Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

[kucchnahi]

Hmm, in desi culture, there have always been talk of the marriage and which system operates better.

Arranged Marriage: You meet the prospective partner with your parents. You can potentially meet with each other, if you continue to like each other and then get engaged and married. And what you truly want to do is fall in love after marriage.

Love Marriage: You date individuals in the hopes you find the One. And when you find the One, you tie the knot because you are in love and want to commit as a means of declaring your love openly to the One and society.

Which one is more preferable to you? And why? :)

[di vinci]

arrange marriage

theres no fucking ehad ache involve plus ur parents pay for evrything

[americanmohit]

arrange marriage because i want dowries :Oops:

[kucchnahi]

arrange marriage

theres no fucking ehad ache involve plus ur parents pay for evrything

Does that mean you support it or are not for it?

[kucchnahi]

arrange marriage because i want dowries :Oops:

:lol: But if you get the bride you want, isn't her love all the treasure anyone can hope to want? And if her parents give anything else, isn't that a bonus?

[punjabipride04]

Either tbh, if I can't find someone myself then I'll prolly have an arranged marriage. In saying that it's a pretty laid back option for me, as one can talk to the guy/guys who are introduced for however long before making any sorta decision. But thankfully I'm not thinking of marriage till around 27ish.

[di vinci]

Does that mean you support it or are not for it?

i tehy are paying for the whole shannigan dam right im for it

[americanmohit]

:lol: But if you get the bride you want, isn't her love all the treasure anyone can hope to want? And if her parents give anything else, isn't that a bonus?

lol i was joking..hehe....Bride is a dowry to me because her parents are giving their daughter...honestly i will refuse if they offer for dowries.

[bingley13]

Marriage?

[kucchnahi]

Either tbh, if I can't find someone myself then I'll prolly have an arranged marriage. In saying that it's a pretty laid back option for me, as one can talk to the guy/guys who are introduced for however long before making any sorta decision. But thankfully I'm not thinking of marriage till around 27ish.

Coolio. That sounds like your parents don't mind at all, which is very lucky on your part. I suppose my parents wouldn't mind either except I am very unsure if they would ever approve anyone I choose myself. But I guess it works all around because I only want to have an arranged marriage; I really like the idea of falling in love after marriage and discovering the other person's in ways that are kind of like unwrapping presents. :)

[kucchnahi]

lol i was joking..hehe....Bride is a dowry to me because her parents are giving their daughter...honestly i will refuse if they offer for dowries.

Oh, meee God. :hug: Desi culture should have more men like you. ;)

[ancient_warrior]

After U like someone then talk to ur folks arrange the marriage. That's the way to do it.

Neither totally arranged nor love marriage but a mix of both. Hellz yeah ;)

[kucchnahi]

i tehy are paying for the whole shannigan dam right im for it

Oh, that's cool. :)

[americanmohit]

Oh, meee God. :hug: Desi culture should have more men like you. ;)

no i am not that nice person you think :ashamed:

[kucchnahi]

Marriage?

Hahaha. Not right now. Just a musing. So, tell me which one you'd prefer... :)

[surface2air]

Fcuk Buddies fo lyfe ?

[kucchnahi]

After U like someone then talk to ur folks arrange the marriage. That's the way to do it.

Neither totally arranged nor love marriage but a mix of both. Hellz yeah ;)

A mix. Wow, that's exciting and I'm intrigued. So, how would you ideally prefer it when you say a mix? Describe. :)

[kucchnahi]

no i am not that nice person you think :ashamed:

Psssh. If I say you're nice, you accept that you're nice. :)

[kucchnahi]

Fcuk Buddies fo lyfe ?

In marriage? That's pretty much how it works. :lol:

[pagal_guju]

neither :Paper:

[kucchnahi]

neither :Paper:

:lol: But if you had to pick one (barring other choices), which would you opt for in an option between only the two?

[americanmohit]

Psssh. If I say you're nice, you accept that you're nice. :)


thank ju :lulz:

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

Either.

[kucchnahi]

Either.

Nice. :cool:

[hakuna-matata]

Either

[bingley13]

Hahaha. Not right now. Just a musing. So, tell me which one you'd prefer... :)
well if you love me and want to ask me to marry you.. just run it by my parents first. best of both.

[ancient_warrior]

A mix. Wow, that's exciting and I'm intrigued. So, how would you ideally prefer it when you say a mix? Describe. :)

U have to perfect the art of manipulation, first.

First U have to tell Ur parents that U refuse to marry someone unless they meet Ur certain criteria. Once the criteria is met with someone. U visit this person and if U like them and U can keep going to visit them for a few months once in a while when U find tha time at family gatherings, friends, etc. Make it very family-oriented. Both families will like each other after a few months U get married.

Simple Simple. :wavey:

[kucchnahi]

Either

Nice. :cool:

[punjabipride04]

Coolio. That sounds like your parents don't mind at all, which is very lucky on your part. I suppose my parents wouldn't mind either except I am very unsure if they would ever approve anyone I choose myself. But I guess it works all around because I only want to have an arranged marriage; I really like the idea of falling in love after marriage and discovering the other person's in ways that are kind of like unwrapping presents. :)
Exactly, thing is because they’ve given me the choice (I’m happy to be blessed with such parents <3)..I’ve never really taken advantage of that. Until the time comes whereby I’m stable in my future career etc, only then I’ll bother looking tbh. Until then I’m pretty content with the love I receive from my family, god & those around me, to look for it elsewhere. Hubbywise continuing on what you’ve just mentioned, one can never stop getting to know someone. I think it’s much more exciting waiting until marriage to fully experience getting to know a SO. Personally I don’t think I could ever open up to someone fully before marriage. I like to keep apart of me for me. End of the day there’s lots of different types of love everywhere….but when you marry (arranged etc) most importantly you ‘learn to love’. I think I’d rather learn to love rather than fall in love & work from there…hmm

Each to their own.

Also people change to much, & I don't trust ppl easily :/

[kucchnahi]

well if you love me and want to ask me to marry you.. just run it by my parents first. best of both.

:rofl:

I would totally if I was a guy, Bingley; but I am a girl and like boys... :sadblink:

:lol:

[americanmohit]

Exactly, thing is because they’ve given me the choice (I’m happy to be blessed with such parents <3)..I’ve never really taken advantage of that. Until the time comes whereby I’m stable in my future career etc, only then I’ll bother looking tbh. Until then I’m pretty content with the love I receive from my family, god & those around me, to look for it elsewhere. Hubbywise continuing on what you’ve just mentioned, one can never stop getting to know someone. I think it’s much more exciting waiting until marriage to fully experience getting to know a SO. Personally I don’t think I could ever open up to someone fully before marriage. I like to keep apart of me for me. End of the day there’s lots of different types of love everywhere….but when you marry (arranged etc) most importantly you ‘learn to love’. I think I’d rather learn to love rather than fall in love & work from there…hmm

Each to their own.

learn to love is failure sometime :neutral:

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

Nice. :cool:
Im not thinking about marriage for a few more yrs yet.

[hakuna-matata]

Nice. :cool:

2 more posts after this and I'm at 3000 :hyper:

[kucchnahi]

U have to perfect the art of manipulation, first.

First U have to tell Ur parents that U refuse to marry someone unless they meet Ur certain criteria. Once the criteria is met with someone. U visit this person and if U like them and U can keep going to visit them for a few months once in a while when U find tha time at family gatherings, friends, etc. Make it very family-oriented. Both families will like each other after a few months U get married.

Simple Simple. :wavey:

I like how you think... Good, good. :)

[bingley13]

:rofl:

I would totally if I was a guy, Bingley; but I am a girl and like boys... :sadblink:

:lol:
I knew you were a girl.

But I thought you were trying to imply something.... :tears:

[punjabipride04]

learn to love is failure sometime :neutral:
Everything can fail. But I think there's naturally a higher level of commitment when one is married no?

[americanmohit]

Im not thinking about marriage for a few more yrs yet.

i need to get married soon..i want a girl who will make me malaidaar cha, chole bhature, massage me when i am tired after coming back from daftaar :roll:

[kucchnahi]

Exactly, thing is because they’ve given me the choice (I’m happy to be blessed with such parents <3)..I’ve never really taken advantage of that. Until the time comes whereby I’m stable in my future career etc, only then I’ll bother looking tbh. Until then I’m pretty content with the love I receive from my family, god & those around me, to look for it elsewhere. Hubbywise continuing on what you’ve just mentioned, one can never stop getting to know someone. I think it’s much more exciting waiting until marriage to fully experience getting to know a SO. Personally I don’t think I could ever open up to someone fully before marriage. I like to keep apart of me for me. End of the day there’s lots of different types of love everywhere….but when you marry (arranged etc) most importantly you ‘learn to love’. I think I’d rather learn to love rather than fall in love & work from there…hmm

Each to their own.

Also people change to much, & I don't trust ppl easily :/

Oh, my God. It is so much the same for me. I don't think my parents would mind either, but I just like you don't trust people easily. And I loved your line about learning to love. That's just great food for thought. :)

[kucchnahi]

Im not thinking about marriage for a few more yrs yet.

Yeah, me neither. But if my parents find someone suitable, I'm not opposed to the idea either. That said, I would ideally prefer to wait as I don't feel mentally ready.

[kucchnahi]

I knew you were a girl.

But I thought you were trying to imply something.... :tears:

Pssssh... No crocodile tears, missy.

You know you're going to find Prince Charming and live-happily-ever-after and then have fights in between but all would be good cause you would make him laugh just when he is about to fight with you. ;)

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

i need to get married soon..i want a girl who will make me malaidaar cha, chole bhature, massage me when i am tired after coming back from daftaar :roll:
So basically you want a servant? lol you lazy dawg.

[americanmohit]

So basically you want a servant? lol you lazy dawg.


jee nahin..i wont treat her like a servant :hs:

cooking is woman's job :o


lol dont take me seriously :anxious:

[nayeemx33]

Cousin marriage

[bingley13]

Pssssh... No crocodile tears, missy.

You know you're going to find Prince Charming and live-happily-ever-after and then have fights in between but all would be good cause you would make him laugh just when he is about to fight with you. ;)
you are right. I really just wanted to con you out of a world famous virtual hug.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

jee nahin..i wont treat her like a servant :hs:

cooking is woman's job :o


lol dont take me seriously :anxious:

WHAT THE HELL!111!!!!

Haha nah im not taking you seriously, dont worry mohit :kekeke:

[kucchnahi]

Cousin marriage

:confused: Really...?

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

Yeah, me neither. But if my parents find someone suitable, I'm not opposed to the idea either. That said, I would ideally prefer to wait as I don't feel mentally ready.
Yeah i get ya.

Some who get married young - end up regretting it later on :no: i have seen that happen.

[kucchnahi]

you are right. I really just wanted to con you out of a world famous virtual hug.

All you had to do was ask, Bingley darling. ;)

(Virtual hug.)

:lol:

[nayeemx33]

:confused: Really...?

Yeah!!!

[Walktheline]

uh welcome back.

[kucchnahi]

Yeah i get ya.

Some who get married young - end up regretting it later on :no: i have seen that happen.

True, but I think it could work both ways. I had a male cousin who waited until he was nearing his 3-5 to get married. And then he had an awful divorce, and the marriage wasn't any better. And that was the first divorce from my paternal side of the family, which took everyone by surprise because they appeared to be a normal couple from all fronts. :sadblink:

[kucchnahi]

uh welcome back.

:confused: Sorry, did I miss your post before? But :wave:

[Clueless_uk]

I think if you are blessed with wise and intelligent parents...then an arranged marriage can work.

And if your blessed by God...you can meet the right person.

Sadly, I don't quite trust my future under my family's hands....also...I have developed strong dislikes of certain charesteristics in people....and it would be crucial for me to know that they are free of these. Otherwise, I would rather remain single all my life and devote my life to some useful cause.

I don't think finding the "one" is everything in life....people put far too much emphasis on this aspect and forget about the more significants things in life often....like loving your family....your friends...your neighbour....the less fortunate....ect ect

Ok I am starting to sound like Mother Teresa now...so I will shurrup. I'm Clueless!

[kucchnahi]

Yeah!!!

Well, I guess as long as you're happy and it works out. :)

[desi_shawrty]

How ever i can find a hotter hubby
I'll take it.

[kucchnahi]

I think if you are blessed with wise and intelligent parents...then an arranged marriage can work.

And if your blessed by God...you can meet the right person.

Sadly, I don't quite trust my future under my family's hands....also...I have developed strong dislikes of certain charesteristics in people....and it would be crucial for me to know that they are free of these. Otherwise, I would rather remain single all my life and devote my life to some useful cause.

I don't think finding the "one" is everything in life....people put far too much emphasis on this aspect and forget about the more significants things in life often....like loving your family....your friends...your neighbour....the less fortunate....ect ect

Ok I am starting to sound like Mother Teresa now...so I will shurrup. I'm Clueless!

:wave: I had seen your post in Chunky's thread, and I was impressed. So, good job with that.

Now, onto this: Exactly; I wish more people thought like that. However, that is not to say that people must not be on the look-out for someone they can potentially connect with; but I think it is crucial to be happy on your own before you can be happy with anyone else. :)

[kucchnahi]

How ever i can find a hotter hubby
I'll take it.

:lol: Yup, that will work. :)

[desi_shawrty]

:lol: Yup, that will work. :)
yeh and rich too.

[kucchnahi]

yeh and rich too.

For what's it worth, I hope you find him. ;)

[Clueless_uk]

:wave: I had seen your post in Chunky's thread, and I was impressed. So, good job with that.

Now, onto this: Exactly; I wish more people thought like that. However, that is not to say that people must not be on the look-out for someone they can potentially connect with; but I think it is crucial to be happy on your own before you can be happy with anyone else. :)

:) Cheers

Subconciously everyone is always on the look out for someone...it's part of procreation....in our instincts!

I refer to those that spend all their time out there going from one person to the other to find Mr/Miss Right...devoting all their time, money and energy running after people only to realise that they are losing those that trully love them.

[kucchnahi]

:) Cheers

Subconciously everyone is always on the look out for someone...it's part of procreation....in our instincts!

I refer to those that spend all their time out there going from one person to the other to find Mr/Miss Right...devoting all their time, money and energy running after people only to realise that they are losing those that trully love them.

Well, if some people can afford to do that with their time, money, and energy, then that is good for them. But it would be sad if they ended up ignoring everyone else in their life, I think.

[HeAvYmAcHiNeGuN]

anything would do

if i fall in love with a gal....my parents wont have a problem

and if my parents want me to marry someone....i wont say No

[itismyusername]

either way.

[kucchnahi]

anything would do

if i fall in love with a gal....my parents wont have a problem

and if my parents want me to marry someone....i wont say No

That's awesome; I thought guys' parents are usually more worried though about having their son bring in a daughter-in-law who they potentially might not get along with. But I think it is great that your parents don't think like that. :)

[BigCrazyIndian]

Marriage of convenience. No, that doesn't mean I'm going to marry someone who works at a convenient store.

[kucchnahi]

either way.

:cool: I think most of the answers so far in posts seem to be similar to yours.

[kucchnahi]

Marriage of convenience. No, that doesn't mean I'm going to marry someone who works at a convenient store.

No, are you serious? What kind of marriage of convenience?

[itismyusername]

:cool: I think most of the answers so far in posts seem to be similar to yours.
yea i think so too..:) :).

although i do think that the ones who say either way...they currently don't have anyone of their own choice :cool:

[BilalisPakistani]

Lol :no:

There seems to be a new thread about marriage everyday.

Desi girls have been trained well.

[kucchnahi]

yea i think so too..:) :).

although i do think that the ones who say either way...they currently don't have anyone of their own choice :cool:

Oh, well. Then, I hope you find someone of your choice. :)

[BigCrazyIndian]

No, are you serious? What kind of marriage of convenience?

no, not serious at all.

But if I were, I think the convenience would be that she'd be rich, I'd never have to work ever again, and after 1 year she dies and leaves me her fortune. Sounds pretty convenient to me.

[kucchnahi]

Lol :no:

There seems to be a new thread about marriage everyday.

Desi girls have been trained well.

Yes, they have. Our desi parents must be proud at this moment, don't ya think? :lol:

But come on, Bilal, what do you think? Which one would you like for yourself? And yes, neither is not an option. ;)

[Samad]

A mix of both works best :wavey:

[kucchnahi]

no, not serious at all.

But if I were, I think the convenience would be that she'd be rich, I'd never have to work ever again, and after 1 year she dies and leaves me her fortune. Sounds pretty convenient to me.

:rofl:

I said that to my mom once in joke something to this effect, and she thought I was serious for one second. And she goes like, "You kids. That's awful. No, that is not going to happen."

[Clueless_uk]

Well, if some people can afford to do that with their time, money, and energy, then that is good for them. But it would be sad if they ended up ignoring everyone else in their life, I think.

Each to their own I suppose!

[kucchnahi]

A mix of both works best :wavey:

:wave: I'm inclined to agree, although I prefer the former.

[itismyusername]

Oh, well. Then, I hope you find someone of your choice. :)
honestly...i trust my parents...i am sure they will find someone suitable for me :)...i like the idea..its in a way hassle free.

[kucchnahi]

Each to their own I suppose!

Yup. :)

[kucchnahi]

honestly...i trust my parents...i am sure they will find someone suitable for me :)...i like the idea..its in a way hassle free.

True, extremely hassle-free I think.

Awww, and I hope you find a wonderful hubby. :)

[risha89]

love marriage, but wouldnt completely say no to arranged i suppose.

[Samad]

:wave: I'm inclined to agree, although I prefer the former.

Former as in Arranged marriage?

[itismyusername]

True, extremely hassle-free I think.

Awww, and I hope you find a wonderful hubby. :)
i hope so too..and thank you :)..i hope you find a wonderful and loving husband too.

nothing beats when you see your parents all happy and excited for your marraige :D

[kucchnahi]

Former as in Arranged marriage?

Yup. Arranged marriage. I love the idea of falling in love after marriage and discovering new aspects/sides to my hubby. That way, the novelty of the person is never-ending in a way.

[BigCrazyIndian]

:rofl:

I said that to my mom once in joke something to this effect, and she thought I was serious for one second. And she goes like, "You kids. That's awful. No, that is not going to happen."

well here's a question for you, puccini.

have you considered not getting married at all? :shock:

[thebrownreason]

if i do get married, love marriage.

[thebrownreason]

arrange marriage

theres no fucking ehad ache involve plus ur parents pay for evrything
??

your parents wont pay if its a love marriage?

[kucchnahi]

love marriage, but wouldnt completely say no to arranged i suppose.

Aw, whatever which one you best prefer. :)

[HeAvYmAcHiNeGuN]

That's awesome; I thought guys' parents are usually more worried though about having their son bring in a daughter-in-law who they potentially might not get along with. But I think it is great that your parents don't think like that. :)

my parents have neva stopped me from doin anything
but they always guide me....listen son...this is the right path...and this is the wrong one
its upto u....whether u choose the Right or the Wrong Path

[kucchnahi]

well here's a question for you, puccini.

have you considered not getting married at all? :shock:

Yeah, I have. :lol:

It is kind of scary to leap into marriage. I used to think I don't want to marry. But I realized I was just afraid of the unknown and still am, truth be told. But I am willing to take a leap of faith in a way I didn't think I would be before.

[x baby bably x]

Arranged.

- Parents are happy.
- Easier.
- I`m lazy.

[kucchnahi]

if i do get married, love marriage.

Ah, :cool: I hope you find her, and I know you will. :)

[kucchnahi]

my parents have neva stopped me from doin anything
but they always guide me....listen son...this is the right path...and this is the wrong one
its upto u....whether u choose the Right or the Wrong Path

They sound like really sweet parents. :)

[kucchnahi]

Arranged.

- Parents are happy.
- Easier.
- I`m lazy.

:lol: Yup, that's one way and meets the aforesaid criteria.

[Samad]

Yup. Arranged marriage. I love the idea of falling in love after marriage and discovering new aspects/sides to my hubby. That way, the novelty of the person is never-ending in a way.

I wish more desi girls would think this way...but yes you're absolutely right. Just like the good old days!

[Samad]

Arranged.

- Parents are happy.
- Easier.
- I`m lazy.


:lol: at least you're being honest

[thebrownreason]

Arranged.

- Parents are happy.
- Easier.
- I`m lazy.
:no:

[thebrownreason]

Ah, :cool: I hope you find her, and I know you will. :)

care to explain why? :D

[HeAvYmAcHiNeGuN]

They sound like really sweet parents. :)

:yes:
i love my family

[x baby bably x]

:lol: at least you're being honest:D

Yup, I guess so! Plus, there isn`t any Bengali guys in my area that my parents would approve of. So...no point of having false hope with guys!

[kucchnahi]

I wish more desi girls would think this way...but yes you're absolutely right. Just like the good old days!

Lol. Are you trying to make me turn red in the face? :lol: But yup, I'm old-fashioned (not that it was ever a secret).

[x baby bably x]

:no:LOL...What? 1st criteria was that my parents are happy?

[thebrownreason]

LOL...What? 1st criteria was that my parents are happy?

you'll make some fob proud.

[kucchnahi]

care to explain why? :D

Well, you seem like an extremely outgoing and gregarious person, which I think definitely tends to up one's chances of meeting the One. Apart from that, I guess it is just instinct? :lol: I guess I really dunno apart from that.

[rio]

i joined this matrimonial site about three years ago, ive only had accepted interest bout a year ago. I started using it again like few months ago and man there are some hot girls on there, but when it comes to risthey you gotta be specific.

I get views but no interests.

I suppose theres always the celebrate route, but gosh that sounds bad. Sahve your head, meditate, eat, sleep, yoga, pray, sleep.

[nayeemx33]

Arranged.

- Parents are happy.
- Easier.
- I`m lazy.

I'll marry you if you're rich or becoming a doctor/lawyer/dentist :lulz:

[Samad]

:D

Yup, I guess so! Plus, there isn`t any Bengali guys in my area that my parents would approve of. So...no point of having false hope with guys!

thedude is bengali ;)

[kucchnahi]

i joined this matrimonial site about three years ago, ive only had accepted interest bout a year ago. I started using it again like few months ago and man there are some hot girls on there, but when it comes to risthey you gotta be specific.

I get views but no interests.

I suppose theres always the celebrate route, but gosh that sounds bad. Sahve your head, meditate, eat, sleep, yoga, pray, sleep.

:lol: You'll find the right person at the right point in time at the right place, and you'll then wonder why you ever worried. ;)

[thebrownreason]

Well, you seem like an extremely outgoing and gregarious person, which I think definitely tends to up one's chances of meeting the One. Apart from that, I guess it is just instinct? :lol: I guess I really dunno apart from that.

I was looking for something else, but thanks for the compliments. :lol:

[nayeemx33]

thedude is bengali ;)

Wrong. He's a paki.

[x baby bably x]

you'll make some fob proud.:lol: all good!

[x baby bably x]

I'll marry you if you're rich or becoming a doctor/lawyer/dentist :lulz:No comment.

[kucchnahi]

Love.

:cool:

[kucchnahi]

thedude is bengali ;)

I second Samad's comment. :)

[x baby bably x]

thedude is bengali ;)LOL...why you winking?

[nayeemx33]

No comment.

:crying:

[Punjabi_Link]

I prefer love marriage and my parents are cool with that as long my wifey is brown (desi).

[kucchnahi]

LOL...why you winking?

Because he and I are hinting something. :)

[vikvik12]

Finally an original thread, heck yeah!

[kucchnahi]

I prefer love marriage and my parents are cool with that as long my wifey is brown (desi).

:cool: Yeah, desi parents do always manage to put conditions though, don't they? :lol: But I guess the important thing is that you're comfortable with that too. :)

[Samad]

Lol. Are you trying to make me turn red in the face? :lol: But yup, I'm old-fashioned (not that it was ever a secret).

Lol no I was serious! There is nothing wrong with being old-fashioned

[x baby bably x]

Because he and I are hinting something. :)What are you hinting?

[x baby bably x]

:crying::arrow:

[kucchnahi]

Finally an original thread, heck yeah!

Is that sarcasm? :sadblink: I know not original but first ever thread from me on the topic. :)

[kucchnahi]

What are you hinting?

Lol. The same thing he is. :) You're a smart girl. Figure it out. ;)

[Samad]

LOL...why you winking?

I'm just saying...he could use a baby bably bengali girl in his life :lol:

[kucchnahi]

Lol no I was serious! There is nothing wrong with being old-fashioned

Lol. Okay. :)

[nayeemx33]

:arrow:
:wink:

[kucchnahi]

I'm just saying...he could use a baby bably bengali girl in his life :lol:

Ditto. Wanna open a matchmaking company with me? Lol.

[Punjabi_Link]

:cool: Yeah, desi parents do always manage to put conditions though, don't they? :lol: But I guess the important thing is that you're comfortable with that too. :)

I guess so. :neutral:

[0101]

arranged...

..but there's a twist to it. Rather than my parents picking them, I'm gonna pick them. I hate today's women and their values. bitches.

[kucchnahi]

arranged...

..but there's a twist to it. Rather than my parents picking them, I'm gonna pick them. I hate today's women and their values. bitches.

Ah, women aren't all bad. I'm sure you'll find someone you're compatible with. :)

[Samad]

Ditto. Wanna open a matchmaking company with me? Lol.

Sure i'm good at it too :D

[kucchnahi]

Sure i'm good at it too :D

Okay, deal. :lol:

[0101]

Ah, women aren't all bad. I'm sure you'll find someone you're compatible with. :)

Today's women are all used and torn up (down there) ;p

[vikvik12]

Is that sarcasm? :sadblink: I know not original but first ever thread from me on the topic. :)
It was my way of saying you suck. :D

[kucchnahi]

Today's women are all used and torn up (down there) ;p

Ohhh. Uh, well, you must then find someone who values her religion and is of good character.

[kucchnahi]

It was my way of saying you suck. :D

:lol: Tell me something I don't know. ;)

[x baby bably x]

Lol. The same thing he is. :) You're a smart girl. Figure it out. ;)

I'm just saying...he could use a baby bably bengali girl in his life :lol:

LOL...I get it.

[0101]

Ohhh. Uh, well, you must then find someone who values her religion and is of good character.
Easy to say than to do but ya let's keep hope alive :D

Once I said marriage is like a 3 ring circus..the engagement ring, wedding ring, and the suffer-ring

:D

[kucchnahi]

LOL...I get it.

Maybe uhhh you should do something about our matchmaking like...oh I dunno...like uhhh talk to TheDude. ;)

[itismyusername]

Today's women are all used and torn up (down there) ;p
so are you gonna test them first..to see if they are not torn..lol

[kucchnahi]

Easy to say than to do but ya let's keep hope alive :D

Once I said marriage is like a 3 ring circus..the engagement ring, wedding ring, and the suffer-ring

:D

:lol: I have heard that before.

[0101]

so are you gonna test them first..to see if they are not torn..lol

I'll just ask her "Did you ever had a relationship before?" If she said more than a month like '3 years", I'll just guess it's torn ..in a way, I'm applying scientific method :D

[itismyusername]

Ohhh. Uh, well, you must then find someone who values her religion and is of good character.
ohh..that is so typical..just because the girl is virgin doesn't mean she's of a good character..there are plenty of virgins out there..who are charaterless and bitchy.

[vikvik12]

:lol: Tell me something I don't know. ;)
Easy. Your thread title has been done before. Now you know.

[x baby bably x]

Maybe uhhh you should do something about our matchmaking like...oh I dunno...like uhhh talk to TheDude. ;)LOL...I don`t make the first moves...

[0101]

ohh..that is so typical..just because the girl is virgin doesn't mean she's of a good character..there are plenty of virgins out there..who are charaterless and bitchy.
I'm willing to live with a bitch :D


I like fobby girls what can I say? :dunno:

[kucchnahi]

ohh..that is so typical..just because the girl is virgin doesn't mean she's of a good character..there are plenty of virgins out there..who are charaterless and bitchy.

Lol. I wasn't implying anything here. And I agree with you. Not having had pre-marital sex is no guarantee that the girl is someone you're compatible with or will like or who is "good." But since he was asking that, I gave him the best answer I could.

[kucchnahi]

Easy. Your thread title has been done before. Now you know.

Lol. Okay. :)

[itismyusername]

I'll just ask her "Did you ever had a relationship before?" If she said more than a month like '3 years", I'll just guess it's torn ..in a way, I'm applying scientific method :D
there are girls who do everything but that you know...they save their vagina from being ripped so that they can save their and their family's honor.

they have done everything yet they are still virgins..that's decieving, aint it.

[0101]

there are girls who do everything but that you know...they save their vagina from being ripped so that they can save their and their family's honor.

they have done everything yet they are still virgins..that's decieving, aint it.

Why are you raining on my parade? :wavey:

[ArTmALik]

Hmm, in desi culture, there have always been talk of the marriage and which system operates better.

Arranged Marriage: You meet the prospective partner with your parents. You can potentially meet with each other, if you continue to like each other and then get engaged and married. And what you truly want to do is fall in love after marriage.

Love Marriage: You date individuals in the hopes you find the One. And when you find the One, you tie the knot because you are in love and want to commit as a means of declaring your love openly to the One and society.

Which one is more preferable to you? And why? :)

i think both SUCKS.

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ahhh fuckk

[kucchnahi]

LOL...I don`t make the first moves...

Okay. I will see what I can do about my matchmaking skills. :)

[vikvik12]

Lol. Okay. :)
Still lacking in originality I see.

[itismyusername]

I'm willing to live with a bitch :D


I like fobby girls what can I say? :dunno:
lol....i hope you find a non-bitchy one though :)

[:0(-_-)0: mirchi]

neither. im of the 'try but dont buy' school of thought.

[itismyusername]

Why are you raining on my parade? :wavey:
i will stop now :)

[kucchnahi]

i think both SUCKS.

Awww, well, it is good to see you Artmalik. I trust you're in good health? But I would hope you realize in time that marriage can be good with the right person. And just because the person you thought was right went away doesn't mean that you can't find the real Ms. Right. :)

[kucchnahi]

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ahhh fuckk

Don't say that; he is nice and was just a bit shocked and depressed from what had happened. He will be fine soon. :)

[kucchnahi]

Still lacking in originality I see.

Lol. I am not original but creative sometimes when it suits me. :)

[:0(-_-)0: mirchi]

Don't say that; he is nice and was just a bit shocked and depressed from what had happened. He will be fine soon. :)
what happened?

[kucchnahi]

neither. im of the 'try but dont buy' school of thought.

Oh, sorry, can you clarify? Is that a yes to love marriage? :)

[kucchnahi]

what happened?

I don't really know. But I think something with his ex-girlfriend. Only Artmalik though really knows or God.

[:0(-_-)0: mirchi]

Oh, sorry, can you clarify? Is that a yes to love marriage? :)
no to both.

[ArTmALik]

Awww, well, it is good to see you Artmalik. I trust you're in good health? But I would hope you realize in time that marriage can be good with the right person. And just because the person you thought was right went away doesn't mean that you can't find the real Ms. Right. :)

You are male or female ?

[kucchnahi]

no to both.

Lol. Okay, but if you had to pick one, which one would it be? And that's assuming neither is not an option. :)

[kucchnahi]

You are male or female ?

Girl. But that does not matter.

[kucchnahi]

arranged. it's easier.

How did I know you're going to say that? Well, lol, I just did. Have you been watching any good Indian serials lately because I have been quite bored by Salaam Zindagi, especially the last episode. :)

Oh, and great minds think alike. :)

[kucchnahi]

lol. well i have family members who have had love marraiges and it wasn't a very smooth process. arranged just seems like the most full-proof method. :lol:

actually, i really havent seen anything recently. I watch sa re ga ma pa at my masi's house though sometimes. :lol:

Yeah, I know what you mean. I think love marriages can be a bit rocky; but you know, the strange thing is that one of my male cousins had a love marriage, and he is still so much in love with her, which is awesome. But I still prefer arranged marriages for much the same reasons you do. :)

Lol. I used to watch Sa Re Ga Ma Pa, but I don't anymore. But I think the kids there have a such a great singing voice; I can't even do half that good of a job if I tried really hard. Lol. :)

Btw, I still love that mehndi picture. Yay. :hug:

[GT_Starrr]

love. because dating is fun, it might not be easy sometimes...but it's fun.

arranged marriages seem really backwards to me, no offense to any of yous lazy people.

[vikvik12]

Fine, I was just joking around with you anyway. :D

[kucchnahi]

love. because dating is fun, it might not be easy sometimes...but it's fun.

arranged marriages seem really backwards to me, no offense to any of yous lazy people.

Lol. No, it is okay. I think personal preference depends totally on the person's comfort level. So, no sweat. :)

Lol. Not all people who want arranged marriages are lazy. ;)

[kucchnahi]

Fine, I was just joking around with you anyway. :D

:hug: Lol, it is okay.

[selina_786]

Well right at this very stage of my life, I don't really want the hassle of 'searchng' for my husband on my own. If my parent's can find a prospective partner then I'd definitely consider something but that is not going to happen unfortunately. My parents prefer me to search for my husband myself, although when they do spot guys they know of, they do sort of bring them to my attention in random conversations. :lol: Parents haha

[RacingSoul]

my parents didnt have an arranged marriage...so it's almost certain i wont either.

[ArTmALik]

Kuchnahin " Which One U R Gona Go For ?arrnaged Or Love ?

[-PaKiBaBe-]

love marriage. arrange iF my parents find the right guy.. but sumhow i doubt it as the ones theyv talked about so far are soo.. :bored:

[kucchnahi]

Well it's not that they don't love each other anymore (not that i would really know, but still). The parents weren't totally liking the whole situation and i don't think my parents would appreciate me doing that. if you're going to have a love marriage, atleast find someone who everyone will approve of. that whole 'if you love them it shouldn't matter' thing is really dumb. Don't you love your parents too?

I know! they're soooo good this time! that blind girl is amazing!

haha. :hug:

Lol. I guess no one knows what really goes on with a couple. Like for example, one of my other male cousins looked so happy with his wife, but it turns out that they were having a lot of problems. And if his wife hadn't gotten pregnant, I am sure they would have divorced. And this was a love marriage, btw. So, it can also be sad like you said.

Yeah, I never understood the whole mentality behind saying that "if I love someone, I don't care if the parents or anyone else ever approves or not." Personally, I would never want to hurt my parents that way because I love them too much.

Yup, that blind girl is so amazing. I am so happy that she has a platform to show the sweetness and melodious ring of her voice.

:hug: always! :)

[:0(-_-)0: mirchi]

Lol. Okay, but if you had to pick one, which one would it be? And that's assuming neither is not an option. :)
'love' i guess. except the fact that the so called 'love' fades after 3-5yrs of marriage and they both end up frustrated, disatisfied and lonely.

[RacingSoul]

Kuchnahin " Which One U R Gona Go For ?arrnaged Or Love ?

i know what ur gonna do...umm hmm yess i do!

neither arranged nor love...u'll just commit suicide, yaar! :kekeke:

[kucchnahi]

Well right at this very stage of my life, I don't really want the hassle of 'searchng' for my husband on my own. If my parent's can find a prospective partner then I'd definitely consider something but that is not going to happen unfortunately. My parents prefer me to search for my husband myself, although when they do spot guys they know of, they do sort of bring them to my attention in random conversations. :lol: Parents haha

Lol. Parents are always funny creatures, especially desi parents. Oh, nohz. Lol. But don't worry; I'm sure you'll find someone. You have a great online personality, and I can't imagine you not having a great personality offline. You seem like a really sensible person, and trust me, guys can always use that since they sometimes seem to lack good sense. Lol. Plus, you seem really pretty. So, good-luck, although I am sure you won't need it. :)

[kucchnahi]

Kuchnahin " Which One U R Gona Go For ?arrnaged Or Love ?

Arranged marriage.

[GordonBrown]

If i have met someone and im in love and think that i am ready for marriage then it would be for love. But if i havent fallen in love and met anyone and i feel i am ready for marriage then arranged. Either way im not too fussed

[ArTmALik]

i know what ur gonna do...umm hmm yess i do!

neither arranged nor love...u'll just commit suicide, yaar! :kekeke:

lol...Hata sawan kee ghita ,batti bhuja aur soja =)

[ArTmALik]

Arranged marriage.


WHEN?

[kucchnahi]

'love' i guess. except the fact that the so called 'love' fades after 3-5yrs of marriage and they both end up frustrated, disatisfied and lonely.

That's interesting you would say that, and I know a lot of people have similar notions. But I think people don't realize that it is not that love changes or fades but that the colors of it change. A person in the beginning of marriage or relationship is in that phase where everything is like the "honeymoon period." And then of course comes the part where mature love factors in, which doesn't involve so much romance as comfort. But I'm sure you'll find the person, Mirchi as you'll make him "hot" for you. Lol. :)

[kucchnahi]

WHEN?

When my parents want it and when I feel mentally prepared for the responsibilites that come with marriage.

[selina_786]

Lol. Parents are always funny creatures, especially desi parents. Oh, nohz. Lol. But don't worry; I'm sure you'll find someone. You have a great online personality, and I can't imagine you not having a great personality offline. You seem like a really sensible person, and trust me, guys can always use that since they sometimes seem to lack good sense. Lol. Plus, you seem really pretty. So, good-luck, although I am sure you won't need it. :)
Thankyou , I actually do need it. :)

[kucchnahi]

I have an aunty who married a jewish man and her father disowned her. :| I have a cousin who wants to marry a muslim (i'm hindu btw). People can say, 'we are all human' or whatever, but it's too hard to adjust to another culture, you know? desi marriages aren't just about the two people. I don't want to be put in such a situation.

and she's quite smart too. i personally didn't like diwakar that much when he was on the show, but now he's really good. he came with the challenge 2007 people for the world tour.

I know what you mean; and that is why I laugh sometimes when my mom hints that she would not mind if I married a white person. Because the truth is that I am through-and-through desi. I would not ever want to compromise with my culture, which can be difficult if someone marries someone who is not of the same. For the people who make it work, kudos to them. But I personally would never feel comfortable with the notion if applied to myself.

Lol. That's cool. I love Hindu marriage ceremonies, and I already told one of my friends (Hindu) that she's going to be my bridesmaid and I'm going to be hers. Lol. But I have a feeling I may end up with a lot more bridesmaid than I originally intended. Lol.

Hmm, Diwakar? For some reason, the name rings a bell but the face doesn't. But I would really love to see some of these kids make their dreams come true in the big and bad world of Bollywood. :)

[kucchnahi]

Thankyou , I actually do need it. :)

Psssh. Since when? Lol. :hug:

[kucchnahi]

love marriage. arrange iF my parents find the right guy.. but sumhow i doubt it as the ones theyv talked about so far are soo.. :bored:

Lol. Yup; parents have sometimes very different notion than what we do of who our ideal partner would be. But don't worry; I'm sure you'll find someone on your own. :)

[kucchnahi]

If i have met someone and im in love and think that i am ready for marriage then it would be for love. But if i havent fallen in love and met anyone and i feel i am ready for marriage then arranged. Either way im not too fussed

Oh, lol. That's great you're keeping your options open and are not saying completely no to arranged marriages; but I hope you find your partner through the route you want a.k.a. love marriage.

[kucchnahi]

lol. yep yep. love marriage would be okay as long as the parental units were fully satisfied, but that doesn't happen too often. my cousin just announced that she's getting married. it was a love marriage, but the parents are extremely satisfied with the rishta. probably better than they ever thought they could get. those are the kind of love marriages that i don't mind. Awww, lol. That is so sweet. I wish them loads of luck.

he was the blind boy. Oh, darn, I must have missed him because I only thought that there was one blind person in the show. I guess my observation skills leave something to be desired.

do you watch a lot of hindi movies?

Well, I used to watch a lot of Hindi movies. But not so much anymore. The last one I watched was Om Shanti Om, which was different but somehow didn't touch me as I was expecting something a tad "hatke." But I have been dying to watch Taare Zameen Par. And also, some of the Bollywood movies are turning into mere skin shows, which makes me very selective in terms of wanting to watch only good storylines. Lol. :)

[kucchnahi]

diwakar was the blind boy from the last season of little champs. lol. Oh, darn, yes. Now, I see why the name rang a bell. Well, he had won a lot of hearts with his singing and his modesty.

oh yeah! i heard taare zameen par was really good. i really want to see that as well.

Oh, wow. :cool: If you had lived where I live, I seriously would have suggested that we just rent the movie and go see it. Lol. Most of my desi friends are not really into Indian movies as much as I am, and even I don't watch it as much as I used to anymore.

[GordonBrown]

Oh, lol. That's great you're keeping your options open and are not saying completely no to arranged marriages; but I hope you find your partner through the route you want a.k.a. love marriage.

Im not ready for it yet anyway so have time to find someone and if i dont, then arranged marriage ftw

[subaru]

I don't care.. I've already declared my love to the Aston Martin Rapide

A wife now would just be a bonus

[King Ghidra]

how about go marriaage or is that a ridiculous outrageous idea?

[LAKERFAN8]

Love marrige because I dont trust my parent's taste :hs:

[x baby bably x]

^^^ LOL...my parents don`t trust my taste!

[Chronos]

it'd be pretty cool if my parents picked out a girl and I actually fell in love with her before getting married.

arranged love marriage ftw!

[BigCrazyIndian]

mail-order brides from russia :cheers:

I used to have a link to an online catalog, can't believe I lost it.

[The Anti Desi]

Fuck desi culture.

[x baby bably x]

Fuck desi culture.LOL...still got hatred for the desi culture then I`m sensing?

[kucchnahi]

Im not ready for it yet anyway so have time to find someone and if i dont, then arranged marriage ftw

:cool:

[kucchnahi]

I don't care.. I've already declared my love to the Aston Martin Rapide

A wife now would just be a bonus

:lol: You have good taste. ;)

[kucchnahi]

how about go marriaage or is that a ridiculous outrageous idea?

Lol. Dunno what that is but anything you like and want is a good idea. :)

[kucchnahi]

Love marrige because I dont trust my parent's taste :hs:

:lol: I trust my parents' tate, just not completely. So, I'll be screening the candidates very closely. So, I can relate. :)

[kucchnahi]

it'd be pretty cool if my parents picked out a girl and I actually fell in love with her before getting married.

arranged love marriage ftw!

Ah, I never thought about that Chronos. Falling in love with someone before marriage that your parents pick... Well, that's kind of a new twist on arranged marriage. But that seems great. :cool:

[kucchnahi]

mail-order brides from russia :cheers:

I used to have a link to an online catalog, can't believe I lost it.

Why is this Indian looking for mail-order brides from Russia? :squint:

Lol. :hug:

[kucchnahi]

Fuck desi culture.

Awww, desi culture can be frustrating. But it is not all bad; in fact, it has a lot of good. So, cheer up. :D

[<Don>]

Sometimes I think, how can marriage be arranged? sure you can I arrange to meet a friend, arrange to have a party, arrange to have coffee, but arrange spending your life with some random 'out of the hat'?

It should be a last resort if no one wants to marry you.

[desi_shawrty]

Would some of you people really get an arrange marriage because you're too lazy to find someone on your own??


wtf

Getting married isn't a chore :neutral:

[kucchnahi]

Sometimes I think, how can marriage be arranged? sure you can I arrange to meet a friend, arrange to have a party, arrange to have coffee, but arrange spending your life with some random 'out of the hat'?

It should be a last resort if no one wants to marry you.

Lol. When I say arranged marriage, I am not using it in the traditional sense of the defintion that was in operation 50 years or so ago. What I mean by arranged marriage is in the modern context, which is to say that a boy and a girl who like each other after the parents introduce them/or if the parents are involved in the initial process.

For me, lol, it is not a last resort but how I would like it because I guess I am old-fashioned in that sense. :)

[kucchnahi]

Would some of you people really get an arrange marriage because you're too lazy to find someone on your own??


wtf

Getting married isn't a chore :neutral:

Lol. I think some individuals didn't necessarily mean they were really lazy to find someone; but I agree that getting married isn't a chore and shouldn't be treated like one. :)

That said, I like the concept of arranged marriages. :)