Scenario: How would you take this?

[Somewhat.Awesome]

???

[schaxeb]

why is it always a friend that these things happen to??? :scratch:

[CheezCake]

WOW

just WOW

i would leave that sucker

seriously wat kind of a relationship is this

he can't even pay for her

wat a cheap FOB

[Somewhat.Awesome]

haha see, that's what i was saying. She says that she really loves him and feels guilty because she's so turned off at the fact that he doesn't pay. He shows her he cares with other stuff, such as telling her she's beautiful and how much he loves her etc. everyday. But she always tries to avoid going out to public places that require money because of the embarassing cheque scenario at the end of the date. She's pretty confused as to whether or not she should stay with the guy but according to her, she'll feel really guilty if that's a reason for them breaking up

[CheezCake]

haha see, that's what i was saying. She says that she really loves him and feels guilty because she's so turned off at the fact that he doesn't pay. He shows her he cares with other stuff, such as telling her she's beautiful and how much he loves her etc. everyday. But she always tries to avoid going out to public places that require money because of the embarassing cheque scenario at the end of the date. She's pretty confused as to whether or not she should stay with the guy but according to her, she'll feel really guilty if that's a reason for them breaking upno thats GOOD reason for her to break up

that shit he tells her...any guy can do that...to prove it..he needs to be spending cash and i dont see that happening....and lets say things get even more serious..WTF he wouldn't pay for her even then

this is crazy tell her to drop him before she goes psyco

[Lord_Dirty]

this is 2007

if you women bitch about equal rights and what not then whats wrong with that

i mean me personally id pay for everything HERE and THERE, but to break up because of that? very shallow

tell your friend i said shes a kuthi sali rundi kunjuri no akal no sharam bevkoov bandari churail

[Somewhat.Awesome]

hahaa you're hilarious...thats EXACTLY what i was saying to her..like wtf, the guy can't even offer to buy her a damn coffee..what a cheapskate. And she's not an ugly girl, she's gorgeous...guys are CONSTANTLY hitting on her, it's like model-type of pretty..and she's way too good for this guy anyways (lookswise) so i don't understand what the hell this guy is thinking..i mean, c'mon, he has a hot girlfriend that so many other guys could only wish they had...and he can't even spend any money on her to show he cares? It's not like he ALWAYS has to pay, but it's nice to show an effort and do it the first couple of times...and get this, on their first date, he asked her to the movies..and he didn't even pay! He got one of his friends who works there to hook them up. This wouldn't be so bad later on in the relationship, but first date? Way to come off as a cheap mofo.

[schaxeb]

this is 2007

if you women bitch about equal rights and what not then whats wrong with that

i mean me personally id pay for everything HERE and THERE, but to break up because of that? very shallow

tell your friend i said shes a kuthi sali rundi kunjuri no akal no sharam bevkoov bandari churail

:roflbow:


u have a point thou... some women expect men to pay for everything, help out in the house chores, listen to them gripe about everything, yet refuse to pump gas... BS.

[Somewhat.Awesome]

this is 2007

if you women bitch about equal rights and what not then whats wrong with that

i mean me personally id pay for everything HERE and THERE, but to break up because of that? very shallow

tell your friend i said shes a kuthi sali rundi kunjuri no akal no sharam bevkoov bandari churail


yeh but c'mon, this girl is gorgeous..guys practically throw money at her and randoms even spend more on her than her actual boyfriend. Just the other day, she told me about a guy she had only met once who bought her a real gold necklace..and her BOYFRIEND can't even afford a damn coffee for like what? $5? She thinks like you though...she doesn't want to come off as shallow but she just can't get it out of her mind..i would be pretty turned off too

[Somewhat.Awesome]

Anyone else who would react differently?

[xogirlie girlxo]

Yo the guy should always, always payesp if ur more than friends.

[nayeemx33]

Yo the guy should always, always payesp if ur more than friends.

Yeah
We're made of money

[xogirlie girlxo]

Nayeem!If ur courting a woman,then u should pay for her. After u get married its kinda diff, but if ur like a bf u should be paying.

[Somewhat.Awesome]

Yo the guy should always, always payesp if ur more than friends.

haha nah, they shouldn't be expected to pay if you're just friends...but if you're more than friends, it would be nice on the first few dates AT LEAST

[nayeemx33]

Nayeem!If ur courting a woman,then u should pay for her. After u get married its kinda diff, but if ur like a bf u should be paying.

I disagree
Women have to pay for their half. Don't expect the guy to pay for everything

[xogirlie girlxo]

haha nah, they shouldn't be expected to pay if you're just friends...but if you're more than friends, it would be nice on the first few dates AT LEAST
Listen whenever me, my friends, guy friends go out,the guys hold open the doors, and offer to pay for the girls, its just being gentlemanly. And when ur more than friends and ur the one asking the girl out then ur butt needs to pay up!

[xogirlie girlxo]

I disagree
Women have to pay for their half. Don't expect the guy to pay for everything
What the fuck happened to chivalry. Chario aadmi.

[Somewhat.Awesome]

New question: Would a guy not paying for you at all when you go out together be a good enough reason for you to break up with him?

[nayeemx33]

What the fuck happened to chivalry. Chario aadmi.

Equality for everyone

[nayeemx33]

New question: Would a guy not paying for you at all when you go out together be a good enough reason for you to break up with him?

If the guy never pays, then it's alright for her to breakup with him

[xogirlie girlxo]

New question: Would a guy not paying for you at all when you go out together be a good enough reason for you to break up with him?
Err yeah.

[xogirlie girlxo]

Equality for everyone
Listen for every $1.00 a man makes a woman makes $.60 on the same job, so shit still isnt equal, men need to pay!

[Rogue]

personally, i'm a firm believer of independence and not having to rely nor expect anyone else to pay for anything. infact, guys would get turned off and irritated about the fact that i wouldn't really let them pay for me most of the time, that either i'd foot the bill completely or at least my half of it. if i chose to foot the bill completely, then i wouldn't mind them paying for something else (ie: i pay for dinner, they pay for dessert/drinks; i pay for lunch, they pay for movie tickets, etc; splitting the bill)

the only people i let pay for me are ones that i consider to be very close, and even that, i permit it very rarely (with the exception of family members/coworkers of course).

now, while i believe this, i also believe that this case sounds like the guy's abit extreme (but then again, i don't really know him, his situation, or what he's thinking....and out of curiousity, despite all these dates, has your friend ever brought this up to him and openly communicated about it? if not then maybe she should). if it's been several months into the dating and what not, i would feel that by now, (if they really felt the same way about each other), then they wouldn't mind going back and forth. in the sense.... i'll pay for our coffees, and you pay for our dinner, then switch it around the next time so that way it kind of balances out and you're not feeling like you're keeping/kept tabs of.

the keeping of the tabs part is what concerns me. why? because if i really cared/loved someone (or if they cared/loved me) then tabs to that extent would not have been kept. at least, that's what i personally believe in. independence, financially responsiblity, and all are all important things, but it's also important to not overdo it.

that i find to be a cheap mentality (not that he spends less, or anything, but the fact that each penny is kept close tab of brought up even) and i don't really know what you were implying by "he really cares about her, he really loves her" as those things don't mean a thing if the actions themselves do not follow through.

anyway, i think your friend ought to have a talk with this love interest. i don't find her to be shallow, necessarily, for feeling guilty, but from what you've told, this sounds a bit too extreme on his part. i think it ought to be discussed because maybe he has a perfectly good reason behind it :dunno:
however, if your friend is not happy with this guy, instead of trying to justify "oh he cares about me in every other way" is just a way of her lying to herself especially seeing that the actions don't seem to be supporting this. no matter how gorgeous or anything she is, she should also never try to equate how much a man is willing to spend on her to how much he "loves her"...that i would definitely consider to be shallow.

[nayeemx33]

Listen for every $1.00 a man makes a woman makes $.60 on the same job, so shit still isnt equal, men need to pay!

Ask for a raise then

[schaxeb]

New question: Would a guy not paying for you at all when you go out together be a good enough reason for you to break up with him?

i think if uve just started dating, then the guy should pay... but after the first couple of dates, they should start splitting... after six months or so they shouldnt even be worried about whos paying... but to expect a guy to pay for every meal and movie that they go out on is pretty absurd...
like someone said earlier, its only ok for the girl to pay if ur married... WTF! what if i date someone for two yrs... i dont wanna pay every single time.

[LAKERFAN8]

Something like that is not important in the grand scheme of things. So he is a but frugal if she loves everything else about him then its not a big deal. And there is a double standard, if women want to be treated as equals they cant expect chivalry like that. Personally even though I believe in equal rights and what not I would still pay just to show money does not mean anything to me that she is more important than saving billz <3

[xogirlie girlxo]

Ask for a raise then
Ha! I was being hypothetical.

[XxTasha786xX]

Something like that is not important in the grand scheme of things. So he is a but frugal if she loves everything else about him then its not a big deal. And there is a double standard, if women want to be treated as equals they cant expect chivalry like that. Personally even though I believe in equal rights and what not I would still pay just to show money does not mean anything to me that she is more important than saving billz <3:werd:

[xogirlie girlxo]

Something like that is not important in the grand scheme of things. So he is a but frugal if she loves everything else about him then its not a big deal. And there is a double standard, if women want to be treated as equals they cant expect chivalry like that. Personally even though I believe in equal rights and what not I would still pay just to show money does not mean anything to me that she is more important than saving billz <3
Chivalry might be alive.

[schaxeb]

Listen for every $1.00 a man makes a woman makes $.60 on the same job, so shit still isnt equal, men need to pay!

for every hour a man works, a woman sits around and bitches about not getting the same pay...

u guys are making $.60 for bitching... thats a good deal if you ask me.

[LAKERFAN8]

Chivalry might be alive.
Maybe :shock:

[xogirlie girlxo]

for every hour a man works, a woman sits around and bitches about not getting the same pay...

u guys are making $.60 for bitching... thats a good deal if you ask me.
Lol relax.

[nayeemx33]

i think if uve just started dating, then the guy should pay... but after the first couple of dates, they should start splitting... after six months or so they shouldnt even be worried about whos paying... but to expect a guy to pay for every meal and movie that they go out on is pretty absurd...
like someone said earlier, its only ok for the girl to pay if ur married... WTF! what if i date someone for two yrs... i dont wanna pay every single time.

I agree.
I'm willing to pay for first couple of dates, but I shouldn't pay for everything when I'm in a long term relationship.

[Somewhat.Awesome]

personally, i'm a firm believer of independence and not having to rely nor expect anyone else to pay for anything. infact, guys would get turned off and irritated about the fact that i wouldn't really let them pay for me most of the time, that either i'd foot the bill completely or at least my half of it. if i chose to foot the bill completely, then i wouldn't mind them paying for something else (ie: i pay for dinner, they pay for dessert/drinks; i pay for lunch, they pay for movie tickets, etc; splitting the bill)

the only people i let pay for me are ones that i consider to be very close, and even that, i permit it very rarely (with the exception of family members/coworkers of course).

now, while i believe this, i also believe that this case sounds like the guy's abit extreme (but then again, i don't really know him, his situation, or what he's thinking....and out of curiousity, despite all these dates, has your friend ever brought this up to him and openly communicated about it? if not then maybe she should). if it's been several months into the dating and what not, i would feel that by now, (if they really felt the same way about each other), then they wouldn't mind going back and forth. in the sense.... i'll pay for our coffees, and you pay for our dinner, then switch it around the next time so that way it kind of balances out and you're not feeling like you're keeping/kept tabs of.

the keeping of the tabs part is what concerns me. why? because if i really cared/loved someone (or if they cared/loved me) then tabs to that extent would not have been kept. at least, that's what i personally believe in. independence, financially responsiblity, and all are all important things, but it's also important to not overdo it.

that i find to be a cheap mentality (not that he spends less, or anything, but the fact that each penny is kept close tab of brought up even) and i don't really know what you were implying by "he really cares about her, he really loves her" as those things don't mean a thing if the actions themselves do not follow through.

anyway, i think your friend ought to have a talk with this love interest. i don't find her to be shallow, necessarily, for feeling guilty, but from what you've told, this sounds a bit too extreme on his part. i think it ought to be discussed because maybe he has a perfectly good reason behind it :dunno:
however, if your friend is not happy with this guy, instead of trying to justify "oh he cares about me in every other way" is just a way of her lying to herself especially seeing that the actions don't seem to be supporting this. no matter how gorgeous or anything she is, she should also never try to equate how much a man is willing to spend on her to how much he "loves her"...that i would definitely consider to be shallow.



well, i've asked her if she has broughten it up and she said no because she has no idea how she would bring such a thing up without making the situation awkward. She doesn't want it to seem like she always expects him to pay or anything you know. According to her, the reason HE says that he doesn't pay for her all the time is because it isn't a "realistic realtionship". He believes that realistically, the guy doesn't always pay for the bill and isn't always chivalrous (ex. they went out to dinner, she didn't finish eating, he told her to take it to go and it was a pretty big bag and he didn't even offer to carry it for her..also, i don't know if this one is true but she said that he didn't even bother to hold open doors for her, he would just hold it the way he holds it for every other friend, up until recently when he found out that she actually likes things like that)...anyways, back to what i was saying...she said that he really enjoys the relationship because he doesn't only feel like she is his girlfriend, but also considers her a friend and that is why he treats her like a friend because when he goes out with his other girl friends, he doesn't pay for them or hold their things so i guess he thinks why should he do it for her? I really don't know, it's pretty confusing and i didn't understand all of what she was saying

[xogirlie girlxo]

Yo honestly men and women can never be equal.Thanks to pms. I dont wanna be treated like a man, I wanna be treated like a lady. I like cooking, I like makeup, so y the hell shouldnt he like to pay. And its not about the money, stuff like paying for things shows that a guy is sharing, manly, chivalrous, hes not impoverished, hes refined,and comes from a good family.

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

Yo honestly men and women can never be equal.Thanks to pms. I dont wanna be treated like a man, I wanna be treated like a lady. I like cooking, I like makeup, so y the hell shouldnt he like to pay. And its not about the money, stuff like paying for things shows that a guy is sharing, manly, chivalrous, hes not impoverished, hes refined,and comes from a good family.
holla.

[xogirlie girlxo]

Oh hey Johnny Whipped Bar!

[nayeemx33]

Yo honestly men and women can never be equal.Thanks to pms. I dont wanna be treated like a man, I wanna be treated like a lady. I like cooking, I like makeup, so y the hell shouldnt he like to pay. And its not about the money, stuff like paying for things shows that a guy is sharing, manly, chivalrous, hes not impoverished, hes refined,and comes from a good family.

Awww
Stay home mom

[Somewhat.Awesome]

well its not even like he has to pay EVERYTIME they go out, but it is nice the first few times and after that at least take turns or something...in my opinion, i would find it a little awkward having to pay for yourself at the end of the date..its less awkward if you take turns paying the whole thing

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

Oh hey Johnny Whipped Bar!
I'm your cup of tea.

[xogirlie girlxo]

awww so you are gonna stay at home and cook for him? awww awww awwww
Man if my man is hardworking and a real man, and if he wanted me to stay home i'd do it. I'd do anything for him. Plus when i have kids I want to raise them the right way.

[Rogue]

well, i've asked her if she has broughten it up and she said no because she has no idea how she would bring such a thing up without making the situation awkward. She doesn't want it to seem like she always expects him to pay or anything you know. According to her, the reason HE says that he doesn't pay for her all the time is because it isn't a "realistic realtionship". He believes that realistically, the guy doesn't always pay for the bill and isn't always chivalrous (ex. they went out to dinner, she didn't finish eating, he told her to take it to go and it was a pretty big bag and he didn't even offer to carry it for her..also, i don't know if this one is true but she said that he didn't even bother to hold open doors for her, he would just hold it the way he holds it for every other friend, up until recently when he found out that she actually likes things like that)...anyways, back to what i was saying...she said that he really enjoys the relationship because he doesn't only feel like she is his girlfriend, but also considers her a friend and that is why he treats her like a friend because when he goes out with his other girl friends, he doesn't pay for them or hold their things so i guess he thinks why should he do it for her? I really don't know, it's pretty confusing and i didn't understand all of what she was sayingthey need to have a talk. avoiding it is not going to make it any better. and from what i've read so far, i think both have their own immature tendencies

and your friend also seems like she's reading into things way too much and expecting a lot more. she ought to learn how to expect very little from people (which is actually not that easy), and be self-sufficient enough to not let it bother her to this extent.

this isn't just in this case, i'd say that pretty much for any future relationship that she gets into, id believe that'd probably be the best route to go: be independent, self-sufficient in every way (even emotionally), and do things for people with little expectations of having it be reciprocated. do things because you want to do them...

if this is not something that sounds in line with her thinking, then sure, go ahead and dump him and replace him with someone else who's willing to buy their way into her life.

[LAKERFAN8]

Man if my man is hardworking and a real man, and if he wanted me to stay home i'd do it. I'd do anything for him. Plus when i have kids I want to raise them the right way.
oh god you are perfect :love:

[xogirlie girlxo]

Awww
Stay home mom
Sometimes I feel like TheDude is ur other sn. Yeah man I'd love my kids I'd stay home with them fuck everything else.

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

he wants your n00dz, so do i.

chop chop, woman.
She will probably send pics of her feet..she has a foot fetish

[Rogue]

damn it! i missed the essay! :mad::wiggle: no you didn't.

[Somewhat.Awesome]

:blahblah:

its your friend's relationship. stay out of it, you drama-lovin whore. :gtfo:


it's not even like that...she told me the situation, i told her my two sense and that was that. It just got me thinking afterwards and what i would do if the situation arised for me

[schaxeb]

Man if my man is hardworking and a real man, and if he wanted me to stay home i'd do it. I'd do anything for him. Plus when i have kids I want to raise them the right way.

have em join RD... better yet buy em a paid subscription... they'l love u for it. :p

[TheDude]

She will probably send pics of her feet..she has a foot fetish

well, she thinks men > women. minus well bring me my beer and make me a sammich.

[nayeemx33]

Sometimes I feel like TheDude is ur other sn. Yeah man I'd love my kids I'd stay home with them fuck everything else.

Don't you have any goals in life other than being a good mom?

[xogirlie girlxo]

so you are saying that men > women.

i see.
Well Ibelieve Men have more responsibilities than women. Men and women need to give eachother a break.

[Rogue]

i am a witness :bowdown:lol, of?

[xogirlie girlxo]

Don't you have any goals in life other than being a good mom?
Yeah duh thats whay im going to college.But when I have kids Iwont trust no dumb teenage babysitters or even family, I wanna be with my kids man for the first few yrs. Im a simple person man.

[Rogue]

history in the making :bowdown:btw, if we really are having dinner, we'll have to decide on where soon so i can make reservations (referring to ana mandara)

[Somewhat.Awesome]

just because she told you the situation doesn't mean you have to give your input.

it's her relationship, so stay out of it.


she asked for my input and i gave it, it's not like i randomly said it..all i said was that i thought that she should seriously think about it and it shouldn't be a basis for them to actually break up.

It got me thinking afterwards though. It's not like i told her what i'm typing now.

[xogirlie girlxo]

oh god you are perfect :love:
No you are perfect :love:

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

well, she thinks men > women. minus well bring me my beer and make me a sammich.
no worries...she will bring the beer and the remote. They know their role eventually, just have to call their mom and tell em she is being a bad wife.

[nayeemx33]

btw, if we really are having dinner, we'll have to decide on where soon so i can make reservations (referring to ana mandara)

What happened to our plans to meet up? :sniff:

[xogirlie girlxo]

no worries...she will bring the beer and the remote. They know their role eventually, just have to call their mom and tell em she is being a bad wife.
Rofl. W/e :rolleyes:

[Rogue]

What happened to our plans to meet up? :sniff::hand: i know not what you speak of.

[nayeemx33]

:eek4: you are gonna pay for me there? :eek4:

You're paying.

[Rogue]

:eek4: you are gonna pay for me there? :eek4:i haven't gone there in awhile and this would be a good excuse to go :wiggle: oh, and you're buying dessert.

[Walktheline]

What happened to our plans to meet up? :sniff:


wait, what happened to our plans to meet up? :hsughw:

[xogirlie girlxo]

dont roll those pre... no, nevermind.
I have demon eyes. I love my demon eyes.

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

Rofl. W/e :rolleyes:
please, hubby complains to desi mom-in-law. SHE WILL FREAK and bring him his beer and remote. Then she will kick your ass and remind you that although the huby is a dick, he holds your future in his hand. You are a girl, desi man pwnts women. His way or the highway.

[nayeemx33]

wait, what happened to our plans to meet up? :hsughw:

You never showed up :sniff:

[Walktheline]

You never showed up :sniff:


my camry broke :sniff:

[xogirlie girlxo]

please, hubby complains to desi mom-in-law. SHE WILL FREAK and bring him his beer and remote. Then she will kick your ass and remind you that although the huby is a dick, he holds your future in his hand. You are a girl, desi man pwnts women. His way or the highway.
I switch lanes real fast on the highway. Plus myman wont be like that.

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

so let her mom know? :think:

see i didnt know that. no wonder meg's acting up. :mad:
:lol: Dude I tried going to bat for you in her thread that day....hoping she would see the light.

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

I switch lanes real fast on the highway. Plus myman wont be like that.
do you "switch 4 lanes, with the top down screaming out, money aint a thang"?

[xogirlie girlxo]

do you "switch 4 lanes, with the top down screaming out, money aint a thang"?
No I scream "move bitch get out the wayyyyyyy"

[BoO bOo]

Not that m saying that guy should pay all the time but shit being cheap has a limit. I wouldnt date a guy who would always expect me to pay for my share n his share all the time.

desi men should always pay. :p *just my thought...dont get hyped bout it. CALM UR ASS*

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

No I scream "move bitch get out the wayyyyyyy"
:lol:

[nayeemx33]

Not that m saying that guy should pay all the time but shit being cheap has a limit. I wouldnt date a guy who would always expect me to pay for my share n his share all the time.

desi men should always pay. :p *just my thought...dont get hyped bout it. CALM UR ASS*

Awwww
Jailbait is all grown up

[xogirlie girlxo]

:lol:
"get out the way bitch get out the wayyyyyyy"

[nayeemx33]

thanks, mang. she doesn't think im marriage material though.

Tell her that you make $300k per year

[BoO bOo]

Awwww
Jailbait is all grown up
hunny, i been grown. :eyebrow:

[xogirlie girlxo]

STFU

ok just kidding. n00dz please. thanks.
I'd ask you for your nudes but thats just plain nasty.

[nayeemx33]

hunny, i been grown. :eyebrow:

Whatever, flat ass

[xogirlie girlxo]

exactly. men > women. its a woman's job to take n00dz and send em to her man. a woman asking for n00dz is just plain nasty. im glad we see eye to eye.
R u short! Whats up with this cousin cartel of urs!

[BoO bOo]

Whatever, flat ass
:hand: you aint seen nutin yet.

[xogirlie girlxo]

very! about 4'10 right now. no wonder we see eye to eye.

my cousin cartel? dont you wish you were in? :eyebrow:
I' 5'5 u midget! Yeah ur cousin cartel sounds interesting, what do u yall do together :rolleyes:

[xogirlie girlxo]

we do the paki thing.

5'5? "shore shore"
Whats the "paki thing". I'm 5'8 with heels.

[flow-natural]

what a fucking turn of

[xogirlie girlxo]

well so am i but thats neither here nor there :Paper:

you are not paki, are you?
Yeah I'm Paki. R u!!!

[flow-natural]

id pay for you :love:
lol fak u

no seriously whata turn off man

even my gay mates pay 4 me, dey aint even man 100%

why split it thats just sad, i mean obviously the girl will offer to pay @ times too

but splitting it, wtf id rather pay 4 all of it than split a bill

[xogirlie girlxo]

if im doing the cousin thing the paki way, what do you think i am? :roll:
Your too cool to be Paki. I dont think ur Paki :squint:

[BoO bOo]

sup nemo
whaddup TheDude?

[flow-natural]

would you? no wonder we get along so well :love:

shutup cheapskate

i would pay for it and then be like, err ur nice but not my type

i dont like oldfashioned guys but i think its embarassing to split a bill

i dont mind paying for shit 4 my mates cos i know they wud do da same 4 me, in fact my mate even uses my creditcard when hes short in money

i hope the guy shes talkin abt aint asian

[xogirlie girlxo]

why you gotta be such a paki hater? :no:
What can I say, I hate myown kind.

[flow-natural]

so i'd still get at least one dinner out of you? woohoo :dance2:
ergh so shameless

[flow-natural]

i like your sig :Oops:

tnx :D i made it myself (A)

[flow-natural]

like my sig? i didnt make it :Oops:
well i dunno those ppl

[flow-natural]

you dont watch entourage?

why am i not surprised? :no:

we dont get it here ( i think )

why ru not surprised

[flow-natural]

what's here? i thought you said you are from jersey :squint: why do you talk like a brit? wtf? lol

im not surprised cuz desi people aren't normal; they are gay. and every normal, non-gay person in the world watches entourage.

i never said that and i dont talk like a brit

im from amsterdam

and im not gay either :|

[flow-natural]

i thought you said you are from jersey :squint:

you're from amsterdam? are you a fan of the ganja? :Oops: im not saying i am, but just axing, you know?

i dont smoke

but i do have a t-shirt that says '' smoking ganja area ''

and my aunty snitched on me and told my dad abt it :|

i never said i was from jersey

[Somewhat.Awesome]

shutup cheapskate

i would pay for it and then be like, err ur nice but not my type

i dont like oldfashioned guys but i think its embarassing to split a bill

i dont mind paying for shit 4 my mates cos i know they wud do da same 4 me, in fact my mate even uses my creditcard when hes short in money

i hope the guy shes talkin abt aint asian



he's Hindu..i'm not sure, but i think he speaks Punjabi though

[ancient_warrior]

I have some gujju friends that never pay or offer to pay even for their own food. It pisses me off but I dont say anything.

The guy is stingy and doesn't deserve tha girl. According to Desi standards, he behaves like a beggar that has never seen money in his life. What a cheapo. :mad:

[hawthamzi]

C1t_ZKAxfpA
bitchwheresmymotherfuckinmonay

[sexxichic2envy]

lmfao. What a cheap fucking moron. To all the guys who are complaining about it being 2007 and equal rights... that has shit to do with a guy paying. What the fuck does paying have anything to do with womens rights?? A guy paying shows he can be a provider and take care of his woman.

My boyfriend AND his friends never let girls pay...whether they're dating or just friends. I offer to pay time and time again, but my bf refuses to let me. (I just make up for it by giving him lavish gifts on holidays and birthdays)

The guy in question is obviously a cheap bastard who'd probably recycle water if he could.

lol @ the cheap guys in here getting offended. Cheapos

[phishuff]

here we go yo, so what's whats the scenerio

[sexxichic2envy]

I have some gujju friends that never pay or offer to pay even for their own food. It pisses me off but I dont say anything.

The guy is stingy and doesn't deserve tha girl. According to Desi standards, he behaves like a beggar that has never seen money in his life. What a cheapo. :mad:
awww I said cheapo, too. :hug:

[kwitcherbitchin]

if she's always paid her way and paid the right amount it's pretty rude of him to assume she was short on cash...yeesh. :rolleyes:

i'm sure if she didn't have enough she'd tell him or call the date off.

[sexxichic2envy]

Something like that is not important in the grand scheme of things. So he is a but frugal if she loves everything else about him then its not a big deal. And there is a double standard, if women want to be treated as equals they cant expect chivalry like that. Personally even though I believe in equal rights and what not I would still pay just to show money does not mean anything to me that she is more important than saving billz <3
Once again, what does being chivalrous have to do with WOMENS RIGHTS?!?!


Womens rights is about getting the same pay as men, being able to do the same job as men, being able to do anything without being discriminated against because of gender.

A man's role in society is generally that of a provider. If you can't fucking pick up a tab, how the fuck do you expect to support a family?!?!

[phishuff]

if they are really like each other this wuldn't be issue..if th guy doesn't want ot pay it is cool

[SpicyBrownRapper]

Say there's a couple that has been dating for about 7 or so months...the guy has never spent any money on the girl because he always expects it to be even and the both of them pay for themselves. One day, they decide to go out and they decide that the girl will give him the money beforehand. She does, but accidentally gives a $5 instead of a $20 and doesn't realize until she gets home. She texts or calls the guy to tell him that she has realized that she didn't give him the proper amount and he responds by saying that he saw that she had not given the proper amount but just didn't say anything because he didn't want to bring it up if she was a little short. If you were the girl, how would you react to this? Would you think it is insulting because you did indeed have more than the amount that was supposed to be given and he assumes that you were short? Would you find it odd that he has never offered to pay, even once? If you were the guy, would you have reacted differently and have told her that she was short? Would you not ask for the money in the first place?

I ask because this happened to a friend of mine last night. She is more than a little turned off at the fact that this guy has never offered to pay, even once...even if it was a small amount, such as going out for coffee. She considers it cheap but at the same time really loves him but can't get that thought out of her mind. She told me the situation and it got me thinking and i really don't know what I would do if i really loved someone but I just couldn't get something like that out of my mind, no matter how hard I tried.

What would you do?

The girl has no right, in this particular situation, to be offended. There was a consensus that the girl would give the guy some money, was there not? Now, since this pact was made, the guy has every right to question why she did not fulfill her part of the deal.

The whole thing has nothing to do with the concept of having a guy pay every time. If there was some kind of a deal made, you best fucking hold on to it.

If I was the guy, I'd think the girl was cheap as fuck, as she previously had agreed to pay a certain amount.

[hawthamzi]

lmfao. What a cheap fucking moron. To all the guys who are complaining about it being 2007 and equal rights... that has shit to do with a guy paying. What the fuck does paying have anything to do with womens rights?? A guy paying shows he can be a provider and take care of his woman.

My boyfriend AND his friends never let girls pay...whether they're dating or just friends. I offer to pay time and time again, but my bf refuses to let me. (I just make up for it by giving him lavish gifts on holidays and birthdays)

The guy in question is obviously a cheap bastard who'd probably recycle water if he could.

lol @ the cheap guys in here getting offended. Cheapos
equal rights, equal funding lol

but in all honesty, ive said to wimminz that they gta pay, but then at the last moment when they start cracking open the purse and taking out daddies plastic, i feel guilty and always dig deep and touch my thigh, ooops, i mean get some money out ma pocket and pay, :ashamed: but having somebody else pay for you is a nice change soetimes,

[sexxichic2envy]

Yo honestly men and women can never be equal.Thanks to pms. I dont wanna be treated like a man, I wanna be treated like a lady. I like cooking, I like makeup, so y the hell shouldnt he like to pay. And its not about the money, stuff like paying for things shows that a guy is sharing, manly, chivalrous, hes not impoverished, hes refined,and comes from a good family.
fuckin werd, y0. Even though I pretend to be a man sometimes, I like having a punani.

[SpicyBrownRapper]

Once again, what does being chivalrous have to do with WOMENS RIGHTS?!?!


Womens rights is about getting the same pay as men, being able to do the same job as men, being able to do anything without being discriminated against because of gender.

A man's role in society is generally that of a provider. If you can't fucking pick up a tab, how the fuck do you expect to support a family?!?!

If you think its a man's role to solely provide for the family, then certainly women's right has something to do with the concept. Now, doesn't the whole women's right concept make it so that a woman can make equally the same amount as man, there by letting her take the part of the provider as needed? Certainly, this erases the idea of man being the provider because women can now do everything they can. So really, saying men have to be the provider AND asking for equal rights is like having your cake and eating it too.

[sexxichic2envy]

equal rights, equal funding lol

but in all honesty, ive said to wimminz that they gta pay, but then at the last moment when they start cracking open the purse and taking out daddies plastic, i feel guilty and always dig deep and touch my thigh, ooops, i mean get some money out ma pocket and pay, :ashamed: but having somebody else pay for you is a nice change soetimes,
I think it's being cheap to tell a woman to pay. I've had to fight with my boyfriend to pay for things. Now like I said before, on special occasions I do my part (because I want to) and I buy him expensive gifts...

You shouldn't be paying though because you feel guilty.. you should do it because you want to.

[sexxichic2envy]

If you think its a man's role to solely provide for the family, then certainly women's right has something to do with the concept. Now, doesn't the whole women's right concept make it so that a woman can make equally the same amount as man, there by letting her take the part of the provider as needed? Certainly, this erases the idea of man being the provider because women can now do everything they can. So really, saying men have to be the provider AND asking for equal rights is like having your cake and eating it too.
I didn't say that's his sole role. I said generally a man is a provider. Your father, your uncle, your grandfather... I'm sure they all fall into that category.

Yes, a woman can take on the role of provider. I didn't say it doesn't happen nor did I say it's impossible. Personally, I don't want to be the provider. Despite making enough to support a family, I want my future husband to be the primary bread winner. No one is saying the man HAS TO BE the provider. All that's being said is, with women's rights a woman can make enough to support herself. But at the end of the day, a woman will always be a woman and a man will always be a man. When you start pushing out 6 lb babies and dripping blood 4-7 days a month, then we'll talk about having our cake and eating it, too.

[pagal_guju]

:rofl:

wow just wow. that's all i'm going to say :no:

[Echelon]

If men be the provider, then women be the cooker, innit.

And I don't see this bitch cooking?

[sexxichic2envy]

Some of you men are just trying to justify why you're a cheapskate. For shame, ya'll.

[Echelon]

I didn't say that's his sole role. I said generally a man is a provider. Your father, your uncle, your grandfather... I'm sure they all fall into that category.

Yes, a woman can take on the role of provider. I didn't say it doesn't happen nor did I say it's impossible. Personally, I don't want to be the provider. Despite making enough to support a family, I want my future husband to be the primary bread winner. No one is saying the man HAS TO BE the provider. All that's being said is, with women's rights a woman can make enough to support herself. But at the end of the day, a woman will always be a woman and a man will always be a man. When you start pushing out 6 lb babies and dripping blood 4-7 days a month, then we'll talk about having our cake and eating it, too.So if a man is the primary bread winner then are you going to be the primary home-maker?

[sexxichic2envy]

If men be the provider, then women be the cooker, innit.

And I don't see this bitch cooking?
Actually, yea sure. I think every woman should know how to cook and clean. Not that it'd consume her entire life, but it's important.

[CheezCake]

^^^^^^^^^^

u guys make me lafff

at the end of the day, THAT MAN WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO KEEP HER HAPPY

for the sake of curtosy, if he can't even pay on the FIRST date, that shoulda told the girl from the very beginning..

i ALWAYS tell my guy i wanna pay but my goodness he NEVER lets me pay

womens rights have given them liberty to 'live' similarly with the same liberty as men are given..but when it comes to CHIVELRY which we all would agree is the issue here, the fukin GUY needs to pay

[sexxichic2envy]

So if a man is the primary bread winner then are you going to be the primary home-maker?
You can have a career and be a homemaker.....which is the lifestyle of a lot of women today.

Yes, I plan on working AND raising my family. I don't want my husband having to come home and cook dinner or do chores.

[sexxichic2envy]

^^^^^^^^^^

u guys make me lafff

at the end of the day, THAT MAN WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO KEEP HER HAPPY

for the sake of curtosy, if he can't even pay on the FIRST date, that shoulda told the girl from the very beginning..

i ALWAYS tell my guy i wanna pay but my goodness he NEVER lets me pay

womens rights have given them liberty to 'live' similarly with the same liberty as men are given..but when it comes to CHIVELRY which we all would agree is the issue here, the fukin GUY needs to pay
:-s I'm agreeing with you punk.

[hawthamzi]

If men be the provider, then women be the cooker, innit.

And I don't see this bitch cooking?
preach nigguh preach

i dont get my clothes ironed waitin on the end of the bed for when i wake up, or my food ready on the table when i walk thru the door after work, and who the fucks gna get me my slippers to wear when im sat in front of the telly, they sure as hell aint gna walk themselves over here, the least she could do is seperate the sunday newspaper so i can read the funnies without having to battle with the other sections, i swear women are gettin lazier and more demanding lmao

[Echelon]

Actually, yea sure. I think every woman should know how to cook and clean. Not that it'd consume her entire life, but it's important.Well in this instance, I doubt the girl will be doing any "home making".

Although, I believe in gallantry, paying for someone is a privledge and a compliment. It shouldn't be the sole main reason for why a relationship survives, nor should it be a main reason why people break up.

[PaiN infLictioN]

the only girl i'm spendin money on is my fuckin wife cuz we'll be together via contract, so she aint goin nowhere....other than that, why the fuck would u throw your precious hard earned money at some hoez who for all you know might be fuckin some other n*gga. HA!!

[CheezCake]

preach nigguh preach

i dont get my clothes ironed waitin on the end of the bed for when i wake up, or my food ready on the table when i walk thru the door after work, and who the fucks gna get me my slippers to wear when im sat in front of the telly, they sure as hell aint gna walk themselves over here, the least she could do is seperate the sunday newspaper so i can read the funnies without having to battle with the other sections, i swear women are gettin lazier and more demanding lmaowomen are ur wives not ur fukin SLAVES
if u want one BUY one

[Echelon]

Oh yeah and any girl who gets frustrated because of that is a fucken idiot and shouldn't deserve any future compliments/payments in the future.
A female should be gentle and reasonably modest. Her expectations shouldn't be so high.

[CheezCake]

the only girl i'm spendin money on is my fuckin wife cuz we'll be together via contract, so she aint goin nowhere....other than that, why the fuck would u throw your precious hard earned money at some hoez who for all you know might be fuckin some other n*gga. HA!!generalizing :no:

why would u be with that 'hoe' to begin with then

and for all we know...men could be humpin hoes EVEN when they're married

wats up with that :doh:

[PaiN infLictioN]

women are ur wives not ur fukin SLAVES
if u want one BUY one
GOLD DIGGER ALERT! GOLD DIGGER ALERT!


















wait...you're paki...nvm, not surprised.

[CheezCake]

Oh yeah and any girl who gets frustrated because of that is a fucken idiot and shouldn't deserve any future compliments/payments in the future.
A female should be gentle and reasonably modest. Her expectations shouldn't be so high.same goes to men

[hawthamzi]

women are ur wives not ur fukin SLAVES
if u want one BUY one
i did from thailand, but she ran away, i might have to buy another one, but thats another dead investment ;)

im kidding

[CheezCake]

GOLD DIGGER ALERT! GOLD DIGGER ALERT!
wait...you're paki...nvm, not surprised.:slap:
wth does that have to do with anything

[PaiN infLictioN]

generalizing :no:

why would u be with that 'hoe' to begin with then

and for all we know...men could be humpin hoes EVEN when they're married

wats up with that :doh:
just cuz your paki men be doin that shit, dont mean every desi men do it OK.

[Echelon]

same goes to menDisagree,
Women want men with certainty and leadership qualities of a good provider.

[foreverconfused]

well, not spending even a little bit is cheap.

but splitting the bill is definitely not retarded. it's what I prefer. though on first dates, whoever asked the other person out should pay, imo. This is usually the guy.

[CheezCake]

just cuz your paki men be doin that shit, dont mean every desi men do it OK.not really

have u seen the news :rolleyes:

men cheat on their women left and right

ethnicity isn't much an issue...but the mans mentality is

[sexxichic2envy]

Well in this instance, I doubt the girl will be doing any "home making".

Although, I believe in gallantry, paying for someone is a privledge and a compliment. It shouldn't be the sole main reason for why a relationship survives, nor should it be a main reason why people break up.
As all men should. I agree, it shouldn't be the main reason a relationship survives or ends.. because that'd mean the relationship doesn't really have much to stand on. If that's the case, the couple needs to re-evaluate and figure out why they're even together.

[CheezCake]

Disagree,
Women want men with certainty and leadership qualities of a good provider.men want their women to be home and baby makers

same level of diff expectations

[kwitcherbitchin]

Oh yeah and any girl who gets frustrated because of that is a fucken idiot and shouldn't deserve any future compliments/payments in the future.
A female should be gentle and reasonably modest. Her expectations shouldn't be so high.

she has every right to be upset...she never did anything wrong before and the first time she accidently doesn't give him the right amount he automatically assumes she didn't have the money....it's only natural that she would feel insulted.

i'm not saying she should dump him over that or that he is cheap, because to me he would only be cheap if he made her pay for both of them everytime.

[PaiN infLictioN]

not really

have u seen the news :rolleyes:

men cheat on their women left and right

ethnicity isn't much an issue...but the mans mentality is
not BENGALI men :mrhappy:

[sexxichic2envy]

men want their women to be home and baby makers

same level of diff expectations
lol not all men want that. A lot of men respect women who are independent and have a career or a plan. But, who wouldn't like a hot meal when they come home?

[PaiN infLictioN]

btw...:bowdown:@that guy

[PaiN infLictioN]

lol not all men want that. A lot of men respect women who are independent and have a career or a plan. But, who wouldn't like a hot meal when they come home?
:werd:

[CheezCake]

not BENGALI men :mrhappy:\

oh yea i forgot

not PAIN INFLICTION

OMG

[DasJa]

Say there's a couple that has been dating for about 7 or so months...the guy has never spent any money on the girl because he always expects it to be even and the both of them pay for themselves. One day, they decide to go out and they decide that the girl will give him the money beforehand. She does, but accidentally gives a $5 instead of a $20 and doesn't realize until she gets home. She texts or calls the guy to tell him that she has realized that she didn't give him the proper amount and he responds by saying that he saw that she had not given the proper amount but just didn't say anything because he didn't want to bring it up if she was a little short. If you were the girl, how would you react to this? Would you think it is insulting because you did indeed have more than the amount that was supposed to be given and he assumes that you were short? Would you find it odd that he has never offered to pay, even once? If you were the guy, would you have reacted differently and have told her that she was short? Would you not ask for the money in the first place?

I ask because this happened to a friend of mine last night. She is more than a little turned off at the fact that this guy has never offered to pay, even once...even if it was a small amount, such as going out for coffee. She considers it cheap but at the same time really loves him but can't get that thought out of her mind. She told me the situation and it got me thinking and i really don't know what I would do if i really loved someone but I just couldn't get something like that out of my mind, no matter how hard I tried.

What would you do?
:rofl:

[CheezCake]

lol not all men want that. A lot of men respect women who are independent and have a career or a plan. But, who wouldn't like a hot meal when they come home?yea i know that...but generally speaking

but we were talking about expectations

if womena have espectations from men so do they

[PaiN infLictioN]

\

oh yea i forgot

not PAIN INFLICTION

OMG
u just hatin...i mean if pakis would just stop marrying their cousins, the cheating rate will significantly decrease, because afterall, who wouldnt get tired of fuckin their own family members??

[sexxichic2envy]

:werd:
I hope you get a Bengali wife who only knows how to cook fish. Cheapo.

[PaiN infLictioN]

I hope you get a Bengali wife who only knows how to cook fish. Cheapo.
i already have one...shes beautiful and can cook everything :love:

[CheezCake]

u just hatin...i mean if pakis would just stop marrying their cousins, the cheating rate will significantly decrease, because afterall, who wouldnt get tired of fuckin their own family members??im not hating on anyone...just saying wats out there and u know it :squint:

theres diff reasons why men cheat
its not just cuz they are married to their cusins

what abt these chitte men....they fall ''in love'' with their women too...then why cheat on her

[CheezCake]

i already have one...shes beautiful and can cook everything :love:lol yea shes sitting in his pocket

[sexxichic2envy]

yea i know that...but generally speaking

but we were talking about expectations

if womena have espectations from men so do they
Absolutely right. But we're talking to desi men here who live by double standards.

[PaiN infLictioN]

lol yea shes sitting in his pocket
i was bein serious :rolleyes:

[CheezCake]

Absolutely right. But we're talking to desi men here who live by double standards.hahah

oh yeaaaa

[CheezCake]

i was bein serious :rolleyes:realllllly :hyper:

i wanna seeeeee

[PaiN infLictioN]

realllllly :hyper:

i wanna seeeeee
after all that....i dont think so! :hand:

[SpicyBrownRapper]

I didn't say that's his sole role. I said generally a man is a provider. Your father, your uncle, your grandfather... I'm sure they all fall into that category.

Yes, a woman can take on the role of provider. I didn't say it doesn't happen nor did I say it's impossible. Personally, I don't want to be the provider. Despite making enough to support a family, I want my future husband to be the primary bread winner. No one is saying the man HAS TO BE the provider. All that's being said is, with women's rights a woman can make enough to support herself. But at the end of the day, a woman will always be a woman and a man will always be a man. When you start pushing out 6 lb babies and dripping blood 4-7 days a month, then we'll talk about having our cake and eating it, too.

To me it sounds like you're agreeing with me when I say it shouldn't be the man's responsibility to pay. Am I reading this correct? Especially since you seem to agree with me saying women in the workspace are pretty normal these days, and they're almost pushing the same salary as men in average.

In today's world its hard to raise a couple of kids with just the man being the only provider for the family. Increasing cost of college, food, diapers, just your basic daily needs has made it more and more difficult for a family to function well financially with just the dad as the provider. I'm sure you'd want the best for your kids, and the only way to its possible now, for the average family, is for both the mother and the father to be financially responsible.

I also think its ridiculous to have to ASK either of the party (men or women) to pay. Men shouldn't ask women to pay, and women shouldn't ASK men to pay. It should be something that is understood, and either the man or the woman should be willing to pay when necessary. I hate the fact that women think there is some unwritten rule that says men have always got to pay. May I ask why, provided both of you make the same amount of money? I also think that with men, their egos have something to do with their willingness to pay all the time. Its sort of a societal constraint that guys have completely given into. A good functioning relationship is one that understands one another's position, and puts in equal effort in all aspects, imo.

[CheezCake]

after all that....i dont think so! :hand:remember i said u were the nice one

cumon...wheres the lov yo

[PaiN infLictioN]

remember i said u were the nice one

cumon...wheres the lov yo
:hand:








later on msn.

[CheezCake]

:hand:
later on msn.oh wow....i had no idea

chupe rustam

[sexxichic2envy]

To me it sounds like you're agreeing with me when I say it shouldn't be the man's responsibility to pay. Am I reading this correct? Especially since you seem to agree with me saying women in the workspace are pretty normal these days, and they're almost pushing the same salary as men in average.

In today's world its hard to raise a couple of kids with just the man being the only provider for the family. Increasing cost of college, food, diapers, just your basic daily needs has made it more and more difficult for a family to function well financially with just the dad as the provider. I'm sure you'd want the best for your kids, and the only way to its possible now, for the average family, is for both the mother and the father to be financially responsible.

I also think its ridiculous to have to ASK either of the party (men or women) to pay. Men shouldn't ask women to pay, and women shouldn't ASK men to pay. It should be something that is understood, and either the man or the woman should be willing to pay when necessary. I hate the fact that women think there is some unwritten rule that says men have always got to pay. May I ask why, provided both of you make the same amount of money? I also think that with men, their egos have something to do with their willingness to pay all the time. Its sort of a societal constraint that guys have completely given into. A good functioning relationship is one that understands one another's position, and puts in equal effort in all aspects, imo.
Did you not read my other posts where I said in today's world both men and women have careers? Obviously in an economy where the cost of living is relatively high, I know both men and women have to work. You misunderstood the message I was trying to convey. I didn't say a guy should ALWAYS pay. Once again, I've offered to pay on many occasions. But, I think a majority of the time the man should foot the bill. Not saying a woman should sit back everytime they go out and expect him to do it. But if you're sitting there counting how many times who paid what, then maybe you shouldn't be in the relationship if you consider it a chore to take your girlfriend out.

Another example, my bf and I went out last week to see a movie with his friends and he got four tickets whereas we needed five. He asked me to go get it for him while he ordered food and then he proceeded to take out his wallet and hand me a $20. I waved it off and told him, "I got it." We have an understanding. He knows I don't mind paying but he'd prefer me not to. Simple.


I'm not one of the women who wants my man to be overly emotional, to need me, blah blah. I want my man to be a man.

[PreciousPari]

Wtf dump his cheap ass! I can understand if he didn't have the money AT THE TIME. But like seriously, that hardly ever happens. Guys always have money and wouldn't their ego get in the way if they see their gal paying for shit? Come on now....seriously...
IMO, personally, I wouldn't hesitate to pay and I wouldn't rely on my bf paying for shit all the time. :no:

[sexxichic2envy]

Cheap ass desis.

[SpicyBrownRapper]

I was just replying to what you said, which seemed to imply that its the guy's responsibility to pay


A guy paying shows he can be a provider and take care of his woman.

My boyfriend AND his friends never let girls pay...whether they're dating or just friends. I offer to pay time and time again, but my bf refuses to let me. (I just make up for it by giving him lavish gifts on holidays and birthdays)


and


A man's role in society is generally that of a provider. If you can't fucking pick up a tab, how the fuck do you expect to support a family?!?!

I mean, if I am reading this incorrectly, then my apologies. I replied thinking you were implying that its the guy's responsibility to pay. If you believe that its not one particular gender's responsibility, then we're on the same page and I have no clue what we were discussion about.

[sexxichic2envy]

I was just replying to what you said, which seemed to imply that its the guy's responsibility to pay

and

I mean, if I am reading this incorrectly, then my apologies. I replied thinking you were implying that its the guy's responsibility to pay. If you believe that its not one particular gender's responsibility, then we're on the same page and I have no clue what we were discussion about.

:slap: If I felt a guy should always pay, I would never offer myself because I'd expect it to be taken care of. But I do think a majority of the time a man should pay. I think it's really unclassy of a man to let the woman foot the bill....unless they've been going out for awhile, then he can let her dish out some bucks without feeling guilty.

Who pays usually when you and your gf go out?

[SpicyBrownRapper]

:slap: If I felt a guy should always pay, I would never offer myself because I'd expect it to be taken care of. But I do think a majority of the time a man should pay. I think it's really unclassy of a man to let the woman foot the bill....unless they've been going out for awhile, then he can let her dish out some bucks without feeling guilty.

Who pays usually when you and your gf go out?

It just boils doing to whoever feels like paying, really. I don't keep count of who has paid what, she doesn't do that either. We go, we eat, we talk, paying the check is an after thought really. I can honestly say that she's paid just as much as I have. And its not because I ask her to, its because she's willing to and has no problem of doing so.

[sexxichic2envy]

It just boils doing to whoever feels like paying, really. I don't keep count of who has paid what, she doesn't do that either. We go, we eat, we talk, paying the check is an after thought really. I can honestly say that she's paid just as much as I have. And its not because I ask her to, its because she's willing to and has no problem of doing so.
Fair enough.

[sexxichic2envy]

lulz @ desi girls.

no wonder so many of you are single and cant find a guy. :kekeke:
I'm not single. Haven't been in a long while. :Paper:

[Arshy]

this is 2007

if you women bitch about equal rights and what not then whats wrong with that

i mean me personally id pay for everything HERE and THERE, but to break up because of that? very shallow

tell your friend i said shes a kuthi sali rundi kunjuri no akal no sharam bevkoov bandari churail
i would keep it simple, by not letting the women out of the house in the first place.

[gujulicious]

WOW. thats just horrible.


so do you mean to say that in these 7 months or so, that they've been together...hes never even ONCE taken her out on a date and not expected her to put in half? coz if thats the case, then thats just ridiculous!!

weirdly, i read the whole thread, and somewhere you mentioned that she likes the fact that he treats her just like he treats any of his other girl friends. but i mean...WTF ...thats cool and all, but because shes his GF...he should treat her MORE SPECIAL than he treats ANY OTHER girl...i mean there has to be SOMETHING that sets her apart from all the other girls, you know what i mean?

i mean whats the point of having a gf, if you werent gonna do anything nice for her every once in a while. [i mean cmon, even splitting for a cup of coffee which costs like $3 is messed up] even friends pay for each other, for lil shit like that.

and before any of the guys jump my ass, i wanna clarify that im all FOR splitting the bill, coz i really dont believe that the guy should be paying every single time, but every once in a while, it doesnt hurt to pay for dinner or take her out for coffee or ice cream or something, does it? [same goes for the girls]

think about it this way ::: atleast shes not like other girls that make their men take them out shopping and whatever...so lucky you!

so guys...before your girl kicks your ass to the curb, getchar act together and be a man!

[LAKERFAN8]

why cant they just have sex all the time? that way they wont need to spend money :idea:

[gujulicious]

and wow...i just typed a whole essay.

[Arshy]

you should have a day which is just dedicated to essays.

RD really needs it.

[BoO bOo]

where have you been? you went AWOL or something.
i was just busy with some things. working alot so yeh

[NinjaPanther]

Whoever believes in the system of courting a lady all the time and paying the whole bill whenever you are out on date is definitely a gold digger. Money tends to become a problem and unless you are filthy rich and can afford to pay for the living expenses of your own and the girl you are with, you can go ahead and pay for her as many times as you want.

Personally I believe in going half and half on usual dates and paying for it in full on special occasions or when you do feel too generous about each other.

Thankfully I don't have someone who expects me to pay in full every time, unlike some of the girls in here. After all we are your boyfriend, not your dad!

[TheDude]

you should have a day which is just dedicated to essays.

RD really needs it.

pandora, rogue, now rogue's twin.

are you telling me we should only let them post one day a year? that's kinda mean.

[gujulicious]

I KNEW YOU ARE ROGUE'S TWIN! I JUST KNEW IT!

lc
this is the first time i ever typed so much and youre already making fun of me?:(


its good shit though, read it!

[TheDude]

this is the first time i ever typed so much and youre already making fun of me?:(


its good shit though, read it!

your guy said a lot more with fewer words. :D

[nayeemx33]

i was just busy with some things. working alot so yeh

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww
You're all grown up :(

[Arshy]

pandora, rogue, now rogue's twin.

are you telling me we should only let them post one day a year? that's kinda mean.
i missed the bit where i should have stated "one day a week"

can you imagine a "paragraph fest"?

[gujulicious]

Thankfully I don't have someone who expects me to pay in full every time, unlike some of the girls in here. After all we are your boyfriend, not your dad!


hey .. so i saw this really pretty dimond ring at tiffanys...and i was wondering if... oh wait nevermind.

[Arshy]

thats a scary thought :Ohno:
women and literature = lonely nights for men.

[BoO bOo]

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww
You're all grown up :(
i been wrkin ever since i got my car and i tink i was 16 at that time. i jus had to work extra now because my parents separated so im living wid my mom n bro. I gotta support mi madre.

[BoO bOo]

you work in retail, right? hook a brotha up :D
i work at target.......so what you want?

[NinjaPanther]

hey .. so i saw this really pretty dimond ring at tiffanys...and i was wondering if... oh wait nevermind.

Go ask your dad who already has to pay to fix your car that you totaled last week. :arrow:

[nayeemx33]

i been wrkin ever since i got my car and i tink i was 16 at that time. i jus had to work extra now because my parents separated so im living wid my mom n bro. I gotta support mi madre.

:hug:

[gujulicious]

your guy said a lot more with fewer words. :D
pshhhh.

mine was better :hand:

[gujulicious]

Go ask your dad who already has to pay to fix your car that you totaled last week. :arrow:
GEEEZZZZ!!! you cant even buy me a RING!! ...you cheapass! :rant:

[BoO bOo]

:hug:
lol thx for the appreciation.

well they might be gettin back together. And im off to college nxt month. i am soo gonna miss my mummy. :(

[NinjaPanther]

GEEEZZZZ!!! you cant even buy me a RING!! ...you cheapass! :rant:

Show your worth only then. :!:

[gujulicious]

are you saying your guy's dumb?
not at ALL, hes extremely intelligent. im just cooler ! :cool:

[BoO bOo]

can you hook me up with a good deal on the wii? :Pray:
ummm i tink we have em around $300. i can get you 10% off since the tax we pay is like 8.9%. lol

[Arshy]

thats what rosie palm and her best friend jill are for :naughty:
what if you've sprained both your wrists due to boxing,

then what i ask you?

[sexxichic2envy]

Whoever believes in the system of courting a lady all the time and paying the whole bill whenever you are out on date is definitely a gold digger. Money tends to become a problem and unless you are filthy rich and can afford to pay for the living expenses of your own and the girl you are with, you can go ahead and pay for her as many times as you want.

Personally I believe in going half and half on usual dates and paying for it in full on special occasions or when you do feel too generous about each other.

Thankfully I don't have someone who expects me to pay in full every time, unlike some of the girls in here. After all we are your boyfriend, not your dad!
I've been working since I was 14 and everything I own is self-bought, thank you very much.

[gujulicious]

so you are saying you are smarter than your guy.

so basically you are saying your guy is dumber than you.



ouch! :(
no youre dumb
:D


tataaaaaaa guys :wavey:

[nayeemx33]

GEEEZZZZ!!! you cant even buy me a RING!! ...you cheapass! :rant:

Give him something in return.
Bj

[sexxichic2envy]

didnt you say you pay too?
Like one out of 100 times. He doesn't like me paying.

[BoO bOo]

:eek4: id rather get it online. you are supposed to save me money, not make me spend more. :(


so whats up, nemo? you done with hs, right?
i dun wanna lose my job. it takes like forever to find these jobs nowdays. LIKE WHAT THE FUK? i dun get it.

ya m gone with hs. im starting uni nxt month. :joy:

[TheDude]

i dun wanna lose my job. it takes like forever to find these jobs nowdays. LIKE WHAT THE FUK? i dun get it.

ya m gone with hs. im starting uni nxt month. :joy:

did you just say uni? you are not british or canadian; dont say uni. :no: its the rd influence :no:

lol well, you have a job now, so thats good. look out for deals on the wii for me. please pretty please with a cherry on top. :Pray:

[BoO bOo]

did you just say uni? you are not british or canadian; dont say uni. :no: its the rd influence :no:

lol well, you have a job now, so thats good. look out for deals on the wii for me. please pretty please with a cherry on top. :Pray:
i aint british or canadian. amrikkaa here.

we do say universities. i am attending WWU. aka western washington university....close to canada :eyebrow:

[NinjaPanther]

I've been working since I was 14 and everything I own is self-bought, thank you very much.

Good for you. My point was directed towards girls who solely believe that a guy, if in a relationship, needs to pay for every penny that is required for them to flourish.

[Chinadoll]

New question: Would a guy not paying for you at all when you go out together be a good enough reason for you to break up with him?
No way.
To me, thats a ridiculous reason to break up with someone, especially in a new relationship. I think that relationships, new and old, are best when expenses are split between the two.

[CrazyJoker]

the whole 50/50 thing is kool

but it shouldnt always have to be the case

like for coffee and other lil things
i think the guy should be able to pay for that

[nayeemx33]

I make my woman pay all the time.
Thanks Rogue :love:

[Echelon]

So what have we ascertained from the threads thus far my lil pupils?
1 - Desi grills are silly. They have too much expectations which will ultimately result in their demise: getting married off to some old dude
2- Its traditional men pay on the odd occasion, but by no means is it an expectation, its a privilege. Any girl who thinks less of a man is a friggen idiot.
3 - A lot of desi girls are gold diggers, who have a skewed view of equality. In fact im pretty sure they're skewing the ideology just to benefit themselves and ensure that they all get treated like princesses.

[BoO bOo]

lol canada

canada is gay
its not in canada... washington shares border with canada. :hand:

[yeahwhat]

well in my relationship i probably pay more then my bf does but this is how we do things .... either we split the bill, i pay for it all and the next time he gets it...blah but personally i dont think its a big deal and i dont see why she is upset

[Somewhat.Awesome]

The girl has no right, in this particular situation, to be offended. There was a consensus that the girl would give the guy some money, was there not? Now, since this pact was made, the guy has every right to question why she did not fulfill her part of the deal.

The whole thing has nothing to do with the concept of having a guy pay every time. If there was some kind of a deal made, you best fucking hold on to it.

If I was the guy, I'd think the girl was cheap as fuck, as she previously had agreed to pay a certain amount.


it's not like she did it on purpose though...it was purely an accident. She meant to give three $20's and one $10...and instead of giving one of the $20's, she accidentally gave a $5 because apparently it was really dark in the car. She realized afterwards when she got home when she looked in her wallet.