he says its cuz his mom is sick and wants him to get married. or have someone take care of her by getting her engaged to him. :dunno:

why does she have to be engaged to care of his mother? that's dumb

[PRCIV]

This would not have happened if she had stuck with a white guy. They generally aren't pressured into marrying at 22 and threatened to be disowned and kicked out for dating someone. The guy's a pussy who can't stand up to family pressures.

Word but you have to agree that most desi families these days aren't as backward as this guy's family...

[jay_desi]

he says" even if i get married, i will always love you" uhhh :ugh:


that is a big FAT lie...

[musicchic33]

Word but you have to agree that most desi families these days aren't as backward as this guy's family...

still more "backwards" in comparison to white people

[sunny333333]

good....more for the rest of us ;)
:rofl: :gayfight:

[Siesta]

my money's on this dude sleeping around even while married.

:idea:


same thoughts too...pretty pathetic

[ArTmALik]

lol not happening.....if hes married... definately not.
So if hes single he can bang you..Wat a crap.Stop being a desi.Wearing desi clothes does not make you are desi until you bring some changes in your mind.You are like a bird that changing its nest on different type of TREES time to time .
Was he your first bf ? How many you will go with in your short life ?
What have you been doing before 7 months ?

Suppose even if you are virgin and you have not done anything except looking for a proper marriage with him but do you really consider 7 months a long time?YOU PEOPLE HAVE NOT SEEN ALL THE WEATHERS TOGETHER EVEN..
So fuck it and forget it.

[imsocrazii]

Poonjabis are players. Don't do it.
y do you say that?

[musicchic33]

he says its cuz his mom is sick and wants him to get married. or have someone take care of her by getting her engaged to him. :dunno:

that's retarded.

hired help, ftmw

[supremed]

:drama:

[PRCIV]

still more "backwards" in comparison to white people

I'd rather be backward, than have a 60% divorce rate, children being born out of wedlock, cheating etc you get the picture :Paper:

[Siesta]

that is a big FAT lie...
:werd:

[musicchic33]

y do you say that?

cause she's from the same pind

[nayeemx33]

Atleast he told you he's getting married. Most of them would go back to their motherland, get married, and then tell you.

[gurveen89]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:


has anyone seen ritesh deshmukh's out of control????

ask ur boyfriend ...... he must have seen that movie

he seems to be inspired by that...

[marlboroman]

this is pretty fucked up

all you can do is not think of him as your bf and burn bridges
if he's too puss (at 22 years old no less) to even mention you to his parents and then not stand up to not wanting to get married, then fuck it. i'm punjabi so i know how it is, my mom hated my ex, but she knew about her and we always hung out at my house. if he didn't even have the balls to introduce you and now this, fuck it.

two cents.

[Irreligious Left]

Or this guy just wants an out and made up a bullshit story. Either way, he is not a prize no matter how many Circle Ks his family owns.

[DESISOLDIERSINGH]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:

This is Sad.

I am Punjabi too and have a White Girl frd, and this is just sad - This is why SOME desi guys dont deserve white girls - Cuz they screw them over.

[jat_jatt_sardar]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:
:grouphug:

[musicchic33]

Atleast he told you he's getting married. Most of them would go back to their motherland, get married, and then tell you.

LOLOL

werd, I've heard of that happening to so many girls

[SarcasmicBengali]

reiterating a lotta the shit ppl have already said and adding:
i actualy know a guy who's 23 and married... parents forced him into it since he was 18... when he was with an asian chick.
his logic at the time was: 'parents have done so much for me and i owe 'em'

i told him it's all bullshit.
through the years the relationship broke up naturaly anyways... and he ended up marrying the chick his parents pick out for him... using the logic the he started wanting her too.
obviously a shit load of other issues at work here too...

this guy is like my best friend but i still think if his wife wasn't coming to canada soon... he would've still ended up fuckin around on her.

imsocrazii... i'm pretty fuckin sure this guy will do the same and try to maintain a relationshp with you even after his marriage.
tell him to fuck off and you'll be better off... you deserve more...

[musicchic33]

I'd rather be backward, than have a 60% divorce rate, children being born out of wedlock, cheating etc you get the picture :Paper:
oh hay thurr, I'm just tellin' it like it is

[imsocrazii]

So if hes single he can bang you..Wat a crap.Stop being a desi.Wearing desi clothes does not make you are desi until you bring some changes in your mind.You are like a bird that changing its nest on different type of TREES time to time .
Was he your first bf ? How many you will go with in your short life ?
What have you been doing before 7 months ?

Suppose even if you are virgin and you have not done anything except looking for a proper marriage with him but do you really consider 7 months a long time?YOU PEOPLE HAVE NOT SEEN ALL THE WEATHERS TOGETHER EVEN..
So fuck it and forget it.
i was waiting for you... lol

ya hes my first bf too.

also its not how normal relationships end.

normal relationships DO NOT end like this.. like most are because either they loose interests, fighting too much, not "o hunni btw, im getting married"

[madam_jade]

cause she's from the same pind

....:arrow:

[supremed]

So if hes single he can bang you..Wat a crap.Stop being a desi.Wearing desi clothes does not make you are desi until you bring some changes in your mind.You are like a bird that changing its nest on different type of TREES time to time .
Was he your first bf ? How many you will go with in your short life ?
What have you been doing before 7 months ?

Suppose even if you are virgin and you have not done anything except looking for a proper marriage with him but do you really consider 7 months a long time?YOU PEOPLE HAVE NOT SEEN ALL THE WEATHERS TOGETHER EVEN..
So fuck it and forget it.
i couldnt understand a word...but i laughed at "what a crap" thanks

[musicchic33]

....:arrow:

z0mg, jaykay

yewd, lyke totally never dick around like this

[SarcasmicBengali]

he says its cuz his mom is sick and wants him to get married. or have someone take care of her by getting her engaged to him. :dunno:

he's using the old 'i'm helpless and have no choice... but if it was up to me it'd be you all the way baby...' :ugh:

its bullshit and he's a pussy for even using that excuse...

[musicchic33]

i couldnt understand a word...but i laughed at "what a crap" thanks

hahah

[imsocrazii]

I'd rather be backward, than have a 60% divorce rate, children being born out of wedlock, cheating etc you get the picture :Paper:
thats exactly what he says... but its crappy knowing you were born into a race that ppl think this abt. its not like religion, you cant "convert" to another race...

[PRCIV]

i was waiting for you... lol

ya hes my first bf too.

also its not how normal relationships end.

normal relationships DO NOT end like this.. like most are because either they loose interests, fighting too much, not "o hunni btw, im getting married"

dont worry about it..you're a kid..6 months from now you won't even remember his face, you'll laugh about it. The guy's a loser for marrying a girl he's never even met, if he's even doing that. At 19-20, you shouldn't even be thinking about shit like this, just move on with your life and try to be your own person.

[madam_jade]

z0mg, jaykay

yewd, lyke totally never dick around like this

Yea, not anymore.

I'm older now. :cop:

[SarcasmicBengali]

So if hes single he can bang you..Wat a crap.Stop being a desi.Wearing desi clothes does not make you are desi until you bring some changes in your mind.You are like a bird that changing its nest on different type of TREES time to time .
Was he your first bf ? How many you will go with in your short life ?
What have you been doing before 7 months ?

Suppose even if you are virgin and you have not done anything except looking for a proper marriage with him but do you really consider 7 months a long time?YOU PEOPLE HAVE NOT SEEN ALL THE WEATHERS TOGETHER EVEN..
So fuck it and forget it.

wow.... very articulate...

i'm impressed :shock:

[supremed]

hahah
"YOU PEOPLE HAVE NOT SEEN ALL THE WEATHERS TOGETHER EVEN..
So fuck it and forget it". :idea:

:lulz:

[surface2air]

:Owned:

what did I say imsocrazii? how many times have you seen a successful brown/white relationship? Let me see..hmmmmm 0 times!

[imsocrazii]

he's using the old 'i'm helpless and have no choice... but if it was up to me it'd be you all the way baby...' :ugh:

its bullshit and he's a pussy for even using that excuse...
but you see hes making me feel guilty saying that his mom's life depends on him getting married. i cant even say anything.

[musicchic33]

Dude, the bottom line is he has no respect for you at all, and if you can't see that you need to take a step back and analyze everything more closely...he didn't think highly enough of you to introduce you to his rents, to even make an attempt at explaining your relationship, or even handle things the proper way...he sounds like a tool

khattam kahani.

:arrow:

[imsocrazii]

:Owned:

what did I say imsocrazii? how many times have you seen a successful brown/white relationship? Let me see..hmmmmm 0 times!
thanks for reiterating that point.

[PRCIV]

thats exactly what he says... but its crappy knowing you were born into a race that ppl think this abt. its not like religion, you cant "convert" to another race...

this guy would've probably done this even if you were Punjabi, born and brought up here lol

[supremed]

but you see hes making me feel guilty saying that his mom's life depends on him getting married. i cant even say anything.
firstly thanks for ignoring my original post
secondly this story he is handing you is bullshit btw

[musicchic33]

Yea, not anymore.

I'm older now. :cop:
lulz older just means more experienced, gurlfraandddd

[jay_desi]

he says its cuz his mom is sick and wants him to get married. or have someone take care of her by getting her engaged to him. :dunno:

ryt.. that's what she said... :neutral:

[musicchic33]

but you see hes making me feel guilty saying that his mom's life depends on him getting married. i cant even say anything.
you're a bit silly for falling into the whole guilt trip even after seeing his true colors.

[imsocrazii]

this guy would've probably done this even if you were Punjabi, born and brought up here lol
he told me if i was punjabi, things would be different :neutral:

[SarcasmicBengali]

but you see hes making me feel guilty saying that his mom's life depends on him getting married. i cant even say anything.

as everyone's already pointed out:
"My son's wife" isn't the ONLY qualification they need for someone to take care of his mom.

this wouldn't be a marriage, it'd be a job.
ask him if he plans on divorcing the chick after his mom gets better...?! :rolleyes:

[musicchic33]

no offense!

lulz

good save, musicchic

[thebrownreason]

:Owned:

what did I say imsocrazii? how many times have you seen a successful brown/white relationship? Let me see..hmmmmm 0 times!

umm, i've had 2 white ex's and 1 without a title. longest was damn near 3 years

and in terms of marriage, thats too early for me to worry about. :Paper:

so yes, successful indeed.

[imsocrazii]

you're a bit silly for falling into the whole guilt trip even after seeing his true colors.
what if hes telling the truth? either way im gonna look bad for "being selfish"

[PRCIV]

he told me if i was punjabi, things would be different :neutral:

well at that point, you should have walked away lol..but you, like a typical girl, want what you cannot have :no:

[SarcasmicBengali]

firstly thanks for ignoring my original post
secondly this story he is handing you is bullshit btw

it does sound like an archived brown story to tell the white girl who's never heard of it in order to end shit with her.... :think:

[desiT21]

It is just not that he is being forced into that........trust me he always wanted that too....you were just his time pass...sad but it is true

[supremed]

umm, i've had 2 white ex's and 1 without a title. longest was damn near 3 years

and in terms of marriage, thats too early for me to worry about. :Paper:

so yes, successful indeed.
this is not about the chicks youre going to be hooking me up with when im in ur town...this is more about you sending me their pics first asshole :arrow:

[musicchic33]

what if hes telling the truth? either way im gonna look bad for "being selfish"
uhh either way he fucked you over...move on and see him for what he really is, man

the only one who's going to look bad is you, if you don't call him on this or move on.=|

[imsocrazii]

firstly thanks for ignoring my original post
secondly this story he is handing you is bullshit btw
sorry there are so many !

i think that, but what can i do to actually PROVE that?

[musicchic33]

sorry there are so many !

i think that, but what can i do to actually PROVE that?

lol dude, the only proof you need is that he broke up with you

:arrow:

[thebrownreason]

this is not about the chicks youre going to be hooking me up with when im in ur town...this is more about you sending me their pics first asshole :arrow:

:rofl:

[(sic)]

LOL you were foolish to think you would be accepted.

Move on.

[supremed]

it does sound like an archived brown story to tell the white girl who's never heard of it in order to end shit with her.... :think:
yeah i know a few dudes who used this type of story

[advocatish]

hm...well that sucks..walk away..and get over it. Life goes on.

[nayeemx33]

Hey, I also live in Texas :naughty:

[supremed]

sorry there are so many !

i think that, but what can i do to actually PROVE that?
the fact that its a generic story is proof enough...he is blaming his rents for putting him in this situation...however if he really wanted he could tell them NO and fight a little...he is going along with it...either because he isnt much of a man...or because this is an easy out for him

[supremed]

:rofl:
im jes sayin :lulz:

[surface2air]

umm, i've had 2 white ex's and 1 without a title. longest was damn near 3 years

and in terms of marriage, thats too early for me to worry about. :Paper:

so yes, successful indeed.
If it was a successful relationship, they wouldn't be you ex's! :idea:

[imsocrazii]

Hey, I also live in Texas :naughty:
lol i thought you were a girl... but thats not you inyour sig, is it?

[thebrownreason]

If it was a successful relationship, they wouldn't be you ex's! :idea:

i'm not trying to be with the same girl for over 3 years until i get married.

[SaMeeeeR]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:
pick sum1 frm rd leave dat retard :D

[imsocrazii]

the fact that its a generic story is proof enough...he is blaming his rents for putting him in this situation...however if he really wanted he could tell them NO and fight a little...he is going along with it...either because he isnt much of a man...or because this is an easy out for him
ya, but how can i say something when he says.

"my mom's life depends on my decision"

[supremed]

ya, but how can i say something when he says.

"my mom's life depends on my decision"
well that just tells you he isnt bothered to stick up for you...so say nothing...and leave him

[imsocrazii]

pick sum1 frm rd leave dat retard :D
lol i havee had a few rd crushes...

[desi_gunda]

So, has RD helped you resolve this issue?

[imsocrazii]

well that just tells you he isnt bothered to stick up for you...so say nothing...and leave him

well if i ask him that. doesnt that make me sound selfish?

[SpicyBrownRapper]

aaaaaaaHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA




BWWWWWWWAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHAA

[imsocrazii]

So, has RD helped you resolve this issue?
id say yaa it is helping me not feel so guilty, ya.

[Geezer]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:

"Oh beta Im so sick...please marry this girl, kthanxbye" :rolleyes:

Sorry to hear about your situation. But on a brighter note, you've regained your freedom.

[Siesta]

well at that point, you should have walked away lol..but you, like a typical girl, want what you cannot have :no:
:ashamed: :(

I want Niklesh...:shhh:

[supremed]

well if i ask him that. doesnt that make me sound selfish?
nope..but really you have to think to yourself why must you ask anything...if he says he's on the same page as you and "loves" you etcc....shouldnt he be asking u questions...rather than telling you what he and his rents have decided

[Siesta]

"Oh beta Im so sick...please marry this girl, kthanxbye" :rolleyes:

Sorry to hear about your situation. But on a brighter note, you've regained your freedom.
that is basically how it probably went down

[surface2air]

i'm not trying to be with the same girl for over 3 years until i get married.
lol ofcourse....there is so much fish in the sea....

[imsocrazii]

:rofl:
ok since you date white girls alot, tell me, are you just messin with them?
do you see yourself only dating them? nothing more? just wondering...

[Siesta]

nope..but really you have to think to yourself why must you ask anything...if he says he's on the same page as you and "loves" you etcc....shouldnt he be asking u questions...rather than telling you what he and his rents have decided
:yes:

[itismyusername]

well if i ask him that. doesnt that make me sound selfish?
why are you so concerned about coming off as selfish?
don't you think he's being selfish as well.........

[SpicyBrownRapper]

ok since you date white girls alot, tell me, are you just messin with them?
do you see yourself only dating them? nothing more? just wondering...

Yeah, pretty much. He's just fucking with 'em so he gets a lil' summin' summin'. Wow, you're such a sucker. Don't ever believe a Desi male, they're sleazy. He fucked you over big time, you're so naive.

[thebrownreason]

ok since you date white girls alot, tell me, are you just messin with them?
do you see yourself only dating them? nothing more? just wondering...

lol @ alot. :lol:

what do you mean by messing with them? if i'm in a relationship, i'm exclusive. no questions asked. when i'm single thats different lol

and ummm no, i just havent found a desi chick who was relationship worthy

[cococrisp]

That sucks,
hope u feel better,:)....

did u love him?....

[SpicyBrownRapper]

she's in denial.

five bucks says they are still together and will be even after he marries that chick from india.

But... but... no matter who he marries, HE WILL STILL LOVE HER. Amirite?

[itismyusername]

she's in denial.

five bucks says they are still together and will be even after he marries that chick from india.
lol..i agree.

[imsocrazii]

why are you so concerned about coming off as selfish?
don't you think he's being selfish as well.........
not if thats really the case, with his mom being sick and all

[nayeemx33]

not if thats really the case, with his mom being sick and all

Go visit his mom.

[supremed]

ok since you date white girls alot, tell me, are you just messin with them?
do you see yourself only dating them? nothing more? just wondering...
ive dated white girls and girls from other ethnicities...i always told them upfront that im just looking to have a good time nothing more...and that im not looking for anything serious...
once a girl asked me what would ur rents say if you ever introduced them to me (
this was after a two dates) i replied with thats never going to happen
uncomfortable silence and then shes like why....i said cuz we are just having fun...im not looking for anything serious like i told you when we met....broke up with her as soon as she said i love you (third date)

[Geezer]

not if thats really the case, with his mom being sick and all

I just wanna know how him marrying someone of her choice will improve her health :lol: a lot of desi parents play the sympathy card on their kids. I wouldn't give 2 fucks about it if I were you. In fact, I wouldn't give 2 fucks about him if I were you.

[imsocrazii]

she's in denial.

five bucks says they are still together and will be even after he marries that chick from india.
no, dude, hes like forget abt me. just forget you ever met me.

[cococrisp]

ok since you date white girls alot, tell me, are you just messin with them?
do you see yourself only dating them? nothing more? just wondering...

i dated a white girl once, and it was just for the hell of it, but i didnt take advantage of her in any way....

[imsocrazii]

I just wanna know how him marrying someone of her choice will improve her health :lol: a lot of desi parents play the sympathy card on their kids. I wouldn't give 2 fucks about it if I were you. In fact, I wouldn't give 2 fucks about him if I were you.
he said its gonna stress her and shell be even more sick

[BornToBreak_Rulz]

ok since you date white girls alot, tell me, are you just messin with them?
do you see yourself only dating them? nothing more? just wondering...
Listen i have seen many successful desi-white couples.The guy u dated was just a weak fa99ot who couldn't stand up to his family.Most of my best mates are dating white chicks and one of them is getting married this summer.Just want to tell u that just because u have had a bad experience with one pujanbi guy doesn't mean that all punjabi guys are players or just messing with white girls.There r decent ones.I suggest u move on and find a new partner.U live in texas,i don't know which city but u will find plenty of desis in houston,dallas who u will be able to date.

[jay_desi]

lol i havee had a few rd crushes...

o rly? :D koo koo lmao

[ArTmALik]

i was waiting for you... lol

ya hes my first bf too.

also its not how normal relationships end.

normal relationships DO NOT end like this.. like most are because either they loose interests, fighting too much, not "o hunni btw, im getting married"
So should he tell you "GIRL FUCK OFF, I M SICK OF YOU "?Try to understand his *fucked up* situation , He made a very decent EXCUSE.You should be happy that he did not start the cat and mouse game like ignoring you , not picking up ur calls, he ddint make you cry for him, he ddint make u run for him all Even though he could because i see you care for him more than he does.
If girl cares more, she suffers,if guy cares more, he suffers.I gave this advice so someone on Rd and they laughed. Its a reality.
7 months are nothing.Just nothing. Now you tell me what you WANT ?You wana Cry over it ?You wana forget it or you wana have fun on RD?)

You should learn by this lesson!!That's the first lesson.Go through with a thread that i made on you.I had told you so many things there*in advance*..You ddint notice that time but now you will.!

[cococrisp]

no, dude, hes like forget abt me. just forget you ever met me.

Bahahahahah, kid watches bollywood....

[cococrisp]

she's in denial.

five bucks says they are still together and will be even after he marries that chick from india.

:werd:....

[Geezer]

he said its gonna stress her and shell be even more sick

How old are you btw?

[itismyusername]

not if thats really the case, with his mom being sick and all
don't fall into his trap.
if you don't wanna come off as selfish, like everyone is saying let him get married to whoever his parents want, but you should move on...don't let him still think that you are available for him.

[imsocrazii]

Bahahahahah, kid watches bollywood....
o yes he does...

[jay_desi]

Listen i have seen many successful desi-white couples.The guy u dated was just a weak fa99ot who couldn't stand up to his family.Most of my best mates are dating white chicks and one of them is getting married this summer.Just want to tell u that just because u have had a bad experience with one pujanbi guy doesn't mean that all punjabi guys are players or just messing with white girls.There r decent ones.I suggest u move on and find a new partner.U live in texas,i don't know which city but u will find plenty of desis in houston,dallas who u will be able to date.


yes, he is right.. if he actually loves you.. if he loves you.. he should stand up to his family.. and if he can't may be you should think again.. does he loves you enough? that's if he loves you at all.... he could be jus playing games... you kno :rolleyes:

PS: black/white/brown.. who cares.. i have more white/black friends thn desi....

[cococrisp]

don't fall into his trap.
if you don't wanna come off as selfish, like everyone is saying let him get married to whoever his parents want, but you should move on...don't let him still think that you are available for him.

So ture, that will only motivate him to toy around with you,:no:....

bin there done that,:anxious:....

[imsocrazii]

How old are you btw?
i turn 20 next month. but its not like i was thinking we were gonna get married right now or anything like that. its just that this is a stupid way to end a relationship. i really did love him and could see a future with him if it wasnt for all this.

[cococrisp]

o yes he does...

:drama:....

[imsocrazii]

yes, he is right.. if he actually loves you.. if he loves you.. he should stand up to his family.. and if he can't may be you should think again.. does he loves you enough? that's if he loves you at all.... he could be jus playing games... you kno :rolleyes:
for 7 months? thats pretty fucked up.

[imsocrazii]

So should he tell you "GIRL FUCK OFF, I M SICK OF YOU "?Try to understand his *fucked up* situation , He made a very decent EXCUSE.You should be happy that he did not start the cat and mouse game like ignoring you , not picking up ur calls, he ddint make you cry for him, he ddint make u run for him all Even though he could because i see you care for him more than he does.
If girl cares more, she suffers,if guy cares more, he suffers.I gave this advice so someone on Rd and they laughed. Its a reality.
7 months are nothing.Just nothing. Now you tell me what you WANT ?You wana Cry over it ?You wana forget it or you wana have fun on RD?)

You should learn by this lesson!!That's the first lesson.Go through with a thread that i made on you.I had told you so many things there*in advance*..You ddint notice that time but now you will.!


you have really good advice :hug:
but he is kinda ignoring me. he doesnt answer phone calls, or if i text him, its taking him like 3 hours to respond.

[BornToBreak_Rulz]

yes, he is right.. if he actually loves you.. if he loves you.. he should stand up to his family.. and if he can't may be you should think again.. does he loves you enough? that's if he loves you at all.... he could be jus playing games... you kno :rolleyes:

PS: black/white/brown.. who cares.. i have more white/black friends thn desi....
werd ,shit happens she should just move on,she is a pretty girl i am sure she can find more guys.

[cococrisp]

Go visit his mom.

:rofl:!

[jay_desi]

for 7 months? thats pretty fucked up.

yes, it is... i dont really know what else to say.. but to chalk it off... you've your life in front of you... give yourself some time.. you'll get over it...

[cococrisp]

you have really good advice :hug:
but he is kinda ignoring me. he doesnt answer phone calls, or if i text him, its taking him like 3 hours to respond.

maybe he's jus busy praying for his mom or something, but, definitely not doing other girls during that time.....

[Geezer]

i turn 20 next month. but its not like i was thinking we were gonna get married right now or anything like that. its just that this is a stupid way to end a relationship. i really did love him and could see a future with him if it wasnt for all this.

Well count your losses and move on, I'd say.

[ArTmALik]

you have really good advice :hug:
but he is kinda ignoring me. he doesnt answer phone calls, or if i text him, its taking him like 3 hours to respond.
Well Be a girl with brain now=), the more u think the more questions re gona bother your mind.lol so its better to tell me when will you wear the second Shalwar kameez?lol lets see how u look like in that dress=)

[imsocrazii]

maybe he's jus busy praying for his mom or something, but, definitely not doing other girls during that time.....
no sarcasm right? ya......

[supremed]

Well Be a girl with brain now=), the more u think the more questions re gona bother your mind.lol so its better to tell me when will you wear the second Shalwar kameez?lol lets see how u look like in that dress=)
what a fag

[ArTmALik]

maybe he's jus busy praying for his mom or something, but, definitely not doing other girls during that time.....
:rofl: :rofl:

[ArTmALik]

what a fag
Thanks.lol

[supremed]

Thanks.lol
youre welcome

[imsocrazii]

nope..but really you have to think to yourself why must you ask anything...if he says he's on the same page as you and "loves" you etcc....shouldnt he be asking u questions...rather than telling you what he and his rents have decided
he doesnt really say anything. and thats what makes me even more upset!

[cococrisp]

no sarcasm right? ya......

none what so ever, m'am....

but i really think u should move on, all the best....
ur a nice person, should be hard for u to find someone better....
next time just really make sure there really is a future....

[imsocrazii]

Listen i have seen many successful desi-white couples.The guy u dated was just a weak fa99ot who couldn't stand up to his family.Most of my best mates are dating white chicks and one of them is getting married this summer.Just want to tell u that just because u have had a bad experience with one pujanbi guy doesn't mean that all punjabi guys are players or just messing with white girls.There r decent ones.I suggest u move on and find a new partner.U live in texas,i don't know which city but u will find plenty of desis in houston,dallas who u will be able to date.
thats good to know, its just because the other punjabi guy i used to talk to (no title) he said it would be a disgrace to the family to marry a white person... i know all of them do not think like that.

[ArTmALik]

proof that she's still waiting around for him...


and will continue to do for however long even after the guy marries the indian girl.
yeah..lol that sucks.lol

[SaMeeeeR]

lol i havee had a few rd crushes...
lol rd crushes haha r u kiddin me ...name dem plz ..haha cuz its not one ...its few lol :D

[cococrisp]

proof that she's still waiting around for him...


and will continue to do for however long even after the guy marries the indian girl.

lol, the dude is proper on the case....

[imsocrazii]

lol, the dude is proper on the case....
ya, ill prolly still be hung up on him for a while...

[imsocrazii]

lol rd crushes haha r u kiddin me ...name dem plz ..haha cuz its not one ...its few lol :D
:lulz:

[imsocrazii]

dude, you know its true. she wants us to tell her "yeah, he's gonna wait around for you" "yeah, this is how you keep a desi guy" and then she wants some captain-save-a-hoe to be like I WILL BE YOUR NEXT BOYFRIEND :kekeke:
who you? :kekeke:

[RacingSoul]

awww so bad...now rip those indian clothes off ur body and show ur anger towards desis...go on.

:chew:

[imsocrazii]

awww so bad...now rip those indian clothes off ur body and show ur anger towards desis...go on.

:chew:
lol no silly! if i really want to be around the culture, and i cant marry a desi, I'll just move to india :cheers:
some guys not gonna change that, EVAA
:D

[RacingSoul]

lol no silly! if i really want to be around the culture, and i cant marry a desi, I'll just move to india :cheers:
some guys not gonna change that, EVAA
:D


ha! impossible...they'll line up like a bunch of refugees in front of a UN food donation van the moment they see a white girl in trouble.

[SaMeeeeR]

lol no silly! if i really want to be around the culture, and i cant marry a desi, I'll just move to india :cheers:
some guys not gonna change that, EVAA
:D
marry a human not a desi :D

[itismyusername]

thats good to know, its just because the other punjabi guy i used to talk to (no title) he said it would be a disgrace to the family to marry a white person... i know all of them do not think like that.
i think secretly they like their kid being married to a white person..it make them think they are some superior shit..lol

[Sweet_LiL_Hunnie]

this kinda crap happens all the time, sorry to hear but keep your head high and your dignity in check and just walk away. if he tries to call or text you then unleash the wrath that you probably have boiling up inside, you have every right to bitch the fucker out.

[imsocrazii]

this kinda crap happens all the time, sorry to hear but keep your head high and your dignity in check and just walk away. if he tries to call or text you then unleash the wrath that you probably have boiling up inside, you have every right to bitch the fucker out.
aww thanks :hug:

[subaru]

I feel bad for you,

Pick your battles wisely, this is something you don't want to get involved with!!

and you're white?

[imsocrazii]

ya, im white. lol messing with fire apparently

[subaru]

ya, im white. lol messing with fire apparently

nah its ok, i vowed to myself to avoid BROWN girls all my life.. its just disaster in the making for me, cause i think differently.

[imsocrazii]

nah its ok, i vowed to myself to avoid BROWN girls all my life.. its just disaster in the making for me, cause i think differently.
all your life? as in your not marrying brown girl? you might change your mind down the road...most likely

[RacingSoul]

all your life? as in your not marrying brown girl? you might change your mind down the road...most likely

i dont think subaru has a say in it..i'm sure his mummy has lined up enough offers from India for him and just waiting for him to turn 18.

just messing dude, dont go hakka on my ass now :awesome:

[subaru]

all your life? as in your not marrying brown girl? you might change your mind down the road...most likely

i'm 22, I've tried and tried, theres just too much discrepancy in how i view life and how brown girls view it. I've met white girls that are in love with the indian culture. For me, thats just better.

A girl that drinks Chai, instead of coffee at home.

[musicchic33]

But... but... no matter who he marries, HE WILL STILL LOVE HER. Amirite?

LOL

Ouch.

[musicchic33]

Go visit his mom.

hahah

some of these responses are too funny.

[musicchic33]

ive dated white girls and girls from other ethnicities...i always told them upfront that im just looking to have a good time nothing more...and that im not looking for anything serious...
once a girl asked me what would ur rents say if you ever introduced them to me (
this was after a two dates) i replied with thats never going to happen
uncomfortable silence and then shes like why....i said cuz we are just having fun...im not looking for anything serious like i told you when we met....broke up with her as soon as she said i love you (third date)

That's respectable, dude...but how often are guys that upfront

Close to never.

[imsocrazii]

i'm 22, I've tried and tried, theres just too much discrepancy in how i view life and how brown girls view it. I've met white girls that are in love with the indian culture. For me, thats just better.

A girl that drinks Chai, instead of coffee at home.
lol well i drink tea..... lol

[SaMeeeeR]

lol well i drink tea..... lol
no i think u shud help ur bf in prepartions n all ...u knw in weddins derez a lotta work ...so u shud help him out lol

[imsocrazii]

no i think u shud help ur bf in prepartions n all ...u knw in weddins derez a lotta work ...so u shud help him out lol
i always wanted to attend an indian wedding, lol

[imsocrazii]

why does she have to be engaged to care of his mother? that's dumb
becasue his mom is in india and he is in the US so hell get married, and shell stay there to take care of her.

[Irreligious Left]

Don't Punjabis get Bihari slaves to take care of their corpulent mothers? Why do you need a DIL for that?

[gujupreity]

aw
well you should just take it as it just wasnt meant to be
be strong girl :bhapi:

[sheena1623]

:Owned:

what did I say imsocrazii? how many times have you seen a successful brown/white relationship? Let me see..hmmmmm 0 times!
Psht, whatever.
One of my friends is half white & half paki. :arrow:

[idonknw]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:

this is like a soap opera seriously. Im sure your already aware of this, but it will lead into more drama if you stay involved with this guy. If he reallly wanted too, he actually could do something about this situation and I can also understand that his mom is sick...but still that shouldnt come in between yours and his relationship. The main point is that your young, and you may really love this guy but from what you have mentioned the wise choice would be for you to move on...despite the fact how much you like him, you have to do it...for the long term consequences. It may seem hard to do now, but trust me you'll be glad you moved on in the long run :wavey: good luck with this difficult situation, just do the right thing for yourself.

[subaru]

this is like a soap opera seriously. Im sure your already aware of this, but it will lead into more drama if you stay involved with this guy. If he reallly wanted too, he actually could do something about this situation and I can also understand that his mom is sick...but still that shouldnt come in between yours and his relationship. The main point is that your young, and you may really love this guy but from what you have mentioned the wise choice would be for you to move on...despite the fact how much you like him, you have to do it...for the long term consequences. It may seem hard to do now, but trust me you'll be glad you moved on in the long run :wavey: good luck with this difficult situation, just do the right thing for yourself.

or hope unforeseeable events that involve the mother occur :rolleyes: .. Call me

[subaru]

lol well i drink tea..... lol

Whatever! White chicks for the win!!!

