Dont go too fast or it may not last???

[umairhasmi83]

A lot of people say that relationships that start off real quickly dont seem to last that long.I have noticed it myself in the past that if i met a girl and within a matter of days we are hanging out together all the time,talking on the phone for hours etc and then all of sudden it would die.

Barely a week ago i met this girl and shes soo sweet that shes almost perfect.And ive been talking to her on the phone for hours everyday and we are text messaging each other all the time.
Should i slow it down? If she asks why im not paying as much attention to her as i was doing a few days ago what do i say to her? I dont want her to think im losing interest because i really like her

[sexy_kuta]

whoa hold the fuck up.. u talk to her everyday? theres ur first mistake.. big mistake because first you are portriating yourself as someone who has no life and stays on the phone everyday. turn off. second of all, u wanna take things slow man, that way it will last longer. when u rush things u will get bored fast so will she.. and if u slow down u see the flaws better. who knows she got something to hide? or she has a cheating past. over time. girls reveal alot. and u can easily pick up clues.

you should slow it down. and if she questions u why u arent showing much attention tell her ur really busy but show her time.. be unpredicatable. if she knows ur gonna call at 6pm then no. make her be suprise.. dont call her for 3 days then call her out of the blue. this will make her think about u more often, and her interest level will grow.
u cannot be predicable all the time
and the reason most relationships dont last more than 6 weeks is because once a person gets to know each other.. they arent the same person they knew from the beginning thats why im sayin. take it slow.. GET to know her. but at a slow pace.. is she willing to do that? if she calls u everyday then shes attention whore and u need to back down..

Barely a week ago i met this girl and shes soo sweet that shes almost perfect
man. u knew her barely a week ago and she seems perfect? go to hooters.. all the girls seem sweet and nice.. u know why? they want a fuking tip. thats why girls seem nice because they want ur attention. not every girl is worth your time. if you want a guidline.. i date a girl for at least a month and half to get to know her. and keep my options open incase things dont work out.. not 2 weeks.. obviously ur investing too much right now. i say back away a lil bit. you are throwing a big investiment into something u dont know NOTHING about. who knows she will still be interested 2 weeks from now

[umairhasmi83]

whoa hold the fuck up.. u talk to her everyday? theres ur first mistake.. big mistake because first you are portriating yourself as someone who has no life and stays on the phone everyday. turn off. second of all, u wanna take things slow man, that way it will last longer. when u rush things u will get bored fast so will she.. and if u slow down u see the flaws better. who knows she got something to hide? or she has a cheating past. over time. girls reveal alot. and u can easily pick up clues.

you should slow it down. and if she questions u why u arent showing much attention tell her ur really busy but show her time.. be unpredicatable. if she knows ur gonna call at 6pm then no. make her be suprise.. dont call her for 3 days then call her out of the blue. this will make her think about u more often, and her interest level will grow.
u cannot be predicable all the time
and the reason most relationships dont last more than 6 weeks is because once a person gets to know each other.. they arent the same person they knew from the beginning thats why im sayin. take it slow.. GET to know her. but at a slow pace.. is she willing to do that? if she calls u everyday then shes attention whore and u need to back down..

Barely a week ago i met this girl and shes soo sweet that shes almost perfect
man. u knew her barely a week ago and she seems perfect? go to hooters.. all the girls seem sweet and nice.. u know why? they want a fuking tip. thats why girls seem nice because they want ur attention. not every girl is worth your time. if you want a guidline.. i date a girl for at least a month and half to get to know her. and keep my options open incase things dont work out.. not 2 weeks.. obviously ur investing too much right now. i say back away a lil bit. you are throwing a big investiment into something u dont know NOTHING about. who knows she will still be interested 2 weeks from now
Thanks dude.I must say you do sound right though.Jumping headfirst into it is probably not a good idea.

[DasJa]

sexy_kuta has got it spot-on in every point he makes.

And just to add a li'l to what he's sed so far..

For chix it's a very bi-weekly thing to give total attention to a guy for 2-3 weeks...and then not give him the time of the day, having you wondering "WTH :scratch: ?" . So instead of her brushing you aside like an old bread crust...back off,just a bit, and she'll long for your companionship even longer.

There's a saying, "Girls like assh0les"....it's a cliche`...but remember, "A cliche` is called a cliche`, only coz it's true!"

[*BabyGirl*]

woaah that's boring talking to the same person everyday :roll:

[Singari]

Umair, as a girl, i would like to say don't mess it up with this girl, by listening to dasja and sexy kuta.
well they are right about cutting down your phone time, and not being available to see the girl everyday. you should make her miss you, you should show her you are busy, but at the same time, make sure you talk to her atleast once a day and let her know that you are thinking of her, even if you were so busy.

second.. don't ignore her for 3 days and call her on the fourth day. that's bad. if you keep ignoring her like that for days and call her back later, she will soon get tired of the game and try to find someobody who is more loving and has more time for her. so you shoudl tread very lightly..

[UnevenButtocks]

Umair, as a girl, i would like to say don't mess it up with this girl, by listening to dasja and sexy kuta.
well they are right about cutting down your phone time, and not being available to see the girl everyday. you should make her miss you, you should show her you are busy, but at the same time, make sure you talk to her atleast once a day and let her know that you are thinking of her, even if you were so busy.

second.. don't ignore her for 3 days and call her on the fourth day. that's bad. if you keep ignoring her like that for days and call her back later, she will soon get tired of the game and try to find someobody who is more loving and has more time for her. so you shoudl tread very lightly..


As a girl, I fully agree with this poster. The other guys mean well but really, don't back out so much that you can never get back in. Girls are needy and you have to respond in kind. Remember this, a girl can always get a guy, even an ugly one because guys are much more desperate generally, but a guy can't always get a girl :lol:

[Rogue]

^ agree with uneven buttocks. :kekeke:


also stop worrying so much about how she sees you. things have just started off, and while yes, you should proceed wisely, don't overanalyze and think the worst of things. just be yourself and if you are busy, let her know that you are, but that you still like her and feel that she is special but that you just want to take things slow. if she's a smart, mature girl, she'll understand instead of feeling insecure and "rejected"... people should have a sense of dignity and independence to be okay without constantly being attended/catered to. don't compromise to the point of where you're not being yourself anymore or being disrespected, you won't be happy.

if not then, then perhaps you should reconsider how "perfect" she really seems to be and whether or not this is the type of person you would really want to have something more with apart from just time pass.

[sexy_kuta]

for the girls who said call every day because girls are "needy" is bullshit. no you dont have to call everyday.
be a challenge, if you giving the girl attention everyday then she is ALREADY Winning you which is the LAST thing you should do during the dating session.. because she isnt your gf YET and you dont know her yet. you always want to keep her on least that way you control the PACE and you call the shots.. your the one with the balls. NTO HER. so why should you call everyday.. these girls are sayin call everyday cuz its mean not talk call? bullshit.
ask them if its mean to lose interest in a guy because they have nothign to talk about on the 4th week of talking everyday..

ORR better yet ask these girls. if its mean to find a better guy and let the first guy hang low?

no offfence but gettin advise from a girl isnt the best thing because they are blind by their own "wants" and "needs" a girl WANT attention. she DOESNT NEED attention
daja is right.. make it 2-3 times a week on the phone and take her out NO more than twice a week.. remeeber YOU my friend have your OWN life OUTside of her.. she isnt your life.. she is just 2 percent of it..

go out and enjoy it

[sexy_kuta]

well they are right about cutting down your phone time, and not being available to see the girl everyday. you should make her miss you, you should show her you are busy, but at the same time, make sure you talk to her atleast once a day and let her know that you are thinking of her, even if you were so busy.


sorry but that reminds me of the notebook.
in one hand u are saying. dont be too available everyday and make urself seem busy so she can miss him. and cutting the phone time.

but in the other hand u are sayin still call her everyday becasue she cares about u.. they barely know each other.. you are mistaking them for a 2 year old relationship singari.. if they have been going out for 6+ months then yeh id say call her and do romantic shit but man. not even 2 weeks into this and hes callin everyday

[DasJa]

heck yea sexy_kuta...you go dude!!

And another point mate, if you call her and she hasn't answered the phone...don't dial again thinking:
1)she didn't see the missed call
2)she prolly is thinking about me but is really really busy

Let her call back...chix like to play these sorta "games" a lot. The only way to get in and out, with ur dignity and mental health intact, is to understand the enemy's gameplan :rambo:

[SarcasmicBengali]

yea... if its goin way too fast then u tend to wear it out...
and its not that u'll lose interest... but she'll just become a part of your life...
and so wont be the new exciting thing anymore... it happens in every relationship.
u just gotta be mature enough to deal w/ it... and shes gonna be mature enough to understand as well...

but shes's a girl... so fat chance of that happening :|

[umairhasmi83]

heck yea sexy_kuta...you go dude!!

And another point mate, if you call her and she hasn't answered the phone...don't dial again thinking:
1)she didn't see the missed call
2)she prolly is thinking about me but is really really busy

Let her call back...chix like to play these sorta "games" a lot. The only way to get in and out, with ur dignity and mental health intact, is to understand the enemy's gameplan :rambo:
lol yeah ive had first hard experience with that in the past bro.I think the biggest problem with us guys is that we tend to rationalize things instead of using logic.Our egos get in the way sometimes

[DasJa]

lol yeah ive had first hard experience with that in the past bro.I think the biggest problem with us guys is that we tend to rationalize things instead of using logic.Our egos get in the way sometimes
True. My ego's as big as my head...so often it causes a lot of outrage in my relationships. They usually end with me n the girl goin back-n-forth like:

Me:"bitch never call me again"

Her:"Dnt call me a bitch, bitch"

Me: "f*ck u bitch"

Her: "f*ck off!"

Me: "bitch"

:mrhappy:


I miss college :love:



anywayz, back to ur topic...ego and pride are our strongest weapons! Women will suck the damn life outta you, next thing you know u got an apron on washing the dishes while she's watching TV. ALWAYS have the upper-hand...and if not the upper hand...a good backhand should do the trick!

[Chucky_666]

for the girls who said call every day because girls are "needy" is bullshit. no you dont have to call everyday.
be a challenge, if you giving the girl attention everyday then she is ALREADY Winning you which is the LAST thing you should do during the dating session.. because she isnt your gf YET and you dont know her yet. you always want to keep her on least that way you control the PACE and you call the shots.. your the one with the balls. NTO HER. so why should you call everyday.. these girls are sayin call everyday cuz its mean not talk call? bullshit.
ask them if its mean to lose interest in a guy because they have nothign to talk about on the 4th week of talking everyday..

ORR better yet ask these girls. if its mean to find a better guy and let the first guy hang low?

no offfence but gettin advise from a girl isnt the best thing because they are blind by their own "wants" and "needs" a girl WANT attention. she DOESNT NEED attention
daja is right.. make it 2-3 times a week on the phone and take her out NO more than twice a week.. remeeber YOU my friend have your OWN life OUTside of her.. she isnt your life.. she is just 2 percent of it..

go out and enjoy it
A wise man once said.. "Fo' Shizzzzzzzzle"

He's right on target. You'll seem like a bitch if you have no life without her, which will wrap you around her whole hand, not just a finger.

[kohli_sahib]

Dude. my brother is amazing. wow. every single point he makes is just amazing. i love you sexy_kuta.

i love you.

[Singari]

Sexy kuta.. so you are saying if you are dating a girl for two weeks.. it's ok to ignore her for three days and call her on the fourth day? how do you intend to get to know her?

I am not saying you have to spend 4 to 5 hours on the phone with him/her.
Call them once everyday.. talk for 15 to max 30mins. on the weekend you can increase the 30mins to maybe 1 hour, but it's not good to stop calling them for three days in a row.. and call th enext day.

It is the initial stage in the relationship and if you are playing these games, the girl is going to think that you are not interested, and she is also going to think that you are going to be too busy for her in the future as well. so she is going to start thinking if you are the right guy for her. Then she will eventually get attracted toa guy who calls her atleast once a day... even if he doesn't talk a lot.

[*1001Nights*]

well idk i agree with lots of ppl here.....my bro and his gf hav almost been goin out for a a yr and a half....they see each other like evryday and tlk for hours when they dont......its goin pretty well theyve only had like 1 real fight.......thts pretty good for a highschool relationship btw

[sexy_kuta]

Sexy kuta.. so you are saying if you are dating a girl for two weeks.. it's ok to ignore her for three days and call her on the fourth day? how do you intend to get to know her?
naw. what im sayin is keep it steady. you cant get to know a person over 2 days. no matter how much you talk. yeh u can find out fluff stuff such has their hobbies but you wont have enough time to observe their behaviours and see if they are long term relationship material. by spacing out the calls. you are Also saving yourself for falling or investing too much and thats ONE of the HUGEST biggest mistake ppl make.. they rush and they create feelings and invest so much that. when things dont work out.. they fall soo hard and they lay on the ground for quite a time... by spacing out. u are keeping it steady. at own pace where both of you are comofortable because note this MOST relationships dont last more than 6 weeks. when u take it easy. you pick up more clues,


I am not saying you have to spend 4 to 5 hours on the phone with him/her.
Call them once everyday.. talk for 15 to max 30mins. on the weekend you can increase the 30mins to maybe 1 hour, but it's not good to stop calling them for three days in a row.. and call th enext day.
what would u rather have? a person whos always predictable? or someone who gives you feelings and suprises.. picture this.. u love this guy, u love him alot. hes ur bf for 4 years.. what would mean more.. him calling everday at 6pm.. then one day he calls u out of the blue at 8 unexpected.. i think the 8pm call will hit u more. and its not about games.. nothign to do with games. its about keeping your cool, what u wanna do is invest slowly, its not how much u can invest at a one time. but rather how much u can invest over time. you say this now, that u wanna guy to talk to everyday during the dating session but when things dont work out. you tell him "i only see u as a brother" or some other excuse because you lost interest in what to talk about. when people go out.. they only use the phone to set up dates. and to catch up. that usually takes 10 min. no more than that. if you truely wanted to get to know a person. you would in person, not the phone. if you are serious about a relationship. you would leave the phone on the hook and meet the person. i sometimes liek the phone because i would always talk about our previous dates and what was her favorite part. then i would call for the next date. that way we always had somethign to talk about but if we were talking more on the phone rather than seeing each other then it dies out slowly. but this is later on in the relationship. not 2 weeks into meeting each other.
and ppl do that often, call 3 days in a row then skip the next day. its calling keeping the spark. keeping things fresh, not the same. you are thinkign of a highschool relationship where the kids hold hands see each other everyday do the same shit.. talk everyday after school.. thats just puppy love.. BIG difference


It is the initial stage in the relationship and if you are playing these games, the girl is going to think that you are not interested, and she is also going to think that you are going to be too busy for her in the future as well. so she is going to start thinking if you are the right guy for her. Then she will eventually get attracted toa guy who calls her atleast once a day... even if he doesn't talk a lot.
lol i can tell you watch the notebook a few times..
The intial stage of a relationship is in the beginning. THATs why its IMPORTANT not to rush things because you will skip and miss out soo many clues that can easily tell you the furture of your relationship such as once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. if u find out she cheated on her past bfs and its already 2 months down the road then ur basicly fucked cuz u invested 2 months worth of feelings and thats alot.
thats good if the girl thinks the guy is too busy because its the GIRLS job to win the guy.. GIRLS want and LIke challenges. its normal human instinct. we want what we cannot have.. its a human desire, thats waht makes us strive for goals, and to pass our limits, picture this when ur a little girl, u wanted a make upset.. but your parents said no. then u wanted ot more and u would do anything. chores. puppy eyes. u would kiss ur parents ass over anything. and thats why u always see girls fighting over a boy rather than boys fighting over a girl.. girls would rather have a challenge, than to just be given to them. a man SHOULD be busy because he is a MAn and he is living his life. he has goals and he is ambitionous. he succeds in everything he does and he doesnt let anyone get in his way. and a girl LIKES that.. girls rather chase a man like that. than to have some guy call her everyday.
now. dont tell me im wrong, because im not. you know damn right what im talking about :P

[candle23]

^:bowdown:

[sexy_kuta]

^:bowdown:
;) hehe

[MixedMartini08]

Okay first off i think every person has their own opinion. Nothing here really is facts.....just strong minded ppl stating their opinions. This situation can either go really good or really bad. From the looks of it Callin the female a couple of days after can be a good thing....here's why. WOMEN ARE ATTRACTTED TO ASSHOLES..... even tho u may not be an asshole, the girl will think "gosh wutta jerk...he hasnt called me in 2 days" or wutever. Since ima girl and i kno alot about my friends relationships......When a guy doesnt call it can be sort of Spontaneous. I GUESS (outta the blue) he drops in and makes her day. or jus disappearing but then suddenly droppin by sayin "hey i missed u...i thought about u all day" can make a girl feel even more important than gettin daily fone calls. Sho her that wen u give her attention its not a EVERYDAY sort of thing...it takes ALOT for u to tell a girl shes important and it takes ALOT for u to actually make the girl feel special. I get bored of men who tell me the same thing everyday coz they are jus soo constant. I wud love to have a man that wud jus make me miserable one day (ive noticed some women love that rollercoaster ridelol keeps it edgy) and make it up the nex day and sho me his soft side. That sort of thing can REALLY get a gal hooked. The reason why i beleive that is girls SOME GIRLS sumtimes get bored of jus attention all the time its jus TOO safe... come on gals...how many of u got bored with the same ol guy keep callin u and u jus keep sayin "wow hes movin too fast i want a LIFE" pretty much alot of ppl i kno feel that way. Men need to sumtimes do that sort of stuff coz WEN U LIKE A GUY U CANT HELP IT...timing means nuthin once ur hooked sweeties.... But if u keep it simple itll sumtimes bore a gal out ORRR like i said earlier IT CAN GO 2 WAYS it can keep a girl happy... idk DOnt get mad at me ladies lol its my opinion i am not bashin anyone here im jus stating my opinion LUV U SEXY KUTA U ROCK!

[UnevenButtocks]

lol yeah ive had first hard experience with that in the past bro.I think the biggest problem with us guys is that we tend to rationalize things instead of using logic.Our egos get in the way sometimes


because rationalizing does not involve logic, yah?

[MixedMartini08]

because rationalizing does not involve logic, yah?


RATIONALIZE: to ascribe (one's acts, opinions, etc.) to causes that superficially seem reasonable and valid but that actually are unrelated to the true, possibly unconscious and often less creditable or agreeable causes.


LOGIC: particular method of reasoning or argumentation


logic can be used during rationalizing a situation. Thank u unevenbuttocks for noticing that :)

[UnevenButtocks]

for the girls who said call every day because girls are "needy" is bullshit. no you dont have to call everyday.
be a challenge, if you giving the girl attention everyday then she is ALREADY Winning you which is the LAST thing you should do during the dating session.. because she isnt your gf YET and you dont know her yet. you always want to keep her on least that way you control the PACE and you call the shots.. your the one with the balls. NTO HER. so why should you call everyday.. these girls are sayin call everyday cuz its mean not talk call? bullshit.
ask them if its mean to lose interest in a guy because they have nothign to talk about on the 4th week of talking everyday..

ORR better yet ask these girls. if its mean to find a better guy and let the first guy hang low?

no offfence but gettin advise from a girl isnt the best thing because they are blind by their own "wants" and "needs" a girl WANT attention. she DOESNT NEED attention
daja is right.. make it 2-3 times a week on the phone and take her out NO more than twice a week.. remeeber YOU my friend have your OWN life OUTside of her.. she isnt your life.. she is just 2 percent of it..

go out and enjoy it


oh no, you're telling him what to do now but they already started with a lot of communication, you want him to back off all of a sudden and go to 2-3 times on the phone weekly, you're screwing this up for him. maybe girls don't "need" attention, obviously true in most cases and yes we "want" it so why not "give" it? You're absolutely right that he has his own life outside of her but this is someone that may actually become an important part of his life at some point and she may turn from 2 percent to 70%. Or, who knows, maybe even more, you don't know what kind of person he is, maybe he would like making her his world, not everyone is all about that being your own person shit, some people like to belong to someone to the highest degree. Telling him to cool off a bit is ok, but that is a dramatic change from what he's gotten her used to. If a guy did that to me, and kept me at an arm's length in such a calculated manner he can go screw himself.

Umair, you should listen to the girls, we know better. We like to think we're so special and all so unique but in the end some things are really general about us. yes you should pull out a bit but don't make it so that it's really dramatic and it leaves her wondering if you've changed your mind or if she did something wrong. You just don't want to give her any reason to doubt anything (if you really like her). During work hours stick to working and tell her your replies will be delayed because you're busy and giev it time before you get back to her. Do talk to her every day. Most girls would tell you the same "blah blah whine whien i don't need to have 3 hour long conversations I just want him to show that he cares enough to call me and he's thinkign about me and just to say good night or "just to say hello" whine whine sigh sigh" I mean that's what beginnings are about, right, constantly thinking about someone new, wondering how they are, is he thinking about me too, etc. You want to let her know (indirectly) yes, you're thinking of her, and the next day, yes you're still thinking of her, and the next day, yes...and so on. Some people can start relationships the way you guys did and be just fine later on and with others it fails. Human nature is so damn fickle, you just don't know when you'll wake up one day and just not be in the mood to talk to her and then that "she's so perfect" thing you brought up can go down the shitters and it would be all your fault, not hers. So, summary, tell her you can't talk much during the day, give her time to miss you, at work do work, cut down on the texting big time, BUT definitely call her everynight and even when you can't call her for 3 hours take the time to call her for 2 mins and say "i can't talk much but just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you". bam. Big smile on her face, 'awww ma man called me, he's finkin of me" :lol: As far as going out, do it as you feel not on a schedule, why stretch things out to find out someone's not for you when you can get that over with faster:D The guys giving you advice talk about girls playing games but look at their advice, nothing but games. When you are that calculated about how you deal with someone, it's all a game. And mixedmartini talking about how women are attracted to assholes, true of weak minded women, and is that what you're dating, a weak minded woman? right. call her every night.

[UnevenButtocks]

RATIONALIZE: to ascribe (one's acts, opinions, etc.) to causes that superficially seem reasonable and valid but that actually are unrelated to the true, possibly unconscious and often less creditable or agreeable causes.


LOGIC: particular method of reasoning or argumentation


logic can be used during rationalizing a situation. Thank u unevenbuttocks for noticing that :)


you're using logic to rationalize something, right. you're welcome;)

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

oh no, you're telling him what to do now but they already started with a lot of communication, you want him to back off all of a sudden and go to 2-3 times on the phone weekly, you're screwing this up for him. maybe girls don't "need" attention, obviously true in most cases and yes we "want" it so why not "give" it? You're absolutely right that he has his own life outside of her but this is someone that may actually become an important part of his life at some point and she may turn from 2 percent to 70%. Or, who knows, maybe even more, you don't know what kind of person he is, maybe he would like making her his world, not everyone is all about that being your own person shit, some people like to belong to someone to the highest degree. Telling him to cool off a bit is ok, but that is a dramatic change from what he's gotten her used to. If a guy did that to me, and kept me at an arm's length in such a calculated manner he can go screw himself.

Umair, you should listen to the girls, we know better. We like to think we're so special and all so unique but in the end some things are really general about us. yes you should pull out a bit but don't make it so that it's really dramatic and it leaves her wondering if you've changed your mind or if she did something wrong. You just don't want to give her any reason to doubt anything (if you really like her). During work hours stick to working and tell her your replies will be delayed because you're busy and giev it time before you get back to her. Do talk to her every day. Most girls would tell you the same "blah blah whine whien i don't need to have 3 hour long conversations I just want him to show that he cares enough to call me and he's thinkign about me and just to say good night or "just to say hello" whine whine sigh sigh" I mean that's what beginnings are about, right, constantly thinking about someone new, wondering how they are, is he thinking about me too, etc. You want to let her know (indirectly) yes, you're thinking of her, and the next day, yes you're still thinking of her, and the next day, yes...and so on. Some people can start relationships the way you guys did and be just fine later on and with others it fails. Human nature is so damn fickle, you just don't know when you'll wake up one day and just not be in the mood to talk to her and then that "she's so perfect" thing you brought up can go down the shitters and it would be all your fault, not hers. So, summary, tell her you can't talk much during the day, give her time to miss you, at work do work, cut down on the texting big time, BUT definitely call her everynight and even when you can't call her for 3 hours take the time to call her for 2 mins and say "i can't talk much but just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you". bam. Big smile on her face, 'awww ma man called me, he's finkin of me" :lol: As far as going out, do it as you feel not on a schedule, why stretch things out to find out someone's not for you when you can get that over with faster:D The guys giving you advice talk about girls playing games but look at their advice, nothing but games. When you are that calculated about how you deal with someone, it's all a game. And mixedmartini talking about how women are attracted to assholes, true of weak minded women, and is that what you're dating, a weak minded woman? right. call her every night.
:eek2:

holy shit...

[UnevenButtocks]

:eek2:

holy shit...


you dropped the dumbbell on your nuts again, big poppa? :lol:

[sexy_kuta]

oh no, you're telling him what to do now but they already started with a lot of communication, you want him to back off all of a sudden and go to 2-3 times on the phone weekly, you're screwing this up for him. they only been talking for a week.. its not alot of communication. im not sayin STOP DEAD call her a week later, maybe i should have spoken with more depth for my logic views. he should slowly fade away but not comeplety.. phone her every second day.. then switch it up, and the only reason im saying this is because hes already investing too much, who knows what the other girl is alike. im only speaking based on experience because i made the stupidest mistake ever, the same mistake hes walking into.. just two months. it took. for me to fuck up, i thought wow this was going smooth, everything was connecting u know.. we had a MATURE relationship. i was there for her.. and i counted on her.. 3rd month, her ex came back.. little did i know i as the rebound.. shit happens right? now it has been 11 months and im still trippin over her.. aint that some shit eh? she gave clues but i ignored them because i was in denial. i was blinded by the good times and payed NO attention to the small clues which she left in the beginning but it wasnt til later on that i realized i should have backed away. thats all im saying. theres no such things as games.. yeh small part of it is to spark her interest but thats only the small part.. the big part is to protect your own heart. and not to end up damaged like all of the other guys who disrespect women. spit on them. fuck them and never look bad. i dont want any more guys to turn out like them. thats all im trying to do. so i hope you understand my perspective that im trying to present.


maybe girls don't "need" attention, obviously true in most cases and yes we "want" it so why not "give" it? You're absolutely right that he has his own life outside of her but this is someone that may actually become an important part of his life at some point and she may turn from 2 percent to 70%. Or, who knows, maybe even more, you don't know what kind of person he is, maybe he would like making her his world, not everyone is all about that being your own person shit, some people like to belong to someone to the highest degree. yeh girls Love attention and because of that. we have the advantage. we can give a certain amount of attention that when later on she does something good. we can give her a little more attention. its like presenting it as a gift. but if u start of giving her all the attention then whats the point of gifting her? what i do and its effective for Me is i give the other person just enough attention to hook up and if i see constant good behavior i give a little more.. but once she disrespects me.. i dont yell or swear at her. because theres no need. what i do is give her the slient treatment.. little do ppl know.. withdrawing full contemplation is one of the most powerful disciplines you can do without using any verbal or phsyical forces. most ppl dont realize that. i honeslty. swear to god. i HOPE that 2 percent goes to 70 but its not that EASY. it doesnt happen alot. its rarely happens.. but the worst thing he can do is EXPECT the 70 percent and then 2 months later things arent working out to that 70 percent..yeh its about taking risks, but lets take some qauilty risks. not stupid risks. invest some time and knowledge before you make the next move. its not that some ppl. its everything, i even love relationships. one of my dreams is to raise a family and teach my kids what i can offer. but its not as easy and picking a card out of a deck.. alot of ppl think its easy then the next thing is they are miserable for 2+ years because they have emotional baggage of something they could have easily prevented. im stupid for fucking up 11 months ago but im somewhat happy that i fucked up because i know that i know way better to put myself through the same thing..


Telling him to cool off a bit is ok, but that is a dramatic change from what he's gotten her used to. If a guy did that to me, and kept me at an arm's length in such a calculated manner he can go screw himself.like i said you guys are confusing him for a 6+ relationship. they only knew each other for a WEEK.. what do u do in a week? me i go to school 5 times. gym 3 times, watch maybe 20 min of tv in a week? week is nothing. he got it easy right now. hes at the point where he can slowly back away but STILL be there talking to her.. he needs to realize and think about how much hes willing to invest.



Umair, you should listen to the girls, we know better. We like to think we're so special and all so unique but in the end some things are really general about us. yes you should pull out a bit but don't make it so that it's really dramatic and it leaves her wondering if you've changed your mind or if she did something wrong. You just don't want to give her any reason to doubt anything (if you really like her). During work hours stick to working and tell her your replies will be delayed because you're busy and giev it time before you get back to her. Do talk to her every day. Most girls would tell you the same "blah blah whine whien i don't need to have 3 hour long conversations I just want him to show that he cares enough to call me and he's thinkign about me and just to say good night or "just to say hello" whine whine sigh sigh" I mean that's what beginnings are about, right, constantly thinking about someone new, wondering how they are, is he thinking about me too, etc. You want to let her know (indirectly) yes, you're thinking of her, and the next day, yes you're still thinking of her, and the next day, yes...and so on. Some people can start relationships the way you guys did and be just fine later on and with others it fails. Human nature is so damn fickle, you just don't know when you'll wake up one day and just not be in the mood to talk to her and then that "she's so perfect" thing you brought up can go down the shitters and it would be all your fault, not hers. So, summary, tell her you can't talk much during the day, give her time to miss you, at work do work, cut down on the texting big time, BUT definitely call her everynight and even when you can't call her for 3 hours take the time to call her for 2 mins and say "i can't talk much but just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you". bam. Big smile on her face, 'awww ma man called me, he's finkin of me" :lol: As far as going out, do it as you feel not on a schedule, why stretch things out to find out someone's not for you when you can get that over with faster:D you women often change your mind alot too, make sure you tell him that.



The guys giving you advice talk about girls playing games but look at their advice, nothing but games. When you are that calculated about how you deal with someone, it's all a game. And mixedmartini talking about how women are attracted to assholes, true of weak minded women, and is that what you're dating, a weak minded woman? right. call her every night.

where did i say games? i never said play games. mind games is somthing i dont tolerate.. theres a difference in staying distance than to fuck around iwth her mind. my FIRST Thing.. on my mind. is to protect my heart thats all i give a fuck.. i could give less fuck if she was jay lo. you THINK we like to play games but in reailty, girls cause the drama. girls play soo much fuking game u have no idea.. girls play games for a reason they wanna test us. they want to push us to our limits and see how much of a man we are and how much can we take. i dont blame u girls because there are alot of pussies out there that cant locate their balls but sometimes you girls over do it or take advantage of it. you play games to get attention. so telling us that our advice is strickly playing games then you are very niave.. i never instist mind game. NEVER.



ok my now my summary.. if you want.. and this is up to you.. invest how much you want.. US telling u isnt gonna do shit unless you take our advise into consideration..
but if you want my honest opnion.. if this is your first attempt or falling for a girl.. go nuts.. go get your heart broken. go get miserbal.. and im not being sarcism because.. ME telling you that heartache sucks is pointless unLess you experience it first hand then you can have your own perpective and to make your own judgement rather than have ppl on the forums telling you BAASED on their experience.. i hope you are young as me.. i just turned 17, so if ur around there. just go have fun and do whatever. just beware that theres always risks that u gotta take

[sexy_kuta]

UnevenButtocks, i understand you are speaking from a girls point of view and i respect that, but i think he should take notes while i take tokes of this marijuana smoke, and take the good from both sides. :wavey:

btw thanks for responding.. i never really had any sort of a dissuasion as this long

[UnevenButtocks]

but if you want my honest opnion.. if this is your first attempt or falling for a girl.. go nuts.. go get your heart broken. go get miserbal.. and im not being sarcism because.. ME telling you that heartache sucks is pointless unLess you experience it first hand then you can have your own perpective and to make your own judgement rather than have ppl on the forums telling you BAASED on their experience.. i hope you are young as me.. i just turned 17, so if ur around there. just go have fun and do whatever. just beware that theres always risks that u gotta take

:rofl: there you go, best advice anyone here could ever give him.

We basically did agree that he needs to back off a little but 2-3 times a week is not reasonable at this point, I think, even if it's only been a week. It just started off with too much, you can't go from 7 days a week, talking every day, to all of a sudden twice a week. They've skipped a step and now you're asking him to go back.

See, the problem with us sexy_kuta is that I'm speaking from my happy place and you're speaking from your...unhappy place. or bad experience, whatever. So in the end we're the wrong people to give him advice because I'm telling him innocent until proven guilty and you're telling him guilty until proven innocent (which, my two cents only here, your experience was extreme, it's not fair to have him treat her that way based on your weirdo ex's behavior). So yah, there you go, the stuff highlighted above is the best advice.


Just for the record, I still think I'm right:D

[UnevenButtocks]

UnevenButtocks, i understand you are speaking from a girls point of view and i respect that, but i think he should take notes while i take tokes of this marijuana smoke, and take the good from both sides. :wavey:

btw thanks for responding.. i never really had any sort of a dissuasion as this long


hey, you're welcome, and thank you for responding and sharing your experience. It makes sense you'd advise the things you do, your ex did you wrong big time. You're so young though, trust me, one day you'll fall in love again and you'll realize it's 10 times better than the "love" you thought you felt for the ex. It only gets better and deeper...and so does the fucking pain. Share the joint now.

[sexy_kuta]

:rofl: there you go, best advice anyone here could ever give him.

We basically did agree that he needs to back off a little but 2-3 times a week is not reasonable at this point, I think, even if it's only been a week. It just started off with too much, you can't go from 7 days a week, talking every day, to all of a sudden twice a week. They've skipped a step and now you're asking him to go back.

See, the problem with us sexy_kuta is that I'm speaking from my happy place and you're speaking from your...unhappy place. or bad experience, whatever. So in the end we're the wrong people to give him advice because I'm telling him innocent until proven guilty and you're telling him guilty until proven innocent (which, my two cents only here, your experience was extreme, it's not fair to have him treat her that way based on your weirdo ex's behavior). So yah, there you go, the stuff highlighted above is the best advice.


Just for the record, I still think I'm right:D
lol your a girl so aruging with a brick wall would be more productive :P

OK your right im wrong.. better? :P

yeh umair just take the good from both sides and KNOW that there are risks u are gonna take.

[sexy_kuta]

hey, you're welcome, and thank you for responding and sharing your experience. It makes sense you'd advise the things you do, your ex did you wrong big time. You're so young though, trust me, one day you'll fall in love again and you'll realize it's 10 times better than the "love" you thought you felt for the ex. It only gets better and deeper...and so does the fucking pain. Share the joint now.
haha oh i know.. two exs are enough for me now. im just layin low enjoyin my life, workin on my car and hittin the gym, i know that. after every ex. you always find someone better to replace your first one. my ex had no right to put me through that but im somewaht blunty happy because i can share my sorrows and help others in a way that they dont go through wat i did..
i had to change my number because it was gettin too fucked up

[UnevenButtocks]

lol your a girl so aruging with a brick wall would be more productive :P

OK your right im wrong.. better? :P

yeh umair just take the good from both sides and KNOW that there are risks u are gonna take.


well it doesn't feel as good now that you gave up so easily and really, when you wrote so much in reply to someone and she (me) took the time to reply to you is it fair to bring up the brick wall deal. I just feel so unappreciated. damn it.

:lol:

Yes umair, take the good from both sides, especially mine, there's more of it there :rofl:

[sexy_kuta]

well it doesn't feel as good now that you gave up so easily and really, when you wrote so much in reply to someone and she (me) took the time to reply to you is it fair to bring up the brick wall deal. I just feel so unappreciated. damn it.

:lol:

Yes umair, take the good from both sides, especially mine, there's more of it there :rofl:

lol your soo cocky..

but i like it

[UnevenButtocks]

haha oh i know.. two exs are enough for me now. im just layin low enjoyin my life, workin on my car and hittin the gym, i know that. after every ex. you always find someone better to replace your first one. my ex had no right to put me through that but im somewaht blunty happy because i can share my sorrows and help others in a way that they dont go through wat i did..
i had to change my number because it was gettin too fucked up


how comes it's been 11 months and you're still not over it, do you see her around a lot or what?

[UnevenButtocks]

lol your soo cocky..

but i like it

I'm cocky, yet cockless :mrhappy:

[sexy_kuta]

how comes it's been 11 months and you're still not over it, do you see her around a lot or what?
no its just.. its fuckedup. shes confuses as mofo.. one min she wants me around.. the the next thing shes talkin to him.. like.. once i rezlied i fucked up i told her we need a break. shes like cool. so i cut off all contacts and a month later she comes back.. so im thinkin wow maybe shes ready.. then she just put me on the back backer.. then id cut her off again. and she comes back.. we never stayed apart for more than one month and 4 days but until recently i think 2 months ago ish, i changed my number.. i couldnt bare the fact that i would try to move on and she would contact me a month later because it litterly killed me and made me miserbal.. so i changed my number and so far this has been the longest.. and its hard.. i just had a dream about her last night that we was chillin like the good times..

its not her that kills me. its the thing we shared the good times. her calling me 7 in the morning and her voice is the first thing i hear.. shit like that kills me.. but im moving on so far. All i know is I TRY

[UnevenButtocks]

no its just.. its fuckedup. shes confuses as mofo.. one min she wants me around.. the the next thing shes talkin to him.. like.. once i rezlied i fucked up i told her we need a break. shes like cool. so i cut off all contacts and a month later she comes back.. so im thinkin wow maybe shes ready.. then she just put me on the back backer.. then id cut her off again. and she comes back.. we never stayed apart for more than one month and 4 days but until recently i think 2 months ago ish, i changed my number.. i couldnt bare the fact that i would try to move on and she would contact me a month later because it litterly killed me and made me miserbal.. so i changed my number and so far this has been the longest.. and its hard.. i just had a dream about her last night that we was chillin like the good times..

its not her that kills me. its the thing we shared the good times. her calling me 7 in the morning and her voice is the first thing i hear.. shit like that kills me.. but im moving on so far. All i know is I TRY


jesus, I hate it when girls play with guys' emotions like that. And I'm guilty of it, too. :neutral: Changing your number was a good move, I hope you don't give in at some point and get in contact with her because the cycle will continue. Time will heal your wounds. Check your pm, I sent you something.

[sexy_kuta]

jesus, I hate it when girls play with guys' emotions like that. And I'm guilty of it, too. :neutral: Changing your number was a good move, I hope you don't give in at some point and get in contact with her because the cycle will continue. Time will heal your wounds. Check your pm, I sent you something.
thanks for the pm.. it has always been a cycle.. the only thing was me giving in but i never contactd her.. it fuking hurts but im doing OK so far.

o well i risked to much and i know i wont do it again

[UnevenButtocks]

thanks for the pm.. it has always been a cycle.. the only thing was me giving in but i never contactd her.. it fuking hurts but im doing OK so far.

o well i risked to much and i know i wont do it again


The irony here is that you're 17 and have been in love and I'm...coughmucholdercough...and I've never been in love :lol: dagnabit

[sexy_kuta]

The irony here is that you're 17 and have been in love and I'm...coughmucholdercough...and I've never been in love :lol: dagnabiti wouldnt say love.. because i dont use that word.. its not a word for me..
i liked her alot thats all, but i invested wayy to much and way to fast
haha i was 16 at the time.. turned 17 march 15

[UnevenButtocks]

i wouldnt say love.. because i dont use that word.. its not a word for me..
i liked her alot thats all, but i invested wayy to much and way to fast
haha i was 16 at the time.. turned 17 march 15


aaahhh, nice, march 15, what's your SS#? I just want to see if it's similar to mine :)

It's her loss. I doubt she's happy anyways, if she keeps coming back to you. She can't make up her mind.

[sexy_kuta]

aaahhh, nice, march 15, what's your SS#? I just want to see if it's similar to mine :)

It's her loss. I doubt she's happy anyways, if she keeps coming back to you. She can't make up her mind.of course its her lost.. big time.. gurateed she wont find another man like me or straight forward and respectful as me.
even the two years difference didnt effect her.
what do u mean SS number :p u tryin to hook up or waht :P its aight. im the reason ppl date

[UnevenButtocks]

of course its her lost.. big time.. gurateed she wont find another man like me or straight forward and respectful as me.
even the two years difference didnt effect her.
what do u mean SS number :p u tryin to hook up or waht :P its aight. im the reason ppl date



well, I figured since you gave me the date of birth, you might just as well give me the SS# :rofl:

[sexy_kuta]

well, I figured since you gave me the date of birth, you might just as well give me the SS# :rofl:
hahah or not! ooo burn!

[UnevenButtocks]

hahah or not! ooo burn!


oh:( but I thought we had something special... hwo about an address, a place of birth, anything??


ok it's getting creepy now :rofl: I'm out. night!

[sexy_kuta]

oh:( but I thought we had something special... hwo about an address, a place of birth, anything??


ok it's getting creepy now :rofl: I'm out. night!

bye you ass



:love:

[UnevenButtocks]

bye you ass



:love:


ahahaahaha bye

[Devisha]

sexy kuta :love:

[sexy_kuta]

sexy kuta :love:

would you like a tissue?

[JOHNNY K-BAR]

you dropped the dumbbell on your nuts again, big poppa? :lol:
I've never seen you type soooo much....Mz. relationship expert. :eyebrow:

[MixedMartini08]

sexy kuta are u gonna do a CC with kohli hes sumwhat drunk tonite so it mite be fun lol

[sexy_kuta]

sexy kuta are u gonna do a CC with kohli hes sumwhat drunk tonite so it mite be fun lol
naw. i got alot of shit to do tonight. laundry. i just finished cleaning the washroom. bro left to t dot today so im the only child now.. in other words.. the whole basement is to myself.. IN OTHERWORDS... party in my room and the room next.. and the room next next :)

[MixedMartini08]

haha aite maybe nex time my dearest make sure u dont have a party in ur pants like last time lol ehem ;)

[sexy_kuta]

haha aite maybe nex time my dearest make sure u dont have a party in ur pants like last time lol ehem ;)
hahaha i was drunk and you guys bored me
u in there? i'll come for like a few min, my clothes are dryin

[MixedMartini08]

hahaha i was drunk and you guys bored me
u in there? i'll come for like a few min, my clothes are dryin


lol shud i tell him to come on?

[sexy_kuta]

lol shud i tell him to come on?
i been tryin to contact him ALL Day. where the fuk is he

yo pm me with ur msn

[jattniz_chuttni]

err...um. Is my input even needed now?

[sexy_kuta]

err...um. Is my input even needed now?yess

[jattniz_chuttni]

yess
lmao. I have to read through so much. Gosh...

[sexy_kuta]

So, summary, tell her you can't talk much during the day, give her time to miss you, at work do work, cut down on the texting big time, BUT definitely call her everynight and even when you can't call her for 3 hours take the time to call her for 2 mins and say "i can't talk much but just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you". bam. Big smile on her face, 'awww ma man called me, he's finkin of me" As far as going out, do it as you feel not on a schedule, why stretch things out to find out someone's not for you when you can get that over with faster The guys giving you advice talk about girls playing games but look at their advice, nothing but games. When you are that calculated about how you deal with someone, it's all a game. And mixedmartini talking about how women are attracted to assholes, true of weak minded women, and is that what you're dating, a weak minded woman? right. call her every night.
whoa.. my bad on the late reply but i never read this part of urs.. i just skimmed it.. in all due of respect "you ass :love:" i think this is a BAD BAD move. because.. he only knew her for a WEEK! not 6 months. or 3 years.. this is somethin u would do LATER on in the relationship and this is something u NEED to develop. you cannot just call the girl on the 3rd week sayin i was thinking about you.. apply ur breaks here. shit... things like that NEEd to be develop.. you cannot just pretend it..
yeh you maybe thinking about her but how do u know shes thinkin about you? thats why im saying take it slower, always have your interest level slightly below hers.. she should be more interested into you than you are interested in her.. that way you can still maintain your lifestyle and you wont get whipped and turn into a wuss bag where you give up everything in ur life cuz u have her.. no. it doesnt work liek that. you have ur own hobbies, you do your own thing. you dont change for no body. this girl may be here for u now but she might not be here 10 years later meaning you got your own back to watch.
girls LOVe to think if a guy likes them or not. it gives mysterious in the atmosphere.. thats the climax in the relationship! the up and downs.. the emotional rollers coasters, the fights! the make up sex for fights.. all that is the spark and the fire in the relationship.. not. watching the notebook at 3pm and cuddleing.. yeh thats fun but u cant do that everyday for the rest of your life. NO one owns you.. you own yourself..

lol i change my mind.. im right! muahahha you ass :love:

[jattniz_chuttni]

Once you get THAT attached to a girl, you're allowing yourself to be vulnerble. Meaning, you put yourself on the spot and when you start taking a few steps back, it starts seeming as if you're loosing interest when in reality, you're thinking straight. It also makes the girl feel vulnerable as well and that maybe she did something wrong.

I say... slow it downnnn... but tell her honestly, you want to slow it down a bit. This either going to maker her feel completely trashy and she's going to spazz out and disregard everything you say and just take the plunge into the relationshop, or she's going to do the honorable thing and slow down as well, which usually causes her to loose interest.

She you're average chick who doesn't know what she's doing.

I suggest you slow this shit down, because it won't last with a beginning like this. The girl AND you have some trust issues to solve, because it's bullshit completely talking to a stranger hours at a time on the phone.

And yes... you ARE strangers.

[UnevenButtocks]

whoa.. my bad on the late reply but i never read this part of urs.. i just skimmed it.. in all due of respect "you ass :love:" i think this is a BAD BAD move. because.. he only knew her for a WEEK! not 6 months. or 3 years.. this is somethin u would do LATER on in the relationship and this is something u NEED to develop. you cannot just call the girl on the 3rd week sayin i was thinking about you.. apply ur breaks here. shit... things like that NEEd to be develop.. you cannot just pretend it..
yeh you maybe thinking about her but how do u know shes thinkin about you? thats why im saying take it slower, always have your interest level slightly below hers.. she should be more interested into you than you are interested in her.. that way you can still maintain your lifestyle and you wont get whipped and turn into a wuss bag where you give up everything in ur life cuz u have her.. no. it doesnt work liek that. you have ur own hobbies, you do your own thing. you dont change for no body. this girl may be here for u now but she might not be here 10 years later meaning you got your own back to watch.
girls LOVe to think if a guy likes them or not. it gives mysterious in the atmosphere.. thats the climax in the relationship! the up and downs.. the emotional rollers coasters, the fights! the make up sex for fights.. all that is the spark and the fire in the relationship.. not. watching the notebook at 3pm and cuddleing.. yeh thats fun but u cant do that everyday for the rest of your life. NO one owns you.. you own yourself..

lol i change my mind.. im right! muahahha you ass :love:


awww, who cares, the guy posts asking for advice and then leaves us to chat amongst ourselves. Dick. They're probably already broken up by now.

hey kuta;)

[sexy_kuta]

awww, who cares, the guy posts asking for advice and then leaves us to chat amongst ourselves. Dick. They're probably already broken up by now.

hey kuta;)
lol true.. imma pm the guy so see the update :)

oye.. its sexy kuta ok?

god you ass.... :love:

[UnevenButtocks]

lol true.. imma pm the guy so see the update :)

oye.. its sexy kuta ok?

god you ass.... :love:

you don't have to pm him, wait for his whine thread :lol: "we broke up *sob* she was purrfect"


ewww, you're so much younger than me, I can't bring myself to call you sexy without feeling like a pedo.

...you don't have to call me god, just call me Unevenbuttocks :D

[sexy_kuta]

you don't have to pm him, wait for his whine thread :lol: "we broke up *sob* she was purrfect"


ewww, you're so much younger than me, I can't bring myself to call you sexy without feeling like a pedo.

...you don't have to call me god, just call me Unevenbuttocks :D
just pretend im 35 baby.. or at least 22..
unevenbuttocks is too long..
imma call you. tin can.. easier

ok tin can? :love:

[UnevenButtocks]

just pretend im 35 baby.. or at least 22..
unevenbuttocks is too long..
imma call you. tin can.. easier

ok tin can? :love:

:neutral: ok, pissbucket.

Edit: :love:

[sexy_kuta]

:neutral: ok, pissbucket.

Edit: :love:
oOO what color is the piss?

tin can :love:

[UnevenButtocks]

oOO what color is the piss?

tin can :love:


Orange and foul.

Tin can like the one with popcorn in it?

[sexy_kuta]

Orange and foul.

Tin can like the one with popcorn in it?
nicee i like orange..

no tin can like a lota.. the vun where u wash ur tuti with in the vashroom

[UnevenButtocks]

nicee i like orange..

no tin can like a lota.. the vun where u wash ur tuti with in the vashroom


YOU're a tin can then!! :mad:

[sexy_kuta]

YOU're a tin can then!! :mad:

nope. im a pissbucket ;)

:love:

[UnevenButtocks]

nope. im a pissbucket ;)

:love:

no, :love: you!

[sexy_kuta]

no, :love: you!

whats wrong with a tin can.. its not u touch the tuti wit it! lmfao

[UnevenButtocks]

whats wrong with a tin can.. its not u touch the tuti wit it! lmfao

So then why don't YOU be a tin can :)

[sexy_kuta]

So then why don't YOU be a tin can :)

because im a piss bucket ;) and plus im a nice gentlemen.. i insist you have the name

[UnevenButtocks]

because im a piss bucket ;) and plus im a nice gentlemen.. i insist you have the name


I refuse, you may keep it all to yourself. In fact, keep both :hand:

the OP was online, and he never even checked his thread :no:

[sexy_kuta]

I refuse, you may keep it all to yourself. In fact, keep both :hand:

the OP was online, and he never even checked his thread :no:
shit eh. that nigguh scared!

tin can :love:

[UnevenButtocks]

shit eh. that nigguh scared!

tin can :love:


pissbucket :love: little pissy kuta :love:

[sexy_kuta]

pissbucket :love: little pissy kuta :love:

tin can fuckerbuttocks:love:

[UnevenButtocks]

tin can fuckerbuttocks:love:

buttnugget pissbucket skanky kuta :love:

[sexy_kuta]

buttnugget pissbucket skanky kuta :love:
asswipe longdick whammy tank tincan bucketshit buttlocks:love:

[UnevenButtocks]

asswipe longdick whammy tank tincan bucketshit buttlocks:love:


:rofl: I think i'm in love for real.

asscheese cumbreath shitpiss lulisucker pissbucket :love:

[sexy_kuta]

:rofl: I think i'm in love for real.

asscheese cumbreath shitpiss lulisucker pissbucket :love:
im the reason ppl date baby

cumstain 5 inch anal hole, asscheecks shit stain, gum glubber shitbucket, buttlocks cheeseburger puke in a tin can buttlocks :love:

[gorjuzkuri]

oh god...what a typical problem! I hope all is solved.

Well, before i leave i must give you some girls info...

girls act all needy!...Well, actually...in the beginning they act like they dont need u...and then they totally turn around after talking to u for hmm about a good 5-6 days...and are head over heels for u and like all dependent...damsel in distress. And, then right when they have u good....they test u....its called THREE DAY TEST MATCH! they disappear...decide not to pick up the phone...and all that shit...just to see if u would go psycho! Now, why in the world would anyone wanna think these evil little female creatures are even clingy lol?

Ok, but back to a man...dude, keep it smooth....give her MYSTERY....and ull have her instantly. What she doesnt know about you...will only want her yearning for u more. Its a basic thing about any relationship...its natural to wanna talk to anyone for hours...but the more u resist and restrict...the more enjoyable the relationship is...And, thats how delicious u become!

ok good day!

sexy kuta...please come along...and start arguing with me...because we always go in circles lol.

[UnevenButtocks]

im the reason ppl date baby

cumstain 5 inch anal hole, asscheecks shit stain, gum glubber shitbucket, buttlocks cheeseburger puke in a tin can buttlocks :love:


:rofl: I'm speechless!!

[sexy_kuta]

oh god...what a typical problem! I hope all is solved.

Well, before i leave i must give you some girls info...

girls act all needy!...Well, actually...in the beginning they act like they dont need u...and then they totally turn around after talking to u for hmm about a good 5-6 days...and are head over heels for u and like all dependent...damsel in distress. And, then right when they have u good....they test u....its called THREE DAY TEST MATCH! they disappear...decide not to pick up the phone...and all that shit...just to see if u would go psycho! Now, why in the world would anyone wanna think these evil little female creatures are even clingy lol?

Ok, but back to a man...dude, keep it smooth....give her MYSTERY....and ull have her instantly. What she doesnt know about you...will only want her yearning for u more. Its a basic thing about any relationship...its natural to wanna talk to anyone for hours...but the more u resist and restrict...the more enjoyable the relationship is...And, thats how delicious u become!

ok good day!

sexy kuta...please come along...and start arguing with me...because we always go in circles lol.
why? u are basicly agreeing with me ;)
where have u been the last month geeze.. pm me yo msn so i can update u on these long ass relationships dicussions

[sexy_kuta]

:rofl: I'm speechless!!
:naughty: :boink:

[gorjuzkuri]

why? u are basicly agreeing with me ;)
where have u been the last month geeze.. pm me yo msn so i can update u on these long ass relationships dicussions
lmao...for once we are on the same page! lol....

yes, i shal pm u...reason for being absent is...all these ppl are like new...me not know no one! me sad! lol...but every once awhile if i catch someone with a good picwhore thread or interesting thread...interesting forumers aka u....i decide to reply. ok. now. i. must. pm. lol

good day fellows!

[GTZFINEZTZ]

whoa hold the fuck up.. u talk to her everyday? theres ur first mistake.. big mistake because first you are portriating yourself as someone who has no life and stays on the phone everyday. turn off. second of all, u wanna take things slow man, that way it will last longer. when u rush things u will get bored fast so will she.. and if u slow down u see the flaws better. who knows she got something to hide? or she has a cheating past. over time. girls reveal alot. and u can easily pick up clues.

you should slow it down. and if she questions u why u arent showing much attention tell her ur really busy but show her time.. be unpredicatable. if she knows ur gonna call at 6pm then no. make her be suprise.. dont call her for 3 days then call her out of the blue. this will make her think about u more often, and her interest level will grow.
u cannot be predicable all the time
and the reason most relationships dont last more than 6 weeks is because once a person gets to know each other.. they arent the same person they knew from the beginning thats why im sayin. take it slow.. GET to know her. but at a slow pace.. is she willing to do that? if she calls u everyday then shes attention whore and u need to back down..

Barely a week ago i met this girl and shes soo sweet that shes almost perfect
man. u knew her barely a week ago and she seems perfect? go to hooters.. all the girls seem sweet and nice.. u know why? they want a fuking tip. thats why girls seem nice because they want ur attention. not every girl is worth your time. if you want a guidline.. i date a girl for at least a month and half to get to know her. and keep my options open incase things dont work out.. not 2 weeks.. obviously ur investing too much right now. i say back away a lil bit. you are throwing a big investiment into something u dont know NOTHING about. who knows she will still be interested 2 weeks from now


Seems to me you're a guy who has learned a lot from his past mistakes. Perhaps you've read a few newsletters on the topic of women and dating and now all of a sudden you are trying to portray an image of a "player" on these websites filled with a bunch of lonely, desperate, bollywood movies watching motherfuckers, exactly what are you trying to prove if i may ask? Coming on here and typing essays upon essays to compensate for your insecurity and deflated ego won't change who you are. Infact i am willing to bet money that you could meet a girl today and would fuck things up in a matter of days because you sit here on a forum and try really hard for people to think that you "get it". You said wait three days then call her, that's the way to keep her interest but that is bullshit. Of course you can't be on the phone with her 24/7 and expects her to feel attraction for you, but what do you think waiting 3 days to call to ask her out or whatever will look like in a woman's perspective? Right, that you really like her but instead of inviting her to accompany you for a cup of coffee, shopping or whatever from the first conversation, you had to wait three days to do so which makes you look insecure and like the 100 other pussies she dealt with in the past. A woman always knows what you are thinking, better believe it.

If you are someone who can communicate to a woman in which she will "feel it" for you, then nothing else matters, games over. Infact you don't even need to call, or date a woman or take her out in order to get intimate with her. It doesn't require much to get with a woman but 99% of guys makes it seems as if its a huge challenge and thats exactly what they get in return, a challenege in which most guys fail.

[jattniz_chuttni]

Seems to me you're a guy who has learned a lot from his past mistakes. Perhaps you've read a few newsletters on the topic of women and dating and now all of a sudden you are trying to portray an image of a "player" on these websites filled with a bunch of lonely, desperate, bollywood movies watching motherfuckers, exactly what are you trying to prove if i may ask? Coming on here and typing essays upon essays to compensate for your insecurity and deflated ego won't change who you are. Infact i am willing to bet money that you could meet a girl today and would fuck things up in a matter of days because you sit here on a forum and try really hard for people to think that you "get it". You said wait three days then call her, that's the way to keep her interest but that is bullshit. Of course you can't be on the phone with her 24/7 and expects her to feel attraction for you, but what do you think waiting 3 days to call to ask her out or whatever will look like in a woman's perspective? Right, that you really like her but instead of inviting her to accompany you for a cup of coffee, shopping or whatever from the first conversation, you had to wait three days to do so which makes you look insecure and like the 100 other pussies she dealt with in the past. A woman always knows what you are thinking, better believe it.

If you are someone who can communicate to a woman in which she will "feel it" for you, then nothing else matters, games over. Infact you don't even need to call, or date a woman or take her out in order to get intimate with her. It doesn't require much to get with a woman but 99% of guys makes it seems as if its a huge challenge and thats exactly what they get in return, a challenege in which most guys fail.
lmfao. true say about everything you just said.

[umairhasmi83]

Okay hold up guys i think i should have given you a little more details.First off i have NEVER met this chick in real life.
Hell she lives quite a drive away from me (in another state).Secondly its not like im looking to get married or anything like that right away i also understand that im 24 yrs old and its about time i get serious with someone for the long term and she says her folks want her to get hitched too.Over the last few days i have cut down on the amount of time i spend talking to her over the phone cuz im planning on spending a weekend with her and seeing how it goes.
I pretty much told her straight up that we will hang out as friends and then see what happens.I honestly dont wanna get my hopes up and then get disappointed.Been burnt in the past and i dont want it again

[GTZFINEZTZ]

Okay hold up guys i think i should have given you a little more details.First off i have NEVER met this chick in real life.
Hell she lives quite a drive away from me (in another state).Secondly its not like im looking to get married or anything like that right away i also understand that im 24 yrs old and its about time i get serious with someone for the long term and she says her folks want her to get hitched too.Over the last few days i have cut down on the amount of time i spend talking to her over the phone cuz im planning on spending a weekend with her and seeing how it goes.
I pretty much told her straight up that we will hang out as friends and then see what happens.I honestly dont wanna get my hopes up and then get disappointed.Been burnt in the past and i dont want it again


Oh ok, both of you are insecure losers then. Makes sense!

[UnevenButtocks]

Oh ok, both of you are insecure losers then. Makes sense!


insecure is a bit rough but losers, yeah :rofl:

[sexy_kuta]

Seems to me you're a guy who has learned a lot from his past mistakes. Perhaps you've read a few newsletters on the topic of women and dating and now all of a sudden you are trying to portray an image of a "player" on these websites filled with a bunch of lonely, desperate, bollywood movies watching motherfuckers, exactly what are you trying to prove if i may ask?
yes i have learned lots and seen lots. but that doesnt make me better than anyone else. all i do is share my own knowledge and hope that people can consider parts of it. i would never put my self as a player.. i dont know what you would call a player but im a man with self respect and respect for others, player aint my type, what im trying to prove is that the thing is this guy barely knows this girl and yet he talks to her everyday, hes setting himself to fall hard. hes gonna take the enexpected too hard. a relationship is something u develop.. small parts to combined to make a successful relationship.. you cannot ask a girl to be ur gf then start holding her hand and tell her i love you.. noo u gotta develop that. and it takes time to develop it fully, by talking everyday in the beginning, you are basicly creating an atmosphere and getting comforable talking everyday and until one day u stop calling and its gonna be too awkward. its better to take it slow in the beginning then as u two connect.. slowly pick up the calls. start callin more.. thats the way it supose to be, not the other way around.. because chances are its gonna die faster the other way... im cool with couples talking everyday. heck i love talking. i'd phone her out of the blue. someitmes 3 times a day but we developed that. and what else im saying is. hes going to get attracted too fast, maybe more than the girl, and hes going to come off as a clingy guy..

Coming on here and typing essays upon essays to compensate for your insecurity and deflated ego won't change who you are. Infact i am willing to bet money that you could meet a girl today and would fuck things up in a matter of days because you sit here on a forum and try really hard for people to think that you "get it". even typing essays arent enough speak my mind. and why would u call me insecure? how am i insecure for helping a total stranger out and typing essays for him?


You said wait three days then call her, that's the way to keep her interest but that is bullshit. Of course you can't be on the phone with her 24/7 and expects her to feel attraction for you, but what do you think waiting 3 days to call to ask her out or whatever will look like in a woman's perspective? Right, that you really like her but instead of inviting her to accompany you for a cup of coffee, shopping or whatever from the first conversation, you had to wait three days to do so which makes you look insecure and like the 100 other pussies she dealt with in the past. A woman always knows what you are thinking, better believe it. three days was a guideline, the three days is letting her KNOW that you have your own life and that your independant and so she should be also. that way you have your own life. then later on when you MAKE time for her. it means shes actually worth it. also three days is to SLOW you down. know where you two are standing.. know that both of you have your options OPen. meaning there could be better coming by anytime. its not about making you more attractive. its a matter of fact of her understanding and you understanding. you guys have your own life, most of these pussys on here think "oh i got a gf. that means i dont have to go to the gym anymore.." and what it looks like in the woman's perspective is that your have your own life, and that your actually something worthy of a chase.( methaphor) and girls WILL Chase if your worth it. girls like challenges and thats a fact refer to my thread. http://forums.ratedesi.com/showthread.php?t=216713


If you are someone who can communicate to a woman in which she will "feel it" for you, then nothing else matters, games over. Infact you don't even need to call, or date a woman or take her out in order to get intimate with her. It doesn't require much to get with a woman but 99% of guys makes it seems as if its a huge challenge and thats exactly what they get in return, a challenege in which most guys fail.extacly. it isnt hard.. talking on the phone everyday is pointless.. fuck the phone.. get out with her. its all about connection if you too feel each other or not.. all im trying to post is that guys that turn into a whip pussy ass bag that let their gfs run their lives..
NOTE> im talking BASED a couple that KNOW each other for 2 weeks.. NOT MORE.. my whole perpective changes if the knew each other longer or have been dating for longer than two weeks..

[sexy_kuta]

Oh ok, both of you are insecure losers then. Makes sense!
whats with stabbing at the guy? are u the one whos insecure and need to look big by bashing a guy who SAid or done nothign to do you?

make sense!

[GTZFINEZTZ]

Seems to me you're a guy who has learned a lot from his past mistakes. Perhaps you've read a few newsletters on the topic of women and dating and now all of a sudden you are trying to portray an image of a "player" on these websites filled with a bunch of lonely, desperate, bollywood movies watching motherfuckers, exactly what are you trying to prove if i may ask?
yes i have learned lots and seen lots. but that doesnt make me better than anyone else. all i do is share my own knowledge and hope that people can consider parts of it. i would never put my self as a player.. i dont know what you would call a player but im a man with self respect and respect for others, player aint my type, what im trying to prove is that the thing is this guy barely knows this girl and yet he talks to her everyday, hes setting himself to fall hard. hes gonna take the enexpected too hard. a relationship is something u develop.. small parts to combined to make a successful relationship.. you cannot ask a girl to be ur gf then start holding her hand and tell her i love you.. noo u gotta develop that. and it takes time to develop it fully, by talking everyday in the beginning, you are basicly creating an atmosphere and getting comforable talking everyday and until one day u stop calling and its gonna be too awkward. its better to take it slow in the beginning then as u two connect.. slowly pick up the calls. start callin more.. thats the way it supose to be, not the other way around.. because chances are its gonna die faster the other way... im cool with couples talking everyday. heck i love talking. i'd phone her out of the blue. someitmes 3 times a day but we developed that. and what else im saying is. hes going to get attracted too fast, maybe more than the girl, and hes going to come off as a clingy guy..

Coming on here and typing essays upon essays to compensate for your insecurity and deflated ego won't change who you are. Infact i am willing to bet money that you could meet a girl today and would fuck things up in a matter of days because you sit here on a forum and try really hard for people to think that you "get it". even typing essays arent enough speak my mind. and why would u call me insecure? how am i insecure for helping a total stranger out and typing essays for him?


You said wait three days then call her, that's the way to keep her interest but that is bullshit. Of course you can't be on the phone with her 24/7 and expects her to feel attraction for you, but what do you think waiting 3 days to call to ask her out or whatever will look like in a woman's perspective? Right, that you really like her but instead of inviting her to accompany you for a cup of coffee, shopping or whatever from the first conversation, you had to wait three days to do so which makes you look insecure and like the 100 other pussies she dealt with in the past. A woman always knows what you are thinking, better believe it. three days was a guideline, the three days is letting her KNOW that you have your own life and that your independant and so she should be also. that way you have your own life. then later on when you MAKE time for her. it means shes actually worth it. also three days is to SLOW you down. know where you two are standing.. know that both of you have your options OPen. meaning there could be better coming by anytime. its not about making you more attractive. its a matter of fact of her understanding and you understanding. you guys have your own life, most of these pussys on here think "oh i got a gf. that means i dont have to go to the gym anymore.." and what it looks like in the woman's perspective is that your have your own life, and that your actually something worthy of a chase.( methaphor) and girls WILL Chase if your worth it. girls like challenges and thats a fact refer to my thread. http://forums.ratedesi.com/showthread.php?t=216713


If you are someone who can communicate to a woman in which she will "feel it" for you, then nothing else matters, games over. Infact you don't even need to call, or date a woman or take her out in order to get intimate with her. It doesn't require much to get with a woman but 99% of guys makes it seems as if its a huge challenge and thats exactly what they get in return, a challenege in which most guys fail.extacly. it isnt hard.. talking on the phone everyday is pointless.. fuck the phone.. get out with her. its all about connection if you too feel each other or not.. all im trying to post is that guys that turn into a whip pussy ass bag that let their gfs run their lives..
NOTE> im talking BASED a couple that KNOW each other for 2 weeks.. NOT MORE.. my whole perpective changes if the knew each other longer or have been dating for longer than two weeks..

k, cool!

[GTZFINEZTZ]

whats with stabbing at the guy? are u the one whos insecure and need to look big by bashing a guy who SAid or done nothign to do you?

make sense!

"..Barely a week ago i met this girl and shes soo sweet that shes almost perfect.And ive been talking to her on the phone for hours everyday and we are text messaging each other all the time.
Should i slow it down? If she asks why im not paying as much attention to her as i was doing a few days ago what do i say to her? I dont want her to think im losing interest because i really like her.."

I'm not bashing him, i dont have anything against him at all. But why? Why? Can't you sense something abit queer jonny?

[sexy_kuta]

"..Barely a week ago i met this girl and shes soo sweet that shes almost perfect.And ive been talking to her on the phone for hours everyday and we are text messaging each other all the time.
Should i slow it down? If she asks why im not paying as much attention to her as i was doing a few days ago what do i say to her? I dont want her to think im losing interest because i really like her.."

I'm not bashing him, i dont have anything against him at all. But why? Why? Can't you sense something abit queer jonny?
yeh i saw that in the beginning. but is it his fault that he doesnt share the same knowleadge as us? i was like him once before.. once before.. i wasnt born like this so werent you. you learn things as you grow older. calling him a loser isnt gonna do anything.. isnt gonna make u look better either way.. yeh i agree hes in a fucked up position.. id slap my bro if he ever said the same shit he said lol

[umairhasmi83]

Oh ok, both of you are insecure losers then. Makes sense!
Sounds good then i guess.I mean she's a loser and so am i so it should be aight i guess.
For everyone else you need to understand im not exactly looking for pussy at this point or anything like that.Id rather get something that means more at the end of the day.

[sexy_kuta]

Sounds good then i guess.I mean she's a loser and so am i so it should be aight i guess.
For everyone else you need to understand im not exactly looking for pussy at this point or anything like that.Id rather get something that means more at the end of the day. dont worry man just do your own thing

[umairhasmi83]

dont worry man just do your own thing
See my goal is to meet up.See how it goes and hopefully if everything is okay take it to the next level.Im not saying what you guys do is wrong but by the time you approach your mid 20s just getting laid is something youll think about less often and want someone more long term.

[sexy_kuta]

See my goal is to meet up.See how it goes and hopefully if everything is okay take it to the next level.Im not saying what you guys do is wrong but by the time you approach your mid 20s just getting laid is something youll think about less often and want someone more long term.
i wouldnt know man im aint even 20 yet.
but yeh do ur own thing and just expect the good and the bad