Are Men Just Not Expressive??

[gurl_exotica]

It's a question thats been bothering me for the past few months...



But over the months i've come to realize that "Men Basically Arent Expressive"
They love us...but they dont say it...
Does anyone here agree with me? :dunno:
Personally i feel men love more passionately than men...it takes them longer to get over a bad break up than women..
When they love they do so with their heart mind and soul....n yeah body ofcourse :p
But when it comes to expressing their love..they prefer to let actions speak..
Women on the other hand...if they love a lil..say it like a gazillion times as if they're makin sure themselves that they are really in luv...:no:
Having said all of that...



:Paper:

[BoO bOo]

:werd:


i agree.

you love me na?

[Angel Frm Heaven]

My e-bf says it more than me...
But he knows i heart him more :p
I do i do (if he's reading)

[BrownWallStreet8]

need the dose of appreciation...holla at me...anyways...love..bye for now... :wavey:

[Clueless_uk]

I think men prefer action more than speech.

Women talk too much and do less.

I prefer a man who can show me he loves me throigh his actions everday rather than he tell me he loves me everyday...and then forgets abt me....

Conclusion...women...will never be happy.

[thebrownone]

all we ask of women is to leave the money on the table in the morning and we'll be off

[gurl_exotica]

:werd:


i agree.

you love me na?
haha!! no i dont do that...but yeah
women do tend to get a lil too much sometimes...

[gurl_exotica]

My e-bf says it more than me...
But he knows i heart him more :p
I do i do (if he's reading)
cuuute! :D

[Angel Frm Heaven]

all we ask of women is to leave the money on the table in the morning and we'll be off
LMAO!
Your avatar makes me lol...awww

[gurl_exotica]

I think men prefer action more than speech.

Women talk too much and do less.

I prefer a man who can show me he loves me throigh his actions everday rather than he tell me he loves me everyday...and then forgets abt me....

Conclusion...women...will never be happy.
:cheers:
Word!!

[BrownWallStreet8]

It's a question thats been bothering me for the past few months...
Ever since i've been datin Ladoo ram (refer to sig) that is...
Are men just not expressive? :sarb:
A lot of times i find myself being the only one sayin..oh i love u so much and i miss u so much..:love:
I mean i start it atleast...he follows...
And it makes me think...does he not love me at all...:neutral:
But over the months i've come to realize that "Men Basically Arent Expressive"
They love us...but they dont say it...
Does anyone here agree with me? :dunno:
Personally i feel men love more passionately than men...it takes them longer to get over a bad break up than women..
When they love they do so with their heart mind and soul....n yeah body ofcourse :p
But when it comes to expressing their love..they prefer to let actions speak..
Women on the other hand...if they love a lil..say it like a gazillion times as if they're makin sure themselves that they are really in luv...:no:
Having said all of that...I know my BF loves me a lot..more than anyone can ever love me..even if he doesnt say it that often i know he does..n i love him too :tears:




:Paper:

the expression on his face...says it all
:p

[BoO bOo]

haha!! no i dont do that...but yeah
women do tend to get a lil too much sometimes...
:tears: and we wanna hear "i love you baby" all the time

[fattygirl]

men can be expressive. we are so alike, us men and women. our society has fucked us up through mass media. but men can open up

[gurl_exotica]

all we ask of women is to leave the money on the table in the morning and we'll be off

:lol:

[thebrownone]

LMAO!
Your avatar makes me lol...awww
was the "LMAO" for the avi or the vague male prostitution comment :sarb:

[gurl_exotica]

the expression on his face...says it all
:p
:slap:
wat do u mean :(

[thebrownone]

men can be expressive. we are so alike, us men and women. our society has fucked us up through mass media. but men can open up
no we cant :tears:

[BrownWallStreet8]

:slap:
wat do u mean :(

like he doesnt wanna be where he is...and why are u talkin so much kinda look...and what am i doin here kindalook
:rolleyes:

[gurl_exotica]

:tears: and we wanna hear "i love you baby" all the time
lol...i hate to admit it but it does feel nice to hear it sometimes :D

[gurl_exotica]

like he doesnt wanna be where he is...and why are u talkin so much kinda look...and what am i doin here kindalook
:rolleyes:
:neutral:
sig change time!!
:p

[Clueless_uk]

:cheers:
Word!!

My spelling is so shiiiiiiiit.

[gurl_exotica]

was the "LMAO" for the avi or the vague male prostitution comment :sarb:
i'm betting on the avi...

[BoO bOo]

lol...i hate to admit it but it does feel nice to hear it sometimes :D
:love: dont we get over excited? hehe

[gurl_exotica]

My spelling is so shiiiiiiiit.
:sarb:

[thebrownone]

i'm betting on the avi...
:rofl: for the longest time i thought this thread said "Are Men Just Not Expensive??"...nevermind

[gurl_exotica]

My case is exactly opposite. He is incredibly expressive and loving and I'm the reserved one. It isn't that I don't have the feelings, it is just not in my nature to express myself verbally. I prefer actions, I think they say much more.
i guess..
the case with my guy is that even if he wants to he cant express himself properly..
sometimes he'll hold my hand and he'd be like "i love u so so so much i just dont know how to tell u i love u" lol
its really cute when that happens..

[laal mia]

My e-bf says it more than me...
But he knows i heart him more :p
I do i do (if he's reading)

pusssss get real

[gurl_exotica]

:rofl: for the longest time i thought this thread said "Are Men Just Not Expensive??"...nevermind
:lollol:

[gurl_exotica]

:love: dont we get over excited? hehe
omg! omg! omg! we do we do we do :hyper:
:p

[WonkaBear]

Personally... im very loving, affectionate, and caring...

ill teach him for u

[gurl_exotica]

Personally... im very loving, affectionate, and caring...

ill teach him for u
lol...ajay!!!
ya plz...do that...next time ;)

[gurl_exotica]

Well, then there you have it. He chooses to show you how he feels in the way he knows he can express it best.

I know from my own experience that trying to force a person who just doesn't like to talk about things because they can't convey their message as accurately in verbal format can be disastrous. Just let him be him, the way he is comfortable. Don't worry too much unless he stops his actions as well.
i aint worrying...i was just wondering..is it the same with all men...
anyway...thanks :)
i totally agree with u on that

[Angel Frm Heaven]

was the "LMAO" for the avi or the vague male prostitution comment :sarb:
Avi...:D

[gurl_exotica]

Avi...:D
i win i win :dance2:

[WonkaBear]

lol...ajay!!!
ya plz...do that...next time ;)

I was trying to when we hung out. Like u know... "dont comment on other girls with ur gf around."

lol

thats the first step

[gurl_exotica]

I was trying to when we hung out. Like u know... "dont comment on other girls with ur gf around."

lol

thats the first step
lol...tell me abt it!! haha
it doesnt piss me off anymore...
infact now i just tell him to look...i'm like look...ogle stare...do anythin..as long as u just keep it in ur pants..:no:

[cunninglinguist]

so if men don't express their undying love for their women then they are generally not expressive?

[PuNjabi_RaNi*]

men can be expressive. we are so alike, us men and women. our society has fucked us up through mass media. but men can open up

Yep i agree. Both men and women are equally expressive. Everyone is different, best not to tar them with the same brush as the saying goes.

[Monaa]

Men sucks.period. okie most of em. :hand:

[Mash007]

possibly.

[gurl_exotica]

Men sucks.period. okie most of em. :hand:
lol...
now i wont generalize...

[Areez_UK_HUSTLER]

It's a question thats been bothering me for the past few months...
Ever since i've been datin Ladoo ram (refer to sig) that is...
Are men just not expressive? :sarb:
A lot of times i find myself being the only one sayin..oh i love u so much and i miss u so much..:love:
I mean i start it atleast...he follows...
And it makes me think...does he not love me at all...:neutral:
But over the months i've come to realize that "Men Basically Arent Expressive"
They love us...but they dont say it...
Does anyone here agree with me? :dunno:
Personally i feel men love more passionately than men...it takes them longer to get over a bad break up than women..
When they love they do so with their heart mind and soul....n yeah body ofcourse :p
But when it comes to expressing their love..they prefer to let actions speak..
Women on the other hand...if they love a lil..say it like a gazillion times as if they're makin sure themselves that they are really in luv...:no:
Having said all of that...I know my BF loves me a lot..more than anyone can ever love me..even if he doesnt say it that often i know he does..n i love him too :tears:




:Paper:

I disagree...... I was forever telling my woman that I loved her...... Im an emotional kinda a charater and love to give and receive compliments, and declarations of undieing lurve! ;-).................... Maybe I watched too many bollywood movies as a kid?!?! hehehe

[gurl_exotica]

so if men don't express their undying love for their women then they are generally not expressive?
we're not talking abt being over the top..but just saying it once in a while..it makes us women feel nice..

[gurl_exotica]

I disagree...... I was forever telling my woman that I loved her...... Im an emotional kinda a charater and love to give and receive compliments, and declarations of undieing lurve! ;-).................... Maybe I watched too many bollywood movies as a kid?!?! hehehe
aww...thats so sweet....
well so do u think not as a whole but mostly men are not expressive..
or mayb men are expressive..just not as much as we women are or as much as we'd like em to be so we see that as a bad thing..or certainly as not being enough..

[Monaa]

lol...
now i wont generalize...

haha. its not tht.. juz be happy he loves u .. uhmm.. its coo if hes not expressive.. guys dun usually do tht ...i think... :sarb:

[TaCoMaStUd]

im the Impressinator :rambo:

[gurl_exotica]

haha. its not tht.. juz be happy he loves u .. uhmm.. its coo if hes not expressive.. guys dun usually do tht ...i think... :sarb:
thats my point!!
thats exactly the point of my thread!!
i'm not sayin "my bf doesnt tell me he loves me..oo so sad" nope
all i'm tryin to find out is that are men actually not expressive?

[gurl_exotica]

im the Impressinator :rambo:
:sarb: i'm the dumb indian i didnt get the post :neutral:

[TaCoMaStUd]

:sarb: i'm the dumb indian i didnt get the post :neutral:

LOL ask Monaa

[cunninglinguist]

we're not talking abt being over the top..but just saying it once in a while..it makes us women feel nice..
exactly how often is once in a while?

[Areez_UK_HUSTLER]

aww...thats so sweet....
well so do u think not as a whole but mostly men are not expressive..
or mayb men are expressive..just not as much as we women are or as much as we'd like em to be so we see that as a bad thing..or certainly as not being enough..

In a line, I guess Men are raised with the mental note, that showing emotion is a sign of weakness........... its enforced on us by our fathers and grandfathers subconciuosly........... make sense?!?!

[Clueless_uk]

exactly how often is once in a while?

Probs once every 3 hours :lol:

[cunninglinguist]

Probs once every 3 hours :lol:
and that, my friend, is where the problem lies!
not my lack of expression, it's your greed for it :neutral:

[gurl_exotica]

In a line, I guess Men are raised with the mental note, that showing emotion is a sign of weakness........... its enforced on us by our fathers and grandfathers subconciuosly........... make sense?!?!
oh...makes so much of sense!! really!! wow!!

[gurl_exotica]

Probs once every 3 hours :lol:
haha...i was gonna say every five mins...haha..
i think we expect too much too...that is the problem..

[Areez_UK_HUSTLER]

oh...makes so much of sense!! really!! wow!!


I guess the only time u'll find one not shy of showing his emotions is if u find ................

"the Modern Man!"........... what ever that is! ;-)

[gurl_exotica]

I guess the only time u'll find one not shy of showing his emotions is if u find ................

"the Modern Man!"........... what ever that is! ;-)
oh yeah...that cliched "Modern Man"
oh the ways of the media...i tell u..:no:

[Areez_UK_HUSTLER]

oh yeah...that cliched "Modern Man"
oh the ways of the media...i tell u..:no:



Hahaha What is the modern man according to that good old cliche?!?!

any ideas?!?

[The Anti Desi]

Do you want us to be expressive???? :squint:

[musicchic33]

men can be expressive. we are so alike, us men and women. our society has fucked us up through mass media. but men can open up
w3rd

[OoDREAmerOo]

It's a question thats been bothering me for the past few months...
Ever since i've been datin Ladoo ram (refer to sig) that is...
Are men just not expressive? :sarb:
A lot of times i find myself being the only one sayin..oh i love u so much and i miss u so much..:love:
I mean i start it atleast...he follows...
And it makes me think...does he not love me at all...:neutral:
But over the months i've come to realize that "Men Basically Arent Expressive"
They love us...but they dont say it...
Does anyone here agree with me? :dunno:
Personally i feel men love more passionately than men...it takes them longer to get over a bad break up than women..
When they love they do so with their heart mind and soul....n yeah body ofcourse :p
But when it comes to expressing their love..they prefer to let actions speak..
Women on the other hand...if they love a lil..say it like a gazillion times as if they're makin sure themselves that they are really in luv...:no:
Having said all of that...I know my BF loves me a lot..more than anyone can ever love me..even if he doesnt say it that often i know he does..n i love him too :tears:




:Paper:


yeah.. sadly sooner or later u get used to it... and then hell come out of no where with the most romantic thing known to man.. sweep u off ur feet all over again... then go back to watching football. :neutral:

as long as he doesnt mistreat you, and he does things (not necc. romantic) that show concern, and care for you... u shouldnt dismiss that type of relationship.


-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

Do you want us to be expressive???? :squint:


u seem like youre more than expressive.

-drea

[The Anti Desi]

u seem like youre more than expressive.

-drea
And girls don't like that either. What the hell do y'all want??

[UnevenButtocks]

yeah.. sadly sooner or later u get used to it... and then hell come out of no where with the most romantic thing known to man.. sweep u off ur feet all over again... then go back to watching football. :neutral:

as long as he doesnt mistreat you, and he does things (not necc. romantic) that show concern, and care for you... u shouldnt dismiss that type of relationship.


-drea

*sigh* ok, can you elaborate? I'm kinda in this situation too:(

[gurl_exotica]

yeah.. sadly sooner or later u get used to it... and then hell come out of no where with the most romantic thing known to man.. sweep u off ur feet all over again... then go back to watching football. :neutral:

as long as he doesnt mistreat you, and he does things (not necc. romantic) that show concern, and care for you... u shouldnt dismiss that type of relationship.


-drea
i'm not dismissing him..no plz..lol..he's quite a sweetheart sometimes..
i just have to say i'm hungry n he'll land up at my college with some food..
i say i wanna watch a movie n next day i'll have the tickets in my hand..
lil things like these..they make one feel so nice..
come to think of it..he's quite perfect..:sarb:

[americanmohit]

some men are expressive. If I have a gf, I will express frequently to her :love:

[OoDREAmerOo]

And girls don't like that either. What the hell do y'all want??


moderation is key.

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

some men are expressive. If I have a gf, I will express frequently to her :love:


trust me on this... MOST girls dont like the frequent..."MUSHY MUSHY GOO BABY I LOOOOOVE YOU!!!" every 5 seconds... if u can take moderation of romance into consideration... and turn the most mundane moment into a romantic moment by surprise...

thats guaranteed punnany fo life.

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

i'm not dismissing him..no plz..lol..he's quite a sweetheart sometimes..
i just have to say i'm hungry n he'll land up at my college with some food..
i say i wanna watch a movie n next day i'll have the tickets in my hand..
lil things like these..they make one feel so nice..
come to think of it..he's quite perfect..:sarb:


man based on that ^^ i have no idea why u even made this thread then.

:neutral:

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

some girls think that by a guy bein over expressiveis too much or that there mental :neutral:


those are sum serious cheekbones you got there.

-drea

[americanmohit]

trust me on this... MOST girls dont like the frequent..."MUSHY MUSHY GOO BABY I LOOOOOVE YOU!!!" every 5 seconds... if u can take moderation of romance into consideration... and turn the most mundane moment into a romantic moment by surprise...

thats guaranteed punnany fo life.

-drea

je acha madam..aapke advice ke liye bahut bahut shukriyan..woh hamesha yaad rakhunga :salut:

[OoDREAmerOo]

je acha madam..aapke advice ke liye bahut bahut shukriyan..woh hamesha yaad rakhunga :salut:


kay.. u might have to translate that one buddy.

:neutral:

all i was gathering was that :" ok good madam , for ur advice im very very thankful... i will always remember it."

how off was i? :no:

-drea

[americanmohit]

kay.. u might have to translate that one buddy.

:neutral:

all i was gathering was that :" ok good madam , for ur advice im very very thankful... i will always remember it."

how off was i? :no:

-drea


yeah...that's what I said Drea Ji ;)

[OoDREAmerOo]

my cheekbones arent big :mad:


who said anything about them being big? i said they are serious... that coiuld mean many things..


..btw u look like a skinnier/lighter version of T.I.


-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

yeah...that's what I said Drea Ji ;)


man thats frikken awesome... i dont even speak hindi.


:cheers:

im gettin better woot woot

:afro:

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

k w.e man, i get that crap alot i dont see it.


no need to get upset... just statin a personal objective observation.

:neutral:


-drea

[UnevenButtocks]

no need to get upset... just statin a personal objective observation.

:neutral:


-drea


hey, where's my reply? :mad:

[OoDREAmerOo]

I aint gettin upset, thanks for ya "objective observation" ya happy :grouphug:


very happy.. i just had hot cocoa.


hot cocoa :love:

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

hey, where's my reply? :mad:


i didnt see ur post mayunn..

..ill go look now.


-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

*sigh* ok, can you elaborate? I'm kinda in this situation too:(


:hug: sorry for the late response....

so yeah... let me speak from person experience as i have more than enough :)

my first serious bf smothered the hell out of me. for the first 2 weeks (litterrally) it was cute... then after that, for two years.. i just slowly began to grow very very sick of him. He was a good person, did a lot for me.. but babied me way to much.. and spoke like he was 3 years old. :no:

my 2nd serious relationship.. the guy wouldnt even call me, :neutral: (lets just say that this one didnt last very long) he would talk to me only about things that concerned him... never about me.. and romance? pshhh forget that shit. :roll:

now my husband aka the love of my life, is the perfect mix. :) When we first started dating.. he was all out in the poems.. sentimental gifts etc... but after we got married and were flooded with schoolwork, work.. etc.. the romance died down. But just as i would begin to feel a little neglected.. id get a bouquet of flowers at work for no reason. i remember once the note said.. "Thanks for all your support
Your love never comes up short
These flowers are a small token
But our bank account is now broken."

and some nights after heavy study/ ignoring each other.. while i sleep.. i wake up to him whispering all these romantic things in my ear.. and my forhead being smothered with kisses..

Once you reach a point in a relationship (not necc a marriage) where you can count on each other for ANY/EVERYthing, it is no longer about YOU but is suddenly about WE, you can sense when the other is upset, and know exactly how to cheer them up, and most importantly your love is mutual and uninfluenced by outside sources...you are in a solid relationship, and should not let go of it.

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

email me some :sarb:


thats weird mayunn.

-drea

[Clueless_uk]

and that, my friend, is where the problem lies!
not my lack of expression, it's your greed for it :neutral:

U know....I read somin interesting in the Kur'an the other day..thot I'd share it on this topic...

it says..in heaven..each men will be provided with many virgins...and women in heaven will be given a man who will tell them all the things their heart ever desired.

:werd:

[graphicDESIgner]

Just 'cause you got a guy who isn't expressive doesn't mean
you can lump the rest of us in that category. If I were to do
the same, all women are clingy, arrogant, and unfaithful.

I'm plenty expressive. :hand:

[UnevenButtocks]

:hug: sorry for the late response....

so yeah... let me speak from person experience as i have more than enough :)

my first serious bf smothered the hell out of me. for the first 2 weeks (litterrally) it was cute... then after that, for two years.. i just slowly began to grow very very sick of him. He was a good person, did a lot for me.. but babied me way to much.. and spoke like he was 3 years old. :no:

my 2nd serious relationship.. the guy wouldnt even call me, :neutral: (lets just say that this one didnt last very long) he would talk to me only about things that concerned him... never about me.. and romance? pshhh forget that shit. :roll:

now my husband aka the love of my life, is the perfect mix. :) When we first started dating.. he was all out in the poems.. sentimental gifts etc... but after we got married and were flooded with schoolwork, work.. etc.. the romance died down. But just as i would begin to feel a little neglected.. id get a bouquet of flowers at work for no reason. i remember once the note said.. "Thanks for all your support
Your love never comes up short
These flowers are a small token
But our bank account is now broken."

and some nights after heavy study/ ignoring each other.. while i sleep.. i wake up to him whispering all these romantic things in my ear.. and my forhead being smothered with kisses..

Once you reach a point in a relationship (not necc a marriage) where you can count on each other for ANY/EVERYthing, it is no longer about YOU but is suddenly about WE, you can sense when the other is upset, and know exactly how to cheer them up, and most importantly your love is mutual and uninfluenced by outside sources...you are in a solid relationship, and should not let go of it.

-drea


OK, I understand, thanks so much for getting detailed:) My new guy is very attentive and verbal but I guess I am just one of those people that actually like being smothered all the time plus I am worrying about what happens when this calms down, down the road. But I guess that's when the "about WE" part that you mentioned comes along. I think I worry too much:) thanks again!!

[OoDREAmerOo]

ur married?wow


yeap.. and why is that wow...

am i too ugly to be married!? :slap:

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

its a joke idiot :neutral:, u take things too serious.

seems were not really on the same page in sarcasm.. as everything is typed online its misconstrued....

believe me.. i take NOTHING on here seriously.

no worries.

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

OK, I understand, thanks so much for getting detailed:) My new guy is very attentive and verbal but I guess I am just one of those people that actually like being smothered all the time plus I am worrying about what happens when this calms down, down the road. But I guess that's when the "about WE" part that you mentioned comes along. I think I worry too much:) thanks again!!


i think so too.. and believe me.. when i was getting to those points where i was beginning to feel a little neglected... id let him know.. I never bitched at him, and i saw a change very soon after. It wasnt me forcing him to do anything, but him needing an eye opener to get back on track..

communication is key... if ur man doesnt know youre starting to feel neglected.. he probably wont change anything.

but always remember the big picture is more important than all the little details.. as the same bf that smothered me with baby talk and presents was the same one that cheated on me several times, after being in a relationship with me for over 2 years.

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

my bad, misunderstood :dance3:


s'all good.

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

i duno maybe lol, na thats koo how old are u though?


i think im pretty when i comb my hair :neutral:

im 21.

-drea

[UnevenButtocks]

i think so too.. and believe me.. when i was getting to those points where i was beginning to feel a little neglected... id let him know.. I never bitched at him, and i saw a change very soon after. It wasnt me forcing him to do anything, but him needing an eye opener to get back on track..

communication is key... if ur man doesnt know youre starting to feel neglected.. he probably wont change anything.

but always remember the big picture is more important than all the little details.. as the same bf that smothered me with baby talk and presents was the same one that cheated on me several times, after being in a relationship with me for over 2 years.

-drea

:neutral: ok, that's terrible, I don't understand how someone can do that to another human being. I would be so hurt if someone managed to fool me so easily and tell me they love me and yet do this stuff behind my back. God, is nothing sacred anymore?! :mad:

[gurl_exotica]

Just 'cause you got a guy who isn't expressive doesn't mean
you can lump the rest of us in that category. If I were to do
the same, all women are clingy, arrogant, and unfaithful.

I'm plenty expressive. :hand:
good for u then :)
and ofcourse ur girl..

[OoDREAmerOo]

:neutral: ok, that's terrible, I don't understand how someone can do that to another human being. I would be so hurt if someone managed to fool me so easily and tell me they love me and yet do this stuff behind my back. God, is nothing sacred anymore?! :mad:


it was terrible.. but more in the sense of my pride being hurt, rather than my emotions.. I didnt feel very emotionally attached to him during those last few mths.. which was a blessing from god. Cuz if i was in love with him when he did that.. i may not have ever healed from it.

Because of that incident, i was single for over a year.. I just didnt trust any man for a long time. It began to rise as an issue during the beginning of my marriage.. but then i realized that i have no reason not to trust my husband, and now i take his word. I dont think history will repeat itself.. but ntg is set in stone...as i dont have control over what other people do. Its just a risk you take when being in love.

a lot is sacred when both people are willing to treat it that way....how often that happens, i really cant say.

-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

im playin u do look cute though, if thats obviously u in ur sig that is.


yep that be me.

in my crazy days. :)

-drea

[gurl_exotica]

:neutral: ok, that's terrible, I don't understand how someone can do that to another human being. I would be so hurt if someone managed to fool me so easily and tell me they love me and yet do this stuff behind my back. God, is nothing sacred anymore?! :mad:
i agree...
gawd its scary to just think abt...
2 years n then u find out he's been cheating on u...ermm..ermm..
:hug: i'm so happy u've found the perfect guy

[vimi]

It's a question thats been bothering me for the past few months...
Ever since i've been datin Ladoo ram (refer to sig) that is...
Are men just not expressive? :sarb:
A lot of times i find myself being the only one sayin..oh i love u so much and i miss u so much..:love:
I mean i start it atleast...he follows...
And it makes me think...does he not love me at all...:neutral:
But over the months i've come to realize that "Men Basically Arent Expressive"
They love us...but they dont say it...
Does anyone here agree with me? :dunno:
Personally i feel men love more passionately than men...it takes them longer to get over a bad break up than women..
When they love they do so with their heart mind and soul....n yeah body ofcourse :p
But when it comes to expressing their love..they prefer to let actions speak..
Women on the other hand...if they love a lil..say it like a gazillion times as if they're makin sure themselves that they are really in luv...:no:
Having said all of that...I know my BF loves me a lot..more than anyone can ever love me..even if he doesnt say it that often i know he does..n i love him too :tears:




:Paper:
Why would we say it?


If we with you that means we love you because if we dident we wouldent be with you.

[gurl_exotica]

it was terrible.. but more in the sense of my pride being hurt, rather than my emotions.. I didnt feel very emotionally attached to him during those last few mths.. which was a blessing from god. Cuz if i was in love with him when he did that.. i may not have ever healed from it.

Because of that incident, i was single for over a year.. I just didnt trust any man for a long time. It began to rise as an issue during the beginning of my marriage.. but then i realized that i have no reason not to trust my husband, and now i take his word. I dont think history will repeat itself.. but ntg is set in stone...as i dont have control over what other people do. Its just a risk you take when being in love.

a lot is sacred when both people are willing to treat it that way....how often that happens, i really cant say.

-drea
aww..it just makes my apparent bf problems seem so trivial...:no:

[gurl_exotica]

Why would we say it?


If we with you that means we love you because if we dident we wouldent be with you.
yeah but shouldnt "U ALL" be sayin it more often to "US"
lol

[UnevenButtocks]

i agree...
gawd its scary to just think abt...
2 years n then u find out he's been cheating on u...ermm..ermm..
:hug: i'm so happy u've found the perfect guy


thanks;) I'm blushing and I have this stupid grin on my face -----> :mrhappy: :rofl:

[vimi]

yeah but shouldnt "U ALL" be sayin it more often to "US"
lol
Hell no... once a year is enough

[gurl_exotica]

i think im pretty when i comb my hair :neutral:

im 21.

-drea
21 and married??
aww that's so cute...
sometimes i feel i wanna get married early too..
ppl talk abt getting old together...the thought of growing together is soooo cute!

[OoDREAmerOo]

do u miss those days, or u proud of the marriage life?


i miss them, but i wouldnt trade my life now to go back to it.

the only thing i miss about them is that i saw my friends and family(parents etc) everyday, and was goin to school in NY..


-drea

[gurl_exotica]

Hell no... once a year is enough
:no:
U Men....:no:
:lol:

[gurl_exotica]

thanks;) I'm blushing and I have this stupid grin on my face -----> :mrhappy: :rofl:
lol...so cute..

[OoDREAmerOo]

21 and married??
aww that's so cute...
sometimes i feel i wanna get married early too..
ppl talk abt getting old together...the thought of growing together is soooo cute!


i was 19 when i got married ;)

just be 110% sure that ur ready.. Ive always been mature past my days, so my decision was a more sound one compared to the decisions of most 19 yr olds :) just be sure ur mature enough for such a huge decision :)


-drea

[OoDREAmerOo]

aww..it just makes my apparent bf problems seem so trivial...:no:


thats entirely subjective... only you can determine what is a big or small issue when it concerns your life.


-drea

[Upsidedowndesi]

Guys are expressive...they don't show it because girls take things for granted real easy. If the guy is expresive the girl most of the times (after a while) will just look over if he says something sweet so keeping it a rare occasion is always a good idea. I used to be expressive, but then came a girl......

[gurl_exotica]

i was 19 when i got married ;)

just be 110% sure that ur ready.. Ive always been mature past my days, so my decision was a more sound one compared to the decisions of most 19 yr olds :) just be sure ur mature enough for such a huge decision :)


-drea
yeah...thanks for the advice..
:hug:
it's so nice seeing ppl like u n ur husband..so committed so much in luv :)
all the best....for life ahead!! :D

[OoDREAmerOo]

yea i aint gon get married for a while ya know, got too much things i wana do still :dance3: thats koo though. U plannin on havin kids soon?

understood... i guess the things most ppl do b4 they get married just didnt suit me/ appeal to me.. and i realized that marriage was the best thing we could have done :)

but i def do reccommend to other ppl to wait till youve done all the things you want to do AND know you CANNOT do when ur married... b4 u tie the knot.. else youll end up in divorce court b4 ur 1st anniversary :neutral:

as for kids.. i have to finish my degree.. and i want him to complete at least ONE year of dental school b4 we start trying :).... but i def do kno that i WILL be a MILF.. so im not delaying for too long. :cool2: ...plus i LOOOOOVE babies. :love: (and so does he)

-drea

[americanmohit]

i was 19 when i got married ;)

just be 110% sure that ur ready.. Ive always been mature past my days, so my decision was a more sound one compared to the decisions of most 19 yr olds :) just be sure ur mature enough for such a huge decision :)


-drea


whoaa :shock:...tooo earlyyyy

time has changed now...many people dont wanna get married early :neutral:

[OoDREAmerOo]

yeah...thanks for the advice..
:hug:
it's so nice seeing ppl like u n ur husband..so committed so much in luv :)
all the best....for life ahead!! :D

:mrhappy: all the best to you and ur ladoo as well! ;)

-drea

[gurl_exotica]

Guys are expressive...they don't show it because girls take things for granted real easy. If the guy is expresive the girl most of the times (after a while) will just look over if he says something sweet so keeping it a rare occasion is always a good idea. I used to be expressive, but then came a girl......
u got a point there :thumrigh:
i guess men n women are just different when it comes to love..
they both love differently..
n express differently too..
sorry abt what hapnd to u :hug:

[OoDREAmerOo]

whoaa :shock:...tooo earlyyyy

time has changed now...many people dont wanna get married early :neutral:


again.. thats a biased opinion.

Most 19 yr olds today are at the maturity state i was in when i was 16.

go figure.

-drea

[The Anti Desi]

moderation is key.

-drea
They still complain :rolleyes:

[indianshredder]

It's a question thats been bothering me for the past few months...
Ever since i've been datin Ladoo ram (refer to sig) that is...
Are men just not expressive? :sarb:
A lot of times i find myself being the only one sayin..oh i love u so much and i miss u so much..:love:
I mean i start it atleast...he follows...
And it makes me think...does he not love me at all...:neutral:
But over the months i've come to realize that "Men Basically Arent Expressive"
They love us...but they dont say it...
Does anyone here agree with me? :dunno:
Personally i feel men love more passionately than men...it takes them longer to get over a bad break up than women..
When they love they do so with their heart mind and soul....n yeah body ofcourse :p
But when it comes to expressing their love..they prefer to let actions speak..
Women on the other hand...if they love a lil..say it like a gazillion times as if they're makin sure themselves that they are really in luv...:no:
Having said all of that...I know my BF loves me a lot..more than anyone can ever love me..even if he doesnt say it that often i know he does..n i love him too :tears:




:Paper:


"It's not that I'm lazy, it's just that I don't care."

[*~MuFFiN~*]

u cant generalize all men into being non expressive..

theres my bf :love: who expresses his love thru words and actions

and theres also people like my brother who are unaffectionate the majority of the time but shine when they do express the slightest bit of care for another

[funky monkey]

ofcourse were expressive, i love all u bitches

[gujulicious]

yeah in my case i'm the less expessive one.

[gurl_exotica]

understood... i guess the things most ppl do b4 they get married just didnt suit me/ appeal to me.. and i realized that marriage was the best thing we could have done :)

but i def do reccommend to other ppl to wait till youve done all the things you want to do AND know you CANNOT do when ur married... b4 u tie the knot.. else youll end up in divorce court b4 ur 1st anniversary :neutral:

as for kids.. i have to finish my degree.. and i want him to complete at least ONE year of dental school b4 we start trying :).... but i def do kno that i WILL be a MILF.. so im not delaying for too long. :cool2: ...plus i LOOOOOVE babies. :love: (and so does he)

-drea
awwwwwwwwww...so cute...

[gurl_exotica]

:mrhappy: all the best to you and ur ladoo as well! ;)

-drea
thanks :)
its all needed...

[gurl_exotica]

yeah in my case i'm the less expessive one.
the thread says "EXPRESSIVE" not "expensive"
:p

[TYPE_R_GINO]

My case is exactly opposite. He is incredibly expressive and loving and I'm the reserved one. It isn't that I don't have the feelings, it is just not in my nature to express myself verbally. I prefer actions, I think they say much more. So don't be too quick to doubt his feelings.


hey how ya doin?? :wavey: Aint seen u around for ages


ur rite though ....there are many girls who are quite shy and dont like expressing themselves


sexxxy eyex in ur sig :love:

[gurl_exotica]

ofcourse were expressive, i love all u bitches
we love u tooo dawg!!! :love:
:p

[gurl_exotica]

u cant generalize all men into being non expressive..

theres my bf :love: who expresses his love thru words and actions

and theres also people like my brother who are unaffectionate the majority of the time but shine when they do express the slightest bit of care for another
lucky lucky!!!
:D

[cunninglinguist]

i fart when i get excited
that's expressive, right?

[gurl_exotica]

i fart when i get excited
that's expressive, right?
absolutely :neutral:

[graphicDESIgner]

good for u then :)
and ofcourse ur girl..

I'm still looking for one worthy of such adoration.
And desperation.

[gurl_exotica]

I'm still looking for one worthy of such adoration.
And desperation.
haha..best of luck too then!!

[sky_]

haha..best of luck too then!!


Are ou both in the same country?

if not
i dont understand how you guys are datting

sky

[gurl_exotica]

Are ou both in the same country?

if not
i dont understand how you guys are datting

sky
haha..
ya we both are in india..
why do u ask :sarb:

[sky_]

haha..
ya we both are in india..
why do u ask :sarb:


ok thats cool
cos some people on here think Being on RD
and chatting on MSN is dating

when they live like on each side of the planet

[gurl_exotica]

ok thats cool
cos some people on here think Being on RD
and chatting on MSN is dating

when they live like on each side of the planet
nah...that's not the case here..
we met on rd yeah...but we're both in the same city :)
nice avi pic...u look like this bollwood actor..i dont seem to remember his name right now..Jas Arora :sarb:

[sky_]

nah...that's not the case here..
we met on rd yeah...but we're both in the same city :)
nice avi pic...u look like this bollwood actor..i dont seem to remember his name right now..Jas Arora :sarb:

everytime
i come on here
someone always says i look like some bollywood actor


cant you guys pick anything good lol

anyway i do act
but in the uk

sky

[gurl_exotica]

everytime
i come on here
someone always says i look like some bollywood actor


cant you guys pick anything good lol

anyway i do act
but in the uk

sky
oh yeah...now i remember..
theatre?
Jas Arora is hella fine!! its a compliment...trust me :p

[SIXPAK GQ]

It's a question thats been bothering me for the past few months...
Ever since i've been datin Ladoo ram (refer to sig) that is...
Are men just not expressive? :sarb:
A lot of times i find myself being the only one sayin..oh i love u so much and i miss u so much..:love:
I mean i start it atleast...he follows...
And it makes me think...does he not love me at all...:neutral:
But over the months i've come to realize that "Men Basically Arent Expressive"
They love us...but they dont say it...
Does anyone here agree with me? :dunno:
Personally i feel men love more passionately than men...it takes them longer to get over a bad break up than women..
When they love they do so with their heart mind and soul....n yeah body ofcourse :p
But when it comes to expressing their love..they prefer to let actions speak..
Women on the other hand...if they love a lil..say it like a gazillion times as if they're makin sure themselves that they are really in luv...:no:
Having said all of that...I know my BF loves me a lot..more than anyone can ever love me..even if he doesnt say it that often i know he does..n i love him too :tears:




:Paper:
just b/c someone says i love you doesnt mean they do. i say that to like almost any girl these days...i am expressive when it comes to sex.

actions is all that matters not words
do u have any examples how ur b/f loves you?

[Jhansi_Ki_Rani]

It's a question thats been bothering me for the past few months...
Ever since i've been datin Ladoo ram (refer to sig) that is...
Are men just not expressive? :sarb:
A lot of times i find myself being the only one sayin..oh i love u so much and i miss u so much..:love:
I mean i start it atleast...he follows...
And it makes me think...does he not love me at all...:neutral:
But over the months i've come to realize that "Men Basically Arent Expressive"
They love us...but they dont say it...
Does anyone here agree with me? :dunno:
Personally i feel men love more passionately than men...it takes them longer to get over a bad break up than women..
When they love they do so with their heart mind and soul....n yeah body ofcourse :p
But when it comes to expressing their love..they prefer to let actions speak..
Women on the other hand...if they love a lil..say it like a gazillion times as if they're makin sure themselves that they are really in luv...:no:
Having said all of that...I know my BF loves me a lot..more than anyone can ever love me..even if he doesnt say it that often i know he does..n i love him too :tears:
:Paper:

MOST men are not very expressive... but on the contrary... i have came across the few who are expressive... even more than i am...
i guess its a balance thing u know... if u say it too much... he says it less and vice versa

i think...
:sarb:

[gurl_exotica]

just b/c someone says i love you doesnt mean they do. i say that to like almost any girl these days...i am expressive when it comes to sex.

actions is all that matters not words
do u have any examples how ur b/f loves you?
if i text him from college sayin i'm so hungry n i cant eat..he'll land up in college with some food as soon as my class is over..
n if thr's some chic flick i wanna watch n i know he'd rather die than watch it..he'll still get me 1st day 1st show tickets to watch it together..
this n a lotta other lil things..
like put his hand around me if we're in a crowded place..
open the door for me..
he even dusts the chair before he lets me sit on it :love:
:p
doesnt he luv me so much?

[gurl_exotica]

MOST men are not very expressive... but on the contrary... i have came across the few who are expressive... even more than i am...
i guess its a balance thing u know... if u say it too much... he says it less and vice versa

i think...
:sarb:
yeah i guess...that makes sense..

[SIXPAK GQ]

MOST men are not very expressive... but on the contrary... i have came across the few who are expressive... even more than i am...
i guess its a balance thing u know... if u say it too much... he says it less and vice versa

i think...
:sarb:


how many men have you been with for your stats to be legitimate?
perhaps they are NOT expressive with you. The only reason I would not be expressive is if i didn't care for a girl.

[SIXPAK GQ]

if i text him from college sayin i'm so hungry n i cant eat..he'll land up in college with some food as soon as my class is over..
n if thr's some chic flick i wanna watch n i know he'd rather die than watch it..he'll still get me 1st day 1st show tickets to watch it together..
this n a lotta other lil things..
like put his hand around me if we're in a crowded place..
open the door for me..
he even dusts the chair before he lets me sit on it :love:
:p
doesnt he luv me so much?


What the hell is a chick flick? movies are movies period. whether its action or a soap opera. People like to watch different genre of movies.
The stuff you mention is high school. It does not really apply in a mature relationship. I am talking about people who live together for years (married people). The stuff you mention is not love. It takes years for the love to take place. Give it another 5 years and then comeback to me and then tell me if he still does these things. They say love is forever. So I am assuming even 40 some years from now. This thread will live up to its expectations.

[SIXPAK GQ]

I think men prefer action more than speech.

Women talk too much and do less.

I prefer a man who can show me he loves me throigh his actions everday rather than he tell me he loves me everyday...and then forgets abt me....

Conclusion...women...will never be happy.


talk is cheap. action speak louder then words.

[lagaan]

Mine's the opposite. I love him more than anything, yet he's the one asking me "Why don't you ever say 'I love you' as much as I do?" and I don't know how to respond! I just don't say those words as much, I guess. As many people have said before me, actions speak a lot more than words.

[SIXPAK GQ]

In a line, I guess Men are raised with the mental note, that showing emotion is a sign of weakness........... its enforced on us by our fathers and grandfathers subconciuosly........... make sense?!?!
i dont care what society and parents have thought us. i like to express myself. who gives a f**k what others thinks of u

[SIXPAK GQ]

trust me on this... MOST girls dont like the frequent..."MUSHY MUSHY GOO BABY I LOOOOOVE YOU!!!" every 5 seconds... if u can take moderation of romance into consideration... and turn the most mundane moment into a romantic moment by surprise...

thats guaranteed punnany fo life.

-drea


right, it get boring if you do it too much. just like eating the same food over and over, it gets boring.

[SIXPAK GQ]

je acha madam..aapke advice ke liye bahut bahut shukriyan..woh hamesha yaad rakhunga :salut:
u should never take advice from a girl when it comes to dating

[SIXPAK GQ]

im playin u do look cute though, if thats obviously u in ur sig that is.


looks doesnt really play a pivotal role in a marriage. its the big picture that counts like she stated earlier

[SIXPAK GQ]

21 and married??
aww that's so cute...
sometimes i feel i wanna get married early too..
ppl talk abt getting old together...the thought of growing together is soooo cute!

do not make the mistake of getting married early. You personality will change over time.

Statistics say that people who marry early usually end up in divorce. So I would wait another 10 years if I were you

[SIXPAK GQ]

i miss them, but i wouldnt trade my life now to go back to it.

the only thing i miss about them is that i saw my friends and family(parents etc) everyday, and was goin to school in NY..


-drea

marriage is just a piece of paper. whats there to change after marriage. you are just living together and thats the only difference. Do you have kid(s)?

[SIXPAK GQ]

understood... i guess the things most ppl do b4 they get married just didnt suit me/ appeal to me.. and i realized that marriage was the best thing we could have done :)

but i def do reccommend to other ppl to wait till youve done all the things you want to do AND know you CANNOT do when ur married... b4 u tie the knot.. else youll end up in divorce court b4 ur 1st anniversary :neutral:

as for kids.. i have to finish my degree.. and i want him to complete at least ONE year of dental school b4 we start trying :).... but i def do kno that i WILL be a MILF.. so im not delaying for too long. :cool2: ...plus i LOOOOOVE babies. :love: (and so does he)

-drea

you do anything you want after marriage like I said earlier its just a piece of legal paper. you are going to be a milf? milf cheat on their husbands.

[SIXPAK GQ]

again.. thats a biased opinion.

Most 19 yr olds today are at the maturity state i was in when i was 16.

go figure.

-drea
19 year old these days are like 13 year olds.

25 year olds like 18 year old..


30 year old girl is more suitable for me

[gurl_exotica]

do not make the mistake of getting married early. You personality will change over time.

Statistics say that people who marry early usually end up in divorce. So I would wait another 10 years if I were you
okie!! thanks :-)

[cunninglinguist]

19 year old these days are like 13 year olds.

25 year olds like 18 year old..


30 year old girl is more suitable for me
do women the age of 30 still like to be called girls?

[gurl_exotica]

do women the age of 30 still like to be called girls?
:lollol:

[ladoo ram]

:lollol::hug: :kiss: I <3 U

[cunninglinguist]

:hug: :kiss: I <3 U
so.... i hear you're not expressive :neutral:

[vimi]

:hug: :kiss: I <3 U
awwwwwwwwwwwwwww

so sweet

[ladoo ram]

so.... i hear you're not expressive :neutral:
orly? lol well may be at times she feel,s like that.

[cunninglinguist]

orly? lol well may be at times she feel,s like that.
that's women for ya mayne
whereas we men just coast :cool:

[ladoo ram]

that's women for ya mayne
whereas we men just coast :cool::werd:

[gurl_exotica]

love u tooo jaanu :love:
:hug:

[SIXPAK GQ]

do women the age of 30 still like to be called girls?


Lot of them do in this generation. its a compliment for them to look younger

[monishb]

It's a question thats been bothering me for the past few months...
Ever since i've been datin Ladoo ram (refer to sig) that is...
Are men just not expressive? :sarb:
A lot of times i find myself being the only one sayin..oh i love u so much and i miss u so much..:love:
I mean i start it atleast...he follows...
And it makes me think...does he not love me at all...:neutral:
But over the months i've come to realize that "Men Basically Arent Expressive"
They love us...but they dont say it...
Does anyone here agree with me? :dunno:
Personally i feel men love more passionately than men...it takes them longer to get over a bad break up than women..
When they love they do so with their heart mind and soul....n yeah body ofcourse :p
But when it comes to expressing their love..they prefer to let actions speak..
Women on the other hand...if they love a lil..say it like a gazillion times as if they're makin sure themselves that they are really in luv...:no:
Having said all of that...I know my BF loves me a lot..more than anyone can ever love me..even if he doesnt say it that often i know he does..n i love him too :tears:




:Paper:


I get bored of repeating myself too many times. Most guys are laid back, but you will find a lot of serious guys also. It really depends, but most guys will never tell their feelings.

[urbannomad23]

men just want things two ways.....quick and easy.

it's as simple as that, whereas women just look for sentimental value in the decision process of something(s).

it sounds kinda legit, but you can make so many $$ making jokes off of it.

[gurl_exotica]

I get bored of repeating myself too many times. Most guys are laid back, but you will find a lot of serious guys also. It really depends, but most guys will never tell their feelings.
ya..i kinda figured that myself..thanks

[gurl_exotica]

men just want things two ways.....quick and easy.

it's as simple as that, whereas women just look for sentimental value in the decision process of something(s).

it sounds kinda legit, but you can make so many $$ making jokes off of it.
lol...ok!
here's someone who says it as it is!

[urbannomad23]

lol...ok!
here's someone who says it as it is!


haha :wavey:

[gurl_exotica]

haha :wavey:
:wavey:

[monishb]

ya..i kinda figured that myself..thanks


:rolleyes: your welcome

[gurl_exotica]

:rolleyes: your welcome
:anxious: