Girl Problems (Friends-zone)

[DoubleA84]

Yo Guys,

So here's the deal, last year (summer 2005) I ended up interning in Texas and meeting a really cool girl. She was pretty hott on the boneage scale Id say 8 or 9...alot of the other guys that we interned with talked/hit on her and stuff. Anywayz I'm kinda shy/quiet so I didn't really say anything and just kind of got to know her, fast forward to the end of summer and her and one of my good friends (also another intern) started goin out. I never said anything bout liking her and went back to Oklahoma and back to school and got back to my "normal boring" life.

But during the school year we talked off and on and she ended up breaking up with my buddy, and dating I think like 3 or 4 guys during the school year. I helepd her with her guy problems and such, etc. But I was pretty much over her, I was dating a girl from my school and just havin fun and doin my own thing....its easier being in a different state to get over someone. The girl I ended up dating only lasted about a month and that was the only real "relationship" i had during the school year...ANyways this past summer (summer 2006) I ended up interning with the same company again and so does she. So we hang out a few times when I get back and settled in and instantly all those feelings I had came back, if not stronger...

And the buddy of mine who dated her last summer also came back, and he told me something like "Man I was so worried that when I came back all the feelings I had for her would come back, but I'm so glad they didnt!" And I'm pretty sure he was tellin the truth because he ended up hooking up with another girl.....but I look at myself and I'm like damn I didn't even date this girl and yet I still have feelings for her? So throughout the summer we wud hang out and then after a few weeks she ended up hooking up with a guy from her school and they are still going out today.

So fast forward to end of summer, I leave we say our goodbyes and I come back to OK again to go back to school. But this time it seems like I can't really get her out of my head...I'll be studying or reading and she'll randomly pop in, or I'll think about going to a concert or a party with her..stuff like that. I've talked with my other friends and it's kind of like I'm wasting my time on something that will never happen. I KNOW she just thinks of me as a friend, but I mean she's said I'm this great guy have a lot to offer, yada yada...but it's kind of like if I am all these things how come you dont like me?

Anyways I mean there is nothing I can do at this point since she's dating the same guy from her school, who I can't hate because he is actually pretty cool and got me some beers before I came home...but still I guess what I'm asking AWOT is how do I get over her? Lately I've been distancing myself from her...not calling her much or talking to her online, etc. I don't think she's noticed much with school/bf/life...but still 3 months after summer is over I find myself thinking about her and thinking I'm really stupid....thoughts?

sorry for making this so long

--Asif

[SIXPAK GQ]

Yo Guys,

So here's the deal, last year (summer 2005) I ended up interning in Texas and meeting a really cool girl. She was pretty hott on the boneage scale Id say 8 or 9...alot of the other guys that we interned with talked/hit on her and stuff. Anywayz I'm kinda shy/quiet so I didn't really say anything and just kind of got to know her, fast forward to the end of summer and her and one of my good friends (also another intern) started goin out. I never said anything bout liking her and went back to Oklahoma and back to school and got back to my "normal boring" life.

But during the school year we talked off and on and she ended up breaking up with my buddy, and dating I think like 3 or 4 guys during the school year. I helepd her with her guy problems and such, etc. But I was pretty much over her, I was dating a girl from my school and just havin fun and doin my own thing....its easier being in a different state to get over someone. The girl I ended up dating only lasted about a month and that was the only real "relationship" i had during the school year...ANyways this past summer (summer 2006) I ended up interning with the same company again and so does she. So we hang out a few times when I get back and settled in and instantly all those feelings I had came back, if not stronger...

And the buddy of mine who dated her last summer also came back, and he told me something like "Man I was so worried that when I came back all the feelings I had for her would come back, but I'm so glad they didnt!" And I'm pretty sure he was tellin the truth because he ended up hooking up with another girl.....but I look at myself and I'm like damn I didn't even date this girl and yet I still have feelings for her? So throughout the summer we wud hang out and then after a few weeks she ended up hooking up with a guy from her school and they are still going out today.

So fast forward to end of summer, I leave we say our goodbyes and I come back to OK again to go back to school. But this time it seems like I can't really get her out of my head...I'll be studying or reading and she'll randomly pop in, or I'll think about going to a concert or a party with her..stuff like that. I've talked with my other friends and it's kind of like I'm wasting my time on something that will never happen. I KNOW she just thinks of me as a friend, but I mean she's said I'm this great guy have a lot to offer, yada yada...but it's kind of like if I am all these things how come you dont like me?

Anyways I mean there is nothing I can do at this point since she's dating the same guy from her school, who I can't hate because he is actually pretty cool and got me some beers before I came home...but still I guess what I'm asking AWOT is how do I get over her? Lately I've been distancing myself from her...not calling her much or talking to her online, etc. I don't think she's noticed much with school/bf/life...but still 3 months after summer is over I find myself thinking about her and thinking I'm really stupid....thoughts?

sorry for making this so long

--Asif


I helepd her with her guy problems and such, etc.
I KNOW she just thinks of me as a friend,

[SIXPAK GQ]

keep reading the bold and read it until it is very clear to you

[NeRgYz]

iiiiiiiiiishh.........too much to read!!!!

[ORaNGe dAsY]

The hell, make your damn posts short. Sheesh.

[SIXPAK GQ]

you became the victim of a 'nice guy' ..

you never listen to her guy problems nor give her advice.
i am sure she has g/f's to do that. in this case. u were her male g/f



she sees u as a friend!

u never went out with her. how can u have feelings for her?

[SIXPAK GQ]

the original poster wrote stuff that was not needed.

[xiahadix]

stop being nice... tell her EXACTLY what u want.. and be confident...

girls HATE a guy who has insecurities... and they can just sense when thats the case... be 'the shit' around her....im nto saying be egotistical.. but jus show her that ur worth being with.. not worth just being another one of her girlfriends ...


wait.... she doenst even live in ur area.. fuck it then.... just use my advice on another girl in ur zip code... long distance relationships are the dumbest things ever... and leave desi girls alone.. unless u wanna wait a month to kiss her on the cheek... prudes... :p

[xiahadix]

you became the victim of a 'nice guy' ..

you never listen to her guy problems nor give her advice.
i am sure she has g/f's to do that. in this case. u were her male g/f



she sees u as a friend!

u never went out with her. how can u have feelings for her?


for the first time ever... i agree with u on a topic...

[DoubleA84]

Well I was attracted to her physically, but I didn't think she was really cool. Turned out I was wrong she was really down to earth, and really cool/well-rounded about a lot of things.

[bad_cheque]

keep reading the bold and read it until it is very clear to you
:rofl:

You can help with the guy problems but you should have made your real feelings and intentions known from the get go. Otherwise, she should have had an interest in you which would have made me think of what you wrote differently.

Unfortunately this story can only be seen pessimistically. My advice to you is to just cut yourself off her. For guys, its really important to cut off from such things.

[BoO bOo]

i'd prolly go read my psychology chapter

[DoubleA84]

:rofl:

You can help with the guy problems but you should have made your real feelings and intentions known from the get go. Otherwise, she should have had an interest in you which would have made me think of what you wrote differently.

Unfortunately this story can only be seen pessimistically. My advice to you is to just cut yourself off her. For guys, its really important to cut off from such things.


Yeah basically I'm just trying to get over her fully, like I said originally I've started to distance myself from her....just seeing what the right thing to do is. I don't want to be a complete di*k and just not be friends with her, but I want to stop thinking about her and having these residual feelings

[bad_cheque]

for the first time ever... i agree with u on a topic...
Yeah...surprisingly me too! :lol:

[SIXPAK GQ]

for the first time ever... i agree with u on a topic...

dude i hve many topics like this and gave advice but that was 2004. i got tired of it......u migh want to search back at my threds

[bad_cheque]

Yeah basically I'm just trying to get over her fully, like I said originally I've started to distance myself from her....just seeing what the right thing to do is. I don't want to be a complete di*k and just not be friends with her, but I want to stop thinking about her and having these residual feelings
You know the best way to break it off? Just tell her that you had such feelings at some point of time..blah blah blah...

It might make or break your link with her (mostly break it which in my belief would be good).

[SIXPAK GQ]

Well I was attracted to her physically, but I didn't think she was really cool. Turned out I was wrong she was really down to earth, and really cool/well-rounded about a lot of things.

doesnt matter.....she has to be attracted to u physically in able for the rest to work out

[SIXPAK GQ]

:rofl:

You can help with the guy problems but you should have made your real feelings and intentions known from the get go. Otherwise, she should have had an interest in you which would have made me think of what you wrote differently.

Unfortunately this story can only be seen pessimistically. My advice to you is to just cut yourself off her. For guys, its really important to cut off from such things.


what are you unclear about ?

hadi and I explained it well

[SIXPAK GQ]

get a g/f and then share ur feelings with this so called girl in another state. it will make her jeolous.

she might just comeback to u..then u bang her

[SIXPAK GQ]

Yeah...surprisingly me too! :lol:
i have gave advise like this before

but that was 2004. i dont think u have time to look back at my threads

[bad_cheque]

what are you unclear about ?

hadi and I explained it well
I was just throwing in my 2 cents O' Great Guru! Now would you please come down your pedestal please?

[SIXPAK GQ]

I was just throwing in my 2 cents O' Great Guru! Now would you please come down your pedestal please?


i am always up!

[DoubleA84]

Yeah I hear what you guys are saying, cut it off. Which is what I was thinking/starting to do. I guess just the nice-guy in me almost feels like I'm not being a good friends since I'm practically "abandoning" her

[bad_cheque]

Yeah I hear what you guys are saying, cut it off. Which is what I was thinking/starting to do. I guess just the nice-guy in me almost feels like I'm not being a good friends since I'm practically "abandoning" her
Did she ever say "how about us?" when she was going through her guy problems?

Just drop her and move on.

[nayeemx33]

You're going to lose tomorrow :dance2:

[SIXPAK GQ]

Yeah I hear what you guys are saying, cut it off. Which is what I was thinking/starting to do. I guess just the nice-guy in me almost feels like I'm not being a good friends since I'm practically "abandoning" her

its ok ur young...u learned ur lesson
take this as an opportunity to score with the next girl........

[bad_cheque]

You're going to lose tomorrow :dance2:
:neutral:

[nayeemx33]

:neutral:

He's a Sooner. :neutral:

[HeAvYmAcHiNeGuN]

long storyyyy....didnt read it all
but hoppe things get better :p

[DoubleA84]

you know I have a serious problem, but thanks....for that

(sooner coment)

[SIXPAK GQ]

you know I have a serious problem, but thanks....for that

(sooner coment)

i was in ur boat before. its just a state of mind. change it!........
remember be friends with a girl and share ur feelings ONLY after you have become intimate partners meaning she is ur girl friend.

[bad_cheque]

He's a Sooner. :neutral:
I had to google that. I am an fob.

[nayeemx33]

I had to google that. I am an fob.

:lol:
What did you find?

[bad_cheque]

:lol:
What did you find?
They are the Okies right?

It's a bit derogatory i guess....like the way the Aussies call the English 'Poms'.

[SIXPAK GQ]

hardly any girls responded here

[lovestick]

She grunts like a man when she shits.

[Sikh4Lyfe]

hardly any girls responded here

Well if you stopped posting every 30 fuckin seconds someone might be able to...

[gorjuzkuri]

question is...do you really WANT to forget her? Because, if you dont...then nothing that you will do will ever make you forget her...or temporarily forget her. You have to make a decision as to if you are to keep her in your mind or out. And, this is one of those "sit-down-think- about" situations. Because, if you actually end up saying i just want to forget her...and you start working towards it. and for some god forsaken reason you start finding yourself thinking about her even more than before...then you will only start feeling low in your own eyes...because you were determined to do something and you couldnt even do that.

[harvey_mayway]

There's Something about Mary

http://www.monesi.com/sergio/movies/oct98/somemary1.jpg

[harvey_mayway]

question is...do you really WANT to forget her? Because, if you dont...then nothing that you will do will ever make you forget her...or temporarily forget her. You have to make a decision as to if you are to keep her in your mind or out. And, this is one of those "sit-down-think- about" situations. Because, if you actually end up saying i just want to forget her...and you start working towards it. and for some god forsaken reason you start finding yourself thinking about her even more than before...then you will only start feeling low in your own eyes...because you were determined to do something and you couldnt even do that.


I think I’m falling in love with you. your such a smart poster and cute too :blue:

[harvey_mayway]

Yo Guys,

So here's the deal, last year (summer 2005) I ended up interning in Texas and meeting a really cool girl. She was pretty hott on the boneage scale Id say 8 or 9...alot of the other guys that we interned with talked/hit on her and stuff. Anywayz I'm kinda shy/quiet so I didn't really say anything and just kind of got to know her, fast forward to the end of summer and her and one of my good friends (also another intern) started goin out. I never said anything bout liking her and went back to Oklahoma and back to school and got back to my "normal boring" life.

But during the school year we talked off and on and she ended up breaking up with my buddy, and dating I think like 3 or 4 guys during the school year. I helepd her with her guy problems and such, etc. But I was pretty much over her, I was dating a girl from my school and just havin fun and doin my own thing....its easier being in a different state to get over someone. The girl I ended up dating only lasted about a month and that was the only real "relationship" i had during the school year...ANyways this past summer (summer 2006) I ended up interning with the same company again and so does she. So we hang out a few times when I get back and settled in and instantly all those feelings I had came back, if not stronger...

And the buddy of mine who dated her last summer also came back, and he told me something like "Man I was so worried that when I came back all the feelings I had for her would come back, but I'm so glad they didnt!" And I'm pretty sure he was tellin the truth because he ended up hooking up with another girl.....but I look at myself and I'm like damn I didn't even date this girl and yet I still have feelings for her? So throughout the summer we wud hang out and then after a few weeks she ended up hooking up with a guy from her school and they are still going out today.

So fast forward to end of summer, I leave we say our goodbyes and I come back to OK again to go back to school. But this time it seems like I can't really get her out of my head...I'll be studying or reading and she'll randomly pop in, or I'll think about going to a concert or a party with her..stuff like that. I've talked with my other friends and it's kind of like I'm wasting my time on something that will never happen. I KNOW she just thinks of me as a friend, but I mean she's said I'm this great guy have a lot to offer, yada yada...but it's kind of like if I am all these things how come you dont like me?

Anyways I mean there is nothing I can do at this point since she's dating the same guy from her school, who I can't hate because he is actually pretty cool and got me some beers before I came home...but still I guess what I'm asking AWOT is how do I get over her? Lately I've been distancing myself from her...not calling her much or talking to her online, etc. I don't think she's noticed much with school/bf/life...but still 3 months after summer is over I find myself thinking about her and thinking I'm really stupid....thoughts?

sorry for making this so long

--Asif


Asif I actually read your whole post, which I don’t normally do. This was so funny I just had to keep reading. :p

It was entertaining on the yellowbelly level (your lacking courage and have no heart). I mean you had two chances to get with this girl and you didn’t take them. Instead you became her girl-friend. :rolleyes:

So you knew your chances of getting with this girl where low to begin with and you didn’t want to embarrass your self by trying.

If you have image issues and you know your not a 10 or 9 like this girl is then you have to change. If your fugly looking compared to her I suggest you go to the gym and build some muscle. Use those images of her as motivation to train harder.like attracts like

Im guessing she likes your personality cause she spoken to you and has been speaking to you for two years. Do you MSN? if so Try caming lol. :naughty:

You should workout and then meet her next year and give it another go. i'm guessin your going to be interin at the same place.

:lol: your whole story just made me laugh, sorry bro but it did.

But if your happy with the whole Computer Nerd image you have going on and being the girls best friend thing. Then don’t change.

Enjoy Who You Are.

Instead hook up with some random-girl and have some fun. Or have an relationship with another girl that will help you forget about this one.
She was out of your league.


P.S have you got Pic’s of this Hot-Girl. (if so newbie, then post them up)

[SIXPAK GQ]

Well if you stopped posting every 30 fuckin seconds someone might be able to...
doesnt relate

[SIXPAK GQ]

question is...do you really WANT to forget her? Because, if you dont...then nothing that you will do will ever make you forget her...or temporarily forget her. You have to make a decision as to if you are to keep her in your mind or out. And, this is one of those "sit-down-think- about" situations. Because, if you actually end up saying i just want to forget her...and you start working towards it. and for some god forsaken reason you start finding yourself thinking about her even more than before...then you will only start feeling low in your own eyes...because you were determined to do something and you couldnt even do that.

its a no brainer situation. he was never with her, get this in his head first.

[SIXPAK GQ]

I think I’m falling in love with you. your such a smart poster and cute too :blue:

another reason why nice guys finish last

[gorjuzkuri]

I think I’m falling in love with you. your such a smart poster and cute too :blue:
Aww thanks...i could fall in love with you over msn anyday! lolz

[gorjuzkuri]

its a no brainer situation. he was never with her, get this in his head first.
He wasnt...but, why go with failing...if he likes her...if he wants her...then trust me guys can convince chicks. Even, the most overrated and hard to get ones. These situations can only be properly executed...if the the person knows which way he wants to go. Such as, in any profession...you cant just quit because the profession was never yours. You gotta work at it. Many people attempt...but the only peope that have determination succeed. MIND OF MATTER anyday.

[gorjuzkuri]

another reason why nice guys finish last
hey...those are the cute ones!

[Chinadoll]

you became the victim of a 'nice guy' ..

you never listen to her guy problems nor give her advice.
i am sure she has g/f's to do that. in this case. u were her male g/f



she sees u as a friend!

u never went out with her. how can u have feelings for her?
i know a guy who always gets labelled as the nice guy by girls.
lately he's decided to act like a prick to them and now they all want him.

i dont understand girls. :nuts:

[Mash007]

you ever heard of a blog.

hop to it.

[Mash007]

i know a guy who always gets labelled as the nice guy by girls.
lately he's decided to act like a prick to them and now they all want him.

i dont understand girls. :nuts:what he is is a pseudo-bf.

all the BS none of the action.

http://forums.ratedesi.com/showthread.php?t=189674

[gorjuzkuri]

i know a guy who always gets labelled as the nice guy by girls.
lately he's decided to act like a prick to them and now they all want him.

i dont understand girls. :nuts:
haha...hes the chase now! I know a guy like that too...and now all the girls are after him...but i know exactly why! Hes just a chase...and something people cant get that easy. SOOO...to satisfy themselves lolz they try to attain the unattainable. (especially when they know hes been a good guy somewhere on this bumpy road!)

[chicago85thst]

Yo Guys,

So here's the deal, last year (summer 2005) I ended up interning in Texas and meeting a really cool girl. She was pretty hott on the boneage scale Id say 8 or 9...alot of the other guys that we interned with talked/hit on her and stuff. Anywayz I'm kinda shy/quiet so I didn't really say anything and just kind of got to know her, fast forward to the end of summer and her and one of my good friends (also another intern) started goin out. I never said anything bout liking her and went back to Oklahoma and back to school and got back to my "normal boring" life.

But during the school year we talked off and on and she ended up breaking up with my buddy, and dating I think like 3 or 4 guys during the school year. I helepd her with her guy problems and such, etc. But I was pretty much over her, I was dating a girl from my school and just havin fun and doin my own thing....its easier being in a different state to get over someone. The girl I ended up dating only lasted about a month and that was the only real "relationship" i had during the school year...ANyways this past summer (summer 2006) I ended up interning with the same company again and so does she. So we hang out a few times when I get back and settled in and instantly all those feelings I had came back, if not stronger...

And the buddy of mine who dated her last summer also came back, and he told me something like "Man I was so worried that when I came back all the feelings I had for her would come back, but I'm so glad they didnt!" And I'm pretty sure he was tellin the truth because he ended up hooking up with another girl.....but I look at myself and I'm like damn I didn't even date this girl and yet I still have feelings for her? So throughout the summer we wud hang out and then after a few weeks she ended up hooking up with a guy from her school and they are still going out today.

So fast forward to end of summer, I leave we say our goodbyes and I come back to OK again to go back to school. But this time it seems like I can't really get her out of my head...I'll be studying or reading and she'll randomly pop in, or I'll think about going to a concert or a party with her..stuff like that. I've talked with my other friends and it's kind of like I'm wasting my time on something that will never happen. I KNOW she just thinks of me as a friend, but I mean she's said I'm this great guy have a lot to offer, yada yada...but it's kind of like if I am all these things how come you dont like me?

Anyways I mean there is nothing I can do at this point since she's dating the same guy from her school, who I can't hate because he is actually pretty cool and got me some beers before I came home...but still I guess what I'm asking AWOT is how do I get over her? Lately I've been distancing myself from her...not calling her much or talking to her online, etc. I don't think she's noticed much with school/bf/life...but still 3 months after summer is over I find myself thinking about her and thinking I'm really stupid....thoughts?

sorry for making this so long

--Asif



Listen once you are in the Friends ZOne you will NEVER EVER EVER COME OUT UNLESS YOU ARE GOD. okay understand? its over dont was your time or energy. you have to act quick. but hey sometimes if i really like a girl id actually prefer to be her friend because friendships are more likely to last. theres a lot of smart awesome women out there that we miss out on because we judge them on our bonage scale :kekeke:

[Mash007]

Listen once you are in the Friends ZOne you will NEVER EVER EVER COME OUT UNLESS YOU ARE GOD. okay understand? its over dont was your time or energy. you have to act quick. but hey sometimes if i really like a girl id actually prefer to be her friend because friendships are more likely to last. theres a lot of smart awesome women out there that we miss out on because we judge them on our bonage scale :kekeke:I'm not God.

there is ways out.

it just takes patience. and is rarely worth the bother.

as you said. plenty others out there... they all the same. headfucks. and headaches. interspersed with moments of what you think is slight happiness.but is in fact just respite.

[SIXPAK GQ]

He wasnt...but, why go with failing...if he likes her...if he wants her...then trust me guys can convince chicks. Even, the most overrated and hard to get ones. These situations can only be properly executed...if the the person knows which way he wants to go. Such as, in any profession...you cant just quit because the profession was never yours. You gotta work at it. Many people attempt...but the only peope that have determination succeed. MIND OF MATTER anyday.

how can you like someone when you are even with that person? he doesnt need to convince her. that is forcing her to like him. if she doesnt him, then it is what it is. and even if he convinces her then then the relationship wasn't positive to start off with. he has lot of girls to pick from anyway. he should quit wasting his time with this girl.

[SIXPAK GQ]

hey...those are the cute ones!
nevertheless finish last.

[chicago85thst]

I'm not God.

there is ways out.

it just takes patience. and is rarely worth the bother.

as you said. plenty others out there... they all the same. headfucks. and headaches. interspersed with moments of what you think is slight happiness.but is in fact just respite.



*high five*


and a slap on the butt :gayfight:

[SIXPAK GQ]

i know a guy who always gets labelled as the nice guy by girls.
lately he's decided to act like a prick to them and now they all want him.

i dont understand girls. :nuts:


younger girls like bad boy image. older mature women go for secure guys who has things going on in their lives. not some badboy who sleeps around, smokes, drinks, drugs etc, and has future career wise. so these girls go through the bad ones first. you dont need to understand girls, u date guys

[chicago85thst]

younger girls like bad boy image. older mature women go for secure guys who has things going on in their lives. not some badboy who sleeps around, smokes, drinks, drugs etc, and has future career wise. so these girls go through the bad ones first. you dont need to understand girls, u date guys



im going to smoke crack and steal someones purse

[Mash007]

*high five*


and a slap on the butt :gayfight::lol:

[SIXPAK GQ]

haha...hes the chase now! I know a guy like that too...and now all the girls are after him...but i know exactly why! Hes just a chase...and something people cant get that easy. SOOO...to satisfy themselves lolz they try to attain the unattainable. (especially when they know hes been a good guy somewhere on this bumpy road!)

must be some teenager or a very young guy.....older mature guys dont have time for games. they have other things to worry about in life then a chase.

[gorjuzkuri]

how can you like someone when you are even with that person? he doesnt need to convince her. that is forcing her to like him. if she doesnt him, then it is what it is. and even if he convinces her then then the relationship wasn't positive to start off with. he has lot of girls to pick from anyway. he should quit wasting his time with this girl.
love the person that loves you...That statement can go both ways. Girls are pretty fragile...once their low time comes around...they end up feeling a bit down...and sometimes even their best guy friends start to seem as the ideal guy. Its all about luck and determination. Every guy convinces a girl...when i girl originally starts out either A. she has a crush on him or B. he has a crush on her....mostly the guys do...and mostly the guys do the whole walk-behind-the-chick-get-her-phone-number-act-all-cute! They are convincing too as well...but people consider that as "talking"....so why cant he talk to her now. He probably has a good chance.

[SIXPAK GQ]

Listen once you are in the Friends ZOne you will NEVER EVER EVER COME OUT UNLESS YOU ARE GOD. okay understand? its over dont was your time or energy. you have to act quick. but hey sometimes if i really like a girl id actually prefer to be her friend because friendships are more likely to last. theres a lot of smart awesome women out there that we miss out on because we judge them on our bonage scale :kekeke:

u can get out of it by dating other girls and this girl will see that he can pull other girls. girls get jeolous easily. are you telling me that She liked him romantically at first? but he waited too long?

[Mash007]

love the person that loves you...That statement can go both ways. Girls are pretty fragile...once their low time comes around...they end up feeling a bit down...and sometimes even their best guy friends start to seem as the ideal guy. Its all about luck and determination. Every guy convinces a girl...when i girl originally starts out either A. she has a crush on him or B. he has a crush on her....mostly the guys do...and mostly the guys do the whole walk-behind-the-chick-get-her-phone-number-act-all-cute! They are convincing too as well...but people consider that as "talking"....so why cant he talk to her now. He probably has a good chance.that's cute.

[SIXPAK GQ]

im going to smoke crack and steal someones purse

not worth it................

[gorjuzkuri]

must be some teenager or a very young guy.....older mature guys dont have time for games. they have other things to worry about in life then a chase.
Hes not doing it for the girls...he has some personal issues he dealt with..and time changed him. He doesnt have time for games either...thats why hes decided to set his priorities straight instead of sweet talking to all the ladies. But, i am telling you from a girls point of view...that a girl naturally starts to wonder why is it that i cant get through to him. Those girls realize that he was there all the time before and they depended on him heavily...and he never even let them realize that he was their caretaker. And, now that hes gone...they will want what they had taken for granted.

[gorjuzkuri]

that's cute.
The walk-behind-the-girl-......blah blah blah...
or just the whole post?
Thanks anyway lolz

[SIXPAK GQ]

love the person that loves you...That statement can go both ways. Girls are pretty fragile...once their low time comes around...they end up feeling a bit down...and sometimes even their best guy friends start to seem as the ideal guy. Its all about luck and determination. Every guy convinces a girl...when i girl originally starts out either A. she has a crush on him or B. he has a crush on her....mostly the guys do...and mostly the guys do the whole walk-behind-the-chick-get-her-phone-number-act-all-cute! They are convincing too as well...but people consider that as "talking"....so why cant he talk to her now. He probably has a good chance.

its about how her state of mind is at that time when the potential guy wants to go out with her. he has been failing with this girl. i thought you read what he wrote? he should not be all his eggs in one basket.. like they say, dont hate the player, hate the game.

[naughtyness]

hm you shoundt've helped her with her guy problems.
she might actually have feelings for you tho. i know ive liked alot of my guy friendss.
bascially, i think you should wait till they break up
and then call her up and be like hey lets hang out, blah blah blah, then set up something expensive and romantic.and BAM tell her =)
perfect.

[Mash007]

The walk-behind-the-girl-......blah blah blah...
or just the whole post?
Thanks anyway lolzcute cos its stupid.

no offence intended.

only way out is to cut off completely for a few months... then go back a new man... and just deal with it straight up

[chicago85thst]

u can get out of it by dating other girls and this girl will see that he can pull other girls. girls get jeolous easily. are you telling me that She liked him romantically at first? but he waited too long?


no im saying girls are kinda dumb but they have a unconscious system going on in there head where with out realizing it they decide what potential place everyone will have in their life. maybe this person could be come her husband or at best her casual friend. the time it takes for women to understand what role you will play in their life varies based on how fast they get these ques that theyve become almost programed to recognize. as soon as they pick up on those she will unconciously type caste you. that why women like guys who are mysterious, because they desperatly want to know what role they will play in their lives

[SIXPAK GQ]

Hes not doing it for the girls...he has some personal issues he dealt with..and time changed him. He doesnt have time for games either...thats why hes decided to set his priorities straight instead of sweet talking to all the ladies. But, i am telling you from a girls point of view...that a girl naturally starts to wonder why is it that i cant get through to him. Those girls realize that he was there all the time before and they depended on him heavily...and he never even let them realize that he was their caretaker. And, now that hes gone...they will want what they had taken for granted.

what personal issues? why are they chasing him now?

[Mash007]

hm you shoundt've helped her with her guy problems.
she might actually have feelings for you tho. i know ive liked alot of my guy friendss.
bascially, i think you should wait till they break up
and then call her up and be like hey lets hang out, blah blah blah, then set up something expensive and romantic.and BAM tell her =)
perfect.damn right.

why the fuck would you do that.

at some point he should also point out he would treat her better than all the deadbeats... as a joke of course...

damn.. if only this guy could be me... he would have a far better chance.

[chicago85thst]

Id say do what saif did in kal ho na ho. make her crave your attention and make her jealous, turn the tables on her. but honestly its not worth the effort

[chicago85thst]

damn right.

why the fuck would you do that.

at some point he should also point out he would treat her better than all the deadbeats... as a joke of course...

damn.. if only this guy could be me... he would have a far better chance.


:rofl:

[SIXPAK GQ]

hm you shoundt've helped her with her guy problems.
she might actually have feelings for you tho. i know ive liked alot of my guy friendss.
bascially, i think you should wait till they break up
and then call her up and be like hey lets hang out, blah blah blah, then set up something expensive and romantic.and BAM tell her =)
perfect.


she doesnt have any feelings for him. he can wait. of course time will pass by. he needs to put her on her lowest priority list and concentrate on flirting with other ladies that he will have a chance with. he needs to prioritize his game. and if he gets a chance to go out with her after she breaks up. then she is on the rebound......not good either.....

expensive? why?

[gorjuzkuri]

its about how her state of mind is at that time when the potential guy wants to go out with her. he has been failing with this girl. i thought you read what he wrote? he should not be all his eggs in one basket.. like they say, dont hate the player, hate the game.
i did...and failing a couple times will not make you a failure...itll only get you ready for the harsh conditions...and will strengthen your determination. He has a full right to try it out and see where it leads. If the world was to work with what people say at one point in a lifetime...then they are surely not to get anywhere. Hes not been with her...and he can try as long as he likes...and maybe during that trying...someone even more earth-shattering will come in sight. Love always finds you when your not looking. So its basically...a win win situation in a sense. He doesnt really have to take everything that serious...he can try and keep trying if he likes...but if it doesnt work out then yah sure there are more fishes in the sea.

[Mash007]

:rofl:dude got no game.

I got no game.

but that's the game yo'

[chicago85thst]

she doesnt have any feelings for him. he can wait. of course time will pass by. he needs to put her on her lowest priority list and concentrate on flirting with other ladies that he will have a chance with. he needs to prioritize his game. and if he gets a chance to go out with her after she breaks up. then she is on the rebound......not good either.....

expensive? why?



im guessing from his description of himself that he is a virgin. thats why

[chicago85thst]

dude got no game.

I got no game.

but that's the game yo'


what the fuck are you saying :scratch:

[SIXPAK GQ]

dude got no game.

I got no game.

but that's the game yo'
dont hate the player, hate the game

[chicago85thst]

no one responded to my brilliant theory on women :no:

[gorjuzkuri]

what personal issues? why are they chasing him now?
His family life sort of went down the hill...so did a lot of other things...business, life, just stuff that would drive someone crazy. So he started getting into the bad boy mode...Where he didnt care for anyone really...he lived his own life his own way. Because of his confidence i guess tables did turn. The girls just wanted something they thought looked hot and bad...and wanted to chase it until the BEST of them got it. (Their mentality!)

[gorjuzkuri]

no one responded to my brilliant theory on women :no:
lolz i was about to....the whole kal ho na ho thing...i was actually referring to that originally. But, didnt wanna bring bollywood in or else id be stomped on in this thread.

[naughtyness]

she doesnt have any feelings for him. he can wait. of course time will pass by. he needs to put her on her lowest priority list and concentrate on flirting with other ladies that he will have a chance with. he needs to prioritize his game. and if he gets a chance to go out with her after she breaks up. then she is on the rebound......not good either.....

expensive? why?

well. if he shows her that he really truly cares about having a relationship with her then he should set up a romantic date. it doesnt have to be expensive, i guess i meant creative.

[SIXPAK GQ]

i did...and failing a couple times will not make you a failure...itll only get you ready for the harsh conditions...and will strengthen your determination. He has a full right to try it out and see where it leads. If the world was to work with what people say at one point in a lifetime...then they are surely not to get anywhere. Hes not been with her...and he can try as long as he likes...and maybe during that trying...someone even more earth-shattering will come in sight. Love always finds you when your not looking. So its basically...a win win situation in a sense. He doesnt really have to take everything that serious...he can try and keep trying if he likes...but if it doesnt work out then yah sure there are more fishes in the sea.

he already did what he did and he did too much at this point. he is just wasting his time right now. he can become annoying if he keeps trying to a point where it would be considered harrasment. he has thousands of other girls to try on. whats so special about this so called girl?

[SIXPAK GQ]

im guessing from his description of himself that he is a virgin. thats why

doesnt matter if he a virgin or not. there are guys who have been with many women and are virgins....

[chicago85thst]

doesnt matter if he a virgin or not. there are guys who have been with many women and are virgins....




:neutral:

[SIXPAK GQ]

His family life sort of went down the hill...so did a lot of other things...business, life, just stuff that would drive someone crazy. So he started getting into the bad boy mode...Where he didnt care for anyone really...he lived his own life his own way. Because of his confidence i guess tables did turn. The girls just wanted something they thought looked hot and bad...and wanted to chase it until the BEST of them got it. (Their mentality!)


he priortized his life that doesnt make him a bad boy....my neighbor is trying very hard to get with me for the past 2 years but she keeps failing. maybe b/c i dont care for her.

out of 10 restaurent in the town. why does that 1 restaurent draws the most attention then the rest of the places? maybe b/c they changed their recipe. something was different.

[SIXPAK GQ]

lolz i was about to....the whole kal ho na ho thing...i was actually referring to that originally. But, didnt wanna bring bollywood in or else id be stomped on in this thread.
shahrukh khan was king in khnh

[Mash007]

dont hate the player, hate the gameplay on playas.

what the fuck are you saying :scratch:I'm saying the guy is worrying too much about ..

what he's 'expected' to do.

which is why he is asking for advice.. he needs to think outside the box..

most importantly.. hes gotta be willing to accept that its not gonna happen... he's too worried about losing her as a 'friend'

he needs to stop thinking and just 'be'

[chicago85thst]

he priortized his life that doesnt make him a bad boy....my neighbor is trying very hard to get with me for the past 2 years but she keeps failing. maybe b/c i dont care for her.

out of 10 restaurent in the town. why does that 1 restaurent draws the most attention then the rest of the places? maybe b/c they changed their recipe. something was different.


or maybe its because their milkshakes bring all the boys to the yard???

[chicago85thst]

play on playas.

I'm saying the guy is worrying too much about ..

what he's 'expected' to do.

which is why he is asking for advice.. he needs to think outside the box..

most importantly.. hes gotta be willing to accept that its not gonna happen... he's too worried about losing her as a 'friend'

he needs to stop thinking and just 'be'



:werd:

[SIXPAK GQ]

play on playas.

I'm saying the guy is worrying too much about ..

what he's 'expected' to do.

which is why he is asking for advice.. he needs to think outside the box..

most importantly.. hes gotta be willing to accept that its not gonna happen... he's too worried about losing her as a 'friend'

he needs to stop thinking and just 'be'
life is too short to worry about these little things. he should be f**king someone else by now

[chicago85thst]

he priortized his life that doesnt make him a bad boy....my neighbor is trying very hard to get with me for the past 2 years but she keeps failing. maybe b/c i dont care for her.

out of 10 restaurent in the town. why does that 1 restaurent draws the most attention then the rest of the places? maybe b/c they changed their recipe. something was different.



hey man do you ever go to indian restraunts in san jose?

[gorjuzkuri]

or maybe its because their milkshakes bring all the boys to the yard???
lmaooo!

[Mash007]

life is too short to worry about these little things. he should be f**king someone else by nowthis is true... but the heart is a fragile thing :gay:

[SIXPAK GQ]

hey man do you ever go to indian restraunts in san jose?

i dont live in san jose anymore. but i did when i lived there, why?

[SIXPAK GQ]

this is true... but the heart is a fragile thing :gay:

but the mind is the strongest muscle

[gorjuzkuri]

he priortized his life that doesnt make him a bad boy....my neighbor is trying very hard to get with me for the past 2 years but she keeps failing. maybe b/c i dont care for her.

out of 10 restaurent in the town. why does that 1 restaurent draws the most attention then the rest of the places? maybe b/c they changed their recipe. something was different.
priority in the sense that...he didnt give worth crap about anyone...and his new priorities became drugs. The whole saying where...bad guys get good girls...good girls get bad guys. Almost as they say opposites attract. No, perhaps...that one restaurant in town is good because they remodelled it!

[chicago85thst]

i dont live in san jose anymore. but i did when i lived there, why?



okay you never went to a restraunt called badal?

[Mash007]

but the mind is the strongest musclefor sure.

he's a kid though... it's tough...

in all honesty... this girl cant be dumb enough to not know...they always know...

[SIXPAK GQ]

priority in the sense that...he didnt give worth crap about anyone...and his new priorities became drugs. The whole saying where...bad guys get good girls...good girls get bad guys. Almost as they say opposites attract. No, perhaps...that one restaurant in town is good because they remodelled it!

remodelled it from what ? the structure? no one cares...its all about the food

[SIXPAK GQ]

for sure.

he's a kid though... it's tough...

in all honesty... this girl cant be dumb enough to not know...they always know...


so he learned his lesson early...that is good.....he is already ahead of where i was at his age.....

[gorjuzkuri]

he already did what he did and he did too much at this point. he is just wasting his time right now. he can become annoying if he keeps trying to a point where it would be considered harrasment. he has thousands of other girls to try on. whats so special about this so called girl?
When you think you have tried too hard...and you end up quitting...it is almost a given that you havent tried half as much as your potential power within you. Hes not wasting it...perhaps its time pass for him right now. he might not become annoying...he might just be the person shes looking for with the persistence. Why not go for this girl. When he split with that other girl he was with...and is getting frequent thoughts about the one he liked originally...surely there must be something that he cant forget. Why use someone as a "rebound" to forget a girl he could not have....because he did not try. Why not just try try try...until she firmly tells him not to.

[gorjuzkuri]

remodelled it from what ? the structure? no one cares...its all about the food
dude....even at some point ive gone for the bad guys...they are more exciting...when they are sweet and all...they just seem brotherly. So, ive been in that position...so im pretty sure i stand by what im saying. Its the chase that makes the girl want him more. Ego takes part in it too.

[Mash007]

When you think you have tried too hard...and you end up quitting...it is almost a given that you havent tried half as much as your potential power within you. Hes not wasting it...perhaps its time pass for him right now. he might not become annoying...he might just be the person shes looking for with the persistence. Why not go for this girl. When he split with that other girl he was with...and is getting frequent thoughts about the one he liked originally...surely there must be something that he cant forget. Why use someone as a "rebound" to forget a girl he could not have....because he did not try. Why not just try try try...until she firmly tells him not to.OMG whats wrong with you.

you're asking the poor boy to grovel and humiliate himself.

what he needs to do is say he's better than that

and if she doesnt see worth in him after all this time

fuck her.

ur too much of a romantic. stop with the bollywood woman

[Mash007]

so he learned his lesson early...that is good.....he is already ahead of where i was at his age.....took me a while too

[SIXPAK GQ]

okay you never went to a restraunt called badal?
never heard of it

but the good ones are Shalimar, Pakwan and some restaurent in Berkley.
Udapi in SJ is god.

[SIXPAK GQ]

When you think you have tried too hard...and you end up quitting...it is almost a given that you havent tried half as much as your potential power within you. Hes not wasting it...perhaps its time pass for him right now. he might not become annoying...he might just be the person shes looking for with the persistence. Why not go for this girl. When he split with that other girl he was with...and is getting frequent thoughts about the one he liked originally...surely there must be something that he cant forget. Why use someone as a "rebound" to forget a girl he could not have....because he did not try. Why not just try try try...until she firmly tells him not to.


he already tried. read his original post again. one NO is good enough.

[SIXPAK GQ]

dude....even at some point ive gone for the bad guys...they are more exciting...when they are sweet and all...they just seem brotherly. So, ive been in that position...so im pretty sure i stand by what im saying. Its the chase that makes the girl want him more. Ego takes part in it too.

bad boys maybe exciting but with no future. they end up nowhere in their lives. women marry nice guys not some bad boy.

[SIXPAK GQ]

took me a while too
i dont give a f**k if i get rejected now.....it makes me feel better b/c i am getting closer to getting some anyway......

[chicago85thst]

never heard of it

but the good ones are Shalimar, Pakwan and some restaurent in Berkley.
Udapi in SJ is god.



good i was getting a vauge feeling you were the asshole that got drunk while i was working there :kekeke:

[SIXPAK GQ]

good i was getting a vauge feeling you were the asshole that got drunk while i was working there :kekeke:


I dont drink.

[Mash007]

i dont give a f**k if i get rejected now.....it makes me feel better b/c i am getting closer to getting some anyway......I cant even be bothered with it all... not important... just concentrating on work and me

[SIXPAK GQ]

I cant even be bothered with it all... not important... just concentrating on work and me

i just dont have time for commitment or the BS that women bring.

[Mash007]

i just dont have time for commitment or the BS that women bring.exactly.

[SIXPAK GQ]

exactly.



its Eckjactly

[krazii aqqie]

CLiFF NOTES (again!) please ??

sheesh what IS up with all these long posts on RD now!?

[Riddemz]

she has sucked on 5 penises since you 2 met

why would you still be interested in any way

[SIXPAK GQ]

CLiFF NOTES (again!) please ??

sheesh what IS up with all these long posts on RD now!?
no, if you are not going to read up then u probably arent too interested in this thread

[bad_cheque]

she has sucked on 5 penises since you 2 met

why would you still be interested in any way
I wouldn't put it that way but yeah she has had 5 boyfriends in the span of a year. I would drop her on her head.

[krazii aqqie]

no, if you are not going to read up then u probably arent too interested in this thread


oh so brilliant, aren't you ???

[bad_cheque]

oh so brilliant, aren't you ???
He's the guru.

Avane namikku!

[SIXPAK GQ]

oh so brilliant, aren't you ???
yes i am, thanks

[versatil]

she's using you. get a penis and apply it elsewhere.

[Swe3tGurlJazmine]

You need to stop talking to her. Show her you're busy. Show her she's not necessary in your life unless she can offer something that interests you.

If she doesnt come to you in a good way, oh well. Keep ignoring her.
If she doesnt try to talk with you, oh well. You're better off without her.

Dont play those stupid ass games from now on, none of that emotional emo nonsense.

[SIXPAK GQ]

if the girls and guys advice pretty much matches in this thread then you know we are giving daym good advice and you should take advantage OP.

[T.Dimera]

you're in the friends zone buddy...and you have Oneitis

[ruch4343]

Yo Guys,

So here's the deal, last year (summer 2005) I ended up interning in Texas and meeting a really cool girl. She was pretty hott on the boneage scale Id say 8 or 9...alot of the other guys that we interned with talked/hit on her and stuff. Anywayz I'm kinda shy/quiet so I didn't really say anything and just kind of got to know her, fast forward to the end of summer and her and one of my good friends (also another intern) started goin out. I never said anything bout liking her and went back to Oklahoma and back to school and got back to my "normal boring" life.

But during the school year we talked off and on and she ended up breaking up with my buddy, and dating I think like 3 or4 guys during the school year. I helepd her with her guy problems and such, etc. But I was pretty much over her, I was dating a girl from my school and just havin fun and doin my own thing....its easier being in a different state to get over someone. The girl I ended up dating only lasted about a month and that was the only real "relationship" i had during the school year...ANyways this past summer (summer 2006) I ended up interning with the same company again and so does she. So we hang out a few times when I get back and settled in and instantly all those feelings I had came back, if not stronger...

And the buddy of mine who dated her last summer also came back, and he told me something like "Man I was so worried that when I came back all the feelings I had for her would come back, but I'm so glad they didnt!" And I'm pretty sure he was tellin the truth because he ended up hooking up with another girl.....but I look at myself and I'm like damn I didn't even date this girl and yet I still have feelings for her? So throughout the summer we wud hang out and then after a few weeks she ended up hooking up with a guy from her school and they are still going out today.

So fast forward to end of summer, I leave we say our goodbyes and I come back to OK again to go back to school. But this time it seems like I can't really get her out of my head...I'll be studying or reading and she'll randomly pop in, or I'll think about going to a concert or a party with her..stuff like that. I've talked with my other friends and it's kind of like I'm wasting my time on something that will never happen. I KNOW she just thinks of me as a friend, but I mean she's said I'm this great guy have a lot to offer, yada yada...but it's kind of like if I am all these things how come you dont like me?

Anyways I mean there is nothing I can do at this point since she's dating the same guy from her school, who I can't hate because he is actually pretty cool and got me some beers before I came home...but still I guess what I'm asking AWOT is how do I get over her? Lately I've been distancing myself from her...not calling her much or talking to her online, etc. I don't think she's noticed much with school/bf/life...but still 3 months after summer is over I find myself thinking about her and thinking I'm really stupid....thoughts?

sorry for making this so long

--Asif


stop being a girl... either say something or don't complain about it :arrow:

[SIXPAK GQ]

double is gettting double penetrated in this thread..........