Long Distance Relationship

[SIXPAK GQ]

Would you gave a LD relationship knowing that person was a 4 hour drive?

is this too far to have a relationship?

[bad_cheque]

Would you gave a LD relationship knowing that person was a 4 hour drive?

is this too far to have a relationship?
4 hours drive is a long distance relationship?

Please sell off your bullock-cart and buy a car.

Better yet leave your cave. We have nice houses these days.

[spice_of_life]

Yes!!! I Hate Long Distance Relationship And I Make Sure That I Dont Fall For One.....

[ladoo20]

Yes!!! I Hate Long Distance Relationship And I Make Sure That I Dont Fall For One.....
ahan...
how about long distance fooling around

[Spork]

In the movie "Gandhi" 300,000 extras appeared in the funeral scene. Of the 300,000, approximately 100,000 received a small fee, and the other 200,000 did it for free.

[spice_of_life]

ahan...
how about long distance fooling around
:neutral:

[SIXPAK GQ]

4 hours drive is a long distance relationship?

Please sell off your bullock-cart and buy a car.

Better yet leave your cave. We have nice houses these days.


i am against LD...i would like to see this person atleast once a week.

but 4 hours???? thats too far right?

[SIXPAK GQ]

Yes!!! I Hate Long Distance Relationship And I Make Sure That I Dont Fall For One.....


well i know a girl who is falling for me. she is 28 and just looking for a husband to settle down with and she chose me,

[bad_cheque]

i am against LD...i would like to see this person atleast once a week.

but 4 hours???? thats too far right?
At least once a week and you can't make a 4 hours journey.

As I said please buy a car.

[OoDREAmerOo]

Would you gave a LD relationship knowing that person was a 4 hour drive?

is this too far to have a relationship?


4 hrs is better than half way across the world.

-drea

[SIXPAK GQ]

At least once a week and you can't make a 4 hours journey.

As I said please buy a car.


i have a car. thats not the problem. money is not an issue either so gas prices doesnt matter to me.

I am in Houston and she is in Corpus Christi.

[SIXPAK GQ]

4 hrs is better than half way across the world.

-drea
if it was half way across the world then this thread would not have been created and i dont have any kind of relationship who are far from me.

1 hour drive is max i will go. 2 hours is pushing it but i will settle...but 4?????

[bad_cheque]

i have a car. thats not the problem. money is not an issue either so gas prices doesnt matter to me.

I am in Houston and she is in Corpus Christi.
Spend the weekend with her, if being with her makes you feel good that is. But if you want to spend your time calculating the hours spent driving and whether it fits in with your dislike for "LD" relationships then please don't bother her anymore.

[SIXPAK GQ]

Spend the weekend with her, if being with her makes you feel good that is. But if you want to spend your time calculating the hours spent driving and whether it fits in with your dislike for "LD" relationships then please don't bother her anymore.


she lives with family and she is not desi so me living at her place would not be a big deal for the night. I want to make sure she is the one for me.

[bad_cheque]

she lives with family and she is not desi so me living at her place would not be a big deal for the night. I want to make sure she is the one for me.
Yeah make sure that. Good luck!

[SIXPAK GQ]

Yeah make sure that. Good luck!

I want this to work out or else..........

[bad_cheque]

I want this to work out or else..........
Yeah go on.

[SIXPAK GQ]

Yeah go on.


I am afraid it might not work out.

[OoDREAmerOo]

if it was half way across the world then this thread would not have been created and i dont have any kind of relationship who are far from me.

1 hour drive is max i will go. 2 hours is pushing it but i will settle...but 4?????


it all depends on how awesome she is.

if shes just any ole chick, then i would keep it over the phone etc.. till u reach a point where u can decide whether its worth moving fwd.

if shes "OMG.. :dribble: " i suggest to take that 4 hr drive every now and then... and make sure SHE is willing to do the same for u as well.

-drea

[spice_of_life]

well i know a girl who is falling for me. she is 28 and just looking for a husband to settle down with and she chose me,
well i dont know about her..but its whether ur falling for her or not. if u are then i dont think 4 hr distance wud matter to u. But if u know in ur heart that its difficult down the lane...then u shud just go with the flow and make sure she realizes that u cannot commit with her now..... but maybe u wud give the relationship a chance if one of u guys are ready to move closer for longterm.

[OoDREAmerOo]

i am against LD...i would like to see this person atleast once a week.

but 4 hours???? thats too far right?


is she hawt?

-drea

[SIXPAK GQ]

it all depends on how awesome she is.

if shes just any ole chick, then i would keep it over the phone etc.. till u reach a point where u can decide whether its worth moving fwd.

if shes "OMG.. :dribble: " i suggest to take that 4 hr drive every now and then... and make sure SHE is willing to do the same for u as well.

-drea


I dont know how awesome she is. She is funny, easy going charming, cute. But in a marriage we need much more then that. keep it over the phone???? for what?? why not just end it. i dont like this phone stuff. its not a real way of communicating. What do you mean by oh my god? ACtually she resides in NY (Manhatten) but she is visitng her family here and she said she would stay for me for love. perhaps meet at 2 hour point? both drive half way

[spice_of_life]

Spend the weekend with her, if being with her makes you feel good that is. But if you want to spend your time calculating the hours spent driving and whether it fits in with your dislike for "LD" relationships then please don't bother her anymore.
:werd:

[SIXPAK GQ]

well i dont know about her..but its whether ur falling for her or not. if u are then i dont think 4 hr distance wud matter to u. But if u know in ur heart that its difficult down the lane...then u shud just go with the flow and make sure she realizes that u cannot commit with her now..... but maybe u wud give the relationship a chance if one of u guys are ready to move closer for longterm.

i want to fall but i am not yet..i am trying to avoid this and she keeps giving me hope....she is here 2 more weeks..2 weeks isnt going to decide our fate.

[SIXPAK GQ]

is she hawt?

-drea

hawter then you atleast! ....

[bad_cheque]

To be honest I don't think you are in love with her. If you were in love with her, it wouldn't have mattered if she lived on the top of Mt Everest or in some village in the Amazon rainforest (as silly as it would be).

Please sell your calculator and try to ease your mind.

[OoDREAmerOo]

I dont know how awesome she is. She is funny, easy going charming, cute. But in a marriage we need much more then that. keep it over the phone???? for what?? why not just end it. i dont like this phone stuff. its not a real way of communicating. What do you mean by oh my god? ACtually she resides in NY (Manhatten) but she is visitng her family here and she said she would stay for me for love. perhaps meet at 2 hour point? both drive half way


i meant.. sumtimes (for certain ppl) they can determine over talking over the phone whether they even want to meet up with sum1 or not.. Then based on how well u vibe together.. thats how u can make ur decision.

Thats a big step shes willing to take...are u considering a future with her as a possiblity? u seriosuly need to let her know how u feel, soon so that u can avoid any unnec. heart break.

i honestly think ur looking too far ahead into this... just go see her.. have her come see u.. and if it begins to feel like more work than pleasure... end it then.

-drea

[spice_of_life]

I dont know how awesome she is. She is funny, easy going charming, cute. But in a marriage we need much more then that. keep it over the phone???? for what?? why not just end it. i dont like this phone stuff. its not a real way of communicating. What do you mean by oh my god? ACtually she resides in NY (Manhatten) but she is visitng her family here and she said she would stay for me for love. perhaps meet at 2 hour point? both drive half way
if its for longterm get to know her b4 by meeting her once or twice....only by meeting and spending time with her for few hrs or days u wud know if u want to spend ur life with her. So try ur luck of gettin to know her by meetin her few times...im sure ur gonna answer ur ownself if she is worth the 4hr drive alone or for a life....

[SIXPAK GQ]

To be honest I don't think you are in love with her. If you were in love with her, it wouldn't have mattered if she lived on the top of Mt Everest or in some village in the Amazon rainforest (as silly as it would be).

Please sell your calculator and try to ease your mind.

Its hard for me to fall in love like that, especially at this point in life....i am not a boy next door anymore......I do like her. If she stays here, she has no job but will find one.

[bad_cheque]

Its hard for me to fall in love like that, especially at this point in life....i am not a boy next door anymore......I do like her. If she stays here, she has no job but will find one.
I am not a boy either. But I'm enough of a human being.

Dude, let it go. Ease up.

[SIXPAK GQ]

i meant.. sumtimes (for certain ppl) they can determine over talking over the phone whether they even want to meet up with sum1 or not.. Then based on how well u vibe together.. thats how u can make ur decision.

Thats a big step shes willing to take...are u considering a future with her as a possiblity? u seriosuly need to let her know how u feel, soon so that u can avoid any unnec. heart break.

i honestly think ur looking too far ahead into this... just go see her.. have her come see u.. and if it begins to feel like more work than pleasure... end it then.

-drea


yes our phone conversation is great! great chemistry including sexual chemistry. real life is different. i know she badly wants to see me. i would consider a future with her depending on what she has to offer for long-term. I am alrady feeling this heart break and she gives me hope. I am afraid to see her for some reason. what if it doesnt work out then what? we will be shattered for a long time. we dont want any meaningless sex either

[**bambina**]

if you really want to be with someone, then distance doesnt matter. ofcourse you should see each other as much as you can.

u only make excuses when u dont really want to be with the person.

[SIXPAK GQ]

if its for longterm get to know her b4 by meeting her once or twice....only by meeting and spending time with her for few hrs or days u wud know if u want to spend ur life with her. So try ur luck of gettin to know her by meetin her few times...im sure ur gonna answer ur ownself if she is worth the 4hr drive alone or for a life....


she seems nice and humble. few days doesn't tell you anything.
we need atleast 6 months together for even to think real long term.
i dont live in bollywood movies.
yea its a gamble for me.

[SIXPAK GQ]

I am not a boy either. But I'm enough of a human being.

Dude, let it go. Ease up.

you are a girl?

[**bambina**]

yes our phone conversation is great! great chemistry including sexual chemistry. real life is different. i know she badly wants to see me. i would consider a future with her depending on what she has to offer for long-term. I am alrady feeling this heart break and she gives me hope. I am afraid to see her for some reason. what if it doesnt work out then what? we will be shattered for a long time. we dont want any meaningless sex either


sometimes you should take risks. you dont know whats going to happen, dont predict what you dont know. if its works out then great, if it doesnt, atleast you know you both tried.

[SIXPAK GQ]

if you really want to be with someone, then distance doesnt matter. ofcourse you should see each other as much as you can.

u only make excuses when u dont really want to be with the person.


If I really want to be someone then yea LD doesnt matter. eventually we would be closer and work things out. I am just afraid, very afraid. I can't have more sorrows in my life. I am already 28.

[foreverconfused]

I am not a boy either. But I'm enough of a human being.

Dude, let it go. Ease up.

You aren't? :shock:

[Foxy_Lay_D]

Would you gave a LD relationship knowing that person was a 4 hour drive?

is this too far to have a relationship?
I think 4 hour drive to ur lover is ok its worser like if you live
in Holland and ur lover lives in Pakistan or Us or somethin.
I think it would'nt work. But thats my point of vieuw.

[SIXPAK GQ]

I think 4 hour drive to ur lover is ok its worser like if you live
in Holland and ur lover lives in Pakistan or Us or somethin.
I think it would'nt work. But thats my point of vieuw.


If she was in holland or ever 6 hours..this thread would not have been created and this scenerio would not exist.

Its more her that likes me.

[**bambina**]

If I really want to be someone then yea LD doesnt matter. eventually we would be closer and work things out. I am just afraid, very afraid. I can't have more sorrows in my life. I am already 28.


if you live rest of your life being afraid, then you will never actually get close to anyone. it seems your very afraid of being hurt and let down.

but remember, you wont know if you dont try, and its only if you try u have a chance to succeed.

[spice_of_life]

she seems nice and humble. few days doesn't tell you anything.
we need atleast 6 months together for even to think real long term.
i dont live in bollywood movies.
yea its a gamble for me.

well if ur thinking about marriage i dont think u can or give someone 6 months to some desi girl unless ur just engaged...that is if ur talkin about desi culture. if u get engaged atleast then u wud know that u have no other option other than gettin to know her and love her alone.
Else if she is white u can date her for 6 months...and get to know her...love is somthing which grows overtime! u cant expect to fall in love within few days..just go with the flow and take a risk. Bcoz u have to at times when u really are seeking somone for longterm marriage and all.

[SIXPAK GQ]

sometimes you should take risks. you dont know whats going to happen, dont predict what you dont know. if its works out then great, if it doesnt, atleast you know you both tried.
I am not a risk taker. I take a conservative approach.
perhaps I am giving myself a chance.

but if it doesnt, I will be hurt more then i am now!

[Foxy_Lay_D]

If she was in holland or ever 6 hours..this thread would not have been created and this scenerio would not exist.

Its more her that likes me.
Hmm.. lol ok but 4 hours is ok with me.

[SIXPAK GQ]

if you live rest of your life being afraid, then you will never actually get close to anyone. it seems your very afraid of being hurt and let down.

but remember, you wont know if you dont try, and its only if you try u have a chance to succeed.

True.

I've alrady been hurt many times. I dont need anymore that in my life.

[SIXPAK GQ]

well if ur thinking about marriage i dont think u can or give someone 6 months to some desi girl unless ur just engaged...that is if ur talkin about desi culture. if u get engaged atleast then u wud know that u have no other option other than gettin to know her and love her alone.
Else if she is white u can date her for 6 months...and get to know her...love is somthing which grows overtime! u cant expect to fall in love within few days..just go with the flow and take a risk. Bcoz u have to at times when u really are seeking somone for longterm marriage and all.

she is italian/mexican but converted to Islam.
If it doesnt work out. I won't have any Game for a long time. It will lower my self-esteem

[**bambina**]

True.

I've alrady been hurt many times. I dont need anymore that in my life.


the thing is, u cant or no one can grantee that you wont ever be hurt again. its apart of life.

i think seriously think, if u like this girl, you should give it ago. this could be the best thing that can happen to you.

[bad_cheque]

you are a girl?
I am a 26 year old guy.

I don't the 4 hour drive is the problem here.

There is something about you or about her that is making you think twice.

[SIXPAK GQ]

the thing is, u cant or no one can grantee that you wont ever be hurt again. its apart of life.

i think seriously think, if u like this girl, you should give it ago. this could be the best thing that can happen to you.


I can't my misery continue like this for years. It needs to end somewhere. I like this girl. I don't love her. Its too early. OR this could be the worst thing that happned to me.

[SIXPAK GQ]

I am a 26 year old guy.

I don't the 4 hour drive is the problem here.

There is something about you or about her that is making you think twice.

4 hours is long man. considering I only have 1 day off in a week. sometimes more if i take my vacation hours. how is this going to work out with my busy schedule?

[ali_tx]

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[**bambina**]

I can't my misery continue like this for years. It needs to end somewhere. I like this girl. I don't love her. Its too early. OR this could be the worst thing that happned to me.


well its your choice how you look at it.

the more negative your gonna be, the less chance your ever gonna have to meet someone.

maybe you need to sort out how you feel and talk out your concerns first.

[SIXPAK GQ]

girls at 28 sees a relationship differently. they are looking to settle down. I think she girl is too much into me.

[spice_of_life]

she is italian/mexican but converted to Islam.
If it doesnt work out. I won't have any Game for a long time. It will lower my self-esteem

how is it going to lower ur self-esteem? Well ur trying ur luck and obviously u wont get "THE ONE" right in front of u without even tryin...life is not that easy. If u think u are compatible with her for longterm and all...u just make a practical decision and just get engaged. She has to find her way to move with u for good then obviously and then only u can fall in love by being with her, esp when u know u have no other choice.

[**bambina**]

4 hours is long man. considering I only have 1 day off in a week. sometimes more if i take my vacation hours. how is this going to work out with my busy schedule?


when theres a will, theres always a way.

[SIXPAK GQ]

how is it going to lower ur self-esteem? Well ur trying ur luck and obviously u wont get "THE ONE" right in front of u without even tryin...life is not that easy. If u think u are compatible with her for longterm and all...u just make a practical decision and just get engaged. She has to find her way to move with u for good then obviously and then only u can fall in love by being with her, esp when u know u have no other choice.


Its like gambling. If you dont gamble your money, u wont win for sure! but u might lose ur money too. yea we seem compatible for me. I do have a busy work schedule too.

[SIXPAK GQ]

when theres a will, theres always a way.

sometimes there is no way out

[**bambina**]

sometimes there is no way out


nah, there always is.

no one is more in control of your life than yourself.

[spice_of_life]

Its like gambling. If you dont gamble your money, u wont win for sure! but u might lose ur money too. yea we seem compatible for me. I do have a busy work schedule too.
Just meet her once ..no need to jump into relationship or commitment right away! u wud know instantly whether she is "THE ONE"
or "JUST A ONE NITE STAND". Nothing is going to lower urself esteem... thats just dumb. For all u know u mite end up falling for her...and she mite back off after she meets u......things like this happens. And yes it a gamble...not just this but the whole freakin life is a gamble!

[SIXPAK GQ]

well its your choice how you look at it.

the more negative your gonna be, the less chance your ever gonna have to meet someone.

maybe you need to sort out how you feel and talk out your concerns first.

its easy for you to say that. you are no in my shoes

[**bambina**]

its easy for you to say that. you are no in my shoes


i am in a long distance relationship.

[SIXPAK GQ]

Just meet her once ..no need to jump into relationship or commitment right away! u wud know instantly whether she is "THE ONE"
or "JUST A ONE NITE STAND". Nothing is going to lower urself esteem... thats just dumb. For all u know u mite end up falling for her...and she mite back off after she meets u......things like this happens. And yes it a gamble...not just this but the whole freakin life is a gamble!


as i said earlier i dont want any more meaningless sex. I currently have couple booty calls on my list. I don't like this casual sex anymore. If i was looking for a one night stand then this topic would not have been created.

[SIXPAK GQ]

i am in a long distance relationship.

kitni door?

[**bambina**]

kitni door?


about 5500 miles.

[spice_of_life]

as i said earlier i dont want any more meaningless sex. I currently have couple booty calls on my list. I don't like this casual sex anymore. If i was looking for a one night stand then this topic would not have been created.
yea then dont have sex with her damnit! just meet her. and make sure ur and her intentions are very clear b4 u meet her..thatway she wont expect sex either.. ...also let her know that u want to know her more b4 coming to any conclusion. and yea book a hotel seperate.

[Sweet_LiL_Hunnie]

nah i did a 3 hour distance but thats bc the guy came every weekend or i went home every weekend...when the person makes an effort to be around often than it's not too bad especially if you keep your plate full during the week ...then you dont have time to miss their company u know?

[Foxy_Lay_D]

as i said earlier i dont want any more meaningless sex. I currently have couple booty calls on my list. I don't like this casual sex anymore. If i was looking for a one night stand then this topic would not have been created.
Well well Sixpack has change ;) lol.

[Rogue]

if it was half way across the world then this thread would not have been created and i dont have any kind of relationship who are far from me.

1 hour drive is max i will go. 2 hours is pushing it but i will settle...but 4?????how about you both meet halfway. that cuts the time down for you both. where there is a will, there'll be a way.

[GT & MK KING]

i'm in a relationship at the moment...cuz i'm engaged.

she is very far away...time zone of 8-9hrs ahead of me


:|

[ilyas@!!oops!!]

it's tooo deep and long.....

[Love_Baby]

Would you gave a LD relationship knowing that person was a 4 hour drive?

is this too far to have a relationship?

hell yeah

i dont understand the concept of LONG distance relationships unless theres sum definate time frame (like as in work, or jus a temporary emergency situation - u no u'll see the person again after ___ amount of time)

its such a backward idea...n honestly i've never really seen anyone but desis being wrapped up in this long distance bullshit

[bad_cheque]

how about you both meet halfway. that cuts the time down for you both. where there is a will, there'll be a way.
:rofl:

That must be ok for him as it will be withing the 2-hour schedule he finds acceptable.

[Rogue]

:rofl:

That must be ok for him as it will be withing the 2-hour schedule he finds acceptable.yea, i mean, i've been in 2 long distance relationships before (they didn't start out as one in the beginning)...so 4 hours to me is nothing. lol. i'd be more than happy if they were within 4 hours of me.

[SIXPAK GQ]

about 5500 miles.
u r crazy!

[SIXPAK GQ]

yea then dont have sex with her damnit! just meet her. and make sure ur and her intentions are very clear b4 u meet her..thatway she wont expect sex either.. ...also let her know that u want to know her more b4 coming to any conclusion. and yea book a hotel seperate.


hotel for what?

[SIXPAK GQ]

Well well Sixpack has change ;) lol.


wrong, i have always been the same since day 1. i just dont change much personal info on RD.

[**bambina**]

u r crazy!


hahahaha... well i see him often so its all good.

[SIXPAK GQ]

i'm in a relationship at the moment...cuz i'm engaged.

she is very far away...time zone of 8-9hrs ahead of me


:|

urs is different.
u r engaged. already commiteed.

[SIXPAK GQ]

hell yeah

i dont understand the concept of LONG distance relationships unless theres sum definate time frame (like as in work, or jus a temporary emergency situation - u no u'll see the person again after ___ amount of time)

its such a backward idea...n honestly i've never really seen anyone but desis being wrapped up in this long distance bullshit

i know plenty of non desis in a LD

[SIXPAK GQ]

hahahaha... well i see him often so its all good.

how does that work/

[spice_of_life]

hotel for what?
instead of spending a nite at her bedroom! Rather have ur own room in a hotel to spend nite alone without having sex.

[SIXPAK GQ]

:rofl:

That must be ok for him as it will be withing the 2-hour schedule he finds acceptable.

right..but whats there to do between houston and corpus christi...any spots?

[SIXPAK GQ]

instead of spending a nite at her bedroom! Rather have ur own room in a hotel to spend nite alone without having sex.
yea right......when i book a room, i f**k and i f**k hard! :)

but the situation here is different.

[GT & MK KING]

urs is different.
u r engaged. already commiteed.
thats true...


we dont speak a lot cuz we are busy all the time...we find time to talk to one another.

[**bambina**]

how does that work/


we talk all the time, and we see each other every other month for about a week.