[desi_shawrty]

:Owned:

what did I say imsocrazii? how many times have you seen a successful brown/white relationship? Let me see..hmmmmm 0 times!
I've seen it happen many times.

You need to get out more.

[will rap 4 food]

i hate that race bullshit...yeah his mom is sick and all but who he marrys hould be up to him...thats stupid..slap him and leave him

[Exotic_Princess]

I've seen it happen many times.

You need to get out more.


:kekeke:
:werd:

I know a lot of white/brown married couples who have been married for a while. Some of my friend's parents are like that.

[Madrion]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:


Dint i tell you that if he dint tell his family in the beginning, he never really intended to? Frankly, all of this sounds like a whole load of bullshit. I think he used you. Do the two of you have a physical relationship? If you did, then he used you for sex. And when you pressed him about his family, he made up some crap(or exaggerated the situation) because he no longer requires you.

In my opinion, from the beginning of the relationship, there was one thing he was looking for from you because he figured that since you were white, you are not as conservative about sex as other desis.

Its despicable.

[desi_shawrty]

:kekeke:
:werd:

I know a lot of white/brown married couples who have been married for a while. Some of my friend's parents are like that.
I don't even know that many desis at all but i've herd stories and seen mixed couples who have been together for like 30 years already.

[crayzee]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:dude's talking shit.

i dont mean to cause offense, hurt, or insult you in any way, but the unfortunate reality is that he just wanted to get some. whether he got any or not is none of my business, but chances are high that he KNEW his parents would not accept you.

[Dream_GirL]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:
is SpicyBrown Rapper ur bf by any chance??.. read his thread.. ur situations sound very similar.. u being de "white" girl.. n a 7 month relationship.. hmmmmm....

[BoO bOo]

he is bullshitting you. i know its hard to walk away but if you don't wanna be used as a tool then walk away.

[musicchic33]

OmG jUr wurT s0o0 muCh moaR DEn diS...PhUck Himz...eyeD dr0p U s0o much dYmes, y0u GorAgoRapriNCesS


Srsly, though...this dude's a tool..what's with this whole you feeling "selfish" talk? Smack yourself, kid.

[kissyboo]

what if hes telling the truth? either way im gonna look bad for "being selfish"
you mentioned his mom is in india rite now ... do u know how cheap it would be for his family to hire couple of servents. nurses ,cooks..etc.....to take care of his mom ?....
and here hes telling you tht he needs to get married so someone could take care of his mom ....and your are fallin for tht excuse and thinkin if you say something you are being selfish ..
he actually wants to get married ...and is convinced tht hes better of marrying gal from back home ... now hes willing to do you on the side .. so its up to you if you wanna tag along anyway ... but dont evn for a second believe tht he doesnt want to get married to this desi girl ....

[desi_shawrty]

You should just be like well if you love me so much then why don't you just marry me and i'll help take care of mother in law.
If he says no then obviously that was all an excuse which it probably is.

Dump the dude.

[crayzee]

You should just be like well if you love me so much then why don't you just marry me and i'll help take care of mother in law.
If he says no then obviously that was all an excuse which it probably is.

Dump the dude.dont you worry your pretty lil head about anything....

you just sit there and look pretty :wave:

[-Ziad-]

i thought we told you this and so did TBR?

we didn't like to put it crudely, but yes most desi guys dont consider white girls potentials.

[addiction01]

My boyfriend is getting married too. Sooner or later, anyways.

[Z4K5T4R]

He was using you as time pass and now he knows its time to move on. If he was remotely interested he would have stood by you. 7 Months is nothing! And that rubbish that he's marrying a girl so she can look after his Mum in India - Pssssht feed that info to the dogs.

Its time for YOU to move on, the jerk isn't worth it.

[¤ * HoneY * ¤]

will his gettin married to this girl make the mother feel better?.... i dont kno why desis do this... and in paris they often do this, they get married to grils frm pakstan or india and these girls stay there while the enjoy here wid their gf... some boys are better as they tell gf about it....but still... i dont understand all dis.. i mean when they know how parents will react why do they get into a relationship?

[jat_jatt_sardar]

i always wanted to attend an indian wedding, lol

come here then

[imsocrazii]

lulz wuts up jattman

[SillyKitty]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:

cut him lose quick.


This girl i know is being played liked this too..

He smoothed talked her, and had sex with her. they been together for a year. and like last year, he went to bangladesh, and then called her from out of the blue that he is getting married, and that he is "sorry"

After he came bak, he is still having sex with that girl.. cuz his wife is back home.. :no: And the girl is letting him.

[¤ * HoneY * ¤]

cut him lose quick.


This girl i know is being played liked this too..

He smoothed talked her, and had sex with her. they been together for a year. and like last year, he went to bangladesh, and then called her from out of the blue that he is getting married, and that he is "sorry"

After he came bak, he is still having sex with that girl.. cuz his wife is back home.. :no: And the girl is letting him.

at the beginnin the guy was totally wrong... its so disgustin to do this to a girl... but now the girl is at fault... how an she do this to the wifey? i mean she doesnt even know about it.. i know at the moment my ex told me he said yes to his cousin, i neva met him again...cos why the hell wud these cowards get the gf and the wifey...if they cant their parents they're in love, why shud we stay wid em?

[imsocrazii]

cut him lose quick.


This girl i know is being played liked this too..

He smoothed talked her, and had sex with her. they been together for a year. and like last year, he went to bangladesh, and then called her from out of the blue that he is getting married, and that he is "sorry"

After he came bak, he is still having sex with that girl.. cuz his wife is back home.. :no: And the girl is letting him.

i dont understand guys like that. at leaast mines breaking it off with me. and at least he didnt get married and not tell me.

its gonna be hard because its so sudden and RANDOMM but i figured ill just have a rebound, lol. is that wrong? i dont think so, not if the guy knows. thats the only thing that i can think of to take my mind off of him. :D

[Siesta]

at the beginnin the guy was totally wrong... its so disgustin to do this to a girl... but now the girl is at fault... how an she do this to the wifey? i mean she doesnt even know about it.. i know at the moment my ex told me he said yes to his cousin, i neva met him again...cos why the hell wud these cowards get the gf and the wifey...if they cant their parents they're in love, why shud we stay wid em?

Wow I guess these things happen all the time. I have my own personal story too :-| I am just not the type to talk about such things:-|

[jat_jatt_sardar]

cut him lose quick.


This girl i know is being played liked this too..

He smoothed talked her, and had sex with her. they been together for a year. and like last year, he went to bangladesh, and then called her from out of the blue that he is getting married, and that he is "sorry"

After he came bak, he is still having sex with that girl.. cuz his wife is back home.. :no: And the girl is letting him.
maybe he could marry that one too, so have one wife there and one here.

gharwali baharwali :D

[imsocrazii]

maybe he could marry that one too, so have one wife there and one here.

gharwali baharwali :D

huh?????? noooo :no:

[imsocrazii]

Wow I guess these things happen all the time. I have my own personal story too :-| I am just not the type to talk about such things:-|

come on do tell :neutral:

[_true_definition]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:

when a guy says that, its a cowards way of getting out of it easy! if he really loved you, he would leave everything for you. don't waste your time on this sitution and move on :)


p.s check this thread out..... http://forums.ratedesi.com/showthread.php?t=260208

[imsocrazii]

when a guy says that, its a cowards way of getting out of it easy! if he really loved you, he would leave everything for you. don't waste your time on this sitution and move on :)


p.s check this thread out..... http://by131w.bay131.mail.live.com/mail/mail.aspx

hotmail.com?

[_true_definition]

hotmail.com?

sorry i meant check this out...it sounds like a similar story but from the guys perspective, don't you think?


http://forums.ratedesi.com/showthread.php?t=260208

[PRCIV]

Just move on babe..seriously..you're gonna only embarass yourself further by talking to him

[imsocrazii]

Just move on babe..seriously..you're gonna only embarass yourself further by talking to him

ya i know. its really hard tho. :mad:

[PRCIV]

ya i know. its really hard tho. :mad:

find a new, WHITE bf and it'll be easy

[SarcasmicBengali]

yeah i know a few dudes who used this type of story

messed up part is i know guys with brown gf's that genuinely went through this kinda bullshit too...

still pretty fucked up :|

[imsocrazii]

find a new, WHITE bf and it'll be easy

but im not even attracted to them. whats the point.

[jat_jatt_sardar]

but im not even attracted to them. whats the point.
innit, find a punjabi man instead ;)
punjabi gabroos r attracted to u :rishi:

[PRCIV]

but im not even attracted to them. whats the point.

make yourself attracted to them

[¤ * HoneY * ¤]

make yourself attracted to them

you think its that easy? to get attracted to someone else? it took me almost 3 years to move on...anyways wht we tell her doesnt matter. she needs time dats it...

[jat_jatt_sardar]

Who wants tan paint? :-P

[nabx]

As many of you know, I have/had this punjabi bf for abt 7 months now. I asked him in the VERY beginning if me, being white and all would put the relationship to a dead end in the future, he told me it was fine. But further on I asked him abt mentioning me to his Family, and he said that if he did that, they would disown him, curse him, and kick him out... hes 22 btw.

BUT the situation grew a bit more intense when i asked him again a few days ago and he just decided to tell me he was getting engaged. That he loves me but he just cant do anything abt the sitution. His mom is sick in India and she wants him to get married.

Also the girl his mom has picked for him is in India and basically stay there and only take care of his mom back home. But that he will remain in the U.S. because he has a life here. So he is getting married to her, but wont even see her?

I really am just so out of it right now, and i dont know how to deal with this.

Thanks rd? :dunno:

:run:

At last your single again lol

[PRCIV]

you think its that easy? to get attracted to someone else? it took me almost 3 years to move on...anyways wht we tell her doesnt matter. she needs time dats it...


I'm attracted to you bebe :razz:

[¤ * HoneY * ¤]

I'm attracted to you bebe :razz:

lols ya rite....joker

[desichick_usa]

He's a coward. He promised u all the dreams you guys decorated together, and he himself is detroying them.

Trust me sister, u dont want a man like that.
U'll find some one better who will be with you no matter who is dieng.
Thats why i say, It is better to have a man who doesnt hav

[desichick_usa]

He's a coward. He promised u all the dreams you guys decorated together, and he himself is detroying them.

Trust me sister, u dont want a man like that.
U'll find some one better who will be with you no matter who is dieng.
Thats why i say, It is better to have a man who doesnt have any parents. That way, you will be his first priority and probably the only women in his life, besides his mom.

[simple life]

He's a coward. He promised u all the dreams you guys decorated together, and he himself is detroying them.

Trust me sister, u dont want a man like that.
U'll find some one better who will be with you no matter who is dieng.
Thats why i say, It is better to have a man who doesnt have any parents. That way, you will be his first priority and probably the only women in his life, besides his mom.

:ugh:

[Punjabi_Link]

desi girls :no:

[jat_jatt_sardar]

desi girls :no:
:-|