How far do you think your parents would go?

[HeppyG]

If you married some one from a different faith: would your parents disown you, beat you or even kill you?

You cant help who you fall in love with but if its some1 your rents disprove of what can you do?

[:0(-_-)0: mirchi]

i think they would be all passive aggressive and unsupportive. but nothing violent. and they know they havent got anything i want so they wouldnt bother disowning me...

[mamamia!]

they'd be upset and disappointed but that's about it.

[Clueless_uk]

Probably disown me.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

Dont think they would disown me, just be very upset.

[boredatwork]

Probably disown me.

they will probably be ecstatic that you're married off and moving out.

[bigkid]

my mom told me to marry a spanish gurl, so now i have to visit Spain

[R.J]

Upset a little initially but will most likely give their blessings after.

[swtemptationz]

theyd disown me for a while
n if i cam eout to b successful.. theyd probably let me back in.

but theyd never like my hubby. theyd talk to him n all but still not like him as much as they would a desi munda

they specifically want a punjabi n i love em for that.

[Clueless_uk]

they will probably be ecstatic that you're married off and moving out.

LOL...my family wud disown me if the dude was a non-bengali...so can u imagine a non-muslim as well as a non-bengali? UH OH. I imagine they wud be very upset...and disown me till the dude becomes a muslim.

It's all good...I don't want to end up with a non-muslim anyway..tho i cud probs do a non-bengali :think: .

[dopekhor]

they'd disown me and cut me off





but they'd be okay if she converted

[stillsedated]

babies solve everything so even when they find out I'm dating a poor, educationless, jobless chimpanzee I know how to get back in their good books :D

[dopekhor]

LOL...my family wud disown me if the dude was a non-bengali...so can u imagine a non-muslim as well as a non-bengali? UH OH. I imagine they wud be very upset...and disown me till the dude becomes a muslim.

It's all good...I don't want to end up with a non-muslim anyway..tho i cud probs do a non-bengali :think: .
non bengali or non sylheti?

[R.J]

babies solve everything so even when they find out I'm dating a poor, educationless, jobless chimpanzee I know how to get back in their good books :D

:werd:ification.

The majority will come around when they find they have grandchildren.

[Spiky]

lot of fagg0try in this thread aswell.

[stillsedated]

:werd:ification.

The majority will come around when they find they have grandchildren.
They BETTER come round - I ain't looking after the little half-monkey, half-woman creatures! :neutral:

[Clueless_uk]

non bengali or non sylheti?

Non bangladeshi.

Most are ***** anyway. I am trying to refrain from swearing.

[dopekhor]

Non bangladeshi.

Most are ***** anyway. I am trying to refrain from swearing.
quit hating bangladeshis y0

[boredatwork]

LOL...my family wud disown me if the dude was a non-bengali...so can u imagine a non-muslim as well as a non-bengali? UH OH. I imagine they wud be very upset...and disown me till the dude becomes a muslim.

It's all good...I don't want to end up with a non-muslim anyway..tho i cud probs do a non-bengali :think: .

Just tell them its that or you'll be a spinster for ever and no grandkids for you. Surely anyone is better than no one from you're parents perspective.

:think: i heard there are lot of good looking pathans in scotland. Or atleast pathan girls from what i have been told.

[boredatwork]

babies solve everything so even when they find out I'm dating a poor, educationless, jobless chimpanzee I know how to get back in their good books :D

:ugh: what a desi mentality. Toss out a couple of kids in a troubled marriage to solidify it. :no:

[Monaa]

Prolly disown me at first...

And then slowly accept the fact tht i am happily married.

[Areez_UK_HUSTLER]

My parents have always been pretty cool............ I went out with a half nigerian half white girl.......... for 3 yrs........... then went out with a pakistani girl for a few months.......... and then went out with a sikh girl for 5 yrs............

And they've always been supportive of my choices..........

From my own mistakes though......... Im treading very carefully now.........

[Clueless_uk]

Just tell them its that or you'll be a spinster for ever and no grandkids for you. Surely anyone is better than no one from you're parents perspective.

:think: i heard there are lot of good looking pathans in scotland. Or atleast pathan girls from what i have been told.

Ur such a ****! Why the hec wud I want to persuade my parents into somin I dont want myself....I dnt want to be with a non muslim!

I am not into pakis...ladies are ok...but most of the dudes..esp the so called pathans are stuck up..they think they are some sort of royalty...my ***

[boredatwork]

Ur such a ****! Why the hec wud I want to persuade my parents into somin I dont want myself....I dnt want to be with a non muslim!

I am not into pakis...ladies are ok...but most of the dudes..esp the so called pathans are stuck up..they think they are some sort of royalty...my ***

a white convert it is then. :cheers:
or a black dude.

[Clueless_uk]

a white convert it is then. :cheers:
or a black dude.

:bored:

[HIK213]

my parents are cool about it ive been going out with a white girl for past 6 months and they aint too happy but there not overly p****d off either

[ssg03]

i dated a guju gurl, a hp gurl and a pak girl. the hp my mum knew about and was cool with it but since we broke up mum's mentioned she had several reservations about my choice.

i think mum'd accept it eventually and even let me marry if i wanted too but she's always said "Jatt Sikh ONLY" - but i think i can ware her down ;)

on a personal note i dont care about the gurl and what religion she is but if she's religious then it's a no-no for me. id want a sikh wedding and i'd want my kids raised 100% sikh, and unless she'd be willing to accomdate me in that way (selfish but fuck it, my future!) then cool...

[larki_jatti]

they'd disown me... unless the guy converted.

[ssg03]

they'd disown me... unless the guy converted.

converted to sikhi? but wouldn't that mean he'd be an amrit tari? are u that religious?

i think with my mum she probably wouldn't be happy with a conversion but...should still b ok with whoever i chose..."inshallah" as our muslim brothers adn sisters say :rolleyes:

[s11nyk]

my parents were totally cool with it...as long as it was not a black or Muslim girl.

Other than that, all was well.

[larki_jatti]

converted to sikhi? but wouldn't that mean he'd be an amrit tari? are u that religious?

i think with my mum she probably wouldn't be happy with a conversion but...should still b ok with whoever i chose..."inshallah" as our muslim brothers adn sisters say :rolleyes:
Im muslim.. my family used to be sikh only like 2 generations back though.

and yeah, my parents are pretty damn strict.

[foreverconfused]

They'd prefer Hindu. They'd also be ok with SIkh or Jain... anything else and they'd disown me.

[Churailiya]

my parents wudnt mind any race as long as he was the same religion as me
if i married outside of islam they would disown me... and freeze my accounts lol :(

and if i fall in love with sum1 outside of my religion i would:
1. never get to the pt where i wud fall in love with sum of a different religion
2. if by accident it happened i wud try to avoid him and cut him out of my life asap
3. if i was weak and cudnt do that i would be royally screwed and i wud mostly have to pick my parents over him in the end...

i cud never leave my parents for a guy... guys come and go, your parents are the ones that brought u in this world, raised u, gave u ur identity, and love u more then u can ever imagine...

ur man can never love u as much as ur mother does...
you also have to look at it from ur future generation's perspective
i could never tolerate my kids being raised as non muslims... and as a muslim woman i have a responsablity to raise my future kids with the same tarbiyaat and morals and iman that was instilled in me by my parents...

if u marry someone outside of ur religion the kids have no identity, and i could never live with myself knowing my child is not muslim... or has the option of being sumthing not muslim and going "astray" ( not to offend any other faiths)

[Sweet_LiL_Hunnie]

u CAN help who you fall into and out of love with

anyhow some ppl know that their parents are nut bags and straying to a diff culture will result in the dad going psycho and getting his gun, yet ppl still do it all in the name of "love"

well anyhow i'm a product of a family that comes from different background and my dad got his father's blessing but not his mom's. In all the wedding pics she's scolding or looking away and SOUR. I heard the story of why they went through it all bc his mom was a giant issue once my grandpa passed and realized that i'd never bring anyone home that will result in a parent to be sooo disturbed.

[tqthe1]

if the girl was not muslim i would be disown. if she was a muslim but not desi, my dad would need sometime to get use to it, lol. rest of family would be cool

[**bambina**]

If you married some one from a different faith: would your parents disown you, beat you or even kill you?

You cant help who you fall in love with but if its some1 your rents disprove of what can you do?


i have no idea, i know they wont kill me or anything!

[harvey_mayway]

You see Honour killing in the News some times.. :neutral:


Honour killing is the killing of a female, and sometimes her family members, love-interests or other associates, for supposed sexual or marital offenses, typically by her own relatives or relatives of a purported romantic interest, with the justification being that the "offense" has brought "dishonour" to the family.that in the newspapers. Honur killings

[**bambina**]

You see Honour killing in the News some times.. :neutral:


Honour killing is the killing of a female, and sometimes her family members, love-interests or other associates, for supposed sexual or marital offenses, typically by her own relatives or relatives of a purported romantic interest, with the justification being that the "offense" has brought "dishonour" to the family.that in the newspapers. Honur killings


i really cant get my head around that.