[spice_of_life]

yea right......when i book a room, i f**k and i f**k hard! :)

but the situation here is different.
hahaha i figured!i was thinkin twice b4 i said that myself.

[fr00ti]

Even with the decreasing gas prices, four hours is not worth it. I'd only drive an hour and 15 minutes to see my lurver :p

[selina_786]

4 hour drive is considered a distant relationship????? *headache*.

Please carry on discussing and I will be right back. * takes a panadol pill*.
Its not? *bangs head on wall*

[SIXPAK GQ]

hahahaha... well i see him often so its all good.


how many plane trips?

[SIXPAK GQ]

instead of spending a nite at her bedroom! Rather have ur own room in a hotel to spend nite alone without having sex.

no its ok...i dont need that luxury. I like to cut down on costs. no need for a hotel....

[bad_cheque]

You live in Uk which is understandble but In the US, 4 hour drive is not considered such a big deal.

Why are you banging your head on wall? *tries to stop the bleeding but figures out its useless so he bangs the head again*
Yeah in a country where people commute for one and a half to two hours one-way daily to work this guy is complaining about making a once-a-week trip.

The issues are different here and it shows.

[WonkaBear]

Would you gave a LD relationship knowing that person was a 4 hour drive?

is this too far to have a relationship?

As long as u can get punani atleast twice a month... and its good... GO FOR IT

[SIXPAK GQ]

we talk all the time, and we see each other every other month for about a week.


every other month??? thats only 6 times a year. who is flying ? why are u guys so far apart?

[SIXPAK GQ]

4 hour drive is considered a distant relationship????? *headache*.

Please carry on discussing and I will be right back. * takes a panadol pill*.


yes its far....not in the same greater city area.

its like being in San francisco and los angeles
houston and dallas

[SIXPAK GQ]

As long as u can get punani atleast twice a month... and its good... GO FOR IT

like i said earlier..i dont care about sex!
if i want sex, then i can just call my friend who lives a mile away from me and we can arrange that. getting sex is easy. but finding that person is the hard part.....i want to have passionate sex not animal sex....

[WonkaBear]

like i said earlier..i dont care about sex!
if i want sex, then i can just call my friend who lives a mile away from me and we can arrange that. getting sex is easy. but finding that person is the hard part.....i want to have passionate sex not animal sex....

Ya... the only good sex is passionate sex.
:(

lol... well if u seriously dig the chick... go for it. Distance shouldnt be a factor... u cant really expect to find ur soul mate a few miles away...

i know i haven't

... i think i need to look further and change my no long distance policy...

[SIXPAK GQ]

Even with the decreasing gas prices, four hours is not worth it. I'd only drive an hour and 15 minutes to see my lurver :p

money is not an issue . i got plenty of that. i dont care about gas prices either.
i am looking for love.
my car give me good gas mileage anyway.

[SIXPAK GQ]

Its not? *bangs head on wall*


what do u say

[SIXPAK GQ]

Yeah in a country where people commute for one and a half to two hours one-way daily to work this guy is complaining about making a once-a-week trip.

The issues are different here and it shows.


if she was my wife and/or fiance...then no big deal.....but she is a potential long term g/f.......nothing has happened yet....

[SIXPAK GQ]

Ya... the only good sex is passionate sex.
:(

lol... well if u seriously dig the chick... go for it. Distance shouldnt be a factor... u cant really expect to find ur soul mate a few miles away...

i know i haven't

... i think i need to look further and change my no long distance policy...

in a relationship u can have passionate and animal sex both
with a sl*T, only animal sex

I am not digging this chick yet. she is digging me a lot!..i dont like hurting anyones feelings. she is 28.....i think she maybe getting desperate to find a husband....well there are girls everywhere, that one could be in ur vicinity or maybe just passing by and u may not know it...u gotta throw urself out there and give urself a chance

[WonkaBear]

in a relationship u can have passionate and animal sex both
with a sl*T, only animal sex

I am not digging this chick yet. she is digging me a lot!..i dont like hurting anyones feelings. she is 28.....i think she maybe getting desperate to find a husband....well there are girls everywhere, that one could be in ur vicinity or maybe just passing by and u may not know it...u gotta throw urself out there and give urself a chance

Lately ive been havin religious problems. Muslim girls... and im not muslim. :(

And im not into white chix. And a good lookin desi chick in these parts is a rare find... let alone one with a personality...

[**bambina**]

every other month??? thats only 6 times a year. who is flying ? why are u guys so far apart?


its better then nothing. we are both willing to work at it, and i enjoy being with him very much. all i care about is how happy he makes me and how good it is to be with him.

[SIXPAK GQ]

Dude, I know where you're comin from but trust me, even if you have to travel from NY to california, I wouldnt call that "distant" as long as its within the US. Thats my opinion I guess.


no, i dont play that game.....

2 hours is max for me......i am going to meet half way i guess!....

[SIXPAK GQ]

Lately ive been havin religious problems. Muslim girls... and im not muslim. :(

And im not into white chix. And a good lookin desi chick in these parts is a rare find... let alone one with a personality...
the girl that wants me is italian/mexican..but she converted to islam.

[SIXPAK GQ]

its better then nothing. we are both willing to work at it, and i enjoy being with him very much. all i care about is how happy he makes me and how good it is to be with him.
where is he ? pakistan?

are you going to get married/

[WonkaBear]

the girl that wants me is italian/mexican..but she converted to islam.

Sounds like a good mix and a good situation. I would just see how things go... if ur not into her... than... well... ur FOUR hours away!!!

there is a benefit
:p

[SIXPAK GQ]

Sounds like a good mix and a good situation. I would just see how things go... if ur not into her... than... well... ur FOUR hours away!!!

there is a benefit
:p


not 4 hours...it would be more like 24 hours away..b/c she lives in NY. she is visitng her family here...and she is willing to stay here if we both love each other

[PrOfFaSeE]

no coz i dont wanna drive 4 hours for 2 minutes of pleasure

[**bambina**]

where is he ? pakistan?

are you going to get married/


nope. hes in US.

[SIXPAK GQ]

no coz i dont wanna drive 4 hours for 2 minutes of pleasure

thats how long u last ? 2 minutes?

[bad_cheque]

if she was my wife and/or fiance...then no big deal.....but she is a potential long term g/f.......nothing has happened yet....
My advice is that you shouldn't be pursuing this matter any further. Just break it off now and go to sleep.

[PrOfFaSeE]

thats how long u last ? 2 minutes?
2 minutes and 4 seconds last time i checked

[SIXPAK GQ]

nope. hes in US.

what states r u in both/

[WonkaBear]

not 4 hours...it would be more like 24 hours away..b/c she lives in NY. she is visitng her family here...and she is willing to stay here if we both love each other

Thats crazy fast...

Slow down. Get to know her...

[SIXPAK GQ]

Thats crazy fast...

Slow down. Get to know her...

girls are crazy..if they really like a guy..it is what it is.........cant do anything!

[SIXPAK GQ]

Thats crazy fast...

Slow down. Get to know her...

i am just too charming you know...........

[WonkaBear]

i am just too charming you know...........

Yip...

I have that same problem. Things move too fast. And then the girl thinks im a whore :tears:

[SIXPAK GQ]

Yip...

I have that same problem. Things move too fast. And then the girl thinks im a whore :tears:
yea and they will label u as a player
i dont like that

[SIXPAK GQ]

wonka ; look at our sign up date and post

they are very identical......

[WonkaBear]

wonka ; look at our sign up date and post

they are very identical......

True... they are identical.

Ya... even though i am pretty much positive she knows im not a player cause we still talk a lot. She still says im a whore...


:p

if i was muslim... weddin bells

[SIXPAK GQ]

True... they are identical.

Ya... even though i am pretty much positive she knows im not a player cause we still talk a lot. She still says im a whore...


:p

if i was muslim... weddin bells

muslim girls like muslim guys. and other girls of different religion like muslim guys too

[**bambina**]

what states r u in both/


i am in UK

:D

[maryammmm]

my guy is in scotland :(

[Angelos]

my guy is in scotland :(

LOL and my girl is in canada LOL

[maryammmm]

LOL and my girl is in canada LOL



haha so my guy is close to u .. n ur girl is close to meee!

[Angelos]

haha so my guy is close to u .. n ur girl is close to meee!

HAHAHA, i want my chic... give her 2 me :p

[bad_cheque]

Thats crazy fast...

Slow down. Get to know her...
It's called passion. Thinking back I haven't appreciated it much which is kind of sad.

Anyway if she is moving to Texas from New York then she might as well move to Houston than Corpus Christ

[maryammmm]

HAHAHA, i want my chic... give her 2 me :p


i want my guyyyyyy :(

hes coming to america in 14 month so HA!

[gujulicious]

well seems like you're not really in love with this girl. AND you're probably even not ready to get married. BUT if this girl has potential then 4 hours is nothing, you guys should just casually date for a while and see how it goes.

[maryammmm]

well seems like you're not really in love with this girl. AND you're probably even not ready to get married. BUT if this girl has potential then 4 hours is nothing, you guys should just casually date for a while and see how it goes.



i agree

[wateva123]

Would you gave a LD relationship knowing that person was a 4 hour drive?

is this too far to have a relationship?

i can only wish my significant other lived 4 hours away from me. :( he lives 3000 miles away.

[*~MuFFiN~*]

i can only wish my significant other lived 4 hours away from me. :( he lives 3000 miles away.

my thoughts exactly

my bf is an 8 hr trip away

ny - montreal =(

[SIXPAK GQ]

my guy is in scotland :(


why???? whats up with these so far relationships? it doesnt make sense...

[SIXPAK GQ]

It's called passion. Thinking back I haven't appreciated it much which is kind of sad.

Anyway if she is moving to Texas from New York then she might as well move to Houston than Corpus Christ

she cant move to houston. she has family Corpus Christi. She doesnt know anyone in Houston.

[SIXPAK GQ]

well seems like you're not really in love with this girl. AND you're probably even not ready to get married. BUT if this girl has potential then 4 hours is nothing, you guys should just casually date for a while and see how it goes.


it takes a lot to be in love. this is lust. how do u know i am not going to marry her? if we both both efforts into it. its possible.... if i really like her then 4 hours is nothing. as of now, it seems far....should i be investing my time to drive that far?

[bad_cheque]

she cant move to houston. she has family Corpus Christi. She doesnt know anyone in Houston.
How old is she?

[SIXPAK GQ]

How old is she?


28.
i am 36 days older then her.

[lagaan]

it's not far. i'm dealing with five hours. now that's hell.

[SIXPAK GQ]

it's not far. i'm dealing with five hours. now that's hell.


all depends. it has not got serious yet. if it does..then these hours arent too long.

[lagaan]

all depends. it has not got serious yet. if it does..then these hours arent too long.
yeah. wait it out, see if she's worth it. gluck.

[SIXPAK GQ]

yeah. wait it out, see if she's worth it. gluck.
guess what, she found a relative in my town and she is going to come for a week....from ny to 4 hours away to like 20 mins away....she shows pride

[SIXPAK GQ]

Aur madat chai hai

[SIXPAK GQ]

yeah. wait it out, see if she's worth it. gluck.


i want this to work out period..regardless of the situation....should i force this?

[T.Dimera]

Would you gave a LD relationship knowing that person was a 4 hour drive?

is this too far to have a relationship?

thats tough....

i don't do long distance relationships and i certainly wouldn't date someone who was living in another country....i need a girl close by

[SIXPAK GQ]

thats tough....

i don't do long distance relationships and i certainly wouldn't date someone who was living in another country....i need a girl close by
4 hours here

[T.Dimera]

4 hours here

seems like a lot still...if you guys get together for a weekend..someone better stay for the weekend

[ChOkoHoLiC]

they dont work...ive tried

[SIXPAK GQ]

seems like a lot still...if you guys get together for a weekend..someone better stay for the weekend


plan is to visit each other twice a month..thats seeing each other every weekend......maybe leave early in the morning like 6am. beat the traffic even on the weekend. be there at 10am...leave real late at night. make sure no work next morning...

[T.Dimera]

plan is to visit each other twice a month..thats seeing each other every weekend......maybe leave early in the morning like 6am. beat the traffic even on the weekend. be there at 10am...leave real late at night. make sure no work next morning...

how did you meet her?

[monishb]

A 3 hour drive isnt too bad!

Try being in a diffrent province or diffrent country that is a challenge!

I would still give it a go.

[SIXPAK GQ]

A 3 hour drive isnt too bad!

Try being in a diffrent province or diffrent country that is a challenge!

I would still give it a go.


its 4 hourss

i dont care about difference province..i don play that game..so it would never apply to me......i would never choose that route......

[TaCoMaStUd]

Nope, I have never been in a long distance relationship, but all the stories i have heard have been negative.

[SIXPAK GQ]

Nope, I have never been in a long distance relationship, but all the stories i have heard have been negative.


most of them are succeessful at RD

[monishb]

its 4 hourss

i dont care about difference province..i don play that game..so it would never apply to me......i would never choose that route......

whatever 3-4 hrs all the same LONG DISTANCE!

i dont play any games! i am not into that. too bad you wouldnt choose that route there are a lot of women out there, actually i am seeing one since a year now, shes really nice.

[SIXPAK GQ]

There was one boy online who was willing to do that and he was the one that initiated something between me and him.


But I said something stupid, and he doesn't want to come see me anymore. Oh well. :sarb:


depends what you said.

[SIXPAK GQ]

whatever 3-4 hrs all the same LONG DISTANCE!

i dont play any games! i am not into that. too bad you wouldnt choose that route there are a lot of women out there, actually i am seeing one since a year now, shes really nice.


makes a big differencea about the hours.

[gorjuzkuri]

they rarely work...i had one for two and a half years! It sucked...it was beautiful as long as both of us tried. But, then it goes down the drain as soon as one gets busy or stops giving it that much priority!

[SIXPAK GQ]

they rarely work...i had one for two and a half years! It sucked...it was beautiful as long as both of us tried. But, then it goes down the drain as soon as one gets busy or stops giving it that much priority!
what were u doing for 2.5 years? how far?

busy with what? everyone is busy. make a schedule.

[gorjuzkuri]

what were u doing for 2.5 years? how far?

busy with what? everyone is busy. make a schedule.
haha trust me, the type of TRYING i did none of yall could have pulled it off.
We got the chance to see each other about 10 times in that amount of time. We did everything possible to keep it together. Two hours away. I made a schedule...MY SCHEDULE WAS HIM! And, then when reality hits and you find better girls and better things to do in life cause the city you live in changes you...thats when things go downhill. Care to believe i was cheated on numerous times by that guy and i still kept the relationship going...talk about mental torture. Yes, i was busy...but i dropped everything in life for one second of his company. I dont think anyone could have pulled it off as well as i did. I dont blame him though...we were young, childish, and i mean there was variety as to where he was living. So i guess im all good now! But, its not recommended

[SIXPAK GQ]

haha trust me, the type of TRYING i did none of yall could have pulled it off.
We got the chance to see each other about 10 times in that amount of time. We did everything possible to keep it together. Two hours away. I made a schedule...MY SCHEDULE WAS HIM! And, then when reality hits and you find better girls and better things to do in life cause the city you live in changes you...thats when things go downhill. Care to believe i was cheated on numerous times by that guy and i still kept the relationship going...talk about mental torture. Yes, i was busy...but i dropped everything in life for one second of his company. I dont think anyone could have pulled it off as well as i did. I dont blame him though...we were young, childish, and i mean there was variety as to where he was living. So i guess im all good now! But, its not recommended

10 times in 2.5 years is not a lot. ok 2 hours is not a lot. both have a car? you were stupid to keep this relationship going. why would you do that to a cheater? you tortured urself. we are both 28. we have a life, experienced both relationship wise and sexually.

[gorjuzkuri]

10 times in 2.5 years is not a lot. ok 2 hours is not a lot. both have a car? you were stupid to keep this relationship going. why would you do that to a cheater? you tortured urself. we are both 28. we have a life, experienced both relationship wise and sexually.
thats why i said we were young
not stupid though.
Because, they say people make mistakes...and i believe that someone should be forgiven for their mistakes if they repent.
When i said 10 times in a 2.5 years, thats what i meant by hard conditions that i had to deal with.
And, we kept up with it pretty well...till the very end of time.
But, generally out of this relationship i have learnt that long distance are not the best. Unless, you have a lot of understanding and no insecurities. Its like marrying a doctor...a lot of people can do it but it takes understanding and faith in each other. Because, a doctor cannot always be the type of husband that is there all the time. Their work schedule, their life, and the group that they tend to reside in are different. A person who can manage with them are very well off. But, like i said any relationship it takes understanding, patience, and trust! Thats all! Mine just had sore luck BUT IT WASNT STUPID!

