Serious Question.

[*CUTIEE*]

ok, suppose ur a young girl about 16/17 and ur having a long distance relationship with a guy that you met off the net and he's about 23/24 and he lives in a different country. hmm what do u think about that??

say you talked to the guy alot on the phone and you have chatted , plus planning to meet. do u think a guy is bad for having a long distance relationship with a young girl? what would be the reason most older guys would do it? do u think it's because he may really like her and can't wait to meet her, or for other reasons??

Say u trust him and he say's he trusts you and that he loves you and he can't wait to meet you, everything seems to be fine, he seems sweet and all and u enjoy talking to the guy. plus the age difference and all.


what do u think about this??

discuss.

[**bambina**]

dont get into a relationship if you cant afford to see him every 2 months or so.

your too young.

[**bambina**]

how can he love you, if he hasnt met??

[GT_Starrr]

he just wants in your pants. [/Thread]

[.AK.]

:| 8 FUCKIN YEARS DIFFRENCE? thats nasty on its own, ur 16 hes 24:| hollyyyyy drop it like its hot

[NYGujjuGirl]

how can he love you, if he hasnt met??


agree


some ppl are different online than in person
plus he could be acting just to get with u

[AnGel_PyAr]

1) HES a pedo
2) stop talking to him
3) hope u didnt give ur address to him if so ur screwed

[Ravaged23]

1) HES a pedo
2) stop talking to him
3) hope u didnt give ur address to him if so ur screwed


aint that the truth...then ull end up on that to catch a pedofile show

[~Charmi~]

nothin wrong with it...go with ur own guts...don't ask rd for help! all they gonna say is what u dont' want to hear :)

[MiZz MiNi]

:neutral: i wouldn't trust this guy..how do u know he is forreal...u've never even met him...ur taking a big risk a VERY BIG RISK

[mtlz_m@m!]

:| 8 FUCKIN YEARS DIFFRENCE? thats nasty on its own, ur 16 hes 24:| hollyyyyy drop it like its hot
its not much of the age factor...i knw someone that got a 7 year difference n' its a heathly 4 year relation :dunno: but then again they started going out when they already meet sooo hmmmm i say becareful cause he's far n' u don't knw what he really got in mind :neutral:

[*CUTIEE*]

how can he love you, if he hasnt met??yeah that's the thing. i dont really now, i mean is it possible to love someone that ur planning to meet?? :sarb:

[*CUTIEE*]

he just wants in your pants. [/Thread]he says he's a virgin, and why would he want to date me, if that's all he wants. we are far so what the chance of him getting in my pants :neutral:

[*CUTIEE*]

:| 8 FUCKIN YEARS DIFFRENCE? thats nasty on its own, ur 16 hes 24:| hollyyyyy drop it like its hotactually im 17 ...and yeah i guess it's still a big difference

[*CUTIEE*]

:neutral: i wouldn't trust this guy..how do u know he is forreal...u've never even met him...ur taking a big risk a VERY BIG RISKyeah , well i guess just talkign to him on the phone he seems very trustable. :neutral: but i dont know


btw, nice sig pics.

[*CUTIEE*]

agree


some ppl are different online than in person
plus he could be acting just to get with uya, i guess some ppl can be nice to you online but then when u meet them they can be a total jerk.

sometimes he says lil things to me, but then he'll say he's just joking.

i dont know, i trust him for now, and i really am planning to meet him.

[*CUTIEE*]

1) HES a pedo
2) stop talking to him
3) hope u didnt give ur address to him if so ur screwedhmmm u think he's a pedophile?? i mean ppl nowadays date based on how they feel about the person. i dont think all guys are PEDO's.

and im planning to meet him. so why would i just stop talking to him?? he hasnt done anything to me yet and so far he's really nice.

and no i didnt give my address, but he gave me his :neutral: so that tells me alot. obsviously he trusts me.

[NYGujjuGirl]

ya, i guess some ppl can be nice to you online but then when u meet them they can be a total jerk.

sometimes he says lil things to me, but then he'll say he's just joking.

i dont know, i trust him for now, and i really am planning to meet him.



yea some guys are really sweet-talker
but if u really do go plan on meetin him
dont go alone, take a friend or someone with u
and if u wanna go alone
tell one of ur checks to check on u every hour or half an hour
by callin or something

u might think ur safe but itz better to be careful!
good luck sweety!

[MiZz MiNi]

yeah , well i guess just talkign to him on the phone he seems very trustable. :neutral: but i dont know


btw, nice sig pics.
yeah he could be a very nice guy and is completely honest with u and actually does have feelings for u but ppl these days lie alot and he could be lying to u and just using u...u just gotta be careful :hug:



and thanks :)

[*CUTIEE*]

nothin wrong with it...go with ur own guts...don't ask rd for help! all they gonna say is what u dont' want to hear :)yeah, i just wanted to see what other ppl thought about it. so far not many good replies :neutral:

[*CUTIEE*]

dont get into a relationship if you cant afford to see him every 2 months or so.

your too young.ya, i know im young, but i really do have feelings for him :neutral: . and i know im going to meet him . that's why i keep talking to him. he says he doesnt have a problem with my age, since by the time we meet, i'll be 18 anyway

[*CUTIEE*]

yea some guys are really sweet-talker
but if u really do go plan on meetin him
dont go alone, take a friend or someone with u
and if u wanna go alone
tell one of ur checks to check on u every hour or half an hour
by callin or something

u might think ur safe but itz better to be careful!
good luck sweety!yeah i plan to go alone. tht's how bad i really trust him. and yeah i'll have a back up plan though.

[sheerin]

okay I had a friend in the same situation........but he lived her community. My friends and I went with her to meet him in the park because it would be save. The met over the net and they are having a great relationship. Your young so just meet him in a public place maybe like in a public restaurant and don't go in a motel with him trust me I have seen and heard some horrible stories. Just keep yourself save and PLEASE bring someone to just look out for you. I know you trust him but its always better to be safe.

[Malaika__]

Yeah ,like everyone else said. Be careful.
I think it's kinda iffy if a person is telling you they love you when they haven't even met you.If ur gonna meet him bring people with you and meet him in a public place

[desi_uk]

ok, suppose ur a young girl about 16/17 and ur having a long distance relationship with a guy that you met off the net and he's about 23/24 and he lives in a different country. hmm what do u think about that??

say you talked to the guy alot on the phone and you have chatted , plus planning to meet. do u think a guy is bad for having a long distance relationship with a young girl? what would be the reason most older guys would do it? do u think it's because he may really like her and can't wait to meet her, or for other reasons??

Say u trust him and he say's he trusts you and that he loves you and he can't wait to meet you, everything seems to be fine, he seems sweet and all and u enjoy talking to the guy. plus the age difference and all.


what do u think about this??

discuss.

i say the person needs to get out more

wtf having a long distance relationship with some guy like 5 years older than you

you can tell he doesnt boast about this one to his mates

[bangsta101]

any guy can sweet talk and say i love u. and i think older guys go for younger gurls most times is because dey cant get any1 dere age. by younger i mean like a gurl das like 4 years younger den dem.

[desi_uk]

any guy can sweet talk and say i love u. and i think older guys go for younger gurls most times is because dey cant get any1 dere age. by younger i mean like a gurl das like 4 years younger den dem.
i agree

[foreverconfused]

hmmm u think he's a pedophile?? i mean ppl nowadays date based on how they feel about the person. i dont think all guys are PEDO's.

and im planning to meet him. so why would i just stop talking to him?? he hasnt done anything to me yet and so far he's really nice.
.

Ok. You seem nice, so I really don't want to offend you, but most people in their mid-twenties will not go for girls in high school unless there is something wrong with them or they have some ulterior motive. Seriously consider ending whatever relationship you have with him.

A couple of years older is okay, but when you're 17 and he's 24 it probably isn't a good idea.

[monishb]

ok, suppose ur a young girl about 16/17 and ur having a long distance relationship with a guy that you met off the net and he's about 23/24 and he lives in a different country. hmm what do u think about that??

say you talked to the guy alot on the phone and you have chatted , plus planning to meet. do u think a guy is bad for having a long distance relationship with a young girl? what would be the reason most older guys would do it? do u think it's because he may really like her and can't wait to meet her, or for other reasons??

Say u trust him and he say's he trusts you and that he loves you and he can't wait to meet you, everything seems to be fine, he seems sweet and all and u enjoy talking to the guy. plus the age difference and all.


what do u think about this??

discuss.

He may sound nice, but your too young for a guy whos 24, personally speaking i wouldnt date anyone as young as you. But if it works for you two well and good, i suggest meeting the person before you can judge or make any impressions, a telephone conversation cannot define a person in reality, same applies for a internet conversation.

The other downer being that he is very far away, until you plan to fly or he does every once a while to meet each other... you know the rest

either way goodluck in your search.... ;)

[*CUTIEE*]

okay I had a friend in the same situation........but he lived her community. My friends and I went with her to meet him in the park because it would be save. The met over the net and they are having a great relationship. Your young so just meet him in a public place maybe like in a public restaurant and don't go in a motel with him trust me I have seen and heard some horrible stories. Just keep yourself save and PLEASE bring someone to just look out for you. I know you trust him but its always better to be safe.yea, the thing is, when i planned to meet him, i was going to be 18. and i planned to stay at a hotel. as far as meeting yes i planned to go alone, and just meet someplace in public.

[*CUTIEE*]

He may sound nice, but your too young for a guy whos 24, personally speaking i wouldnt date anyone as young as you. But if it works for you two well and good, i suggest meeting the person before you can judge or make any impressions, a telephone conversation cannot define a person in reality, same applies for a internet conversation.

The other downer being that he is very far away, until you plan to fly or he does every once a while to meet each other... you know the rest

either way goodluck in your search.... ;)yeah i know the age difference isnt so great, and actually i usuallly dont date older guys, he's like the only exception, if i broke it off with him then i wouldnt even look at many older guys. it's just that i do like him , and im waitng to meet.

[sheerin]

yea, the thing is, when i planned to meet him, i was going to be 18. and i planned to stay at a hotel. as far as meeting yes i planned to go alone, and just meet someplace in public.
okay if you are going alone just bring a pepper spray with you for incase :p my friends and me brought a pefume cause she didn't have a pepper spray.

[*CUTIEE*]

Ok. You seem nice, so I really don't want to offend you, but most people in their mid-twenties will not go for girls in high school unless there is something wrong with them or they have some ulterior motive. Seriously consider ending whatever relationship you have with him.

A couple of years older is okay, but when you're 17 and he's 24 it probably isn't a good idea.yeah, thats why i asked, i just didnt know if he doesnt care that im 17 or that he just cant get a girl in real life.

Like for instance, he told me he's a virgin, and he has a college education, i know he has money, dont know how much, but i know he's got it . i just wonder if he really does like me, like he says he does i mean he's not here with me, so if he was just after sex, he obvisouly knows tht he wont get that. so what else could he possibly be after?? that's why i believe he really does like me.

and thanx for not offending me.

[*CUTIEE*]

any guy can sweet talk and say i love u. and i think older guys go for younger gurls most times is because dey cant get any1 dere age. by younger i mean like a gurl das like 4 years younger den dem.yeah, i dont know if he cant get girls or not. to me he's attractive and all, seems real friendly but i dont know. maybe youngr girls are just more open and easier to talk to.

[bigkid]

you can be in a relationship unless you have already met the person.
impossible to really know a person its a thing called chemistry.
once you have had some with a person (in real life) then you will know
dont let desperation convince you or get your hopes up. :razz: :razz:

i noticed most desi kids are real desperate mofo's :rofl:

[*CUTIEE*]

you can be in a relationship unless you have already met the person.
impossible to really know a person its a thing called chemistry.
once you have had some with a person (in real life) then you will know
dont let desperation convince you or get your hopes up. :razz: :razz:

i noticed most desi kids are real desperate mofo's :rofl:naw im not even desperate. i dont do this online dating stuff much, he's the only one and the one i plan to meet. i just feel like i really like him, i cant help that feeling, well when we meet then i'll know for sure i guess

and the part about being desperate, i think some desi ppl in general mainly guys are very desperate. :neutral:

[*1001Nights*]

yeah, i dont know if he cant get girls or not. to me he's attractive and all, seems real friendly but i dont know. maybe youngr girls are just more open and easier to talk to.
no offense bu he kinda seems lik a weirdo....maybe im jus super paranoid bu i wud never meet him in public he cud be sum kinda crazy rapist/murderer..........weres he from??? and if u were 2 meet him dont go alone.

[shadyzgal08]

you can be in a relationship unless you have already met the person.
impossible to really know a person its a thing called chemistry.
once you have had some with a person (in real life) then you will know
dont let desperation convince you or get your hopes up. :razz: :razz:

i noticed most desi kids are real desperate mofo's :rofl:
hahahahaha n most of the guys are soo wifey :P

[*CUTIEE*]

okay if you are going alone just bring a pepper spray with you for incase :p my friends and me brought a pefume cause she didn't have a pepper spray.ya i'll have a good plan ;) not gonna go there acting as if everything is gonna be sweet n juicy

[*CUTIEE*]

no offense bu he kinda seems lik a weirdo....maybe im jus super paranoid bu i wud never meet him in public he cud be sum kinda crazy rapist/murderer..........weres he from??? and if u were 2 meet him dont go alone.yeah i planned to go alone, plus i was going to be 18 at the time we planned to meet. and he lives in UK

[bigkid]

naw im not even desperate. i dont do this online dating stuff much, he's the only one and the one i plan to meet. i just feel like i really like him, i cant help that feeling, well when we meet then i'll know for sure i guess

and the part about being desperate, i think some desi ppl in general mainly guys are very desperate. :neutral:
well guys in general dont mature as fast as females
then there is the shy factor, desi's are naturally shy
i dunno good thing your not too overwhelmed by
this whole online love thing, at least keep your
options open, like dont stop dating or talking to REAL
ppl over a internet person, but still go meet the internet
person, cause i think thats just cool, and take pics too :wink:

[shadyzgal08]

naw im not even desperate. i dont do this online dating stuff much, he's the only one and the one i plan to meet. i just feel like i really like him, i cant help that feeling, well when we meet then i'll know for sure i guess

and the part about being desperate, i think some desi ppl in general mainly guys are very desperate. :neutral:
all i can say is dont go for a guy whos like 6 years older than u..he cud have wrong intentions and i kno i dont know the guy but i wouldnt trust him...like why wud he wanna get with a 17 year old it doesnt make sense rite cuz he can get with sum1 his own age but maybe he thinks your gonna be easy...plus this whole internet thing is risky but if you're confident and u really do trust him then i say go for it :)

[**bambina**]

the thing is, forget the age etc etc... u might meet once, but i dont know how your gonna maintain your relationship after that?

i am in a long distance relationship, but i see him every 6 - 8 weeks.

its not easy. but if you have the finance to support your relationship, or he can pay for your tickets for you visit often, then yes, go for it.

but dont live in dream land, this is reality.

[bigkid]

all i can say is dont go for a guy whos like 6 years older than u..he cud have wrong intentions and i kno i dont know the guy but i wouldnt trust him...like why wud he wanna get with a 17 year old it doesnt make sense rite cuz he can get with sum1 his own age but maybe he thinks your gonna be easy...plus this whole internet thing is risky but if you're confident and u really do trust him then i say go for it :)
dont judge ppl by their age, its whatever u like. i mean u should stay within the laws but if u like someone talk to them, but it depends on the person too. sounds like your just warning her about guys tryna play her for sex, but if she just wants to have sex shes allowed to.

[shadyzgal08]

dont judge ppl by their age, its whatever u like. i mean u should stay within the laws but if u like someone talk to them, but it depends on the person too. sounds like your just warning her about guys tryna play her for sex, but if she just wants to have sex shes allowed to.
ok well think abt it...why would a 24 year old guy wanna get with a 17 year old girl which he met frm the internet....its most probly sex... but yeah its true he might really like her and not want sex or watever but in most cases like this it is abt sex....didnt u watch dateline on friday abt how guys frm the internet came to hav sex with this 13 yr old girl? these guys were like 22 and up so im just sayin be careful

[*CUTIEE*]

dont u think if it was all about sex, then he wouldnt be a virgin then right, cuz he told me that he's still a virgin and for some reason i believe him, plus he's desi so yeah i dont know awhole lot of desi guys that have had sex.

so yeah if he ws only after sex and all crazy about it, then why would he wait to meet a 17 yr old, rather than just having sex with someone there then :sarb:

[EwLookItsYou]

a 24 year old saying i love you to a 16 year old over the net.. hmm..
y can't he find chicks his own age he can "love" ?? :sarb:

[*CUTIEE*]

the thing is, forget the age etc etc... u might meet once, but i dont know how your gonna maintain your relationship after that?

i am in a long distance relationship, but i see him every 6 - 8 weeks.

its not easy. but if you have the finance to support your relationship, or he can pay for your tickets for you visit often, then yes, go for it.

but dont live in dream land, this is reality.yeah when i'll be 18 yrs old, it's all up to me and what i decide to do, and sure i'll visit him as often as i can, he told me he wants me to stay there, and that he wasnt going to let me go back :p but ya of course i'll have to go back home, the first time i go will just be for a short visit.

[*CUTIEE*]

a 24 year old saying i love you to a 16 year old over the net.. hmm..
y can't he find chicks his own age he can "love" ?? :sarb:im 17....and hmm some ppl just might see age as a number, but then again i dont know the full truth behind it. maybe he doesnt want a girl his age or maybe he's shy :dunno:

[*CUTIEE*]

all i can say is dont go for a guy whos like 6 years older than u..he cud have wrong intentions and i kno i dont know the guy but i wouldnt trust him...like why wud he wanna get with a 17 year old it doesnt make sense rite cuz he can get with sum1 his own age but maybe he thinks your gonna be easy...plus this whole internet thing is risky but if you're confident and u really do trust him then i say go for it :)yeah i respect ur ways of thinking, by the way dont think im so dumb naive girl, cuz im far from that lol, i just like this guy , that's all and ya when we meet i'll be veryy carefulll

[sheerin]

dont u think if it was all about sex, then he wouldnt be a virgin then right, cuz he told me that he's still a virgin and for some reason i believe him, plus he's desi so yeah i dont know awhole lot of desi guys that have had sex.

so yeah if he ws only after sex and all crazy about it, then why would he wait to meet a 17 yr old, rather than just having sex with someone there then :sarb:
how far do you live from him?

[*CUTIEE*]

well guys in general dont mature as fast as females
then there is the shy factor, desi's are naturally shy
i dunno good thing your not too overwhelmed by
this whole online love thing, at least keep your
options open, like dont stop dating or talking to REAL
ppl over a internet person, but still go meet the internet
person, cause i think thats just cool, and take pics too :wink:yeah im not too overwhelmed with it. like i said, this is the only guy that i ever plan to have a long distance relationship with as far as out of country goes, cuz yeah he doesnt live here in us, he lives in uk :neutral:

[*CUTIEE*]

how far do you live from him?he lives in UK and i live here in US :o

[desi_uk]

he lives in UK and i live here in US :o
Whats the point?

[shadyzgal08]

dont u think if it was all about sex, then he wouldnt be a virgin then right, cuz he told me that he's still a virgin and for some reason i believe him, plus he's desi so yeah i dont know awhole lot of desi guys that have had sex.

so yeah if he ws only after sex and all crazy about it, then why would he wait to meet a 17 yr old, rather than just having sex with someone there then :sarb:
maybe he doesnt have any real intention to meet up...maybe he just wants to lead you on but at the same time there are tons of desi guys (and girls) who arent virgins

[sheerin]

WTF all the way there.........wow......he is totally unpredictiable. he didn't right.

[SeXy^Shorty]

how do u not knw he doesn't say it to everygirl tht he knws of the net? how do u knw he isn't passing time online saying all this to u? are you sure he means what he says, and tht he will actually turn up to see u? have u seen him on webcam to knw what he really looks like...
im sure u can find someone ur own age and he can find someone tht his, but he seems abit unusual tht a 24 yr old is lookin for love over the internet...u just need to be 100% sure he aint no freak.....

[*CUTIEE*]

Whats the point?well i plan to meet him,yes it's far, but it''s just one of those things that happen, sometimes u end up liking ppl and u cant control how u feel, he hasnt done any harm to me so far. i enjoy talking to him all the time, he always calls me, so ya he has to pay for those calls n stuff but yeah, i plan to meet soo :dunno:

[desi_uk]

well i plan to meet him,yes it's far, but it''s just one of those things that happen, sometimes u end up liking ppl and u cant control how u feel, he hasnt done any harm to me so far. i enjoy talking to him all the time, he always calls me, so ya he has to pay for those calls n stuff but yeah, i plan to meet soo :dunno:
lol but you dont even know him in person?

Im guessing hes like this with every girl

[*CUTIEE*]

how do u not knw he doesn't say it to everygirl tht he knws of the net? how do u knw he isn't passing time online saying all this to u? are you sure he means what he says, and tht he will actually turn up to see u? have u seen him on webcam to knw what he really looks like...
im sure u can find someone ur own age and he can find someone tht his, but he seems abit unusual tht a 24 yr old is lookin for love over the internet...u just need to be 100% sure he aint no freak.....yeah true what u said ,i honestly dont know if he has said those things to other girls, but u know how someone says that they wouldnt hurt you or they wouldnt cheat/lie etc, and u just believe it, i cant really explain. by the way i hope im not sounding silly, it's just how i feel.

he has seen me on cam, but i havent seen him yet, he will be getting a cam shortly, and as far as him being fake, i highly doubt that. i have seen pics of him though.

[shadyzgal08]

well i plan to meet him,yes it's far, but it''s just one of those things that happen, sometimes u end up liking ppl and u cant control how u feel, he hasnt done any harm to me so far. i enjoy talking to him all the time, he always calls me, so ya he has to pay for those calls n stuff but yeah, i plan to meet soo :dunno:
your sure you're the only girl he talks to?

[*CUTIEE*]

lol but you dont even know him in person?

Im guessing hes like this with every girlhe doesnt seem like the type to talk to many girls, seriously. i mean i cant really explain the guy, it's like u'd have to talk to him or know him in the way that i do, to really understand.

[*CUTIEE*]

your sure you're the only girl he talks to?post # 62, i mean im not 100% positive that he isnt but ya

[keyzersoze]

yeah i respect ur ways of thinking, by the way dont think im so dumb naive girl, cuz im far from that lol, i just like this guy , that's all and ya when we meet i'll be veryy carefulll

Well you do sound naive, firstly just because he tells you hes a virgin, dont mean shit. Pamela Anderson could tell you shes a virgin and youd prolly believe her. Secondly, hes too old. Your going to see him once and that's it. He is prolly a pervert, cuz how can he not get a girl where he lives, especially the UK. Lastly, judging by your posts, you are LONELY. You believe he could be your soulmate, not likely.

[*CUTIEE*]

Well you do sound naive, firstly just because he tells you hes a virgin, dont mean shit. Pamela Anderson could tell you shes a virgin and youd prolly believe her. Secondly, hes too old. Your going to see him once and that's it. He is prolly a pervert, cuz how can he not get a girl where he lives, especially the UK. Lastly, judging by your posts, you are LONELY. You believe he could be your soulmate, not likely.could have been alittle easier on me :eek: ...but true, i cant say ur wrong, he might have had sex, but he told me he hasnt, see the thing is im really planning on meeting him, so once i meet him then i'll know for sure how he really is.

keep in mind he is DESI, NOT BLACK, NOT WHITE OR ANY OTHER ETHNIC.
i dont know many desi guys that are like that as a whole.

[keyzersoze]

yeah true what u said ,i honestly dont know if he has said those things to other girls, but u know how someone says that they wouldnt hurt you or they wouldnt cheat/lie etc, and u just believe it, i cant really explain. by the way i hope im not sounding silly, it's just how i feel.

he has seen me on cam, but i havent seen him yet, he will be getting a cam shortly, and as far as him being fake, i highly doubt that. i have seen pics of him though.

Your a genius.

[*CUTIEE*]

Your a genius.well i highly doubt he's fake even if he doesnt have a cam YET

[keyzersoze]

could have been alittle easier on me :eek: ...but true, i cant say ur wrong, he might have had sex, but he told me he hasnt, see the thing is im really planning on meeting him, so once i meet him then i'll know for sure how he really is.

keep in mind he is DESI, NOT BLACK, NOT WHITE OR ANY OTHER ETHNIC.
i dont know many desi guys that are like that as a whole.

Is he a flaming homo? EVERY guy is like that...If a guy tells u he don't want booty, HES GAY....This dude wants to do the freaky in ur pants...Thats it.

[keyzersoze]

I could be wrong..Your choice nig ga.

[*CUTIEE*]

could have been alittle easier on me :eek: ...but true, i cant say ur wrong, he might have had sex, but he told me he hasnt, see the thing is im really planning on meeting him, so once i meet him then i'll know for sure how he really is.

keep in mind he is DESI, NOT BLACK, NOT WHITE OR ANY OTHER ETHNIC.
i dont know many desi guys that are like that as a whole.

Is he a flaming homo? EVERY guy is like that...If a guy tells u he don't want booty, HES GAY....This dude wants to do the freaky in ur pants...Thats it.im not saying he doesnt want sex, im sure he does, but he plans to marry me aswell :eek:

[bangsta101]

yeah, i dont know if he cant get girls or not. to me he's attractive and all, seems real friendly but i dont know. maybe youngr girls are just more open and easier to talk to.


u just answered ur own question. and it doesnt matter bout looks. also personality in real life. u may talk nice on da phone and on da internet. but hwen u meet sum1 u might turn into a retard. u shouldnt just look at how da person looks.

[EwLookItsYou]

im 17....and hmm some ppl just might see age as a number, but then again i dont know the full truth behind it. maybe he doesnt want a girl his age or maybe he's shy :dunno:
ehh idk.. im 17 too. i think u shud forget about it.. its gunna be a lot of stress for u and after a while ure gunna wanna be with guys closer to ur age, same experience as u, etc.. yeah some ppl say age is just a number but age can represent a lot of things too so i would consdier that. plus ure on your way to college where there will be a lot of other guys..
also u hafta consider that he IS going after someone a lot younger ON the internet.. that may mean he has a lot of social anxieties and issues.. do u wanna deal with that?

[*CUTIEE*]

ehh idk.. im 17 too. i think u shud forget about it.. its gunna be a lot of stress for u and after a while ure gunna wanna be with guys closer to ur age, same experience as u, etc.. yeah some ppl say age is just a number but age can represent a lot of things too so i would consdier that. plus ure on your way to college where there will be a lot of other guys..
also u hafta consider that he IS going after someone a lot younger ON the internet.. that may mean he has a lot of social anxieties and issues.. do u wanna deal with that?yeah, i know once i start college and stuff im gonna probably forget all about him, especially if we arent in a long term relationship. and yeah that's also true about him maybe having social issues. thats a true possibility, i guess i'll just have to wait and see.

thanx for ur advice :)

[RoMeO6969]

link me to his Rd Profile

[sikhsta]

i told your mummy that i wanted to cut off your cable television shishhion.

no more mango kulfi

[*CUTIEE*]

link me to his Rd Profilelol why :p

[*CUTIEE*]

i told your mummy that i wanted to cut off your cable television shishhion.

no more mango kulfi :p :( :(

[freshmanik_13]

dont even do it ! theres some sick shit out there they play along and say shit and meet lil girls then they fuckin rape em and shit and in some places dudes like this even murder em too

[*CUTIEE*]

dont even do it ! theres some sick shit out there they play along and say shit and meet lil girls then they fuckin rape em and shit and in some places dudes like this even murder em toocome on, im trying to not think of the worst things that can happen :( ..i mean honestly i doubt he's like that...im just gonna be careful, but then again while being careful i just have to make the right choices. u cant live ur life avoiding new things and new experiences/taking chances etc cuz this is indeed an experience. of course life isnt easy, just gotta be careful and thats what i plan to do.

[sikhsta]

its true

dont get yourself into something you cant see, feel, etc.

[*CUTIEE*]

its true

dont get yourself into something you cant see, feel, etc.does webcams count? :neutral: obviously that's my only source for now.

[mtlz_m@m!]

he lives in UK and i live here in US :o
isn't that a bit too much... i mean canada n' us would be ok fly or drive to see one another but...on the other side of the ocean :shock:

anyhow be safe babe

[*CUTIEE*]

isn't that a bit too much... i mean canada n' us would be ok fly or drive to see one another but...on the other side of the ocean :shock:

anyhow be safe babeyeah i know it's far :( but i just think since i'll be an adult well legal at the time i planned to travel there, then if im careful everything should be fine.

thanks. :)

[sikhsta]

does webcams count? :neutral: obviously that's my only source for now.


see meaning for yourself in person. you cant tell if its real if you havent you know, felt it in person

[bigkid]

ok well think abt it...why would a 24 year old guy wanna get with a 17 year old girl which he met frm the internet....its most probly sex... but yeah its true he might really like her and not want sex or watever but in most cases like this it is abt sex....didnt u watch dateline on friday abt how guys frm the internet came to hav sex with this 13 yr old girl? these guys were like 22 and up so im just sayin be careful :roflbow: :roflbow: man u just watching TV got your ass scared haha
not everything is that way like u see on teevee LOL
okay 1 thing though those guys are scary for trying to "meet"
as in go in the house and definitely fuck a gurl thats illegal
just talkin on the net or real life is no big deal but they were
like soliciting sex "specifically" that was their only intention
i wont even hang with a girl 1 on 1 unless she is consent
otherwise we could just talk, and those guys were not on
the same mental level either cause some of them were just
in their 20's but seemed all old and shyt i dunno they dumb

did u see that scary ass truck driver with cocaine
in his truck? that was sum scary shyt and he acted like he
does that mess all day.

[Rogue]

ok, suppose ur a young girl about 16/17 and ur having a long distance relationship with a guy that you met off the net and he's about 23/24 and he lives in a different country. hmm what do u think about that??

say you talked to the guy alot on the phone and you have chatted , plus planning to meet. do u think a guy is bad for having a long distance relationship with a young girl? what would be the reason most older guys would do it? do u think it's because he may really like her and can't wait to meet her, or for other reasons??

Say u trust him and he say's he trusts you and that he loves you and he can't wait to meet you, everything seems to be fine, he seems sweet and all and u enjoy talking to the guy. plus the age difference and all.


what do u think about this??

discuss.avoid such relationships. i knew someone who was in one of those relationships, and she found out that he'd lied not only about his name, but his actual age had been 28 or over (and he must have been married possibly with kids)

[gujulicious]

i say wait till you're 18..

[*CUTIEE*]

i say wait till you're 18..ya thats when i plan to meet him, when im 18.

[*CUTIEE*]

avoid such relationships. i knew someone who was in one of those relationships, and she found out that he'd lied not only about his name, but his actual age had been 28 or over (and he must have been married possibly with kids)yea true, i guess once we meet then i'll know for sure.

[bigkid]

yea true, i guess once we meet then i'll know for sure.
:roflbow: :roflbow: then u can help take care of his kids

[*CUTIEE*]

:roflbow: :roflbow: then u can help take care of his kidswhat makes u think that? i dont even plan on having kids anytime soon. and he doesnt either, thts what he told me, he just wants to finish school n stuff and then maybe later we'll have kids

[Rogue]

yea true, i guess once we meet then i'll know for sure.well, just be prepared, i just think relationships that have too many elements working against them are best left avoided unless it's nothing more than just timepass.... in this case, you have distance, age, and whatever else that may arise.

[bigkid]

what makes u think that? i dont even plan on having kids anytime soon. and he doesnt either, thts what he told me, he just wants to finish school n stuff and then maybe later we'll have kids im just messin with u, rogue said the kid thing and u didnt really address it so i said that, its a joke k please dont beat me :D

make sure u check his ID and treating like your meeting him
for the first time your waaaaaaay to young to be talkin bout
marriage and stuff, u shud wait till your like late twenties at
least to marry

[Rogue]

im just messin with u, rogue said the kid thing and u didnt really address it so i said that, its a joke k please dont beat me :D:roflbow: better start running!

[bigkid]

:roflbow: better start running!
shyt i'll just drive away real fast :razz: :razz:

[*CUTIEE*]

im just messin with u, rogue said the kid thing and u didnt really address it so i said that, its a joke k please dont beat me :D

make sure u check his ID and treating like your meeting him
for the first time your waaaaaaay to young to be talkin bout
marriage and stuff, u shud wait till your like late twenties at
least to marrybut suppose i really really like him once we meet, and i plan to become intimate with him, if he asks me to marry him :eek: then uh well i dont believe in pre-marital sex so i dont know, ehh i'll just see what happens. i want to marry later, but if u fall in love than what can u say.

[vgirl]

firstly, if he has a college education, has some money and i assume he is working, then WHY isn't he coming to meet you? you will only be 18, you will have just started college and you will only be working part-time if at all. since he is 24 and would have been in the workforce, don't you think the onus should be on him to come and meet you??

if he really loves you, and wants to meet you and see what you are like then i am sure he would understand and fork out the money to come see you.

[vgirl]

but suppose i really really like him once we meet, and i plan to become intimate with him, if he asks me to marry him :eek: then uh well i dont believe in pre-marital sex so i dont know, ehh i'll just see what happens. i want to marry later, but if u fall in love than what can u say.
you are definately way too young to be thinking about marriage. and if he wants to become intimate or whatever after you meet, then he should respect your views on the fact you don't believe in pre-marital sex. geez he's been a 'virgin' 24 years, like a few more years can't hurt... especially if he's waiting for his future wife. know what i mean?

[vgirl]

also, have you asked him why he is still a virgin? is it out of personal choice? have you asked him about his past/his ex-gfs (does he have any?) these are some really important questions that you should ask him about. for any relationship to work you need honesty. and these questions will give you some sort of insight into WHY he's with a 17yr old girl in an online relationship rather than dating girls in his area...

[*CUTIEE*]

also, have you asked him why he is still a virgin? is it out of personal choice? have you asked him about his past/his ex-gfs (does he have any?) these are some really important questions that you should ask him about. for any relationship to work you need honesty. and these questions will give you some sort of insight into WHY he's with a 17yr old girl in an online relationship rather than dating girls in his area...he said he never had a gf before, and he said he's just never been into having sex, he's wanted to wait til he found the right girl and possibly whens hes all done with his studies n stuff. and as far as him being in a online relationship with me, well he says he really likes me, and that he cant wait to meet me aswell. i have asked him if he cares that im 17 now and he said no and that before we meet just wait til im legal, plus when i turn 18 it really wont matter anymore, as far as the age difference goes.

[*CUTIEE*]

firstly, if he has a college education, has some money and i assume he is working, then WHY isn't he coming to meet you? you will only be 18, you will have just started college and you will only be working part-time if at all. since he is 24 and would have been in the workforce, don't you think the onus should be on him to come and meet you??

if he really loves you, and wants to meet you and see what you are like then i am sure he would understand and fork out the money to come see you.yeah we talked about him coming here , tht could happen too. it can either way, and once we met then he could take me to uk

[Rogue]

he said he never had a gf before, and he said he's just never been into having sex, he's wanted to wait til he found the right girl and possibly whens hes all done with his studies n stuff. and as far as him being in a online relationship with me, well he says he really likes me, and that he cant wait to meet me aswell. i have asked him if he cares that im 17 now and he said no and that before we meet just wait til im legal, plus when i turn 18 it really wont matter anymore, as far as the age difference goes....i dunno about this....

[*CUTIEE*]

you are definately way too young to be thinking about marriage. and if he wants to become intimate or whatever after you meet, then he should respect your views on the fact you don't believe in pre-marital sex. geez he's been a 'virgin' 24 years, like a few more years can't hurt... especially if he's waiting for his future wife. know what i mean?yeah i dont believe in pre-marital sex, but waiting to marry means waiting to have sex also.....and yeah im not in a rush but if i become close with him, in love etc, then waiting til im in my late twenties isnt going to be an option

[*CUTIEE*]

...i dunno about this....a girl is legal when she's 18.. :sarb:

[Rogue]

a girl is legal when she's 18.. :sarb:i know that. but that makes me ask the question: if it's just a normal meeting and nothing more, why should it matter if you're legal or not?

[Trinidad]

damn your 6'2 and your only 16. crazy. your gonna be like 6'5 by the time your 18. sorry for not staying on topic but yeah guys a pedo but i guess you already know that.

[bigkid]

but suppose i really really like him once we meet, and i plan to become intimate with him, if he asks me to marry him :eek: then uh well i dont believe in pre-marital sex so i dont know, ehh i'll just see what happens. i want to marry later, but if u fall in love than what can u say.
if u fall in love and have sex make sure he has a condom so u dont have kids, the kids ruin it if u ever divorce and look to re-marry u might as well get the morning after pill or a depo shot b4 u go, horny one u are :razz: :razz:

[Rogue]

if u fall in love and have sex make sure he has a condom so u dont have kids, the kids ruin it if u ever divorce and look to re-marry u might as well get the morning after pill or a depo shot b4 u go, horny one u are :razz: :razz:why do you reckon he wants to meet her only after she's turned legal though if it's only supposed to be a normal meeting? am i the only one who thinks there's something totally sketchy there?

[bigkid]

why do you reckon he wants to meet her only after she's turned legal though if it's only supposed to be a normal meeting? am i the only one who thinks there's something totally sketchy there?
i dunno they obviously have some type of rappport they have been speaking on the phone apparently, as far as meeting probably so if some cop has to check id's there is no question as to the intent of relationship, if something were going on it wouldn't matter. honestly who cares let them fuck their lives away i dont give a shit.

[*CUTIEE*]

damn your 6'2 and your only 16. crazy. your gonna be like 6'5 by the time your 18. sorry for not staying on topic but yeah guys a pedo but i guess you already know that.:wtf: im 17 and im 5'11. and as far as him being a a pedo, than hmm guys that are like 19 and date 17 yr olds than they should be pedo's too. :sarb:

[*CUTIEE*]

i know that. but that makes me ask the question: if it's just a normal meeting and nothing more, why should it matter if you're legal or not?cuz obviously i can't meet him now at this age, my parents wouldnt let me. and as far as the real date, than of course i'd want to be "legal"

[*CUTIEE*]

if u fall in love and have sex make sure he has a condom so u dont have kids, the kids ruin it if u ever divorce and look to re-marry u might as well get the morning after pill or a depo shot b4 u go, horny one u are :razz: :razz:that made me laugh lol :p but ok thanx :salut: :D

[*CUTIEE*]

why do you reckon he wants to meet her only after she's turned legal though if it's only supposed to be a normal meeting? am i the only one who thinks there's something totally sketchy there?actually i was the one that kept telling him that i wanted to meet when im 18. , but im 17 i cant travel all the way there to uk yet, so when i'll be 18 i can handle the situation more.

[vgirl]

actually i was the one that kept telling him that i wanted to meet when im 18. , but im 17 i cant travel all the way there to uk yet, so when i'll be 18 i can handle the situation more.
spoken in true naievity of someone who is only 17
how do you think being 18 will equip you better to handle the situation?

[*CUTIEE*]

spoken in true naievity of someone who is only 17
how do you think being 18 will equip you better to handle the situation?actually im not naive, and i dont knw what makes u think that :sarb: ...what im saying is, as far as ME going to visit him, i will go when im 18, so theres not much trouble for me as far as being 'too young'
or gettting in trouble by my parents. im actually very mature, and by waiting until the right time, im making things alot easier. i'm not speaking of the relationship itself, i'll see about that when the time comes.

[vgirl]

actually im not naive, and i dont knw what makes u think that :sarb: ...what im saying is, as far as ME going to visit him, i will go when im 18, so theres not much trouble for me as far as being 'too young'
or gettting in trouble by my parents. im actually very mature, and by waiting until the right time, im making things alot easier. i'm not speaking of the relationship itself, i'll see about that when the time comes.
thinking you're not naive and that you are very mature is one of the first indications of your actual experience. the older you get, the more you realise you don't know and you can't plan.

so when you're 18, your parents will let you go to another country to meet a guy you don't know so well, just because your age increased by a year?

[*CUTIEE*]

thinking you're not naive and that you are very mature is one of the first indications of your actual experience. the older you get, the more you realise you don't know and you can't plan.

so when you're 18, your parents will let you go to another country to meet a guy you don't know so well, just because your age increased by a year?well im not saying my mom wont worry, im sure she will, but she trusts me alot and she knows the type of person that i am. when im 18, i can make alot of my own decisions and what i want to do, my parents aren't going to be with me always, when i go away to college, u think im gonna call my parents and ask them every little thing? no way, because you have to live life. now if my mom really doesnt want me to go there, then me and him will arrange for him to come here instead. also lately my cousin has been talking about going there, so if i do go, most likely she will come with me.

and i'm not saying that i know everything, i know im still young and i have alot to learn, but this will be a big experience for me. im willing to take the chance, and we'll see what happens. hopefully everything goes well and if not, i'll learn for the next time i decide to do something. you cant always live ur life doing what everyone wants you to do, i mean we all have different desires, and of course we all arent going to agree with what some one else wants to do, but that's life. i cant' live under my parents for ever, and i cant live thinking of only the worst things that can happen, i'd be crippled. i just have to live, being very careful/street smart and knowing that this world we live in, i can get hurt anywhere, whether i stay home or not. gooing to the uk is just a big experience, nothing more or nothing lesss.

[vgirl]

well im not saying my mom wont worry, im sure she will, but she trusts me alot and she knows the type of person that i am. when im 18, i can make alot of my own decisions and what i want to do, my parents aren't going to be with me always, when i go away to college, u think im gonna call my parents and ask them every little thing? no way, because you have to live life. now if my mom really doesnt want me to go there, then me and him will arrange for him to come here instead. also lately my cousin has been talking about going there, so if i do go, most likely she will come with me.

and i'm not saying that i know everything, i know im still young and i have alot to learn, but this will be a big experience for me. im willing to take the chance, and we'll see what happens. hopefully everything goes well and if not, i'll learn for the next time i decide to do something. you cant always live ur life doing what everyone wants you to do, i mean we all have different desires, and of course we all arent going to agree with what some one else wants to do, but that's life. i cant' live under my parents for ever, and i cant live thinking of only the worst things that can happen, i'd be crippled. i just have to live, being very careful/street smart and knowing that this world we live in, i can get hurt anywhere, whether i stay home or not. gooing to the uk is just a big experience, nothing more or nothing lesss.
it just doesn't sound like you are being very street smart at all.

what i am saying is, how will your mindset change from now to the time you are 18? i'm sure it won't change very much at all. and your decisions at 18 would be totally different to the decision you would make at 21. just because you gain legal FREEDOM at 18, doesn't mean that you gain emotional maturity, or discretion or even sensibility. your judgment and reasoning doesn't really even totally develop until 20 or even older.

i'm not saying that you should follow your parents forever and follow whatever anyone says. of course i'm not saying that. what i'm saying is that, you seem to think that at 18 you will be better equipped to make this decision. i'm just pointing out how that isn't necessarily true.

streetsmarts is not only about going into the world with a 'carpe diem, seize the day, live life to the fullest' philopsophy, it is also about having the common sense to know when decisions are right and wrong, and making the safest, best choices for yourself and your future.

[*CUTIEE*]

it just doesn't sound like you are being very street smart at all.

what i am saying is, how will your mindset change from now to the time you are 18? i'm sure it won't change very much at all. and your decisions at 18 would be totally different to the decision you would make at 21. just because you gain legal FREEDOM at 18, doesn't mean that you gain emotional maturity, or discretion or even sensibility. your judgment and reasoning doesn't really even totally develop until 20 or even older.

i'm not saying that you should follow your parents forever and follow whatever anyone says. of course i'm not saying that. what i'm saying is that, you seem to think that at 18 you will be better equipped to make this decision. i'm just pointing out how that isn't necessarily true.

streetsmarts is not only about going into the world with a 'carpe diem, seize the day, live life to the fullest' philopsophy, it is also about having the common sense to know when decisions are right and wrong, and making the safest, best choices for yourself and your future.yeah i know most ppl might think this is a bad choice, but who are we to judge? im going to meet a guy in london.. ok ..of course the worst can happen, but thats just what i want to do. my mind can change and by the time i turn 18 i might be more clear about it. and about decisions being right or wrong, ppl make decisions all the time, having sex before marriage is a decision, waking up and deciding to take the chance and go to work another day is a decision whether it's right or wrong, it will affect ur future in one way or another. and i do have common sense, and like i said, it's possible that he will come here instead.

and as far as emotional maturity, i have to allow myself to gain experience. yeah when im 21 i know i'll think alot different than when i was 18, and thats natural. still doesnt mean that when im 18 i have to keep myself sheltered.

but dont get me wrong, i appreciate what your saying. you do have good points.

[vgirl]

yeah i know most ppl might think this is a bad choice, but who are we to judge? im going to meet a guy in london.. ok ..of course the worst can happen, but thats just what i want to do. my mind can change and by the time i turn 18 i might be more clear about it. and about decisions being right or wrong, ppl make decisions all the time, having sex before marriage is a decision, waking up and deciding to take the chance and go to work another day is a decision whether it's right or wrong, it will affect ur future in one way or another. and i do have common sense, and like i said, it's possible that he will come here instead.

and as far as emotional maturity, i have to allow myself to gain experience. yeah when im 21 i know i'll think alot different than when i was 18, and thats natural. still doesnt mean that when im 18 i have to keep myself sheltered.

but dont get me wrong, i appreciate what your saying. you do have good points.
yeah i'm not saying that it's a bad choice. what i'm saying is that if you do decide you want to proceed and meet him then make sure you are careful. a few of your earlier posts were worrying because you sounded like you implicitly believed some of the thing he was telling you. but from reading your last few posts you do seem to have common sense.

if you do decide to meet him, first make sure his intentions are good. and then of course make sure you keep yourself safe.

as for your argument about decisions, just because decisions are made everyday about the most trivial things, it doesn't mean that the significance of making a right or wrong decision lessens. obviously life goes on, and your life is affected in one way or another, but just because it will be affected in some way or another, doesn't mean that you dont need to stop, think about potential outcomes and decide to proceed. weigh out all the options of the situation, and make the 'right' decision, the one that is most 'right' for you at the time.

and make sure your mum knows when you go meet him. i'm sure she will give you good advice about keeping safe.

goodluck. i'm off to sleep

[*CUTIEE*]

yeah i'm not saying that it's a bad choice. what i'm saying is that if you do decide you want to proceed and meet him then make sure you are careful. a few of your earlier posts were worrying because you sounded like you implicitly believed some of the thing he was telling you. but from reading your last few posts you do seem to have common sense.

if you do decide to meet him, first make sure his intentions are good. and then of course make sure you keep yourself safe.

as for your argument about decisions, just because decisions are made everyday about the most trivial things, it doesn't mean that the significance of making a right or wrong decision lessens. obviously life goes on, and your life is affected in one way or another, but just because it will be affected in some way or another, doesn't mean that you dont need to stop, think about potential outcomes and decide to proceed. weigh out all the options of the situation, and make the 'right' decision, the one that is most 'right' for you at the time.

and make sure your mum knows when you go meet him. i'm sure she will give you good advice about keeping safe.

goodluck. i'm off to sleepyup, i'l be sure to make sure im well prepared.

thanx girl, goodnight :wavey:

[Boyzzb01]

listen to nobody here
no one will give ya a gud adivsee
do wht u want to doo .
so many fukin hatrz nowdayz on RD

[mr ajnabi]

I personaly think your at a mature age ' and age thing is not a huge issue and if you have strong feelings ' give it a try but make sure you tc meeting up people from net and take a pocket knife with you incase. :neutral:

[mr ajnabi]

listen to nobody here
no one will give ya a gud adivsee
do wht u want to doo .
so many fukin hatrz nowdayz on RD

nice advice. :)

[roy_desi]

yup, i'l be sure to make sure im well prepared.

thanx girl, goodnight
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[Mez]

ok, suppose ur a young girl about 16/17 and ur having a long distance relationship with a guy that you met off the net and he's about 23/24 and he lives in a different country. hmm what do u think about that??

say you talked to the guy alot on the phone and you have chatted , plus planning to meet. do u think a guy is bad for having a long distance relationship with a young girl? what would be the reason most older guys would do it? do u think it's because he may really like her and can't wait to meet her, or for other reasons??

Say u trust him and he say's he trusts you and that he loves you and he can't wait to meet you, everything seems to be fine, he seems sweet and all and u enjoy talking to the guy. plus the age difference and all.


what do u think about this??

discuss.

I think its still statutory rape.

[Canadian_jatti]

yeah its bad if its a youn gurl like dat but not if shes older