Is it easy to date people from different walks of life?

[Geezer]

I was watching a movie and sort of starting thinking about this last night. Let's say you were with someone quite sophisticated and career-minded, like works for a progressive company and does well. Their social life is pretty action packed too and they bring out the ambitious side of you. The relationship ends and well blah blah blah you move on and a few months later you meet someone who is quite different to the predecessor...works at a coffee shop or a department store, a little more crazy and free-spirited, has a few good friends and may not be able to relate to you on an academic/career level but has the warmth and compassion you look for in a partner.

So how easy is it to meet people who are fundamentally different but still interest you equally? Have any of you been in a similar situation before and is it easy for you to adapt and yet still be yourself? I don't think I formulated the thread title very well btw but I hope you do get what I'm trying to say :mrhappy:

[ArTmALik]

Go for the heart that keeps u happy not for the mind that gives you thoughts!

[PRCIV]

Nah it's too hard. Especially in a place like NYC where everyone is constantly sizing one another up. I don't think I could ever date a hairstylist or someone that worked at a coffee shop and wasn't trying to do something else.

[Geezer]

Nah it's too hard. Especially in a place like NYC where everyone is constantly sizing one another up. I don't think I could ever date a hairstylist or someone that worked at a coffee shop and wasn't trying to do something else.

But why though, it's a bit of an elitist kinda view isn't it?

[surface2air]

Go for the heart that keeps u happy not for the mind that gives you thoughts!
you are such a romantic.....puke




I think its gonna be hard to maintain a long-term relationship with someone living different lifestyle than yours...

[Siesta]

So how easy is it to meet people who are fundamentally different but still interest you equally? Have any of you been in a similar situation before and is it easy for you to adapt and yet still be yourself? I don't think I formulated the thread title very well btw but I hope you do get what I'm trying to say :mrhappy:

I think its reletively easy, especially if you are looking at personality and maturity. Its also not have a ego problem thinking that someone that works in a department store is beneath you.

[Siesta]

Go for the heart that keeps u happy not for the mind that gives you thoughts!
wow ***applause***

[**bambina**]

I read this line somewhere (well in a artical that a colleague wrote, who is also a lifecouch)

'We tend to look for people who have what we are missing' (kinda like opposites attract)

Also, I think, relationship shouldnt be about 'Oh we have soo much in common'... coz then it gets boring... really boring... I do think you have to have somewhat difference's, but at the same time enjoying things together. Its not about filling the gap, its about adding to your life.

[PRCIV]

But why though, it's a bit of an elitist kinda view isn't it?

In school and now I've always been surrounded by rich, ambitious people, people that wanted to be doctors, lawyers, investment bankers etc so I just don't understand the mentality of someone who's content spending their life doing menial labor plus I'll admit it'd be a little embarrassing to introduce her to my mates.....

[Siesta]

Nah it's too hard. Especially in a place like NYC where everyone is constantly sizing one another up. I don't think I could ever date a hairstylist or someone that worked at a coffee shop and wasn't trying to do something else.

key words......everyone has potential to do greats things...doesnt mean they want to stay there......then those the ones to watch out for :)

[Siesta]

But why though, it's a bit of an elitist kinda view isn't it?
yeah it is but then again who wants to stuck with someone who doesnt want more outta life....wat a drag :neutral:

[surface2air]

In school and now I've always been surrounded by rich, ambitious people, people that wanted to be doctors, lawyers, investment bankers etc so I just don't understand the mentality of someone who's content spending their life doing menial labor plus I'll admit it'd be a little embarrassing to introduce her to my mates.....
nothing wrong with it. Those people are the happiest!

[Geezer]

I think its gonna be hard to maintain a long-term relationship with someone living different lifestyle than yours...

Ok but why?


In school and now I've always been surrounded by rich, ambitious people, people that wanted to be doctors, lawyers, investment bankers etc so I just don't understand the mentality of someone who's content spending their life doing menial labor plus I'll admit it'd be a little embarrassing to introduce her to my mates.....

That's sad if you derive your own worth on the premise of other people's impression of you or your partner. I sometimes fall into that thought trap but surely just because someone is a hairdresser or waiter doesn't mean they are not ambitious...there's nothing wrong with being content, afterall we all seek that in some form or another.

[**bambina**]

In school and now I've always been surrounded by rich, ambitious people, people that wanted to be doctors, lawyers, investment bankers etc so I just don't understand the mentality of someone who's content spending their life doing menial labor plus I'll admit it'd be a little embarrassing to introduce her to my mates.....

Wow. People like you make me sick.

[Siesta]

I read this line somewhere (well in a artical that a colleague wrote, who is also a lifecouch)

'We tend to look for people who have what we are missing' (kinda like opposites attract)

Also, I think, relationship shouldnt be about 'Oh we have soo much in common'... coz then it gets boring... really boring... I do think you have to have somewhat difference's, but at the same time enjoying things together. Its not about filling the gap, its about adding to your life.
very good thoughts

[Geezer]

yeah it is but then again who wants to stuck with someone who doesnt want more outta life....wat a drag :neutral:

Well you're contradicting yourself now with your first statement. What about that level of maturity and personality?

[Siesta]

In school and now I've always been surrounded by rich, ambitious people, people that wanted to be doctors, lawyers, investment bankers etc so I just don't understand the mentality of someone who's content spending their life doing menial labor plus I'll admit it'd be a little embarrassing to introduce her to my mates.....


the funny thing is that contentment is called a rut and wanting to stay there is dangerous....I wouldnt want that either :neutral:

[**bambina**]

Geezer, fine, just ignore my thoughts on this! :hand:

[Geezer]

Geezer, fine, just ignore my thoughts on this! :hand:

Yeah that means I have nothing more to add to that my darling :salut:

[Siesta]

Well you're contradicting yourself now with your first statement. What about that level of maturity and personality?


if someone has that then they wouldnt want to stay where they are.....everyone has ddreams and aspirations.

I was talkin about someone who has someone maturity to think outside of where they are

[PRCIV]

That's sad if you derive your own worth on the premise of other people's impression of you or your partner. I sometimes fall into that thought trap but surely just because someone is a hairdresser or waiter doesn't mean they are not ambitious...there's nothing wrong with being content, afterall we all seek that in some form or another.

I personally think it's a serious character flaw for someone not to strive to be better plus it's just plain embarassing. Imagine being at a party and everyone's a doctor or a lawyer and your gf is a fuckin' hairstylist or whatever...

[PRCIV]

Wow. People like you make me sick.

???

[ArTmALik]

you are such a romantic.....puke




I think its gonna be hard to maintain a long-term relationship with someone living different lifestyle than yours...


Hapiness is not the name of Standard.., If an Emperor falls for some "londia"(slave)it does not mean he becomes a slave too!! ..If people care about maintaining their standard for all of their life, Its just that they couldn't understand the meaning of Joyful LIFE!!!

[**bambina**]

Yeah that means I have nothing more to add to that my darling :salut:


:kekeke:


I just think, the more boundries you set, the more isolated you become. Unfortunately thou, in our culture, many have to set boundries.

[surface2air]

Ok but why?


mainly because dating someone living a different lifestyle than yours means different leisure time activities, which might not interest the other party. For sometime they be fun to hang out with, like going shopping with or movies but as a life partner its not gonna work.

[Geezer]

if someone has that then they wouldnt want to stay where they are.....everyone has ddreams and aspirations.

I was talkin about someone who has someone maturity to think outside of where they are

Just sounded like you've changed your tune.


I personally think it's a serious character flaw for someone not to strive to be better plus it's just plain embarassing. Imagine being at a party and everyone's a doctor or a lawyer and your gf is a fuckin' hairstylist or whatever...

I think it's more embarrassing to be at a party with lawyers and doctors knowing that most of these people have trophy wives and live showcase lives instead of actually living a life free from worrying about what other people think.

[Geezer]

mainly because dating someone living a different lifestyle than yours means different leisure time activities, which might not interest the other party. For sometime they be fun to hang out with, like going shopping with or movies but as a life partner its not gonna work.

Well you can always make it work if you like the person..

[/B]

Hapiness is not the name of Standard.., If an Emperor falls for some "londia"(slave)it does not mean he becomes a slave too!! ..If people care about maintaining their standard for all of their life, Its just that they couldn't understand the meaning of Joyful LIFE!!!

Nicely put :)

[Siesta]

[/B]

Hapiness is not the name of Standard.., If an Emperor falls for some "londia"(slave)it does not mean he becomes a slave too!! ..If people care about maintaining their standard for all of their life, Its just that they couldn't understand the meaning of Joyful LIFE!!!
wow.....nice propective

[ArTmALik]

Just sounded like you've changed your tune.




I think it's more embarrassing to be at a party with lawyers and doctors knowing that most of these people have trophy wives and live showcase lives instead of actually living a life free from worrying about what other people think.

Word!!!

[**bambina**]

mainly because dating someone living a different lifestyle than yours means different leisure time activities, which might not interest the other party. For sometime they be fun to hang out with, like going shopping with or movies but as a life partner its not gonna work.

But isnt that when someone MAKES the effort?

I mean if everything was soo easy... why do we even bother?

I might not like something at all, and lets say, my partner really enjoyed something... for example.. lets take playing golf, I have never seen the logic to it, but if it meant that much to him, I would go and play golf with him. Just like I love dancing, and if he didnt dance, I would like him to make a effort and make time to dance with me. It doesnt have to be a everyday thing... once in awhile you have to make the person feel that they are worth the world.

[**bambina**]

I personally think it's a serious character flaw for someone not to strive to be better plus it's just plain embarassing. Imagine being at a party and everyone's a doctor or a lawyer and your gf is a fuckin' hairstylist or whatever...

HA! I bet your gonna be very happily married.

[nabx]

I was watching a movie and sort of starting thinking about this last night. Let's say you were with someone quite sophisticated and career-minded, like works for a progressive company and does well. Their social life is pretty action packed too and they bring out the ambitious side of you. The relationship ends and well blah blah blah you move on and a few months later you meet someone who is quite different to the predecessor...works at a coffee shop or a department store, a little more crazy and free-spirited, has a few good friends and may not be able to relate to you on an academic/career level but has the warmth and compassion you look for in a partner.

So how easy is it to meet people who are fundamentally different but still interest you equally? Have any of you been in a similar situation before and is it easy for you to adapt and yet still be yourself? I don't think I formulated the thread title very well btw but I hope you do get what I'm trying to say :mrhappy:


I have been thinking about this as well lately

But rather different cultures then walks of life

[Siesta]

Just sounded like you've changed your tune.




I think it's more embarrassing to be at a party with lawyers and doctors knowing that most of these people have trophy wives and live showcase lives instead of actually living a life free from worrying about what other people think.


nahi it wass the same all along........I wasnt clear on what I meant and I cleared it up

because you date a department store worker doesnt mean they are beneath you. that person has to have a certain level of maturity and personality..a person with those attributes never wants to stay where they are

[Siesta]

I have been thinking about this as well lately

But rather different cultures then walks of life
with a common ground together as a couple most couples can enter-twine

[ArTmALik]

wow.....nice propective

Well Geezer has brought a very good point because these days, Everyone is following the "standard"..They are not going for the real happiness which they can have from anyone!! Everyone wants a "Special one"..i mean its like an intel computer ....,People these days are following the "light of temporary happiness"..It really seems nice in the beginning but once you are used to it, you get bored!!and people find different ways to make themselves happy!

[nabx]

with a common ground together as a couple most couples can enter-twine


well i av had positive results

havent decided on any one though

[supremed]

I think that we are attracted to people who are different than ourselves because of the fact that they give a fresh perspective on things
I was involved with someone who was completely different in the personality, style, educational back ground etc etc department...and i had a lot of fun...however eventually i realized that although in the beginning our being so different was a novelty...it soon died out...because at the end of the day we were different..and we liked different things..and also because we didnt have much in common...the differences eventually got the better of us...and we ended it

[surface2air]

[/B]

Hapiness is not the name of Standard.., If an Emperor falls for some "londia"(slave)it does not mean he becomes a slave too!! ..If people care about maintaining their standard for all of their life, Its just that they couldn't understand the meaning of Joyful LIFE!!!
Happiness should be the standard really. Isn't that the reason you get in a relationship to begin with? because the other person makes you happy!
And the example of king and slave is an extreme one. I wouldn't call it maintaining your standard of living all your life, more like adjusting to each others "shit" (lol for the lack of better word). The end result of a relationship should be things moving smoothly and peacefully. and that's why I say it would be easier to date someone living relatively similar lifestyle like yours. Not saying what geezer mentioned can't happen but only if you are like flexible as hell.

[surface2air]

I think that we are attracted to people who are different than ourselves because of the fact that they give a fresh perspective on things
I was involved with someone who was completely different in the personality, style, educational back ground etc etc department...and i had a lot of fun...however eventually i realized that although in the beginning our being so different was a novelty...it soon died out...because at the end of the day we were different..and we liked different things..and also because we didnt have much in common...the differences eventually got the better of us...and we ended it
that's what i'm saying B.

[Geezer]

I think that we are attracted to people who are different than ourselves because of the fact that they give a fresh perspective on things
I was involved with someone who was completely different in the personality, style, educational back ground etc etc department...and i had a lot of fun...however eventually i realized that although in the beginning our being so different was a novelty...it soon died out...because at the end of the day we were different..and we liked different things..and also because we didnt have much in common...the differences eventually got the better of us...and we ended it

Well what goes up must go down I suppose. It's either taking that risk or being with someone who is quite similar to you and run risk of getting bored perhaps?

[Siesta]

Well Geezer has brought a very good point because these days, Everyone is following the "standard"..They are not going for the real happiness which they can have from anyone!! Everyone wants a "Special one"..i mean its like an intel computer ....,People these days are following the "light of temporary happiness"..It really seems nice in the beginning but once you are used to it, you get bored!!and people find different ways to make themselves happy!


yeah....the standard :rolleyes: I would like to know who came up with that. Even I have it :neutral:

Its always going to be a preference still, thats where most peoples standards are...what they want...not what makes them happy.

[Siesta]

well i av had positive results

havent decided on any one though
that means there was no common ground....or the bond wasnt strong enough in the past. There has to be something bigger than just wats different.

[PRCIV]

Well you can always make it work if you like the person..



Nicely put :)

I think you're underestimating the fact that people from different walks of life rarely hang out in social settings as they grow older. I know I don't.

[Siesta]

Well what goes up must go down I suppose. It's either taking that risk or being with someone who is quite similar to you and run risk of getting bored perhaps?
certainly so.....I have only date people that is similiar to me and I have learned that is a bad thing.

All of this has become about each other prospect and reading what everyone is saying.....even if I disagree I can say that they are wrong :)

[Geezer]

I think you're underestimating the fact that people from different walks of life rarely hang out in social settings as they grow older. I know I don't.

Well I'm in banking and my friends are either teachers or work in radio, we usually go to quite low key, artsy places and maybe I'm just more flexible but I actually prefer that to spending time at uppity city places.

[supremed]

Well what goes up must go down I suppose. It's either taking that risk or being with someone who is quite similar to you and run risk of getting bored perhaps?
i think with any relationship, given enough time, you will see the if you dont make the effort, boredom will happen...however i find that if you are in a relationship with someone who has similar interests etc as you...that is something that you can build on, there is more stability there.

however if someone completely different...you will have disagreements on the smallest and most mundane things which just gets in the way of living ur life (i dunno if im making sense)

[ArTmALik]

Happiness should be the standard really. Isn't that the reason you get in a relationship to begin with? because the other person makes you happy!
And the example of king and slave is an extreme one. I wouldn't call it maintaining your standard of living all your life, more like adjusting to each others "shit" (lol for the lack of better word). The end result of a relationship should be things moving smoothly and peacefully. and that's why I say it would be easier to date someone living relatively similar lifestyle like yours. Not saying what geezer mentioned can't happen but only if you are like flexible as hell.

You care about lifestyle,? what does lifestyle mean ?is it just dressing well according to ur standard, having a good job and other things like that ..right ?
But happiness is not one of those "things". Lifestyle is a thing not happiness.
What if you are fucked up in ur life style?what if u are not able to maintain ur standard ?The other person would appericiate it or would be finding another one for the "His/Her Standard"?

As i said, if you go for lifestyle it means you are choosing a fake relationship which is based on "things".

[**bambina**]

I think you're underestimating the fact that people from different walks of life rarely hang out in social settings as they grow older. I know I don't.

Well then your gonna end up with a shallow, all - about - me person like you, innit?

[SarcasmicBengali]

it's not hard... depends on the situation and mindset of both people involved.

when i met my girl i just started college, she was finishin up a year early.

my off time involved drinkin with the boys and chillin in my basement for days on end, while she did full time school + two part time jobs + extra curriculars from school + had time for her family and lil bro + me as well, after i came into the picture.... without neglecting anything in between.

her proactive lifestyle made me all ":think: maybe i shud keep up :|"
so i changed from the laid back bum with no credit to now owning a car and living on my own in 3 years :p



so it's really not hard... if personality is a match, the chemistry works then everything else is just another of life's little things that gotta be dealt with and handled.

[PRCIV]

Well then your gonna end up with a shallow, all - about - me person like you, innit?

What r u banging on about ? It's just about different perspectives on life

[xhiax]

i have always seem to be interested in people who are very different to me .. :dunno: or bring something different with them .. just because it allows me learn about things im not used to, allows me experience things which i wouldnt other wise..

one of the guys who i had the biggest crush on, was a high school drop out, into crazy stuff i.e. drugs/drinking/driving like maniac [i know you already think im a bad boy kinda girl but its not true]
with this particular guy i dont know what it was but i could still relate to him in some way .. he was someone who the society rejected where as me, i wanted an escape from my perfect life so i guess both secluded in one way or another .. im probably not explainin it well :ashamed:

however, now im kinda more into people who i can relate to on a mental level .. yet would like them to be different ..

[**bambina**]

Well I'm in banking and my friends are either teachers or work in radio, we usually go to quite low key, artsy places and maybe I'm just more flexible but I actually prefer that to spending time at uppity city places.

I am whore, wanna spend time with me?


(and I cant believe I said that!)

[Siesta]

however, now im kinda more into people who i can relate to on a mental level .. yet would like them to be different ..

:cheers: same here

[ArTmALik]

i think with any relationship, given enough time, you will see the if you dont make the effort, boredom will happen...however i find that if you are in a relationship with someone who has similar interests etc as you...that is something that you can build on, there is more stability there.

however if someone completely different...you will have disagreements on the smallest and most mundane things which just gets in the way of living ur life (i dunno if im making sense)

You have a point but believe me, if you are completely different from your partner, you will have a great time!!!
The person who is just like you" you will get bored soon".

[supremed]

that's what i'm saying B.
great minds sir

[PRCIV]

Well I'm in banking and my friends are either teachers or work in radio, we usually go to quite low key, artsy places and maybe I'm just more flexible but I actually prefer that to spending time at uppity city places.

Yea I dont have any friends in those professions, they're either on Wall Street or running a family business

[SarcasmicBengali]

i have always seem to be interested in people who are very different to me .. :dunno: or bring something different with them .. just because it allows me learn about things im not used to, allows me experience things which i wouldnt other wise..

one of the guys who i had the biggest crush on, was a high school drop out, into crazy stuff i.e. drugs/drinking/driving like maniac [i know you already think im a bad boy kinda girl but its not true]
with this particular guy i dont know what it was but i could still relate to him in some way .. he was someone who the society rejected where as me, i wanted an escape from my perfect life so i guess both secluded in one way or another .. im probably not explainin it well :ashamed:

however, now im kinda more into people who i can relate to on a mental level .. yet would like them to be different ..

nah it makes sence.
i mean i still think you're a freak on a leash... but what you said is common.

people sub-consciously will be attracted to others who have what they lack, be it in personality, lifestyle, etc...
in situations like these the whole 'opposites attract' thing is true... just not as simple :p

[ArTmALik]

i have always seem to be interested in people who are very different to me .. :dunno: or bring something different with them .. just because it allows me learn about things im not used to, allows me experience things which i wouldnt other wise..

one of the guys who i had the biggest crush on, was a high school drop out, into crazy stuff i.e. drugs/drinking/driving like maniac [i know you already think im a bad boy kinda girl but its not true]
with this particular guy i dont know what it was but i could still relate to him in some way .. he was someone who the society rejected where as me, i wanted an escape from my perfect life so i guess both secluded in one way or another .. im probably not explainin it well :ashamed:

however, now im kinda more into people who i can relate to on a mental level .. yet would like them to be different ..


I am very differernt.I can change myself for anyone.!

[Siesta]

You have a point but believe me, if you are completely different from your partner, you will have a great time!!!.
its understandin that makes the difference

[ArTmALik]

its understandin that makes the difference

Nope its not understanding..its your mind only!, once you are in relation with anyone ,Go by ur heart!!!just dont use enough mind .

[Siesta]

it's not hard... depends on the situation and mindset of both people involved.

when i met my girl i just started college, she was finishin up a year early.

my off time involved drinkin with the boys and chillin in my basement for days on end, while she did full time school + two part time jobs + extra curriculars from school + had time for her family and lil bro + me as well, after i came into the picture.... without neglecting anything in between.

her proactive lifestyle made me all ":think: maybe i shud keep up :|"
so i changed from the laid back bum with no credit to now owning a car and living on my own in 3 years :p



so it's really not hard... if personality is a match, the chemistry works then everything else is just another of life's little things that gotta be dealt with and handled.


I have had to up my game for too. Because for what i want, I better be super ambitious to keep up. I have started dressin more sofisticated and all that....I too think someone like that can only bring out the best in you if the have the right attitude :)

[xhiax]

nah it makes sence.
i mean i still think you're a freak on a leash... but what you said is common.

people sub-consciously will be attracted to others who have what they lack, be it in personality, lifestyle, etc...
in situations like these the whole 'opposites attract' thing is true... just not as simple :p

i totally agree, i mean its easier to be with someone who likes/enjoys things as you .. but that kinda life sounds boring to me, i like challenges and am always willing to try new things ..
so i guess the weirder the better :kekeke:

[confucius99]

I personally think it's a serious character flaw for someone not to strive to be better plus it's just plain embarassing. Imagine being at a party and everyone's a doctor or a lawyer and your gf is a fuckin' hairstylist or whatever...

Interesting, without romanticising this, surely the only thing that should matter is that the person makes you happy, on an intellectual, humour and romantic level. otherwise i would assume you are only dating that person because of their looks.

PS: my friend who is a professional hairstylist earns more than i do. so its not all about being a doctor, lawyer etc

[Siesta]

Nope its not understanding..its your mind only!, once you are in relation with anyone ,Go by ur heart!!!just dont use enough mind .
that makes me want to cry :tears:

I have been told that line so many times in the pass week in regards to someone and I didnt listen :neutral:

[supremed]

Nope its not understanding..its your mind only!, once you are in relation with anyone ,Go by ur heart!!!just dont use enough mind .
which fortune cookie did you pick that from....thats the worst possible piece of advice i've ever heard

[Geezer]

I am whore, wanna spend time with me?


(and I cant believe I said that!)

Not the first time I heard that :hand: high five


Yea I dont have any friends in those professions, they're either on Wall Street or running a family business

Get me a job, I need to get out of this shit hole :rofl:

[xhiax]

I am very differernt.I can change myself for anyone.!

i dont think its about changing for someone completely but more about compromising a few things .. but this needs to come from both sides
although one party may be willing to do so more, i still think this results in a one sided relationship .. :dunno:

[Siesta]

Yea I dont have any friends in those professions, they're either on Wall Street or running a family business
same here my friends are all professionals too....and its not that I dont hang around others....I want to be better so I hang around others that stretch me

[(sic)]

Nope its not understanding..its your mind only!, once you are in relation with anyone ,Go by ur heart!!!just dont use enough mind .
hahahah genius

[PRCIV]

Interesting, without romanticising this, surely the only thing that should matter is that the person makes you happy, on an intellectual, humour and romantic level. otherwise i would assume you are only dating that person because of their looks.

PS: my friend who is a professional hairstylist earns more than i do. so its not all about being a doctor, lawyer etc

But most people don't connect with people that are from different backgrounds

[SarcasmicBengali]

I have had to up my game for too. Because for what i want, I better be super ambitious to keep up. I have started dressin more sofisticated and all that....I too think someone like that can only bring out the best in you if the have the right attitude :)

well yea, its still about you at the end of the day.
i mean if you don't feel like it you're not gonna do what you're capable it.

and someone else or not... they can only have an influence...rest is upto you.

[Siesta]

which fortune cookie did you pick that from....thats the worst possible piece of advice i've ever heard
on the contrary when you think too much it creates confusion.....its either follow your heart or wait till you head and heart connect.

[supremed]

I am very differernt.I can change myself for anyone.!
dude i shall say one thing
be urself...do not mold urself to what you think ur significant other wants...if you keep changing urself...you will find that really you dont know who you are or what you want in life
and the person who you changed for will not really be as attracted to you

[ilyas@!!oops!!]

i have always seem to be interested in people who are very different to me .. :dunno: or bring something different with them .. just because it allows me learn about things im not used to, allows me experience things which i wouldnt other wise..

one of the guys who i had the biggest crush on, was a high school drop out, into crazy stuff i.e. drugs/drinking/driving like maniac [i know you already think im a bad boy kinda girl but its not true]
with this particular guy i dont know what it was but i could still relate to him in some way .. he was someone who the society rejected where as me, i wanted an escape from my perfect life so i guess both secluded in one way or another .. im probably not explainin it well :ashamed:

however, now im kinda more into people who i can relate to on a mental level .. yet would like them to be different ..

stop it ur making me :lulz:

[Sweet_LiL_Hunnie]

i come from a mixed family but a lot of my cousins are mixed as well so from what i've seen in life love never comes easily but sometimes you can have more in common with people that don't come from your cultural background.

[ArTmALik]

that makes me want to cry :tears:

I have been told that line so many times in the pass week in regards to someone and I didnt listen :neutral:

Which line ?
Relationships which are made by using Minds are always too weak.Both of them always thinking about eachother's Standard, likes and dislikes and other bullshits.Honestly speaking when you make a heartly relationship..You dont even notice anything..You are always welcome with a true smile which is not "created" to make u feel good.. but the other side , it always happen in relationships which are based on lifestyle .

[PRCIV]

Get me a job, I need to get out of this shit hole :rofl:

I thought you guys were raking in the dough in London

[Siesta]

well yea, its still about you at the end of the day.
i mean if you don't feel like it you're not gonna do what you're capable it.

and someone else or not... they can only have an influence...rest is upto you.
really really true :)

[SarcasmicBengali]

i totally agree, i mean its easier to be with someone who likes/enjoys things as you .. but that kinda life sounds boring to me, i like challenges and am always willing to try new things ..
so i guess the weirder the better :kekeke:

well there'll be some thing that you'll have in commong fo sheezy.
be it movies, books, way of thought, lifestyle, etc...
otherwise there's nottin you wouldn've been attracted to in the first place.

but you don't need to agree on EVERYTHING.
and that allows you to hold on to your individuality and not become "do dil ek jaan" kinda bullshit :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

that way the relationship doesn't define, despite how important it is to you.

[supremed]

on the contrary when you think too much it creates confusion.....its either follow your heart or wait till you head and heart connect.
head...heart...heart...head....what is all this crap siesta...i thought you were better than that....

you have to know what you want in ur head...always follow ur head...and if ur into fruit loops...follow ur nose ( :lulz: )

[Siesta]

dude i shall say one thing
be urself...do not mold urself to what you think ur significant other wants...if you keep changing urself...you will find that really you dont know who you are or what you want


well put

[xhiax]

stop it ur making me :lulz:

:rofl: oo shhh u!!

i bet you didnt even read it :hand:

[SarcasmicBengali]

really really true :)

i only smack you with the truth hun... only truth. :eyebrow:

[Geezer]

I thought you guys were raking in the dough in London

Yeah totally, though its more a change of scenery for me. Im hoping to either go to Hong Kong or New York in the next few years for work.

[Siesta]

Which line ?
Relationships which are made by using Minds are always too weak.Both of them always thinking about eachother's Standard, likes and dislikes and other bullshits.Honestly speaking when you make a heartly relationship..You dont even notice anything..You are always welcome with a true smile which is not "created" to make u feel good.. but the other side , it always happen in relationships which are based on lifestyle .
well put...cool prospective :)

[PRCIV]

Yeah totally, though its more a change of scenery for me. Im hoping to either go to Hong Kong or New York in the next few years for work.

True a change of scenery is always good. NY will need some time to recover though.....

[supremed]

well put
i know...cuz I SAID IT :lulz:

[PRCIV]

head...heart...heart...head....what is all this crap siesta...i thought you were better than that....

you have to know what you want in ur head...always follow ur head...and if ur into fruit loops...follow ur nose ( :lulz: )

I want the FOB chick from NYU that I was cockblocked from a couple of months ago

[Geezer]

True a change of scenery is always good. NY will need some time to recover though.....

A lot of treasury and trust roles going actually, I've been doing some research. But I doubt they'd take people on from aboard at this point in time.

[xhiax]

well there'll be some thing that you'll have in commong fo sheezy.
be it movies, books, way of thought, lifestyle, etc...
otherwise there's nottin you wouldn've been attracted to in the first place.

but you don't need to agree on EVERYTHING.
and that allows you to hold on to your individuality and not become "do dil ek jaan" kinda bullshit :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

that way the relationship doesn't define, despite how important it is to you.

obviously there has to be that one thing which brings you close and actually helps initiate the relationship

and lol @ do dil ek jaan :rofl: so true!!

[supremed]

I want the FOB chick from NYU that I was cockblocked from a couple of months ago
then my friend...i think that you need to get her

any ideas as to how ur going to get her?

[Siesta]

head...heart...heart...head....what is all this crap siesta...i thought you were better than that....

you have to know what you want in ur head...always follow ur head...and if ur into fruit loops...follow ur nose ( :lulz: )

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: Its this head heart stuff that has turn my world upside down last week :neutral: I wass told I think to much and I need to stop thinking so much :neutral: all of a sudden that mess has me confused. I dont like confuseion so I cut it all off :cool:
so that is why I am talking like this...cause I am thinking maybe I should be more open to the idea :dunno:

[**bambina**]

BTW, Did you watch Enchanted by any chance? :lol:

[PRCIV]

then my friend...i think that you need to get her

any ideas as to how ur going to get her?

I think I'm going to go stand outside her house or maybe outside NYU and wait there until I see her

[ArTmALik]

which fortune cookie did you pick that from....thats the worst possible piece of advice i've ever heard

Ok i give u an example what happens in the relationships which are based on lifestyle .

Lifestyle couple:
The girl: Hi, how are you ? anything "Special"Today ?

The guy: Hello ,Not bad, hmm well nothing special ..How about yourself"?did you have a good day at job?

Heart Couple:
The girl: Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii sweetyyyyyyyyyyyy hows ya ?damn i missed u so much..

The guy: :D Yooooo!!me too..i lub jo!!!

The second couple wudnt be needing to ask any question ,they wud just get by their expressions what happens and all, unlike the lifestyle couple.

[SarcasmicBengali]

obviously there has to be that one thing which brings you close and actually helps initiate the relationship

and lol @ do dil ek jaan :rofl: so true!!

man i fuckin hate couples who have no lives outside their own.
'you're my lover, friend, family and everything... i don't need anything else'

i had this one ex who was like that... and i was outta there so fast she was all 'wtf just happened?! :| '

you need to have some sort of personal independance and individuality man... if it becomes a co dependant relationship... then you're just so fucked socialy / emotionaly..
and eventualy the relationship suffers too...

[supremed]

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: Its this head heart stuff that has turn my world upside down last week :neutral: I wass told I think to much and I need to stop thinking so much :neutral: all of a sudden that mess has me confused. I dont like confuseion so I cut it all off :cool:
so that is why I am talking like this...cause I am thinking maybe I should be more open to the idea :dunno:
think clearly...dont fall victim to the heart bullshit...ur only going to regret that later...theres no such thing as thinking too much...thinking and then acting on what youve cleary and carefully thought about...is extremely important

[SarcasmicBengali]

BTW, Did you watch Enchanted by any chance? :lol:

heard about it... sound's cool
looked funny... 'no no, dont sing... :| '

[Siesta]

i know...cuz I SAID IT :lulz:
:lol:

[indesicive]

its easy to take a snobbish view on this and look down on someone just because they are earning less than you. The class / caste system is what brought all this about and is just another way of isolating someone from society just because blah blah - its weak and unjustified.

barring strippers, prostitutes and others in degrading jobs, i wouldnt descriminate so long as shes just as open-minded

[supremed]

Ok i give u an example what happens in the relationships which are based on lifestyle .

Lifestyle couple:
The girl: Hi, how are you ? anything "Special"Today ?

The guy: Hello ,Not bad, hmm well nothing special ..How about yourself"?did you have a good day at job?

Heart Couple:
The girl: Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii sweetyyyyyyyyyyyy hows ya ?damn i missed u so much..

The guy: :D Yooooo!!me too..i lub jo!!!

The second couple wudnt be needing to ask any question ,they wud just get by their expressions what happens and all, unlike the lifestyle couple.
:rofl: you convinced me with ur examples braa :neutral:

[Siesta]

BTW, Did you watch Enchanted by any chance? :lol:
no I want to see it tho :)

[**bambina**]

heard about it... sound's cool
looked funny... 'no no, dont sing... :| '

Its soo beautiful. I watched it with my nephew!

[nabx]

i come from a mixed family but a lot of my cousins are mixed as well so from what i've seen in life love never comes easily but sometimes you can have more in common with people that don't come from your cultural background.


This is so true!

[SarcasmicBengali]

Ok i give u an example what happens in the relationships which are based on lifestyle .

Lifestyle couple:
The girl: Hi, how are you ? anything "Special"Today ?

The guy: Hello ,Not bad, hmm well nothing special ..How about yourself"?did you have a good day at job?

Heart Couple:
The girl: Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii sweetyyyyyyyyyyyy hows ya ?damn i missed u so much..

The guy: :D Yooooo!!me too..i lub jo!!!

The second couple wudnt be needing to ask any question ,they wud just get by their expressions what happens and all, unlike the lifestyle couple.

you're right... questions are the number one killah of relationships.
this one time a girl was all 'where should we go for dinner' and i was all 'fuck off bitch! if you loved me you'd know from my expressions!!! :cry: '



i feel ya...

[SarcasmicBengali]

Its soo beautiful. I watched it with my nephew!

i dwnloaded it for girl's sister... i guess i cud watch it b4 i give it to her.
need to man it up somehow :think:

beer and chips... while hand in pants!
excele-ma-lent... :evil_lau:

[Siesta]

think clearly...dont fall victim to the heart bullshit...ur only going to regret that later...theres no such thing as thinking too much...thinking and then acting on what youve cleary and carefully thought about...is extremely important
using your head because you want to avoid hurt and pain....I dont think is such a good idea....I mean it will turn into a job....tryin to run all the time :squint: dont yah think?

[indesicive]

excele-ma-lent... :evil_lau:


seems this is your buzz word for the day ;)

[xhiax]

man i fuckin hate couples who have no lives outside their own.
'you're my lover, friend, family and everything... i don't need anything else'

i had this one ex who was like that... and i was outta there so fast she was all 'wtf just happened?! :| '

you need to have some sort of personal independance and individuality man... if it becomes a co dependant relationship... then you're just so fucked socialy / emotionaly..
and eventualy the relationship suffers too...

agreed .. :no: i know couple who are with each other all day all night, as cute as that is, its still a big no no in my opinion .. people need other people too to stay sane :no:

i also hate the stalkerish/controlling/ type of people too .. its like i dont need to tell you about my every second .. seriously some people need to just chill :-|

[Siesta]

Ok i give u an example what happens in the relationships which are based on lifestyle .

Lifestyle couple:
The girl: Hi, how are you ? anything "Special"Today ?

The guy: Hello ,Not bad, hmm well nothing special ..How about yourself"?did you have a good day at job?

Heart Couple:
The girl: Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii sweetyyyyyyyyyyyy hows ya ?damn i missed u so much..

The guy: :D Yooooo!!me too..i lub jo!!!

The second couple wudnt be needing to ask any question ,they wud just get by their expressions what happens and all, unlike the lifestyle couple.
:hyper:

nice examples...you must be a good mood today...like the way you think :lulz:

[supremed]

I think I'm going to go stand outside her house or maybe outside NYU and wait there until I see her
:lol: dont you know any mutual friends....oh how about facebook..msg her through there

[Geezer]

using your head because you want to avoid hurt and pain....I dont think is such a good idea....I mean it will turn into a job....tryin to run all the time :squint: dont yah think?

Well I can see the logic in what he's saying and I do like to approach certain aspects of life like that but then at the same time I would also like to meet that person who doesn't make me feel like I have to be so concerned and almost calculative all the time. Someone that allows me to be weak and doesn't then use it against me. Probably a healthy mix of the two is acceptable.

[PRCIV]

agreed .. :no: i know couple who are with each other all day all night, as cute as that is, its still a big no no in my opinion .. people need other people too to stay sane :no:

i also hate the stalkerish/controlling/ type of people too .. its like i dont need to tell you about my every second .. seriously some people need to just chill :-|

So you need your slag time ? I see

[kucchnahi]

I was watching a movie and sort of starting thinking about this last night. Let's say you were with someone quite sophisticated and career-minded, like works for a progressive company and does well. Their social life is pretty action packed too and they bring out the ambitious side of you. The relationship ends and well blah blah blah you move on and a few months later you meet someone who is quite different to the predecessor...works at a coffee shop or a department store, a little more crazy and free-spirited, has a few good friends and may not be able to relate to you on an academic/career level but has the warmth and compassion you look for in a partner.

So how easy is it to meet people who are fundamentally different but still interest you equally? Have any of you been in a similar situation before and is it easy for you to adapt and yet still be yourself? I don't think I formulated the thread title very well btw but I hope you do get what I'm trying to say :mrhappy:

And people say I write essays. Tsk. Tsk. :cop:

[supremed]

using your head because you want to avoid hurt and pain....I dont think is such a good idea....I mean it will turn into a job....tryin to run all the time :squint: dont yah think?
no i dont think thats true at all...investment of time (or emotion etc) is extremely important...before i invest anything whether its money or time (one and the same really) i think about whether its worth my while to do so...and if isnt then i move onto something else that is worth my while
There is an opportunity cost for everything...the time you spend with a person who in ur head you know is wrong for you...can be spent on someone that is right for you...however if you choose to ignore ur head and ur thoughts...u will find out sooner or later that ur time couldve been spent in a better way...and THAT is the mofuggin troof

[PRCIV]

:lol: dont you know any mutual friends....oh how about facebook..msg her through there

dude the situation is complicated becoz i met her through her roomate, who is like her childhood friend, and he's cockblocking me, evil bastard....

[musicchic33]

In school and now I've always been surrounded by rich, ambitious people, people that wanted to be doctors, lawyers, investment bankers etc so I just don't understand the mentality of someone who's content spending their life doing menial labor plus I'll admit it'd be a little embarrassing to introduce her to my mates.....

lol everyone's hating on him, but I get what he's saying

Sure, if you have other interests in common that will keep you together for a while, but if the your ideals and basic fundamentals differ...it's only a matter of time until you naturally grow apart from each other

[Geezer]

And people say I write essays. Tsk. Tsk. :cop:

No people say you are lame and weird.

[Siesta]

This is so true!
I dunno how i missed what she said but ditto to that :)

[kucchnahi]

No people say you are lame and weird.

Shurrrrrup. :p

:angel:

[ArTmALik]

dude i shall say one thing
be urself...do not mold urself to what you think ur significant other wants...if you keep changing urself...you will find that really you dont know who you are or what you want in life
and the person who you changed for will not really be as attracted to you

Can i be like you ?
:D

[PRCIV]

lol everyone's hating on him, but I get what he's saying

Sure, if you have other interests in common that will keep you together for a while, but if the your ideals and basic fundamentals differ...it's only a matter of time until you naturally grow apart from each other

ILU

[Geezer]

Shurrrrrup. :p

:angel:

lol do you not have anything interesting to say loserface?

[Siesta]

Well I can see the logic in what he's saying and I do like to approach certain aspects of life like that but then at the same time I would also like to meet that person who doesn't make me feel like I have to be so concerned and almost calculative all the time. Someone that allows me to be weak and doesn't then use it against me. Probably a healthy mix of the two is acceptable.
You are now speaking my language :lulz:
I am almost to the point of tired of thinking to much...the cost and prize has been too great. Now I am in a period of confusion which I dont like but for change to happen there has to be some sort of hurt. But like you said a healthy mix is greater because my thinking has almost saved me from even more heartache :yes:

[xhiax]

So you need your slag time ? I see

yes totally!! a person needs atleast a little free time, even if its just to have a bath .. :-|

wtf is up with guys who just wont leave you alone .. like they'd text and if you dont text back the same min .. they send another one saying why you didnt :-|

and tbh i aint the kind who will mess around with someone else while in a relationship but being with him 24/7 is another thing i cant do .. i'd be bored after a week .. lol

[kucchnahi]

lol do you not have anything interesting to say loserface?

What, what? (Rubs eyes.) Surely, my eyes decieve me. Does Geezy want to hear what I have to say? :angel:

[supremed]

dude the situation is complicated becoz i met her through her roomate, who is like her childhood friend, and he's cockblocking me, evil bastard....
who cares about the dude...hes just pissed cuz hes been friendzoned...brotherfied even...that is something that will work to you advantage actually...however i say msg her on facebook and converse a lil
get her number etc etc
the dude can try all he likes but as soon as ur in...he's out

[SarcasmicBengali]

seems this is your buzz word for the day ;)

this be my buzz word all day e'eryday homes.

you don't know me... :hand:

[PRCIV]

who cares about the dude...hes just pissed cuz hes been friendzoned...brotherfied even...that is something that will work to you advantage actually...however i say msg her on facebook and converse a lil
get her number etc etc
the dude can try all he likes but as soon as ur in...he's out

Werd, I'm gonna try the facebook thing, as soon as I set up an account.....

[supremed]

Can i be like you ?
:D
i fucking knew it...ur fucking with everyone on here arent you....this whole thing is just one big set up

[SarcasmicBengali]

agreed .. :no: i know couple who are with each other all day all night, as cute as that is, its still a big no no in my opinion .. people need other people too to stay sane :no:

i also hate the stalkerish/controlling/ type of people too .. its like i dont need to tell you about my every second .. seriously some people need to just chill :-|

just smack em around and hope they life it rough, that way the relationship can revolve around rough sex from then on.
and it's win-win... you get your frurstration out and they get their jollies...

it's your only hope... :p

[supremed]

Werd, I'm gonna try the facebook thing, as soon as I set up an account.....
nice

[musicchic33]

Ok i give u an example what happens in the relationships which are based on lifestyle .

Lifestyle couple:
The girl: Hi, how are you ? anything "Special"Today ?

The guy: Hello ,Not bad, hmm well nothing special ..How about yourself"?did you have a good day at job?

Heart Couple:
The girl: Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii sweetyyyyyyyyyyyy hows ya ?damn i missed u so much..

The guy: :D Yooooo!!me too..i lub jo!!!

The second couple wudnt be needing to ask any question ,they wud just get by their expressions what happens and all, unlike the lifestyle couple.
lol awww

[Siesta]

no i dont think thats true at all...investment of time (or emotion etc) is extremely important...before i invest anything whether its money or time (one and the same really) i think about whether its worth my while to do so...and if isnt then i move onto something else that is worth my while
There is an opportunity cost for everything...the time you spend with a person who in ur head you know is wrong for you...can be spent on someone that is right for you...however if you choose to ignore ur head and ur thoughts...u will find out sooner or later that ur time couldve been spent in a better way...and THAT is the mofuggin troof

:shock: :shock: :shock: it is.....I dont know why one little situation has got me thinking crazy.......women and thier madness :rolleyes:
sooner or later is rite

[ArTmALik]

:hyper:

nice examples...you must be a good mood today...like the way you think :lulz:

Well i think nicely and softly but there need to be good topics to talk to ..most of the topics here are bogus and useless where i dont need to bring "my thoughts".

[xogirlie girlxo]

GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH I'd just like to say for a group of young ass people you all sure do act like u know a ton about relationships, and everything else for that matter. N e wayz honestly in the long run, things like music, movies, clothes, career, can innitially attract u to a person, but those things r superficial, u cant base a whole relationship on stuff like that. What u can build a foundation on is personality, the way u and ur significant other react to things, how u feel about kids, ur ethics, ur view on life.Theres nothing wrong with being with a laid back person or being a hair dresser. The hair dresser can one day open up a really chic salon and make millions. From the looks of it, today, money= power/respect, so as long as ur smart enough to be resourceful and turn what u love doing into something profitable then arent u as smart as someone with an MBA, esp if u didnt need a degree to teach u how to have a friggin business mind? For god sakes ppl theres so many factors that go into building a relationship, and everyone is so idealistic here, some of u really need a wake up call.

[BilalisPakistani]

Who cares, all you need is love.

:gay:

[xhiax]

just smack em around and hope they life it rough, that way the relationship can revolve around rough sex from then on.
and it's win-win... you get your frurstration out and they get their jollies...

it's your only hope... :p

:rofl: :rofl: i like the way you think :rofl: :rofl:

[supremed]

:shock: :shock: :shock: it is.....I dont know why one little situation has got me thinking crazy.......women and thier madness :rolleyes:
sooner or later is rite
yeah you broads need to sit back and let us do the thinking

[BilalisPakistani]

GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH I'd just like to say for a group of young ass people you all sure do act like u know a ton about relationships, and everything else for that matter. N e wayz honestly in the long run, things like music, movies, clothes, career, can innitially attract u to a person, but those things r superficial, u cant base a whole relationship on stuff like that. What u can build a foundation on is personality, the way u and ur significant other react to things, how u feel about kids, ur ethics, ur view on life.Theres nothing wrong with being with a laid back person or being a hair dresser. The hair dresser can one day open up a really chic salon and make millions. From the looks of it, today, money= power/respect, so as long as ur smart enough to be resourceful and turn what u love doing into something profitable then arent u as smart as someone with an MBA, esp if u didnt need a degree to teach u how to have a friggin business mind? For god sakes ppl theres so many factors that go into building a relationship, and everyone is so idealistic here, some of u really need a wake up call.
Lol @ the jailbait.

[Siesta]

Can i be like you ?
:D
your heart rules...but he let his thinking rules...I am not sure if there is a rite or wrong.
for me....ruling with my heart makes me weak

[supremed]

GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH I'd just like to say for a group of young ass people you all sure do act like u know a ton about relationships, and everything else for that matter. N e wayz honestly in the long run, things like music, movies, clothes, career, can innitially attract u to a person, but those things r superficial, u cant base a whole relationship on stuff like that. What u can build a foundation on is personality, the way u and ur significant other react to things, how u feel about kids, ur ethics, ur view on life.Theres nothing wrong with being with a laid back person or being a hair dresser. The hair dresser can one day open up a really chic salon and make millions. From the looks of it, today, money= power/respect, so as long as ur smart enough to be resourceful and turn what u love doing into something profitable then arent u as smart as someone with an MBA, esp if u didnt need a degree to teach u how to have a friggin business mind? For god sakes ppl theres so many factors that go into building a relationship, and everyone is so idealistic here, some of u really need a wake up call.
didnt read a word..however i shall say STFU noob

[Geezer]

GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH I'd just like to say for a group of young ass people you all sure do act like u know a ton about relationships, and everything else for that matter. N e wayz honestly in the long run, things like music, movies, clothes, career, can innitially attract u to a person, but those things r superficial, u cant base a whole relationship on stuff like that. What u can build a foundation on is personality, the way u and ur significant other react to things, how u feel about kids, ur ethics, ur view on life.Theres nothing wrong with being with a laid back person or being a hair dresser. The hair dresser can one day open up a really chic salon and make millions. From the looks of it, today, money= power/respect, so as long as ur smart enough to be resourceful and turn what u love doing into something profitable then arent u as smart as someone with an MBA, esp if u didnt need a degree to teach u how to have a friggin business mind? For god sakes ppl theres so many factors that go into building a relationship, and everyone is so idealistic here, some of u really need a wake up call.

lol who are you calling a 'young ass people' ms 18?

[PRCIV]

GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH I'd just like to say for a group of young ass people you all sure do act like u know a ton about relationships, and everything else for that matter. N e wayz honestly in the long run, things like music, movies, clothes, career, can innitially attract u to a person, but those things r superficial, u cant base a whole relationship on stuff like that. What u can build a foundation on is personality, the way u and ur significant other react to things, how u feel about kids, ur ethics, ur view on life.Theres nothing wrong with being with a laid back person or being a hair dresser. The hair dresser can one day open up a really chic salon and make millions. From the looks of it, today, money= power/respect, so as long as ur smart enough to be resourceful and turn what u love doing into something profitable then arent u as smart as someone with an MBA, esp if u didnt need a degree to teach u how to have a friggin business mind? For god sakes ppl theres so many factors that go into building a relationship, and everyone is so idealistic here, some of u really need a wake up call.


lol at this kid

[supremed]

GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH I'd just like to say for a group of young ass people you all sure do act like u know a ton about relationships, and everything else for that matter. N e wayz honestly in the long run, things like music, movies, clothes, career, can innitially attract u to a person, but those things r superficial, u cant base a whole relationship on stuff like that. What u can build a foundation on is personality, the way u and ur significant other react to things, how u feel about kids, ur ethics, ur view on life.Theres nothing wrong with being with a laid back person or being a hair dresser. The hair dresser can one day open up a really chic salon and make millions. From the looks of it, today, money= power/respect, so as long as ur smart enough to be resourceful and turn what u love doing into something profitable then arent u as smart as someone with an MBA, esp if u didnt need a degree to teach u how to have a friggin business mind? For god sakes ppl theres so many factors that go into building a relationship, and everyone is so idealistic here, some of u really need a wake up call.
also i would invest in some paragraphs

[xogirlie girlxo]

ROFL ppl I am 20, that puts me in the same age group as a lot of you!!!!

[indesicive]

GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH I'd just like to say for a group of young ass people you all sure do act like u know a ton about relationships, and everything else for that matter. N e wayz honestly in the long run, things like music, movies, clothes, career, can innitially attract u to a person, but those things r superficial, u cant base a whole relationship on stuff like that. What u can build a foundation on is personality, the way u and ur significant other react to things, how u feel about kids, ur ethics, ur view on life.Theres nothing wrong with being with a laid back person or being a hair dresser. The hair dresser can one day open up a really chic salon and make millions. From the looks of it, today, money= power/respect, so as long as ur smart enough to be resourceful and turn what u love doing into something profitable then arent u as smart as someone with an MBA, esp if u didnt need a degree to teach u how to have a friggin business mind? For god sakes ppl theres so many factors that go into building a relationship, and everyone is so idealistic here, some of u really need a wake up call.

Yussi in disguise?? :think:

[musicchic33]

ILU
werd.

It's also a matter of your upbringing and just the general lifestyle you grew up around. For example, some people would be content with a basic high school education, while others need doctorates, law/med degrees, etc.

Where I come from, it's just part of the mold you fall into...but I'd like to think of it as a standard of sorts.

[kucchnahi]

Geezy, did you ignore me and my conniving way to get you to want (horror of horrors) an essay from me? :p

:angel:

[BilalisPakistani]

ROFL ppl I am 20, that puts me in the same age group as a lot of you!!!!
Lol you cant even drink yet.

Children.

[Geezer]

ROFL ppl I am 20, that puts me in the same age group as a lot of you!!!!

Well its usually 18-21 so you're still pretty much a douchebaby.

[ArTmALik]

i fucking knew it...ur fucking with everyone on here arent you....this whole thing is just one big set up

V 4 Vendetta and V 4 Victory!

[xogirlie girlxo]

also i would invest in some paragraphs
Shut up I worked so hard :(

[BadFingerBoogie]

lol at this kid

lol.

[PRCIV]

werd.

It's also a matter of your upbringing and just the general lifestyle you grew up around. For example, some people would be content with a basic high school education, while others need doctorates, law/med degrees, etc.

Where I come from, it's just part of the mold you fall into...but I'd like to think of it as a standard of sorts.

Exactly.

[Siesta]

What, what? (Rubs eyes.) Surely, my eyes decieve me. Does Geezy want to hear what I have to say? :angel:
i do too ;)

[Geezer]

Geezy, did you ignore me and my conniving way to get you to want (horror of horrors) an essay from me? :p

:angel:

God just write it and get it over with :rolleyes:

[supremed]

V 4 Vendetta and V 4 Victory!
im onto u nig

[supremed]

Shut up I worked so hard :(
work harder...and use paragraphs so my eyes dont tire reading ur drivel :love:

[PRCIV]

lol.

I hate it when people diss me indirectly

[xogirlie girlxo]

lol at this kid
Im not a kid. I'm a woman.

[Siesta]

Well i think nicely and softly but there need to be good topics to talk to ..most of the topics here are bogus and useless where i dont need to bring "my thoughts".
i am impressed :D

the world need your thoughts :)

[musicchic33]

Lol you cant even drink yet.

Children.
hahah pwned

[BilalisPakistani]

Honestly I think you guys overthink it. It doesnt matter what their background is, what their level of education is, how much money they make...








All you really need is



http://pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/imgad?id=CJSKk5b006nxaRDYBRhPMghxdlVvOMj6jw

[indesicive]

werd.

It's also a matter of your upbringing and just the general lifestyle you grew up around. For example, some people would be content with a basic high school education, while others need doctorates, law/med degrees, etc.

Where I come from, it's just part of the mold you fall into...but I'd like to think of it as a standard of sorts.

im sure if everyone had the opportunity to become doc's and lawyers they'd jump at the chance. unfortunately not everyone has a stinking rich daddy to pay for it all and even if you can afford to pay your way through. its not to say that the less fortunate lack in ambition or dont have the credentials to be in the same league - doesnt make them any less of a person.

[supremed]

Honestly I think you guys overthink it. It doesnt matter what their background is, what their level of education is, how much money they make...








All you really need is



http://pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/imgad?id=CJSKk5b006nxaRDYBRhPMghxdlVvOMj6jw
:rofl:

[kucchnahi]

i do too ;)

Lol. Don't worry; an essay is coming writing up. ;)

God just write it and get it over with :rolleyes:

Bahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Can I just say you that was a great way for you to succumb to my essay charm? :p

[Siesta]

Who cares, all you need is love.

:gay:
:gayfight:

[xogirlie girlxo]

Well its usually 18-21 so you're still pretty much a douchebaby.
NO ppl in the 20-25 age range fall in the same category when it comes to drug research and surveys :hand:

[Siesta]

yeah you broads need to sit back and let us do the thinking
:werd:

where do I find a non-smoking version of you? :lulz:

[BadFingerBoogie]

Honestly I think you guys overthink it. It doesnt matter what their background is, what their level of education is, how much money they make...

All you really need is



http://pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/imgad?id=CJSKk5b006nxaRDYBRhPMghxdlVvOMj6jw

bro you sold out...

:no:


i thought it was all about jeevansathi.com.













:lol:.

[ArTmALik]

i am impressed :D

the world need your thoughts :)

see you are making me have fun again.lol ok ..yeah world needs my thoughts as i gave a thought to james cameron to make a film called "titanic" people got crazy for that movie..it was just based on lifestyle.lol

[xogirlie girlxo]

work harder...and use paragraphs so my eyes dont tire reading ur drivel :love:
But didnt u like what I said, I was trying to be so clever tee hee

[Z4K5T4R]

I don't get it.

Why think so much? Why not just get together with the one you like the most be it a toilet cleaner or some high fly lawyer. You people are a disgrace :no: chi.

[SarcasmicBengali]

:rofl: :rofl: i like the way you think :rofl: :rofl:

so tell me... what about all that did it for you... ? :|

[Siesta]

Shut up I worked so hard :(
:hug:

[BadFingerBoogie]

:blahblah:.

[supremed]

:werd:

where do I find a non-smoking version of you? :lulz:
ummmm..mum said im speshul and no one else is like me...im unique...thats why i have to wear this helmet all the time

[musicchic33]

im sure if everyone had the opportunity to become doc's and lawyers they'd jump at the chance. unfortunately not everyone has a stinking rich daddy to pay for it all and even if you can afford to pay your way through. its not to say that the less fortunate lack in ambition or dont have the credentials to be in the same league - doesnt make them any less of a person.

yeah, no.

That's just a matter of everyone having differing ideals and ambitions; it's not a matter of having a "stinking rich daddy to pay for it all"

It's not a matter of them being less of a person. That was never the issue. It's about compatibility.

with all that being said, I'd take the stinking rich dad over not having one any day

:arrow:

[ArTmALik]

Honestly I think you guys overthink it. It doesnt matter what their background is, what their level of education is, how much money they make...









All you really need is



http://pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/imgad?id=CJSKk5b006nxaRDYBRhPMghxdlVvOMj6jw


LOL

[PRCIV]

I don't get it.

Why think so much? Why not just get together with the one you like the most be it a toilet cleaner or some high fly lawyer. You people are a disgrace :no: chi.

thats not the way it works in the real world babe

[ArTmALik]

yeah, no.

That's just a matter of everyone having differing ideals and ambitions; it's not a matter of having a "stinking rich daddy to pay for it all"

It's not a matter of them being less of a person. That was never the issue. It's about compatibility.

with all that being said, I'd take the stinking rich dad over not having one any day

:arrow:

You are very rich i know
:bfb:

[musicchic33]

I don't get it.

Why think so much? Why not just get together with the one you like the most be it a toilet cleaner or some high fly lawyer. You people are a disgrace :no: chi.
bc one day you wake up and you realize life isn't a bollywood flick/fairytale and it takes more than "love" to get by

[Siesta]

im sure if everyone had the opportunity to become doc's and lawyers they'd jump at the chance. unfortunately not everyone has a stinking rich daddy to pay for it all and even if you can afford to pay your way through. its not to say that the less fortunate lack in ambition or dont have the credentials to be in the same league - doesnt make them any less of a person.
actually not everyone would...some people are content being a loser in life...and then bring others down too (SOME)

[gnijor]

wtf y isn't this in the dating forum.

[supremed]

But didnt u like what I said, I was trying to be so clever tee hee
im not gonna lie to you gorgeous...i did not read it...mainly because of the fact that it just seemed so long and i know for a fact you dont know what ur talking about most of the time :love:

[musicchic33]

You are very rich i know
:bfb:
I'm HAPPY

lulz

[Siesta]

see you are making me have fun again.lol ok ..yeah world needs my thoughts as i gave a thought to james cameron to make a film called "titanic" people got crazy for that movie..it was just based on lifestyle.lol
:rofl: :rofl: I am sure you did :)

[supremed]

I'm HAPPY

lulz
i want me a jewish princess...tell ur rents to buy me a house on long island...and i want a white mercedes...and some friggin money

[musicchic33]

wtf y isn't this in the dating forum.
bc only your threads get moved, hun
:idea:

[xogirlie girlxo]

:hug:
Thank you :love:

[xhiax]

Honestly I think you guys overthink it. It doesnt matter what their background is, what their level of education is, how much money they make...

All you really need is
http://pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/imgad?id=CJSKk5b006nxaRDYBRhPMghxdlVvOMj6jw
:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[Siesta]

ummmm..mum said im speshul and no one else is like me...im unique...thats why i have to wear this helmet all the time
:rofla:

I am sure there is none...anymore fo you and the rest of us might have to watch out :shock:
dont bang your head on the way out :D

[musicchic33]

i want me a jewish princess...tell ur rents to buy me a house on long island...and i want a white mercedes...and some friggin money

If things don't pan out well with my bro, I'm my rents would want another son to carry on the name/legacy.

I'll keep you in mind.

LUPLUPLUP

[Z4K5T4R]

thats not the way it works in the real world babe
You're in control of who you fall for - you don't need to let the society decide for you who you go for it's entirely up to yourself. In real world yes it is possible.
bc one day you wake up and you realize life isn't a bollywood flick/fairytale and it takes more than "love" to get by
I understand that side of things but what someone does as career shouldn't determine their personality.

[xogirlie girlxo]

im not gonna lie to you gorgeous...i did not read it...mainly because of the fact that it just seemed so long and i know for a fact you dont know what ur talking about most of the time :love:
Its not that long most of it is conjunction junctionnnnnnnnnnnnnnn, and screw u, I do know what im talking about . . . read it!

[ArTmALik]

If things don't pan out well with my bro, I'm my rents would want another son to carry on the name/legacy.

I'll keep you in mind.

LUPLUPLUP

I prefer heart for myself.

[PRCIV]

You're in control of who you fall for - you don't need to let the society decide for you who you go for it's entirely up to yourself. In real world yes it is possible.


Falling for is one thing, having it work out in the long run is another. That doesn't happen EVEN in movies.

[musicchic33]

You're in control of who you fall for - you don't need to let the society decide for you who you go for it's entirely up to yourself. In real world yes it is possible.

I understand that side of things but what someone does as career shouldn't determine their personality.

The first bit's contradicting your "fall for anyone" line of thinking...the going with your heart concept...otherwise, being in control wouldn't be a factor

as for the second bit, how can someone's career choice NOT hint to their personality to some degree?...That's something you ARE in control of...it's your choice...it says something about you

[Siesta]

I prefer heart for myself.
awwwwww :hand:

[musicchic33]

I prefer heart for myself.
I'll take that into consideration

[ArTmALik]

awwwwww :hand:

LOl what ? you like it or dislike it ?

[supremed]

If things don't pan out well with my bro, I'm my rents would want another son to carry on the name/legacy.

I'll keep you in mind.

LUPLUPLUP
:coolbeans:

[indesicive]

yeah, no.

That's just a matter of everyone having differing ideals and ambitions; it's not a matter of having a "stinking rich daddy to pay for it all"

It's not a matter of them being less of a person. That was never the issue. It's about compatibility.

with all that being said, I'd take the stinking rich dad over not having one any day

:arrow:

How do you assess compatibility if you cant look past a persons status within society in the first place. you fail at the first hurdle if your not going to give someone a chance based on such perceptions.

A rich dad wins the day any day but not everyone has them and i wasnt having a dig at those who do...

[supremed]

Its not that long most of it is conjunction junctionnnnnnnnnnnnnnn, and screw u, I do know what im talking about . . . read it!
oh alright i will read it

[ArTmALik]

I'll take that into consideration

Tomorrow has never been seen by the eyes of present!

[BilalisPakistani]

bro you sold out...

:no:


i thought it was all about jeevansathi.com.



:lol:.
Rofl.

[supremed]

:rofla:

I am sure there is none...anymore fo you and the rest of us might have to watch out :shock:
dont bang your head on the way out :D
mum dropped me on my head as an infant

[xogirlie girlxo]

oh alright i will read it
Goodie! :D

[Siesta]

LOl what ? you like it or dislike it ?
You are such a hopeless romantic...its too kool :)

[musicchic33]

How do you assess compatibility if you cant look past a persons status within society in the first place. you fail at the first hurdle if your not going to give someone a chance based on such perceptions.

A rich dad wins the day any day but not everyone has them and i wasnt having a dig at those who do...


In a realistic world, you have to take status and ambitions into consideration. It's fine and dandy to start off on the premise of love conquers all, but at the end of the day things pan out differently. Fact of the matter is, people from different walks of life deal with situations differently, have differing standards, ideals, etc...that's just life

[musicchic33]

Tomorrow has never been seen by the eyes of present!
I'M NOT NICE, REMEMBER?!

lol

[Siesta]

mum dropped me on my head as an infant
no wonder you smoke...the part of you brain that say no has been damaged :p

[supremed]

Goodie! :D
gum drops

[supremed]

no wonder you smoke...the part of you brain that say no has been damaged :p
hey i was taught that i should never quit...cuz i aint no loser...im a winner...and winners dont quit...winners win

[ArTmALik]

You are such a hopeless romantic...its too kool :)

LOL..IF there is no hope, there is no life and you stuck in the middle of nowhere!!!But the question is hope should be given or Taken ?

[xogirlie girlxo]

You know I was dropped on my head a lot of times as an infant, smack dab on concrete floors, I have this big bump on the back of my head too, u can feel it beneath all the hair.

[ArTmALik]

I'M NOT NICE, REMEMBER?!

lol

4 me or 4 others ?
:hyper:

[Z4K5T4R]

The first bit's contradicting your "fall for anyone" line of thinking...the going with your heart concept...otherwise, being in control wouldn't be a factor

as for the second bit, how can someone's career choice NOT hint to their personality to some degree?...That's something you ARE in control of...it's your choice...it says something about you
Hmm nah am not contradicting myself on the first bit.


Career doesn't necassarily determine someones personality as most people work to live, not live to work (unless of course they are pretty sad). I know of senior members of staff that are at the top notch end of the job but are very much relaxed and could get along with someone like myself who is at the bottom end of the job(speakign from personal experience really). People do tend to end up with ones that are pretty similar to them in career level, its' just our state of mind and bit shame really people can't be more open minded. People have hobbies beside worklife to relate to the significant other.

[indesicive]

In a realistic world, you have to take status and ambitions into consideration. It's fine and dandy to start off on the premise of love conquers all, but at the end of the day things pan out differently. Fact of the matter is, people from different walks of life deal with situations differently, have differing standards, ideals, etc...that's just life

Status is a load of crap and the only thing that springs to mind is 'ignorance' Problems come in different shapes and sizes, and you deal with them how you can regardless - for someone 'less ambitious' it'd be smaller scale but to the same proportion :dunno:

ultimately people do have the ability to adapt and can change their lifestyle accordingly which ever side of the coin you look at

[Z4K5T4R]

How do you assess compatibility if you cant look past a persons status within society in the first place. you fail at the first hurdle if your not going to give someone a chance based on such perceptions.

A rich dad wins the day any day but not everyone has them and i wasnt having a dig at those who do...
Exactly.

[Siesta]

hey i was taught that i should never quit...cuz i aint no loser...im a winner...and winners dont quit...winners win
:hand: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: ok then carry on :lol:

[supremed]

You know I was dropped on my head a lot of times as an infant, smack dab on concrete floors, I have this big bump on the back of my head too, u can feel it beneath all the hair.
awwwwwwwwz...u speshul too :hug:

[musicchic33]

4 me or 4 others ?
:hyper:
everyone's equal =]

[supremed]

:hand: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: ok then carry on :lol:
coolbeans...im gonna go outside and win me some cancer :YUSS!!:

[SarcasmicBengali]

I don't get it.

Why think so much? Why not just get together with the one you like the most be it a toilet cleaner or some high fly lawyer. You people are a disgrace :no: chi.

it's cause people wanna drag shit out and suck the pleasure out of everything in life!
overanalyzing every detail and every hypothetical scenario fuckin 7.5 years in the future.
especialy girls man!!

a girl will think a guy's cute, find something about him that her parents won't like, think about how and when they'd break up, then decide he wasn't worth it anymore... all in under 12.4 seconds...

goddamn!!

[musicchic33]

you guys are all awesome.

I'd give you all the time of day.

let's hug <3

[indesicive]

you guys are all awesome.

I'd give you all the time of day.

let's hug <3

:lurk:

[Z4K5T4R]

it's cause people wanna drag shit out and suck the pleasure out of everything in life!
overanalyzing every detail and every hypothetical scenario fuckin 7.5 years in the future.
especialy girls man!!

a girl will think a guy's cute, find something about him that her parents won't like, think about how and when they'd break up, then decide he wasn't worth it anymore... all in under 12.4 seconds...

goddamn!!
Sounds like me when I was 18 am glad I've pulled myself out of that :no: I feel so ashamed.

[xogirlie girlxo]

awwwwwwwwz...u speshul too :hug:
Once I was swinging and fell backwards, once i was climbing the ironing stand and fell backwards, and then my dad tried balancing me on his palm cuz he thought i was a gymnast babay and i fell backwards

[kucchnahi]

All right, people: Life really isn't a freakin' fairytale, although Geezy I do admire your ability to look beyond a person's attitude, socioeconomic position, and profession. But really, you come off as both a romantic and a bit too idealistic and the nice guy I'm sure you are.

For the long-term, I am inclined to believe these aspects with regards to a partner do matter. To what degree it matters, it really depends on the person and his/her unique disposition and attitude towards life. However, most likely, if the two persons are from really different walks of life, the initial pull of "lust" (and please be assured that is what it is) will not be enough to sustain the relationship because you do need some common ground between the two of you to be able to move futher. For example, Geezy, if you are with a person who works a McJob, no matter how charmingly she talked about flipping the number of burgers (yes, a bit of an exaggeration and stereotype to drive home the point) or styling the different types of hairs, the truth is