Should she put this desi dude in his place???

[DesiPrince005]

hiiiiiiiiiii.....how is everybody doing??? studying hard?

anyways....
yeah...i have a friend.. (u can stop thinking shes a whore because shes not..shes sweet and innocent :mad: )

she started this semester...happy and worry free...classes going good...
in her math....all of a sudden shes been noticing this desi guy kinda eyeing her...
she told me that at first that she thought it was nothing..she thought maybe he just likes to look at people..
but...he has been doing it more and more frequently...its really obvious now because he sits so close to her and its like hes literally breathing down her neck...lol :p

its really upsetting her and making her very confused :sarb:

but yeah..like today he approached her and was like "hi" and stuff but she said she brushed him away rather rudely and quickly because she said she is scared of his intentions..

now she feels bad and started crying cuz she doesnt want to be mean to a guy who doesnt deserve it..

but her problem is...she doesnt know how to handle the situation...she dated a desi guy before..and it really was disasterous because it seemed like the guy was really confusing and had less than sincere intentions...shes not desi...so i guess he was trying to play games with her..

basically...shes scared of desi guys...and this guy seems to pay too much attention to her...

she doesnt want to be mean...it will make her feel guilty later...
but she doesnt want to be nice...because she doesnt know his intentions...and since shes not desi...shes afraid if she is too nice he will mistake it for her being a whore?

HELP ME TELL HER WHAT TO DO! ?!?! I DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT TO TELL HER...

[desi_playa]

WOW!! i cant put in to words how lame and fimly this situation is.

ur freind seems lame the desi guy seems lame and u seem lame for talkin abt them over here.

[DesiPrince005]

WOW!! i cant put in to words how lame and fimly this situation is.

ur freind seems lame the desi guy seems lame and u seem lame for talkin abt them over here.


yes they are soooo very lame...but lame people need guidance too

now answer the question

what is she suppose to do? :sarb:

[desi_playa]

yes they are soooo very lame...but lame people need guidance too

now answer the question

what is she suppose to do? :sarb:

wht is she suppose to do??

talk to the guy, just cause u talk to someone dont mean u are gona hook up and start fuckin on the spot. r u guys still in india??

[DesiPrince005]

wht is she suppose to do??

talk to the guy, just cause u talk to someone dont mean u are gona hook up and start fuckin on the spot. r u guys still in india??


yeah...im still in India :rolleyes: (nooo)

ANYWAYS..

i know that just because you have a conversation doesnt mean anything...

i told her just be nice to him...maybe he just wanna be ur friend or cheat off your work... :p

but yeah...he is making it very obvious...he not even that "relax" about it...he approached her so formal

but shes afraid he might try to be her friend or something...she doesnt want to waste her time talking to a guy...especially if he is just pretending to be nice

its humiliating...

i guess she wants to find out his intentions before she really "talks" to him

how can she do that?

[weirdox007]

okay ...so wat does she want you to do? i mean it is her situation ...situation like this i think she should be one to make a decision...but that's just me...

[desi_playa]

yeah...im still in India :rolleyes: (nooo)

ANYWAYS..

i know that just because you have a conversation doesnt mean anything...

i told her just be nice to him...maybe he just wanna be ur friend or cheat off your work... :p

but yeah...he is making it very obvious...he not even that "relax" about it...he approached her so formal

but shes afraid he might try to be her friend or something...she doesnt want to waste her time talking to a guy...especially if he is just pretending to be nice

its humiliating...

i guess she wants to find out his intentions before she really "talks" to him

how can she do that?


oh wow u really know how to make a big deal out of nothing. lay of the indian soap operas it will help you out big time.

man i get wierd looks from chicks everyday not cause they think wana hook up, just cause i have a bad habit of wearin my shirt inside out and not noticing it.

[DesiPrince005]

oh wow u really know how to make a big deal out of nothing. lay of the indian soap operas it will help you out big time.

man i get wierd looks from chicks everyday not cause they think wana hook up, just cause i have a bad habit of wearin my shirt inside out and not noticing it.

do i have to say every detail???

im not going to get into the whole story man....

but like i said..at first..yeah she thought he was just looking and random people..

but now he is always sitting right next to her...and trying to be cute by talking to her and asking questions...

its just that today...he did more and introduced himself and asked some other questions...which made her think...

this is not the end of it.... :neutral:

how does she handle it and figure out his intentions..and be nice?

[DesiPrince005]

okay ...so wat does she want you to do? i mean it is her situation ...situation like this i think she should be one to make a decision...but that's just me...



i guess..she wants to figure out..what he is all about

i mean...shes not opposed to making friends...
but shes not sure if he is trying to make friendship....or has other intentions besides that...

shes tired of pushing him away...because now it seems like she is just being rude and superior...

i guess she thinks he is a nice guy...but how can she be sure?

[DesiPrince005]

yeah..i know its not any of my business...

but she really doesnt know what to do...

she went to private school for part of her life..and her parents keep her locked up in the house..
shes not simple nor stupid...she just wants to be careful not to hurt anybody feelings..or judge a person too quickly...

i cant help her because..im not really the best judge since im not like most dudes...

(btw..i see people looking at the thread..but not posting :( any advise will help...a different perspective)

[RajaMag]

you dont have to pick whether to be nice or mean. there is a middle ground where you can just talk as friends. your friend shouldn't assume what the guy's intentions are even though it is pretty obvious. hang out in groups and you won't have a problem.

[DesiPrince005]

you dont have to pick whether to be nice or mean. there is a middle ground where you can just talk as friends. your friend shouldn't assume what the guy's intentions are even though it is pretty obvious. hang out in groups and you won't have a problem.


yeah...taht sounds pretty good..
ill tell her maybe to invite some of her girlfriends to go wit them if they go to lunch or study....
but sometimes friends are not always available..
what can she ask him..so she can find out what type of person he is..?

[RajaMag]

She can ask him what he likes to do for fun. Ask him what's he studying. Find out if he has few friends or a lot of friends. If he has few friends then he's probably introverted so if he comes off shy or weird I wouldn't hold that against him.

If you let him do the talking most of the time you'll learn a lot about him without revealing yourself too much. The best thing to do is keep asking questions. Normally people fall for it because they love to talk about themselves.

[vgirl]

yeah if your friend wants to find out what kind of guy he is. she should talk to him and ask him questions. but she has to adopt that stance where she is not Too nice (obviously taht will be seen as encouragement) and not rude. she needs to have that level middle ground where she's semi-interested in what he's saying.

he probably just wants to be friends with her. tell her not to agree to hang out with him if he asks her to hang out until she gets to know him better. tell her to just say she is busy.

[desi_uk]

ignore him or get 'the boys' on him

[foreverconfused]

Talk to him in the same way she would talk to any friend, and if he suggests anythign more than friendship, let him down gently.

[RajaMag]

he if gets pushy and won't leave you alone just tell him you have a boyfriend and then have one your guy friends hold your hand in the vicinity of where the other guy can see. this will make him stop unless he is a stalker.

[XprtNYYKY]

she sounds naive..and ready to take all challenges head on. in other words...she cant even stand up for herself...a follower..

[LiLtOoCrAzYyY]

its jus a guy why da hell does she care wat he thinks, or if she's mean to him and he's not deserving of it? If she cares so much, than apparently she likes him. and if she doesn't like him, then watever.

if she doesn't wanna be friends with him, then don't. ur not forced to be friend with someone, if you don't want to be.

[DesiPrince005]

its jus a guy why da hell does she care wat he thinks, or if she's mean to him and he's not deserving of it? If she cares so much, than apparently she likes him. and if she doesn't like him, then watever.

if she doesn't wanna be friends with him, then don't. ur not forced to be friend with someone, if you don't want to be.


yeah ur right...but if he is a really nice guy
u may end up feeling very gulty later...plus he will have no explanation for why she has an "attitude" problem and might deem her as rude...

all the advise is really good though...we talked about it last night...

seems to be going well so far...they had class today and he seems to be doing everything right so far...

i think the whole hanging out with group will work good...maybe if she invites her girlfriends to study together of something....

but yeah..thanks again

i know it seems like middle school problems...but sometimes a lack of experience can make simple things go terribly wrong...

[harvey_mayway]

wht is she suppose to do??

talk to the guy, just cause u talk to someone dont mean u are gona hook up and start fuckin on the spot. r u guys still in india??

it just cracked me up..... Desi Playa is giving the Desi Prince advice... on girls.

[harvey_mayway]

yeah...im still in India :rolleyes: (nooo)

ANYWAYS..

i know that just because you have a conversation doesnt mean anything...

i told her just be nice to him...maybe he just wanna be ur friend or cheat off your work... :p

but yeah...he is making it very obvious...he not even that "relax" about it...he approached her so formal

but shes afraid he might try to be her friend or something...she doesnt want to waste her time talking to a guy...especially if he is just pretending to be nice

its humiliating...

i guess she wants to find out his intentions before she really "talks" to him

how can she do that?

for ucks shake.....humm intresting use of words..


Ask him to Shaadi.... (ask his parents to visit her parents, and they can work out the guys intentions)

[harvey_mayway]

> body check the guy into a locker,when you next see him in school then say you'll "fuck him up if comes near your girl"..

[Social_larki]

ignore him or get 'the boys' on him


that's some wack shit

[DesiPrince005]

for ucks shake.....humm intresting use of words..


Ask him to Shaadi.... (ask his parents to visit her parents, and they can work out the guys intentions)


omg...yeah :eek:

that sounds really nicccccccccce...lol

i dont think shes looking to shaddi...

plus...we dont got a clue where the guy is from..again we are not in India and we dont have easy access to his biodata..

i know some people can get married after a couple months of knowing each other but i doubt that will work for her...

we are pretty close...one thing i know for sure...id want to know my partner for a long time before i actually marry that person...

im sure she feels the same..she a good friend :grouphug:

[Aroosa]

WOW!! i cant put in to words how lame and fimly this situation is.

ur freind seems lame the desi guy seems lame and u seem lame for talkin abt them over here.

LOL

[RajaMag]

how did this situation end. did the guy become a stalker?