arranged marriage.. help

[XoLadii StylezoX]

my friend, 17, is gettin sent back within this week to pakistan to get married.. well, engaged, same shit, she's leaving.. is there an legalities in any of this to stop it from happening? i dont think running away is an option here.. help plzz :(

[nayeemx33]

:dance3: :dance3: She's getting married :dance3: :dance3:

[XoLadii StylezoX]

btw, she doesn't WANT to.

[bad_cheque]

If she is against it, she can refuse to get engaged or married.

[spice_of_life]

Kabool NAHI hai!
Kabool NAHI hai!
KABOOL NAHIEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE HAI!!!

[P*I*M*P]

Kabool NAHI hai!
Kabool NAHI hai!
KABOOL NAHIEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE HAI!!!

lol

[Churailiya]

she shudn't get on the plane once shes there her rights are dissolved :no:

if her parents are being anal then she shud get the cops involved if she really does want to take a stand

but before that she should sit them down and talk to them about it
why are they making this judgement wut did she do? is this sum sort of punishment?

[XoLadii StylezoX]

Punishment I guess, everything added up, but it looks like her dad came outta nowhere.. and her mom jus busted her for a pic w/ her bf today.. mind you, the parents havent yet spoken.. if they did, shed be on the plane tomorrow.. Muslims.. =[ makes me resent my religion, or at least the people following it.. dammit.

[Churailiya]

Punishment I guess, everything added up, but it looks like her dad came outta nowhere.. and her mom jus busted her for a pic w/ her bf today.. mind you, the parents havent yet spoken.. if they did, shed be on the plane tomorrow.. Muslims.. =[ makes me resent my religion, or at least the people following it.. dammit.
so they are punishing her dating by getting her married to sum1 else
do they realize how complex a situation marriage is
and how she'll probably end up divorced if they proceed with this?
she needs to sit them down when they cool off and talk to them

most probably this is just their anger talking

[Chucky_666]

Punishment I guess, everything added up, but it looks like her dad came outta nowhere.. and her mom jus busted her for a pic w/ her bf today.. mind you, the parents havent yet spoken.. if they did, shed be on the plane tomorrow.. Muslims.. =[ makes me resent my religion, or at least the people following it.. dammit.
Hehhe. ..Dont make a generalization about muslims. It was partially your friends fault in having a bf in the first place. Secondly, you shouldn't encourage your friend in rebelling against her family. Instead, look at the brighter side- her parents aren't kicking her out of the house like other parents would have done (some people take this very seriously). Do make sure you stick by your friend though- help her think things through, and with a cool mind.

[Churailiya]

Hehhe. ..Dont make a generalization about muslims. It was partially your friends fault in having a bf in the first place. Secondly, you shouldn't encourage your friend in rebelling against her family. Instead, look at the brighter side- her parents aren't kicking her out of the house like other parents would have done (some people take this very seriously). Do make sure you stick by your friend though- help her think things through, and with a cool mind.
so u think its ok to be forced into a marriage against ones will
how is that islam :sarb: :mad:

[youheartme2]

She can get authorities involved.. and if she refuses, shes either a super obedient daughter, or doesnt care much about her own happiness....

hope she's happy in the end.

[roy_desi]

She should..





























D-duh-duh-duh-duh-duh-DIPSET. :neutral:

[youheartme2]

so u think its ok to be forced into a marriage against ones will
how is that islam :sarb: :mad:

It's not. Women have the right to say no.

[GT & MK KING]

At 17, she too young to get engaged..

i think that if the girl is over 20, an engagement should happen

:dunno:




i can say this that i'm engaged to my fiancee and she's 20

[roy_desi]

At 17, she too young to get engaged..

i think that if the girl is over 20, an engagement should happen

:dunno:




i can say this that i'm engaged to my fiancee and she's 20
I believe a woman is ready to get engaged when she has her priorities in order. Not when Papaji busts through the door and hands his daughter a picture of some dude living in Pakistan, and tells her that they will be engaged shortly; a few days shy from highschool graduation.

[Chucky_666]

so u think its ok to be forced into a marriage against ones will
how is that islam :sarb: :mad:
eh? she messed up .. One does pay for their sins.She probably knew her rents would be pissed, but thought what the hell, they aren't going to find out, I'll hide the truth.

Though, look at it on bright side, she'll be able to look at a few men before choosing one..

Islam says not to have bf/gf, watch tv and talk about dramas, take pictures, wear slutty clothes, says to pray 5x a day, not to be disrespectful to rents, etc.. Most go against all of islam's beliefs, but eh.. there's a limit to besharmi now init..

[**bambina**]

my friend, 17, is gettin sent back within this week to pakistan to get married.. well, engaged, same shit, she's leaving.. is there an legalities in any of this to stop it from happening? i dont think running away is an option here.. help plzz :(


if she was in the uk then yes, if shes in the US then i dunno.

[Chucky_666]

It's not. Women have the right to say no.
Paen Ji.. Tussi Bahut Great Ho!

[**bambina**]

eh? she messed up .. One does pay for their sins.She probably knew her rents would be pissed, but thought what the hell, they aren't going to find out, I'll hide the truth.

Though, look at it on bright side, she'll be able to look at a few men before choosing one..

Islam says not to have bf/gf, watch tv and talk about dramas, take pictures, wear slutty clothes, says to pray 5x a day, not to be disrespectful to rents, etc.. Most go against all of islam's beliefs, but eh.. there's a limit to besharmi now init..


shut the crap.

[GT & MK KING]

I believe a woman is ready to get engaged when she has her priorities in order. Not when Papaji busts through the door and hands his daughter a picture of some dude living in Pakistan, and tells her that they will be engaged shortly; a few days shy from highschool graduation.
thats true...she has to set her priorities straight. u know get things done

i'm gettn married soon and my fiancee lives in pakistan. i've known my fiancee my whole life. i was born here and she was born there

It's not. Women have the right to say no.
this can be true too...if things dont go well between them, she can divorce her fiance.

[roy_desi]

It's not. Women have the right to say no.
Better question, how often is that right recognized?

[bangsta101]

Punishment I guess, everything added up, but it looks like her dad came outta nowhere.. and her mom jus busted her for a pic w/ her bf today.. mind you, the parents havent yet spoken.. if they did, shed be on the plane tomorrow.. Muslims.. =[ makes me resent my religion, or at least the people following it.. dammit.


u do know that all muslims arnt like dat.

[bad_cheque]

Is the boyfriend muslim etc etc?

Anyway her parents are overreacting..

[Chucky_666]

shut the crap.
lol, why, a bit too much to think about?

[nyc_craziest]

lol whats so hard all she has to say is no, if she cant well thats a bitch's fault

[maryammmm]

thats wrong ...

thank God my mom isnt like that ...

my daddy is but my mom wouldnt ever force me to get married if i didnt want to ..

or marry someone i wouldnt want to marry

[XoLadii StylezoX]

she doesnt get to choose who it is.. its her cousin.. talkin to them is out of the question, they're ignoring her now.. and iw asnt generalizing about all muslims, but i see this only with muslims.. marrying their daughters off out of no where.

[Chucky_666]

Better question, how often is that right recognized?
Even better question mate, how often do kids not lie to their rents?

[XoLadii StylezoX]

lol whats so hard all she has to say is no, if she cant well thats a bitch's fault
she has no say.. understand?

[XoLadii StylezoX]

thats wrong ...

thank God my mom isnt like that ...

my daddy is but my mom wouldnt ever force me to get married if i didnt want to ..

or marry someone i wouldnt want to marry
her mom would encourage it lyk anything..

[nayeemx33]

she doesnt get to choose who it is.. its her cousin.. talkin to them is out of the question, they're ignoring her now.. and iw asnt generalizing about all muslims, but i see this only with muslims.. marrying their daughters off out of no where.

Pakis :no:

[maryammmm]

she has no say.. understand?


well she can atleast talk to the guy about it

[**bambina**]

lol, why, a bit too much to think about?


because in islam it clearly states that one should not be forced into marriage.

its more of a cultural thing then religious.

[maryammmm]

because in islam it clearly states that one should not be forced into marriage.

its more of a cultural thing then religious.


yea and if they are forced to .. the marriage doesnt count

[bangsta101]

she doesnt get to choose who it is.. its her cousin.. talkin to them is out of the question, they're ignoring her now.. and iw asnt generalizing about all muslims, but i see this only with muslims.. marrying their daughters off out of no where.

what there doing is pretty stupid. but also that depends on how long dey been living in america. u do live in america rite. i talked 2 ma parents about dis. i told dem ma sisters not gettin married to no cousin. and dey not gettin married untill dey finish like university. went 2 bangladesh last summer. one of ma cousins parents asked ma mom for ma younger sisters hand in marrige i said no ma mom said no ma dad said no ma 3 year old sister even said no. lol. but das kuz we sorta addapted 2 da canadian culture sort of.

[**bambina**]

she doesnt get to choose who it is.. its her cousin.. talkin to them is out of the question, they're ignoring her now.. and iw asnt generalizing about all muslims, but i see this only with muslims.. marrying their daughters off out of no where.


get it right, its not with muslims, with mostly withtin the pakistani culture this happens.

[GT & MK KING]

psst take a peek at this...

http://images.ratedesi.com/gallery/55049_1157659224.jpg


i'll tell u how this happened.

[Chucky_666]

because in islam it clearly states that one should not be forced into marriage.

its more of a cultural thing then religious.
Its more of upbringing/values init.. If her rents weren't brought up like that, she wouldn't have been either. Thing is, she messed up. She might be regretting it all now though.

Advice for threadmaker: Don't try arguing with her family. It's wrong, and they'll tell you that it's none of your business.

[nyc_craziest]

well she can atleast talk to the guy about it
true that homiee

[Churailiya]

eh? she messed up .. One does pay for their sins.She probably knew her rents would be pissed, but thought what the hell, they aren't going to find out, I'll hide the truth.

Though, look at it on bright side, she'll be able to look at a few men before choosing one..

Islam says not to have bf/gf, watch tv and talk about dramas, take pictures, wear slutty clothes, says to pray 5x a day, not to be disrespectful to rents, etc.. Most go against all of islam's beliefs, but eh.. there's a limit to besharmi now init..

wut quranic verse pts towards tv and talking about dramas and bf/gf if u have the intention of marrying them and arent physical with them?

[maryammmm]

what there doing is pretty stupid. but also that depends on how long dey been living in america. u do live in america rite. i talked 2 ma parents about dis. i told dem ma sisters not gettin married to no cousin. and dey not gettin married untill dey finish like university. went 2 bangladesh last summer. one of ma cousins parents asked ma mom for ma younger sisters hand in marrige i said no ma mom said no ma dad said no ma 3 year old sister even said no. lol. but das kuz we sorta addapted 2 da canadian culture sort of.


yea ppl dont think that way over there .. only we think that way cuz of the american/canadian culture ..

[maryammmm]

psst take a peek at this...

http://images.ratedesi.com/gallery/55049_1157659224.jpg


i'll tell u how this happened.


aww soo pretty!! is that ur fiance?

[Churailiya]

she doesnt get to choose who it is.. its her cousin.. talkin to them is out of the question, they're ignoring her now.. and iw asnt generalizing about all muslims, but i see this only with muslims.. marrying their daughters off out of no where.


THAT IS HARAM! she can not be forced to be married with any1 she doesnt want to be she shud contact a local imam or the cops or bring other family members into the picture

[Chucky_666]

wut quranic verse pts towards tv and talking about dramas and bf/gf if u have the intention of marrying them and arent physical with them?
Eh? God knows if they were physical firstly. Secondly, if you really want to, go on, read up into it, and reply soon enough. I would if I didn't have a fucking paper due tomorrow morning :mad:

[Churailiya]

Its more of upbringing/values init.. If her rents weren't brought up like that, she wouldn't have been either. Thing is, she messed up. She might be regretting it all now though.

Advice for threadmaker: Don't try arguing with her family. It's wrong, and they'll tell you that it's none of your business.
if she messed up that doesnt mean u make the rest of her life hell by marrying her to sum idiot she doesnt want to be married to

[GT & MK KING]

aww soo pretty!! is that ur fiance?
:yes: engaged since last month when i was in pakistan for my brother's wedding

http://forums.ratedesi.com/showthread.php?t=186825

i'll tell ya bout it elsewhere.





THIS WAS ARRANGED!!!!

[Chucky_666]

THAT IS HARAM! she can not be forced to be married with any1 she doesnt want to be she shud contact a local imam or the cops or bring other family members into the picture
Her parents are doing it for their family's wellbeing, not to kill the poor girl.

[**bambina**]

Its more of upbringing/values init.. If her rents weren't brought up like that, she wouldn't have been either. Thing is, she messed up. She might be regretting it all now though.

Advice for threadmaker: Don't try arguing with her family. It's wrong, and they'll tell you that it's none of your business.


no, her family should be educated to know its wrong. being forced to marry someone isnt good values, innit.

[Churailiya]

Eh? God knows if they were physical firstly. Secondly, if you really want to, go on, read up into it, and reply soon enough. I would if I didn't have a fucking paper due tomorrow morning :mad:
TV/ DRAMA ?stop being a fob just cuz ur child messes up doesnt mean u get them married cuz u cant deal with the fact that they messed up CUZ U ARE FCKED UP ( the parents) :no:

[Chucky_666]

if she messed up that doesnt mean u make the rest of her life hell by marrying her to sum idiot she doesnt want to be married to
Stop being so narrow-minded. Look outside the box, and look at her faults, her boundaries she crossed. Her parents are doing it for EVERYONE'S wellbeing. It's not as if they getting paid to marry her off.

[maryammmm]

:yes: engaged since last month when i was in pakistan for my brother's wedding

http://forums.ratedesi.com/showthread.php?t=186825

i'll tell ya bout it elsewhere.





THIS WAS ARRANGED!!!!

aww thats cute!

[Churailiya]

Her parents are doing it for their family's wellbeing, not to kill the poor girl.
HER PARENTS DONT HAVE THE RIGHT!!!! PERIOD END OF DISCUSSION, THEY CANT DO THIS...

[**bambina**]

Her parents are doing it for their family's wellbeing, not to kill the poor girl.

and what after the family is dead and she left with this man whom she doesnt love??

i have seen many girls and guys suffer coz of this stupid *family value* ppl have.

[maryammmm]

Stop being so narrow-minded. Look outside the box, and look at her faults, her boundaries she crossed. Her parents are doing it for EVERYONE'S wellbeing. It's not as if they getting paid to marry her off.


yea thats true .. maybe hes a good guy?

[bangsta101]

psst take a peek at this...

http://images.ratedesi.com/gallery/55049_1157659224.jpg


i'll tell u how this happened.


is she bengali?

[Chucky_666]

no, her family should be educated to know its wrong. being forced to marry someone isnt good values, innit.
lol, oyeeee.. Just because some families aren't modernized, doesn't mean their uneducated :lol:

And once again m8, she wouldn't be forced to marry if she had good values in first place.

[Churailiya]

Stop being so narrow-minded. Look outside the box, and look at her faults, her boundaries she crossed. Her parents are doing it for EVERYONE'S wellbeing. It's not as if they getting paid to marry her off.
stop being a fob, ur parents dont own u
and its her life her marriage not theres if she messed up there shud be a better punishment for her them marriage


MARRIAGE IS NOT A PUNISHMENT
A MARRIAGE that happens because of this will always lead in divorce

[GT & MK KING]

aww thats cute!
did i tell ya how it went Mary..my mind been shot wit college:|

is she bengali?
nah nah she's paki and so am i.

did ya think seeing GT as my ID made ya think that i was guyanese/trini?

[Chucky_666]

yea thats true .. maybe hes a good guy?
Ding Ding Ding. We have a brain! :p

And if he's not, once again, think outside the box. Look towards the brighter side. He comes over to states, he'll adapt to the culture and lifestyle here. Its not a one-way relationship. She's good to him, he'll be even better to her.

[Churailiya]

Ding Ding Ding. We have a brain! :p

And if he's not, once again, think outside the box. Look towards the brighter side. He comes over to states, he'll adapt to the culture and lifestyle here. Its not a one-way relationship. She's good to him, he'll be even better to her.

if she has a flaw of rebelling and u marry her to this guy she will hate them for it forever
2ndly she'll most probably hate him for making her life miserable
and 3rdly she'll end up cheating on him

which will lead in divorce

[Chucky_666]

TV/ DRAMA ?stop being a fob just cuz ur child messes up doesnt mean u get them married cuz u cant deal with the fact that they messed up CUZ U ARE FCKED UP ( the parents) :no:
Yeh, if you want, i'll look into it (with sources), recently spoke to an Imam about it, he was complaining about today's women society, and they doing it constantly :lol:..

Back to topic - No comment. I think I've answered that before. A few times.

[**bambina**]

lol, oyeeee.. Just because some families aren't modernized, doesn't mean their uneducated :lol:

And once again m8, she wouldn't be forced to marry if she had good values in first place.


i disagree, just coz she had a bf doesnt mean she doesnt have good values.
i am sorry, but her parents arent thinking about her, they are thinking about themself's. if they love her, they wont put her thru this.
in islam it clearly states not to force your child into marriage, coz if he/she are unhappy by it, the child will never forgive their parents, and god sees this as haram.

[GT & MK KING]

most arrange marriages dont end wit a divorce.

majority of the ppl i know, they've had arranged marriages and NO divorces have occurred

[Chucky_666]

if she has a flaw of rebelling and u marry her to this guy she will hate them for it forever
2ndly she'll most probably hate him for making her life miserable
and 3rdly she'll end up cheating on him

which will lead in divorce
She may not. People DO change, it's a matter of time, and experiences.

[illomatic]

do what someone i know did

(tell the guy you dont want to get married)

[Churailiya]

Yeh, if you want, i'll look into it (with sources), recently spoke to an Imam about it, he was complaining about today's women society, and they doing it constantly :lol:..

Back to topic - No comment. I think I've answered that before. A few times.
omG ur a psycho
imam does not equal quran :no:

illiterate fool...

[maryammmm]

70% of ALL LOVE marriages end in divorce ...

but that dont happen with arranged ones ...

[Chucky_666]

i disagree, just coz she had a bf doesnt mean she doesnt have good values.
i am sorry, but her parents arent thinking about her, they are thinking about themself's. if they love her, they wont put her thru this.
in islam it clearly states not to force your child into marriage, coz if he/she are unhappy by it, the child will never forgive their parents, and god sees this as haram.
We can be disagreeing/agreeing all night. Got a damn paper to finish soon though :mad:

As for the girl- She listen to her parents in first place, and not have a bf, none of this would have occurred. One more thing, I'm sure the rents had given her chances before this last one.

[Chucky_666]

70% of ALL LOVE marriages end in divorce ...

but that dont happen with arranged ones ...
You're a doll :dance3:

Also, if she married Love Marriage and has divorce, there are more ways for other family members to attack her family.

[bad_cheque]

do what someone i know did

(tell the guy you dont want to get married)
That usually works but in this case its a cousin who might have his on reasons to go on with it.

[maryammmm]

Ding Ding Ding. We have a brain! :p

And if he's not, once again, think outside the box. Look towards the brighter side. He comes over to states, he'll adapt to the culture and lifestyle here. Its not a one-way relationship. She's good to him, he'll be even better to her.


yea then u have engagement to get to know the guy ...

[maryammmm]

its jsut the fact that shes tooo tooooo young

even if she was like 20 then it owuldnt be such a big deal

shes not fully mature for that

[**bambina**]

most arrange marriages dont end wit a divorce.

majority of the ppl i know, they've had arranged marriages and NO divorces have occurred


lemme know how many of them are cheating behind their partners back.

i am not saying love marriages are perfect. i just believe that one shouldnt be forced. i am all for parents introducing you to someone, and u have the right to say or no. forcing is a total different thing.

[Chucky_666]

omG ur a psycho
imam does not equal quran :no:

illiterate fool...
You're the fool. Is your brain of no use? If you don't know what you're on about, just stop. No need in admitting it, by turning it around. It didn't help you.

[maryammmm]

You're a doll :dance3:

Also, if she married Love Marriage and has divorce, there are more ways for other family members to attack her family.


yupp and with love marriages, if u live with in laws and get in a fight with ur mother in law, they can say .. well you came here urself we didnt choose you!

my cousin's mother in law said that to her (she had a love marriage)

[Chucky_666]

yupp and with love marriages, if u live with in laws and get in a fight with ur mother in law, they can say .. well you came here urself we didnt choose you!

my cousin's mother in law said that to her (she had a love marriage)
Lol, We think on the same line. I was just about to say that!

Your poor cousin, though, she has cousins like you to back her up though init.

[**bambina**]

We can be disagreeing/agreeing all night. Got a damn paper to finish soon though :mad:

As for the girl- She listen to her parents in first place, and not have a bf, none of this would have occurred. One more thing, I'm sure the rents had given her chances before this last one.


just coz she had a bf, doesnt mean you pack her bags and send her off to paki land and get her married off to her cousin!
and i bet you any money, if hes like any guy that some of my friends have been forced to marry too, he will beat the shit out of her, coz he must know that this happend due to her parents finding out about her bf.

[GT & MK KING]

lemme know how many of them are cheating behind their partners back.

i am not saying love marriages are perfect. i just believe that one shouldnt be forced. i am all for parents introducing you to someone, and u have the right to say or no. forcing is a total different thing.
my parents know my fiancee's folks. my engagement to her was kept secret for like 3 yrs. both of us didnt know bout it until my uncle told me.

Uncle: hey guess what.
me: what's up uncle
Uncle: ur engaged!!
me: wha!!!!!
:eek2:

[**bambina**]

yupp and with love marriages, if u live with in laws and get in a fight with ur mother in law, they can say .. well you came here urself we didnt choose you!

my cousin's mother in law said that to her (she had a love marriage)


what when its the other way round, and the son or daughter throws back in their parents face that we didnt choose him or her?

[maryammmm]

Lol, We think on the same line. I was just about to say that!

Your poor cousin, though, she has cousins like you to back her up though init.


yea n she gets really depressed n she cant even tell her mom because she went through a lot to marry this guy

her mom would tell her that it was her decision

[**bambina**]

my parents know my fiancee's folks. my engagement to her was kept secret for like 3 yrs. both of us didnt know bout it until my uncle told me.

Uncle: hey guess what.
me: what's up uncle
Uncle: ur engaged!!
me: wha!!!!!
:eek2:


ok, but tell me this, were u forced to keep the relationship going?

[illin]

well tell her to grow some balls...shit

[maryammmm]

what when its the other way round, and the son or daughter throws back in their parents face that we didnt choose him or her?


huh?

[illin]

my parents know my fiancee's folks. my engagement to her was kept secret for like 3 yrs. both of us didnt know bout it until my uncle told me.

Uncle: hey guess what.
me: what's up uncle
Uncle: ur engaged!!
me: wha!!!!!
:eek2:

thats fucked up...i would be trippin hard

[Churailiya]

You're the fool. Is your brain of no use? If you don't know what you're on about, just stop. No need in admitting it, by turning it around. It didn't help you.
u actually promote the use of force in marriage...

u wud marry sum1 knowing full well she doesnt want to marry u
thats like rape

or is rape ok in ur eyes too :no:

[l saahil l]

whaaa ?
:rolleyes:

[fr00ti]

whaaa ?
:rolleyes:
^where did you come from :p ?

[l saahil l]

^where did you come from :p ?

idaho.
and yourself ?

[RoMeO6969]

Punishment I guess, everything added up, but it looks like her dad came outta nowhere.. and her mom jus busted her for a pic w/ her bf today.. mind you, the parents havent yet spoken.. if they did, shed be on the plane tomorrow.. Muslims.. =[ makes me resent my religion, or at least the people following it.. dammit.
so ur friends a muslim?


wow thats weird my gf's parents found a pic of us together kissin in the pic

but they jus ripped it up and gave us a lecture bout being Respoinsible people and blah blah some parents are weird

[fr00ti]

idaho.
and yourself ?
Don't say something like that about yourself :slap: :p

I just came back from work.. :( I think one of the patients got me sick.. And now I use a hand sanitizer :mad:

[GT & MK KING]

ok, but tell me this, were u forced to keep the relationship going?
it's good between us...no probs at all.

i'm goin back soon and get married there. i'm gonna work on papers so she can come here. i gotta make my marriage legal here.thats fucked up...i would be trippin hard
i was shocked too..i cleared my head a while and was cool wit it

[XoLadii StylezoX]

so ur friends a muslim?


wow thats weird my gf's parents found a pic of us together kissin in the pic

but they jus ripped it up and gave us a lecture bout being Respoinsible people and blah blah some parents are weird
i dont know anymore, its all really fucked up

[maryammmm]

so ur friends a muslim?


wow thats weird my gf's parents found a pic of us together kissin in the pic

but they jus ripped it up and gave us a lecture bout being Respoinsible people and blah blah some parents are weird


thats alll? wow her parents arent strict then

[pachaas Paisa]

why doesnt she commit suicide?

[RoMeO6969]

thats alll? wow her parents arent strict then
they are well her dad really is

but her mum found the pic in her wallet, and her mum likes me so she jus lectured me on the phone and was like I like u so i wont say nuttin to her, shes jus like b more respoinsible next time and stuff

[GT_Starrr]

thats alll? wow her parents arent strict then

yea for sure, i would have burned that nastiness.

[Churailiya]

why doesnt she commit suicide?
why dont u go resuce her in ur civic and elope with her :slap:

[pachaas Paisa]

why dont u go resuce her in ur civic and elope with her :slap:

I dont want my car ruined. i deserve better quality

[l saahil l]

Don't say something like that about yourself :slap: :p

I just came back from work.. :( I think one of the patients got me sick.. And now I use a hand sanitizer :mad:

:p hand sanitizer.
although, it beats getting sick all the time.
how's your mother ?

[fr00ti]

:p hand sanitizer.
although, it beats getting sick all the time.
how's your mother ?
This is the first time I got sick after a year :(

My mother's quite fine..She should be going to the doctors soon..hopefully.. Thanks for asking.

[GT_Starrr]

yupp and with love marriages, if u live with in laws and get in a fight with ur mother in law, they can say .. well you came here urself we didnt choose you!

my cousin's mother in law said that to her (she had a love marriage)

why the hell would you wanna live with your in-laws?

but OMG in a love marriage if your spouse decides to drop an anvil on your head, they could just say "hey, you chose to be with me".

And that's why arranged marriages are the bees knees.

[Bengal!z]

the idea that a person is not gonna date by the time theyre 18, 19 + is ridiculous. I mean, back in the day arranged marriages occured when you were 13, 14, around that age. It's just not plausible that people are going to be able to hold off their desires when theyre 18 , 19 etc. Stupiddd

[l saahil l]

This is the first time I got sick after a year :(

My mother's quite fine..She should be going to the doctors soon..hopefully.. Thanks for asking.

that's good to hear :D

[maryammmm]

yea for sure, i would have burned that nastiness.


haha my dad would cut my head off

[maryammmm]

they are well her dad really is

but her mum found the pic in her wallet, and her mum likes me so she jus lectured me on the phone and was like I like u so i wont say nuttin to her, shes jus like b more respoinsible next time and stuff

aww thats good

[maryammmm]

why the hell would you wanna live with your in-laws?

but OMG in a love marriage if your spouse decides to drop an anvil on your head, they could just say "hey, you chose to be with me".

And that's why arranged marriages are the bees knees.


na but still most of the time in desi countries ppl live with their in laws .. so it happens a lot of times

[sheerin]

personally arranged marriage from my cuz/friends experince. They didn't have much high divorce rating( and no they weren't forced They agreed to it)
You will fall in love with the person eventally in most cases.

[GT_Starrr]

na but still most of the time in desi countries ppl live with their in laws .. so it happens a lot of times

i didn't ask who, i asked why.

[buylill]

bring him here, take his money and divorce him later on.

:p

this way there both happy

[bigkid]

my friend, 17, is gettin sent back within this week to pakistan to get married.. well, engaged, same shit, she's leaving.. is there an legalities in any of this to stop it from happening? i dont think running away is an option here.. help plzz :(
thats what she gets for playing with herself too much :slap:

[maryammmm]

i didn't ask who, i asked why.

cuz of no choice .. its the desi culture ..

well not anymore but it was

[The Anti Desi]

Tell her to take a handgun, tazer, and butchering knife. Shoot all who bring the guy to you, tazer all the women, and use the knife to castrate the father, the fiance's father, and the fiance.

[bigkid]

Tell her to take a handgun, tazer, and butchering knife. Shoot all who bring the guy to you, tazer all the women, and use the knife to castrate the father, the fiance's father, and the fiance.
:rofl: total annialation <spelling hahah

[gorjuzkuri]

dang...thats sad she got caught
Tell her to talk to her mom
has her mom told her dad yet?
If not, mothers can normally be convinced...and then work your way from there...tell the mother that youll study and become something big and you dont want anything to do with guys anymore ull be a shareef girl. Theyll at least give her a chance!

[bangsta101]

did i tell ya how it went Mary..my mind been shot wit college:|


nah nah she's paki and so am i.

did ya think seeing GT as my ID made ya think that i was guyanese/trini?



ma gf in bangladesh looks xacly like her. so im like wtf shes on ratedesi.