I am not supposed to have g/f's

[MrCanuck]

Heck I am not even supposed to go out with a girl as a friend and I'd be dammed if I was ever caught talking to one.

And then one day when I am 30 and all my friends are gone their own way, I am just supposed to get married to some girl my family picks out for me.

Goddammit! What is wrong with desi people these days?!? Especially family, they see you talking to a girl and they are all like "Do you like her? Shall we propose for you? (marriage)"... "Shut up we saw the way you were looking at her, what are you going to name your kids?". Piece a shit! You would expect that from desi parents but SIBBLINGS AND COUSINS TOO ??? What gives?

[Fatty4life]

sucks for you.

[theoneandonlysss]

well!!! do you like her or not...

[Jhansi_Ki_Rani]

looks like someone's really feeling the preassure eh?

[lankanbaby]

My family is the opposite. I once told my mom that I wanna have an arranged married (cause I just got out of a relationship and I was sick of men). My mom told me to go find someone and she'll arrange everything else. :neutral:

[the_dark_drag0n]

Well my folks don't mind if I date, and I still don't for some odd reason. LOL And heck, my parents aren't pushing the whole "you can only date/marry Guju" on me either.

I don't think you're right to generalize about Desi communities like that. We're changing.

[bad_cheque]

Yeah desis are like that. If you talk to a girl, they think that you love her and start making all kinds of assumptions.

[Spiky]

u r life sucks...cant help it, too late now.

[sheerin]

life isn't fair there are some ppl in worse situations than u u should be happy that ur parents care about u and don't want to u to get hurt

[the_dark_drag0n]

Yeah desis are like that. If you talk to a girl, they think that you love her and start making all kinds of assumptions.Haha Doesn't it just suck when the GIRLS start talking to people about how you like them just because you made the mistake of talking to them in a friendly gesture!

[=Surge=]

Become independent, and play by your own rules.

[T.Dimera]

my mom is always telling me to 'find a girlfriend'....

[logik]

mmm turn gay?

[BiJLi]

isnt 30 a lil late to get married? :sarb:

[BiJLi]

thats gay

[xa16ax]

mmm turn gay?
ya pretend to turn gay, and ur parnets wont like the idea of that, so the will make u get a girl, or make u have sex with a ho to turn to straight

[desi_playa]

if thats u in ur sig, than go with mommas choice of girl.

[freshmanik_13]

dude come with me and lets hit up a fuckin strip bar

[sheerin]

if thats u in ur sig, than go with mommas choice of girl.
u r so mean :no:

[PLaTinUm_STaRz]

dat suxx

[logik]

if thats u in ur sig, than go with mommas choice of girl.

lmao....we should have gay sex.

[desi_playa]

lmao....we should have gay sex.

only if i get to be on top.

[sunrize]

Heck I am not even supposed to go out with a girl as a friend and I'd be dammed if I was ever caught talking to one.

And then one day when I am 30 and all my friends are gone their own way, I am just supposed to get married to some girl my family picks out for me.

Goddammit! What is wrong with desi people these days?!? Especially family, they see you talking to a girl and they are all like "Do you like her? Shall we propose for you? (marriage)"... "Shut up we saw the way you were looking at her, what are you going to name your kids?". Piece a shit! You would expect that from desi parents but SIBBLINGS AND COUSINS TOO ??? What gives?
not all desi people are like that

[EviLi]

Heck I am not even supposed to go out with a girl as a friend and I'd be dammed if I was ever caught talking to one.

And then one day when I am 30 and all my friends are gone their own way, I am just supposed to get married to some girl my family picks out for me.

Goddammit! What is wrong with desi people these days?!? Especially family, they see you talking to a girl and they are all like "Do you like her? Shall we propose for you? (marriage)"... "Shut up we saw the way you were looking at her, what are you going to name your kids?". Piece a shit! You would expect that from desi parents but SIBBLINGS AND COUSINS TOO ??? What gives?

Look at the bright side, you'll be married by next year!

[NYGujjuGirl]

Heck I am not even supposed to go out with a girl as a friend and I'd be dammed if I was ever caught talking to one.

And then one day when I am 30 and all my friends are gone their own way, I am just supposed to get married to some girl my family picks out for me.

Goddammit! What is wrong with desi people these days?!? Especially family, they see you talking to a girl and they are all like "Do you like her? Shall we propose for you? (marriage)"... "Shut up we saw the way you were looking at her, what are you going to name your kids?". Piece a shit! You would expect that from desi parents but SIBBLINGS AND COUSINS TOO ??? What gives?


lolz...sounds like my life...my daddie will freak if he seez me talkin to a guy...just gotta be careful!
damn
but what can u do? we are indian

[un4gtablpunjaban]

my parents r like tht too.....im not allowed to go out cus thats totally against our culture in my mom's words..........:neutral:

[P4ki4Lyf]

i don't like u :neutral:

[Parallax]

You are old enough that you can renegotiate your relationship with your parents. They should only have an effect on your romantic life if you let them. Your parents love you and will adjust to keep a good relationship but you may have to be more firm about your beliefs on marriage.

I know that a lot of desis find it hard dating because they are not used to it. They don't "go steady" with girls when they are in middle school and keep incrementally moving up the dating spectrum from there. But you have to make an honest effort if you want another choice than an arranged marriage. I know it is complicated for most families but it is something you have to explore (the opportunity to fall in love) if you have the time to do it.

My family doesn't have arranged marriages and are somewhat different than most desi families in a lot of regards. The bad part of that (from most desi's points of view) is that they allow myself and my brother to get our hearts broken, make mistakes, and possibily even end up alone... if we don't put in the effort ourselves to fall in love and marry.

P.S. - Is that the real Stanley Cup or the part of it that is the Hockey Hall of Fame? I have seen the Stanley Cup once in 2002 and now it is touring North Carolina since the Hurricanes won! I am going to have to head out to celebrate with it soon.

P.P.S. - Rani, you are one gorgeous lady.

[RacingSoul]

Yeah desis are like that. If you talk to a girl, they think that you love her and start making all kinds of assumptions.

:hand: speak for urself :rolleyes:

[Foxy_Lay_D]

Heck I am not even supposed to go out with a girl as a friend and I'd be dammed if I was ever caught talking to one.

And then one day when I am 30 and all my friends are gone their own way, I am just supposed to get married to some girl my family picks out for me.

Goddammit! What is wrong with desi people these days?!? Especially family, they see you talking to a girl and they are all like "Do you like her? Shall we propose for you? (marriage)"... "Shut up we saw the way you were looking at her, what are you going to name your kids?". Piece a shit! You would expect that from desi parents but SIBBLINGS AND COUSINS TOO ??? What gives?
Typical desi pplz same thing like this my 2 lil sisters going to pk and there
was a aunty and she start to talkin about searchin for rishta if they are there,
and they are like 18/20 i was like what da fuk marriage is'nt that important auntiyaan ko shadi ke pari hoti hai. But she said t hat i guess becoz she feel so great coz she find a rishta for her daughter.

[T.Dimera]

my parents didn't really ask about my love life until i graduated...now they are always up in my business because they know being single, young, and earning loads of $$$ can be a dangerous combination

[MrCanuck]

Why aren't you on AIM, yaar?
What the heck is that???

[MrCanuck]

You guys are idiots. I AM independant and I DO live by my own fucking rules. And YES I do like this girl. Else I wouldn't give a damn.

But think about it for one second... you are talking to this girl, you like her, you think she likes you too and all of a sudden everyone around you is like "He likes you!"... BAM! It's over! She knows I like her, the challenge/suspense/mystery is over. And she instantaneously loses interest.

The worst, imagine this: You are 22-years-old and someone from your family goes up to the girl and says "This guys really likes you. Do you like him? He is a very nice guy". What the hell kind of impression would that leave on her?! "Is he that big of a desperste wuss that he has his family proposing for him?" "Is that the first time he ever talks to a girl that everyone he knows thinks he is desperstely trying to find a wife".

And If I directly tell everyone to fuck off it'll be them thinking of me as a desperate wuss becoming defensive and making a big deal out of a girl.

[herbew_hammer]

Heck I am not even supposed to go out with a girl as a friend and I'd be dammed if I was ever caught talking to one.

And then one day when I am 30 and all my friends are gone their own way, I am just supposed to get married to some girl my family picks out for me.

Goddammit! What is wrong with desi people these days?!? Especially family, they see you talking to a girl and they are all like "Do you like her? Shall we propose for you? (marriage)"... "Shut up we saw the way you were looking at her, what are you going to name your kids?". Piece a shit! You would expect that from desi parents but SIBBLINGS AND COUSINS TOO ??? What gives?
your parents are picking a girl for you becasue you let them. Obviously you are not a man yet. Maybe in time you will make your own decisions. Either concentrate on other things and give up control over this aspect of your life or just take control of your own life and pick what you want. I would suggest you let your parents get you someone to love and cherish. WIth your looks and talent you wont score very much above sub par.

[MrCanuck]

your parents are picking a girl for you becasue you let them. Obviously you are not a man yet. Maybe in time you will make your own decisions. Either concentrate on other things and give up control over this aspect of your life or just take control of your own life and pick what you want. I would suggest you let your parents get you someone to love and cherish. WIth your looks and talent you wont score very much above sub par.
You're a fucking prick. It seems like you know everything there is to know about me now don't you? Always have a smart-ass comment to make. Now go crawl under your rock you fucking Heb.

[herbew_hammer]

You're a fucking prick. It seems like you know everything there is to know about me now don't you? Always have a smart-ass comment to make. Now go crawl under your rock you fucking Heb.
why are you getting all worked up dude? All I am saying is that your guilt is dictating the terms here. You need to live your own life like other rich happy love marrige couples do. I am just warning you that your not really a looker so maybe think before entering the date scene. I am trying to help you get the best looking most talented girl here since were talking odds.
Chil out.

[BDzFinEst]

just hook up with SIXPAK GQ , && the two of you can complain about your lack of male genitilia

[herbew_hammer]

just hook up with SIXPAK GQ , && the two of you can complain about your lack of male genitilia
omg pwned. I love you !

[BDzFinEst]

omg pwned. I love you !


Why thank you =]

[herbew_hammer]

Why thank you =]
bzfinest...do you think im bieng an ass to canuk? :/

[BDzFinEst]

No not @ all.

I think his story is rather mixed up, because he claims to be independent, but wants sympathy for following his parents "rules" doesn`t make sense.

But whatever really. We`re living in the 21st century, arranged marrage is part of culture, but it`s not the only option. I hate how people make it the only option because they arent willing to talk to their family about it. God forbid, grow up already Canuk.

[herbew_hammer]

No not @ all.

I think his story is rather mixed up, because he claims to be independent, but wants sympathy for following his parents "rules" doesn`t make sense.

But whatever really. We`re living in the 21st century, arranged marrage is part of culture, but it`s not the only option. I hate how people make it the only option because they arent willing to talk to their family about it. God forbid, grow up already Canuk.
so there.
thanks. :2gun: :danceem:

[BDzFinEst]

Oh, and the name is Tonny(taw-ny), btw.

[herbew_hammer]

Oh, and the name is Tonny(taw-ny), btw.
pleasure, Tonny. :D
YOu can call me Salu.

[jumpn jza]

speak for ureself cuz...my rentz are kool bout that stuff...just talk to em, make em change their minds, if not just do what u want...

[MrCanuck]

why are you getting all worked up dude? All I am saying is that your guilt is dictating the terms here. You need to live your own life like other rich happy love marrige couples do. I am just warning you that your not really a looker so maybe think before entering the date scene. I am trying to help you get the best looking most talented girl here since were talking odds.
Chil out.

Please take your head out of your ass before you talk to me.

I am not trying to find a girl here. In fact, if that's the last place I would want to get hooked up. FYI I already have a girl... that is the point of this whole topic. And me not being a looker coming from a dude who doesn't even have his pic up. Figures.

[herbew_hammer]

Please take your head out of your ass before you talk to me.

I am not trying to find a girl here. In fact, if that's the last place I would want to get hooked up. FYI I already have a girl... that is the point of this whole topic. And me not being a looker coming from a dude who doesn't even have his pic up. Figures.

First of all please dont try to feed me that "I am not trying to find a girl" bs. Because then either you are lying or just a woman because most young men i know persue pussy everywhere and anywhere. ONly fags and girly men are selective early on.
I think you are confused. Probably hooked up with a not so prety girl and now you are in a jam...because if she was hot youd say "fuck the parents".."let them deal with my choices"..but she isnt all that so you winge and complain and try to put the blame on the rents for your shortcomings. You are more confortable blaming others than owning up to problems. Its hard to notice i know but i pick up subtle personal conflits in ppl like that...
I am trying to help you see past the social pressure i endured i too endured when i was 6-7 and i know how you feel confused and worry about your future. LEts be friends.. ill help you get past peer pressure and the fact that you put your self worth in others.

btw Look lets not get into my looks.. i am heavily persued by aunties wanting me as their son in law. i love my face and my body. Exceptional me is.

[MrCanuck]

dude STFU. I don't want you as a friend. Let me put my topic into plain language...

I like this girl a lot and I'm afraid my desi family will scare her away. Clear?

[notoriou$punjabi]

You guys are idiots. I AM independant and I DO live by my own fucking rules. And YES I do like this girl. Else I wouldn't give a damn.

But think about it for one second... you are talking to this girl, you like her, you think she likes you too and all of a sudden everyone around you is like "He likes you!"... BAM! It's over! She knows I like her, the challenge/suspense/mystery is over. And she instantaneously loses interest.

The worst, imagine this: You are 22-years-old and someone from your family goes up to the girl and says "This guys really likes you. Do you like him? He is a very nice guy". What the hell kind of impression would that leave on her?! "Is he that big of a desperste wuss that he has his family proposing for him?" "Is that the first time he ever talks to a girl that everyone he knows thinks he is desperstely trying to find a wife".

And If I directly tell everyone to fuck off it'll be them thinking of me as a desperate wuss becoming defensive and making a big deal out of a girl.
they talkin for you cos you prolly have the suspense going on for years now.. its not a tv show

tell her n if shes not interested then move on

[MrCanuck]

they talkin for you cos you prolly have the suspense going on for years now.. its not a tv show

tell her n if shes not interested then move on

It has been a few months only and I will only say something if SHE likes me. I am not to ask her if she likes me but it will rather be for her to find out. I am not going to pitch in the dark not knowing squad.

[p0rt_1337]

ALL this shit arises in the following way...

Desi guys are in most cases hidden from sex growing up as rents never talk about it.

Desi guys then become obsessed with sex and generally being pervs.

They see many desi and non desi girls as sex objects.

Desi girls after being hit on every 3 steps in town think ALL desi guys are fucked up pervs so brush em off without a second thought, not realisign there still ARE a few decent of us left.

Desi guys then think these girls are stuck up bitches.

As the generations pass, a desi dad will not let his daughter talk to any guys, cuz he sees them as the perv he once was!


Sad but true! :mad:


How to break the cycle of bullshit:

DESI GIRLS --> SPEAK TO US, WE WONT BITE!...








....unless u want us too!


JP! JP! :p

[herbew_hammer]

dude STFU. I don't want you as a friend. Let me put my topic into plain language...

I like this girl a lot and I'm afraid my desi family will scare her away. Clear?
You are so childish. I think you've seen one too many indian love story movies. In the end.. the girl will probably end up leaving you which would be kind of ironic. Good luck.

[notoriou$punjabi]

It has been a few months only and I will only say something if SHE likes me. I am not to ask her if she likes me but it will rather be for her to find out. I am not going to pitch in the dark not knowing squad.
mmmmm tell her

Leti hai ke dun kya

[desisk83r]

Heck I am not even supposed to go out with a girl as a friend and I'd be dammed if I was ever caught talking to one.

And then one day when I am 30 and all my friends are gone their own way, I am just supposed to get married to some girl my family picks out for me.

Goddammit! What is wrong with desi people these days?!? Especially family, they see you talking to a girl and they are all like "Do you like her? Shall we propose for you? (marriage)"... "Shut up we saw the way you were looking at her, what are you going to name your kids?". Piece a shit! You would expect that from desi parents but SIBBLINGS AND COUSINS TOO ??? What gives?
..wow how old are you again? don't you think it's time for you to make your own rules as to how you live your own life?

[shari34]

Heck I am not even supposed to go out with a girl as a friend and I'd be dammed if I was ever caught talking to one.

And then one day when I am 30 and all my friends are gone their own way, I am just supposed to get married to some girl my family picks out for me.

Goddammit! What is wrong with desi people these days?!? Especially family, they see you talking to a girl and they are all like "Do you like her? Shall we propose for you? (marriage)"... "Shut up we saw the way you were looking at her, what are you going to name your kids?". Piece a shit! You would expect that from desi parents but SIBBLINGS AND COUSINS TOO ??? What gives?

You're an idiot if you listen to your parents after the age of 21.

Choose your own wife..you dummy!

It's YOUR life, not theirs. You're the only one who has to to live with it the rest of your life. If you want to be miserable...then go ahead!

[shari34]

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