Who else notice this..

[OmgItsSana08]

Okay, It seems like muslim girls who are either raised or born in USA/UK etc. are the ones that don't date. There parents don't even allow them to hang out with white friends (girls). Girls that I know of that fit that description never even talked to a guy on the phone. On the other hand girls that just came to USA/UK/CAN ect not too long ago try too hard to fit in so they have boy friends and dress somewhat kinda like a slut. At first I thought this was just where I live however, recently I had a conversation with someone whos related to me in a weird way and was also on the forums before she thinks the same way.

Also I've notice girls that live around a lot desi people date too and go to parties and all that jazz, they just tell there parents they are hanging out with a desi and the parents let them go thinking its desi so they won't do anything stupid. But girls who don't have many desi's around them they don't because there parents don't approve of that.

With me my parents rather have me hang out with girls who are desi than non desi esp the ones that came to here just recently. My parents obviosely don't know what these girls have done. Most of them are ALOT worst than my nondesi friends which is pretty sad.

P.S. I made this statement based on what I had observed. I am not saying every girl is like that.

anyone else notice this?

[NYC101]

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[OmgItsSana08]

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:( :(

i think its cause i wrote too much and no one wants to read it

[Angelos]

sure ... whatever u say missy

[Rizla]

Not sure, but I have noticed a gradual improvement in your general grammar and punctuation over time.

Obviously, there are still a few mistakes there, but gold star for improvement.

:salut:

[pachaas Paisa]

I yawned half way through your post.

do you have a better topic?

[Unsigned Hype]

so u don't date guys? or go to parties

[OmgItsSana08]

Not sure, but I have noticed a gradual improvement in your general grammar and punctuation over time.

Obviously, there are still a few mistakes there, but gold star for improvement.

:salut:
hahaha


you didn't notice this..think about it?

[*NiKKita*]

i know exactly what your talking about!!!
i've noticed that too.....
it's soo stupid they're think they're being cool but it really is just sad
that they have to try so hard to get a little attention from the wrong people............

[OmgItsSana08]

I yawned half way through your post.

do you have a better topic?
not everyone is the best threadmaker like you :rolleyes: ..give me some tips while your here

[OmgItsSana08]

so u don't date guys? or go to parties
never and never will I.
Its not even just parties I don't even go to school related event either. I am junior never been to a football game etc.

[Angelos]

i know exactly what your talking about!!!
i've noticed that too.....
it's soo stupid they're think they're being cool but it really is just sad
that they have to try so hard to get a little attention from the wrong people............

exactly...

[OmgItsSana08]

i know exactly what your talking about!!!
i've noticed that too.....
it's soo stupid they're think they're being cool but it really is just sad
that they have to try so hard to get a little attention from the wrong people............
finally!!

someone who knows what I am talking about.
btw where do you live at?

[Angelos]

never and never will I.
Its not even just parties I don't even go to school related event either. I am junior never been to a football game etc.

welll done

[Unsigned Hype]

never and never will I.
Its not even just parties I don't even go to school related event either. I am junior never been to a football game etc.
hmm lol okay

[OmgItsSana08]

hmm lol okay
do you know the reason behind it?

[pachaas Paisa]

not everyone is the best threadmaker like you :rolleyes: ..give me some tips while your here

Now you have to depend on me for that?

[Unsigned Hype]

do you know the reason behind it?
no tell me u dont wanna be like the other sana

[yaara]

yeah ur right somewhat...u cant generalize..but ive noticed that too

[Rizla]

hahaha


you didn't notice this..think about it?
I don't really know any freshies, so I can't really say.

[OmgItsSana08]

Now you have to depend on me for that?
:yes: your the best!!
I swear you are

you helped me change my poses now you can help me do this too

[*NiKKita*]

finally!!

someone who knows what I am talking about.
btw where do you live at?

oh i'm sure it's much worse here
i live in L.A.

[selina_786]

I'll have to correct you, you're talking of the minority.

Most girls with strict parents are usually undercover rebellious types.

[pachaas Paisa]

:yes: your the best!!
I swear you are

you helped me change my poses now you can help me do this too

ugh!

someone save me.

[OmgItsSana08]

no tell me u dont wanna be like the other sana
she doesn't have to do anything with this

but I just try the best i can to not come too close to any guys and the only way I can do that is If I never give them the chance to get to know me


like at school today, i needed help on math so during study hall i left to get help while i was coming back this kid i know of was like "sannnnnna" and i was like i have to go to class and than he came towards me and gave me a hug...i couldn't just be like fuck off :neutral:..later during on the day i saw him and he did the same again...now i am going to burn in hell because of him :neutral:

[Infamous_Punjabi]

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OMG ITS SANA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



































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[Unsigned Hype]

she doesn't have to do anything with this

but I just try the best i can to not come too close to any guys and the only way I can do that is If I never give them the chance to get to know me


like at school today, i needed help on math so during study hall i left to get help while i was coming back this kid i know of was like "sannnnnna" and i was like i have to go to class and than he came towards me and gave me a hug...i couldn't just be like fuck off :neutral:..later during on the day i saw him and he did the same again...now i am going to burn in hell because of him :neutral:
i dunno u r letting him hug you... if ur on that whole tip you can just tell him not to hug you :think:

[*NiKKita*]

i wouldn't say it's only muslim girls it's all kinds of desi chicks
guys too with they're gangsta wannabe trend

[yaara]

no tell me u dont wanna be like the other sana
loll shes 16 cut her some slack

[OmgItsSana08]

I'll have to correct you, you're talking of the minority.

Most girls with strict parents are usually undercover rebellious types.
oh I said strict parents in it..didn't notice this..i'll change that..but I was talking about parents who have rules for there kids..like mine..not too sure if you would consider them being strict but they get me everything i want, let me go to places only if someone is with me like a sibling, the ONLY think they don't allow is me dating or even hanging out with guys even white girls sure they can come over to my house but I can't go to there houes..get what I am trying to say?

[OmgItsSana08]

yeah ur right somewhat...u cant generalize..but ive noticed that too
like this girl at my school who just came form pak like not too long ago her parents make her wear a hajab and she takes it off also she eats pork..even had a bf and just came here..shes not even pretty :neutral:

and me I never eveb talked to a guy on the phone :( :(

[Unsigned Hype]

like this girl at my school who just came form pak like not too long ago her parents make her wear a hajab and she takes it off also she eats pork..even had a bf and just came here..shes not even pretty :neutral:

and me I never eveb talked to a guy on the phone :( :(
she is not even pretty looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool

[Rizla]

like this girl at my school who just came form pak like not too long ago her parents make her wear a hajab and she takes it off also she eats pork..even had a bf and just came here..shes not even pretty :neutral:

and me I never eveb talked to a guy on the phone :( :(


Call the guys at 118.

[OmgItsSana08]

she is not even pretty looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool
I didn't mean it in a rude way but shes just weird and hangs out with bunch of AA kids not that its a bad thing but the ones shes with are liek super loud and troublemakers

[yaara]

like this girl at my school who just came form pak like not too long ago her parents make her wear a hajab and she takes it off also she eats pork..even had a bf and just came here..shes not even pretty :neutral:

and me I never eveb talked to a guy on the phone :( :(
lolol aww so are u sad coz u wanna do all that stuff n u cant? :P

[jus_me]

I'll have to correct you, you're talking of the minority.

Most girls with strict parents are usually undercover rebellious types.

exactly.

when i was at school i knew quite a few muslim girls..one girls parents allowed her to pretty much do everything..she was allowed to date, she could go clubbing etc..her parents let her take responsibility for her own actions...shes doing great now, got her own place...making tonnes of money.

i knew two other girls who were under manners ( :lol: ). They werent allowed out anywhere, not even on school trips..they werent allowed to go to the parties organised by the school. They were driven right up to the school gate and watched as they went in the school doors, their parents picked them up after school everyday. They werent allowed out with their friend after school, during the holidays or on the weekends. One girl met a guy and started dating him without her mum knowing...(she bunked school to go see him..but the school never rang the parents), her mum found out and kicked her out of the house..she is now a single mother to 4 kids..her boyfriend got fed up of her and married a girl from pakistan. The other girl met a guy during her last year at college, she told her parents she wanted to marry him and they wouldnt let her..they arranged for her to marry another guy and she didnt want to, she told them and they locked her in her room, she phoned the police and told them, they said they could only help if she was married to the guy..so one day she went and got married to the guy while her parents were at work..she came home, rang the police and they got her out of there..she had to move to bristol with her husband because her dad disowned her.

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

I'll have to correct you, you're talking of the minority.

Most girls with strict parents are usually undercover rebellious types.


^^^^ :werd: been there seen that. Its the quiet ones you gotta watch out for, as we have talked about before Sel lol.

[OmgItsSana08]

lolol aww so are u sad coz u wanna do all that stuff n u cant? :P
in a way yes but when i sit down relax, calm myself down i think about all this and i actully like it better like this

but at that point i get pissed off

[yaara]

in a way yes but when i sit down relax, calm myself down i think about all this and i actully like it better like this

but at that point i get pissed off
lol its ok ur not missing out on anything...so ur good

[larki_jatti]

even girls IN pakistan are worse than the paki girls raised here, from what ive seen and from what my cousins tell me.
girls there date, have sex, and all that stuff that I cant even imagine desi parents here seeing as acceptable. I think our parents try hard to hold onto their roots, and im thankful for that.

[desi_uk]

I yawned half way through your post.

do you have a better topic?
lol ha ha

[OmgItsSana08]

even girls IN pakistan are worse than the paki girls raised here, from what ive seen and from what my cousins tell me.
girls there date, have sex, and all that stuff that I cant even imagine desi parents here seeing as acceptable. I think our parents try hard to hold onto their roots, and im thankful for that.
yeh, I totally agree with that. Just casue we live here our parents try the hardest they can to protect us from americans. Like my mom shes always like you can't be with white people cause than you will start to be like them. When I went to pak i was at the bazzar i wore salwar kammez and had a dupatta on my head and i was in 7th gr but i saw bunch of older womens with sleevless shirts on. I was surprised. Pak isn'nt any diff than here anymore. Which is very sad :no:

like i said before at that time i get really pissed off but at night when i am in my bed trying to sleep i think about this and i actully say to myself i will do the same to my kids except i will understand them more than my parents do

[OmgItsSana08]

i dunno u r letting him hug you... if ur on that whole tip you can just tell him not to hug you :think:
tell someone to fuck off is harder than you think.. he will think i am retarted :neutral: ..these people don't understand

lol ha ha
not funny :squint:

lol its ok ur not missing out on anything...so ur good
good to know
do you date?

[yaara]

tell someone to fuck off is harder than you think.. he will think i am retarted :neutral: ..these people don't understand


not funny :squint:


good to know
do you date?
are u asking me out?

[Monica152]

i ddnt read da whole thing but read a major part of it
nd yea i agree wit u
ive seen dat a happen a lot
mayB iits becuz da gurls born here wnt to knoe more about their own culture
than gurls who come here later on they jus wnna fit in
its knda da same wit all da indian gurls too but not all jus some

[OmgItsSana08]

are u asking me out?
thats possible :giggle:

[harvey_mayway]

hummmm well maybe... but it depends on the parents.

[ladoo20]

peaches and cream is pretty! i saw her pics on the main site

[fragiledoll]

it goes similar to Here! most of the Foreign Desi's party more and wear revealing clothes more or less hijab... talk in their canadian accent or British accent and guys go woooooooooooooooooooooooo behind them... i have never been to USA or UK. if i ever do i pray i remain the same...

[fattygirl]

U observed Wrong.

[ladoo20]

ive never been clubbing before!

[laal mia]

too long to read. couldn't u just made it simple????

[OmgItsSana08]

peaches and cream is pretty! i saw her pics on the main site
she said we had something in common

i want to see her pic..PM me!!

loll shes 16 cut her some slack
which is worst becasue im 16 which means i am still in highschool and thats when you mostly want to date..once you get older you know what you should do and shouldn't do so you don't care much for it. Also when you know you can't do soemthing thats makes you want to do it even more.

even if i was 18 like sana i would never date...not easy/cheap like i said before

Call the guys at 118.
whats that?

is that one of those number they show on MTV and say call this number to talk to your local boys blah blah?

[xa16ax]

U observed Wrong.
slut

[laal mia]

ive never been clubbing before!

we can both start together

[yaara]

thats possible :giggle:
lol i dont date though

[PreciousPari]

Not sure, but I have noticed a gradual improvement in your general grammar and punctuation over time.

Obviously, there are still a few mistakes there, but gold star for improvement.

:salut:

Hahahaa thats the first thing I noticed too when I read her post. I think she is a smart cookie but she doesn't express herself as one most of the time. Also, she is very innocent and blunt. lol I <3 her

But yes Sana, I actually have seen a lot of that happen with people I know, friends and family members. Its weird isn't it? I haven't done a lot of the things that even a normal desi girl my age has done or even what my fob cousins have done. I guess its because of my strict upbringing and limitations. I do get upset over it at times but then Im like whats the point. Im 25 now and yeah sure I missed out on a lot of things but once I get married, I'll make sure that I fufill all my desires, wants and needs. Im still young. I still have another 5 years to do so. lol

[OmgItsSana08]

ive never been clubbing before!
i never been to a school f-ball game :ashamed:
U observed Wrong.
did you observe something different?
this is how it is where i live it

too long to read. couldn't u just made it simple????
okay

girls born here: don't date

girls who just come here: date to fit in

[fattygirl]

slut

What seems to be the problem? too much hair mite be affecting your brain, get it cheked.

[laal mia]

i never been to a school f-ball game :ashamed:

did you observe something different?
this is how it is where i live it


okay

girls born here: don't date




girls who just come here: date to fit in





really?? :sarb: i never noticed that. so what do they do?????

[OmgItsSana08]

Hahahaa thats the first thing I noticed too when I read her post. I think she is a smart cookie but she doesn't express herself as one most of the time. Also, she is very innocent and blunt. lol I <3 her

But yes Sana, I actually have seen a lot of that happen with people I know, friends and family members. Its weird isn't it? I haven't done a lot of the things that even a normal desi girl my age has done or even what my fob cousins have done. I guess its because of my strict upbringing and limitations. I do get upset over it at times but then Im like whats the point. Im 25 now and yeah sure I missed out on a lot of things but once I get married, I'll make sure that I fufill all my desires, wants and needs. Im still young. I still have another 5 years to do so. lol
this is the only net exp i had i didn't know you had to have correct grammar here :neutral: ..i thought it was about time to actully use my grammar skills.Your right I don't ever act like I am smart. For some reason I never actully cared for being smart to me long as I get good grades I am happy.

I am the same way at that point I get really mad but than I forget about it. I don't know your parents but it sounds like they might be like mine. Mine let me do things but theres a limit to it. You know how all these girl will be able to sit down and tell there kids who they dated and who they went to prom with and such I will never be able to do that since I never got the chance to exp any of that. Homecoming is coming up, i really want to go but i know i can't. :(

LOL @ fullfill my desires...hahah thats the samething I say.

[OmgItsSana08]

exactly.

when i was at school i knew quite a few muslim girls..one girls parents allowed her to pretty much do everything..she was allowed to date, she could go clubbing etc..her parents let her take responsibility for her own actions...shes doing great now, got her own place...making tonnes of money.

i knew two other girls who were under manners ( :lol: ). They werent allowed out anywhere, not even on school trips..they werent allowed to go to the parties organised by the school. They were driven right up to the school gate and watched as they went in the school doors, their parents picked them up after school everyday. They werent allowed out with their friend after school, during the holidays or on the weekends. One girl met a guy and started dating him without her mum knowing...(she bunked school to go see him..but the school never rang the parents), her mum found out and kicked her out of the house..she is now a single mother to 4 kids..her boyfriend got fed up of her and married a girl from pakistan. The other girl met a guy during her last year at college, she told her parents she wanted to marry him and they wouldnt let her..they arranged for her to marry another guy and she didnt want to, she told them and they locked her in her room, she phoned the police and told them, they said they could only help if she was married to the guy..so one day she went and got married to the guy while her parents were at work..she came home, rang the police and they got her out of there..she had to move to bristol with her husband because her dad disowned her.
:shock: wow, she did all that

My dad had told me about 3 yrs ago when i started hs he said "sana do anything you want to BUT just don't ever give anyone the chance to come to me and say well yousaf you daughter sana did this.. ." I could never do anything like that :neutral:

[shamera]

Yes, infact, I tell my mom that all the time. I'm like girls that have just come from India/Pakistan want to fit in so badly that they'll go to just about any extent...and their parents are more lenient becuase in most cases, they've always wanted to live in the states so as soon as they get here, their whole focus goes on money making.

[OmgItsSana08]

Yes, infact, I tell my mom that all the time. I'm like girls that have just come from India/Pakistan want to fit in so badly that they'll go to just about any extent...and their parents are more lenient becuase in most cases, they've always wanted to live in the states so as soon as they get here, their whole focus goes on money making.
also the parents don't know what exactly going on. like with my parents i could never get aways with anything, my freakin comp is by the kitchen and it will be there until i am 30 becasue thats when all my bro/sis turn 18.

I don't talk to my mom about this. I really do though. But those girls have told me so much about them and i just don't want to stab them in the back and tell my mom since we all know that my mom will pass the news on.

[crayzee]

:shock: wow, she did all that

My dad had told me about 3 yrs ago when i started hs he said "sana do anything you want to BUT just don't ever give anyone the chance to come to me and say well yousaf you daughter sana did this.. ." I could never do anything like that :neutral:

yeh... thats kinda like wot my dad said....

"zen, if i hear you've been getting up to something behind our backs... then ur gettin ur ass kicked... got it?"

so as long as he doesnt kno... its all gd :rofl:

[shamera]

also the parents don't know what exactly going on. like with my parents i could never get aways with anything, my freakin comp is by the kitchen and it will be there until i am 30 becasue thats when all my bro/sis turn 18.

I don't talk to my mom about this. I really do though. But those girls have told me so much about them and i just don't want to stab them in the back and tell my mom since we all know that my mom will pass the news on.
haha, that's exactly how my comp was when we lived in an apartment, then we moved to a house and i moved teh comp upstairs but still not in my room...thank god for college and laptops! =) not...that i watch porn or anything :ugh: lol but...yeah my mom has the 411 on just about every girl from jamat khanne and who shes going out with/slept with/messed around with/etc...but she doesn't spread the news.

[MaryMary]

even girls IN pakistan are worse than the paki girls raised here, from what ive seen and from what my cousins tell me.
girls there date, have sex, and all that stuff that I cant even imagine desi parents here seeing as acceptable. I think our parents try hard to hold onto their roots, and im thankful for that.
:werd:
my best friend's cousin moved from uk to karachi...and she said she was allowed to do much more in karachi...sad thing is...on her way back home from a new year's party she drove with someone who was drunk (my friend said she must have been forced to go with this guy)...they had an accident..and she died...now her mother is regretting that she let her daughter go out so much :neutral: and this happened in pakistan :neutral:

[jus_me]

:shock: wow, she did all that

My dad had told me about 3 yrs ago when i started hs he said "sana do anything you want to BUT just don't ever give anyone the chance to come to me and say well yousaf you daughter sana did this.. ." I could never do anything like that :neutral:

that was two separate girls and people still think that keeping their kids on lockdown is going to give them model kids..it wont.

so your dad wanted you to behave well? :)

the weird thing is that the people who go running to my mum and say "tarvinder was doing this today" have different ideas on what "bad" stuff is compared to my parents..

for example, im allowed to smoke and drink..i dont smoke because it smells and i dont really drink a lot either..people my mother knows have seen me going into the pub and they come running around to tell her and she is ok with it..i dont see why they think id do shit behind my parents back..

ive never lied to them about what im doing..well ive told white lies about what time il be home etc..but most of the the time they know what im getting up to

if my parents didnt allow me to drink and smoke and date then i wouldnt, simply because i have that respect for them :)

i dont understand how some girls can betray their parents like that..i could never have a relationship and keep it a secret.

[OmgItsSana08]

yeh... thats kinda like wot my dad said....

"zen, if i hear you've been getting up to something behind our backs... then ur gettin ur ass kicked... got it?"

so as long as he doesnt kno... its all gd :rofl:
it funny how your dads like i'll kick your ass and since i am a girls mines like just don't do anything and smiled at the end

honestly, im pretty sure i can get away with this stuff just like a lot of other muslim girls who can't date but still do behind parents but i just could never get myself to do that..its weird

:werd:
my best friend's cousin moved from uk to karachi...and she said she was allowed to do much more in karachi...sad thing is...on her way back home from a new year's party she drove with someone who was drunk (my friend said she must have been forced to go with this guy)...they had an accident..and she died...now her mother is regretting that she let her daughter go out so much :neutral: and this happened in pakistan :neutral:
people at pak drink :shock:

i thought it was only very very few people like those really really nasty guys :neutral:

haha, that's exactly how my comp was when we lived in an apartment, then we moved to a house and i moved teh comp upstairs but still not in my room...thank god for college and laptops! =) not...that i watch porn or anything :ugh: lol but...yeah my mom has the 411 on just about every girl from jamat khanne and who shes going out with/slept with/messed around with/etc...but she doesn't spread the news.
LOL i won't watch porn either
i think they do that since they know what happens online..like they wouldn't want me to be talking to strangers

my mom thinks all these girls are sooo good and to me shes like why can't you be like that and thats when i just want to spill the beans and tell her everything they have done in the past but i won't

[Adnan786]

What ive noticed here in the UK is that the more sctrict the parents are, usually the more rebellious/desire filled/undercover/two faced their offspring are. With freedom comes choice and no pressure pushing them to lie/do something that they wouldnt usually do. Those that feel oppressed do just because they arnt meant to do it if that makes sence. Desi's should give their children a good education and freedom to distinguish between right and wrong, atleast that way ur not in a sense ignorantly encouraging them to rebel by placing boundaries around them. You need to give ur kids a chance to make their own choices based upon their own judgements.

[OmgItsSana08]

that was two separate girls and people still think that keeping their kids on lockdown is going to give them model kids..it wont.

so your dad wanted you to behave well? :)

the weird thing is that the people who go running to my mum and say "tarvinder was doing this today" have different ideas on what "bad" stuff is compared to my parents..

for example, im allowed to smoke and drink..i dont smoke because it smells and i dont really drink a lot either..people my mother knows have seen me going into the pub and they come running around to tell her and she is ok with it..i dont see why they think id do shit behind my parents back..

ive never lied to them about what im doing..well ive told white lies about what time il be home etc..but most of the the time they know what im getting up to

if my parents didnt allow me to drink and smoke and date then i wouldnt, simply because i have that respect for them :)

i dont understand how some girls can betray their parents like that..i could never have a relationship and keep it a secret.
if, a parents allows there child to do certain things than its fine since the parent did think about it

the bold part- thats what I am talking about. To some girls a relationship is more important which can be broken at anytimes than there parents and the respect for there religion.

[MaryMary]

people at pak drink :shock:

i thought it was only very very few people like those really really nasty guys :neutral:


i was shocked too..but its true...last year when i went there i saw girls wearing mini skirts and stuff..i was like: wtf? i mean its an islamic state...i think its wrong :neutral:
but i have to add..my friend's cousin didnt drink...the police still doesnt know everything abt this accident :neutral: i dont know the whole story either...but it was pretty sad...i went to my friend's house and we prayed for her and everything,a week later they told us her cousin died...man,it was shocking...

[crayzee]

it funny how your dads like i'll kick your ass and since i am a girls mines like just don't do anything and smiled at the end

honestly, im pretty sure i can get away with this stuff just like a lot of other muslim girls who can't date but still do behind parents but i just could never get myself to do that..its weird


yeh... i kno wot u mean... wit me n my bro's my dad's all strict but wit my sister its a completely different story... she's daddy's lil girl lol

u probably cud get away with stuff like that, but my dad sed another thing that made me think.... "most ppl think its easy to be 'good' and hard to be 'bad'. but its actually the other way around. 'good' ppl have so much more self-discipline and control over their actions, thus demanding respect. but 'bad' ppl jus do what they want whenever they want which is easy because anyone can do that"

but it obviously never made me think enuf, after taking into consideration the stuff i get up to lol

[jus_me]

if, a parents allows there child to do certain things than its fine since the parent did think about it

the bold part- thats what I am talking about. To some girls a relationship is more important which can be broken at anytimes than there parents and the respect for there religion.


exactly..

my mum asks me now why i never had a boyfriend when i was a lot younger and i told her because i didnt want one, i wanted to sort my education out..boys can always wait..why mess your life up for some idiot who wont stay the course of time? now its a different story, if she didnt approve id tell her i was going to do it anyway because im an adult now, i can take care of myself financially (So threatening to kick me out of the house wont hurt me lol) but i dont understand how young girls can take that risk..just for a quick fumble.

when i was at school i had a friend, she was a brainbox..my mum was in love with her, everything i did was measured against her..most of the time her grades were better than mine (she was a straight A student) and her mum used to look down her nose at me because i spoke to boys, i went out and messed about..even though my parents were ok with it. In short, i had a life and she didnt..all she knew were books.

me and her got to uni, the daughter was spoilt, everything was paid for by her dad, she never ever had to get a job..she became a crackwhore..she still is one now, i see her from time to time..

the mum is still looking down her nose at me when she sees me with a drink in my hand :no:

she saw me in the tattooists and immediately phoned my mum and told her..

you would think she had bigger things to worry about.

its funny how some desi folk have such big problems in their own households but still have the time to look down their noses at others, im doing nothing wrong..i work, i study, i pay my bills..so what if i want to go out and have a drink? im not selling my body for drugs, am i?

somehow she think to be a crackwhore is better than to be a social drinker.

[OmgItsSana08]

i was shocked too..but its true...last year when i went there i saw girls wearing mini skirts and stuff..i was like: wtf? i mean its an islamic state...i think its wrong :neutral:
but i have to add..my friend's cousin didnt drink...the police still doesnt know everything abt this accident :neutral: i dont know the whole story either...but it was pretty sad...i went to my friend's house and we prayed for her and everything,a week later they told us her cousin died...man,it was shocking...
i agree it is very sad

yeh... i kno wot u mean... wit me n my bro's my dad's all strict but wit my sister its a completely different story... she's daddy's lil girl lol

u probably cud get away with stuff like that, but my dad sed another thing that made me think.... "most ppl think its easy to be 'good' and hard to be 'bad'. but its actually the other way around. 'good' ppl have so much more self-discipline and control over their actions, thus demanding respect. but 'bad' ppl jus do what they want whenever they want which is easy because anyone can do that"

but it obviously never made me think enuf, after taking into consideration the stuff i get up to lol
my dad and I never really talk this is just something he said before I started highschool since he relized i was going to hs so there was going to be a alot of peer pressuer at times. I have never got yelled by him either even when i do something i'll go to my room and cry and then he will come in and kiss me and tell me to get up and wash my face. I thought this was really cute well my mom was yelling at me how i never do anything around the house and he said don't ever force sana to do anything cause in couple of yr or so she will be leaving the house for college and than get married plus i don't want her cute little hand to get messed up.. :p ..every we need to do something he will be like we can't do that without asking sana


i must say what your dad said is so true. i will be thinking about that for awhile now. like when my parents say something im like yeh yeh whatever but as i am getting older im remmebering things they said in the past and it just makes me think.



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[crayzee]

i agree it is very sad


my dad and I never really talk this is just something he said before I started highschool since he relized i was going to hs so there was going to be a alot of peer pressuer at times. I have never got yelled by him either even when i do something i'll go to my room and cry and then he will come in and kiss me and tell me to get up and wash my face. I thought this was really cute well my mom was yelling at me how i never do anything around the house and he said don't ever force sana to do anything cause in couple of yr or so she will be leaving the house for college and than get married plus i don't want her cute little hand to get messed up.. :p ..every we need to do something he will be like we can't do that without asking sana


i must say what your dad said is so true. i will be thinking about that for awhile now. like when my parents say something im like yeh yeh whatever but as i am getting older im remmebering things they said in the past and it just makes me think.

see, i'm the eldest out of my siblings... so i dont really know how to work my parents properly. most, actually ALL, of my mates have older sisters or older brothers, or both so they know how to get what they want from their parents without gettin into shit. as for me, this kinda stuff is all new to me, and lets jus say when i fuk up... i fuk up BIG TIME... its nt gd for me coz over the past year i've fuk'd up my relationship with my dad. at one point i used to run around n follow him everywhere n want to be just like him but now i keep my distance n pray that i end up nothing like him at all. ever. i suppose this is gd for my siblings tho... after seeing the mistakes i've made they wont make the same.
dont get me wrong, i still respect him and try to do as he says. i still to fulfill my duties as a son and i have learnt alot from him, but that bond that we shared a few years ago is non-existent today.
u remind me of my lil sister.... thats how my dad treats her :)

[OmgItsSana08]

What ive noticed here in the UK is that the more sctrict the parents are, usually the more rebellious/desire filled/undercover/two faced their offspring are. With freedom comes choice and no pressure pushing them to lie/do something that they wouldnt usually do. Those that feel oppressed do just because they arnt meant to do it if that makes sence. Desi's should give their children a good education and freedom to distinguish between right and wrong, atleast that way ur not in a sense ignorantly encouraging them to rebel by placing boundaries around them. You need to give ur kids a chance to make their own choices based upon their own judgements.
good post :)

exactly..

my mum asks me now why i never had a boyfriend when i was a lot younger and i told her because i didnt want one, i wanted to sort my education out..boys can always wait..why mess your life up for some idiot who wont stay the course of time? now its a different story, if she didnt approve id tell her i was going to do it anyway because im an adult now, i can take care of myself financially (So threatening to kick me out of the house wont hurt me lol) but i dont understand how young girls can take that risk..just for a quick fumble.

when i was at school i had a friend, she was a brainbox..my mum was in love with her, everything i did was measured against her..most of the time her grades were better than mine (she was a straight A student) and her mum used to look down her nose at me because i spoke to boys, i went out and messed about..even though my parents were ok with it. In short, i had a life and she didnt..all she knew were books.

me and her got to uni, the daughter was spoilt, everything was paid for by her dad, she never ever had to get a job..she became a crackwhore..she still is one now, i see her from time to time..

the mum is still looking down her nose at me when she sees me with a drink in my hand :no:

she saw me in the tattooists and immediately phoned my mum and told her..

you would think she had bigger things to worry about.

its funny how some desi folk have such big problems in their own households but still have the time to look down their noses at others, im doing nothing wrong..i work, i study, i pay my bills..so what if i want to go out and have a drink? im not selling my body for drugs, am i?

somehow she think to be a crackwhore is better than to be a social drinker.
thats what i hate is how desi's talk way to much shit..they need to start to worry about there own kids instead of others..even with our parents they always say oh what will that aunty or uncle think about this..if our parents didn't care what others thought about there kids than the random people wouldn't care either..

like you said your work, study and all that stuff including respecting your parents so it shouldn't matter if once awhile you go out to have fun.

yesterday, some new girl made a thread not sure if you seen it..she said she had left her family for a black guy who she knew for like 4 months only and this girls is paki muslim. i'm not saying just cause hes black thats why you shouldn't be with him just any guys in genral. she left her family/religion :no:


see, i'm the eldest out of my siblings... so i dont really know how to work my parents properly. most, actually ALL, of my mates have older sisters or older brothers, or both so they know how to get what they want from their parents without gettin into shit. as for me, this kinda stuff is all new to me, and lets jus say when i fuk up... i fuk up BIG TIME... its nt gd for me coz over the past year i've fuk'd up my relationship with my dad. at one point i used to run around n follow him everywhere n want to be just like him but now i keep my distance n pray that i end up nothing like him at all. ever. i suppose this is gd for my siblings tho... after seeing the mistakes i've made they wont make the same.
dont get me wrong, i still respect him and try to do as he says. i still to fulfill my duties as a son and i have learnt alot from him, but that bond that we shared a few years ago is non-existent today.
u remind me of my lil sister.... thats how my dad treats her :)
i'm the oldest too so i guess thats the reason i get everything
i really hate being the oldest child cause you have to set a good example for your siblings..like i'm the first one to exp everything..in 2 yrs i'll be starting college and i have to try my hardest to get into the best college i can not only that but either be in law, med, or something like that type of school...just cause if i get alot of eduaction than they would make them want to do the same..

you still respect him so its fine

[class_of_my_own]

Okay, It seems like muslim girls who are either raised or born in USA/UK etc. are the ones that don't date. There parents don't even allow them to hang out with white friends (girls). Girls that I know of that fit that description never even talked to a guy on the phone. On the other hand girls that just came to USA/UK/CAN ect not too long ago try too hard to fit in so they have boy friends and dress somewhat kinda like a slut. At first I thought this was just where I live however, recently I had a conversation with someone whos related to me in a weird way and was also on the forums before she thinks the same way.

Also I've notice girls that live around a lot desi people date too and go to parties and all that jazz, they just tell there parents they are hanging out with a desi and the parents let them go thinking its desi so they won't do anything stupid. But girls who don't have many desi's around them they don't because there parents don't approve of that.

With me my parents rather have me hang out with girls who are desi than non desi esp the ones that came to here just recently. My parents obviosely don't know what these girls have done. Most of them are ALOT worst than my nondesi friends which is pretty sad.

P.S. I made this statement based on what I had observed. I am not saying every girl is like that.

anyone else notice this?

u have a valid point there sana.i think that SOME people, like say they come from india to USA will try and act more westernised and 'modern' or how they see it, just to fit in. a lot of how they perceive the west to be is based on them watching indian movies and acting like the bollywood stars in there.

[OmgItsSana08]

it goes similar to Here! most of the Foreign Desi's party more and wear revealing clothes more or less hijab... talk in their canadian accent or British accent and guys go woooooooooooooooooooooooo behind them... i have never been to USA or UK. if i ever do i pray i remain the same...
where do you live at again?
and are you muslim?
i wouldn't say it's only muslim girls it's all kinds of desi chicks
guys too with they're gangsta wannabe trend
i don't really know about many other desi's so im not sure
ewwww i hate the whole gangsta wannabe look :ugh:

u have a valid point there sana.i think that SOME people, like say they come from india to USA will try and act more westernised and 'modern' or how they see it, just to fit in. a lot of how they perceive the west to be is based on them watching indian movies and acting like the bollywood stars in there.
true, thats why I don't even enjoy watching indian movies anymore. its just so americanized. they always have jeans/skirts on and i don't like seeing that i used to watch indian movies to see what might the latest fashion be there when it comes to desiwear but not anymore cause they just don't make movies like that..it just looks nicer when they dress modest and like wear a sari or something..if i really wanted to look at girls weairng mini skirts i can just look at that at school

[class_of_my_own]

where do you live at again?
and are you muslim?

i don't really know about many other desi's so im not sure
ewwww i hate the whole gangsta wannabe look :ugh:


true, thats why I don't even enjoy watching indian movies anymore. its just so americanized. they always have jeans/skirts on and i don't like seeing that i used to watch indian movies to see what might the latest fashion be there when it comes to desiwear but not anymore cause they just don't make movies like that..it just looks nicer when they dress modest and like wear a sari or something..if i really wanted to look at girls weairng mini skirts i can just look at that at school



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[jus_me]

good post :)


thats what i hate is how desi's talk way to much shit..they need to start to worry about there own kids instead of others..even with our parents they always say oh what will that aunty or uncle think about this..if our parents didn't care what others thought about there kids than the random people wouldn't care either..

like you said your work, study and all that stuff including respecting your parents so it shouldn't matter if once awhile you go out to have fun.

yesterday, some new girl made a thread not sure if you seen it..she said she had left her family for a black guy who she knew for like 4 months only and this girls is paki muslim. i'm not saying just cause hes black thats why you shouldn't be with him just any guys in genral. she left her family/religion :no:



i'm the oldest too so i guess thats the reason i get everything
i really hate being the oldest child cause you have to set a good example for your siblings..like i'm the first one to exp everything..in 2 yrs i'll be starting college and i have to try my hardest to get into the best college i can not only that but either be in law, med, or something like that type of school...just cause if i get alot of eduaction than they would make them want to do the same..

you still respect him so its fine


id never leave my family for a guy..never ever..the love you get from a family is unconditional..boys can fuck you up then leave :no:

i saw tht thread but didnt read it, il check it out now.

[desi_kuri]

Okay, It seems like muslim girls who are either raised or born in USA/UK etc. are the ones that don't date. There parents don't even allow them to hang out with white friends (girls). Girls that I know of that fit that description never even talked to a guy on the phone. On the other hand girls that just came to USA/UK/CAN ect not too long ago try too hard to fit in so they have boy friends and dress somewhat kinda like a slut. At first I thought this was just where I live however, recently I had a conversation with someone whos related to me in a weird way and was also on the forums before she thinks the same way.

Also I've notice girls that live around a lot desi people date too and go to parties and all that jazz, they just tell there parents they are hanging out with a desi and the parents let them go thinking its desi so they won't do anything stupid. But girls who don't have many desi's around them they don't because there parents don't approve of that.

With me my parents rather have me hang out with girls who are desi than non desi esp the ones that came to here just recently. My parents obviosely don't know what these girls have done. Most of them are ALOT worst than my nondesi friends which is pretty sad.

P.S. I made this statement based on what I had observed. I am not saying every girl is like that.

anyone else notice this?



i totally agree with you. The girls who come from a religious family are the worst here. especailly the ones who wear hijab/scarf... they have a really bad reputation here. some of them even smoke weed. :neutral: Its just sad

[desi_uk]

i totally agree with you. The girls who come from a religious family are the worst here. especailly the ones who wear hijab/scarf... they have a really bad reputation here. some of them even smoke weed. :neutral: Its just sad
thats messed up do one or the other

some people jus take the piss all out

[class_of_my_own]

thats messed up do one or the other

some people jus take the piss all out

i guess some people just go to the extreme and rebel. i also think that its the people that u hang around wid that determines how u gonna behave

[desi_kuri]

thats messed up do one or the other

some people jus take the piss all out


my parents think that the girls who wear hijab are decent. some are decent but majority of them are NOT... they are forced to go to islamic school and later on they get kicked out after getting caught bu the teachers kissing guys in the back hallway. i dont hang around with my hijabi friends anymore. There certainly not what my parents think they are.

[class_of_my_own]

my parents think that the girls who wear hijab are decent. some are decent but majority of them are NOT... they are forced to go to islamic school and later on they get kicked out after getting caught bu the teachers kissing guys in the back hallway. i dont hang around with my hijabi friends anymore. There certainly not what my parents think they are.

i know a few examples of this, but not ALL of hijabis are like this, just because u see one girl acting like this doesnt mean that they are all like that.are ur hijabi friends like that? if they are then i think thats a shame

[sheerin]

YES I HAVE NOTICE IT! I only know a few girls who came here a couple of yrs ago and are very faithful.

[desi_kuri]

i know a few examples of this, but not ALL of hijabis are like this, just because u see one girl acting like this doesnt mean that they are all like that.are ur hijabi friends like that? if they are then i think thats a shame


no not all .. bit as i mentioned before that majority of them are. i dont wear a hijab but i follow most of the rules.. oh and some of them even try to act like there gangster and have attitude problem. i dont tell my parents about there behaviour but this is like the main reason why i dont hang around with my old crew.

[Love_Baby]

exactly..

my mum asks me now why i never had a boyfriend when i was a lot younger and i told her because i didnt want one, i wanted to sort my education out..boys can always wait..why mess your life up for some idiot who wont stay the course of time? now its a different story, if she didnt approve id tell her i was going to do it anyway because im an adult now, i can take care of myself financially (So threatening to kick me out of the house wont hurt me lol) but i dont understand how young girls can take that risk..just for a quick fumble.

when i was at school i had a friend, she was a brainbox..my mum was in love with her, everything i did was measured against her..most of the time her grades were better than mine (she was a straight A student) and her mum used to look down her nose at me because i spoke to boys, i went out and messed about..even though my parents were ok with it. In short, i had a life and she didnt..all she knew were books.

me and her got to uni, the daughter was spoilt, everything was paid for by her dad, she never ever had to get a job..she became a crackwhore..she still is one now, i see her from time to time..

the mum is still looking down her nose at me when she sees me with a drink in my hand :no:

she saw me in the tattooists and immediately phoned my mum and told her..

you would think she had bigger things to worry about.

its funny how some desi folk have such big problems in their own households but still have the time to look down their noses at others, im doing nothing wrong..i work, i study, i pay my bills..so what if i want to go out and have a drink? im not selling my body for drugs, am i?

somehow she think to be a crackwhore is better than to be a social drinker.

ok i dont mean to interrupt but whts the harm in her dad paying ffor her college?

n most desi familes dont let their daughters work untill pretty late, maybe its not her choice?

[Love_Baby]

i agree it is very sad


my dad and I never really talk this is just something he said before I started highschool since he relized i was going to hs so there was going to be a alot of peer pressuer at times. I have never got yelled by him either even when i do something i'll go to my room and cry and then he will come in and kiss me and tell me to get up and wash my face. I thought this was really cute well my mom was yelling at me how i never do anything around the house and he said don't ever force sana to do anything cause in couple of yr or so she will be leaving the house for college and than get married plus i don't want her cute little hand to get messed up.. :p ..every we need to do something he will be like we can't do that without asking sana


i must say what your dad said is so true. i will be thinking about that for awhile now. like when my parents say something im like yeh yeh whatever but as i am getting older im remmebering things they said in the past and it just makes me think.



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aww thts cute...n yeah tht happens a lot i mean if ur the oldest child thn parents always care so much about ur opinion a bout things lol...n plus for desi girls parents ALWYS say tht whole shes gona get married in a few years anyway thing lol its soo cute

[Love_Baby]

Okay, It seems like muslim girls who are either raised or born in USA/UK etc. are the ones that don't date. There parents don't even allow them to hang out with white friends (girls). Girls that I know of that fit that description never even talked to a guy on the phone. On the other hand girls that just came to USA/UK/CAN ect not too long ago try too hard to fit in so they have boy friends and dress somewhat kinda like a slut. At first I thought this was just where I live however, recently I had a conversation with someone whos related to me in a weird way and was also on the forums before she thinks the same way.

Also I've notice girls that live around a lot desi people date too and go to parties and all that jazz, they just tell there parents they are hanging out with a desi and the parents let them go thinking its desi so they won't do anything stupid. But girls who don't have many desi's around them they don't because there parents don't approve of that.

With me my parents rather have me hang out with girls who are desi than non desi esp the ones that came to here just recently. My parents obviosely don't know what these girls have done. Most of them are ALOT worst than my nondesi friends which is pretty sad.

P.S. I made this statement based on what I had observed. I am not saying every girl is like that.

anyone else notice this?

yeah thts true...plus i've noticed tht parents who let their kids do a lot of stuff (as in social freedom, going out, etc) usually dont do any "bad" stuff...its only those who are locked up like crazy tht go out n do wrong things cuz they're so suppressed

[jus_me]

ok i dont mean to interrupt but whts the harm in her dad paying ffor her college?

n most desi familes dont let their daughters work untill pretty late, maybe its not her choice?

there is nothing wrong with parents paying for their children if thats what they want to do and if the kids are ok with it, the thing is she wanted to work herself and pay for it but her parents didnt want her to work at all, even after marriage..they wanted her to get her degree then become a housewife..

ive been working since the age of 15..but then my parents arent stereotypical desi parents.

[vgirl]

sana you are a good kid
i know it seems like sometimes you miss out on all this stuff your friends get to do, but in the long run all that stuff is trivial. just think how happy you are making your parents by being a good daughter and respecting your religion. your behaviour sets a positive example for your siblings. you can't make your parents happier than by listening to what they have to say and setting a positive example for your younger brothers and sisters.

when you feel like you don't get to do stuff.. think about how happy it makes your parents to know you are doing the right thing, and that should comfort you. if you are good, good things will come to you. and maybe when you are married then you will be able to do some more stuff that you can't do now, like pari said.

i know what you mean about wanting to blurt out all the things that your dodgy friends do, but that wouldn't be the right thing todo and i'm glad you see this. your mum may just go tell others and then your friends will be upset with you. and in addition, it still isnt going to change the comparisons. they will find someone else to compare :) but you are doing the right thing by keeping quiet.

its really good to see 16 year olds with their heads screwed on right. take care girl and study hard for school.

[class_of_my_own]

exactly..

my mum asks me now why i never had a boyfriend when i was a lot younger and i told her because i didnt want one, i wanted to sort my education out..boys can always wait..why mess your life up for some idiot who wont stay the course of time? now its a different story, if she didnt approve id tell her i was going to do it anyway because im an adult now, i can take care of myself financially (So threatening to kick me out of the house wont hurt me lol) but i dont understand how young girls can take that risk..just for a quick fumble.

when i was at school i had a friend, she was a brainbox..my mum was in love with her, everything i did was measured against her..most of the time her grades were better than mine (she was a straight A student) and her mum used to look down her nose at me because i spoke to boys, i went out and messed about..even though my parents were ok with it. In short, i had a life and she didnt..all she knew were books.

me and her got to uni, the daughter was spoilt, everything was paid for by her dad, she never ever had to get a job..she became a crackwhore..she still is one now, i see her from time to time..

the mum is still looking down her nose at me when she sees me with a drink in my hand :no:

she saw me in the tattooists and immediately phoned my mum and told her..

you would think she had bigger things to worry about.

its funny how some desi folk have such big problems in their own households but still have the time to look down their noses at others, im doing nothing wrong..i work, i study, i pay my bills..so what if i want to go out and have a drink? im not selling my body for drugs, am i?

somehow she think to be a crackwhore is better than to be a social drinker.

yea thats tru, parents always judge other kids but never look at their own!

[mamamia!]

no i get you, it's true. but i think it's rather people who've lived abroad try very hard to conserve their culture...going to extremes. they are generally A LOT more conservative than the people who move after a while.

on the other end of the spectrum, there are desi's who've recently moved abroad and are much more liberal...it's not that they try harder to fit in, they actually progress with society in the way motherland has. but that doesn't necessarily make us sluts or wannabes...that can be in either situation.

[crayzee]

i'm the oldest too so i guess thats the reason i get everything
i really hate being the oldest child cause you have to set a good example for your siblings..like i'm the first one to exp everything..in 2 yrs i'll be starting college and i have to try my hardest to get into the best college i can not only that but either be in law, med, or something like that type of school...just cause if i get alot of eduaction than they would make them want to do the same..

you still respect him so its fine

yeh, tell me about it! wen i got into uni when i was only 16 my mum n dad were SOOO happy, not jus for me, but for my siblings too. My parents explained to me how the younger siblings tend to sub-consiously imitate the older siblings whether they realise it or not, so coz of that i try to act good in front of them. See, me n my brother... we're like the older duo, n my sis n my other bro r the younger duo. My sis tends to copy/act like me n my youngest bro acts like my other one....

me n my bro (older duo) are ALOT like each other but the difference between us is that i hardly EVER get caught doing anything (i do get up to stuff, but i jus dont get caught lol) but if he tries to get upto something he'll ALWAYS get caught. n even if i do get caught (which happens sometimes coz no-one's perfect lol) 9 out of 10 times i can talk my way out of it so i dnt really get into that much shit... but my bro, he's always in shit lol.

basically thats wot the younger duo r like. my sis never actually does anything so she doesnt get in shit AT ALL. If anyone says anything to her me, my dad, or my other brothers are always there to bak her up coz she's the only girl in the family. N the youngest one... he gets away with everything coz he's the youngest but if he pisses us off too much he'll get in shit too lol

my other bro (not the youngest one, the other one) he's kinda like the black-sheep in our family... the one that always fuk's up no matter wot. its not like he tries to piss everyone off, but he's jus different from me n my siblings. Dont get me wrong he gets along fine with us all, but he jus... well, fuks up alot lol.

so its basically like this:

me - the oldest
bro - the black-sheep
sis - the girl
bro - the baby

[lateforwork]

Not really. If anything their are few to no girls trying to fit in. I don't no why being a slut or dressing like one would make you fit in better. That's just weird.

[koolio19]

i was reading it and now i cant rememba a single bit of it wtf

[OmgItsSana08]

sana you are a good kid
i know it seems like sometimes you miss out on all this stuff your friends get to do, but in the long run all that stuff is trivial. just think how happy you are making your parents by being a good daughter and respecting your religion. your behaviour sets a positive example for your siblings. you can't make your parents happier than by listening to what they have to say and setting a positive example for your younger brothers and sisters.

when you feel like you don't get to do stuff.. think about how happy it makes your parents to know you are doing the right thing, and that should comfort you. if you are good, good things will come to you. and maybe when you are married then you will be able to do some more stuff that you can't do now, like pari said.

i know what you mean about wanting to blurt out all the things that your dodgy friends do, but that wouldn't be the right thing todo and i'm glad you see this. your mum may just go tell others and then your friends will be upset with you. and in addition, it still isnt going to change the comparisons. they will find someone else to compare :) but you are doing the right thing by keeping quiet.

its really good to see 16 year olds with their heads screwed on right. take care girl and study hard for school.
yeh, like on friday nights when all my friends are out having fun i'm sitting here on rd :neutral: ..at that point i get so mad but than i cool myself down and realize its fine and yeh, like pari said once i get married i will fufill my dreams :p

the bold part, totally agree

well, if you think about it..its somewhat good if i go on and tell what those girls have done because this way they will stop doing that and won't get gunah anymore

yeah thts true...plus i've noticed tht parents who let their kids do a lot of stuff (as in social freedom, going out, etc) usually dont do any "bad" stuff...its only those who are locked up like crazy tht go out n do wrong things cuz they're so suppressed
its one of those deals like when you know you can't do something that makes you want to do it even more
no i get you, it's true. but i think it's rather people who've lived abroad try very hard to conserve their culture...going to extremes. they are generally A LOT more conservative than the people who move after a while.

on the other end of the spectrum, there are desi's who've recently moved abroad and are much more liberal...it's not that they try harder to fit in, they actually progress with society in the way motherland has. but that doesn't necessarily make us sluts or wannabes...that can be in either situation.
:yes: agreed

where do you live at if you don't mind telling me?

yeh, tell me about it! wen i got into uni when i was only 16 my mum n dad were SOOO happy, not jus for me, but for my siblings too. My parents explained to me how the younger siblings tend to sub-consiously imitate the older siblings whether they realise it or not, so coz of that i try to act good in front of them. See, me n my brother... we're like the older duo, n my sis n my other bro r the younger duo. My sis tends to copy/act like me n my youngest bro acts like my other one....

me n my bro (older duo) are ALOT like each other but the difference between us is that i hardly EVER get caught doing anything (i do get up to stuff, but i jus dont get caught lol) but if he tries to get upto something he'll ALWAYS get caught. n even if i do get caught (which happens sometimes coz no-one's perfect lol) 9 out of 10 times i can talk my way out of it so i dnt really get into that much shit... but my bro, he's always in shit lol.

basically thats wot the younger duo r like. my sis never actually does anything so she doesnt get in shit AT ALL. If anyone says anything to her me, my dad, or my other brothers are always there to bak her up coz she's the only girl in the family. N the youngest one... he gets away with everything coz he's the youngest but if he pisses us off too much he'll get in shit too lol

my other bro (not the youngest one, the other one) he's kinda like the black-sheep in our family... the one that always fuk's up no matter wot. its not like he tries to piss everyone off, but he's jus different from me n my siblings. Dont get me wrong he gets along fine with us all, but he jus... well, fuks up alot lol.

so its basically like this:

me - the oldest
bro - the black-sheep
sis - the girl
bro - the baby
haha your family is somewhat like mine

me- the oldest
bro- 14 yr
sis- 12 yr
bro- 5 yr

we have something in common
i was reading it and now i cant rememba a single bit of it wtf
reread it :)

[gorjuzkuri]

hmm yah back home..things have realllllllly changed. I remember when i went there in 2001, i saw chicks with sleeveless clothes on. And, this is coming from a time when like even bollywood sort of covered themselves up. I know this much that there is more pressure on us, because if we turn out bad people back home will get a chance to insult us. Just because we were raised here...that will be their reason. And, the people over there that turn out like that...well supposedly they are just going with the trend. I find myself having done less things than most of the chicks from back home that i have talked to... its disturbing. Thats why a lot of the time my parents want me to go back over there to do med school...but they reconsider it and decide not to...because of the "halaat"

[aamir007]

never and never will I.
Its not even just parties I don't even go to school related event either. I am junior never been to a football game etc.

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