Simplesana needs ur help. Period.

[simplesana]

I want a boyfriend, but no boys want to talk to me. I mean, like, sometimes they're like, "oh yeah that teacher is hard" or "the test is next week right" or "what are you studying" but these are like rare and far between. I usually just answer and that's the end of it. It never gets frequent enough for me to consider the guy a friend even. My friends also don't talk or fraternize with guys so meeting someone through them is highly unlikely.

In one of my classes, there's this mad ugly fob guy right. So I'm like man I could EASILY have him right. So there was actually an excuse for me to talk to him so I did, and I told him to bring me his score on something next class, and he did. But then, right in middle of me saying a short related story to him, he totally looked over my shoulder and started a convo with some other chick. Not that I'm full of myself and expect undivided attention from this guy because he's way uglier than me, but man that is rude by any standards.

Anyway, what's my point... oh yeah, if this ugly short dark bengali kid thinks I'm shit and boring, what does a decent man think?! What might I be doing wrong, is my mindset wrong, am I too awkward, too ugly maybe, or just in the wrong place at the wrong time, what what what??

[PakPlaya69]

I want a boyfriend, but no boys want to talk to me. I mean, like, sometimes they're like, "oh yeah that teacher is hard" or "the test is next week right" or "what are you studying" but these are like rare and far between. I usually just answer and that's the end of it. It never gets frequent enough for me to consider the guy a friend even. My friends also don't talk or fraternize with guys so meeting someone through them is highly unlikely.

In one of my classes, there's this mad ugly fob guy right. So I'm like man I could EASILY have him right. So there was actually an excuse for me to talk to him so I did, and I told him to bring me his score on something next class, and he did. But then, right in middle of me saying a short related story to him, he totally looked over my shoulder and started a convo with some other chick. Not that I'm full of myself and expect undivided attention from this guy because he's way uglier than me, but man that is rude by any standards.

Anyway, what's my point... oh yeah, if this ugly short dark bengali kid thinks I'm shit and boring, what does a decent man think?! What might I be doing wrong, is my mindset wrong, am I too awkward, too ugly maybe, or just in the wrong place at the wrong time, what what what??

You must be fat and ugly ,, i don blame any of them besides if thats how you think of people , wonder what every one else thinks of you
:sarb:

[simplesana]

You must be fat and ugly ,, i don blame any of them besides if thats how you think of people , wonder what every one else thinks of you
:sarb:
God, I'm just trying to be realistic and objective to asses the situation properly. The guy WAS short (objective), was dark, and he was ugly by all means. Not saying all bengalis are like that, some are smokin hot, but he just happened to be Bengali.

I'm not fat, but I am kind of ugly. But I mean I have things going for me, I'm accomplished, nice, thoughtful, tall. I know ugly girls get laid so what's up.


:'(

[PakPlaya69]

God, I'm just trying to be realistic and objective to asses the situation properly. The guy WAS short (objective), was dark, and he was ugly by all means. Not saying all bengalis are like that, some are smokin hot, but he just happened to be Bengali.

I'm not fat, but I am kind of ugly. But I mean I have things going for me, I'm accomplished, nice, thoughtful, tall. I know ugly girls get laid so what's up.


:'(
If you just wana get laid you don need a Bf , fresh manik on these forums will do ya anytime ... besides whats the rush yo??? you are guarantted to get popped sooner or laater if you don keep your legs closed ,, far out grow up kid there is more to life than getting laid , you are kinda ugly well i hope the guy knows how to turn you around and wont have to look at oyu at all during the love making session

[simplesana]

If you just wana get laid you don need a Bf , fresh manik on these forums will do ya anytime ... besides whats the rush yo??? you are guarantted to get popped sooner or laater if you don keep your legs closed ,, far out grow up kid there is more to life than getting laid , you are kinda ugly well i hope the guy knows how to turn you around and wont have to look at oyu at all during the love making session

I want a bf too though. Grow up? I'm sure I'm a few years older than you. Lolzs.

[simplesana]

Ok maybe you're a few years older, but still.... erm.. sTFFHUDU!!

[PakPlaya69]

I want a bf too though. Grow up? I'm sure I'm a few years older than you. Lolzs.
hehehhe , how old are you , post your pics and i ll telll ya exactly what i think of you and if you are ugly or not??

[simplesana]

hehehhe , how old are you , post your pics and i ll telll ya exactly what i think of you and if you are ugly or not??
GOD I don't want to e-hook up with you. I'm sick of having a mostly e-life.
And I already know I'm at least 40% ugly, sending nice angled pictures and having you say "oh no you're not ugly you're hot" will not help me in any way!

But thanks for at least replying... =\

[PakPlaya69]

GOD I don't want to e-hook up with you. I'm sick of having a mostly e-life.
And I already know I'm at least 40% ugly, sending nice angled pictures and having you say "oh no you're not ugly you're hot" will not help me in any way!

But thanks for at least replying... =\


I am brutally honest , tel you straight out and i ain after e hook ups , i do it in reality , so ain that desperate ,, look at me do i lok like someone who ould struggle with ladies

[freshmanik_13]

whaaaaat up

[simplesana]

I am brutally honest , tel you straight out and i ain after e hook ups , i do it in reality , so ain that desperate ,, look at me do i lok like someone who ould struggle with ladies

Actually, I just went through your photos, not only do you look creepy, you look quite dense as well.

[simplesana]

whaaaaat up
Jail bait.

[freshmanik_13]

Jail bait.
im 31

[simplesana]

im 31
Yeah. I should have posted this in General Chat. I'm getting the creepy and horny crowd here.

[freshmanik_13]

Yeah. I should have posted this in General Chat. I'm getting the creepy and horny crowd here.
its rd, anywhere u post ull get the creepy and horny crowd lmao

[simplesana]

its rd, anywhere u post ull get the creepy and horny crowd lmao
Oh yeah.

[PakPlaya69]

Actually, I just went through your photos, not only do you look creepy, you look quite dense as well.


Ooo really now ,, looks whos talking 405 ugly bitch ,, yo manik check this out .. IN YOUR WILDEST DREAMS YOU COULDN PICTURE A NIKKA LIKE ME hehehehhe this one s for you manik

[simplesana]

Ooo really now ,, looks whos talking 405 ugly bitch ,, yo manik check this out .. IN YOUR WILDEST DREAMS YOU COULDN PICTURE A NIKKA LIKE ME hehehehhe this one s for you manik
You can give brutal honesty, but apparently can't take it well.

I take my previous statement back, I'm years ahead of your time.

[PakPlaya69]

You can give brutal honesty, but apparently can't take it well.

I take my previous statement back, I'm years ahead of your time.


Why don we see what you look like before you start making assessments over my pics ,, seems to me you are scared of it ,,

[freshmanik_13]

lmao take it back

[_A-s-H-i_]

talk abt despo

[TheLoneAvenger]

God, I'm just trying to be realistic and objective to asses the situation properly. The guy WAS short (objective), was dark, and he was ugly by all means. Not saying all bengalis are like that, some are smokin hot, but he just happened to be Bengali.

I'm not fat, but I am kind of ugly. But I mean I have things going for me, I'm accomplished, nice, thoughtful, tall. I know ugly girls get laid so what's up.


:'(

This post has to be a troll.

Even if you're fat/ugly/hairy etc there will always be a guy willing. That's just how nature works.

[simplesana]

This post has to be a troll.

Even if you're fat/ugly/hairy etc there will always be a guy willing. That's just how nature works.

Willing sure, but they don't step up. They might pass me by and think I'd hit it, but never say anything and I'd never know. How can I find one willing besides prostitution.

edit: Lolzs, no I'm absolutely not a troll, but I understand how I could come off as knowing more than I let on. Just not true.

[baby_gal_naz]

Don't waste your time on boys. They're all dickheads and their one true purpose is to break hearts. Intentionally or not. :|

[simplesana]

talk abt despo
That's quite rude and insensitive of you if I may say so. It's easy to be so arrogant as yourself when you've already got a boyfriend and have tons of guys begging for your attention. Slap some ugly on you and try to empathize with the other fraction of the world.

[simplesana]

Don't waste your time on boys. They're all dickheads and their one true purpose is to break hearts. Intentionally or not. :|

That's endearing sweetie, thanks for replying.

[_A-s-H-i_]

That's quite rude and insensitive of you if I may say so. It's easy to be so arrogant as yourself when you've already got a boyfriend and have tons of guys begging for your attention. Slap some ugly on you and try to empathize with the other fraction of the world.
oh hold on OOPS i forgot to read ur essay!

[_A-s-H-i_]

u no wot allow wot i sed
i no exactly the way u are feeling
u dont need a man in ur life to live
life each day like its ur last once u get into a relationship there mite be things uve wanted to do alone n u wont have the chance gal!
i have been fucked around time n time agen who sez am gona be happy for the rest of ma life
ive let some1 in n am the happiest ive ever been
tht dont mean u may be...life is a learning curve learn from experiences
dont look for him
he'll look for u (see am not mean)

[jat_jatt_sardar]

I want a boyfriend, but no boys want to talk to me. I mean, like, sometimes they're like, "oh yeah that teacher is hard" or "the test is next week right" or "what are you studying" but these are like rare and far between. I usually just answer and that's the end of it. It never gets frequent enough for me to consider the guy a friend even. My friends also don't talk or fraternize with guys so meeting someone through them is highly unlikely.

In one of my classes, there's this mad ugly fob guy right. So I'm like man I could EASILY have him right. So there was actually an excuse for me to talk to him so I did, and I told him to bring me his score on something next class, and he did. But then, right in middle of me saying a short related story to him, he totally looked over my shoulder and started a convo with some other chick. Not that I'm full of myself and expect undivided attention from this guy because he's way uglier than me, but man that is rude by any standards.

Anyway, what's my point... oh yeah, if this ugly short dark bengali kid thinks I'm shit and boring, what does a decent man think?! What might I be doing wrong, is my mindset wrong, am I too awkward, too ugly maybe, or just in the wrong place at the wrong time, what what what??
I don;t treat girls as girlfriends, I think its degrading, I prefer to have a girl a sa wife instead, a respectable form or partner instead of a cheap one.

[vgirl]

be confident. go up to guys and make conversation with them, be interesting. dress yourself up and look as good as you can. if you're confident and endearing then they'll like you. but don't wait for them to come to you. don't act overly desperate either. go in there, be chilled etc. see how it goes.

[zeeshan_lon]

If you just wana get laid you don need a Bf , fresh manik on these forums will do ya anytime ... besides whats the rush yo??? you are guarantted to get popped sooner or laater if you don keep your legs closed ,, far out grow up kid there is more to life than getting laid , you are kinda ugly well i hope the guy knows how to turn you around and wont have to look at oyu at all during the love making session

fresh manic is funny though u gotta love the guy. quit hating on the poor girl. you aint exactly brad pitt. you looking like a broke tom cruise son. :D

[zeeshan_lon]

Actually, I just went through your photos, not only do you look creepy, you look quite dense as well.

LOL

[simplesana]

be confident. go up to guys and make conversation with them, be interesting. dress yourself up and look as good as you can. if you're confident and endearing then they'll like you. but don't wait for them to come to you. don't act overly desperate either. go in there, be chilled etc. see how it goes.

I do try to dress up almost everyday, and I rarely go on those bummy days. I've been making a huge effort. I can easily converse with girls, it's just that with guys I can't help but to think they're judging me in some way. With girls, there's pressure really, I could care less if they don't like me and even if I know I'm annoying them a little, it doesn't really bother me for some reason.

With guys I feel like it's black and white, either they think I'm hot or they think I'm a total loser who they'd never get with. I think I need to think of them in more platonic terms. How do I do that though?

[pakino soldier]

I do try to dress up almost everyday, and I rarely go on those bummy days. I've been making a huge effort. I can easily converse with girls, it's just that with guys I can't help but to think they're judging me in some way. With girls, there's pressure really, I could care less if they don't like me and even if I know I'm annoying them a little, it doesn't really bother me for some reason.

With guys I feel like it's black and white, either they think I'm hot or they think I'm a total loser who they'd never get with. I think I need to think of them in more platonic terms. How do I do that though?

post a pic, reading what you have to say i'm dieing to see a pic of u, you never now mayby ur smoking hot and its the boys who are shy to talk to you?

[simplesana]

post a pic, reading what you have to say i'm dieing to see a pic of u, you never now mayby ur smoking hot and its the boys who are shy to talk to you?
Sorry, lol, no I'm not a diamond in the rough, I'm just odd looking in an ugly way.

[jigga man23]

I know excetly who you are a Shrink, well let me save you some time. You will fine some very intellegent rd's here but you have to look. If you are trying to do a case study on the majority of rd you will not go anywhere. Minf you most of RD is filled with minors....


Anyways nice meeting you Sana...

[desi_playa]

go after a black guy even a nerdy one if u want they will hook up with u. actually nerdy one will be better if u want a BF. if u go after the gangsta/athletes they just want u for a night.

[gorjuzkuri]

maybe u should initiate the convo?
Like, i know that i realized that a bunch of people thought that me not initiating a conversation made me seem like im arrogant. Whereas, im more of a bubbly person and would love to talk to anyone really. And, the fact was that i just thought it would be awkward to start talking to a complete stranger. Like, you said that you started talking abt a "short related story to what yall were talking abt already"....maybe u need to step out of the box...and like you know bring up something interesting.
Although, i still prefer the arrogant approach to everyone...cause when you dont talk to them...it only tweaks with their mind...and makes them wonder what you are all about. But, clearly that isnt working for you...so perhaps try opening up.

[TYPE_R_GINO]

Don't waste your time on boys. They're all dickheads and their one true purpose is to break hearts. Intentionally or not. :|


plz dont generalize :no:


all guys arent like that

[TYPE_R_GINO]

Sorry, lol, no I'm not a diamond in the rough, I'm just odd looking in an ugly way.


dont worry....


im short, dark and f'ugly :(

[baby_gal_naz]

plz dont generalize :no:


all guys arent like that
They are. :squint:

[your_mom]

I want a boyfriend, but no boys want to talk to me. I mean, like, sometimes they're like, "oh yeah that teacher is hard" or "the test is next week right" or "what are you studying" but these are like rare and far between. I usually just answer and that's the end of it. It never gets frequent enough for me to consider the guy a friend even. My friends also don't talk or fraternize with guys so meeting someone through them is highly unlikely.

In one of my classes, there's this mad ugly fob guy right. So I'm like man I could EASILY have him right. So there was actually an excuse for me to talk to him so I did, and I told him to bring me his score on something next class, and he did. But then, right in middle of me saying a short related story to him, he totally looked over my shoulder and started a convo with some other chick. Not that I'm full of myself and expect undivided attention from this guy because he's way uglier than me, but man that is rude by any standards.

Anyway, what's my point... oh yeah, if this ugly short dark bengali kid thinks I'm shit and boring, what does a decent man think?! What might I be doing wrong, is my mindset wrong, am I too awkward, too ugly maybe, or just in the wrong place at the wrong time, what what what??


post a pic..maybe someone can help then. believe it or not i truly do want to help you. so if you want to PM me instead..its up to you.

[simplesana]

go after a black guy even a nerdy one if u want they will hook up with u. actually nerdy one will be better if u want a BF. if u go after the gangsta/athletes they just want u for a night.

I'm not really attracted to black guys I know it's kind of picky and racist, but they kind of scare me in some ways.. like they can see right through me... also, the nerdy ones usually mean they're smart, and black girls are very possessive of good smart black guys. Don't really wanna get in their way. I'd love to date a desi guy, maybe even white.. =\

[simplesana]

maybe u should initiate the convo?
Like, i know that i realized that a bunch of people thought that me not initiating a conversation made me seem like im arrogant. Whereas, im more of a bubbly person and would love to talk to anyone really. And, the fact was that i just thought it would be awkward to start talking to a complete stranger. Like, you said that you started talking abt a "short related story to what yall were talking abt already"....maybe u need to step out of the box...and like you know bring up something interesting.
Although, i still prefer the arrogant approach to everyone...cause when you dont talk to them...it only tweaks with their mind...and makes them wonder what you are all about. But, clearly that isnt working for you...so perhaps try opening up.

I know what you're saying. I am definitely trying to open up and be friendly, at least be civil, but I get nervous and just do something bordering on rude, like not hold open a door for some hot desi guy. It's just common courtesy but I tend to freeze up like that. I think I will try to be friendlier to white guys first, since I'm almost neutral towards them, then work up to hispanics, then desis you know.

I think I should try to make school related conversation at first then go to other topics though, you know?

edit: Also you probably come across as arrogant just because you're good looking. I'm not sure if it works the same for me, I suspect I come across as plain weird.

[simplesana]

post a pic..maybe someone can help then. believe it or not i truly do want to help you. so if you want to PM me instead..its up to you.

Do you really think my problem is all about how I look? Trust, I'm not a fashionista or make up expert, but I'm confident I've done all that's non-surgically possible to improve and perfect my look. So I don't know what kind of advice you can give me in that way. I wouldn't mind pm-ing you a picture/video clip even just for the heck of it, but one, I don't trust people on this site like that, and two I kind of wanted to remain anonymous. Maybe in a few days?

[khanbaba_]

Use-less without pics.

[Nilü]

Well..first of all stop calling other people ugly perhaps someone
will like you then.

[zuiwaziri]

No1 is Ugly!!

Ur name is Sana!! Im yet to meet and Ugly Sana, and i dont expect u to be the first.

Just tell guys ur name is SANA!! It usually leads to bags of attention. *On RD atleast*

[shadyzgal08]

oh lordie lord is this girl serious?

you really want advice from the people on rd?
no offence honey but you sound kinda desperate. maybe if you didn't seem so eager to get a guy, a guy might come up to you and see you as more than just a friend.

and stop calling yourself ugly

[simplesana]

No1 is Ugly!!

Ur name is Sana!! Im yet to meet and Ugly Sana, and i dont expect u to be the first.

Just tell guys ur name is SANA!! It usually leads to bags of attention. *On RD atleast*
Sana's not even my real name, I just randomly picked it from people I know and apparently it's really popular here.

[PakPlaya69]

fresh manic is funny though u gotta love the guy. quit hating on the poor girl. you aint exactly brad pitt. you looking like a broke tom cruise son. :D


You know whats funny , faceless cowards like yourself tryina make fun of others pics , have yo got one??? can you get one??? if not , SHUT THE F**** up ... biatchhhhhhhh :p

[simplesana]

oh lordie lord is this girl serious?

you really want advice from the people on rd?
no offence honey but you sound kinda desperate. maybe if you didn't seem so eager to get a guy, a guy might come up to you and see you as more than just a friend.

and stop calling yourself ugly
I actually don't act eager at all in real life, and if anything I seem too indifferent and aloof. But thanks for your crappy advice anyway I guess.

ugly ugly ugly ugly ugly :dance3:

[simplesana]

You know whats funny , faceless cowards like yourself tryina make fun of others pics , have yo got one??? can you get one??? if not , SHUT THE F**** up ... biatchhhhhhhh :p
Having a picture up doesn't entitle you to respect and love.

[comunistdaght3r]

from the few posts i have read, you seem like a down-to-earth, confident, intelligent and funny girl. it's hard to see why you have trouble approaching guys and maintaining relations with them, but that can be easily solved. i think this has been said before, but confidence is key. don't be too shy and reserved; interest can be lost quickly that way. also, this does blow, but looks matter. if you are unattractive, try doing something about it. makeup? lastly, if you have a reputation of being a "loser" in school or wherever, that makes it harder to meet guys. once you've been labeled as something in a certain place, it's hard to change that. so, if this is case, look beyond your current environment and make a new name for yourself.

[PakPlaya69]

Having a picture up doesn't entitle you to respect and love.


Ofcourse it doesn , not having pictiure doesn give you any right to make fun of others , btw desperado , did you find any one ?????????? remeber manik is always an option :Pelvic2:

[simplesana]

from the few posts i have read, you seem like a down-to-earth, confident, intelligent and funny girl. it's hard to see why you have trouble approaching guys and maintaining relations with them, but that can be easily solved. i think this has been said before, but confidence is key. don't be too shy and reserved; interest can be lost quickly that way. also, this does blow, but looks matter. if you are unattractive, try doing something about it. makeup? lastly, if you have a reputation of being a "loser" in school or wherever, that makes it harder to meet guys. once you've been labeled as something in a certain place, it's hard to change that. so, if this is case, look beyond your current environment and make a new name for yourself.

It's hard to change because I've been this way, very shy and put offish around boys since I was probably 6 years old. Maybe it was going to a Muslim school, maybe it's just my personality. I agree that confidence is key because I see examples of this all around me.

I think I mostly likely do have that rep, I tend to feel more accepted in groups of losers and unsocial girls. I have a feeling it's not even a group I've been designated by others, but rather somewhere I put myself.

[L_A_X__addiction]

I love boys, I won't lie.

This may sound cliche and simple-minded but you honestly can't "try" to get a guy. Just don't be nervous around them, be yourself, and things will work out.

[comunistdaght3r]

It's hard to change because I've been this way, very shy and put offish around boys since I was probably 6 years old. Maybe it was going to a Muslim school, maybe it's just my personality. I agree that confidence is key because I see examples of this all around me.

I think I mostly likely do have that rep, I tend to feel more accepted in groups of losers and unsocial girls. I have a feeling it's not even a group I've been designated by others, but rather somewhere I put myself.

since you realize you have that kind of rep, as i said before, try to approach guys who aren't in your school right now. you'll be able to come off as the person you actually are.
also, ive noticed people have said some really douche things to you. dont take it to heart!

[vgirl]

I do try to dress up almost everyday, and I rarely go on those bummy days. I've been making a huge effort. I can easily converse with girls, it's just that with guys I can't help but to think they're judging me in some way. With girls, there's pressure really, I could care less if they don't like me and even if I know I'm annoying them a little, it doesn't really bother me for some reason.

With guys I feel like it's black and white, either they think I'm hot or they think I'm a total loser who they'd never get with. I think I need to think of them in more platonic terms. How do I do that though?
hey, good to see you read my post. your problem probably isn't the way you look, its probably the way you approach the guys.

you say that with guys you either think they think you're hot or a total loser that they won't get with. but guys hardly think in black or white. however they do take a lot of stuff on face value. if you go up to them, start talking to them and being really friendly, they'll think of you as a friendly girl who is fun to talk to. don't be too worried about what they think, you've got nothing to lose right? and if you come across as friendly etc you have more to gain than anything.

[freestyle_uk]

talk abt despo
she maybe but have a heart....i think what she said was sweet but yeah despo...
but wait you cant talk look at the pics in your sig banner luv lmao

[dilnashi]

I love boys, I won't lie.

This may sound cliche and simple-minded but you honestly can't "try" to get a guy. Just don't be nervous around them, be yourself, and things will work out.


Full heartedly agree :wavey:

[TYPE_R_GINO]

They are. :squint:


not all :squint:

[jat_jatt_sardar]

I love boys, I won't lie.

This may sound cliche and simple-minded but you honestly can't "try" to get a guy. Just don't be nervous around them, be yourself, and things will work out.
theres lots of guys to pick up these days, not many with self respect.

[baby_gal_naz]

not all :squint:
Fine :rolleyes: all -1 happy? :squint:

[yo2344]

Sana's not even my real name, I just randomly picked it from people I know and apparently it's really popular here.

u really from norway?

[simplesana]

u really from norway?
No.

Update: I'm currently some self help books so hopefully I'll learn some new things, but no progress made so far =\

[L_A_X__addiction]

theres lots of guys to pick up these days, not many with self respect.


wait...what?

[simplesana]

wait...what?
Yeah... um I've been ignoring that guy's comments. =\

[PakPlaya69]

No.

Update: I'm currently some self help books so hopefully I'll learn some new things, but no progress made so far =\

How desperate can you get gal , you make me laugh i swear , wonder what themn people would think who know you as a simple innocent pretty gal ... DESPERADOOOOOOOOOOOO

[simplesana]

You look like you have ulnar nerve injury.

[kudiPaTaKa]

Wow girlie, we need to sit down and discuss a few things. You'll be set in no time, then.

[simplesana]

Wow girlie, we need to sit down and discuss a few things. You'll be set in no time, then.
I wish it were that easy. I'm beginning to think it's stupid for me to think I could change myself with some advice and new habits. I've been like this forever and nothing will change, ever probably.

At this point, it would be more realistic for me to work on accepting the truth than working on changing it.

[musicchic33]

post pics.

[simplesana]

..

=\

[chakdephute]

You look like you have ulnar nerve injury.
:rofl:

With humor like that u should be able to pick up a guy in no time. Seriously. That is if you want a future doctor as a boyfriend.

[kudiPaTaKa]

I wish it were that easy. I'm beginning to think it's stupid for me to think I could change myself with some advice and new habits. I've been like this forever and nothing will change, ever probably.

At this point, it would be more realistic for me to work on accepting the truth than working on changing it.
Don't be so negative.

Perhaps it's how you physically appear. :dunno:
Do you think you could change a few things around to improve that? Our society is so caught up on looks that it's hard to get beyond that point when meeting new people. So maybe it'll help...

[jat_jatt_sardar]

sana why u want a bf, u tryna be like the rest of the despos?

[chakdephute]

Don't be so negative.

Perhaps it's how you physically appear. :dunno:
Do you think you could change a few things around to improve that? Our society is so caught up on looks that it's hard to get beyond that point when meeting new people. So maybe it'll help...
No person is completely unattractive to 100% of the population. Ever.

That's the beauty of human kind. For every trait there is at least one person who is drawn to that trait. The trouble is finding that person.

[your_mom]

No person is completely unattractive to 100% of the population. Ever.

That's the beauty of human kind. For every trait there is at least one person who is drawn to that trait. The trouble is finding that person.


excellent point

[Chucky_666]

I want a boyfriend, but no boys want to talk to me. I mean, like, sometimes they're like, "oh yeah that teacher is hard" or "the test is next week right" or "what are you studying" but these are like rare and far between. I usually just answer and that's the end of it. It never gets frequent enough for me to consider the guy a friend even. My friends also don't talk or fraternize with guys so meeting someone through them is highly unlikely.

In one of my classes, there's this mad ugly fob guy right. So I'm like man I could EASILY have him right. So there was actually an excuse for me to talk to him so I did, and I told him to bring me his score on something next class, and he did. But then, right in middle of me saying a short related story to him, he totally looked over my shoulder and started a convo with some other chick. Not that I'm full of myself and expect undivided attention from this guy because he's way uglier than me, but man that is rude by any standards.

Anyway, what's my point... oh yeah, if this ugly short dark bengali kid thinks I'm shit and boring, what does a decent man think?! What might I be doing wrong, is my mindset wrong, am I too awkward, too ugly maybe, or just in the wrong place at the wrong time, what what what??
Are you 15 years old? All you do is talk about grades, tests, and school. :neutral:

[indyro]

What have you done to make a guy think you're eager for a relationship...

[indyro]

I have an untapped market for you:

Nerds.

They wont treat you like shit.


Also you could try: http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html

[baby khan]

You must be fat and ugly ,, i don blame any of them besides if thats how you think of people , wonder what every one else thinks of you
:sarb:
Ali not everyone is goodlooking as you :slap:

[Miz Jatti]

:lol: this thread is hilarious!

[-Ziad-]

I want a boyfriend, but no boys want to talk to me. I mean, like, sometimes they're like, "oh yeah that teacher is hard" or "the test is next week right" or "what are you studying" but these are like rare and far between. I usually just answer and that's the end of it. It never gets frequent enough for me to consider the guy a friend even. My friends also don't talk or fraternize with guys so meeting someone through them is highly unlikely.

In one of my classes, there's this mad ugly fob guy right. So I'm like man I could EASILY have him right. So there was actually an excuse for me to talk to him so I did, and I told him to bring me his score on something next class, and he did. But then, right in middle of me saying a short related story to him, he totally looked over my shoulder and started a convo with some other chick. Not that I'm full of myself and expect undivided attention from this guy because he's way uglier than me, but man that is rude by any standards.

Anyway, what's my point... oh yeah, if this ugly short dark bengali kid thinks I'm shit and boring, what does a decent man think?! What might I be doing wrong, is my mindset wrong, am I too awkward, too ugly maybe, or just in the wrong place at the wrong time, what what what??Your attitude is the dilemma here. WTF kind of attitude is that?

Pompous much?

And if you want advice don't be overly desperate or clingy, but keep his interest level elevated at least by conversing. It's much easier for women to score than men since most men aren't picky, they just want a rack/hole. true story. :no:

[Paki and Proud]

just believe in urself

picwhore a fewtimes to boost ur self confdence

[crayzee]

I want a boyfriend, but no boys want to talk to me. I mean, like, sometimes they're like, "oh yeah that teacher is hard" or "the test is next week right" or "what are you studying" but these are like rare and far between. I usually just answer and that's the end of it. It never gets frequent enough for me to consider the guy a friend even. My friends also don't talk or fraternize with guys so meeting someone through them is highly unlikely.

In one of my classes, there's this mad ugly fob guy right. So I'm like man I could EASILY have him right. So there was actually an excuse for me to talk to him so I did, and I told him to bring me his score on something next class, and he did. But then, right in middle of me saying a short related story to him, he totally looked over my shoulder and started a convo with some other chick. Not that I'm full of myself and expect undivided attention from this guy because he's way uglier than me, but man that is rude by any standards.

Anyway, what's my point... oh yeah, if this ugly short dark bengali kid thinks I'm shit and boring, what does a decent man think?! What might I be doing wrong, is my mindset wrong, am I too awkward, too ugly maybe, or just in the wrong place at the wrong time, what what what??

i only read the first sentence coz i cant be bothered reading it all....

my advice: just smile :) u'd be surprised what a smile can lead to

[sabi21]

i only read the first sentence coz i cant be bothered reading it all....

my advice: just smile :) u'd be surprised what a smile can lead to

smiles at crayzee

[crayzee]

smiles at crayzee

well hello there :naughty:

lol, howz u? :)

[sabi21]

well hello there :naughty:

lol, howz u? :)

I am very well thanks, just got through a couple of interviews so buzzing :dance3: How are you? what do you make out of this simple sana?

[crayzee]

I am very well thanks, just got through a couple of interviews so buzzing :dance3: How are you? what do you make out of this simple sana?

yeh i'm fine too. I was out last nite n i cant really be arsed goin to my lectures coz if i do then i'll fall asleep. so i decided to go to the library n study but i ended up here on RD :p

as for simplesana... i'm not tryin to offend her or anythin, but personally, i think her conversation skills arent upto scratch. so if some guy finally does pluck up the courage to talk to her, after the reply she gives n they way she talks to them, her body language etc might be the reason they're put off her. but if she keeps smiling more n more guys will talk to her n this will help her conversation/flirting skills to develop futher.

plus.... its nice to smile :)

[sabi21]

yeh i'm fine too. I was out last nite n i cant really be arsed goin to my lectures coz if i do then i'll fall asleep. so i decided to go to the library n study but i ended up here on RD :p

as for simplesana... i'm not tryin to offend her or anythin, but personally, i think her conversation skills arent upto scratch. so if some guy finally does pluck up the courage to talk to her, after the reply she gives n they way she talks to them, her body language etc might be the reason they're put off her. but if she keeps smiling more n more guys will talk to her n this will help her conversation/flirting skills to develop futher.

plus.... its nice to smile :)


I agree, however it has to be a true smile, from within so she prob needs to feel positive to do that.

Going out on a school night??:O tut tut....what sort of music do you enjoy?

[crayzee]

I agree, however it has to be a true smile, from within so she prob needs to feel positive to do that.

Going out on a school night??:O tut tut....what sort of music do you enjoy?

yeh she does... smiling helps you feel good (unless ur tryin too hard :P) so if u feel good u 'emit' that positivity n it kind of makes others feel good too :)

lol, i'm not as bad as before, at once i used to go out 4-5 times a week! now i've cut it down to once a week :p

i'm into mainly bhangra and hiphop n i'm gettin to bollywood too now. u shud check out some of my mixes. they're in the link below my sig. the 1st two are the best ('beware of the shake' and 'dus halo halo') what about urself?

[sabi21]

yeh she does... smiling helps you feel good (unless ur tryin too hard :P) so if u feel good u 'emit' that positivity n it kind of makes others feel good too :)

lol, i'm not as bad as before, at once i used to go out 4-5 times a week! now i've cut it down to once a week :p

i'm into mainly bhangra and hiphop n i'm gettin to bollywood too now. u shud check out some of my mixes. they're in the link below my sig. the 1st two are the best ('beware of the shake' and 'dus halo halo') what about urself?


gosh 4-5 times!! id be tired all the time - I used to like bhangra but then someone introduced deep house to me! now I love the stuff BW is again something I listen to when chilled out...Ill check out your tunes after sorting some work out ;)

[crayzee]

gosh 4-5 times!! id be tired all the time - I used to like bhangra but then someone introduced deep house to me! now I love the stuff BW is again something I listen to when chilled out...Ill check out your tunes after sorting some work out ;)

lol i was fuk'd to the max! hehe.... didnt exacty do me any favours in the long run tho.... now i've got 3 weeks to catch up with all the coursework n assessments that i missed over my 7-8 weeks of partying.... ahh well.... it was worth it :D

yeh... thats what i was like with dance music... until i started partyin i HATED it... but now i'm gettin more n more into it :)

(NOTE for simplesana: this conversation was the result of a smile :) even if u dont make a bf/gf u'll definitely make a friend :) )

[sabi21]

lol i was fuk'd to the max! hehe.... didnt exacty do me any favours in the long run tho.... now i've got 3 weeks to catch up with all the coursework n assessments that i missed over my 7-8 weeks of partying.... ahh well.... it was worth it :D

yeh... thats what i was like with dance music... until i started partyin i HATED it... but now i'm gettin more n more into it :)

(NOTE for simplesana: this conversation was the result of a smile :) even if u dont make a bf/gf u'll definitely make a friend :) )

damn....just friends!! sigh....(starts getting depressed)

[crayzee]

damn....just friends!! sigh....(starts getting depressed)

yup.... thats the best we can go for jus now... :p i'm taken. sowwi

btw, where u from? :)

[sabi21]

yup.... thats the best we can go for jus now... :p i'm taken. sowwi

btw, where u from? :)

I was joking lol hehe in a cheeky mood this morning as just been told by my manager :neutral:

[crayzee]

I was joking lol hehe in a cheeky mood this morning as just been told by my manager :neutral:

yeh.... the initial smile sed it all ;) lol

[simplesana]

Well sabi and crazyee thanks for fvckin' up m thread with your ceaseless flirting.
Jk.
Anyway, I'm posting to update you all on what happened yesterday. There was this booth thing at my uni and I ended up talking to like 3 or 4 guys! Just casual chit chat, nothing I would pursue romantically though. But I think it was a good first step. I did try to smile and treat them more like just a regular friend I met, except not as chummy as I would be with a girl. I think it was because I decided to become involved in this club and help them out, I'm glad this is going somewhere. Thanks for your help guys!

[crayzee]

Well sabi and crazyee thanks for fvckin' up m thread with your ceaseless flirting.
Jk.
Anyway, I'm posting to update you all on what happened yesterday. There was this booth thing at my uni and I ended up talking to like 3 or 4 guys! Just casual chit chat, nothing I would pursue romantically though. But I think it was a good first step. I did try to smile and treat them more like just a regular friend I met, except not as chummy as I would be with a girl. I think it was because I decided to become involved in this club and help them out, I'm glad this is going somewhere. Thanks for your help guys!

lol ur welcome... n i'm happy ur talkin to guys now :) jus try not to fuck it up! :P

see, now as ur talkin to guys jus remember one thing: dont try to flirt first... in fact dont TRY to flirt at all.... jus talk normally n if the guy's interested in u then he'll make all the moves. jus be patient :)

[vgirl]

good to hear you're taking the exact right first steps. be friendly and you'll receive the same i'm sure. and smile a bit.

[Love_Baby]

I want a boyfriend, but no boys want to talk to me. I mean, like, sometimes they're like, "oh yeah that teacher is hard" or "the test is next week right" or "what are you studying" but these are like rare and far between. I usually just answer and that's the end of it. It never gets frequent enough for me to consider the guy a friend even. My friends also don't talk or fraternize with guys so meeting someone through them is highly unlikely.

In one of my classes, there's this mad ugly fob guy right. So I'm like man I could EASILY have him right. So there was actually an excuse for me to talk to him so I did, and I told him to bring me his score on something next class, and he did. But then, right in middle of me saying a short related story to him, he totally looked over my shoulder and started a convo with some other chick. Not that I'm full of myself and expect undivided attention from this guy because he's way uglier than me, but man that is rude by any standards.

Anyway, what's my point... oh yeah, if this ugly short dark bengali kid thinks I'm shit and boring, what does a decent man think?! What might I be doing wrong, is my mindset wrong, am I too awkward, too ugly maybe, or just in the wrong place at the wrong time, what what what??


a lota decent, nice looking, normal girls hav this problem...its just weird i havent come to a conclusion y this happens?? i mean im sure ur not hideous plus i;ve seen REALLYY ugly girls hav actual boyfriends (yes tht means NOT online) so i too wonder y??

[simplesana]

a lota decent, nice looking, normal girls hav this problem...its just weird i havent come to a conclusion y this happens?? i mean im sure ur not hideous plus i;ve seen REALLYY ugly girls hav actual boyfriends (yes tht means NOT online) so i too wonder y??
Thanks for the support. Guys are just shallow I've realized.

banned? *tear*

[crayzee]

Thanks for the support. Guys are just shallow I've realized.

banned? *tear*

i'm not shallow, come on, i'm helpin u here :(

[simplesana]

i'm not shallow, come on, i'm helpin u here :(
eh yeah yeah individually they can be nice, but collectively they're horrible.

[crayzee]

eh yeah yeah individually they can be nice, but collectively they're horrible.

dont worry.... think of it this way... if most guy's r 'horrible' it'll be easier for u to find 'the one' coz he'll stand out from the rest of us/them.... :)