ARRANGED MARRIAGES... ur thoughtz on this enlightning issue... lol

[Bak Squad]

One thing I honestly could never understand about our culture is ARRANGED MARRIAGES. I understand you're my parents and want the best for me but picking who I'm supposed to spend the rest of my life with... a lil' superficial isn't it. It's like since the desi parents had their marriages done that way, I guess they believe our should be as well. I'm pretty much against the concept of ARRANGED MARRIAGES because ur parents are making one of ur BIGGEST decisions and live and it can effect you it in a big way. I mean how do you expect someone to fall in love with another person over a limited time and get to know them inside out. Love is natural thing and U cant MAKE anyone love anybody else.So, what are your insights and thoughts about this big issue in our community...

[MissAdore]

I'm not against arranged marriages.. your parents always want the best for you. They'll look into the person's family background and check everything before they get you married to that person.. so you know the person isn't worthless. It's not like they're forcing you to marry the person, you can say no if you'd like.

But personally, I wouldn't have an arranged marriage because I am in love :love:

[Bak Squad]

I'm not against arranged marriages.. your parents always want the best for you. They'll look into the person's family background and check everything before they get you married to that person.. so you know the person isn't worthless. It's not like they're forcing you to marry the person, you can say no if you'd like.

But personally, I wouldn't have an arranged marriage because I am in love :love:

Awww, ishn't that shweetttt lol, nah im just messing with u...

[x_xamzx_x]

i think arranged marriages can work..my sister had one,but before they got married,they talked and met up e.t.c...and they got on great,and theyr both happy now...so i guess in some cases they do work,just very rarely that they dont

[MissAdore]

Awww, ishn't that shweetttt lol, nah im just messing with u...
:-s

[will rap 4 food]

i say..fuck arrange marriage,im 100% against it never liked the idea..i rather date people and decide for myself

[patel2005]

I'm not against arranged marriages.. your parents always want the best for you. They'll look into the person's family background and check everything before they get you married to that person.. so you know the person isn't worthless. It's not like they're forcing you to marry the person, you can say no if you'd like.

But personally, I wouldn't have an arranged marriage because I am in love :love:

i agree ...you can always no if you don't want to marry the person ur parents choose for you ....because i think ur life partners family background is very importent before choosing them.... it will play a big part in hows ur life partner is ....well sometimes u don't get it right ....

i had mine done arrange marriaged ...and its been almost 3 yrs and its good ...i couldn't had anyone better then her .... i love her..

[lady_noor]

I'm not keen on it, arabs don't really have arranged marriages so my parents, i don't think, would do that to me. if they did, i would run away.

I really don't think family background is important. Or their career..sure, when you meet people, that's a general description you'd normally give and if you want to show off then you'd maybe want both those characteristics to be good.

But for me, i want someone who understands me, appreciates me and loves me regardless.

[Chucky_666]

i agree ...you can always no if you don't want to marry the person ur parents choose for you ....because i think ur life partners family background is very importent before choosing them.... it will play a big part in hows ur life partner is ....well sometimes u don't get it right ....

i had mine done arrange marriaged ...and its been almost 3 yrs and its good ...i couldn't had anyone better then her .... i love her..
did she live in the same country as u at the time (meaning if u lived in england, she was also living there?)

[patel2005]

I'm not keen on it, arabs don't really have arranged marriages so my parents, i don't think, would do that to me. if they did, i would run away.

I really don't think family background is important. Or their career..sure, when you meet people, that's a general description you'd normally give and if you want to show off then you'd maybe want both those characteristics to be good.

But for me, i want someone who understands me, appreciates me and loves me regardless.
well you saying family background is not important as well the person itself has to be good as well, but believe me it is ...and u only realise when its hits u hard ...but anyway its different for everyone ...every situation is different then others :)

[Bak Squad]

i say..fuck arrange marriage,im 100% against it never liked the idea..i rather date people and decide for myself

MOST DEF. I agree witchu man.... it is OUR LIFE afterall, ya know...

[GT & MK KING]

i'm not into it but it does work out best.

[suga suga]

i am totally up for arranged marriages
of course i get my own say in the end

[GT & MK KING]

i am totally up for arranged marriages
of course i get my own say in the end
ya its true...my brother is gettn married nex month and it was arranged. he had a say in what to look for

[patel2005]

yes i had same thing in my marriage ...i had last word in it ...and believe me i couldn't have picked out anyone better then her ....

[Chucky_666]

i am totally up for arranged marriages
of course i get my own say in the end
:werd:

[Chucky_666]

yes i had same thing in my marriage ...i had last word in it ...and believe me i couldn't have picked out anyone better then her ....
good to hear

[suga suga]

yes i had same thing in my marriage ...i had last word in it ...and believe me i couldn't have picked out anyone better then her ....
our parents are MUCH better judges of character than we are...they can see past the things that we see

[Chucky_666]

our parents are MUCH better judges of character than we are...they can see past the things that we see
definitely.. in the end, listening to our parents reaches us to jannat.. and worse comes to worse, it doesnt work out, pple wont blame u, as they would if it was a love marriage.

[GT & MK KING]

here's a Q...shouldnt 2 ppl get to know one anotha b4 gettn married? especially in our culture


i have a friend of mine who likes this guy...they been together like 2 yrs...she doesnt like the idea that she has to be in an arranged marriage..she is muslim and so is the guy

[patel2005]

here's a Q...shouldnt 2 ppl get to know one anotha b4 gettn married? especially in our culture


i have a friend of mine who likes this guy...they been together like 2 yrs...she doesnt like the idea that she has to be in an arranged marriage..she is muslim and so is the guy
yes 2 ppls should get to know each other first ....well even if its arrange marriage ...u can always says that...let 2 of us meet and find out for our selfs that if both of us are comfortable with eachother....and in end if ur not then u can always say no...

and also if your in love with someone and think that person is the one ..then probably try to convince your parents for your marriage ....show them what kind of that guy is ..his family and stuffs ....

[patel2005]

i also think that parents have to be open minded about their children having love marriage ..because if they don't give their kids a chance and what if kids ran away and get married ...what u gonna do????

[GT & MK KING]

i see...for me though i wanna get to know the girl b4 anything happens. wanna know her strengths n flaws, compatability, etc

most ppl say arranged marriage is best...majority of the time it works out always

[aditya]

i feel that partially arranged marriages have a tendency to work well. I view marriages as two familys joining as opposed to JUST two people. And i think of the parents searching as a sort of screennig process to eliminate potential conflicts between teh two families. Because ussually the gross conflicts between teh people will be very apparent and therefore two people will choose not ot mary eachother but some of the subtler conflicts dont arrise and conflicts can potentially be avoided by the parents screening.... however i feel that the two people should still love eachother before tehy get married .

[punjabi_gurl_17]

i dun care...i dun want to get lover marrige..im perfectly fine with arragne...

[patel2005]

i feel that partially arranged marriages have a tendency to work well. I view marriages as two familys joining as opposed to JUST two people. And i think of the parents searching as a sort of screennig process to eliminate potential conflicts between teh two families. Because ussually the gross conflicts between teh people will be very apparent and therefore two people will choose not ot mary eachother but some of the subtler conflicts dont arrise and conflicts can potentially be avoided by the parents screening.... however i feel that the two people should still love eachother before tehy get married .
i agree with u buddy

[FruzzyKittySox]

I hate the idea of arranged marriages as well. I think people who are involved in them could have been much more happy if they had been given their choice as to who they could be with.

You're right, such an important decision shouldn't be in the hands of someone else to make, it should be your decision. How many of you have ever dated a girl for a couple of months till she was comfortable around you. Then, at the end of the second month, bam! She reveals how crazy she is. Same thing could happen in an arranged marriage, only then you've got no way out.

And how well do your parents really know you? They probably think they know what you want, but I know what I want much better than my family, I would hate to be in an arranged marriage.

[jat_jatt_sardar]

I don;t want an arranged marriage, nbut I am definmetly against dating.
I perfer to find a girl and then maybe have the marriage arranged kind of.

[Bak Squad]

i dun care...i dun want to get lover marrige..im perfectly fine with arragne...

Im not even tryna be mean but... LOVER MARRIAGE... haha, you just made my day... lol good one ;)

[Bak Squad]

I don;t want an arranged marriage, nbut I am definmetly against dating.
I perfer to find a girl and then maybe have the marriage arranged kind of.

Oh, aai bhi changa hega paaji...

[will rap 4 food]

MOST DEF. I agree witchu man.... it is OUR LIFE afterall, ya know...


exactly...and another thing idont like is indian parents buggin out about interacial marraige....i mean its not that its interracial its the fact that if its a gora they dont mind but if its anything else they say no...i odnt get tha.t.it annoys me!

[Bak Squad]

exactly...and another thing idont like is indian parents buggin out about interacial marraige....i mean its not that its interracial its the fact that if its a gora they dont mind but if its anything else they say no...i odnt get tha.t.it annoys me!

yup yup... I mean u also gotta look at it from there perspective though, like they're looking at it like... oh if my son wants to marry a gori, how's she gunna adapt to our cultures/lifestyle and things like that so that's why they highly disapprove of inter-racial marriages, but yeah i see ur point bro, like if two people love each other... let them BE!