The effect of desi parents on a serious relationship.

[kohli_sahib]

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[jat_jatt_sardar]

I guess it depends on how much honour and dignity the parents have and want to pass onto their children, and then the ones who couldn;t really care.

[Spiky]

I see it more as an advantage than nagging. Its cool that there is some one to keep a check on shit...else my life would turn out to be a huge clusterfuck of shitups.

[zuiwaziri]

Yeah had my ONE n only relationship fucked up by my Dad and her Mother.

Whts stupid is tht now, 2 yrs later, my dad actually wonders if im gonna marry the girl. All tht after he fucked things up, and i defended him :mad:

[ruch4343]

I see it more as an advantage than nagging. Its cool that there is some one to keep a check on shit...else my life would turn out to be a huge clusterfuck of shitups.
dane. :love:
:wavey:

[gujulicious]

I think it really just depends on your parents and how open minded they are.
i know some parents that are SUPER strict. but my parents wouldn't care if i picked myself as long as he was well-mannered and educated.

[Serendipity824]

ya, most desi parents are overprotective of their reputation. altho it's understandable why they are so overprotective about these kinds of things. their not used to living in a world like ours and try to have us remain innocent like they were in their times. the generation gap causes that problem. and i think most desi parents arent closed-minded. i think they do understand what happens when you fall in love or really wanna be with someone. and the reason they understand is why they keep us away from that world. a cousin of mines had gotten in trouble with her parents. same sitch.

[jus_me]

my parents dont really butt into my relationship, i think its because when my mum and dad got married my dad's parents were always finding fault with my mum and that really got her down and i believe they nearly broke her spirit because they knew that my dad was young and naive and that he would take the families side before he took my mum's side and it was easier for them to bully her because she had nobody here. Joke was on them when my dad took my mum's side over his own parents though ,which, back in those days was unheard of.

Anyway, i think that's why my parents dont mess with my relationship because they want me to make my own mistakes and learn from them and they know that if they mess with it, i will only end up resenting them for spoiling my one chance at hapiness.

[bad_cheque]

I see it more as an advantage than nagging. Its cool that there is some one to keep a check on shit...else my life would turn out to be a huge clusterfuck of shitups.
:werd:

With hindsight, in some things my judgement has been better. But without them my life would have been completely in the sewer.

[Chinadoll]

Nope, not in my case.
My boyfriend's parents are soooo nice to me. His mum gives me suits and gave me a really nice necklace from India.
They also invite me over for all the holidays - spring break, thanksgiving, birthdays etc.
And they've also invited me to come to India in June :hyper:

So no, not all desi parents affect a serious relationship badly.

And btw, I'm not desi.

[Chinadoll]

dude....that was BEYOND lame :P

[pnp366]

nice topic, wrong section

[rajinderkaur]

true..desi parents seem to interfere in every little thing their kids do...sometimes it becomes aggrevating.

[vgirl]

its important to remain strong in the face of struggles/adversity/difficulties that may be brought on in your opinion by desi parents. by showing that the relationship can withstand the 'nit picking' and criticisms, then parents will be more convinced of the positiveness of the relationship.

[jat_jatt_sardar]

I guess some desi parents take it to offence if there kids are picked up ???

[baby_gal_naz]

My parents don't let me out which made it hard for me and my *boyfriend to see each other so now we're no longer together. :(









*ex :tears:

[jat_jatt_sardar]

My parents don't let me out which made it hard for me and my *boyfriend to see each other so now we're no longer together. :(









*ex :tears:
yo're an ex now, how u findin it? lol

[baby_gal_naz]

yo're an ex now, how u findin it? lol
I still have hope that he'll take me back. :| But it's still upsetting 'cause I miss him so much. :( Damn parents. :shakefis:

[lil_desi_babe]

My parents say when im at the mature age :neutral:

[lil_desi_babe]

is that after you're married? :sarb:

haha lol....
i hope not :neutral:
My brother has dated.....

[baby_gal_naz]

main hoon na :eyebrow:
Oooh la la. :yum:

But I can't, Anu is my one and only. :love:

[TheLoneAvenger]

My parents don't let me out which made it hard for me and my *boyfriend to see each other so now we're no longer together. :(



Aren't you Muslim? Trust your parents and their judgement.

[jat_jatt_sardar]

I still have hope that he'll take me back. :| But it's still upsetting 'cause I miss him so much. :( Damn parents. :shakefis:
why can;t you have your bf as a husband?

[baby_gal_naz]

why can;t you have your bf as a husband?
Because I'm too young to get married according to my parents. :|

[jat_jatt_sardar]

Because I'm too young to get married according to my parents. :|
well since you have the urge to have a partner, then your parents are wrong in not letting you get married.

Just scare them by saying something like you need to get married and if you don;t you don;t have enough control over yourself to stop yourself making a boyfriend, or something similar??? lol

[Chinadoll]

Because I'm too young to get married according to my parents. :|
I agree with your parents...you're only 16, you shouldn't even have a boyfriend.

[jat_jatt_sardar]

I agree with your parents...you're only 16, you shouldn't even have a boyfriend.
um yeh tat too i think, but everyone grops up at differnt ages.

[Bilaah]

Desi parents are overprotective, which is a good thing, especially in this day and age, where western society can lead one astray.

however my personal opinion is that if you can build up their trust over the years and they won't be so overprotective, it has to work both ways.

Simple

[T.Dimera]

when i was in school, my parents didn't want me to be in relationships because they thought it would get in the way of my grades. Now, I'm done school, and my parents are upset that I'm not in a relationship...haha...parents are never happy it seems