[OoDREAmerOo]

If you married some one from a different faith: would your parents disown you, beat you or even kill you?

You cant help who you fall in love with but if its some1 your rents disprove of what can you do?

i got disowned from my dad and my brother for marrying someone of the SAME religion.

so good luck to you ppl tryin to marry ppl OUTSIDE ur religion, just hope u dont have a dad like mine.

:neutral:

-drea

[harvey_mayway]

u CAN help who you fall into and out of love with

anyhow some ppl know that their parents are nut bags and straying to a diff culture will result in the dad going psycho and getting his gun, yet ppl still do it all in the name of "love"

well anyhow i'm a product of a family that comes from different background and my dad got his father's blessing but not his mom's. In all the wedding pics she's scolding or looking away and SOUR. I heard the story of why they went through it all bc his mom was a giant issue once my grandpa passed and realized that i'd never bring anyone home that will result in a parent to be sooo disturbed.

hummm and yet you wouldnt be here, if your parents did that...

[**bambina**]

i got disowned from my dad and my brother for marrying someone of the SAME religion.

so good luck to you ppl tryin to marry ppl OUTSIDE ur religion, just hope u dont have a dad like mine.

:neutral:

-drea


do they talk to you now??

[OoDREAmerOo]

u CAN help who you fall into and out of love with

anyhow some ppl know that their parents are nut bags and straying to a diff culture will result in the dad going psycho and getting his gun, yet ppl still do it all in the name of "love"

well anyhow i'm a product of a family that comes from different background and my dad got his father's blessing but not his mom's. In all the wedding pics she's scolding or looking away and SOUR. I heard the story of why they went through it all bc his mom was a giant issue once my grandpa passed and realized that i'd never bring anyone home that will result in a parent to be sooo disturbed.


in ur case it wouldnt evn matter ,right?... isnt ur mom hindu, and from guyana?

ur lucky man.. :no:

-drea

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

do they talk to you now??


my dad and brother dont... my brother said right in front of me when i went to hug him after not seeing him for over a year, that his sister died last year and he doesnt have a sister anymore... so as far as im concerned, ive washed my hands of him.

my mom does, but my dad is like nazi strict with her , and monitors her calls etc... so he goes crazy with her when he hears that shes staying in touch with me...

all my aunts uncles and cuzins talk to me tho , and a few of them leave in the same state as me.. so i guess thats better than ntg, right?

:neutral:

-drea

[harvey_mayway]

Do your parents feel as if they own you as a piece of property?


As if they would own a Pet..

Kids cost $10,000 a year for 20 odd years. And are nothing, but trouble.

[**bambina**]

my dad and brother dont... my brother said right in front of me when i went to hug him after not seeing him for over a year, that his sister died last year and he doesnt have a sister anymore... so as far as im concerned, ive washed my hands of him.

my mom does, but my dad is like nazi strict with her , and monitors her calls etc... so he goes crazy with her when he hears that shes staying in touch with me...

all my aunts uncles and cuzins talk to me tho , and a few of them leave in the same state as me.. so i guess thats better than ntg, right?

:neutral:

-drea


:hug:

it was very mean of your brother to say that. inshallah one day, i will pray that they come around and you get back your family. :)

[boredatwork]

my dad and brother dont... my brother said right in front of me when i went to hug him after not seeing him for over a year, that his sister died last year and he doesnt have a sister anymore... so as far as im concerned, ive washed my hands of him.

my mom does, but my dad is like nazi strict with her , and monitors her calls etc... so he goes crazy with her when he hears that shes staying in touch with me...

all my aunts uncles and cuzins talk to me tho , and a few of them leave in the same state as me.. so i guess thats better than ntg, right?

:neutral:

-drea

harsh. why the animosity? what they find so wrong about your partner?

[OoDREAmerOo]

:hug:

it was very mean of your brother to say that. inshallah one day, i will pray that they come around and you get back your family. :)


yeah sumday maybe, but im not gonna go out of my way anymore... ive done more than enough of that, and got nowhere.


thanks for ur well wishes :love:


-drea

[harvey_mayway]

my dad and brother dont... my brother said right in front of me when i went to hug him after not seeing him for over a year, that his sister died last year and he doesnt have a sister anymore... so as far as im concerned, ive washed my hands of him.

my mom does, but my dad is like nazi strict with her , and monitors her calls etc... so he goes crazy with her when he hears that shes staying in touch with me...

all my aunts uncles and cuzins talk to me tho , and a few of them leave in the same state as me.. so i guess thats better than ntg, right?

:neutral:

-drea



what is this guy like?... and does your dad hate him cause he was dating you?

(did he want to pick the guy for you?)

Their seems to be alot more to this story for your dad to react in that way...

(If you put yourself in his shoes, and your daughter or son acted like that, how would you feel?)

[OoDREAmerOo]

harsh. why the animosity? what they find so wrong about your partner?


hes trini, has tattoos, doesnt give a shit what ppl think/say about him, and has piercings

:neutral:

never mind the fact that hes HINDU, all his tattoos are related to religion, has his bach already, is a pre-dent student, and loves me deeply and treats me with the upmost respect.... none of that matters

to them, they are just angry that for the first time in my life i made a decision entirely on my own, and since theyre not used to it they took it as an insult.. and shut me out.

-drea

[**bambina**]

yeah sumday maybe, but im not gonna go out of my way anymore... ive done more than enough of that, and got nowhere.


thanks for ur well wishes :love:


-drea


no problem.

yeah your right, u have tried, and u have your family to think about now. sooner or later u will be having kids.

[OoDREAmerOo]

what is this guy like?... and does your dad hate him cause he was dating you?

(did he want to pick the guy for you?)

Their seems to be alot more to this story for your dad to react in that way...

(If you put yourself in his shoes, and your daughter or son acted like that, how would you feel?)


read my post to boredatwork about what my husband is like. And i dont think he hates him cuz of that... he hates him cuz in his eyes i chose Devon over HIM... and thats NEVER happened.. (im the youngest, and the only girl)

if i put myself in his shoes id have never acted the way that he did. Cuz i know that i risk losing a part of me, someone that i created.. i could never turn my back on them the way he did to me... no matter what crime they commited.

all i did was fall in love, follow my heart, and make my OWN decision.... he took that as the biggest diss ever.. and being as stubborn as he already is... hes ready to shut me out of his life, and if it were up to him, my moms life also... for good.

-drea

[Sweet_LiL_Hunnie]

hummm and yet you wouldnt be here, if your parents did that...


i learned a lot from their ordeal that's all....everyone was happy with the marriage but one sour parent can really make a person's life miserable. i woudln't want to cause a family issue and would hope that my inlaws would love me as if i was their own. that's all

However being mixed i have a big window of ppl i know are bring-home-able :) but i do know my dad will have an issue with a non muslim man, i'm not up for converting ppl but i promised him even if i chose that path being the grandpa he'll haev to be around my kids and can teach them islam like my granny taught me.

[OoDREAmerOo]

no problem.

yeah your right, u have tired, and u have your family to think about now. sooner or later u will be having kids.


believe me... i risked ruining my marriage in the beginning by trying to meet all of my parents demands just to make up for going against them.

my mom actually wanted me to come home and LIVE there for a few mths to console my dad... when i had already been married for over 8 mths ...wtf?? and i know that i have to put him first.. cuz the day i said i do.. it went he became my nuclear family, and they became my immediate.

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

i learned a lot from their ordeal that's all....everyone was happy with the marriage but one sour parent can really make a person's life miserable. i woudln't want to cause a family issue and would hope that my inlaws would love me as if i was their own. that's all

However being mixed i have a big window of ppl i know are bring-home-able :) but i do know my dad will have an issue with a non muslim man, i'm not up for converting ppl but i promised him even if i chose that path being the grandpa he'll haev to be around my kids and can teach them islam like my granny taught me.


amen. :roll:


-drea

[Sweet_LiL_Hunnie]

amen. :roll:


-drea


sorry i know that doesn't make u feel better but u know things will have a way of working out lots of times families come around once the kids show up. It's a parent's hidden desire to spoil our future children and that ususally kicks in and makes them get over their hurt egos.

[**bambina**]

believe me... i risked ruining my marriage in the beginning by trying to meet all of my parents demands just to make up for going against them.

my mom actually wanted me to come home and LIVE there for a few mths to console my dad... when i had already been married for over 8 mths ...wtf?? and i know that i have to put him first.. cuz the day i said i do.. it went he became my nuclear family, and they became my immediate.

-drea


true. but i have a feeling your dad will come around. once you have kids he will realise that hes missing out on a big part of being a nana (grandfather).

[R.J]

hes trini, has tattoos, doesnt give a shit what ppl think/say about him, and has piercings

:neutral:

never mind the fact that hes HINDU, all his tattoos are related to religion, has his bach already, is a pre-dent student, and loves me deeply and treats me with the upmost respect.... none of that matters

to them, they are just angry that for the first time in my life i made a decision entirely on my own, and since theyre not used to it they took it as an insult.. and shut me out.

-drea


Good on you woman, that takes heart to do what you did.

:salut:

[OoDREAmerOo]

sorry i know that doesn't make u feel better but u know things will have a way of working out lots of times families come around once the kids show up. It's a parent's hidden desire to spoil our future children and that ususally kicks in and makes them get over their hurt egos.


dont be sorrry... im glad sum1 else knows what im talking about.

oh i def know that. The same exact thing thats happening to me now, happened to my brother in law when he married his CUBAN wife. :shock: THREE years went by and the dad didnt speak to him, but the mom did (how familiar is that? ) then as soon as they had their son... all the hatred melted like ice in april.

unfortunately its caused irreversible damage. where frances (the cuban bahu) never really entirely forgave them for treating her the way they did... and because of that they barely get to see their grandson.. etc. Its caused bad vibes , that can never be erased,.. and frances is not nearly as stubborn as devon.. so it makes me worry everyday whether or not hell EVER come around even a little bit... if my parents do.

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

Good on you woman, that takes heart to do what you did.

:salut:

thanks :)

i never question it... all this shit thats happend to us has only made me stronger... and value my marriage even more.

as cliche as that may sound.

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

true. but i have a feeling your dad will come around. once you have kids he will realise that hes missing out on a big part of being a nana (grandfather).


he told me to my face, that dayu that i left. "When u have kids with that asshole, dont bring them to my house." "I dont want anything to do with them"

its gonna be hard for me to forget those words, and even worse ... itll probably be near impossible for devon to forget them.

-drea

[harvey_mayway]

read my post to boredatwork about what my husband is like. And i dont think he hates him cuz of that... he hates him cuz in his eyes i chose Devon over HIM... and thats NEVER happened.. (im the youngest, and the only girl)

if i put myself in his shoes id have never acted the way that he did. Cuz i know that i risk losing a part of me, someone that i created.. i could never turn my back on them the way he did to me... no matter what crime they commited.

all i did was fall in love, follow my heart, and make my OWN decision.... he took that as the biggest diss ever.. and being as stubborn as he already is... hes ready to shut me out of his life, and if it were up to him, my moms life also... for good.

-drea



You did something why aunt couldnt do, if is to choose between her husband, over her dad,,, (she choose her dad, which is the asian thing to do)

Intresting,

my uncle didnt like the fact she choose her dad over him..

but its one of those really hard choices that no-one really makes.. because ever-way their is a loser, and do you choose to betray the man that looked after you for 20 years, for the man that will look after you for the next 20 years (hopfully)

[vgirl]

drea, did you and devon elope or did you tell your parents you were getting married?
i am from parents who are of different religions too. my dad hindu, mom buddhis

my situation, hindu, different races seems similar to urs

[musicchic33]

they'd be upset and disappointed but that's about it.
same

[vgirl]

he told me to my face, that dayu that i left. "When u have kids with that asshole, dont bring them to my house." "I dont want anything to do with them"


i can imagine how hard it would be for your husband to forget those words, especially if he is the proud type who knows his own worth. but hopefully he too will come around when you guys have kids and if ur father wants a part in your kids life, he will give in for the benefit of ur kids.

[Sweet_LiL_Hunnie]

well lets just hope devon and your dad somehow find a way to enjoy each other's company and fom a good foundation for future relationships within your family. My guyanese family is very mixed and we have a few of my aunts that married into our family that still have bad feelings towards my granny bc my grandma never thought most girls were good enough for her precious sons. with time lets just hope these things get better

[OoDREAmerOo]

You did something why aunt couldnt do, if is to choose between her husband, over her dad,,, (she choose her dad, which is the asian thing to do)

Intresting,

my uncle didnt like the fact she choose her dad over him..

but its one of those really hard choices that no-one really makes.. because ever-way their is a loser, and do you choose to betray the man that looked after you for 20 years, for the man that will look after you for the next 20 years (hopfully)


and do you choose to betray the man that looked after you for 20 years, for the man that will look after you for the next 20 years (hopfully thats where being smart and trusting your heart comes into play. To have loved and lost is better than to not have loved at all.. I live by those words. If i die tomorow, ill be content with knowing that i died being his wife, and not feeling empty or regretful.

That same man that raised you for 20 years should not be your owner. He should be a father that loves, respects, guides, and listens to you. He should respect your decisision to be your own as YOU have to live your life and feel your own happiness and sorrow.. not him. No matter how much you disaggree with ur children... if ur so adamantly against it that u shun them, you basically took one of ur major organs and threw it in the garbage. Because thats what ur children are... a part of you. Now for parents who consider their children meer possessions, and symbols of honor... they are the ones who would be selfish enough to give you such a harsh ultimatum.

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

drea, did you and devon elope or did you tell your parents you were getting married?
i am from parents who are of different religions too. my dad hindu, mom buddhis

my situation, hindu, different races seems similar to urs


we didnt elope... i told them, and invited them and they furiously refused to be a part of it. So we went ahead with it anyway... then they showed up in the parking lot right after it ended and cause a big emotional scene in the middle of the street.

i seee.. so then how do ur parents feel about this? i just cant understand how ppl who experienced almos the same thing your going thru (ur parents, since theyre from the older gen... and married into diff. religions) can have the nerve to judge and criticize you.

its so ludicrous.

-drea

[vgirl]

we didnt elope... i told them, and invited them and they furiously refused to be a part of it. So we went ahead with it anyway... then they showed up in the parking lot right after it ended and cause a big emotional scene in the middle of the street.

i seee.. so then how do ur parents feel about this? i just cant understand how ppl who experienced almos the same thing your going thru (ur parents, since theyre from the older gen... and married into diff. religions) can have the nerve to judge and criticize you.

its so ludicrous.

-drea
yeah my parents are okay with it. they are understanding. it would be totally hypocritical if they were to judge me and say i could not when they themselves have done the same thing. i would not respect their judgment as much in that case and would still do what i thought was right. luckily my parents are reasonable.

his parents are still adjusting. but they are much more traditional so i guess i takes time.

[OoDREAmerOo]

i can imagine how hard it would be for your husband to forget those words, especially if he is the proud type who knows his own worth. but hopefully he too will come around when you guys have kids and if ur father wants a part in your kids life, he will give in for the benefit of ur kids.


oh yeah hes def.. that type. Hes constantly saying, "Imagine if i was some drug dealer withjust a high school diploma ,how theyd feel then." it pisses me off that hes so amazing, and treats me like a queen... and they treat him like shit... it really bothers me.. but if i even mention it to my mom.. she goes off on me about how badly "HE" hurt her (not me tho cuz she thinks he possessed me or sumthing.. and that it was all him and his family pushing me into marriage)

i really hope he does because my brother in laws son doesnt even know his dads family. Hes attached to his moms family like a leech.. but when he sees us.. he hates us. Its really sad , because i awlays see my mother in law crying and upset cuz her ONLY grandson treats her like shit... and its all the baby's mom's fault.

i just hope my children know and love my family.

-drea

[musicchic33]

my dad and brother dont... my brother said right in front of me when i went to hug him after not seeing him for over a year, that his sister died last year and he doesnt have a sister anymore... so as far as im concerned, ive washed my hands of him.

my mom does, but my dad is like nazi strict with her , and monitors her calls etc... so he goes crazy with her when he hears that shes staying in touch with me...

all my aunts uncles and cuzins talk to me tho , and a few of them leave in the same state as me.. so i guess thats better than ntg, right?

:neutral:

-drea

That's insane...and SO coolie of them :no:

Hopefully, they'll come around :bhapi: but in the mean time don't wait around for them to do so..just keep living your life =\

[boredatwork]

same

lol.

[musicchic33]

lol.
what's so funny, slutbag? :bhapi:

[OoDREAmerOo]

well lets just hope devon and your dad somehow find a way to enjoy each other's company and fom a good foundation for future relationships within your family. My guyanese family is very mixed and we have a few of my aunts that married into our family that still have bad feelings towards my granny bc my grandma never thought most girls were good enough for her precious sons. with time lets just hope these things get better


oh thats how most mother in laws are... theyre evil. Cept ironically mine loves me... and my parents hate Dev. yeah time might be the only healer... thank god were so busy.. so i dont have time to sit there and dwell on these things..

another thing, well probably the MAIN thing that has caused issues here is the fact that i didnt graduate b4 i got married. he thinks that i threw my life away, and dropped out of college to go get married and knocked up. which is so not true. I think a big part in making him come around is proving all his bullshit theory about me...untrue.

-drea

[NYzNiCCa]

I wouldn't marry from a different faith.

[OoDREAmerOo]

yeah my parents are okay with it. they are understanding. it would be totally hypocritical if they were to judge me and say i could not when they themselves have done the same thing. i would not respect their judgment as much in that case and would still do what i thought was right. luckily my parents are reasonable.

his parents are still adjusting. but they are much more traditional so i guess i takes time.


what country is he from., and where are u from?

hes hindu right?

-drea

[vgirl]

oh yeah hes def.. that type. Hes constantly saying, "Imagine if i was some drug dealer withjust a high school diploma ,how theyd feel then." it pisses me off that hes so amazing, and treats me like a queen... and they treat him like shit... it really bothers me.. but if i even mention it to my mom.. she goes off on me about how badly "HE" hurt her (not me tho cuz she thinks he possessed me or sumthing.. and that it was all him and his family pushing me into marriage)

i really hope he does because my brother in laws son doesnt even know his dads family. Hes attached to his moms family like a leech.. but when he sees us.. he hates us. Its really sad , because i awlays see my mother in law crying and upset cuz her ONLY grandson treats her like shit... and its all the baby's mom's fault.

i just hope my children know and love my family.

-drea
he seems like a smart, reasonable guy and i'm sure when the time comes and you explain to him that you want your kids to know your family, he will come around out of love for his children. i hope your family do too.

i think its really sad seeing young children chanelled into likes and dislikes of people based on their parents hatred. they are so young and small that their parents should not expose them to those kinds of things in my opinion

[boredatwork]

what's so funny, slutbag? :bhapi:

they expect you to find another hindjew in guam. that they have any right to be judgemental considering their own marriage/background. etc. etc. :eek:

[vgirl]

what country is he from., and where are u from?

hes hindu right?

-drea
ya hindu. he's indian, i'm lankan. haha so close yet so far

[OoDREAmerOo]

That's insane...and SO coolie of them :no:

Hopefully, they'll come around :bhapi: but in the mean time don't wait around for them to do so..just keep living your life =\


That's insane...and SO coolie of them

well they are sum bush backwards blasty coolies.. so it makes sense :giggle:

don't wait around for them to do so..just keep living your life

oh def... i finally started doing that, and things couldnt get any better :)

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

I wouldn't marry from a different faith.


i would have never guessed that. :neutral:... jk :p

so would you date out of ur race?

cuz i find that to be pointless if youve already ruled out all poss. of marrying a hindu/buddhist/christian/jew..etc.. cuz dating can get serious.. and youll just end up heart broken, or breaking sum1s heart/ wasting time that u could have spent finding a suitable hijabi :)

-drea

[NYzNiCCa]

i would have never guessed that. :neutral:... jk :p

so would you date out of ur race?

cuz i find that to be pointless if youve already ruled out all poss. of marrying a hindu/buddhist/christian/jew..etc.. cuz dating can get serious.. and youll just end up heart broken, or breaking sum1s heart/ wasting time that u could have spent finding a suitable hijabi :)

-drea

Arrange all the way! :joy:

[NYzNiCCa]

Oh yeah and I forgot to add PAKISTANI GIRL ALL DA WAY! :p

[OoDREAmerOo]

he seems like a smart, reasonable guy and i'm sure when the time comes and you explain to him that you want your kids to know your family, he will come around out of love for his children. i hope your family do too.

i think its really sad seeing young children chanelled into likes and dislikes of people based on their parents hatred. they are so young and small that their parents should not expose them to those kinds of things in my opinion


yeah.. i pray everyday that they will ALL come around sumday.. atleast for the kid's sake (look at me talkin bout non existant bachas :no: ) hed do anythign for me... but i dont know if forgiving people who once hated his guts is one of them :neutral:


yeah about the kids... its almost like they can sense tension.. and pick up on the bad vibes and reflect it as well. its really sad that a fresh new relationship is spoiled from the start because of the parents. I think thats just wrong, and i hope devon doesnt do that. Cuz itll be really uncomfortable for me to speak up, considering what they put him thru. :ashamed:

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

Arrange all the way! :joy:


u didnt really answer much of my questions... but ok then.

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

ya hindu. he's indian, i'm lankan. haha so close yet so far


haha.. mines trini , im guyanese (mostly)
... again, so close yet so far. :neutral:

-drea

[s11nyk]

yeah.. i pray everyday that they will ALL come around sumday.. atleast for the kid's sake (look at me talkin bout non existant bachas :no: ) hed do anythign for me... but i dont know if forgiving people who once hated his guts is one of them :neutral:


yeah about the kids... its almost like they can sense tension.. and pick up on the bad vibes and reflect it as well. its really sad that a fresh new relationship is spoiled from the start because of the parents. I think thats just wrong, and i hope devon doesnt do that. Cuz itll be really uncomfortable for me to speak up, considering what they put him thru. :ashamed:

-drea


they say time is a good healer, but it's more of a case, on how much time are you willing to give.

[musicchic33]

they expect you to find another hindjew in guam. that they have any right to be judgemental considering their own marriage/background. etc. etc. :eek:

lawlz

good point

[NYzNiCCa]

u didnt really answer much of my questions... but ok then.

-drea

I'm a good kid...I don't date. :)

[King Ghidra]

Momma says i can marry any faith or race.....personally i think she just wants to see me get married :|

[vgirl]

yeah.. i pray everyday that they will ALL come around sumday.. atleast for the kid's sake (look at me talkin bout non existant bachas :no: ) hed do anythign for me... but i dont know if forgiving people who once hated his guts is one of them :neutral:


yeah about the kids... its almost like they can sense tension.. and pick up on the bad vibes and reflect it as well. its really sad that a fresh new relationship is spoiled from the start because of the parents. I think thats just wrong, and i hope devon doesnt do that. Cuz itll be really uncomfortable for me to speak up, considering what they put him thru. :ashamed:

-drea
understandably so. hopefully time will heal and they all can look past their pride/hurt/anger for the kids. goodluck

[OoDREAmerOo]

they say time is a good healer, but it's more of a case, on how much time are you willing to give.


exactly... and then off of that... when do u just start to not care anymore?

-drea

[morning_dew]

If you married some one from a different faith: would your parents disown you, beat you or even kill you?

You cant help who you fall in love with but if its some1 your rents disprove of what can you do?bullsh**. to a certain extent you do have control over who you fall in love with.

[R.J]

Momma says i can marry any faith or race.....personally i think she just wants to see me get married :|

It's past 4pm you slut.

[musicchic33]

I'm a good kid...I don't date. :)
you just sleep around? :eek:



jk'izzl3!

[King Ghidra]

It's past 4pm you slut.

Well done you shit, you learn't how to tell the time

I'm on it ;)

[NYzNiCCa]

you just sleep around? :eek:



jk'izzl3!

I'm a Virgin. :slap:

[musicchic33]

I'm a Virgin. :slap:
:google:

[OoDREAmerOo]

Momma says i can marry any faith or race.....personally i think she just wants to see me get married :|


thats awesome... i say u act on it get debo that ring asap


i suggest this one:

http://www.novori.com/images/inexpensive_engagement_ring.jpg

-drea

[NYzNiCCa]

:google:

stop mesing up my reputation. :neutral:

[OoDREAmerOo]

I'm a good kid...I don't date. :)


hmmm.....


i smell a big smelly bag of lies.

:hand:

-drea

[s11nyk]

exactly... and then off of that... when do u just start to not care anymore?

-drea

i know mate, i know...it's a tough one, but i;m sure you will do the right thing.

[OoDREAmerOo]

understandably so. hopefully time will heal and they all can look past their pride/hurt/anger for the kids. goodluck


thank you :)

good luck to u guys as well.


-drea

[morning_dew]

i got disowned from my dad and my brother for marrying someone of the SAME religion.

so good luck to you ppl tryin to marry ppl OUTSIDE ur religion, just hope u dont have a dad like mine.

:neutral:

-drea:hug:

[NYzNiCCa]

hmmm.....


i smell a big smelly bag of lies.

:hand:

-drea

Damn musicchic3 for messing up my name....now whos going to marry me? :(

[OoDREAmerOo]

bullsh**. to a certain extent you do have control over who you fall in love with.


i think she meant its not ur fault if u fall in love with someone that the world does not approve of.

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

Damn musicchic3 for messing up my name....now whos going to marry me? :(

the girl in the sig? maybe. :dunno:

-drea

[musicchic33]

stop mesing up my reputation. :neutral:
you do that well enough on your own :p




<3 :kiss:

[King Ghidra]

thats awesome... i say u act on it get debo that ring asap


i suggest this one:

http://www.novori.com/images/inexpensive_engagement_ring.jpg

-drea

On the other hand my mum would kill me if i was like gay......:rofl:

I've told her many times i am and she's like you serious, and i'm like no, and my brother thought i actually was a queer :rofl:

I say like alot :| I'm just comfortable with my sexuality, and others aren't...it's because i dress so well :gay:

[NYzNiCCa]

the girl in the sig? maybe. :dunno:

-drea

No I need to find me a chic who does circus moves like you.

[NYzNiCCa]

you do that well enough on your own :p




<3 :kiss:

Damn I cant even stay mad at you. :cuddle:

[OoDREAmerOo]

i know mate, i know...it's a tough one, but i;m sure you will do the right thing.


im not gonna do anything anymore chum, im just gonna sit back, sip on sum lemonade.. let everyone bitch at me till theyre tired of it... then pop out sum kids and introduce them to nani and nana... then seee where they feel like taking it from there.


:cool:

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

No I need to find me a chic who does circus moves like you.


good luck finding one... theres only like 2 left in the western hemisphere. :neutral:

try japan...i hear theres a few there.

-drea

[jus_me]

they wouldnt do anything

im married to a white dude and theyre ecstatic about it :)

[s11nyk]

im not gonna do anything anymore chum, im just gonna sit back, sip on sum lemonade.. let everyone bitch at me till theyre tired of it... then pop out sum kids and introduce them to nani and nana... then seee where they feel like taking it from there.


:cool:

-drea

thet best way to do it, you spent far to much time trying to build bridges which were not burnt by you...time to fly and live your life....like i have alwasy said....Kids will change the way they think....and if it dont....then at least you know you have your own family to support you.

[OoDREAmerOo]

:hug:

:Oops:

:tears:

:(

:Oops:

:rambo:

:salut:



^^^ the progression of my emotions through out the pas year.

-drea

[NYzNiCCa]

good luck finding one... theres only like 2 left in the western hemisphere. :neutral:

try japan...i hear theres a few there.

-drea

One of em must be my jaanu. :love:

[OoDREAmerOo]

they wouldnt do anything

im married to a white dude and theyre ecstatic about it :)


hawlah!

:cheers:

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

One of em must be my jaanu. :love:


"Double the pleasure... double the fun." :giggle:

http://www.suprmchaos.com/cirque-du-soleil2_101002.jpg

-drea

[jus_me]

hawlah!

:cheers:

-drea

lol :D

the rest of the family arent happy about it and thus dont speak to me..its funny how in their eyes its ok to marry a desi guy who beats you and humiliates you in front of your kids yet marrying a white guy who respects you is wrong :sarb: but i dont really care..im as happy as i could be and my parents are happy for me too.

[NYzNiCCa]

"Double the pleasure... double the fun." :giggle:

http://www.suprmchaos.com/cirque-du-soleil2_101002.jpg

-drea

nice you can move from one hole to the next. *slaps self from having dirty thuoghts....thanks drea u kamini* :Pissed:

[OoDREAmerOo]

On the other hand my mum would kill me if i was like gay......:rofl:

I've told her many times i am and she's like you serious, and i'm like no, and my brother thought i actually was a queer :rofl:

I say like alot :| I'm just comfortable with my sexuality, and others aren't...it's because i dress so well :gay:


On the other hand my mum would kill me if i was like gay

nah itd prolly just take a bit to adjust to and accept it... she will learn to love Debo. :love:

I've told her many times i am and she's like you serious,

thats funny... your confusing the poor lady. :no:

and others aren't...it's because i dress so well

Metrosexual to d fullest :cheers:

-drea

[King Ghidra]

lol :D

the rest of the family arent happy about it and thus dont speak to me..its funny how in their eyes its ok to marry a desi guy who beats you and humiliates you in front of your kids yet marrying a white guy who respects you is wrong :sarb: but i dont really care..im as happy as i could be and my parents are happy for me too.

Fuck them, as long as your happy that's all that matters, non?

[OoDREAmerOo]

thet best way to do it, you spent far to much time trying to build bridges which were not burnt by you...time to fly and live your life....like i have alwasy said....Kids will change the way they think....and if it dont....then at least you know you have your own family to support you.


at least you know you have your own family to support you

yeap... and chum chum. :love:

-drea

[paulie walnuts]

and do you choose to betray the man that looked after you for 20 years, for the man that will look after you for the next 20 years (hopfully thats where being smart and trusting your heart comes into play. To have loved and lost is better than to not have loved at all.. I live by those words. If i die tomorow, ill be content with knowing that i died being his wife, and not feeling empty or regretful.

That same man that raised you for 20 years should not be your owner. He should be a father that loves, respects, guides, and listens to you. He should respect your decisision to be your own as YOU have to live your life and feel your own happiness and sorrow.. not him. No matter how much you disaggree with ur children... if ur so adamantly against it that u shun them, you basically took one of ur major organs and threw it in the garbage. Because thats what ur children are... a part of you. Now for parents who consider their children meer possessions, and symbols of honor... they are the ones who would be selfish enough to give you such a harsh ultimatum.

-dreaafter that kind of trade off, i hope your dude never cheats on you.

that would really suck.

[NYzNiCCa]

after that kind of trade off, i hope your dude never cheats on you.

that would really suck.

Imagine he cheats and bounces on her. :no:

[s11nyk]

at least you know you have your own family to support you

yeap... and chum chum. :love:

-drea

yeah, you know that for sure, even though your like 10000 miles away.

[morning_dew]

:Oops:

:tears:

:(

:Oops:

:rambo:

:salut:



^^^ the progression of my emotions through out the pas year.

-dreai really admire you, you've been through sooo much in such a short space of time....its as though you've almost had no choice BUT to grow up quickly.
you come across as a really happy, bubbly, fun lovin' kinda girl...its really awful to hear that behind those eyes and that huuuge smile the same person has/is going through so much heartache.
have hope! i'm sure you're father will come round one day....we just hope that its not too late when he does decide to. i guess you just have to keep looking at the bright side of life (blah blah yeah i know it sounds cliched, patronising even, when its coming from someone whose no way been abywhere near what you've had to go through) you have the most AMAZING hubby and i love your 'picwhores' of you with your in-laws...its lovely how you get on so well with them...you come across as the 'ideal desi bahu'! :)

[OoDREAmerOo]

lol :D

the rest of the family arent happy about it and thus dont speak to me..its funny how in their eyes its ok to marry a desi guy who beats you and humiliates you in front of your kids yet marrying a white guy who respects you is wrong :sarb: but i dont really care..im as happy as i could be and my parents are happy for me too.


its ok to marry a desi guy who beats you and humiliates you in front of your kids yet marrying a white guy who respects you is wrong

dont you just love it? :roll: lol

its funny cuz i have all the cuzins, aunts.,., etc on my side.. but not my first blood (bro and dad, and sorta me mom too ) so we have sorta the direct opposite here :weird:

as long as ur happy.. its just u and him(and ur parents) against the world. :) thats they way i look at my life.

-drea

[jus_me]

Fuck them, as long as your happy that's all that matters, non?

oui, i am very happy.

i dont give a fuck what they say..they have never liked him because his skin is lighter than mine :rolleyes:

i taught him punjabi a few years ago and now he's pretty good at it, they dont think he understands it so they always have stuff to say about him punjabi when he is sitting right there..he understands everything but he has never ever said anything back to them because unlike them, his parents taught him manners.

They dont even know that im married to him..i didnt invite them to the wedding because i didnt see the point, why should i pay for them eat and drink when they dont even like my husband.

Anywho, time to do some dreaded cardio :mad:

[OoDREAmerOo]

nice you can move from one hole to the next. *slaps self from having dirty thuoghts....thanks drea u kamini* :Pissed:


anytime. :cheers:

happy to assist. :salut:



-drea

[King Ghidra]

On the other hand my mum would kill me if i was like gay

nah itd prolly just take a bit to adjust to and accept it... she will learn to love Debo. :love:

I've told her many times i am and she's like you serious,

thats funny... your confusing the poor lady. :no:

and others aren't...it's because i dress so well

Metrosexual to d fullest :cheers:

-drea

Debo is a lovable character after all :love:

She loves how stupid i am at times, it's my charm.....supposdly...I love tormenting her :hyper: That's partly why i do stunts. :D

I wouldn't say metrosexual, i ain't as bad as them..they are all like in touch with there femine side...cry and stuff....i'm totally like John Wayne

[OoDREAmerOo]

after that kind of trade off, i hope your dude never cheats on you.

that would really suck.


yeah it would... but itd just be a part of the life god chose for me.. and id have to learn sumthing from it.... and move on.

id never regret getting married to who i married, nor when i did...even if we did split up.

-drea

[jus_me]

its ok to marry a desi guy who beats you and humiliates you in front of your kids yet marrying a white guy who respects you is wrong

dont you just love it? :roll: lol

its funny cuz i have all the cuzins, aunts.,., etc on my side.. but not my first blood (bro and dad, and sorta me mom too ) so we have sorta the direct opposite here :weird:

as long as ur happy.. its just u and him(and ur parents) against the world. :) thats they way i look at my life.

-drea

everyone thinks my mum would be against the marriage..i cant even think why :sarb: she has been hounding me to marry him since the day she first met him :rolleyes:

every single one of my aunts have been beaten by their husbands, my grandparents and the rest of the family think thats ok because the husband is still brown..i dont like desi guys, i never have..i couldnt marry one. Somehow in their mind it works like desi guy beating wife senseless>white guy treating wife with respect.

my parents dont care about what society thinks, society arent the ones who get the beatings..im the one who married him, im the one who lives with him so why should i put their happiness above my own :neutral:

[OoDREAmerOo]

yeah, you know that for sure, even though your like 10000 miles away.


oh... i wont be that far when u guys move to orlando :cheers:

well be like 40 ft away, and ur gonna come home from work and find me chillin and watchin desperate houswives on ur couch askin , "Whats for dinn dinn chum chum? "" where dat monika be?"

:giggle:


-drea

[jus_me]

Debo is a lovable character after all :love:

She loves how stupid i am at times, it's my charm.....supposdly...I love tormenting her :hyper: That's partly why i do stunts. :D

I wouldn't say metrosexual, i ain't as bad as them..they are all like in touch with there femine side...cry and stuff....i'm totally like John Wayne

arent cowboys gay?

:D

[King Ghidra]

oui, i am very happy.

i dont give a fuck what they say..they have never liked him because his skin is lighter than mine :rolleyes:

i taught him punjabi a few years ago and now he's pretty good at it, they dont think he understands it so they always have stuff to say about him punjabi when he is sitting right there..he understands everything but he has never ever said anything back to them because unlike them, his parents taught him manners.

They dont even know that im married to him..i didnt invite them to the wedding because i didnt see the point, why should i pay for them eat and drink when they dont even like my husband.

Anywho, time to do some dreaded cardio :mad:

:rofl: I get that too, damn my light skin.

:no: Well you just have to respect the man for taking the abuse, but it would do no harm if he were to stand up for himself, i wouldn't take that shit form anyone. My mum has taught me not to take shit of anyone...life is to short to deal with people you don't like.

Desi people are so backward minded :no:

[s11nyk]

oh... i wont be that far when u guys move to orlando :cheers:

well be like 40 ft away, and ur gonna come home from work and find me chillin and watchin desperate houswives on ur couch askin , "Whats for dinn dinn chum chum? "" where dat monika be?"

:giggle:


-drea

yeah whilst slupping away on 2 littre bottle of vodka.........:lol: and as long it's only the couch you on and not on anything elese.....:eyebrow:

[King Ghidra]

arent cowboys gay?

:D

John wayne was pre-gay cowboy :hand:

[OoDREAmerOo]

i really admire you, you've been through sooo much in such a short space of time....its as though you've almost had no choice BUT to grow up quickly.
you come across as a really happy, bubbly, fun lovin' kinda girl...its really awful to hear that behind those eyes and that huuuge smile the same person has/is going through so much heartache.
have hope! i'm sure you're father will come round one day....we just hope that its not too late when he does decide to. i guess you just have to keep looking at the bright side of life (blah blah yeah i know it sounds cliched, patronising even, when its coming from someone whose no way been abywhere near what you've had to go through) you have the most AMAZING hubby and i love your 'picwhores' of you with your in-laws...its lovely how you get on so well with them...you come across as the 'ideal desi bahu'! :)


lol.. bless ur heart. :love: yeahmany ppl cant believe my story , cuz theyd never sense it from my personality or outlook on life. thats one thing im thankful for... i was given the ability to not let shit get me down. :)

i did have to grow up overnight (literally) cuz a lot of my childish/.selfish behavior had to change in order to make my marriagge work, and i believe i changed fo the better.. i just wish my parents could follow example and do the same. :neutral:

youd be surprised just how many cliches can be proven true ;) As for my in laws... they were there for me when i needed them.. and they still are. I was blessed to marry into such a good family. :)

-drea

[cunninglinguist]

John wayne was pre-gay cowboy :hand:
your sig looks delicieux

[King Ghidra]

your sig looks delicieux

Put them in your sig mate :D

[jus_me]

:rofl: I get that too, damn my light skin.

:no: Well you just have to respect the man for taking the abuse, but it would do no harm if he were to stand up for himself, i wouldn't take that shit form anyone. My mum has taught me not to take shit of anyone...life is to short to deal with people you don't like.

Desi people are so backward minded :no:

thats the thing..

everytime they come to my house he is there and that winds them up more than anything he could ever say back to them..its so much fun :D

i cant take it when people say anything bad about him at all..they can chat all the shit they want to about me..i dont give a damn but god help someone who says something about him, he asked me to keep my mouth shut so i have done but it has been very very hard.

my dads a funny guy though, he stands up for him all the time..and seeing as my dad is the oldest of my uncles and aunts nobody says a bad word about simon when my dad is around because they know he will kick them out of the house.

my grandad said that if i ever married him then he would disown me

yeah, i really need him dont i..he forgets that im not his 45 year old daughter who still relies on him for handouts..im self sufficient...i dont need to depend on them for anything.

i should really get up and do my cardio :neutral:

[OoDREAmerOo]

Debo is a lovable character after all :love:

She loves how stupid i am at times, it's my charm.....supposdly...I love tormenting her :hyper: That's partly why i do stunts. :D

I wouldn't say metrosexual, i ain't as bad as them..they are all like in touch with there femine side...cry and stuff....i'm totally like John Wayne


stunts? sounds exciting... u must explain this phenomenon. :shock:

I dont think its stupidity... its like... fantabulousness and folly :)

are they? relly.. cuz i thought metrosexual meant that u just take really good care of ur body, hair, skin, nails, and dress like a flashy lil thing.... i didnt know they cry like lil bitches...

:weird:


-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

yeah whilst slupping away on 2 littre bottle of vodka.........:lol: and as long it's only the couch you on and not on anything elese.....:eyebrow:


hahah.. i dont drink vodka u foo. :slap:

and whoah whoah now... what the hell else would i be sittin on!?? :shock:


u dirty little chipmunk!

-drea

[NYzNiCCa]

Put them in your sig mate :D

:lol: at your sig. I do something similar around my hindu/sikh friends....yum yum this whopper is so good....the look on their face is priceless. :p

[s11nyk]

hahah.. i dont drink vodka u foo. :slap:

and whoah whoah now... what the hell else would i be sittin on!?? :shock:


u dirty little chipmunk!

-drea

well chipmukcs need love too....:lol:

your more than welcome to pop over...now all i gotto do is make the investment......We were talking last night about ti, and it's seems a yes on out part, now just need the funds to make it happen.

[King Ghidra]

:lol: at your sig. I do the something similar around my hindu/sikh friends....yum yum this whopper is so good....the look on their face is priceless. :p

:rofl: the smell is immense

I love beef, :love:

[NYzNiCCa]

:rofl: the smell is immense

I love beef, :love:

:werd: btw what are carrotts for? :sarb:

[cunninglinguist]

Put them in your sig mate :D
whats the cause?

[King Ghidra]

thats the thing..

everytime they come to my house he is there and that winds them up more than anything he could ever say back to them..its so much fun :D

i cant take it when people say anything bad about him at all..they can chat all the shit they want to about me..i dont give a damn but god help someone who says something about him, he asked me to keep my mouth shut so i have done but it has been very very hard.

my dads a funny guy though, he stands up for him all the time..and seeing as my dad is the oldest of my uncles and aunts nobody says a bad word about simon when my dad is around because they know he will kick them out of the house.

my grandad said that if i ever married him then he would disown me

yeah, i really need him dont i..he forgets that im not his 45 year old daughter who still relies on him for handouts..im self sufficient...i dont need to depend on them for anything.

i should really get up and do my cardio :neutral:

I want to be a fly on your wall, i think it'll be funny as hell..

:rofl: Your grandad just got OWNED...they should realise if your happy, they should be happy for you...:no:

Do double tomorrow

[OoDREAmerOo]

well chipmukcs need love too....:lol:

your more than welcome to pop over...now all i gotto do is make the investment......We were talking last night about ti, and it's seems a yes on out part, now just need the funds to make it happen.


so which one are you Alvin or Simon.... o r the best out of the 3?... GOOD OLE THEODORE!!! :love:


seriosuly... im gathering sum pretty juicy facts about orlando, kissimmee, altamonte springs area for you :) ... this will be my new summer home when i drive to orlando :love: ill never have to pay for a hotel again!

:kiss:


-drea

[King Ghidra]

stunts? sounds exciting... u must explain this phenomenon. :shock:

I dont think its stupidity... its like... fantabulousness and folly :)

are they? relly.. cuz i thought metrosexual meant that u just take really good care of ur body, hair, skin, nails, and dress like a flashy lil thing.... i didnt know they cry like lil bitches...

:weird:


-drea

You've not heard of my stunts...I do to many of them to explain.....but it normally end up with me hurting myself.

Momma says it's stupidity :yes:

Basically they are women with dicks, that like women :|

[jus_me]

I want to be a fly on your wall, i think it'll be funny as hell..

:rofl: Your grandad just got OWNED...they should realise if your happy, they should be happy for you...:no:

Do double tomorrow

yeah he's a dick..i know youre meant to have love for family but fuck that, theyre idiots..my whole family is so two-faced it pisses me off.

my grandad has always seen my dad as being different from his other sons, when they first came to this country they lived on benefits until my dad was old enough to work, sent him out to work so he could support seven people..and they had a lot of shit that people back then didnt have..

people see my dad now and the big house flashy house he lives in, the car he drives and they think that he has always lived this way, people think the same about me..because i live in a big house i must be spoilt..funny how theyre so quick the judge when they have no idea

even my family who have seen with their own eyes how hard my dad worked to get where he is today are jealous..but fuck em..i have better things to do.

my grandad as i say has never liked my dad so when my dad told him that me and simon got engaged he turned around and said "well i didnt expect any of your children to amount to much" so i put him right, who the fuck is he to tell my dad that his kids are idiots..are my dads kids depending on him for handouts?

yeah, he annoys me so damn much.

its the same any time we have some kinda function..ive known simon for nearly 7 years and most of the time i dragged him to family parties with him so its not like theyve never met him before..

my mum thinks that the thing that annoys them the most is not even simon..its the fact that my dad lets me have a life, he forced me to work so i could have a life, ive got my own car, ive got enough money in the account to be independent, ive been able to live out, im allowed out in the evenings and all that stuff..its because they never got to do it..she thinks they just use simon as a scapegoat.

even though ive gone on a bit i truly do not care..they see me with simon and they wont even acknowledge him so i dont acknowledge them, they walk over to me and say hi and i just ignore them..why should i put myself out like an idiot if theyre just going to chat shit about me

[King Ghidra]

:|

I just read all of that....what a fantastic rant :rofl: And oh so true, people are always quick to judge, what makes them betterthan the person they are judging?

I don't want to disrespect your grandad, but he seems to be a complete asshole and is stuck in a timezone...

Most desi people are two faced, what is good for another person is not good enough for your own family...They say alot, to other people, about how good one person is and blah blah blah, but behind doors they chat complete shit about them.

It makes me sick.

[ermsomething]

I'd be kicked out...no other way around it.

[morning_dew]

lol.. bless ur heart. :love: yeahmany ppl cant believe my story , cuz theyd never sense it from my personality or outlook on life. thats one thing im thankful for... i was given the ability to not let shit get me down. :)

i did have to grow up overnight (literally) cuz a lot of my childish/.selfish behavior had to change in order to make my marriagge work, and i believe i changed fo the better.. i just wish my parents could follow example and do the same. :neutral:

youd be surprised just how many cliches can be proven true ;) As for my in laws... they were there for me when i needed them.. and they still are. I was blessed to marry into such a good family. :)

-dreai know that i could never be able to go through what you've been through :no: never mind going through all that with a smile on your face :neutral:
i've always thought that 'in-laws' make such a huuuuge difference, especially for us desi girls. its great to hear that you're now part of an unconditional(!) loving family who love you for who you are. :)

[morning_dew]

:|

I just read all of that....what a fantastic rant :rofl: And oh so true, people are always quick to judge, what makes them betterthan the person they are judging?

I don't want to disrespect your grandad, but he seems to be a complete asshole and is stuck in a timezone...

Most desi people are two faced, what is good for another person is not good enough for your own family...They say alot, to other people, about how good one person is and blah blah blah, but behind doors they chat complete shit about them.

It makes me sick.:werd:
and maayn! :no: stop it with those friggin sigs! :no: I'M BLOODY STAAARVIN' HERE! :mad:

[NYzNiCCa]

:werd:
and maayn! :no: stop it with those friggin sigs! :no: I'M BLOODY STAAARVIN' HERE! :mad:

KAFIRS GONE WILD...thats all. :p

[cunninglinguist]

KAFIRS GONE WILD...thats all. :p
i like this is idea
ghidra, get your cam

[King Ghidra]

:werd:
and maayn! :no: stop it with those friggin sigs! :no: I'M BLOODY STAAARVIN' HERE! :mad:

:yum: Thank god i'm at home right now, you want ice cream?

[King Ghidra]

i like this is idea
ghidra, get your cam

What the fuck is a kafir

[cunninglinguist]

What the fuck is a kafir
you and i are the martyrs of kafirdom
now lets go crazy with some food and record it! :dance3:

[NYzNiCCa]

What the fuck is a kafir

you neega you.

[cunninglinguist]

you and i are the martyrs of kafirdom
now lets go crazy with some food and record it! :dance3:
ok i just read that and that is plain nasty

[NYzNiCCa]

you and i are the martyrs of kafirdom
now lets go crazy with some food and record it! :dance3:

make it good....i want some cows...fried snakes....chinks eating fried monkeys in there as well. GO ALL OUT NEEGROS!

[cunninglinguist]

make it good....i want some cows...fried snakes....chinks eating fried monkeys in there as well. GO ALL OUT NEEGROS!
recording with cows may prove to be difficult :neutral:

[NYzNiCCa]

ok i just read that and that is plain nasty

:no:

[NYzNiCCa]

recording with cows may prove to be difficult :neutral:

i'll provide u with slaughtered cows...you can thank me later. :D

[King Ghidra]

i'll provide u with slaughtered cows...you can thank me later. :D

I'll thank you now, thank you :neutral:

[cunninglinguist]

i'll provide u with slaughtered cows...you can thank me later. :D
fedex them to birmingham, k?

[NYzNiCCa]

I'll thank you now, thank you :neutral:

anytime.... :)

[NYzNiCCa]

fedex them to birmingham, k?

naw man that shit is gonna cost money...ill have a relative deliver it at your place.

[desi_chickan]

If you married some one from a different faith: would your parents disown you, beat you or even kill you?

You cant help who you fall in love with but if its some1 your rents disprove of what can you do?

are you sure you cant really help who you fall for???

[cunninglinguist]

naw man that shit is gonna cost money...ill have a relative deliver it at your place.
how amazingly desi
much appreciated

[NYzNiCCa]

how amazingly desi
much appreciated

I am a desi after all. ;) ;)

[desi_chickan]

If you married some one from a different faith: would your parents disown you, beat you or even kill you?

You cant help who you fall in love with but if its some1 your rents disprove of what can you do?

are you sure you cant really help who you fall for???

since none is talking to me ... i might just tell you how lol!
you could narrow the selection of people that are compatible and meet the parent criteria and in this clinically controlled way .. you may thus fall in love with mr Right (parents choice ofcourse) :lol:

[King Ghidra]

since none is talking to me ... i might just tell you how lol!
you could narrow the selection of people that are compatible and meet the parent criteria and in this clinically controlled way .. you may thus fall in love with mr Right (parents choice ofcourse) :lol:

No such thing as mr. right

The sooner you learn that, the more likely hood of you finding someone.

[cunninglinguist]

No such thing as mr. right

The sooner you learn that, the more likely hood of you finding someone.
try telling that to mr. right!

[King Ghidra]

try telling that to mr. right!

Left>right :neutral:

[cunninglinguist]

Left>right :neutral:
there were more left handed geniuses than right handed ones i hear

[King Ghidra]

there were more left handed geniuses than right handed ones i hear

Me being one of them ;)

[jus_me]

:|

I just read all of that....what a fantastic rant :rofl: And oh so true, people are always quick to judge, what makes them betterthan the person they are judging?

I don't want to disrespect your grandad, but he seems to be a complete asshole and is stuck in a timezone...

Most desi people are two faced, what is good for another person is not good enough for your own family...They say alot, to other people, about how good one person is and blah blah blah, but behind doors they chat complete shit about them.

It makes me sick.

lol shut up :hand: my whole family judges me for what i do..as i said i dont care that they judge, the thing that gets me is they think im a slut because i can do as i please..atleast my parents are aware of what i do, unlike my cousins..theyre so controlled by their parents that they have to go out on secret thong buying missions :neutral:

my grandad is an idiot..he thinks everyone should dance to his tune, he wont listen to what anyone else has to say, it has to be his way or no way at all, im so glad my dad isnt like that.

lol that is so true about desi people, i dont know why they do that..if i have something to say il tell you to your face..ive done it before and people have been annoyed but hey..atleast im not licking your arse and then telling others what a cuntscab you are.

at the moment my aunt is getting divorced from my uncle and its all meant to be hush hush..but the aunt told my mum (she has a right to, its her divorce) and me. She lives with her mother in law (dads mum) and the grandma has been telling my other uncle about everything that is going on..that uncle told my dad..the uncle getting divorced rings us up and wants to know who told the youngest brother..my dad wont tell him (some misplaced loyalty) and the grandma wont say it either..(shes an idiot..WHY DID SHE HAVE TO TELL ANYONE? and if she was going to she could have said dont tell anyone else)

this is why i hardly see my extended family, on account of they want to chat shit about everyone and everything and ive got more important things going on my life.

yeah i know thats another rant but you clearly have no problem with reading so dont complain or Il StArT tYpIN LyK DiZ, DeN yU wOnT bE hApPy

[jus_me]

Left>right :neutral:

i can write with both hands..on a whiteboard

yeah i know, i gots some sik skillz.

[King Ghidra]

lol shut up :hand: my whole family judges me for what i do..as i said i dont care that they judge, the thing that gets me is they think im a slut because i can do as i please..atleast my parents are aware of what i do, unlike my cousins..theyre so controlled by their parents that they have to go out on secret thong buying missions :neutral:

my grandad is an idiot..he thinks everyone should dance to his tune, he wont listen to what anyone else has to say, it has to be his way or no way at all, im so glad my dad isnt like that.

lol that is so true about desi people, i dont know why they do that..if i have something to say il tell you to your face..ive done it before and people have been annoyed but hey..atleast im not licking your arse and then telling others what a cuntscab you are.

at the moment my aunt is getting divorced from my uncle and its all meant to be hush hush..but the aunt told my mum (she has a right to, its her divorce) and me. She lives with her mother in law (dads mum) and the grandma has been telling my other uncle about everything that is going on..that uncle told my dad..the uncle getting divorced rings us up and wants to know who told the youngest brother..my dad wont tell him (some misplaced loyalty) and the grandma wont say it either..(shes an idiot..WHY DID SHE HAVE TO TELL ANYONE? and if she was going to she could have said dont tell anyone else)

this is why i hardly see my extended family, on account of they want to chat shit about everyone and everything and ive got more important things going on my life.

yeah i know thats another rant but you clearly have no problem with reading so dont complain or Il StArT tYpIN LyK DiZ, DeN yU wOnT bE hApPy

:|

Food time, i'll be back and respond i have something to say, life changing :rofl::cool:

[punjabi_gurl_17]

i can write with both hands..on a whiteboard

yeah i know, i gots some sik skillz.
:rofl:

[jus_me]

:|

Food time, i'll be back and respond i have something to say, life changing :rofl::cool:

i too must go regain the calories ive burnt off

my mum is so considerate..i came home to see her and she knew this, what did she make to eat?

CHIPS!

:no:

toodle-oo :gay:

[jus_me]

:rofl:

i know youre masking your insane jealousy behind the :rofl: mask

im sorry, i cant help being this gifted :cool2:


:p

[jspot]

I am sorry, but I love reading these family stories. Desi's are have more in common than I thought.

[King Ghidra]

lol shut up :hand: my whole family judges me for what i do..as i said i dont care that they judge, the thing that gets me is they think im a slut because i can do as i please..atleast my parents are aware of what i do, unlike my cousins..theyre so controlled by their parents that they have to go out on secret thong buying missions :neutral:

my grandad is an idiot..he thinks everyone should dance to his tune, he wont listen to what anyone else has to say, it has to be his way or no way at all, im so glad my dad isnt like that.

lol that is so true about desi people, i dont know why they do that..if i have something to say il tell you to your face..ive done it before and people have been annoyed but hey..atleast im not licking your arse and then telling others what a cuntscab you are.

at the moment my aunt is getting divorced from my uncle and its all meant to be hush hush..but the aunt told my mum (she has a right to, its her divorce) and me. She lives with her mother in law (dads mum) and the grandma has been telling my other uncle about everything that is going on..that uncle told my dad..the uncle getting divorced rings us up and wants to know who told the youngest brother..my dad wont tell him (some misplaced loyalty) and the grandma wont say it either..(shes an idiot..WHY DID SHE HAVE TO TELL ANYONE? and if she was going to she could have said dont tell anyone else)

this is why i hardly see my extended family, on account of they want to chat shit about everyone and everything and ive got more important things going on my life.

yeah i know thats another rant but you clearly have no problem with reading so dont complain or Il StArT tYpIN LyK DiZ, DeN yU wOnT bE hApPy

Now now, if I shut up, I won’t be a great conversationlist…but that’s what you women mean by having a conversation…women talk men listen :D

Ahahah secret thongs buying missions, :no: Although they are uncomfortable and not good for the ole health I hear, also French knickers>*

Meh, I’ve pissed of a fair few of my cousins, but as long as my mum and brothers are cool with me, I don’t see the need to impress others, I have the notion of “who are they to me?” they are of no importance to me or my life. Straight speaking is best, atleast they know where they stand with you.

Ahhhh the complex issue of family politics…you just have to love them don’t you. You know us desi folk, we love a good gossip…it’s part en parcel with being a joe/jane darkie

When my parents got divorced no one supported my mum except her family, they kept saying with 3 young boys you’ll fail and all that bullshit. She’s proved them all wrong…and now where laughing.

Hush you’re mouth bad girl, what wrong with marrying your own colour :rofl: I bet you get loads of that. Even passer Byers in the street…when I was with a Chinese girl, brown girls were like what’s wrong with dating a Indian girl…Uffffff

[jus_me]

Now now, if I shut up, I won’t be a great conversationlist…but that’s what you women mean by having a conversation…women talk men listen :D

Ahahah secret thongs buying missions, :no: Although they are uncomfortable and not good for the ole health I hear, also French knickers>*

Meh, I’ve pissed of a fair few of my cousins, but as long as my mum and brothers are cool with me, I don’t see the need to impress others, I have the notion of “who are they to me?” they are of no importance to me or my life. Straight speaking is best, atleast they know where they stand with you.

Ahhhh the complex issue of family politics…you just have to love them don’t you. You know us desi folk, we love a good gossip…it’s part en parcel with being a joe/jane darkie

When my parents got divorced no one supported my mum except her family, they kept saying with 3 young boys you’ll fail and all that bullshit. She’s proved them all wrong…and now where laughing.

Hush you’re mouth bad girl, what wrong with marrying your own colour :rofl: I bet you get loads of that. Even passer Byers in the street…when I was with a Chinese girl, brown girls were like what’s wrong with dating a Indian girl…Uffffff

thongs arent uncomfortable :) and i cant do french knickers for various reasons. its quite disgusting because they dont wash the thongs for weeks on end :Puke: and they cant hack the fact that my mum isnt an idiot and will let me buy them.

yeah, i dont really care for my family..well apart from my brother and my mater and pater..as long as i dont disrespect them, im good..the rest can piss off..when they KNOW what theyre kids do then they can come tell me im being a slut compared to the actions of their kids. They think im such a terrible child because i answer back to my parents but i wouldnt do it if they didnt let me..and its not as if i survive on my parents money..i pay the bills, i pay for practically everything so they can shut up because they dont know shit.

my family only come running around to us when they need shit..my grandmother had an operation recently and they needed someone to make her roti..now my aunt (dads sister) lives closer to the grandmother than we do..did she go and see her? no..she worked the whole time..i didnt let my mum go make her roti because why should i? they dont treat my mum with respect, why should she be their lacky? only now are they realising that my mum is the good one, it only took them like 28 years :rolleyes:

ive got a distant cousin, his parents got divorced and the dads side helped the mum through everything, they disowned the son..he wants to come back now but the kids dont want him because theyre old enough to do their own thing..it sucks how when you get divorced (and its hte guys fault) the guys family think he is still in the right.


i get the whole "why arent you dating an indian guy" lecture from random people and it annoys me so much. me and my husband stayed at the savoy this weekend (fancy, i know :P ) and the room service woman was a desi, she decided to give me a lecture on whether my parents knew what i was doing, going around with a white guy, i told her i was a prostitute and that shut her up pretty quick.

i dont understand why the world and his mum have a need to say shit, they arent me, they havent lived my life, they dont know what ive been through..until they have, they should reserve their judgment..i dont judge people on external factors like that, if i dont like you it because of the way you treat me..not the way you look.

[Malaika__]

Another religion? Oh I would definitly get the nikkal jao mere ghar se speech :gtfo:
Another culture would not be such a big deal