[SIXPAK GQ]

thats why i said we were young
not stupid though.
Because, they say people make mistakes...and i believe that someone should be forgiven for their mistakes if they repent.
When i said 10 times in a 2.5 years, thats what i meant by hard conditions that i had to deal with.
And, we kept up with it pretty well...till the very end of time.
But, generally out of this relationship i have learnt that long distance are not the best. Unless, you have a lot of understanding and no insecurities. Its like marrying a doctor...a lot of people can do it but it takes understanding and faith in each other. Because, a doctor cannot always be the type of husband that is there all the time. Their work schedule, their life, and the group that they tend to reside in are different. A person who can manage with them are very well off. But, like i said any relationship it takes understanding, patience, and trust! Thats all! Mine just had sore luck BUT IT WASNT STUPID!

its great that you learned from ur mistakes and learned it young.

A person who can manage with them are very well off???? what do you mean by that? a lady who can put up with a doctor is well off? I feel sorry for people who marry a doctor. money but no time to spend with your significant other.

[Canadian_jatti]

well it might be good at first but not for long unless u get like real serious or somefin

[di vinci]

long distance relationship are a no no, just imagine u have a fight are u gona wait a whole week just go and get marid and leave us to it

[SIXPAK GQ]

long distance relationship are a no no, just imagine u have a fight are u gona wait a whole week just go and get marid and leave us to it
what does fight have to do with this?

[stillsedated]

(Naive advice from a 22year old) but your problem sort of starts if and when you realise you really DO like her and perhaps fall in love with her. Right now adrenaline and excitement may very well keep you enthusiastic about 'your next meeting' and all her character quirks are endearing. If you really fall for her the distance could become more frustrating and you may, in retaliation, just give up on the relationship. Come to think of it, if either of you doesn't give 100% towards keeping the other happy and secure, it could end anyway. Little things like lunchbreak phone calls and letters and cards plus occassional spontaneous visits make an enormous difference when you can't physically see someone everyday. If you won't ever entertain the idea of moving to be closer to her/accommodating her in your life wherever you live then best tell her now because it's never going to progress! DON'T let her move job and home to be closer to you when you don;t even love her and may never do so!

[SIXPAK GQ]

(Naive advice from a 22year old) but your problem sort of starts if and when you realise you really DO like her and perhaps fall in love with her. Right now adrenaline and excitement may very well keep you enthusiastic about 'your next meeting' and all her character quirks are endearing. If you really fall for her the distance could become more frustrating and you may, in retaliation, just give up on the relationship. Come to think of it, if either of you doesn't give 100% towards keeping the other happy and secure, it could end anyway. Little things like lunchbreak phone calls and letters and cards plus occassional spontaneous visits make an enormous difference when you can't physically see someone everyday. If you won't ever entertain the idea of moving to be closer to her/accommodating her in your life wherever you live then best tell her now because it's never going to progress! DON'T let her move job and home to be closer to you when you don;t even love her and may never do so!

It it becomes serious but thats a long time from now. Then 4 hours is not a lot to drive. I am not going to move.

[gorjuzkuri]

its great that you learned from ur mistakes and learned it young.

A person who can manage with them are very well off???? what do you mean by that? a lady who can put up with a doctor is well off? I feel sorry for people who marry a doctor. money but no time to spend with your significant other.

thats why i compared long distance relationships to a relationship with a doctor. Like i said, if you can manage and be devoted to the other in a long distance relationship then you are well off. Just as, RARE people can really adjust to a doctors schedule...and if they do then wow they really are well off. Its hard to maintain it...but it takes a lot of understanding and maturity...it just really depends on the person or people. Just dont take it half way and let go off it in between saying it was the distance that caused the breakup. Because, then thats a bigggg NO NO! Because, you knew in advance what you were getting into.

[SIXPAK GQ]

thats why i compared long distance relationships to a relationship with a doctor. Like i said, if you can manage and be devoted to the other in a long distance relationship then you are well off. Just as, RARE people can really adjust to a doctors schedule...and if they do then wow they really are well off. Its hard to maintain it...but it takes a lot of understanding and maturity...it just really depends on the person or people. Just dont take it half way and let go off it in between saying it was the distance that caused the breakup. Because, then thats a bigggg NO NO! Because, you knew in advance what you were getting into.


I am actually against LDR's but this was an exception after a long long time just because I am looking for a serious relationship. If it was 6 hours then forget it. Its her thats pushing this relationship. She maybe playing around though, who knows.

[gorjuzkuri]

I am actually against LDR's but this was an exception after a long long time just because I am looking for a serious relationship. If it was 6 hours then forget it. Its her thats pushing this relationship. She maybe playing around though, who knows.

if your saying that shes pushing it...then dont do it. Chances are at the end the blame will go to her. Or, itll come down to her being the one who wants it. It should be something both parties find a necessity.

[SIXPAK GQ]

if your saying that shes pushing it...then dont do it. Chances are at the end the blame will go to her. Or, itll come down to her being the one who wants it. It should be something both parties find a necessity.


this is just going to end up in one night stand or a f**k buddy relationship for a month or two. No one is to blame here. We are both looking for love. Try being single at 28.

[SIXPAK GQ]

I have put a end to this relationship therefore this thread should be dead

[NeRgYz]

ahan...
how about long distance fooling around


:rofl:

[SIXPAK GQ]

:rofl:

phone sex is good though...but meaningless when its not going to work out

[HeAvYmAcHiNeGuN]

Would you gave a LD relationship knowing that person was a 4 hour drive?

is this too far to have a relationship?

ITS PERFECTLY FINE!!!!!!!!!!!
NO HARM IN IT :p