listen man... i dont like you

[nawtysaika]

my sister's fiance wanted me to meet one of his friends. he wanted to set me up with him. i have never met him and i have only talked to him over the phone for around three weeks now. he sounds like a dream guy. two days ago we exchanged pictures and i really didn't feel attracted to him. even though his physique is WOW.

but i dont like him.
AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL HIM THAT???

pleeeeeeeez help!! i love his personality but am not attracted to him!!! i dont want to meet him but hes so looking farward to meet me and hes been complimenting me so so so much. i cant in return say

listen man... i dont like you

[malkeet]

meet me instead

[nawtysaika]

meet me instead

hehe... ;)

[sheerin]

just try one date with the guy and then if u still don't like them then tell him that

[nawtysaika]

just try one date with the guy and then if u still don't like them then tell him that

i dont want to sound nasty but i dont even want to answer his phone call aswel coz dont wna lead him on anymore.....

[malkeet]

my sister's fiance wanted me to meet one of his friends. he wanted to set me up with him. i have never met him and i have only talked to him over the phone for around three weeks now. he sounds like a dream guy. two days ago we exchanged pictures and i really didn't feel attracted to him. even though his physique is WOW.

but i dont like him.
AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL HIM THAT???

pleeeeeeeez help!! i love his personality but am not attracted to him!!! i dont want to meet him but hes so looking farward to meet me and hes been complimenting me so so so much. i cant in return say

listen man... i dont like you

jus say to him u jus see him as a friend now?? and so u dont want a relationship

[nawtysaika]

jus say to him u jus see him as a friend now?? and so u dont want a relationship

hes looking for a serious relationship n he dint want a friend... he made that clear inda start...

:sarb:

[nawtysaika]

jus say to him u jus see him as a friend now?? and so u dont want a relationship

oh u mean if i tell him that i only take u as a friend... he'll get the point :sarb:

[sheerin]

i dont want to sound nasty but i dont even want to answer his phone call aswel coz dont wna lead him on anymore.....
o omy u should tell him as soon as possible before he gets more ideas in his head

[malkeet]

oh u mean if i tell him that i only take u as a friend... he'll get the point :sarb:

yes...say as uv been talkin these past few weeks uv moved into the friends zone and thats all i can see u as now

[RoMeO6969]

gurls suck with this leadin on crap

[nawtysaika]

o omy u should tell him as soon as possible before he gets more ideas in his head

i dint talk to him for 2 days afta seeing his picture... but i talked to him 2day n he said... hes lookin forward to talk to me 2nite... :neutral:

yes...say as uv been talkin these past few weeks uv moved into the friends zone and thats all i can see u as now

wel since we've been talkin... hes been going on bout... wen vL b 2getha.. its gna b like this... its gna b like that.... n vVE not talked as freinds....
=(

[malkeet]

i dint talk to him for 2 days afta seeing his picture... but i talked to him 2day n he said... hes lookin forward to talk to me 2nite... :neutral:



wel since we've been talkin... hes been going on bout... wen vL b 2getha.. its gna b like this... its gna b like that.... n vVE not talked as freinds....
=(

well then theres no way u can avoid sayin it directly to him that ur not interested...jus be honest..and im sure he'l understand.

[nawtysaika]

gurls suck with this leadin on crap

yeh thats y afta seeing the pic i dint talk to him... but he dint get the point n rang again 2day

[israfil]

y are girls so fucking confusing and complicated.
"his physique is "wow", his personality is great...but im just not attracted to him"
lmao
then whts the fucking problem.
lol

[nawtysaika]

y are girls so fucking confusing and complicated.
"his physique is "wow", his personality is great...but im just not attracted to him"
lmao
then whts the fucking problem.
lol

I DONT LIKE HIS FACE

[nawtysaika]

well then theres no way u can avoid sayin it directly to him that ur not interested...jus be honest..and im sure he'l understand.

wel i havent commented on his looks.... not even once.... it wud hv been better if he understood the silence :(

[~Charmi~]

tell him you wish to be single at the moment and your not planning on being in a relationship..

[sheerin]

i dint talk to him for 2 days afta seeing his picture... but i talked to him 2day n he said... hes lookin forward to talk to me 2nite... :neutral:

is he that unattracted

[nawtysaika]

tell him you wish to be single at the moment and your not planning on being in a relationship..

i only got introduced to him coz i wanted a relationship :neutral:

[nawtysaika]

is he that unattracted

wel i find him very unattractive... othas mite have different opinions :rolleyes:

[~Charmi~]

i only got introduced to him coz i wanted a relationship :neutral:
okay, then your screwed. ummm,tell him that you can't be in a relationship real fast, you need to be friends with him for a couple of months Lol..(even though he said he didnt want just friendship)

[israfil]

I DONT LIKE HIS FACE

AHAHAH I WAS WAITING FOR U 2 SAY THAT ! :D
k so this is the thing i hate the most about women.
(i caught my sister on this one too)
she was lecturing me on how i only go out with chics that are good looking. and she was like men are such pigs yada yada yada.

so a couple of days later, there was this rishta for her, n she rejected the guy n when i asked her y shes like "because i wasnt physically attracted to him" n im like "like his face?" n shes like "yeah"
and i basically jumped :D n im like "HA! N U WERE SAYING MEN R PIGS CHOOSING THEIR PARTNERS BASED ON THEIR FACES N BODIES!"

...
lol not that any of u cared, sorry i just had 2 share that.
k so newayz
this is wht i hate most about women, they whine and bitch about the things guys do, like the way we choose our partners. n yet they do the same thing :neutral: .

now when i come 2 the forum topic creater, i support her decision.
fuck i wouldnt want to wake up to a freaky face the rest of my life n get up screaming...
k so maybe im being a little dramatic...
but u know wht...wht if u get a rishta from a really hot guy. well educated.
perfect family blah blah blah. basically your dream guy. and he rejects ur ass because of ur face :dance3:
tell me that wouldnt suck.
thats y i go out with all kinds of girls, ugly or hot. wht really matters is if shes a pain in the ass personality wise.

[nawtysaika]

okay, then your screwed. ummm,tell him that you can't be in a relationship real fast, you need to be friends with him for a couple of months Lol..(even though he said he didnt want just friendship)

erm... thats leadin him on and he calls me every nite for more than an hour... n i dont want that happening anymore.... =(

sumthing else i cud do?
i feel like pullin my hair out.... :neutral:

[~Charmi~]

erm... thats leadin him on and he calls me every nite for more than an hour... n i dont want that happening anymore.... =(

sumthing else i cud do?
i feel like pullin my hair out.... :neutral:
okay then one day look really ugly.. HOPEFULLY that'll do

[nawtysaika]

AHAHAH I WAS WAITING FOR U 2 SAY THAT ! :D
k so this is the thing i hate the most about women.
(i caught my sister on this one too)
she was lecturing me on how i only go out with chics that are good looking. and she was like men are such pigs yada yada yada.

so a couple of days later, there was this rishta for her, n she rejected the guy n when i asked her y shes like "because i wasnt physically attracted to him" n im like "like his face?" n shes like "yeah"
and i basically jumped :D n im like "HA! N U WERE SAYING MEN R PIGS CHOOSING THEIR PARTNERS BASED ON THEIR FACES N BODIES!"

...
lol not that any of u cared, sorry i just had 2 share that.
k so newayz
this is wht i hate most about women, they whine and bitch about the things guys do, like the way we choose our partners. n yet they do the same thing :neutral: .

now when i come 2 the forum topic creater, i support her decision.
fuck i wouldnt want to wake up to a freaky face the rest of my life n get up screaming...
k so maybe im being a little dramatic...
but u know wht...wht if u get a rishta from a really hot guy. well educated.
perfect family blah blah blah. basically your dream guy. and he rejects ur ass because of ur face :dance3:
tell me that wouldnt suck.
thats y i go out with all kinds of girls, ugly or hot. wht really matters is if shes a pain in the ass personality wise.

hmmm.... ^^^

hes educated... he earns loadzzzz.... hes body is WOW.... hes down to earth sweet and honest.... but i dont like his face... really dont....b4 looking at his picture i thot am sorted

wel hes a guy n he said wen choosing a partner he wud weigh looks 50% and presonality 50%

i disagreed with him that u cant give that much importance to looks hehe

[israfil]

hmmm.... ^^^

hes educated... he earns loadzzzz.... hes body is WOW.... hes down to earth sweet and honest.... but i dont like his face... really dont....b4 looking at his picture i thot am sorted

wel hes a guy n he said wen choosing a partner he wud weigh looks 50% and presonality 50%

i disagreed with him that u cant give that much importance to looks hehe


LOL, look its simple really.
but first you have to realize that, there is no way on earth you can turn down someone without hurting their feelings. so u can forget about that.
next
tell your sister's fiance u dont like him.
but id wait until ur sister gets married first.
mean while just ignore him
n when u think the time is right, tell ur sister's fiance u dont like him.
kapeesh

[nawtysaika]

LOL, look its simple really.
but first you have to realize that, there is no way on earth you can turn down someone without hurting their feelings. so u can forget about that.
next
tell your sister's fiance u dont like him.
but id wait until ur sister gets married first.
mean while just ignore him
n when u think the time is right, tell ur sister's fiance u dont like him.
kapeesh

my sistas fiance already knows.....
wel he said that he cant tell his friend that.... iL hv to tell him myself...

[israfil]

my sistas fiance already knows.....
wel he said that he cant tell his friend that.... iL hv to tell him myself...

ahahahahah loool.
damn that sucks huh.
k so look. just take a deep breath and use the regular dialogs on him.
there are plenty.

(1) i look at u as a friend, yada yada yada yada
(2) ewwww marry you? fuck no. :D
(3) Look...at first i wanted to get married...but now i dont... (ever since i saw ur pretty face) [mumbling the stuff in the brackets its optional]
(4) Look im sorry...but your just not the kinda guy im looking for, but my friend ____________ would love to go out with you.
i can't think of anything else rih now, but look
the point is, u cant get him off of your case without hurting him.
its the way of life.
so gud luck. im out
take care
byeeee

[nawtysaika]

ahahahahah loool.
damn that sucks huh.
k so look. just take a deep breath and use the regular dialogs on him.
there are plenty.

(1) i look at u as a friend, yada yada yada yada
(2) ewwww marry you? fuck no. :D
(3) Look...at first i wanted to get married...but now i dont... (ever since i saw ur pretty face) [mumbling the stuff in the brackets its optional]
(4) Look im sorry...but your just not the kinda guy im looking for, but my friend ____________ would love to go out with you.
i can't think of anything else rih now, but look
the point is, u cant get him off of your case without hurting him.
its the way of life.
so gud luck. im out
take care
byeeee

thanks :hug:

hmm... ur helps appreciated......
xxx

[dopekhor]

my sister's fiance wanted me to meet one of his friends. he wanted to set me up with him. i have never met him and i have only talked to him over the phone for around three weeks now. he sounds like a dream guy. two days ago we exchanged pictures and i really didn't feel attracted to him. even though his physique is WOW.

but i dont like him.
AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL HIM THAT???

pleeeeeeeez help!! i love his personality but am not attracted to him!!! i dont want to meet him but hes so looking farward to meet me and hes been complimenting me so so so much. i cant in return say

listen man... i dont like you
tell your dulebhai that that dude doesnt give u the vibe!

[nawtysaika]

tell your dulebhai that that dude doesnt give u the vibe!

hes gna ring me any minute =(

[killingeye]

I DONT LIKE HIS FACE








lol thats fucked up..

[nawtysaika]

lol thats fucked up..

:neutral:
i cant pretend to like him

[killingeye]

my sister's fiance wanted me to meet one of his friends. he wanted to set me up with him. i have never met him and i have only talked to him over the phone for around three weeks now. he sounds like a dream guy. two days ago we exchanged pictures and i really didn't feel attracted to him. even though his physique is WOW.

but i dont like him.
AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL HIM THAT???

pleeeeeeeez help!! i love his personality but am not attracted to him!!! i dont want to meet him but hes so looking farward to meet me and hes been complimenting me so so so much. i cant in return say

listen man... i dont like you



you should just tell him straight ..you are so kool ...wow wata Body...
whata personlality...but fcuk..
I DONT LIKE YO FACE ..so get away...
no no i mean your face is good too but you know what my test is differenT... ;)

[killingeye]

hes gna ring me any minute =(



he is desparate to talked to you..

poor him..he is f****d Up now...

[nawtysaika]

you should just tell him straight ..you are so kool ...wow wata Body...
whata personlality...but fcuk..
I DONT LIKE YO FACE ..so get away...
no no i mean your face is good too but you know what my test is differenT... ;)

that kinda sounds arryte.... i am tite with my marking.... hmm

;)

[dopekhor]

hes gna ring me any minute =(
just tell him the truth now, before it makes stuff way more complicated

[nawtysaika]

he is desparate to talked to you..

poor him..he is f****d Up now...

yes when i talked to him today.. he was proper like... i was thinkin bout u... bla bla... n he even offered to top up for me....

[killingeye]

yes when i talked to him today.. he was proper like... i was thinkin bout u... bla bla... n he even offered to top up for me....



Bs..lol
top Up? :sarb:
u mean top Up your prepaid fone ?//

hmmm...just let him spend some dinaro..b4 u kick his Ass..
lol POor Dawg..

[nawtysaika]

Bs..lol
top Up? :sarb:
u mean top Up your prepaid fone ?//

hmmm...just let him spend some dinaro..b4 u kick his Ass..
lol POor Dawg..

v havent met.... so u wudnt spend money on sum1 whom u havent met....
yes i refused to take money ov him... coz he wanted to transfer money in my account so that i cud top up often.... lol i'd neva use a guy for his money... he is loaded tho ;) u givin me ideas

joke

[killingeye]

v havent met.... so u wudnt spend money on sum1 whom u havent met....
yes i refused to take money ov him... coz he wanted to transfer money in my account so that i cud top up often.... lol i'd neva use a guy for his money... he is loaded tho ;) u givin me ideas

joke



loool haha oh well HIS ASSS IS Dyin to talk to you..thats Y he is gona put money in your account..so he can get you wheneva he giv u a buzz...

[nawtysaika]

loool haha oh well HIS ASSS IS Dyin to talk to you..thats Y he is gona put money in your account..so he can get you wheneva he giv u a buzz...

lol grrrr... not funny coz its really hard for me to talk to him now..... =(

[nawtysaika]

he called me 4times but i dint hv da courage to answer

[ezbreezyfresh]

hes looking for a serious relationship n he dint want a friend... he made that clear inda start...

:sarb:

lol well you don't have to start courting him at the first date and nor do you have to be friends..coz he seems really immature and desperate..

[ShowMan]

how tall is he?

[btown-paki]

my sister's fiance wanted me to meet one of his friends. he wanted to set me up with him. i have never met him and i have only talked to him over the phone for around three weeks now. he sounds like a dream guy. two days ago we exchanged pictures and i really didn't feel attracted to him. even though his physique is WOW.

but i dont like him.
AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL HIM THAT???

pleeeeeeeez help!! i love his personality but am not attracted to him!!! i dont want to meet him but hes so looking farward to meet me and hes been complimenting me so so so much. i cant in return say

listen man... i dont like you

say yur dead or something...

[21cent]

say ur not ready

[-Stax0-]

Go on the first date. It's fine.

The 'you're not my type' argument always works- "I'm sorry, I hope you understand, you're a very down to earth and honest loving guy(Add some more compliments here)...but you're not my type. Sorry. "

Done.

Let him guess what you mean by 'type'. Don't tell him you're dumping him cause you think his ass is ugly. :no:

This is the only way around it that I see.

[nawtysaika]

how tall is he?

5ft 8in

[nawtysaika]

say yur dead or something...

lol... am sure he'll turn up on my funeral.... :rolleyes:

[nawtysaika]

Go on the first date. It's fine.

The 'you're not my type' argument always works- "I'm sorry, I hope you understand, you're a very down to earth and honest loving guy(Add some more compliments here)...but you're not my type. Sorry. "

Done.

Let him guess what you mean by 'type'. Don't tell him you're dumping him cause you think his ass is ugly. :no:

This is the only way around it that I see.

yes that makes sense... but i dont even wna meet him once... but guess thers hardly anyother way around it :neutral:

[ShowMan]

5ft 8in

ugh thats too tall

[nawtysaika]

ugh thats too tall

^o)

is it!!!

[MissAdore]

Tell him you found someone else :p

[malkeet]

damn this threads still going.......................invest in a brown paper bag to cover his face? or or go on a date and b really freaky...so he gets scared and backs off....or jus meet me already!

[nawtysaika]

Tell him you found someone else :p

:neutral:

[nawtysaika]

damn this threads still going.......................invest in a brown paper bag to cover his face? or or go on a date and b really freaky...so he gets scared and backs off....or jus meet me already!

LoL at brown paper bag.... remindin me of the "phones for u advertise.... ashamed of ur mobile fone"
where u frm? ;)

[shareif_munda]

Hi,

The worst thing you could do is mislead the guy cuz then he's gonna think dat u fancy him.. I think the best way to go about it is txt him saying I just wanna be friends with you and see what he says, im sure he will understand and move on unless he's obsessed with u which he does sound, lets just hope he does not have a crazy stalking side lol (so i wud carry mase spray just incase). Plus wats the worse that could happen, ok he'll be hurt, but for how long, its not like you've seen him or been going out with him for years..

If he's got a nice personality then he'll understand...

[vgirl]

geez you say he is perfect then because of his face you totally want to reject him. you love his personality hate his face? do you know that people find others more attractive the more they like them? why are u so superficial? you come across an awesome guy who just doesnt live up to your standards in just one criteria, looks, one of the least important ones and you won't give him a chance

do you really think you are going to find someone with equally as cool credentials who is extremely hot? unless you are like the hottest, smartest coolest chick ever i think its unlikely.

[nawtysaika]

Hi,

The worst thing you could do is mislead the guy cuz then he's gonna think dat u fancy him.. I think the best way to go about it is txt him saying I just wanna be friends with you and see what he says, im sure he will understand and move on unless he's obsessed with u which he does sound, lets just hope he does not have a crazy stalking side lol (so i wud carry mase spray just incase). Plus wats the worse that could happen, ok he'll be hurt, but for how long, its not like you've seen him or been going out with him for years..

If he's got a nice personality then he'll understand...

yep i dont wna lead him on thats y i dont wna meet him... but he duznt need a friend.... he wantd a relationship n all vVE talked bout is being 2getha n now i tell him that i wna b friends.... :sarb:

btw thanks for the idea... coz i really dont know if i cud talk to him n tell him bout wats on my mind.... txting sounds good! :)

[malkeet]

LoL at brown paper bag.... remindin me of the "phones for u advertise.... ashamed of ur mobile fone"
where u frm? ;)

coventry :dance3: ....ok i shud be doing this :( nah i love the city. love manchesters nitelife....m2?..think thats where i went. seriosly move on find sum1 better :wavey:

[nawtysaika]

geez you say he is perfect then because of his face you totally want to reject him. you love his personality hate his face? do you know that people find others more attractive the more they like them? why are u so superficial? you come across an awesome guy who just doesnt live up to your standards in just one criteria, looks, one of the least important ones and you won't give him a chance

do you really think you are going to find someone with equally as cool credentials who is extremely hot? unless you are like the hottest, smartest coolest chick ever i think its unlikely.

yeh i agree hes perfect... but his face... i aint saying hes ugly... other gurls mite find him attractive.......

hes got house, money, job, body n personality.... n hes sweet....
but i dont wna b wid a guy whom i cant look at for long.... i wna b wid sum1 whom i can look at for hours.... he duznt hv to b a perfect model but sum1 i find attractive....

i aint saying i deserve sum1 better.... he probly deserves sum1 better than me...
i cant force myself to like him.. physical attraction is important!!

[nawtysaika]

coventry :dance3: ....ok i shud be doing this :( nah i love the city. love manchesters nitelife....m2?..think thats where i went. seriosly move on find sum1 better :wavey:

yep av hurd lots bout manc nite life... but neva seen it myself :)

[malkeet]

yep av hurd lots bout manc nite life... but neva seen it myself :)

not jus the nitelife cities pretty decent too for shopping.....trafford centre? s y cant u find sum1 urself? all the manchester guys gay/fugly?

[nawtysaika]

not jus the nitelife cities pretty decent too for shopping.....trafford centre? s y cant u find sum1 urself? all the manchester guys gay/fugly?

my brothas fiancee is frm sweden
my sistas fiance is frm bham

so gues i want mine frm outside manc too.... ;) ;) ;) lol
hm... am not desperatly looking for a man.... but i dint mind having one so my future brother in law suggested him!

yep i like trafford centre too...so i take it that u visit manc quite often?

[P4ki4Lyf]

hmmm....why don't u just go out with him once? looks aren't even THAT important, and maybe after a bit he'll grow on u...u might start finding him attractive, its happened to loads of people b4

[malkeet]

my brothas fiancee is frm sweden
my sistas fiance is frm bham

so gues i want mine frm outside manc too.... ;) ;) ;) lol
hm... am not desperatly looking for a man.... but i dint mind having one so my future brother in law suggested him!

yep i like trafford centre too...so i take it that u visit manc quite often?

only been there once....wud like another excuse to come up there though ;) ;) ;) :p

my cousin studies there so i jus came up about 2months ago to see her and went out and about whilst i was there and i was impressed.

i jus saw a lot of rudeboy knobs wen i was there (lol ignore my display pic...my attempt at being a rudeboy..but i look more like a gayboy :p )

aww im sure ul find sum1 ;) u may already have ;) ;) ;)

(my eyes hurting after all them winks)

[desi chikka]

I DONT LIKE HIS FACE
you can change he's face if u want, listen dont do any silly thing before meeting him, because many things happen on the first meeting.

[desi chikka]

yeh i agree hes perfect... but his face... i aint saying hes ugly... other gurls mite find him attractive.......

hes got house, money, job, body n personality.... n hes sweet....
but i dont wna b wid a guy whom i cant look at for long.... i wna b wid sum1 whom i can look at for hours.... he duznt hv to b a perfect model but sum1 i find attractive....

i aint saying i deserve sum1 better.... he probly deserves sum1 better than me...
i cant force myself to like him.. physical attraction is important!!
why dont u post post he's picture here for a while and then remove it, so that we can tell u what we think about he's looks, it might help you

[nawtysaika]

hmmm....why don't u just go out with him once? looks aren't even THAT important, and maybe after a bit he'll grow on u...u might start finding him attractive, its happened to loads of people b4

its like i really dont like his face... n dats put me of him sooooo much.... i know am sounding da nastiessttt by saying that!

wat if i dont like him afta seeing him once.... and by then iL hv mislead him!

[Adnan786]

Wow. So nothing else matters? Im sure your not repulsed by his looks, just not TOO attracted to him either :dunno:

[nawtysaika]

only been there once....wud like another excuse to come up there though ;) ;) ;) :p

my cousin studies there so i jus came up about 2months ago to see her and went out and about whilst i was there and i was impressed.

i jus saw a lot of rudeboy knobs wen i was there (lol ignore my display pic...my attempt at being a rudeboy..but i look more like a gayboy :p )

aww im sure ul find sum1 ;) u may already have ;) ;) ;)

(my eyes hurting after all them winks)

aw... is there i can do to make ur eyes feel better? ;) lol

erm i gotta comment on ur sig.... lol av neva seen a guy doing that b4....!!!!
x

[P4ki4Lyf]

its like i really dont like his face... n dats put me of him sooooo much.... i know am sounding da nastiessttt by saying that!

wat if i dont like him afta seeing him once.... and by then iL hv mislead him!
just say to him that u want to meet as friends the 1st time u meet him and if u still don't like him then just say to him, i think we'd just be better off staying friends or im sorry ur a really nice guy but i don't think this is gonna work out

[Adnan786]

its like i really dont like his face... n dats put me of him sooooo much.... i know am sounding da nastiessttt by saying that!

wat if i dont like him afta seeing him once.... and by then iL hv mislead him!


Meet him, make it clear that your not ready for anything u just want friendship thats it. Theres nothing wrong with making friends, so just because he may have other ideas does not mean that its his way or the highway. Keep him as a friend. You control the leading/misleading part of it.

[desi chikka]

just say to him that u want to meet as friends the 1st time u meet him and if u still don't like him then just say to him, i think we'd just be better off staying friends or im sorry ur a really nice guy but i don't think this is gonna work out
he wants a real relationship as in gf and bf

[nawtysaika]

its like i really dont like his face... n dats put me of him sooooo much.... i know am sounding da nastiessttt by saying that!

wat if i dont like him afta seeing him once.... and by then iL hv mislead him!

says file too large to b loaded

[P4ki4Lyf]

he wants a real relationship as in gf and bf
yeh i kno thats why i sed the last bit

[nawtysaika]

Wow. So nothing else matters? Im sure your not repulsed by his looks, just not TOO attracted to him either :dunno:

its a proper no no.... i just cant imagine being wid him :neutral:

[desi chikka]

says file too large to b loaded
weird, try uploading to sum other image hosting site, it shud work tho

[nawtysaika]

just say to him that u want to meet as friends the 1st time u meet him and if u still don't like him then just say to him, i think we'd just be better off staying friends or im sorry ur a really nice guy but i don't think this is gonna work out

i need a reason y it aint gna work out....
vVE talked ova da fone only n thers nuffin vVE disagreed with... :neutral:

[nawtysaika]

Meet him, make it clear that your not ready for anything u just want friendship thats it. Theres nothing wrong with making friends, so just because he may have other ideas does not mean that its his way or the highway. Keep him as a friend. You control the leading/misleading part of it.

he made it clear inda start that hes lookin for serious relationship n that if am not up for it... i shudnt talk to him.. so v hvnt been talkin as friends.... :neutral:

[desi chikka]

i need a reason y it aint gna work out....
vVE talked ova da fone only n thers nuffin vVE disagreed with... :neutral:
cos u dont feel atracted to him

[Parallax]

I look at the face first myself. I can't pin it down but a friendly face is important and if you don't get that vibe, you don't get it.

Here is what you need to do.

1) Do not let him spend any money on you.
2) You have to break it to him and it will hurt him. It could be a little or a lot or just leave him confused.
3) You seem to not want to come out the bad guy (I think unconsciously) because you realize you did nothing wrong by not finding him attractive and you are not leading him on. But sometimes it is healthiest if the guy dislikes you (even for a made up reason). It helps them get on with it and it helps you move on too (because you don't have to keep contact with them).
4) You have to either say "I have found someone else I am interested in" or you have to say "I have thought about it a lot and I don't think we would be compatible."

If you say you are interested in someone else, he will want details but you have to resist or find something plausible and partially true. If you don't like someone else, just evade. If you sorta like someone else, inflate it.

If you say you are not compatible, he will want to know the reasons. This one becomes harder because it IS the truth but not one you want to tell him. So you have to lie if you go this route. You will also get a lot more questions if you go with this. You can try age, some specific background you have that he doesn't, some specific interest you have that he doesn't, or something similar (and concrete).

If you identify someone else and that person is not truly someone you are interested in or doesn't exist, it just makes it harder for you to weather the, "but you and I have this or that or so on."

If you say it is compatibility and can't give a reason he can't outthink, he will outthink it. He will say, "well, x years is not so bad" or "I can like that too", etc.


You see, you are going to look bad to someone. Your friend who set you up will think less of you if you don't tell him. He will think less of you if you do. Mostly because people are selfish and only think of themselves most of the time. I do not mean he is a selfish person but he obviously has been self absorbed enough to not take the hints and maybe go farther and think the wrong things. It will be jarring for you to tell him whatever you tell him because he won't expect it. Again, even if he is not a selfish person he will argue it for a bit either to you (or if he is really shy) to himself after the call.

On the other hand, people often look different in pictures than in real life. A person looks different when their face is changing shape all the time (unless it is a part of his face that doesn't change much like his nose or ears or teeth that bother you).

But even if that is true, trust your instincts now and if you don't find him attractive, you won't to your own satisfaction because you have this memory of NOT finding him attractive. He won't get more attractive as you spend time with him (because any changes will be incremental) but maybe after some time not seeing him (or in this case not seeing what he looks like), he may have grown into someone attractive to you. Most likely not though.

You have to be selfish ENOUGH to end it or one of the two of you will be unhappy for as long as it goes on. I do suggest doing it over the phone because it is easier for both of you. It is easiest to say you like someone else over the phone. If you say you are not compatible, he will somewhat rightly feel you didn't really get a chance to know him (and you can't tell him that you know the one thing already that bothers you about him... namely his face) but you can finesse it if the reason is plausible.

[nazimhamed]

Tell him that after seeing his face you decided to give lesbianism a bash, that should do the trick.

[nawtysaika]

I look at the face first myself. I can't pin it down but a friendly face is important and if you don't get that vibe, you don't get it.

Here is what you need to do.

1) Do not let him spend any money on you.
2) You have to break it to him and it will hurt him. It could be a little or a lot or just leave him confused.
3) You seem to not want to come out the bad guy (I think unconsciously) because you realize you did nothing wrong by not finding him attractive and you are not leading him on. But sometimes it is healthiest if the guy dislikes you (even for a made up reason). It helps them get on with it and it helps you move on too (because you don't have to keep contact with them).
4) You have to either say "I have found someone else I am interested in" or you have to say "I have thought about it a lot and I don't think we would be compatible."

If you say you are interested in someone else, he will want details but you have to resist or find something plausible and partially true. If you don't like someone else, just evade. If you sorta like someone else, inflate it.

If you say you are not compatible, he will want to know the reasons. This one becomes harder because it IS the truth but not one you want to tell him. So you have to lie if you go this route. You will also get a lot more questions if you go with this. You can try age, some specific background you have that he doesn't, some specific interest you have that he doesn't, or something similar (and concrete).

If you identify someone else and that person is not truly someone you are interested in or doesn't exist, it just makes it harder for you to weather the, "but you and I have this or that or so on."

If you say it is compatibility and can't give a reason he can't outthink, he will outthink it. He will say, "well, x years is not so bad" or "I can like that too", etc.


You see, you are going to look bad to someone. Your friend who set you up will think less of you if you don't tell him. He will think less of you if you do. Mostly because people are selfish and only think of themselves most of the time. I do not mean he is a selfish person but he obviously has been self absorbed enough to not take the hints and maybe go farther and think the wrong things. It will be jarring for you to tell him whatever you tell him because he won't expect it. Again, even if he is not a selfish person he will argue it for a bit either to you (or if he is really shy) to himself after the call.

On the other hand, people often look different in pictures than in real life. A person looks different when their face is changing shape all the time (unless it is a part of his face that doesn't change much like his nose or ears or teeth that bother you).

But even if that is true, trust your instincts now and if you don't find him attractive, you won't to your own satisfaction because you have this memory of NOT finding him attractive. He won't get more attractive as you spend time with him (because any changes will be incremental) but maybe after some time not seeing him (or in this case not seeing what he looks like), he may have grown into someone attractive to you. Most likely not though.

You have to be selfish ENOUGH to end it or one of the two of you will be unhappy for as long as it goes on. I do suggest doing it over the phone because it is easier for both of you. It is easiest to say you like someone else over the phone. If you say you are not compatible, he will somewhat rightly feel you didn't really get a chance to know him (and you can't tell him that you know the one thing already that bothers you about him... namely his face) but you can finesse it if the reason is plausible.


thanks for all this... this is sooooo appreciated....
but i finished it ov wid him b4 i got round reading this...
finally he asked wat i really think ov his pics afta 3 days n he wanted an honest opinion... i was kinda quiet n told him that hmm ur body is quite impressive (which he actually keeps telling me bout it n he knows hes got summat dat hes satisfied with)
neways then he says.... erm am not a fair guy.... is that a problem?
i say no... coz his colour seemed just fine... not very dark...a littul onda dark side but i dont have a problem wid that.... wel then i say i just dint feel that attraction/vibe thingie afta lookin at ur pic.... i know otha gurls probly find u attractive... bla bla bla.... n said am confused coz i luv ur personality n bla bla

so he said hes concerned bout meetin me coz i wont like him... n said he'll leave da ball in my court n i decide wetha i wna c him
... if yeh then i cud let him know...
this convo lasted for more than half an hour and
i felt like crying aftr this convo coz av neva felt this bad...
dats da nastiest av eva been :(

[nawtysaika]

Tell him that after seeing his face you decided to give lesbianism a bash, that should do the trick.

lol... eeeewwe
but wasnt a bad idea....

[Parallax]

You weren't nasty and you got out of it well. He won't remember this as soon as he is with his next girl. I literally can't remember my rejections (not that no girl rejects me... just that it is not as important as who said yes).

[QqQueen BbBee]

go out with him and find something else wrong so you don't crush his lil self esteem.

[nawtysaika]

You weren't nasty and you got out of it well. He won't remember this as soon as he is with his next girl. I literally can't remember my rejections (not that no girl rejects me... just that it is not as important as who said yes).

but then again i cant stop thinkin that WAT IF I MET HIM N I MITE HV LIKED HIM... i will deffo bump in2 him one day coz hes my sistas fiance's good friend... i dono how wil i face him... but wat if i actually like him afta i c him....

[nawtysaika]

go out with him and find something else wrong so you don't crush his lil self esteem.

damage has been done
erm...2b honest i think he was sooooo perfect that i wudnt hv found any other negative point in him :neutral:

[obsessed]

say that u r a lesbian n thus u r not interested in him :)

[hmguy]

my sister's fiance wanted me to meet one of his friends. he wanted to set me up with him. i have never met him and i have only talked to him over the phone for around three weeks now. he sounds like a dream guy. two days ago we exchanged pictures and i really didn't feel attracted to him. even though his physique is WOW.

but i dont like him.
AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL HIM THAT???

pleeeeeeeez help!! i love his personality but am not attracted to him!!! i dont want to meet him but hes so looking farward to meet me and hes been complimenting me so so so much. i cant in return say

listen man... i dont like you

Just be straight with him, it's worse to lead him on or get his hopes up.

[nawtysaika]

Just be straight with him, it's worse to lead him on or get his hopes up.

av told him a few times now...
he still calls me tho
:dunno: