Everything is considered wrong for desi parents

[One-N-Only]

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[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

Your threads run around the same theme.

[candylicious]

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do Ur Parents Know Ure On Rate Desi

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

I would not single one race out - Parents are parents & doesnt matter if you are desi, chinese, spanish etc.

[jumpn jza]

Nah i think your family is just fucked up...my parents are pretty liberal...

[Hands]

shit. U got a fucked up life y0, glad im not you :arrow:

[surface2air]

Everything said by desi parents is considered wrong by desi kids. :yes:

[gkumar]

i cant wait until the old generation of indians are dead.

[One-N-Only]

I would not single one race out - Parents are parents & doesnt matter if you are desi, chinese, spanish etc.


so your saying other races also have to deal with such things?

[One-N-Only]

shit. U got a fucked up life y0, glad im not you :arrow:

Thanks.
I can't wait for mine to be over.

[One-N-Only]

i cant wait until the old generation of indians are dead.

Their always will be that one group that will carry on with traditions.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

Nah i think your family is just fucked up...my parents are pretty liberal...
Lol my folks are not that bad either, seriously some of that stuff is extreme.

Not every one works the same.

[21cent]

my mom yells at me because i eat dinner outside.

i dont see what her problem is because i eat her food when i get home anyway.

[One-N-Only]

Nah i think your family is just fucked up...my parents are pretty liberal...

Well to be honest at this point i just thought to myself to just pick my stuff one day and leave the country and never come back to them to tell them where i am going.

[Hands]

Thanks.
I can't wait for mine to be over.
:gol:
Run away

[One-N-Only]

my mom yells at me because i eat dinner outside.

i dont see what her problem is because i eat her food when i get home anyway.

Mine won't yell she would tell me thats it we are going to pakistan because your not listening anymore.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

so your saying other races also have to deal with such things?

For sure, i mean there some white christian families which are strict as well but to be honest with ya, it just depends on how your own family is :dunno: their ideas & values etc.

[(sic)]

mine tell me i'm useless

: sympathy:

[One-N-Only]

:gol:
Run away

Yea, they shared a story last night saying Oh we read the paper the other day and their was a 16 year old girl who went over her friends house in canada and her brother and father killed her because they thought she ran away and also said if i run away or have a bf or anything they are going to kill me without thinking that i am their daughter.

[DasJa]

Someone got a shit deal :ugh:

[One-N-Only]

For sure, i mean there some white christian families which are strict as well but to be honest with ya, it just depends on how your own family is :dunno: their ideas & values etc.

For my family they think if your working until 11pm and if your coming home and if someone that knows them see you its considered the end of the world which would bring shame to the family.

[Hands]

Yea, they shared a story last night saying Oh we read the paper the other day and their was a 16 year old girl who went over her friends house in canada and her brother and father killed her because they thought she ran away and also said if i run away or have a bf or anything they are going to kill me without thinking that i am their daughter.
lol.
U should kill them when they sleep and then run away:gol:

[One-N-Only]

Someone got a shit deal :ugh:

Man can't wait for it over.
At this point i don't even care about myself its like walking around without feelings or anything.

For everything you do they tell you thats it we are going to Pakistan and i mean everything.

[LAKERFAN8]

Your life sucks. :(

Sorry.

[One-N-Only]

lol.
U should kill them when they sleep and then run away:gol:

I wish but again its easier said then done.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

For my family they think if your working until 11pm and if your coming home and if someone that knows them see you its considered the end of the world which would bring shame to the family.

Well the world is gonna look at you anyway & your folks should accept this & understand. It's not like you are doing anything shameful but just want a taste of freedom, i guess.

Try talking to them? Seems like you have been depressed for a very long time - hence backtracking your threads.

[Walktheline]

i cant wait until the old generation of indians are dead.


lol, harsh dude. i love u, mom and dad, if you're reading this!

[One-N-Only]

Well the world is gonna look at you anyway & your folks should accept this & understand. It's not like you are doing anything shameful but just want a taste of freedom, i guess.

Try talking to them? Seems like you have been depressed for a very long time - hence backtracking your threads.

I have been depressed for a long time almost like 7 months now.

I tried talking, explaining everything that you can possiably do but nothing changes their mind.

Now they threaten to take us to pakistan and never letting us back here so i made a promise to myself that if they ever do that i will go to the cops and tell them i am being forced to leave this country.

[Walktheline]

tough break, kid. I guess your best bet is to marry into a more liberal family? :wtl:

[NYC101]

-Marrying outside your race for example: Black, White, Hispanic is considered a sin
-Going out at night is considered disrespectful even working until 11pm is considered wrong because they say respectful people don’t have their daughters working until late nights.
-Being on the phone is considered wrong and they have to know who your talking to.
-Going out with your siblings just to spend time is considered wrong
-Talking to relatives about how depressed you are is considered disrespectful and shame to the family.
-Moving out on your own will bring shame to the family where they won’t be able to show their face to the world anymore.
-Being with someone you love and want to be is wrong and get threaten to be killed if you’re ever found with opposite sex.-They tell you that they are going to take you back home where you will regret everything.
-They want to force religion on you and if you want to want to follow it they say you’re setting a wrong path for the younger siblings.


How many of you have to deal with this?
If you were going to such things what would be your best bet or what you would do?


It’s easy said then done so think twice before you say something stupid.


translation: I want to fuck ******s, spics, and goras.

[CantThinkOfAName]

lol, harsh dude. i love u, mom and dad, if you're reading this!
I concur.

[selina_786]

I don't like this thread today, bad day for me.

[LAKERFAN8]

How old are you?

[One-N-Only]

tough break, kid. I guess your best bet is to marry into a more liberal family? :wtl:

I am with someone whose not pakistani who wants to marry me and be with me but i know my family will never accept him and the day they find out they will probably kill me. But overall you only get life once so before i tell them anything about him i am simply going to leave the country without telling them where i am going.

[nmguy20]

Thank you for pointing out something that most already know.

[One-N-Only]

I don't like this thread today, bad day for me.


sorry to hear about your day.

[indesicive]

la di da :sarb:

[NYC101]

I am with someone whose not pakistani who wants to marry me and be with me but i know my family will never accept him and the day they find out they will probably kill me. But overall you only get life once so before i tell them anything about him i am simply going to leave the country without telling them where i am going.

way to destroy their life...I am sure this is what your parents were expecting of you when you were born

[One-N-Only]

How old are you?


old enough to move out and live life.

22 years old.

[illin]

get a career and move out.

[One-N-Only]

way to destroy their life...I am sure this is what your parents were expecting of you when you were born


well i know its wrong but do you think i should sit around for them to come kill me.

[iluvuqt]

my parents used to be like that, when i was young and immature.

I had to be sneaky to get out on my own, but now that I am and show that I am responsible they respect my decisions more.
Ofcourse I still turn to them for help, b/c well 1. I need it and 2. it makes them feel more involved. Which keeps the fighting to a minimum.

[illin]

dont be dependant on anybody for support except yourself.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

I have been depressed for a long time almost like 7 months now.

I tried talking, explaining everything that you can possiably do but nothing changes their mind.

Now they threaten to take us to pakistan and never letting us back here so i made a promise to myself that if they ever do that i will go to the cops and tell them i am being forced to leave this country.

Threaten you? that's wrong & yeah i can understand why you feel depressed.

Maybe one day they will realise that they are pushing you away rather than keeping you close.

Anyone else who you can talk to?

[Walktheline]

Thank you for pointing out something that most already know.


I didn't know all that shit until I came to RD. :dunno:
srsly, I hadn't realized how chill my parents really were.

[iluvuqt]

dont be dependant on anybody for support except yourself.


financially or emotionally.

[One-N-Only]

my parents used to be like that, when i was young and immature.

I had to be sneaky to get out on my own, but now that I am and show that I am responsible they respect my decisions more.
Ofcourse I still turn to them for help, b/c well 1. I need it and 2. it makes them feel more involved. Which keeps the fighting to a minimum.

how old r u?

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

get a career and move out.
Sound's good but you gotta remember it wont be that easy for her..

[iluvuqt]

how old r u?


20 yrs old.

I just read a few more of ur posts
that sucks, i used to be like that in high school.

Try moving out w/ ur siblings if they are old enough. Sometimes you have to go against ur parents to get any where. I know it sucks and I am not saying to hurt them on purpose, but sometimes you have to for them to realize what they are doing.

I had gone crazy living at home...that before I moved out...I told my mom everything...like how i wanted to just die living there b/c they had no trust in me and that if they do the same to my sister they will loose her. She started changing her ways and soon after my dad did as well.

It's hard being on your own (at first)...but it's worth it in the long run.

[nmguy20]

I didn't know all that shit until I came to RD. :dunno:
srsly, I hadn't realized how chill my parents really were.
You're lucky dude. Seriously it gets annoying to hear the same crap everyday from a different person. You should do something instead of whining about it if they're so bad.

[illin]

Sound's good but you gotta remember it wont be that easy for her..

yeah, sucks to see people in situations like that.

[One-N-Only]

Threaten you? that's wrong & yeah i can understand why you feel depressed.

Maybe one day they will realise that they are pushing you away rather than keeping you close.

Anyone else who you can talk to?


I tried explaining that but nothing works for them. its all about what they want and how they want it everything that we say or do they think its wrong and we are to young to know anything.

I spoke to an aunt who tried talking to them and they came home telling me oh why did i speak to her about family matters and its an insult and shame.

so NO i dont have anyone to speak to about any of this.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

I didn't know all that shit until I came to RD. :dunno:
srsly, I hadn't realized how chill my parents really were.

:werd:

[Sweet_LiL_Hunnie]

my dad married outside of his community (a paki with a guyanese girl) and he was discouraged but he stood up for love and it worked out nicely

about working late, well a normal desi parent will always be worried about their child's well being.

[Gimmeck]

Just curious, How old are you?

[iluvuqt]

I am with someone whose not pakistani who wants to marry me and be with me but i know my family will never accept him and the day they find out they will probably kill me. But overall you only get life once so before i tell them anything about him i am simply going to leave the country without telling them where i am going.


I wouldnt leave the country...is there ANYONE liberal in your family? Anyone else who has broken the rules or might break the rules before you introduce him?

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

my dad married outside of his community (a paki with a guyanese girl) and he was discouraged but he stood up for love and it worked out nicely

about working late, well a normal desi parent will always be worried about their child's well being.
A normal desi parent would be worried, but it's not shameful for others to see your daughter if she is working late.

Be happy your kid is decent to YOU & dont give a fuck what other ppl think.

[One-N-Only]

20 yrs old.

I just read a few more of ur posts
that sucks, i used to be like that in high school.

Try moving out w/ ur siblings if they are old enough. Sometimes you have to go against ur parents to get any where. I know it sucks and I am not saying to hurt them on purpose, but sometimes you have to for them to realize what they are doing.

I had gone crazy living at home...that before I moved out...I told my mom everything...like how i wanted to just die living there b/c they had no trust in me and that if they do the same to my sister they will loose her. She started changing her ways and soon after my dad did as well.

It's hard being on your own (at first)...but it's worth it in the long run.

Well i am the oldest and i tried moving out by saying i want to dorm and my parents started booking tickets to take me to pakistan or i had to agree to everything they said. I tried dying which made them change for a week and then started back up again and day by day its getting worse. Now i get threaten like oh if you keep up with this we will get you married to someone you will regret or we will take you to paksitan and you will never be back here.

[Sweet_LiL_Hunnie]

A normal desi parent would be worried, but it's not shameful for others to see your daughter if she is working late.

Be happy your kid is decent to YOU & dont give a fuck what other ppl think.


my aunty always says something in urdu in english it's something along the lines of "Do you think we live in a jungle, NO. We are human beings living in society so you are expected to act like it"

[One-N-Only]

my dad married outside of his community (a paki with a guyanese girl) and he was discouraged but he stood up for love and it worked out nicely

about working late, well a normal desi parent will always be worried about their child's well being.


yea but they know i am at work and its not like i am out clubbing or out at a party. Its once a week that i work until 11pm which they said NO i can only work until 9pm or otherwise quit and they will move to pakistan.

[iluvuqt]

Well i am the oldest and i tried moving out by saying i want to dorm and my parents started booking tickets to take me to pakistan or i had to agree to everything they said. I tried dying which made them change for a week and then started back up again and day by day its getting worse. Now i get threaten like oh if you keep up with this we will get you married to someone you will regret or we will take you to paksitan and you will never be back here.


so you work? does all your money go to them or savings?

move out w/ a friend - get an apt and do what u gotta do - granted u will loose touch with your siblings but there are ways around it...and I am sure if u explain to them what u are doing they would support you b/c not only would be building a place for yourself but also making their transition into the real world a little easier.

Atleast that is what I told my sister before I left home, that I wasn't leaving her there, but setting up a better place for her to come too once she gets out and now my parents are ready for her to move out and move in with me.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

my aunty always says something in urdu in english it's something along the lines of "Do you think we live in a jungle, NO. We are human beings living in society so you are expected to act like it"
lawl

[One-N-Only]

I wouldnt leave the country...is there ANYONE liberal in your family? Anyone else who has broken the rules or might break the rules before you introduce him?

No one, everyone married in the family of where their parents wanted them.
well if i dont live the country i be another desi girl killed which you people would read in the papers.

[illin]

Well i am the oldest and i tried moving out by saying i want to dorm and my parents started booking tickets to take me to pakistan or i had to agree to everything they said. I tried dying which made them change for a week and then started back up again and day by day its getting worse. Now i get threaten like oh if you keep up with this we will get you married to someone you will regret or we will take you to paksitan and you will never be back here.

you tried dying? what the fuck dude.

i hate to advocate this, but you gota rebel...from my own experiences, its the only way...do what you gota do.

[iluvuqt]

No one, everyone married in the family of where their parents wanted them.
well if i dont live the country i be another desi girl killed which you people would read in the papers.


where do u live? like NE N S W E...state?

[selina_786]

Girl, I'm really sorry to hear about the situation youre stuck in.
Everyone here is giving you alot of good advice but I can understand if it's useless for you altogether. Seems like you have no opportunity at all.

Be patient and slowly break your parents way of thinking, it won't occur overnight but with every lil move you make. Hey if not for you, then atleast your younger siblings will have it easier whilst growing up in the same household.

[One-N-Only]

so you work? does all your money go to them or savings?

move out w/ a friend - get an apt and do what u gotta do - granted u will loose touch with your siblings but there are ways around it...and I am sure if u explain to them what u are doing they would support you b/c not only would be building a place for yourself but also making their transition into the real world a little easier.

Atleast that is what I told my sister before I left home, that I wasn't leaving her there, but setting up a better place for her to come too once she gets out and now my parents are ready for her to move out and move in with me.


I do work and all my money goes to them.
My brother tells me to wait until his 18 so i can move out and marry the guy i want but thats 2 years of wait and i dont think i will make it that long.

[surface2air]

Well i am the oldest and i tried moving out by saying i want to dorm and my parents started booking tickets to take me to pakistan or i had to agree to everything they said. I tried dying which made them change for a week and then started back up again and day by day its getting worse. Now i get threaten like oh if you keep up with this we will get you married to someone you will regret or we will take you to paksitan and you will never be back here.
wait, whaaaaaaaaaaat?

[One-N-Only]

where do u live? like NE N S W E...state?

New Jersey

[iluvuqt]

I do work and all my money goes to them.
My brother tells me to wait until his 18 so i can move out and marry the guy i want but thats 2 years of wait and i dont think i will make it that long.


so just u and ur brother?

sorry just trying to fig out ur situation

[PRCIV]

i cant wait until the old generation of indians are dead.

Tht's fucked up but I'm not surprised tht a ****** pussy like you said it

[One-N-Only]

wait, whaaaaaaaaaaat?


well one day they were fighting so i just tried being free from it all and they both saw the blood and stopped fighting and said it wan't because of us its just their little fights and started being all nice and stuff for a week and then it started up again.

[Riddemz]

Well to be honest at this point i just thought to myself to just pick my stuff one day and leave the country and never come back to them to tell them where i am going.
wait till you have a degree or something that can provide you with a decent living standard

[One-N-Only]

so just u and ur brother?

sorry just trying to fig out ur situation

i am the oldest 22
sister 20
brother 16

[sweet_like_choc]

I guess you're speaking very much for yourself there. My parents are not like that in the slightest.

[One-N-Only]

wait till you have a degree or something that can provide you with a decent living standard


yea in another year i will have my Bachelors

[surface2air]

Oh. Do you attend uni or some community college?

Edit: nevermind.

just start planning little by little about moving out; :dunno:

[iluvuqt]

how is ur sister surviving this? Does she share the same concerns u do?
if you and ur sister moved out and lived together do you think ur brother would have to pay for it?

does ur sister work any where?

[selina_786]

I think this girl is looking for some sort of a miracle.

[One-N-Only]

Girl, I'm really sorry to hear about the situation youre stuck in.
Everyone here is giving you alot of good advice but I can understand if it's useless for you altogether. Seems like you have no opportunity at all.

Be patient and slowly break your parents way of thinking, it won't occur overnight but with every lil move you make. Hey if not for you, then atleast your younger siblings will have it easier whilst growing up in the same household.

well thats the only hope i am living by that one day they will change but i dont think its ever going to happen until they lose one of us even then they won;t change.

[PRCIV]

what's with the influx of crybaby desis these days ?

[One-N-Only]

how is ur sister surviving this? Does she share the same concerns u do?
if you and ur sister moved out and lived together do you think ur brother would have to pay for it?

does ur sister work any where?


Well i can't leave my brother to go through hell for two of us once we are gone and if we ever decide to do that they will kill both of us.

[selina_786]

well thats the only hope i am living by that one day they will change but i dont think its ever going to happen until they lose one of us even then they won;t change.
have faith, don't give up. That's all you can do.
Running away isn't going to help but add to your burdens.
I've seen plenty of girls running away and ending up in nasty shit and sometimes lonely. Not the best solution either.

[One-N-Only]

I think this girl is looking for some sort of a miracle.


really not miracle but just for life and asking for them to let go.
Asking them to let me live life the way i want let me work let me go to school let me dorm let me sleep when i want let me eat what i want. tahts it and if you call it miracle well then i guess i am looking for miracles.

[surface2air]

you use the term "kill" very loosely, like your parents must have talwaars and daggers by their bedside at all times or something.

[iluvuqt]

Well i can't leave my brother to go through hell for two of us once we are gone and if we ever decide to do that they will kill both of us.


well the only solution I have for you is to wait - and know that the day is coming soon when he's old enough and then the three of you can move out - he can start looking for job or whatever so you guys all have some income to pay the bills.

As for them coming to kill you....let the cops know.

move far? do what u gotta do.

[One-N-Only]

have faith, don't give up. That's all you can do.
Running away isn't going to help but add to your burdens.
I've seen plenty of girls running away and ending up in nasty shit and sometimes lonely. Not the best solution either.


well i am going to wait for another year and until then save up so i can move out without saying anything to them or telling them where i am going.

[Sweet_LiL_Hunnie]

really not miracle but just for life and asking for them to let go.
Asking them to let me live life the way i want let me work let me go to school let me dorm let me sleep when i want let me eat what i want. tahts it and if you call it miracle well then i guess i am looking for miracles.


you can have all of that once you're financially stable..until then you have to play by the family rules. yes it sucks and is a harsh reality and your parents don't have to chose to make your life so miserable but just focus on doing well in school so that you can land a great job and move far far away.

[One-N-Only]

well the only solution I have for you is to wait - and know that the day is coming soon when he's old enough and then the three of you can move out - he can start looking for job or whatever so you guys all have some income to pay the bills.

As for them coming to kill you....let the cops know.

move far? do what u gotta do.

yea i guess thats all i can do for now.
i just hope the day comes soon.

[sweet_like_choc]

Are your parents the type to believe that whilst you're under their roof, you have to live by their rules.. and once your married your free to do as you please? < I've heard that statement numerous times.

[PakPlaya69]

All you do is complain .. i am sure they treat you like this cause you did nothing innit .. arent you the same gal who had a kalu bf and then something else and something else .. STFU you ain nothing but a shit talker :ugh:

[selina_786]

Are your parents the type to believe that whilst you're under their roof, you have to live by their rules.. and once your married your free to do as you please? < I've heard that statement numerous times.
fuckin' hell... lets not start with that one.

True.

[One-N-Only]

you can have all of that once you're financially stable..until then you have to play by the family rules. yes it sucks and is a harsh reality and your parents don't have to chose to make your life so miserable but just focus on doing well in school so that you can land a great job and move far far away.

your right but i am only 22 and theirs only so much you can take in from people.
i am never going to turn 22 again or want to do the things i want to do then i just wish they would change and understand.

[selina_786]

Are your parents the type to believe that whilst you're under their roof, you have to live by their rules.. and once your married your free to do as you please? < I've heard that statement numerous times.then again, gore do that too

[sweet_like_choc]

fuckin' hell... lets not start with that one.

True.

Haha. Stories like these, unfortunately, make me feel so glad to have parents like mine. Ah.

[selina_786]

you can have all of that once you're financially stable..until then you have to play by the family rules. yes it sucks and is a harsh reality and your parents don't have to chose to make your life so miserable but just focus on doing well in school so that you can land a great job and move far far away.
best advice really.

Why do these girls always gotta fuck the family over for bfs. Damn man.

[One-N-Only]

All you do is complain .. i am sure they treat you like this cause you did nothing innit .. arent you the same gal who had a kalu bf and then something else and something else .. STFU you ain nothing but a shit talker :ugh:

i still have that bf whose willing to change his religion for me.
whose willing to learn about the culture.
whose willing to marry me.
your right i must be shit talker because what you say is easier said then done.

[PRCIV]

best advice really.

Why do these girls always gotta fuck the family over for bfs. Damn man.

Because they're whores

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

Are your parents the type to believe that whilst you're under their roof, you have to live by their rules.. and once your married your free to do as you please? < I've heard that statement numerous times.
Lol werd, that statement just runs like water.

[selina_786]

Haha. Stories like these, unfortunately, make me feel so glad to have parents like mine. Ah.
My dad has thrown that card on me a few times, (when I was young trying to rebel lol), not anymore.. im too old.

[One-N-Only]

best advice really.

Why do these girls always gotta fuck the family over for bfs. Damn man.


well the reason fuck the family over the bfs is because families dont understand the fact that if you love someone whose willing to do everything for you. families want everything to be their way and who they chose for you to marry and be with and sometimes you want to do things that you feel comfortable.

[selina_786]

Because they're whores
Girls don't realise that (most) men hate responsibility, sure 1 maybe 2 years he'll stick by you and your shit, after that hes gonna start missing the single, carefree lifestyle and hes gone, leaving you on your miserable own self again.

(stereotype)

[Sweet_LiL_Hunnie]

your right but i am only 22 and theirs only so much you can take in from people.
i am never going to turn 22 again or want to do the things i want to do then i just wish they would change and understand.


hang in there, also do you think your parents got to pursue what they wanted at your age? probably not, use that to focus on getting along with them (or staying out of their hair).

also do you have to work late at night? is there a way you can do a work study program for the summer and fall semesters, telemarketing tends to not be late night bc u can't call ppls home that late u know. whats your school schedule like? as for marriage you're 22 chances are you've got a lot mre to see in this world before that happens, i could be wrong but trust me. focus on school that's your key to independence.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

well the reason fuck the family over the bfs is because families dont understand the fact that if you love someone whose willing to do everything for you. families want everything to be their way and who they chose for you to marry and be with and sometimes you want to do things that you feel comfortable.
A boyfriend is a boyfriend - that status is not enough just to fuck your family over.
:ugh:

[selina_786]

well the reason fuck the family over the bfs is because families dont understand the fact that if you love someone whose willing to do everything for you. families want everything to be their way and who they chose for you to marry and be with and sometimes you want to do things that you feel comfortable.
Have you known him for long? How much do you know him? Have you actually ever spent longer than 6 hours with him? (minus the telephone conversations)

[sweet_like_choc]

LOL selina!

[impactcrew]

Typical boring thread with essay...Summarize it!

Desi parents are getting more with the age these days and opening there eyes to get that difficult balance of western and eastern culture!

[PakPlaya69]

i still have that bf whose willing to change his religion for me.
whose willing to learn about the culture.
whose willing to marry me.
your right i must be shit talker because what you say is easier said then done.

So you act like a whore and then expect your parents to treat you with respect .. seriously :neutral:

[selina_786]

LOL selina!lol no seriously, this has happened to so many girls.

I wanna figure out whether she's naive or what

[PRCIV]

Girls don't realise that (most) men hate responsibility, sure 1 maybe 2 years he'll stick by you and your shit, after that hes gonna start missing the single, carefree lifestyle and hes gone, leaving you on your miserable own self again.

(stereotype)

Especially if he's not from your culture, he'll prolly knock her up and run off to find his next dumb hoe, especially if he's a *****

[-Ziad-]

well the reason fuck the family over the bfs is because families dont understand the fact that if you love someone whose willing to do everything for you. families want everything to be their way and who they chose for you to marry and be with and sometimes you want to do things that you feel comfortable.You're such a smart 22 year old putting your bf before your family.

I really think you'll go places.

Cunt.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

Especially if he's not from your culture, he'll prolly knock her up and run off to find his next dumb hoe, especially if he's a *****
Even people in the same culture do shit, they aint all saints just because they come from the same seed, bruv.

[selina_786]

Especially if he's not from your culture, he'll prolly knock her up and run off to find his next dumb hoe, especially if he's a *****
dude, i just got told hes a black man. OH MAN!!!!

Sista, seriously wake up. Don't become another used, abused ahem. Seriously, youre only ruining your own life.

[impactcrew]

dude, i just got told hes a black man. OH MAN!!!!

Sista, seriously wake up. Don't become another used, abused ahem. Seriously, youre only ruining your own life.

maybe she is beliving all those black man stories and wants to try it herself but serioulsy no black man is gonna stand by you, girl move on lol not u selina but thread starter.

[selina_786]

Even people in the same culture do shit, they aint all saints just because they come from the same seed, bruv.
thats true actually, although you'd expect more sympathy from your own kind, not always the case.

Infact desis will turn around and use the 'you left your own parents, so what says you can't leave me' card on you whenever theres a heated argument going. And that hurts the most.

[selina_786]

maybe she is beliving all those black man stories and wants to try it herself but serioulsy no black man is gonna stand by you, girl move on lol not u selina but thread starter.
I know black men are ahem well endowed and stuff but dude.. ahh man. I don't know. lol

[-Ziad-]

Typical boring thread with essay...Summarize it!

Desi parents are getting more with the age these days and opening there eyes to get that difficult balance of western and eastern culture!Translation; she has normal desis parents infatuated with educational, religious, and traditional values success which she's trying to portray as to be the talibans. there is no physical abuse or even verbal abuse either in the posts. typical garbage from emo women. good thing the hate wave is coming in soon.

stop being an emo and be thankful to god for them. try to work with them and respect their values just as you want them to respect yours.

[One-N-Only]

Have you known him for long? How much do you know him? Have you actually ever spent longer than 6 hours with him? (minus the telephone conversations)


i have gone out of the state for days with him
stayed in his house for days
known him for over a year now.

[selina_786]

Translation; she has normal desis parents infatuated with educational, religious, and traditional values success which she's trying to portray as to be the talibans. there is no physical abuse or even verbal abuse either in the posts. typical garbage from emo women. good thing the hate wave is coming in soon.

stop being an emo and be thankful to god for them. try to work with them and respect their values just as you want them to respect yours.
basically, her parents are starting to look like aliens cuz shes found a bf. It's quite a typical trait amongst my paki sisters.

[selina_786]

i have gone out of the state for 3 days with him
stayed in his house for 3 days
known him for over a year now.
If hes black then please be careful.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

thats true actually, although you'd expect more sympathy from your own kind, not always the case.

Infact desis will turn around and use the 'you left your own parents, so what says you can't leave me' card on you whenever theres a heated argument going. And that hurts the most.

Exactly, you would expect them to understand.

I agree man, they will use that card because for them they will always have that bait to bite :dunno: it's just a constant reminder.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

i have gone out of the state for days with him
stayed in his house for days
known him for over a year now.

Here is me thinking that you have never had freedom or what not.

How wrong was i.

[-Ziad-]

basically, her parents are starting to look like aliens cuz shes found a bf. It's quite a typical trait amongst my paki sisters.seriously, this facade they create is annoying. shoot y0 self.

[impactcrew]

i have gone out of the state for days with him
stayed in his house for days
known him for over a year now.

so u prefer the treat em mean keep em keen style and seriously how old are you!

[One-N-Only]

thats true actually, although you'd expect more sympathy from your own kind, not always the case.

Infact desis will turn around and use the 'you left your own parents, so what says you can't leave me' card on you whenever theres a heated argument going. And that hurts the most.

your right and i am not saying i am going to marry this guy tomorrow i am still getting to know him and atleast for another 2 to 3 years i am not going to do anything for him. i am not leaving my family because of this one guy. i am not suffereing from thier shit that i have to put up with .

[illin]

fuck man, reading this thread makes me want to bang my head into a wall. It's a damn cycle of:


post: random advice
response: oh no i cant do that, they might kill me.

i'm done with this.

[sweet_like_choc]

Just remember your parents do love you, even if their strict ways are rather difficult and annoying to obide by. However, don't go by quick actions which you'll probably end up regretting. Theres a solution to every problem, just be patient and i'm sure you'll find it soon enough

[impactcrew]

I know black men are ahem well endowed and stuff but dude.. ahh man. I don't know. lol

Sidi Sada Larkiyan don't know that! :slap:

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

fuck man, reading this thread makes me want to bang my head into a wall. It's a damn cycle of:


post: random advice
response: oh no i cant do that, they might kill me.

i'm done with this.

:rofl:

[ancient_warrior]

Desi parents are strict about late nights, drinking, smoking, girlfriends/boyfriends, etc.

Perhaps, it is for ur own good.
I mean if U are dating, screwing, or whatever with bunch of people or even one person that U like before marriage, Do U really expect Ur parents to be cool wit that? :ugh:

Desis are hardcore when it comes to monkey business. So stay out of monkey business or go live on Ur own and do whatever U want. U can't have it both ways. :rolleyes:

[sweet_like_choc]

Sidi Sada Larkiyan don't know that! :slap:

Kutha haramzaada Larka's keep telling us that! :slap:

[PinkPowerRanger]

meh. mine are arnt soo bad.

[PinkPowerRanger]

Desi parents are strict about late nights, drinking, smoking, girlfriends/boyfriends, etc.

Perhaps, it is for ur own good.
I mean if U are dating, screwing, or whatever with bunch of people or even one person that U like before marriage, Do U really expect Ur parents to be cool wit that? :ugh:

Desis are hardcore when it comes to monkey business. So stay out of monkey business or go live on Ur own and do whatever U want. U can't have it both ways. :rolleyes:

Do U really U made a lot of sense? cus i really think U need to followe UR own advice, am i right about U?

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

your right and i am not saying i am going to marry this guy tomorrow i am still getting to know him and atleast for another 2 to 3 years i am not going to do anything for him. i am not leaving my family because of this one guy. i am not suffereing from thier shit that i have to put up with .
Good good.

This thread is all over the place, it seems like you are having enough freedom with your bf & now i believe your parents have a reason to worry.

[impactcrew]

Kutha haramzaada Larka's keep telling us that! :slap:

lol and u lot lend them yr ears willingly to listen to 10 porky pie stories!

[selina_786]

expect everyone to come in and say "my parents arent too bad" just to make you feel worse.


More then likely, these ppl have compromised with life and the way it is.

[selina_786]

Good good.

This thread is all over the place, it seems like you are having enough freedom with your bf & now i believe your parents have a reason to worry.
I heard girls use the 'work training' excuse to get the house for a few days. Plenty of girls I know use that.

My parents would never fall for it tho. lol
I always have to be honest

[PinkPowerRanger]

expect everyone to come in and say "my parents arent too bad" just to make you feel worse.


More then likely, these ppl have compromised with life and the way it is.
how do u knwo me so well? :love:

[impactcrew]

Good good.

This thread is all over the place, it seems like you are having enough freedom with your bf & now i believe your parents have a reason to worry.

I sincerely hope advice given here is taken by thread starter but something tells me moment her b/f speaks up, all advice will be gone that was given here.

[selina_786]

how do u knwo me so well? :love:I wasn't particularly hinting at you, haha

[PRCIV]

U r every desi parent's worst nightmare, I don't feel sorry for you at all, I feel sorry for your parents

[PinkPowerRanger]

I wasn't particularly hinting at you, haha

oh. fuck u then. :ashamed:

[impactcrew]

expect everyone to come in and say "my parents arent too bad" just to make you feel worse.


More then likely, these ppl have compromised with life and the way it is.

maybe some people have to learn the hard way and realise make mistakes and learn...makes u a better person just like u Sel! :love:

[selina_786]

U r every desi parent's worst nightmare, I don't feel sorry for you at all, I feel sorry for your parents
im sorry to say but this is true

[ancient_warrior]

Do U really U made a lot of sense? cus i really think U need to followe UR own advice, am i right about U?

If I lived under their roof I would abide by their rules.

I don't complain or bittch abt my parents. I live by myself I am 24. I am a working man what U know abt that, kiddo. ;)

[selina_786]

oh. fuck u then. :ashamed:
:lol:

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

I heard girls use the 'work training' excuse to get the house for a few days. Plenty of girls I know use that.

My parents would never fall for it tho. lol
I always have to be honest

Lol @ work training - i have heard that one before.

But seriously, i would choose to be upfront with my parents rather them hearing from some random stranger & not their own daughter - they clock on when you hide things as well, yes folks that's right these 'oldies' cant be played about like fools.

[selina_786]

maybe some people have to learn the hard way and realise make mistakes and learn...makes u a better person just like u Sel! :love:
Yes they do. Only way to get ahead in life. Always have a positive attitude. :P

[selina_786]

Lol @ work training - i have heard that one before.

But seriously, i would choose to be upfront with my parents rather them hearing from some random stranger & not their own daughter - they clock on when you hide things as well, yes folks that's right these 'oldies' cant be played about like fools.
It's true

[KurtaPyjama]

worst thing about desi parents is their brown skin. brown skin is grossy-wossy.

EDIT: LMAO TOP OF THE PAGE BOYATCHES!!!!!

[impactcrew]

Yes they do. Only way to get ahead in life. Always have a positive attitude. :P

and shoot yoself! :Pelvic2:

[One-N-Only]

im sorry to say but this is true

how am i every desi parents nightmare?

[SpicyBrownRapper]

Reading some of this shit, I'm not surprised why most of the girls here sound so sheltered, uneducated and down right ignorant. Where're you gonna learn common sense when you pretty much don't get to leave your house. I'm glad I was raised by a couple of people who had some sense, some semblance of what childhood is supposed to be, and allow me to learn things that would be useful in real life and growing up.

[selina_786]

and shoot yoself! :Pelvic2:
only if necessary..

[impactcrew]

It's true

U forgot the classic, it is blah blah friends sisters wedding and i am staying over theres but she is secretly going to see her b/f for some adult rated fun if you can call it that lol

[selina_786]

Reading some of this shit, I'm not surprised why most of the girls here sound so sheltered, uneducated and down right ignorant. Where're you gonna learn common sense when you pretty much don't get to leave your house. I'm glad I was raised by a couple of people who had some sense, some semblance of what childhood is supposed to be, and allow me to learn things that would be useful in real life and growing up.
how does this solve her problem?

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

My folks are sound.

[selina_786]

how am i every desi parents nightmare?
not my opinion but 'most' desi parents would rather die than have their daughter dating a kala dude.

[impactcrew]

only if necessary..

Chup Suicide is forbidden in Islam but respecting yr parents is a must in any religion or culture! :slap:

[SpicyBrownRapper]

how does this solve her problem?

It doesn't. I just wanna laugh at her for her fucked life 'coz of her parents, really.

[selina_786]

U forgot the classic, it is blah blah friends sisters wedding and i am staying over theres but she is secretly going to see her b/f for some adult rated fun if you can call it that lol
never heard of that one lol

[One-N-Only]

not my opinion but 'most' desi parents would rather die than have their daughter dating a kala dude.


his half black and half indian.
I use to say to myself but i dont know how i just had feelings for this guy.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

Chup Suicide is forbidden in Islam but respecting yr parents is a must in any religion or culture! :slap:

Nowadays, respect works both ways.

[selina_786]

It doesn't. I just wanna laugh at her for her fucked life 'coz of her parents, really.
lol dude, shes tried committing suicide before. Help a sister out.

[shadds]

haha this thread is bulll the thread maker needs to get a life wanna leave ur family over a guy pppssssssht wat a joke,,,,, ur just F U C K E D

[impactcrew]

never heard of that one lol

ha ha just becos u never used that one. Heard it from loads of girls dated in the past!

[selina_786]

his half black and half indian.
I use to say to myself but i dont know how i just had feelings for this guy.
then stop saying kala, always say Indian.. it doesnt sound half as bad. lol gay yes, but it works.

[SpicyBrownRapper]

Here you go, you want advice, I'll give it to you. I'm sure you're not gonna like it.

But you parents are pretty much cornering you. Here's what you do to fuck 'em over - you choose your guy, and you run away with him. I'm serious. Your parents are worthless, any human being who is not understanding is worthless. Any human being who doesn't understand human emotions, and places more value on tradition and culture, is a worthless human being. So, ride off to the sunset with your boyfriend, tell your parents that you love 'em, and you're not deserting them but you will be with your who ever you want to be. And that, if its a mistake you are making, you will learn from it. More than likely they will say no, but fuck 'em.

[impactcrew]

Nowadays, respect works both ways.

in an ideal world yes and yes we are going that way becos of the way things are but unfortunatly we still have backward thinking parents and it is there offspring that i feel go off the rails!

[One-N-Only]

then stop saying kala, always say Indian.. it doesnt sound half as bad. lol gay yes, but it works.


But whats the difference if his black, white, pakistani, indian or spanish i mean even if i was a paki guy they wouldnt accept him and probably do what they would do about this guy.

[impactcrew]

But whats the difference if his black, white, pakistani, indian or spanish i mean even if i was a paki guy they wouldnt accept him and probably do what they would do about this guy.

Have u tried speaking to yr parents about him?

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

in an ideal world yes and yes we are going that way becos of the way things are but unfortunatly we still have backward thinking parents and it is there offspring that i feel go off the rails!
It's not a case of backward thinking.

Think where your folks were 40 + years ago & think about where you are right now.

Because they were raised in a certain environment - it's like physically they are here but emotionally they are back home.

[-Ziad-]

Here you go, you want advice, I'll give it to you. I'm sure you're not gonna like it.

But you parents are pretty much cornering you. Here's what you do to fuck 'em over - you choose your guy, and you run away with him. I'm serious. Your parents are worthless, any human being who is not understand is worthless. Any human being who doesn't understand human emotions, and places more value on tradition and culture, is a worthless human being. So, ride off to the sunset with your boyfriend, tell your parents that you love 'em, and you're not deserting them but you will be with your who ever you want to be. And that, if its a mistake you are making, you will learn from it. More than likely they will say no, but fuck 'em.Lol, reverse psychology at its finest.

Once you go black, you nevah go back to add.

[One-N-Only]

Here you go, you want advice, I'll give it to you. I'm sure you're not gonna like it.

But you parents are pretty much cornering you. Here's what you do to fuck 'em over - you choose your guy, and you run away with him. I'm serious. Your parents are worthless, any human being who is not understanding is worthless. Any human being who doesn't understand human emotions, and places more value on tradition and culture, is a worthless human being. So, ride off to the sunset with your boyfriend, tell your parents that you love 'em, and you're not deserting them but you will be with your who ever you want to be. And that, if its a mistake you are making, you will learn from it. More than likely they will say no, but fuck 'em.

Your right but if my parents accept this guy i don't have to go anywhere i can stay right where i am at but they will never accpet him. How fucked would it be for me to leave someone after few years saying sorry my parents dont want you and i understand its also fucked up to leave my parents over a guy. i want to keep both but thats impossiable and will never happen.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

Sista, knowing how your folks are - the chance of them accepting a kaala is like England winning the world cup final.

[selina_786]

my friend and I are having this debate amongst ourselves about your thread hahahaha... shes with your ways all the way whereas I'm not.

[selina_786]

Sista, knowing how your folks are - the chance of them accepting a kaala is like England winning the world cup final.
lol u get me.

Desis have a problem with desis and shes talking kala.

[jattniz_chuttni]

I'd gtfo and ditch that effing fam, yo.

[One-N-Only]

my friend and I are having this debate amongst ourselves about your thread hahahaha... shes with your ways all the way whereas I'm not.

well once again i am only sharing my side of the story and i am not saying i am not wrong. i probably say so many things where i hurt my parents but they do things where you can never turn back and forgive them.

[selina_786]

Your right but if my parents accept this guy i don't have to go anywhere i can stay right where i am at but they will never accpet him. How fucked would it be for me to leave someone after few years saying sorry my parents dont want you and i understand its also fucked up to leave my parents over a guy. i want to keep both but thats impossiable and will never happen.
look do this, youre still young and theres no hurry for you to marry.

Keep the both for now and see how things are a few years down the line... you dont need to make any decisions now im sure?

[ancient_warrior]

Ok, I shall settle this problem for once. It has gotten out of hand. First, be good means no late nights or monkey business with boyfriends. This will establish some credibility and trust wit parents and U have to keep this up till U move out.

In order to move out U have to study at a college and get a bachelor's degree and go for a job in a different state after U graduate. How hard is that? This is how most desi kids get out of their parents place and live on their own. :rolleyes:

[krazie k]

my friend and I are having this debate amongst ourselves about your thread hahahaha... shes with your ways all the way whereas I'm not.
:rofl: you always bring me into this kinda stuff lol

im not agreeing with her leaving her family for a guy thats wrong but at the end of the day she has feeling for this guy cmon people act like its never happened to them, the fact is he's black and thats what seems to be the issue here, had it been an asian guy i guess people would be saying yeah fine go for it.

[SpicyBrownRapper]

Your right but if my parents accept this guy i don't have to go anywhere i can stay right where i am at but they will never accpet him. How fucked would it be for me to leave someone after few years saying sorry my parents dont want you and i understand its also fucked up to leave my parents over a guy. i want to keep both but thats impossiable and will never happen.

Of course they will never be accepting 'coz I know how some of your parents are. I'm telling you, the only way to get around this problem is to rebel. Thats the only way they will understand. And perhaps through rebelling, they will realize that you are their daughter, and that they love and maybe they will be accepting of who you are and what you do.

There really is two ways of approaching this thing:

1. Making your parents understand by talking to them. This approach also means that they should be somewhat open minded, which I'm feeling like they're not.

2. Rebel, and hope that they will give in and accept what you have done.

[One-N-Only]

look do this, youre still young and theres no hurry for you to marry.

Keep the both for now and see how things are a few years down the line... you dont need to make any decisions now im sure?


i am 22 and his 29. i am sure he would want to get married in another few years.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

lol u get me.

Desis have a problem with desis and shes talking kala.
Lol that's true.

But you see if desi's have problems with each other they would least talk/argue it out because they have a common trait with each other.

They would not bother with a kaala but tell him to fuck off because to them he is a alien & doesnt understand their way of life.

Im not saying all are like that, but most are.

[selina_786]

:rofl: you always bring me into this kinda stuff lol

im not agreeing with her leaving her family for a guy thats wrong but at the end of the day she has feeling for this guy cmon people act like its never happened to them, the fact is he's black and thats what seems to be the issue here, had it been an asian guy i guess people would be saying yeah fine go for it.
dude, I just don't see it working out much.

Rarely do you see runaway couples together for long.. kinda kills it. The girl ends up losing everything. Which in turn makes desi parents even more firm in their ways. Kinda confirms to them that their way of thinking is right.

[selina_786]

i am 22 and his 29. i am sure he would want to get married in another few years.yes basically, few years is a long long way yet. Who knows what will happen by then. Don't rush into anything is what I'm saying.

[One-N-Only]

Of course they will never be accepting 'coz I know how some of your parents are. I'm telling you, the only way to get around this problem is to rebel. Thats the only way they will understand. And perhaps through rebelling, they will realize that you are their daughter, and that they love and maybe they will be accepting of who you are and what you do.

There really is two ways of approaching this thing:

1. Making your parents understand by talking to them. This approach also means that they should be somewhat understanding, which I'm feeling like they're not.

2. Rebel, and hope that they will give in and accept what you have done.


i have tried both in the past and the answer i got was oh if we find anything that we think is going to bring shame to the family we wouldn't think you were our daughter and dont think you will be free which means we will kill u.

[selina_786]

Of course they will never be accepting 'coz I know how some of your parents are. I'm telling you, the only way to get around this problem is to rebel. Thats the only way they will understand. And perhaps through rebelling, they will realize that you are their daughter, and that they love and maybe they will be accepting of who you are and what you do.

There really is two ways of approaching this thing:

1. Making your parents understand by talking to them. This approach also means that they should be somewhat open minded, which I'm feeling like they're not.

2. Rebel, and hope that they will give in and accept what you have done and then dump you in pakistan with a fob and 3 kids.
quite possible. lol

[SpicyBrownRapper]

i have tried both in the past and the answer i got was oh if we find anything that we think is going to bring shame to the family we wouldn't think you were our daughter and dont think you will be free which means we will kill u.

Here's what I'm gonna tell you. Final answer:

Fuck 'em, they're worthless parents.

[selina_786]

Wait. She likey teh black cock?
yea man

[selina_786]

yo, will he convert to Islam for you?

[krazie k]

dude, I just don't see it working out much.

Rarely do you see runaway couples together for long.. kinda kills it. The girl ends up losing everything. Which in turn makes desi parents even more firm in their ways. Kinda confirms to them that their way of thinking is right.

i dont see what the problem is she said he is willing to convert so what exactly is the problem? colour of skin?

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

Lol when it comes to this stuff, all the pakistanis/indians/bengalis team together and rip the kaala apart :rofl:

Im sorry threadmaker, but desis are a funny lot.

[jattniz_chuttni]

Mixed babies are cute.

Show your parents pictorz of losta mixed babies and tellem you want one. They'll be convinced.

[One-N-Only]

yo, will he convert to Islam for you?

yes, his willing to learn the culture and everything else.

[SpicyBrownRapper]

Here's a very important question:

What do you do for a living? Are you done with college? Do you have any sort of career? Are you on track for something specific in life work wise?

[selina_786]

i dont see what the problem is she said he is willing to convert so what exactly is the problem? colour of skin?
is he converting for her or because he feels he wants to commit to Islam.

[selina_786]

Lol when it comes to this stuff, all the pakistanis/indians/bengalis team together and rip the kaala apart :rofl:

Im sorry threadmaker, but desis are a funny lot.
lol, i'll admit to the fact that kaale are extremely goodlooking but I won't date any. I know theres no chance of a future so don't see the point.

Obviously 'love is blind'... don't wanna end up loving the wrong type. heh

[One-N-Only]

Here's a very important question:

What do you do for a living? Are you done with college? Do you have any sort of career? Are you on track for something specific in life work wise?

i work for one of the 5oo fortune of companies.
i will be getting my degree in another 6months
i want to continue with what i do at this company and move up the ladder.

[krazie k]

is he converting for her or because he feels he wants to commit to Islam.


Well my opnion is that the majority of people that convert do it for love not because the beileve in the reilgion, they do it to be accepted by there partner and family but thats their choice.

[SpicyBrownRapper]

i work for one of the 5oo fortune of companies.
i will be getting my degree in another 6months
i want to continue with what i do at this company and move up the ladder.

Do you make enough to support yourself? Do you need to rely on your parents for anything?

[shadds]

well all i can say is that try to see it from ur parents point of view one day ull have children and im sure ull be worried abt them doin late shifts etc,,, so the best thing to do is imagine ur self 15 years down the line and try and see how u'd react,,,,,


and another thing gettin married to the guy u luv dnt neccessarilly mean u'll live happilly ever after ... becus only wen its happens u'll really know see further problems from his side,,#


i have a question for u now how does the guys family feel at this whole thing ??

i know one thing for sure a decent guy would never diss there family over a gurl!!

[-Ziad-]

Anyone remember that other kaala thread? Damn.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

lol, i'll admit to the fact that kaale are extremely goodlooking but I won't date any. I know theres no chance of a future so don't see the point.

Obviously 'love is blind'... don't wanna end up loving the wrong type. heh

Most people dont rule their lives, society does that job for ya - almost as if they have the upper hand.

It's a shame & yeah a person should love who they wish - but what comes with that is a mixed bag of problems.

[selina_786]

I just dont understand the late shift thing.. its only work.. i used to do night shifts :S

[One-N-Only]

lol, i'll admit to the fact that kaale are extremely goodlooking but I won't date any. I know theres no chance of a future so don't see the point.

Obviously 'love is blind'... don't wanna end up loving the wrong type. heh


I use to say exact same words.
When i started seeing this guy i was like their no future and then little at a time things started to get serious and now we both are fully committed in our relationship. My brother is the only person taht knows about my bf.

[selina_786]

Most people dont rule their lives, society does that job for ya - almost as if they have the upper hand.

It's a shame & yeah a person should love who they wish - but what comes with that is a mixed bag of problems.
youre right, which is why I choose not to add further problems onto my plate.

[One-N-Only]

Do you make enough to support yourself? Do you need to rely on your parents for anything?


i make enough to support myself.
i only sleep in their house.

[One-N-Only]

well all i can say is that try to see it from ur parents point of view one day ull have children and im sure ull be worried abt them doin late shifts etc,,, so the best thing to do is imagine ur self 15 years down the line and try and see how u'd react,,,,,


and another thing gettin married to the guy u luv dnt neccessarilly mean u'll live happilly ever after ... becus only wen its happens u'll really know see further problems from his side,,#


i have a question for u now how does the guys family feel at this whole thing ??

i know one thing for sure a decent guy would never diss there family over a gurl!!


i met the family they are willing to come over to speak to my parents.

[shadds]

people im sure we had a thread like this before!!!!!!

[SpicyBrownRapper]

i make enough to support myself.
i only sleep in their house.

So then you start gradually.

Tell 'em you wanna move out, move into your own apartment first. Don't take no for an answer. If you want to marry a negro, you gotta gradually set 'em up for something bigger. If you're not even willing to do something against their wishes, then I'll be honest, you have no hope either.

Are you willing to at least take some of these steps first?

[shadds]

i met the family they are willing to come over to speak to my parents.

sounds promising keep us updated

[Angel Frm Heaven]

Your parents are awesome.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

youre right, which is why I choose not to add further problems onto my plate.

If ppl cant express that love in public then of course they will do it in private.

Even taking matters into your own hands can be a 'problem'.

[baliwala]

i have no problem with my rents

[shadds]

[QUOTE=SpicyBrownRapper] If you're not even willing to do something against their wishes, then I'll be honest, you have no hope either.

true say

[selina_786]

If ppl cant express that love publicly then of course they will do it in private.

Even taking matters into your own hands can be a 'problem'.
point is, desis have the biggest problem when their daughter is going into a different group altogether. They cannot digest that.

:no:

[One-N-Only]

So then you start gradually.

Tell 'em you wanna move out, move into your own apartment first. Don't take no for an answer. If you want to marry a negro, you gotta gradually set 'em up for something bigger. If you're not even willing to do something against their wishes, then I'll be honest, you have no hope either.

Are you willing to at least take some of these steps first?

i am willing to stand up to move out but as i did before they had started booking for tickets to go to pakistan so i felt bad messing with my other siblings future.

[selina_786]

dude, only way out is to break her parents mentality slowly.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

point is, desis have the biggest problem when their daughter is going into a different group altogether. They cannot digest that.

:no:

Yeah for sure, would it be easier for a Pakistani to accept a Indian than a gora or kaala?

What you think?

[shadds]

dude, only way out is to break her parents mentality slowly.

lolz dnt see that happening easily as soon as she mentions that she wanna marry sum1 from diff race

[0101]

i cant wait until the old generation of indians are dead.
haha

[selina_786]

Yeah for sure, would it be easier for a Pakistani to accept a Indian than a gora or kaala?

What you think?in all honesty - all equal no nos.

[sunny333333]

-Marrying outside your race for example: Black, White, Hispanic is considered a sin
-Going out at night is considered disrespectful even working until 11pm is considered wrong because they say respectful people don’t have their daughters working until late nights.
-Being on the phone is considered wrong and they have to know who your talking to.
-Going out with your siblings just to spend time is considered wrong
-Talking to relatives about how depressed you are is considered disrespectful and shame to the family.
-Moving out on your own will bring shame to the family where they won’t be able to show their face to the world anymore.
-Being with someone you love and want to be is wrong and get threaten to be killed if you’re ever found with opposite sex.-They tell you that they are going to take you back home where you will regret everything.
-They want to force religion on you and if you want to want to follow it they say you’re setting a wrong path for the younger siblings.


How many of you have to deal with this?
If you were going to such things what would be your best bet or what you would do?


It’s easy said then done so think twice before you say something stupid.
feel sorry for you :gay:

[selina_786]

lolz dnt see that happening easily as soon as she mentions that she wanna marry sum1 from diff race
lol, i dont think thats the first step she should take.

Extremely daft move.

[illin]

i dont know..her parents seem like the type that'll pretend to sympathize with her and accept everything, then turn around the next day and kidnap her.

[krazie k]

i am willing to stand up to move out but as i did before they had started booking for tickets to go to pakistan so i felt bad messing with my other siblings future.


is your bro oki with you dating your bf?

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

in all honesty - all equal no nos.
Yeah it's always about 'sticking to your own kind'

I consider my pakistani friends exactly like me, but hey ppl's mind work different ways.

[SpicyBrownRapper]

i am willing to stand up to move out but as i did before they had started booking for tickets to go to pakistan so i felt bad messing with my other siblings future.

Well, see, there is your first fault. You have to stern with your decisions, not let your family sway it otherwise.

Are you willing to tell your parents of your bf? Can you at least fathom this concept, or does it scare you so much that you pee your pants?

[selina_786]

i dont know..her parents seem like the type that'll pretend to sympathize with her and accept everything, then turn around the next day and kidnap her.
lmao yes

[One-N-Only]

is your bro oki with you dating your bf?

yea his the only one that knows about us.

[shadds]

lol, i dont think thats the first step she should take.

Extremely daft move.

but thats the motive behind it and eventually they'll see it and she'll defo land her arse in a death trap

[selina_786]

Yeah it's always about 'sticking to your own kind'

I consider my pakistani friends exactly like me, but hey ppl's mind work different ways.
same

with parents, its all good until we start talking marriage

[selina_786]

but thats the motive behind it and eventually they'll see it and she'll defo land her arse in a death trap
they won't see shit.

Girls are smart when it comes to lying and hiding things.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

same

with parents, its all good until we start talking marriage

Imma gonna fix us up a cup of tea :hug:

Brb. lol.

[One-N-Only]

Well, see, there is your first fault. You have to stern with your decisions, not let your family sway it otherwise.

Are you willing to tell your parents of your bf? Can you at least fathom this concept, or does it scare you so much that you pee your pants?



i can never tell them about us.
they will then kill me.
i am going to stand by my decision and move out.

[selina_786]

Imma gonna fix us up a cup of tea :hug:

Brb. lol.
teekh ah

be back tho

[PRCIV]

yea his the only one that knows about us.

Bro sounds like a pussy

[shadds]

they won't see shit.

Girls are smart when it comes to lying and hiding things.

well this one aint smart otherwise she wouldnt be on this forum now would she lolz

[selina_786]

Bro sounds like a pussy
lmao

[PRCIV]

they won't see shit.

Girls are smart when it comes to lying and hiding things.

Never, ever, ever, ever,ever trust a woman. Ain't that right Selina ?

[selina_786]

well this one aint smart otherwise she wouldnt be on this forum now would she lolz
lol we'll make her smart yo

[SpicyBrownRapper]

i can never tell them about us.
they will then kill me.
i am going to stand by my decision and move out.

So how do you plan to be with your boy? Eventually marry him?

[selina_786]

Never, ever, ever, ever,ever trust a woman. Ain't that right Selina ?
I'm digging my own grave,
just dont

lol

[shadds]

lol we'll make her smart yo

aight whats the plan!! enlighten us all

[baliwala]

20 bucks says this thread is bullshit

[krazie k]

yea his the only one that knows about us.

You know what hun, you got two choice's from what i can see, shut up and put up, or deal with the situation and make a decsion.

I think running away with your bf is not the best option to be honest with you right now, your parentst are just stuck in there ways, some parents change some dont and to be honest i dont see your's changing at all.

I can totaly understand that you love this guy, your not a young immature person your 22 so you know your own mind just take it easy with this guy and see how things go because trust me things can change and you dont wanna rush into anything.

[One-N-Only]

So how do you plan to be with your boy? Eventually marry him?

move to another country.
isn't that the right way to marry someone and be with them?

[SpicyBrownRapper]

move to another country.
isn't that the right way to marry someone and be with them?

So you're giving up your parents?