....guys? wanna help shed some light on this?

[Rogue]

thanks for the input folks, the situation seems to have been resolved in its own way...

:grouphug:

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:think: alright guys, maybe you can shed some light on this..i wanna see if it's in tune with that i think is going on. (and please refrain from the wisecracks, it would be appreciated)

so an ex of mine (who used to be a best friend of 3-4 years) who's been dating someone for the past 8+ months is *still* trying to get in touch with me from time to time (despite me having told him that i want nothing to do with him before i cut him off in every way, and i have never answered any of their emails/phone calls/ims/what have you since then) called me repeatedly last night (from 11pm straight up until 1 am) after a few months.

And yes, as some of you may recall, this is the same guy whos girl and him repeatedly kept trying to intrude in on my life previously not to mention trying to keep tabs on what was going on with me and my life through various means. (and they sent me plenty of pictures from time to time of themselves to which i never responded to, but i blocked 'em).

Now, what i ask again is...

why would you repeatedly call an ex of yours (that *YOU* broke up with)...that many times in one night alone if you already have someone? and proceeded to leave voicemails like "please just answer this one time", "i swear it will be the last time i call you", "please pick up just one for old times' sake" , and "i'm calling for a reason?" especially if your ex has made it clear that they don't want anything to do with you? what the hell is up with that? :neutral:

[LAKERFAN8]

he has got issues

[Drumline]

*searches for lightbulb*

simple fact of the matter is, you were the bigger better deal, and now he only figures that out with the new girl.

although i do find this hard to believe, since you are a snail

[Spork]

Probably still likes you and resents it. Maybe he wants to talk to you again to reaffirm his position on breaking up with you. It can never really lead to anything good, so just stay the course and it'll blow over. Or you can be direct and tell him to fuck off, its quite liberating. And no, I never contact any of my exes that I've broken with. That, "still friends" crap never works.

[undergroundd]

Maybe he wants to sell you girl scout cookies?

Sorry Sorry Sorry...

Uh...he probably has something to say. Call him. It's simple.

[icekreamgirl12]

pick up and talk at least once.....to see wat he has to say!

[Rogue]

he has got issues
:werd:

[Rogue]

*searches for lightbulb*

simple fact of the matter is, you were the bigger better deal, and now he only figures that out with the new girl.

although i do find this hard to believe, since you are a snail
:wiggle: i'm a snail that meows.

[icekreamgirl12]

Probably still likes you and resents it. Maybe he wants to talk to you again to reaffirm his position on breaking up with you. It can never really lead to anything good, so just stay the course and it'll blow over. Or you can be direct and tell him to fuck off, its quite liberating. And no, I never contact any of my exes that I've broken with. That, "still friends" crap never works.
:werd:

[Drumline]

:wiggle: i'm a snail that meows.

you're still a snail :squint:

don't make me bring out the salt

[hawthamzi]

personaly i think he's just looking for a hit and run prospect. Either that or he playing games to see if theres anything there anymore.

[Rogue]

Probably still likes you and resents it. Maybe he wants to talk to you again to reaffirm his position on breaking up with you. It can never really lead to anything good, so just stay the course and it'll blow over. Or you can be direct and tell him to fuck off, its quite liberating. And no, I never contact any of my exes that I've broken with. That, "still friends" crap never works.
i've already been very frank when i told him i have nothing more to say to him, not now. not ever. and don't want anything to do with him before i cut him off a long while back (now over a year)

i've only managed to remain on amicable terms with 2 of my exes (as well as their fiances), both of who will be getting married late this year/early next year. however, this is someone i do not care to have in my life, ever, not even as a friend.

now, i keep thinking that i've done all i can and it will blow over. but it has been over a year and it still hasn't blown over despite no response/no reciprocation from my part.

[Luvin_It]

Sound like he desperately wants to talk to again..so just answer that one call and hear him out ..it may be something important..u never know unless u pick up !

[w1ld]

:think: alright guys, maybe you can shed some light on this..i wanna see if it's in tune with that i think is going on. (and please refrain from the wisecracks, it would be appreciated)

so an ex of mine (who used to be a best friend of 3-4 years) who's been dating someone for the past 8+ months is *still* trying to get in touch with me from time to time (despite me having told him that i want nothing to do with him before i cut him off in every way, and i have never answered any of their emails/phone calls/ims/what have you since then) called me repeatedly last night (from 11pm straight up until 1 am) after a few months.

And yes, as some of you may recall, this is the same guy whos girl and him repeatedly kept trying to intrude in on my life previously not to mention trying to keep tabs on what was going on with me and my life through various means. (and they sent me plenty of pictures from time to time of themselves to which i never responded to, but i blocked 'em).

Now, what i ask again is...

why would you repeatedly call an ex of yours (that *YOU* broke up with)...that many times in one night alone if you already have someone? and proceeded to leave voicemails like "please just answer this one time", "i swear it will be the last time i call you", "please pick up just one for old times' sake" , and "i'm calling for a reason?" especially if your ex has made it clear that they don't want anything to do with you? what the hell is up with that? :neutral:

Keep ignoring this guy.

PS: You had a nice time with this looser?

[Rogue]

pick up and talk at least once.....to see wat he has to say!
no, i'm not interested in hearing what he has to say. i just want him to stay out of my life so i will continue to ignore him. what i don't understand is why he can't just respect that fact that i don't want to speak to him or have him in my life at all.

[badfish]

:think: alright guys, maybe you can shed some light on this..i wanna see if it's in tune with that i think is going on. (and please refrain from the wisecracks, it would be appreciated)

so an ex of mine (who used to be a best friend of 3-4 years) who's been dating someone for the past 8+ months is *still* trying to get in touch with me from time to time (despite me having told him that i want nothing to do with him before i cut him off in every way, and i have never answered any of their emails/phone calls/ims/what have you since then) called me repeatedly last night (from 11pm straight up until 1 am) after a few months.

And yes, as some of you may recall, this is the same guy whos girl and him repeatedly kept trying to intrude in on my life previously not to mention trying to keep tabs on what was going on with me and my life through various means. (and they sent me plenty of pictures from time to time of themselves to which i never responded to, but i blocked 'em).

Now, what i ask again is...

why would you repeatedly call an ex of yours (that *YOU* broke up with)...that many times in one night alone if you already have someone? and proceeded to leave voicemails like "please just answer this one time", "i swear it will be the last time i call you", "please pick up just one for old times' sake" , and "i'm calling for a reason?" especially if your ex has made it clear that they don't want anything to do with you? what the hell is up with that? :neutral:
just answer it once, and get some closure. el fin.

[Rogue]

personaly i think he's just looking for a hit and run prospect. Either that or he playing games to see if theres anything there anymore.
:think: but don't you think in a year's time, he would have gotten the idea and just stopped hoping for me to change my mind?

[illin]

just answer it once, and get some closure. el fin.

word

[Spork]

i've already been very frank when i told him i have nothing more to say to him, not now. not ever. and don't want anything to do with him before i cut him off a long while back (now over a year)

i've only managed to remain on amicable terms with 2 of my exes (as well as their fiances), both of who will be getting married late this year/early next year. however, this is someone i do not care to have in my life, ever, not even as a friend.

now, i keep thinking that i've done all i can and it will blow over. but it has been over a year and it still hasn't blown over despite no response/no reciprocation from my part.

Well that's pretty disturbing. I think it's safe to say no matter what you do he's still going to to contact you any way he can. I guess you can take solace in the face he hasn't physically come over and stalked you. Maybe you can fight dirty and respond to all his emails with porn or other spam. Maybe talk to his parents and send those images he sent you to them. Get creative. This guy is obviously not going to leave you alone.

[Rogue]

Sound like he desperately wants to talk to again..so just answer that one call and hear him out ..it may be something important..u never know unless u pick up !
i don't want to pick up, i don't think it will ever end if i do.

[w1ld]

just answer it once, and get some closure. el fin.
It will just encourage this guy.

[Rogue]

Keep ignoring this guy.

PS: You had a nice time with this looser?
and exactly what is that supposed to mean?

[Drumline]

oh well look at the bright side gary, now that you're single you can 'work' your way to the top of the coporate ladder.

[Rogue]

just answer it once, and get some closure. el fin.
i feel i've given the situation enough closure from my part. refer to post 12.

[T.Dimera]

the answer is..some guys have the maturity level of a 12 year old...maybe he wants to show you the type of guy he is now, and wants you to feel jealous of his new girl or regret breaking up? maybe he wants to try and see if he has a chance with you? or maybe he's looking to get in your pants?....any guy with any self worth would not contact an ex who doesnt want anything to do with him...this guy is a moron

[gujulicious]

cmon..you cant be THAT heartless...atlea st hear him out and see what he wants to say.

[w1ld]

and exactly what is that supposed to mean?
It means you liked being with this guy?

[Luvin_It]

i don't want to pick up, i don't think it will ever end if i do.


no i think you should pick up..i mean ok fair enough yous ended the relationship and he's got with another girl... and now he's contacting u in diff ways... so it seems as if he has alot on his mind and maybe he wants to tell you things that he never got to tell you before.. well i read the bit saying it'd be the last time i call you...so stick to that and let him know that you dont want him contacting you again if thats what u really wish for.

[Rogue]

Well that's pretty disturbing. I think it's safe to say no matter what you do he's still going to to contact you any way he can. I guess you can take solace in the face he hasn't physically come over and stalked you. Maybe you can fight dirty and respond to all his emails with porn or other spam. Maybe talk to his parents and send those images he sent you to them. Get creative. This guy is obviously not going to leave you alone.:think: this is the part that kinda bothers me. on the bright side, he doesn't know exactly where i am anymore.

[icekreamgirl12]

no, i'm not interested in hearing what he has to say. i just want him to stay out of my life so i will continue to ignore him. what i don't understand is why he can't just respect that fact that i don't want to speak to him or have him in my life at all.
sum ppl are crazy wat can i say....
but good luck sweetie...

[Rogue]

oh well look at the bright side gary, now that you're single you can 'work' your way to the top of the coporate ladder.
what are you on about. i can do that even when i'm not single. pshh. :wiggle:

[T.Dimera]

It means you liked being with this guy?

u have the best sig i've seen in a while

[Rogue]

the answer is..some guys have the maturity level of a 12 year old...maybe he wants to show you the type of guy he is now, and wants you to feel jealous of his new girl or regret breaking up? maybe he wants to try and see if he has a chance with you? or maybe he's looking to get in your pants?....any guy with any self worth would not contact an ex who doesnt want anything to do with him...this guy is a moron
all i know is that i don't have a good feeling about it. it can't be anything good. so i won't.

[Drumline]

what are you on about. i can do that even when i'm not single. pshh. :wiggle:

no wonder you hate your boss so much, he's not giving you the promotions you've already put in the 'work' for.

[Rogue]

cmon..you cant be THAT heartless...atlea st hear him out and see what he wants to say.
hmm, you know, a small part of me thinks that i should let him, but then a larger part of me says. no. good riddance to bad rubbish and it's just not worth it.

[w1ld]

no i think you should pick up..i mean ok fair enough yous ended the relationship and he's got with another girl... and now he's contacting u in diff ways... so it seems as if he has alot on his mind and maybe he wants to tell you things that he never got to tell you before.. well i read the bit saying it'd be the last time i call you...so stick to that and let him know that you dont want him contacting you again if thats what u really wish for.
I am 100% sure there can't be anything like that.

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

OBVIOUS ANSWERS:

He is a pussy and can't get over you.

He is trying to fuck with your head and play a game under the instruction of his new bitch, cause that is what devious bitches do.

[w1ld]

u have the best sig i've seen in a while
Thanks. Your appreciation is commendable.

[Rogue]

It means you liked being with this guy?
at some point in time, yes, i really thought very highly of him (and to be honest, i enjoyed being his friend more) but that all changed when i came to know about other aspects of his personality which i couldn't respect. and i only came to know these things while/post dating him

[Luvin_It]

I am 100% sure there can't be anything like that.

who are u..her ex ? u ont know him so u cant say ur 100% sure about it...peoples minds work differently so u gotta accept that :sarb:

[Drumline]

cmon..you cant be THAT heartless...atlea st hear him out and see what he wants to say.

don't listen to her, she has a head injury from her accident (which apparently was her fault)

[T.Dimera]

i wonder what this loser's girlfriend thinks about him trying to contact you...

[w1ld]

who are u..her ex ? u ont know him so u cant say ur 100% sure about it...peoples minds work differently so u gotta accept that :sarb:

I am a lot into psychology.

PS: You can't understand the male mind better than I do :eyebrow:

[Rogue]

no i think you should pick up..i mean ok fair enough yous ended the relationship and he's got with another girl... and now he's contacting u in diff ways... so it seems as if he has alot on his mind and maybe he wants to tell you things that he never got to tell you before.. well i read the bit saying it'd be the last time i call you...so stick to that and let him know that you dont want him contacting you again if thats what u really wish for.he probably does, but tough luck because i'm not interested in hearing them out anymore. there is no respect for him now to motivate me to. maybe this will serve as a good experience so he's a bit more careful in considering the possible consequences of his actions in the future.

[Rogue]

sum ppl are crazy wat can i say....
but good luck sweetie...right, thank you.

[Rogue]

no wonder you hate your boss so much, he's not giving you the promotions you've already put in the 'work' for.
:lol: oh, don't speak too soon

[Rogue]

OBVIOUS ANSWERS:

He is a pussy and can't get over you.

He is trying to fuck with your head and play a game under the instruction of his new bitch, cause that is what devious bitches do.
so you think the new gf is motivating him to do this?

[Drumline]

:lol: oh, don't speak too soon

dirtay desi grill :no:

[Rogue]

dirtay desi grill :no:
:naughty:

[gujulicious]

don't listen to her, she has a head injury from her accident (which apparently was her fault)
LOL.


that was kinda funny :ashamed:

[w1ld]

don't listen to her, she has a head injury from her accident (which apparently was her fault)
:werd: It was so bollywoodish. She wants rogue to end up with some weirdo and pop one baby every year.

[Luvin_It]

You can't understand the male mind better than I do :eyebrow:

i reckon..that its much more complex but i'll get my head around it... as one day i'll have to settle down with someone who i can completely comprehend on most levels... but your right men think diff to girls its so strange im going mental aobut it..so i wont bother pointing out the elements!

[Drumline]

:naughty:
stay away from me, i don't want your cooties :eek4:

[Drumline]

LOL.


that was kinda funny :ashamed:

yep, defintely a head injury

[Rogue]

LOL.


that was kinda funny :ashamed:
whoa wait, did you really get into a head-injury accident?? are you okay?

[Luvin_It]

he probably does, but tough luck because i'm not interested in hearing them out anymore. there is no respect for him now to motivate me to. maybe this will serve as a good experience so he's a bit more careful in considering the possible consequences of his actions in the future.

if thts a fixed thought...then so be it to let him learn his lesson and not repeat the same mistake with another... he'll have to move on in good time
or he'll drive himself up the wall..or maybe he's there already lol

[Drumline]

:werd: It was so bollywoodish. She wants rogue to end up with some weirdo and pop one baby every year.

every year?

pfft, once every 10 months. I figure we should allow at least a month for recovery

[Rogue]

:werd: It was so bollywoodish. She wants rogue to end up with some weirdo and pop one baby every year.
:neutral: believe you me, i am not gonna be ending up with a guy who's anything like that ex. no way. not happening.

[w1ld]

i reckon..that its much more complex but i'll get my head around it... as one day i'll have to settle down with someone who i can completely comprehend on most levels... but your right men think diff to girls its so strange im going mental aobut it..so i wont bother pointing out the elements!
don't think about it too much, just go with the flow

[Rogue]

stay away from me, i don't want your cooties :eek4:
:dancegay:

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

so you think the new gf is motivating him to do this?
To me he sounds like a huge ass pussy! Is he desi??

Was it a bad break up??

I mean seriously, he has a gf...you don't call your ex unless

1. You are looking for drama, cause you are paki and it gives you an erection.
2. You new gf is just a piece of new ass to play with
3. You are a devious alpha male who likes to toy with girls
4. Your girfriends is a sick twisted bitch that can intice him to play stupid games, especialy since he is a minded pussy, which is what this guy seems to be.

[Rogue]

if thts a fixed thought...then so be it to let him learn his lesson and not repeat the same mistake with another... he'll have to move on in good time
or he'll drive himself up the wall..or maybe he's there already lol
exactly

:think: it's just that the thing is...i anticipated him to have given up long before now. the fact that he still hasn't is kind of odd. he's not someone i expected to have continued on like this.

[cutenoreen]

He still has feelings for you and is hoping you feel the same way. Don't return any of his calls/e-mails. It's just more drama you don't need or want.

[Drumline]

:dancegay:

ARGH! COOTIES!! http://smiliesftw.com/x/Bolt.gif (http://smiliesftw.com)

[Moonlight..]

Hey - Im in a similar type situation as you. I can't figure out why an ex who is no longer in your life would want to contact you again.

1) Guilty conscience - Wants to clear something up which is bugging him and put his mind at rest.

2) Isnt over you and wants 'another chance'

3) Is testing you - to see if you really are over him. (Challenge thing for him)

4) Mind games - Wants to boost his own ego and watch you 'suffer'

5) Problems with his current Gf. Wants your advice (Since you know him so well)

1,2,3,4,5 - Its all to do with HIM and no benefit for you.

I made the mistake of answering his calls.. because a part of me was still not over him and any sort of contact made me happy. But the calls just escalated.. and things became more intense.. old emotions returned etc.. its mess. Best thing.. is just to ignore him.

[w1ld]

at some point in time, yes, i really thought very highly of him (and to be honest, i enjoyed being his friend more) but that all changed when i came to know about other aspects of his personality which i couldn't respect. and i only came to know these things while/post dating him

Learn from your mistakes hun. You should understand someone better before starting the dating game.

[Rogue]

To me he sounds like a huge ass pussy! Is he desi??

Was it a bad break up??

I mean seriously, he has a gf...you don't call your ex unless

1. You are looking for drama, cause you are paki and it gives you an erection.
2. You new gf is just a piece of new ass to play with
3. You are a devious alpha male who likes to toy with girls
4. Your girfriends is a sick twisted bitch that can intice him to play stupid games, especialy since he is a minded pussy, which is what this guy seems to be.yea, so basically, whatever reason is motivating him to contact me like this will not be anything good. that's what i thought. i don't know the gf personally so i can't comment, but the fact that she resorted to sending me pictures of themselves (long after i cut him out of my life) for no reason at all was kind of odd.

anyway, i guess i'll just continue to go ahead and ignore him...and hope that it will blow over inevitably. sooner or later he'll have no choice but to give up

[Rogue]

He still has feelings for you and is hoping you feel the same way. Don't return any of his calls/e-mails. It's just more drama you don't need or want.
:werd: i concur.

[w1ld]

:neutral: believe you me, i am not gonna be ending up with a guy who's anything like that ex. no way. not happening.
Your babies will be cute, they will just little bit more in numbers :p

[Rogue]

ARGH! COOTIES!! http://smiliesftw.com/x/Bolt.gif (http://smiliesftw.com/)
:Poke:

[cutenoreen]

:werd: i concur.:hug: This happened to me too. But after a while he got the idea and stopped calling.

[Rogue]

Learn from your mistakes hun. You should understand someone better before starting the dating game.
oh, i have. but keep in mind that this guy used to be one of my good friends for 3-4 years before i decided to go ahead and date him, but only that he resorted to tell me a lot of lies which didn't come to my attention until i dated him.

[Drumline]

:Poke:

hey! i dish out the token violence here

http://smiliesftw.com/x/fight.gif (http://smiliesftw.com)

[w1ld]

every year?

pfft, once every 10 months. I figure we should allow at least a month for recovery
What if sextuplets happen? :p

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

yea, so basically, whatever reason is motivating him to contact me like this will not be anything good. that's what i thought. i don't know the gf personally so i can't comment, but the fact that she resorted to sending me pictures of themselves (long after i cut him out of my life) for no reason at all was kind of odd.

anyway, i guess i'll just continue to go ahead and ignore him...and hope that it will blow over inevitably. sooner or later he'll have no choice but to give up
Rogue seriously buck up and dish it back to his ass. If you know how make the motherfucker cry. You are desi which means you have in you to be a devious.

As for her sending pics, maybe she knows she is about to lose him to you and wanted to stir shit up. You damn girls do ten kinds of fucked up, insance, psychotic shit when losing a man.

Gwan girl gwan...get some. Poke his fucking eyes out. Fuckyea. :cheers:

[Rogue]

Hey - Im in a similar type situation as you. I can't figure out why an ex who is no longer in your life would want to contact you again.

1) Guilty conscience - Wants to clear something up which is bugging him and put his mind at rest.

2) Isnt over you and wants 'another chance'

3) Is testing you - to see if you really are over him. (Challenge thing for him)

4) Mind games - Wants to boost his own ego and watch you 'suffer'

5) Problems with his current Gf. Wants your advice (Since you know him so well)

1,2,3,4,5 - Its all to do with HIM and no benefit for you.

I made the mistake of answering his calls.. because a part of me was still not over him and any sort of contact made me happy. But the calls just escalated.. and things became more intense.. old emotions returned etc.. its mess. Best thing.. is just to ignore him.yea, knowing what i came to know of him, i have a feeling it might be a bit of all of the above, actually. he very conveniently ended the relationship without so much as a concern as to what his actions had put me through. i even opted to be on friendly terms with him for 4-5 months post break up until i realized that i'd was just lying to myself and after coming to know about everything else that i did...i came to the realization that he was someone who i just couldn't get myself to respect anymore.

so finally, i ended it in a very civil manner. and left it at that.

but in any case, there is no going back. not now anyway.

[cutenoreen]

Rogue seriously buck up and dish it back to his ass. If you know how make the motherfucker cry. You are desi which means you have in you to be a devious.

As for her sending pics, maybe she knows she is about to lose him to you and wanted to stir shit up. You damn girls do ten kinds of fucked up, insance, psychotic shit when losing a man.

Gwan girl gwan...get some. Poke his fucking eyes out. Fuckyea. :cheers:

Lol can I put that in my sig?

[gammagoblin]

:think: alright guys, maybe you can shed some light on this..i wanna see if it's in tune with that i think is going on. (and please refrain from the wisecracks, it would be appreciated)

so an ex of mine (who used to be a best friend of 3-4 years) who's been dating someone for the past 8+ months is *still* trying to get in touch with me from time to time (despite me having told him that i want nothing to do with him before i cut him off in every way, and i have never answered any of their emails/phone calls/ims/what have you since then) called me repeatedly last night (from 11pm straight up until 1 am) after a few months.

And yes, as some of you may recall, this is the same guy whos girl and him repeatedly kept trying to intrude in on my life previously not to mention trying to keep tabs on what was going on with me and my life through various means. (and they sent me plenty of pictures from time to time of themselves to which i never responded to, but i blocked 'em).

Now, what i ask again is...

why would you repeatedly call an ex of yours (that *YOU* broke up with)...that many times in one night alone if you already have someone? and proceeded to leave voicemails like "please just answer this one time", "i swear it will be the last time i call you", "please pick up just one for old times' sake" , and "i'm calling for a reason?" especially if your ex has made it clear that they don't want anything to do with you? what the hell is up with that? :neutral:

lol he is still in love/infatuated with you, he probably thought he made a mistake to leave you and you were probably crazy about him when you were with him, and now he feels that since you no longer care he is somewhat less of a man.

kind of like narcissistic behavior.
in order to get him to leave you alone, make it 100% clear to him by NEVER answering any of his calls etc. because when you break the no contact "rule" it gives him hope that you still want/need him. :)

[Rogue]

Your babies will be cute, they will just little bit more in numbers :p:lol: adoption, ftw!

[yazmeen]

DON'T ANSWER!!! lolz... yes i mean it... don't answer... whether he's playing games, or really just needs to talk to you once or is just trying to get you back. There's just no point in looking back. I completely agree with you. You're done with him so no need. It could be possible that she knows that he's calling you this much or she doesn't know. You have the email address right? So just email her and him- let them know that you're happy they're together and you wish them all the best; however, you don't really care and wish for him to stop begging for your attention....

my bf started dating my ex cousininlaw.... and she decided she wanted to throw that in my face. I let her know since I broke up with him... it doesn't matter that she's picking up my leftovers, and that she needed to stop begging me for attention.... then i blocked her. I also called him and told him that I don't want any more b.s........
never heard back from either one....

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

Lol can I put that in my sig?
Like you need permission. <3.

[Rogue]

hey! i dish out the token violence here

http://smiliesftw.com/x/fight.gif (http://smiliesftw.com/):Punch:

[Drumline]

:Punch:

my emoticon was better :tongue:

[cutenoreen]

Like you need permission. <3.I doooooooo.

How many ex's do you have? Seriously. Don't do the Dr. Jackle thing :squint:

[Rogue]

Rogue seriously buck up and dish it back to his ass. If you know how make the motherfucker cry. You are desi which means you have in you to be a devious.

As for her sending pics, maybe she knows she is about to lose him to you and wanted to stir shit up. You damn girls do ten kinds of fucked up, insance, psychotic shit when losing a man.

Gwan girl gwan...get some. Poke his fucking eyes out. Fuckyea. :cheers:
her resorting to sending pictures despite me not being in his life did scream instability and insecurity in their relationship. but that's their problem. i'm really not the vindictive, drama-fueling kind because i don't see myself putting the time/energy/effort into revenge. i feel like after doing what all i can, i'm just waiting for him just give up and never reach out for me again.

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

I doooooooo.

How many ex's do you have? Seriously. Don't do the Dr. Jackle thing :squint:
Oh..there should be the word "it" before the word "in" in your sig. I've been bad at not proofreading my posts anymore :ashamed:

Johnny has zero exs, Johnny never had a gf in his life. :cry:

[Rogue]

lol he is still in love/infatuated with you, he probably thought he made a mistake to leave you and you were probably crazy about him when you were with him, and now he feels that since you no longer care he is somewhat less of a man.

kind of like narcissistic behavior.
in order to get him to leave you alone, make it 100% clear to him by NEVER answering any of his calls etc. because when you break the no contact "rule" it gives him hope that you still want/need him. :)

agreed, this is why i don't see myself ever giving him the courtesy of speaking to me ever again.

[cutenoreen]

Oh..there should be the word "it" before the word "in" in your sig. I've been bad at not proofreading my posts anymore :ashamed:

Johnny has zero exs, Johnny never had a gf in his life. :cry:Interesting. :hug:

[vishaalsood]

on my reading of the situation, i think your ex has realised that he dumped you for what he thought was a better girl, but clearly she doesnt compare to you. so he wants to get in contact with you repeatedly to try and get you back. men and their pride, oh how ironic it is!

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

her resorting to sending pictures despite me not being in his life did scream instability and insecurity in their relationship. but that's their problem. i'm really not the vindictive, drama-fueling kind because i don't see myself putting the time/energy/effort into revenge. i feel like after doing what all i can, i'm just waiting for him just give up and never reach out for me again.
Dr. Jekyl says: You're a lil softy and one day someone will hit you with a truck and stomp all over you and you should really get involved in figuring a way to slam him or at leats the bitch back. That's what real women do :flipa:

Mr. Hyde says: Good job, ignore the mofo :hug:

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

Interesting. :hug:
My mummi said I wasn't allowed to have any :tears:

[Rogue]

my emoticon was better :tongue:
:slap2: snap your delusional self out of it! now!

[Rogue]

on my reading of the situation, i think your ex has realised that he dumped you for what he thought was a better girl, but clearly she doesnt compare to you. so he wants to get in contact with you repeatedly to try and get you back. men and their pride, oh how ironic it is!
:dunno: the posts in this thread pretty much confirm what i thought. whatever his motivating factor is... it isn't anything good or worth my time.

[cutenoreen]

My mummi said I wasn't allowed to have any :tears:It's ok. Girls are evil anyway.

[supremed]

It's ok. Girls are evil anyway.
hear hear

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

It's ok. Girls are evil anyway.
That's why I'm into animals now :yes:

Girls remind me of goats. :joy:

[cutenoreen]

hear hear:arrow:

[cutenoreen]

That's why I'm into animals now :yes:

Girls remind me of goats. :joy:You know what's scary? Mountain goats.... .*runs away*

[Echelon]

I'm guessing you care about him in someway or another, otherwise you wouldn't have made this thread -- ie) you're just trying to realise what his feelings are.
IF you were truly beyond him, you wouldn't have bothered to allocate a thought to his welfare. However, if he does stalk you, just ignore him and if he continues to ring you then tell him to fuck off.

[Rogue]

Dr. Jekyl says: You're a lil softy and one day someone will hit you with a truck and stomp all over you and you should really get involved in figuring a way to slam him or at leats the bitch back. That's what real women do :flipa:

Mr. Hyde says: Good job, ignore the mofo :hug:
yea, i am a softy, but i got a mischevious meanstreak to me as well. usually i choose to be very indifferent to people that are just up to no good.

anyhow, i'm very selective about where i spend my time/attention/energy and those two just aren't really worth it.

mr. hyde seems like he's actually kind of being nice to me, this is awkward. :squint: there is something fishy going on!

[Rogue]

I'm guessing you care about him in someway or another, otherwise you wouldn't have made this thread -- ie) you're just trying to realise what his feelings are.
IF you were truly beyond him, you wouldn't have bothered to allocate a thought to his welfare. However, if he does stalk you, just ignore him and if he continues to ring you then tell him to fuck off.the reason why i made this thread is because i don't understand why he's chosen to continue despite the fact that i have removed him from my life in everyway that i could. it's like spam you know? you don't care for it much, you've blocked it, but it still tries to come through and irritates you, and even takes up space in your email*

last night he tried awfully hard and i guess i wanted to compare other opinions to see if it could have been anything else that i perhaps should have give him a chance to speak about. apparently thus far, there is not.

[w1ld]

:lol: adoption, ftw!
Yeah, you can even adopt babies online now :google:

Its good to adopt to provide a kid a love, affection, and good care that he/she lost somehow; not because you don't want to go through birth and pain.

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

You know what's scary? Mountain goats.... .*runs away*
The mountain goats are usually the desi auntie types, bold and with attitudes.

I like farm goats, they are like dumb desi girls and just like to mate a lot.

I used to chase the Moutain goats in Afghanistan, those things are vicious :lol:

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

yea, i am a softy, but i got a mischevious meanstreak to me as well. usually i choose to be very indifferent to people that are just up to no good.

anyhow, i'm very selective about where i spend my time/attention/energy and those two just aren't really worth it.

mr. hyde seems like he's actually kind of being nice to me, this is awkward. :squint: there is something fishy going on!
Roid Rage Roguey baby, Roid Rage...it comes and goes. :kiss:

[Echelon]

the reason why i made this thread is because i don't understand why he's chosen to continue despite the fact that i have removed him from my life in everyway that i could. it's like spam you know? you don't care for it much, you've blocked it, but it still tries to come through and irritates you, and even takes up space on your hard drive.

last night he tried awfully hard and i guess i wanted to compare other opinions to see if it could have been anything else that i perhaps should have give him a chance to speak about. apparently thus far, there is not.Yes, I understand that, Rogue. But you are intent on knowing either of the two:
1) Why he is doing this, what he is feeling and why he is acting like this -- because you care about him enough to want to know
2) Letting people know guys obsess about you

I'm not accusing you of #2, but if its #1, then you appear to care about this dude a bit too much.

[cutenoreen]

The mountain goats are usually the desi auntie types, bold and with attitudes.

I like farm goats, they are like dumb desi girls and just like to mate a lot.

I used to chase the Moutain goats in Afghanistan, those things are vicious :lol:The very first time I saw a goat in person was in India 5 years ago. I was just standing there (looking at my aunts farm) and suddenly felt something touching my hand.... I turned around and it was a goat licking my fingers. God I was scared... but I couldn't move cause there was a huge bull on the other side. I dont like farms :squint:

[w1ld]

The mountain goats are usually the desi auntie types, bold and with attitudes.

I like farm goats, they are like dumb desi girls and just like to mate a lot.

I used to chase the Moutain goats in Afghanistan, those things are vicious :lol:
:rofl:

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

The very first time I saw a goat in person was in India 5 years ago. I was just standing there (looking at my aunts farm) and suddenly felt something touching my hand.... I turned around and it was a goat licking my fingers. God I was scared... but I couldn't move cause there was a huge bull on the other side. I dont like farms :squint:
Johnny worked on a farm in High School for fun sometimes when his buddy needed help, plus I got to hunt for free in the woods on their land.

Johnny likes farms, he finds desi girls and farm animals have much in common.

The goat thought you were a cutie, he was flirting.

[cutenoreen]

Johnny worked on a farm in High School for fun sometimes when his buddy needed help, plus I got to hunt for free in the woods on their land.

Johnny likes farms, he finds desi girls and farm animals have much in common.

The goat thought you were a cutie, he was flirting.Oh no you didn't! :rambo:

[Tigr]

Some Guys like control, and in his subtle ways he's trying to test out if he still has control over your emotions. It doesn't matter to him if your reaction is hate, anger or the fact that you are still not over him. He wants to see that he provokes a reaction in you.

[RYUK]

It shouldn't matter why he did that, u have already made up ur mind to ignore him. I know someone who did that. For the span of 2 yrs, she left sms, email, voicemails. I ignored and it ended eventually.

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

Oh no you didn't! :rambo:
:hand: I have fantasies rolling around in the hay barn naked with a cute goat, don't worry it's a Pakistani thing. :kiss: Google Statistics said it was, and that is a good as etched in stone.

[cutenoreen]

:hand: I have fantasies rolling around in the hay naked with a cute goat, don't worry it's a Pakistani thing. :kiss: Google Statistics said it was, and that is a good as etched in stone.You are staring to scare me.

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

You are staring to scare me.
:drdodgy:

[Rogue]

Yeah, you can even adopt babies online now :google:

Its good to adopt to provide a kid a love, affection, and good care that he/she lost somehow; not because you don't want to go through birth and pain.
:wiggle: there's plenty of population already

[Rogue]

Roid Rage Roguey baby, Roid Rage...it comes and goes. :kiss:
:squint: sure.

[cutenoreen]

:drdodgy:It's ok I still need you in Devon. =P

[SpicyBrownRapper]

You can't expect us to know why exactly he's calling, we're not psychics ya know. If he says its important, perhaps, just perhaps, its about something other than you. Why don't you give him a call back, and if it has something to do with you and him, just drop the call. Tell him you're not interested, and proceed to block his phone number. We can sit here brainstorm on why exactly he might be calling you, but we won't know for sure until you pick up that phone.

[cutenoreen]

You can't expect us to know why exactly he's calling, we're not psychics ya know. If he says its important, perhaps, just perhaps, its about something other than you. Why don't you give him a call back, and if it has something to do with about you and him, just drop the call. Tell him you're not interested, and proceed to block his phone number. We can sit here brainstorm on why exactly he might be calling you, but we won't know for sure until you pick up that phone.How DO you block a number on a cell phone?

[Echelon]

You can't expect us to know why exactly he's calling, we're not psychics ya know. If he says its important, perhaps, just perhaps, its about something other than you. Why don't you give him a call back, and if it has something to do with about you and him, just drop the call. Tell him you're not interested, and proceed to block his phone number. We can sit here brainstorm on why exactly he might be calling you, but we won't know for sure until you pick up that phone.Got da aTTeNTIoN?

[SpicyBrownRapper]

How DO you block a number on a cell phone?

You can call your service provider and give 'em a specific number to be included in your block list, I think. My girlfriend's done this to a couple of guys.

[cutenoreen]

You can call your service provider and give 'em a specific number to be included in your block list, I think. My girlfriend's done this to a couple of guys.That's the only way? Blah.

[SpicyBrownRapper]

That's the only way? Blah.

Why, calling your phone company and having them include a number to be blocked is too much work for you?

[cutenoreen]

Why, calling your phone company and having them include a number to be blocked is too much work for you?No it's not about the work. But I was hoping to avoid repeatedly calling the phone company. Long story. Anyway. How are you?

[w1ld]

:wiggle: there's plenty of population already
that is your reason for adoption? :sarb:

[SpicyBrownRapper]

No it's not about the work. But I was hoping to avoid repeatedly calling the phone company. Long story. Anyway. How are you?

I want to feel a hard penis in my butt.

[cutenoreen]

I want to feel a hard penis in my butt.:arrow:

[SpicyBrownRapper]

:arrow:

Can you sprout a penis and oh so gently slide it up my un-lubricated rectum, babe?

[yazmeen]

Johnny worked on a farm in High School for fun sometimes when his buddy needed help, plus I got to hunt for free in the woods on their land.

Johnny likes farms, he finds desi girls and farm animals have much in common.

The goat thought you were a cutie, he was flirting.



:spank: yazmeen auntie no like you talk about desi girls like that.....

[Rogue]

Yes, I understand that, Rogue. But you are intent on knowing either of the two:
1) Why he is doing this, what he is feeling and why he is acting like this -- because you care about him enough to want to know
2) Letting people know guys obsess about you

I'm not accusing you of #2, but if its #1, then you appear to care about this dude a bit too much.
yea, 2's not it.

but would the 1st one still apply if i'm trying to figure out what else i can do differently to make this come to an end completely?

[Rogue]

Some Guys like control, and in his subtle ways he's trying to test out if he still has control over your emotions. It doesn't matter to him if your reaction is hate, anger or the fact that you are still not over him. He wants to see that he provokes a reaction in you.
so he just wants to convince himself that he has the upperhand in the situation?

[Rogue]

It shouldn't matter why he did that, u have already made up ur mind to ignore him. I know someone who did that. For the span of 2 yrs, she left sms, email, voicemails. I ignored and it ended eventually.
according to this, i have approximately 11 more months of this nonsense. :neutral: *sigh*

[Rogue]

You can't expect us to know why exactly he's calling, we're not psychics ya know. If he says its important, perhaps, just perhaps, its about something other than you. Why don't you give him a call back, and if it has something to do with you and him, just drop the call. Tell him you're not interested, and proceed to block his phone number. We can sit here brainstorm on why exactly he might be calling you, but we won't know for sure until you pick up that phone.the way i see it... if it's that important, he can try to communicate through other less-engaging means such as email or something. :dunno:

[yazmeen]

Hey did you read what i said... back on page ...aamm four......

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

:spank: yazmeen auntie no like you talk about desi girls like that.....
:Oops:

:kiss:

[selina_786]

yea, 2's not it.

but would the 1st one still apply if i'm trying to figure out what else i can do differently to make this come to an end completely?
Yea, don't give him any attention.. he will eventually give up.

[Rogue]

Hey did you read what i said... back on page ...aamm four......
oh, let me go check. sorry!

[gujulicious]

hmm, you know, a small part of me thinks that i should let him, but then a larger part of me says. no. good riddance to bad rubbish and it's just not worth it.
honestly, no matter how much you prolly even 'hate' someone, if they came and BEGGED to talk to you and asked you to listen to them for the last time, i think you should.

i mean, i think its the worst feeling in the world to be ignored by someone when you wanna talk things out more than anything else, you know what i mean?

and then if he doesnt hvae anything important to say, THEN you have a reason to be heartless if he still continues calling and what not.

:werd: It was so bollywoodish. She wants rogue to end up with some weirdo and pop one baby every year.

yeah you know, coz i badly want rogue to 'end up with some weirdo and pop one baby every year' :rolleyes:

whoa wait, did you really get into a head-injury accident?? are you okay?

no...luckily, no injuries at all.

drummy just loves making my life hell :tears:

[selina_786]

honestly, no matter how much you prolly even 'hate' someone, if they came and BEGGED to talk to you and asked you to listen to them for the last time, i think you should.

i mean, i think its the worst feeling in the world to be ignored by someone when you wanna talk things out more than anything else, you know what i mean?

and then if he doesnt hvae anything important to say, THEN you have a reason to be heartless if he still continues calling and what not.



yeah you know, coz i badly want rogue to 'end up with some weirdo and pop one baby every year' :rolleyes:



no...luckily, no injuries at all.

drummy just loves making my life hell :tears:
and then you go around in circles over and over again. Bad advice.

She gives in once, she will give in again.

[Rogue]

DON'T ANSWER!!! lolz... yes i mean it... don't answer... whether he's playing games, or really just needs to talk to you once or is just trying to get you back. There's just no point in looking back. I completely agree with you. You're done with him so no need. It could be possible that she knows that he's calling you this much or she doesn't know. You have the email address right? So just email her and him- let them know that you're happy they're together and you wish them all the best; however, you don't really care and wish for him to stop begging for your attention....

my bf started dating my ex cousininlaw.... and she decided she wanted to throw that in my face. I let her know since I broke up with him... it doesn't matter that she's picking up my leftovers, and that she needed to stop begging me for attention.... then i blocked her. I also called him and told him that I don't want any more b.s........
never heard back from either one....
i actually changed email addresses back then, and i don't even remember the password anymore. i'm sure i could find out though if i really wanted to but i really can't seem to motivate myself enough to do that either, and besides, i'm sure they would try to reply back. i guess i was a bit irritated because i expected this nonsense to be over a long time back.

i'm glad to hear that it worked for you, though, and that they no longer impose or intrude in on your life :no: rubbing in a relationship in your ex's face doesn't make you any better off. it's such a juvenile thing to do :no:

[SpicyBrownRapper]

the way i see it... if it's that important, he can try to communicate through other less-engaging means such as email or something. :dunno:

i actually changed email addresses back then, and i don't even remember the password anymore.

Lawl, contradict much?

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

Yea, don't give him any attention.. he will eventually give up.
You don't give me attention.....I won't give up on you. :yes:

[Tigr]

so he just wants to convince himself that he has the upperhand in the situation?

Yupp..unless he's still hung up on you. Then its a whole new scenario

[yazmeen]

:Oops:

:kiss:

so desi girls are not the same as goats... now say it...!!

and esp. auntie ji's are not like mountain goats....

[selina_786]

You don't give me attention.....I won't give up on you. :yes:
That's the way to go.. keep fighting Grrrrrrrrrrr

[KurtaPyjama]

you're both insecure.

[yazmeen]

i actually changed email addresses back then, and i don't even remember the password anymore. i'm sure i could find out though if i really wanted to but i really can't seem to motivate myself enough to do that either, and besides, i'm sure they would try to reply back. i guess i was a bit irritated because i expected this nonsense to be over a long time back.

i'm glad to hear that it worked for you, though, and that they no longer impose or intrude in on your life :no: rubbing in a relationship in your ex's face doesn't make you any better off. it's such a juvenile thing to do :no:


well it doesn't really seem like you want to make any extra steps to ensure that he stops. so it i guess ignoring his phone call would be..
as to why he's doing this.....? maybe there's really something wrong...like mentally i mean... if he starts talking about killing himself... hey maybe you should 5150 him...

[Rogue]

Lawl, contradict much?he can look me on facebook and message me there, or something. my orkut account still works, too. he can scrap me there. he can even text me. what i'm trying to say is that there are other means of communication aside speaking on the phone.

[Rogue]

Yupp..unless he's still hung up on you. Then its a whole new scenario
oh well.

[Rogue]

you're both insecure.right, of course.

[Rogue]

well it doesn't really seem like you want to make any extra steps to ensure that he stops. so it i guess ignoring his phone call would be..
as to why he's doing this.....? maybe there's really something wrong...like mentally i mean... if he starts talking about killing himself... hey maybe you should 5150 him...
well, i don't really see those methods as being very effective in this scenario.

as for trying to emotionally blackmail me with suicide. the last moron that tried that on me was handed a larger, sharper, more effective knife to make it easier for him. so...i know that's not going to work in his favor.

[KurtaPyjama]

right, of course.

don't take it badly. it should be liberating. move past the insecurity. be honest with yourself.

[Burdah]

no, i'm not interested in hearing what he has to say. i just want him to stay out of my life so i will continue to ignore him. what i don't understand is why he can't just respect that fact that i don't want to speak to him or have him in my life at all.

Maybe he wants to have some control over your life in some way by calling you and trying to find what you do.

If you want to stop him from calling you, just get a restraining order.

[Rogue]

don't take it badly. it should be liberating. move past the insecurity. be honest with yourself.
hmm, well, i think it would help if you pointed out exactly how am i being insecure?

[Rogue]

Maybe he wants to have some control over your life in some way by calling you and trying to find what you do.

If you want to stop him from calling you, just get a restraining order.
wouldn't a restraining order be overkill if he doesn't live around in my area and doesn't really pose a harmful threat, at least not yet?

[Burdah]

wouldn't a restraining order be overkill if he doesn't live around in my area and doesn't really pose a harmful threat, at least not yet?

The restraining order will stop him from calling you at least or interfering in your life. how far does he live? a different state or country?

You said that him and his gf send you their picture, it could be some sort of harassment, perhaps.

[selina_786]

Seriously, it's dissapointing to see that someone like rogue would need this sort of advice.

I'd expect some naive girl under 18 to make a thread as such.

[Rogue]

The restraining order will stop him from calling you at least.:think: mm... i still feel that seems like overkill. there must be an easier way.

[Rogue]

Seriously, it's dissapointing to see that someone like rogue would need this sort of advice.

I'd expect some naive girl under 18 to make a thread as such.
well, i pretty much have in my mind about why he's doing this and what i'm going to do about it, but it helps to gather other views/opinions about it.

[Burdah]

:think: mm... i still feel that seems like overkill. there must be an easier way.

He basically harassing you by sending you his gf and his pictures when you don't want them and keeps trying to interfere in your life. You have given a clear message to stop contacting you, but he can't stop.

[selina_786]

well, i pretty much have in my mind about why he's doing this and what i'm going to do about it, but it helps to gather other views/opinions about it.
well put it this way, he's wanting attention/ a reaction.

You do anything, youre feeding him even if the consequences are bad, or so for him.

Gosh, this isn't the way to prove yourself, this isn't a battle either. You should be way above it all.

[TheDude]

instead of asking rd people who dont know the whole story, why dont you just pick up the phone and ask YOUR EX whats up? if he cant tell you whats up, neither can we. sorry.

[TheDude]

and if you really dont wanna have anything to do with him, just ignore him. eventually he'll stop.


did anybody here say anything different in the last seven pages? id say no. they were just verbose for no reason.

[TheDude]

im so cool :D


haaay salisha :wavey:

haaay gauri :wavey:

[Rogue]

He basically harassing you by sending you his gf and his pictures when you don't want them and keeps trying to interfere in your life. You have given a clear message to stop contacting you, but he can't stop.
well, it was actually his gf that sent them, but i'm pretty sure he was aware about it. anyhow, that didn't matter to me much after i changed my email address. :dunno: but yes, you're right, it is a form of harassment. but still, a restraining order seems like over kill. he lives in another state as well. that just seems like a more complex attempt to resolve this matter.

[Burdah]

well, it was actually his gf that sent them, but i'm pretty sure he was aware about it. anyhow, that didn't matter to me much after i changed my email address. :dunno: but yes, you're right, it is a form of harassment. but still, a restraining order seems like over kill. he lives in another state as well. that just seems like a more complex attempt to resolve this matter.

I guess only thing i am not understanding is that how would a restraining order be an overkill? Basically what do you mean overkill as in what sense?

[Rogue]

well put it this way, he's wanting attention/ a reaction.

You do anything, youre feeding him even if the consequences are bad, or so for him.

Gosh, this isn't the way to prove yourself, this isn't a battle either. You should be way above it all.mm...this is hardly about proving myself or a battle. i just wanted this person to be out of my life and in my mind, i feel like despite having done all that i could to remove him but am not seeing the results. (and keep in mind, it's been over a year, and only now am i beginning to get a bit irritated by this to the extent of where i'm asking for different views)

so this did make me question what i've done so far in the sense: have i done the right thing by just ignoring and not showing any reaction after i stated that i'm cutting him out of my life and then proceeding with it?

why do i question what i did? because i would have figured that if i have done the right thing, then this nonsense would have stopped a long time back. that fact that it hasn't is what leads me to question it and try to figure out why it hasn't stopped and to consider the possibility that maybe i should do something different/more effective (ie: i never considered getting a restraining order for this kind of scenario before but if this continues, then i just might)

gathering different opinions helps to confirm what i thought originally and consider a different approach to resolving this matter.

do you understand what i'm saying?

[Rogue]

instead of asking rd people who dont know the whole story, why dont you just pick up the phone and ask YOUR EX whats up? if he cant tell you whats up, neither can we. sorry.
there is no way i'm going to make direct contact with this guy. i've already said what i had to say to him.

[selina_786]

mm...this is hardly about proving myself or a battle. i just wanted this person to be out of my life and in my mind, i feel like despite having done all that i could to remove him but am not seeing the results. (and keep in mind, it's been over a year, and only now am i beginning to get a bit irritated by this to the extent of where i'm asking for different views)

so this did make me question what i've done so far in the sense: have i done the right thing by just ignoring and not showing any reaction after i stated that i'm cutting him out of my life and then proceeding with it?

why do i question what i did? because i would have figured that if i have done the right thing, then this nonsense would have stopped a long time back. that fact that it hasn't is what leads me to question it and try to figure out why it hasn't stopped and to consider the possibility that maybe i should do something different/more effective (ie: i never considered getting a restraining order for this kind of scenario before but if this continues, then i just might)

gathering different opinions helps to confirm what i thought originally and consider a different approach to resolving this matter.

do you understand what i'm saying?
Yea and I still stand with what I stated earlier.

[TheDude]

there is no way i'm going to make direct contact with this guy. i've already said what i had to say to him.

looks like you've made up your mind.

then just ignore him like errone else already said. :dunno:

[Rogue]

Yea and I still stand with what I stated earlier.
:dunno: alright

[selina_786]

:dunno: alright
totally understand where youre coming from but you gotta stay strong.

[Rogue]

then just ignore him like errone else already said. :dunno:
that's what i initially thought i should do, but i was not sure if i should just continue it or consider a different approach now seeing that he's still tried to get in touch.

i guess, if i think about it. this has been the most desperate attempt he's made as of yet to try to reinitiate contact with me. maybe it will be his final one? i hope so.

[NinjaPanther]

You are one sensible woman.

It just pisses the crap out of me when exes call in and put forward their sob story and apologize for everything as if trying to get something in return. Suddenly they become your best friend and most people instead of saying "Good to know now get the f*ck out and stop calling me", show pity on them and continue listening to them. :no:

Mostly they do it to try and get back with you and you are a fool if you don't realize that.

[random guy]

:think: alright guys, maybe you can shed some light on this..i wanna see if it's in tune with that i think is going on. (and please refrain from the wisecracks, it would be appreciated)

so an ex of mine (who used to be a best friend of 3-4 years) who's been dating someone for the past 8+ months is *still* trying to get in touch with me from time to time (despite me having told him that i want nothing to do with him before i cut him off in every way, and i have never answered any of their emails/phone calls/ims/what have you since then) called me repeatedly last night (from 11pm straight up until 1 am) after a few months.

And yes, as some of you may recall, this is the same guy whos girl and him repeatedly kept trying to intrude in on my life previously not to mention trying to keep tabs on what was going on with me and my life through various means. (and they sent me plenty of pictures from time to time of themselves to which i never responded to, but i blocked 'em).

Now, what i ask again is...

why would you repeatedly call an ex of yours (that *YOU* broke up with)...that many times in one night alone if you already have someone? and proceeded to leave voicemails like "please just answer this one time", "i swear it will be the last time i call you", "please pick up just one for old times' sake" , and "i'm calling for a reason?" especially if your ex has made it clear that they don't want anything to do with you? what the hell is up with that? :neutral:

shit... call ur phone provider and block his number... he's not worth any time of urs... tell him to fuck off 1 way or another.

[jibran251]

:think: alright guys, maybe you can shed some light on this..i wanna see if it's in tune with that i think is going on. (and please refrain from the wisecracks, it would be appreciated)

so an ex of mine (who used to be a best friend of 3-4 years) who's been dating someone for the past 8+ months is *still* trying to get in touch with me from time to time (despite me having told him that i want nothing to do with him before i cut him off in every way, and i have never answered any of their emails/phone calls/ims/what have you since then) called me repeatedly last night (from 11pm straight up until 1 am) after a few months.

And yes, as some of you may recall, this is the same guy whos girl and him repeatedly kept trying to intrude in on my life previously not to mention trying to keep tabs on what was going on with me and my life through various means. (and they sent me plenty of pictures from time to time of themselves to which i never responded to, but i blocked 'em).

Now, what i ask again is...

why would you repeatedly call an ex of yours (that *YOU* broke up with)...that many times in one night alone if you already have someone? and proceeded to leave voicemails like "please just answer this one time", "i swear it will be the last time i call you", "please pick up just one for old times' sake" , and "i'm calling for a reason?" especially if your ex has made it clear that they don't want anything to do with you? what the hell is up with that? :neutral:

Answer them just one time ... I mean he can't be that bad.
3 to 4 years :neutral:


and I had the same situation ... :ashamed: I dun talk to her anymore :dunno: Besides the occasional Hi if I bump into her :dunno:

[harvey_mayway]

Rogue this is what you get from datin nut cases off the internet,

[Adnan786]

i've already been very frank when i told him i have nothing more to say to him, not now. not ever. and don't want anything to do with him before i cut him off a long while back (now over a year)

i've only managed to remain on amicable terms with 2 of my exes (as well as their fiances), both of who will be getting married late this year/early next year. however, this is someone i do not care to have in my life, ever, not even as a friend.

now, i keep thinking that i've done all i can and it will blow over. but it has been over a year and it still hasn't blown over despite no response/no reciprocation from my part.


Would you ever consider reporting him to the poilice for 'harassment'? I would love to know the peak of what you once felt or him and how this changed or why it changed, without prying. Would you be able to reply to this on here or pm or is that something that you'd rather not disclose/remember?

[crayzee]

hear him out. Reply, but only enough to barely give him the satisfaction of hearing ur voice one last final time. End call. Change ur number.

[Rogue]

Situation resolved last night in its own way and thank you to the people who took time to give input, it was appreciated!

[NinjaPanther]

Situation resolved last night in its own way and thank you to the people who took time to give input, it was appreciated!


Douchebag ... thanks for reading my advice. :squint:

[Rogue]

Douchebag ... thanks for reading my advice. :squint:
:neutral: oh crap, i missed it didn't i? let me go look for it

[NinjaPanther]

:neutral: oh crap, i missed it didn't i? let me go look for it


I see how it is. Good for nothing. :no:

[SpicyBrownRapper]

Situation resolved last night in its own way and thank you to the people who took time to give input, it was appreciated!

So... you gonna tell us what it was all about or what?

[Rogue]

totally understand where youre coming from but you gotta stay strong.
agreed indeed. i was beginning to run a little low on patience.
You are one sensible woman.

It just pisses the crap out of me when exes call in and put forward their sob story and apologize for everything as if trying to get something in return. Suddenly they become your best friend and most people instead of saying "Good to know now get the f*ck out and stop calling me", show pity on them and continue listening to them. :no:

Mostly they do it to try and get back with you and you are a fool if you don't realize that.i don't think i am sensible at times (as you may know) but i definitely do try my best to be.

and yea, i agree. it's so frustrating when you try to cut someone out of your life and they just can't seem to respect you enough to respect your wishes. courtesy only goes so far, but you really have to be firm, assertive, and even cruel because some exes just never figure it out and keep trying repeatedly. being someone that almost never lets people get too close, i felt this case was a bit more upsetting because it was someone i'd known, loved, and respected as a best friend for a considerable amount of time, too.

as much as i didn't want to speak, ultimately we ended up speaking last night and it feels as though things have been resolved and we reached a mutual understanding, surprisingly, if i'm not mistaken.

[Rogue]

So... you gonna tell us what it was all about or what?
we ended up speaking last night, and things were resolved. we have seemed to reach a mutual understanding and this is not to occur again.

[Space-Cowboy]

Phone HIM up one time.... tell him clearly and concisely why he will no longer be a part of your life and the reasons behind it. Explain everything to him in every detail. And then tell him if he bothers you again you'll get a restraining order.

[Rogue]

Phone HIM up one time.... tell him clearly and concisely why he will no longer be a part of your life and the reasons behind it. Explain everything to him in every detail. And then tell him if he bothers you again you'll get a restraining order.
thanks, but yea, we ended up speaking last night. things seem to have been resolved.

[Rogue]

shit... call ur phone provider and block his number... he's not worth any time of urs... tell him to fuck off 1 way or another.
;) i got my point across last night.

[Luvin_It]

don't think about it too much, just go with the flow

like flow natural :sarb:

[Rogue]

Answer them just one time ... I mean he can't be that bad.
3 to 4 years :neutral:
true, which is why i was so very disappointed in his actions. i gave him the courtesy of speaking last night, and it seems to have been resolved. ah...i feel so much better now.



and I had the same situation ... :ashamed: I dun talk to her anymore :dunno: Besides the occasional Hi if I bump into her :dunno:
what happened in your case?

[Luvin_It]

exactly

:think: it's just that the thing is...i anticipated him to have given up long before now. the fact that he still hasn't is kind of odd. he's not someone i expected to have continued on like this.

well some things in life may fail to surpise you ..and with guys u can never know whats running through their minds ... with some anyway lol

but im jsut concerned for you.. that if he keeps on thinking about u..then of course he'll keep on contacting u ... wont he?

[Rogue]

Rogue this is what you get from datin nut cases off the internet,
this was a rather stupid assumption.

[Rogue]

well some things in life may fail to surpise you ..and with guys u can never know whats running through their minds ... with some anyway lol

but im jsut concerned for you.. that if he keeps on thinking about u..then of course he'll keep on contacting u ... wont he?
usually there's a pretty good idea of what most people are up to, but any how, i did speak to him last night, which was surprisingly fruitful because we managed to come to an understanding and resolve the issues. i feel a lot better now :) and i believe so does he. thanks for the advice earlier!

[GT & MK KING]

let's talk bout it 2nite...we havent spoken for quite a while.



1.oh and yea he's got issues...if he's tryn to get back w/ u, ignore his a** cuz u moved on.

2. his g/f wants to play with ur head these mind games.

3. he's gonna give u eventually and stop calln u

[Luvin_It]

usually there's a pretty good idea of what most people are up to, but any how, i did speak to him last night, which was surprisingly fruitful because we managed to come to an understanding and resolve the issues. i feel a lot better now :) and i believe so does he. thanks for the advice earlier!

aw finally..thats good to know..well at least he's got it of his mind whatever he had to say..and now u dont have to put up with the dozens of calls!. ...anytime :)

[jibran251]

true, which is why i was so very disappointed in his actions. i gave him the courtesy of speaking last night, and it seems to have been resolved. ah...i feel so much better now.


what happened in your case?
:cheers:


YOu feel better ... Jibran Take advantage quick :think: WHAT TO DO ... :think:

[NinjaPanther]

agreed indeed. i was beginning to run a little low on patience.
i don't think i am sensible at times (as you may know) but i definitely do try my best to be.

and yea, i agree. it's so frustrating when you try to cut someone out of your life and they just can't seem to respect you enough to respect your wishes. courtesy only goes so far, but you really have to be firm, assertive, and even cruel because some exes just never figure it out and keep trying repeatedly. being someone that almost never lets people get too close, i felt this case was a bit more upsetting because it was someone i'd known, loved, and respected as a best friend for a considerable amount of time, too.

as much as i didn't want to speak, ultimately we ended up speaking last night and it feels as though things have been resolved and we reached a mutual understanding, surprisingly, if i'm not mistaken.


That mutual understanding wouldn't last for long, specially if you plan on continuing talking to him on an occasional basis. As with any relationship, the amount of expectations rises and when you can feel it in your gut that those expectations are becoming a hassle for the other person, you should know that its time to move on.

[Rogue]

That mutual understanding wouldn't last for long, specially if you plan on continuing talking to him on an occasional basis. As with any relationship, the amount of expectations rises and when you can feel it in your gut that those expectations are becoming a hassle for the other person, you should know that its time to move on.
won't be happening! ;)

[NinjaPanther]

won't be happening! ;)

Good. That reminds me, we haven't spoken for a long time. We should sometime. :squint:

[Rogue]

Good. That reminds me, we haven't spoken for a long time. We should sometime. :squint:
won't be happening ;)









































































:bhapi: kidding! kidding! please don't give me the hairy eyeball. of course we should!

[NinjaPanther]

won't be happening ;)





:bhapi: kidding! kidding! please don't give me the hairy eyeball. of course we should!


wtf @ hairy eyeball. I am not Chewbacca now!

[Rogue]

wtf @ hairy eyeball. I am not Chewbacca now!:rofl: not what i heard!

[TheDude]

this shit still going on?

cuz, did you post n00dz or something? why is it still going on?

[Rogue]

this shit still going on?

cuz, did you post n00dz or something? why is it still going on?
:kekeke: i did. yes. teehee

[TheDude]

:kekeke: i did. yes. teehee

i always miss the n00dz. dang it! :anger:

[Rogue]

i always miss the n00dz. dang it! :anger:
:Owned:

[jibran251]

:cheers:


YOu feel better ... Jibran Take advantage quick :think: WHAT TO DO ... :think:



You were suppose to give me Ideas :squint: ... :no: