when you find out that..

[pachaas Paisa]

the person you like has no interest in you whatsoever and actually likes someone else where your chances of being with him/her are totally slim.. what do you do then?
1) Continue talking to that person because you don't mind a mutual friendship.

2) Stop talking to that person because you are stuck and can't go any further.

3) Become bitter to that person because it shattered your pride.

4) Just continue talking to him/her once in a while with a hi or bye.

5) Other..

Pick one and explain why

[BMW-racer]

i rarely ever come across that situation, so i'll pick option 5.

[paki_Biyatch123]

I would probably choose number 1 and hope that MAYBE there's the slightest chance that things couldl happen between us.

[pachaas Paisa]

i rarely ever come across that situation, so i'll pick option 5.

okay so then imagine being in one of those situations

[illin]

4 i guess..

[timeless_urge]

1..thats just me as a person... when i meet sumone of opposite sex.. its uusually not just abt..wht i want from them...if they like sumone else.. or are involved..its no probs at all :) i kno my limits.

[pachaas Paisa]

I would probably choose number 1 and hope that MAYBE there's the slightest chance that things couldl happen between us.

okay so you choose number 1 because you fail to realize nothing can happen between you two for the most part, i say about 90%. You will still rely on the slim chance? What are the disadvantages to that? try to be creative here :p

[SillyKitty]

Number one.. cuz hey u never know ;)

[pachaas Paisa]

4 i guess..
reason? or no reason?

[BMW-racer]

okay so then imagine being in one of those situations
option 4.
because that is the only rational option in a case as such.

[pachaas Paisa]

you assholes, imagine me as a professor for relationships 101, and I am gonna grade you according to your answer...

do it!

[illin]

reason? or no reason?

plenty of fish in the sea

[pachaas Paisa]

option 4.
because that is the only rational option in a case as such.
mind explaining how that specific option is rational?

[0101]

I will pick little bit of everything.

[pachaas Paisa]

plenty of fish in the sea

good answer. Although thats the typical mindset of an optimistic person or lets say a "pimp" in urban terms, but what if you were inclined to the thought that she could have been the perfect partner that you have ever come across, and how the end result has completely ruined your hope and dreams, how would your reaction to that be? Wouldnt you be somewhat emotional about it and might take a little more while to move on? and still consider option number 4? be frank.

[suga suga]

cuatro

[0101]

Wait a minute, how come you never picked one? You lead; I follow.

[paki_Biyatch123]

okay so you choose number 1 because you fail to realize nothing can happen between you two for the most part, i say about 90%. You will still rely on the slim chance? What are the disadvantages to that? try to be creative here :p

i'm going to die lonely :(

[0101]

plenty of fish in the sea


..yea but it'll be so empty without her.

:D

[pachaas Paisa]

cuatro
:evil: read my first post again and notice carefully.. i said explain!

[=Surge=]

If she is involved with another person, especially if the person is a friend or associate; I would back off. There are some rules of "engagement" that should not be broken. After all, there are plenty of fish in the sea. If possible, I would maintain a platonic level of communication with the person. In the future if the situation with her changes, then advancement of the "relationship" might occur. It seems only natural.

[pachaas Paisa]

i'm going to die lonely :(

that being your final option? Camann!! this is like a fun game here, figure a way out of it to get back into a normal life phase or how would you prefer moving on? or are you just hopelessly romantic

[suga suga]

:evil: read my first post again and notice carefully.. i said explain!
someone else will come along...its not like you're in love with this person. you'll get over it and move onto someone else

[timeless_urge]

you assholes, imagine me as a professor for relationships 101, and I am gonna grade you according to your answer...

do it!
:slap: grade me! :nerd: :Oops:

[0101]

I pick 'naleh', because you're not gonna have any luck with that person anyway. So we're moving on. But you also want to be polite, so we say 'hi' once.

[pachaas Paisa]

If the is involved with another person, especially if the person is a friend or associate; I would back off. There are some rules of "engagement" that should not be broken. After all, there are plenty of fish in the sea. If possible, I would maintain a platonic level of communication with the person. In the future if the situation with her changes, then advancement of the "relationship" might occur. It seems only natural.

backing off is just another topic. Yes it seems normal to back off when a friend likes your target or maybe you can just raise it to a level of competition depending on how close and comfortable you are with your friend. But putting that aside, let's jsut assume a normal situation that doesn't involve a friend who likes the same person you do.

[pachaas Paisa]

Number one.. cuz hey u never know ;)
Okay you picked number one. Let's assume in the long run, he ends up liking you and at that moment you probably aren't that interested in him. What will you do? a vengeful act of ignoring the fact he likes you, or like him back?

[illin]

good answer. Although thats the typical mindset of an optimistic person or lets say a "pimp" in urban terms, but what if you were inclined to the thought that she could have been the perfect partner that you have ever come across, and how the end result has completely ruined your hope and dreams, how would your reaction to that be? Wouldnt you be somewhat emotional about it and might take a little more while to move on? and still consider option number 4? be frank.

im givin u a hypothetical answer here cuz personally i'd never let myself get into that situation to begin with....

i guess i'd just tell myself it wasnt meant to happen, i mean i believe that if you want something you gota go out there and make it happen, but if it doesnt happen, then you gota move on....from my experience, there is no "perfect partner" everyones got a flaw...its what makes them who they are.
i wouldnt let mysef get to the point where i'd base my entire happiness on the event of hooking up with this person or not.
i'd still pick option number 4....cuz life goes on...i guess hypothetically it might take me a bit longer, but yea...

[pachaas Paisa]

1..thats just me as a person... when i meet sumone of opposite sex.. its uusually not just abt..wht i want from them...if they like sumone else.. or are involved..its no probs at all :) i kno my limits.

a boring response :p

im kidding, good way to look at it but people are selfish somewhat, wouldnt u care about how YOU feel about the situation?

[paki_Biyatch123]

that being your final option? Camann!! this is like a fun game here, figure a way out of it to get back into a normal life phase or how would you prefer moving on? or are you just hopelessly romantic

Im a hopless romantic :D


well unless the asshole was replaced by an even hotter dude.

[timeless_urge]

a boring response :p

im kidding, good way to look at it but people are selfish somewhat, wouldnt u care about how YOU feel about the situation?
nah..i dont develop serious feelings that instant.. and even if i do... shit... his happiness means more to me :Oops: :p :p

but really..its not that hard :\

[BMW-racer]

option 4.
because that is the only rational option in a case as such.
simple, use the theory of elimination:
1) Continue talking to that person because you don't mind a mutual friendship.
what is the point of leading a friendship as your feelings will never fade away by lingering on to the individual.

2) Stop talking to that person because you are stuck and can't go any further.
why stop talking to the person? that's a harsh conclusion.

3) Become bitter to that person because it shattered your pride.
if the other person never had feelings for you, you were living a false pride. no need to be bitter as you cannot forcefully make something your's if it wasn't your's to begin with.
4) Just continue talking to him/her once in a while with a hi or bye.
bingo!
saying hi never hurts; eventually, you'd come to realize you're better off this way.

[=Surge=]

backing off is just another topic. Yes it seems normal to back off when a friend likes your target or maybe you can just raise it to a level of competition depending on how close and comfortable you are with your friend. But putting that aside, let's jsut assume a normal situation that doesn't involve a friend who likes the same person you do.

Then I would get her to like me via an array of passive and/or aggressive techniques. Not to sound cocky, but I strongly believe in my skills. If I don't succeed, then the priority over her would shift downwards; and I would begin the task of moving on towards the other(s).

[pachaas Paisa]

im givin u a hypothetical answer here cuz personally i'd never let myself get into that situation to begin with....

i guess i'd just tell myself it wasnt meant to happen, i mean i believe that if you want something you gota go out there and make it happen, but if it doesnt happen, then you gota move on....from my experience, there is no "perfect partner" everyones got a flaw...its what makes them who they are.
i wouldnt let mysef get to the point where i'd base my entire happiness on the event of hooking up with this person or not.
i'd still pick option number 4....cuz life goes on...i guess hypothetically it might take me a bit longer, but yea...

that's completely normal and that's what it really takes to move on, a little bit of time to yourself to think it over etc.

I will give you a different scenario, after moving on, later on that person comes into your life again. Will you keep that distance youve set between you two or you wouldnt mind getting closer? The reason why i am asking you this is because a lot of people set up barriers after they wear off from an emotional break down or similar situations.

[pachaas Paisa]

Im a hopless romantic :D


well unless the asshole was replaced by an even hotter dude.

okay, in that sense you wanna be a little shallow. Calling him an "asshole" because he didnt feel the same way as you did is kinda immature dont you think? :p.

[$H@MZ]

the person you like has no interest in you whatsoever and actually likes someone else where your chances of being with him/her are totally slim.. what do you do then?
1) Continue talking to that person because you don't mind a mutual friendship.

2) Stop talking to that person because you are stuck and can't go any further.

3) Become bitter to that person because it shattered your pride.

4) Just continue talking to him/her once in a while with a hi or bye.

5) Other..

Pick one and explain why

I would choose number 2.

By stopping contact all together shows them what they are missing out on :p And they always come back :D

[...Hero...]

the person you like has no interest in you whatsoever and actually likes someone else where your chances of being with him/her are totally slim.. what do you do then?
1) Continue talking to that person because you don't mind a mutual friendship.

2) Stop talking to that person because you are stuck and can't go any further.

3) Become bitter to that person because it shattered your pride.

4) Just continue talking to him/her once in a while with a hi or bye.

5) Other..

Pick one and explain why

...Dude someone break your heart? Dont worry plenty more fish in the sea...or available in the frozen section of your local foodstore :)

[pachaas Paisa]

nah..i dont develop serious feelings that instant.. and even if i do... shit... his happiness means more to me :Oops: :p :p

but really..its not that hard :\

again you're being more considerate about how he feels than your own self. If that's how you wanna see it, good for you mother theresa

[illin]

that's completely normal and that's what it really takes to move on, a little bit of time to yourself to think it over etc.

I will give you a different scenario, after moving on, later on that person comes into your life again. Will you keep that distance youve set between you two or you wouldnt mind getting closer? The reason why i am asking you this is because a lot of people set up barriers after they wear off from an emotional break down or similar situations.

hmm...that would depend on my situation, if i was single, i'd talk to em....but i would not have any expectations on potential outcomes...i'd just go with the flow.

[timeless_urge]

again you're being more considerate about how he feels than your own self. If that's how you wanna see it, good for you mother theresa
hahhaha!
but really..wht else can u do..if he has nothing for u? mite aswell look like mother theresa and patao sum other guy :p :p

[Monaa]

5. go fo his fwen instead :dunno:

[NedFlanders]

the person you like has no interest in you whatsoever and actually likes someone else where your chances of being with him/her are totally slim.. what do you do then?
1) Continue talking to that person because you don't mind a mutual friendship.

2) Stop talking to that person because you are stuck and can't go any further.

3) Become bitter to that person because it shattered your pride.

4) Just continue talking to him/her once in a while with a hi or bye.

5) Other..

Pick one and explain why

Go with 2! Move on, don't waste your time or the other persons - find somebody else!

1 and 4 are just a waste of time - if you find out that he/she is no longer interested in the other person, then you can go with 1 or 4 and get the ball rolling again

[paki_Biyatch123]

okay, in that sense you wanna be a little shallow. Calling him an "asshole" because he didnt feel the same way as you did is kinda immature dont you think? :p.
oh totally
im very self centered :P


but i can be giving too
nah actually what I would really do is I would probably keep talking to the guy because when I fall for a guy he is usually VERY special to me, and I would probably not want to lose him as a friend. But if he liked someone else, I would probably support him, and suffer quietly. It takes alot out of me to get over someone..

[pachaas Paisa]

simple, use the theory of elimination:

what is the point of leading a friendship as your feelings will never fade away by lingering on to the individual.


why stop talking to the person? that's a harsh conclusion.


if the other person never had feelings for you, you were living a false pride. no need to be bitter as you cannot forcefully make something your's if it wasn't your's to begin with.

bingo!
saying hi never hurts; eventually, you'd come to realize you're better off this way.

You said saying hi doesnt hurt but leading a friendship will hurt. Come to think about it, if you already had feelings for that person wouldnt that continue to take over your mind whenever you talk to that person. Also the natural psychology the more you try to stay away from one thought or action or feeling, the more you're prone to falling for it?

[$H@MZ]

5. go fo his fwen instead :dunno:

:rofl: you slag. :p

[Monaa]

:rofl: you slag. :p

:ashamed:

If thers no chance wif him, then go get his fwen n try n make him jealous or smthg... :neutral:

[pachaas Paisa]

Then I would get her to like me via an array of passive and/or aggressive techniques. Not to sound cocky, but I strongly believe in my skills. If I don't succeed, then the priority over her would shift downwards; and I would begin the task of moving on towards the other(s).
okay you're a confident man Ive talked to you, regarding this topic before and you seem knowledgeable in that area. Good call, some people are sure about their skills and believe it or not, for the most part, they work.

[bigkid]

If its love then no.1

If its lust then no.2

[$H@MZ]

:ashamed:

If thers no chance wif him, then go get his fwen n try n make him jealous or smthg... :neutral:

:werd: and it sure works monaaaa wheres ur pic???

[Monaa]

:werd: and it sure works monaaaa wheres ur pic???

it got disabled... :no:

[pachaas Paisa]

I would choose number 2.

By stopping contact all together shows them what they are missing out on :p And they always come back :D


come to think about it, that doesnt always happen necessarily. It all depends on how active your relationship witht hat person was to begin with. Can you leave a footprint in their mind if you werent that special to begin with? or if you had never shred anything spectacular about your personality when you talked with that person? How would you do it. supposing, you liked him and he didnt, what would you do? play some sort of reverse psychology?

[Monaa]

If its love then no.1

If its lust then no.2

:rofl:

[BMW-racer]

You said saying hi doesnt hurt but leading a friendship will hurt. Come to think about it, if you already had feelings for that person wouldnt that continue to take over your mind whenever you talk to that person. Also the natural psychology the more you try to stay away from one thought or action or feeling, the more you're prone to falling for it?
hmm.
good ideology, but it really depends on the psychological makeup of the individual in question.
personally speaking, i cannot lead a friendship with someone i've had feelings for. however, if i never had any relationship with the individual, yet wanted to start something, i'd have no trouble saying an occassional hello.

but like i said, this is all hypothetical, i've never come across a situation as such, as i am confident in myself to convince anyone otherwise. :p

[pachaas Paisa]

...Dude someone break your heart? Dont worry plenty more fish in the sea...or available in the frozen section of your local foodstore :)

do you think I will be so active and lively in this thread if this was a situation regarding my life? :p hell no.. i was just curious.

[pachaas Paisa]

hmm...that would depend on my situation, if i was single, i'd talk to em....but i would not have any expectations on potential outcomes...i'd just go with the flow.
okay you're just simply straightforward like that who woudlnt; look back to prevent anymore negative outcomes. I see, good for you, stay with that thought.

[Meshi]

I would hope the girl that likes me picks option number 4 :anxious:

[pachaas Paisa]

hahhaha!
but really..wht else can u do..if he has nothing for u? mite aswell look like mother theresa and patao sum other guy :p :p
there are many things you can do.

So you're saying even after your failure of having a relationship witht hat guy, you would still care about his happiness? Sounds kinda like bs to me unless you REALLY have the heart for it. In most cases people dont really think of it like that, relationships have become more of either a competition or priority now these days, and the moving on logic is just simply too typical. There are many positive approaches you can take.

You said patao some other guy, what if THIS guy who you tried to "patao" ends up liking you, or while you like the new guy what if this guy comes into your life and becomes an obstacle again. Remember in this case, you HAD true feelings for him

[$H@MZ]

come to think about it, that doesnt always happen necessarily. It all depends on how active your relationship witht hat person was to begin with. Can you leave a footprint in their mind if you werent that special to begin with? or if you had never shred anything spectacular about your personality when you talked with that person? How would you do it. supposing, you liked him and he didnt, what would you do? play some sort of reverse psychology?

If I wasnt special enough to begin with then the guy wouldv kinda realised that quite early on in the "relationship" ie in about a week. In that time I would not get attached to the guy so for him to say that he didnt like me then would be no big deal.

But it is quite rare for a guy and a girl to have that FOOTPRINT IN UR MIND effect and then suddenly wake up and think "I dont like you anymore"...

At the end of the day if it was like a little crush then I would defo stop speaking to him and see how he reacts... if he didnt care then I would know that he honestly doesnt care. For a meaningful lasting relationship then I would not play psychological games they would get you nowhere and id just be honest. If he told me to back off then I would, you cant really fight that now can you?

[pachaas Paisa]

5. go fo his fwen instead :dunno:

interesting.

but how fucked up will the end result be if you play this game. Imagine the jealousy factor taking over his head and he eventually ends up liking you. Will you start torturing him now? lead him on? or be like.. ha bitch! now look at you.

[pachaas Paisa]

Go with 2! Move on, don't waste your time or the other persons - find somebody else!

1 and 4 are just a waste of time - if you find out that he/she is no longer interested in the other person, then you can go with 1 or 4 and get the ball rolling again

Some people rely on the fact that things can change, yes definitely things can change, do you let fate control your destiny or you'd rather do it and make things happen your way by moving on?

See, with either option 1 or 4 you may still have the slightest chance of being with that person in the future if somewhere along that line they realize your importance and presence. would you really let that slip away? and why?

[pachaas Paisa]

oh totally
im very self centered :P


but i can be giving too
nah actually what I would really do is I would probably keep talking to the guy because when I fall for a guy he is usually VERY special to me, and I would probably not want to lose him as a friend. But if he liked someone else, I would probably support him, and suffer quietly. It takes alot out of me to get over someone..
it's not just you, several people are self centered and that also has it's advantages.

So your focus just isn't only a relationship. Maybe by talking to that guy, you can still carry on with the feelings you've acquired from the start even though you see that there may not be a chance for you to be with him. The feeling itself is enough for you to carry on with life? Why do you think suffering quietly is logical. You said you're self centered but those actions youve mentioned defeats the point of being self centered

[pachaas Paisa]

If its love then no.1

If its lust then no.2

lets be realistic, you think it's possible to be in love before being in a relationship with that person. Do explain, is it possible to fall in love while carrying a friendship with that person. Is love really all about including that extra "opening up" and physical intimacy etc?

[pachaas Paisa]

I would hope the girl that likes me picks option number 4 :anxious:

girls are emotional creatures man, you really can't expect that :p

[timeless_urge]

there are many things you can do.

So you're saying even after your failure of having a relationship witht hat guy, you would still care about his happiness? Sounds kinda like bs to me unless you REALLY have the heart for it. In most cases people dont really think of it like that, relationships have become more of either a competition or priority now these days, and the moving on logic is just simply too typical. There are many positive approaches you can take.

You said patao some other guy, what if THIS guy who you tried to "patao" ends up liking you, or while you like the new guy what if this guy comes into your life and becomes an obstacle again. Remember in this case, you HAD true feelings for him

this guys has to be really be worth it... and trust me ther arent mny out there.. and if i "love" him ... i wont thik twice...

and i kno i have the capability to do that.. im in a sumwht complex relationship(dontw ann acall it a realtionship..)..rite now ...where there r no expectations at all(either way) yet there is "love" ....and i wont even think once if he gets married tomor...no hard feelings at alll....
but that guy really has to be worth the respect.. shit i aint mother theresa for every fool out there :p :p

[pachaas Paisa]

If I wasnt special enough to begin with then the guy wouldv kinda realised that quite early on in the "relationship" ie in about a week. In that time I would not get attached to the guy so for him to say that he didnt like me then would be no big deal.

But it is quite rare for a guy and a girl to have that FOOTPRINT IN UR MIND effect and then suddenly wake up and think "I dont like you anymore"...

At the end of the day if it was like a little crush then I would defo stop speaking to him and see how he reacts... if he didnt care then I would know that he honestly doesnt care. For a meaningful lasting relationship then I would not play psychological games they would get you nowhere and id just be honest. If he told me to back off then I would, you cant really fight that now can you?

honesty is the best policy... not always! It can lead to several things, breakdowns, bitterness, pride etc. People love revenge, it's the next best feeling to sex, and for that sometimes even at any maturity level a person will consider doing it if things were altered by extreme honesty. Which is why people sugar coat or twist things around to get the message across, such as ignoring your presence, not picking up calls etc. Sometimes people are so dramatic that even a little crush can get them enough worked up. Some people go through so much that even a tiny bit of break from a crush can get them emotionally unstable. Notice how people like to hold on past strings rather than moving forward? It's just the way things are. Nobody is 100% optimistic, unless we're Jesus literally.

[PrOfFaSeE]

rape her
because well either way
shes not going to like what you do
even if she claims to be interested in you
for the wrong reasons it'd only be a half assed relationship
so the sex would be half assed

tie her to the bed
and hold a nine

[pachaas Paisa]

rape her
because well either way
shes not going to like what you do
even if she claims to be interested in you
for the wrong reasons it'd only be a half assed relationship
so the sex would be half assed

tie her to the bed
and hold a nine
if that's how they do it in New Zealand, i say hey, why not? :dunno:

[timeless_urge]

rape her
because well either way
shes not going to like what you do
even if she claims to be interested in you
for the wrong reasons it'd only be a half assed relationship
so the sex would be half assed

tie her to the bed
and hold a nine
go die.

[Jhansi_Ki_Rani]

no 4

coz i got way too much pride..

after all... there are many fishes in the sea... lets go fishing ppl!!
woohoo...

[pachaas Paisa]

this guys has to be really be worth it... and trust me ther arent mny out there.. and if i "love" him ... i wont thik twice...

and i kno i have the capability to do that.. im in a sumwht complex relationship..rite now ...where there r no expectations at all(either way) yet there is "love" ....and i wont even think once if he gets married tomor...no hard feelings at alll....
but that guy really has to be worth the respect.. shit i aint mother theresa for every fool out there :p :p

I can hardly comprehend what youve said so far. You put love in quotes implying that either you're arent too sure of it, or you're just playing around with that word.

[$H@MZ]

honesty is the best policy... not always! It can lead to several things, breakdowns, bitterness, pride etc. People love revenge, it's the next best feeling to sex, and for that sometimes even at any maturity level a person will consider doing it if things were altered by extreme honesty. Which is why people sugar coat or twist things around to get the message across, such as ignoring your presence, not picking up calls etc. Sometimes people are so dramatic that even a little crush can get them enough worked up. Some people go through so much that even a tiny bit of break from a crush can get them emotionally unstable. Notice how people like to hold on past strings rather than moving forward? It's just the way things are. Nobody is 100% optimistic, unless we're Jesus literally.

You are being rather pessimistic today... heartbroken?

Life is too short to play childish games i mean WHAT IS THE POINT??? You're going to be playing these games and then one day you wake up and that person is gone!

People do get dramatic over a single crush but that depends on how dependant you are and how self conscious you are... rejection can fuck up even the most confident of people... ok I just realised I contradicted myself there but what the hey!

People hold on to the past because they think that it wont get any better. They look back to the "good times" and dont realise that THINGS CAN ONLY GET BETTER!

[pachaas Paisa]

no 4

coz i got way too much pride..

after all... there are many fishes in the sea... lets go fishing ppl!!
woohoo...


Then your answer would rather preferably be number 2 if you have that much pride.

I will give you a scenario, what if he's too good to be true? What if you and him both have established such a strong bond that the level of your pride has gone down to near zero?

[pachaas Paisa]

You are being rather pessimistic today... heartbroken?

Life is too short to play childish games i mean WHAT IS THE POINT??? You're going to be playing these games and then one day you wake up and that person is gone!

People do get dramatic over a single crush but that depends on how dependant you are and how self conscious you are... rejection can fuck up even the most confident of people... ok I just realised I contradicted myself there but what the hey!

People hold on to the past because they think that it wont get any better. They look back to the "good times" and dont realise that THINGS CAN ONLY GET BETTER!


I am just trying to a get a picture overall. No I am not heartbrokenat the moment at all, heck if I was I'd rather go outside an dhave a cigarette. Or probably chain smoke :p

Yeah I also wanted to see how many here are contradicting themselves indirectly. But now i wanna know, would you have that vengeful feeling if you truely deeply liked someone and that person just threw u off with bitter honesty? You may be honest this time :p

[ali_ak47]

Number 2, since it's gonna be waste of time to keep in touch with that person. Better yet go and look out for some new meat.

[timeless_urge]

:anxious: did i scare u away?

[Monaa]

interesting.

but how fucked up will the end result be if you play this game. Imagine the jealousy factor taking over his head and he eventually ends up liking you. Will you start torturing him now? lead him on? or be like.. ha bitch! now look at you.

I shall go fo the "ha bitch..look at u now...coz he was da one who left me initially.. :dunno:

[timeless_urge]

I shall go fo the "ha bitch..look at u now...coz he was da one who left me initially.. :dunno:
hahah! u go girl!

[Monaa]

no 4

coz i got way too much pride..

after all... there are many fishes in the sea... lets go fishing ppl!!
woohoo...

hey sis..ye lets go fishin ...at M.O.S !!!!

:lol:

[Monaa]

hahah! u go girl!

YEay.. u agree..:kiss:

i shall start doin that in real... :dance3:

[pachaas Paisa]

Number 2, since it's gonna be waste of time to keep in touch with that person. Better yet go and look out for some new meat.

so you'd rather prefer being selfish, not a bad idea, after all it's your life.

Looking out for new meat, in that perspective let me assume you're not that serious about it. I am sure as tough as you may wanna seem like inside, there can be cases where you've felt deeply about someone. Putting that as a situation what will your next move be, look out for new meat to get yourself off of this good meat? And if that happens, would you start to feel guilty or content?

[pachaas Paisa]

:anxious: did i scare u away?
nahi I didnt read it yet, i will though soon.

[s11nyk]

Uless you have confessed your undying love towards this other person, i would say 1....

A friend is better than no friend.

[$H@MZ]

I am just trying to a get a picture overall. No I am not heartbrokenat the moment at all, heck if I was I'd rather go outside an dhave a cigarette. Or probably chain smoke :p

Yeah I also wanted to see how many here are contradicting themselves indirectly. But now i wanna know, would you have that vengeful feeling if you truely deeply liked someone and that person just threw u off with bitter honesty? You may be honest this time :p

Erm well this guy done it to me yeh but we were just mates and then I told him that I liked him more than that yeah?

It took him two months to decide that he was not "good enough for me", which was the nice way of putting it i suppose lol. So he was like no point bla blaaa and told me stop chatting to him so I did. I was hurt but then I had no anger and what I did I just cursed it out when he was being nice.

On the other hand a long term relationship I was the one the broke it off and his idea of getting back at me was to tell everyone that I slept with him and label me ho... that was his idea of getting back at me when I told him I didnt love him after being with him for 3 years... LOL.

But it aint happened to me so I wouldnt know but hunny when it does ill post it on RD just for u!

[Meshi]

girls are emotional creatures man, you really can't expect that :p

Some girls like the challenge :p

For me it would have to be number 4 aswell.

[pachaas Paisa]

I shall go fo the "ha bitch..look at u now...coz he was da one who left me initially.. :dunno:
But what if he didn't do it intentionally because he obvisouly had feelings for someone else. I can understand if the guy was single, and didn't choose you, then he's worth the revenge. But what if he didn't end up going for you for the sake of the other girl? How can you justify that act as normal. And even if a guy breaks off someone just to be with you, wouldn't that show a side of him being unloyal?

[pachaas Paisa]

Uless you have confessed your undying love towards this other person, i would say 1....

A friend is better than no friend.

Someone didnt answer me earlier, when I asked how do you justify falling in love before actually being with that person. Can YOU explain?

[Monaa]

But what if he didn't do it intentionally because he obvisouly had feelings for someone else. I can understand if the guy was single, and didn't choose you, then he's worth the revenge. But what if he didn't end up going for you for the sake of the other girl? How can you justify that act as normal. And even if a guy breaks off someone just to be with you, wouldn't that show a side of him being unloyal?

:sarb: oh my this is gettin confusing... well.. this means he likes both of us gurls init..if he really does get jealous n breaks off wif her...

[ali_ak47]

so you'd rather prefer being selfish, not a bad idea, after all it's your life.

Looking out for new meat, in that perspective let me assume you're not that serious about it. I am sure as tough as you may wanna seem like inside, there can be cases where you've felt deeply about someone. Putting that as a situation what will your next move be, look out for new meat to get yourself off of this good meat? And if that happens, would you start to feel guilty or content?
I take my chances with both of em' :dunno:

[pachaas Paisa]

:sarb: oh my this is gettin confusing... well.. this means he likes both of us gurls init..if he really does get jealous n breaks off wif her...
No it doesnt Possibly mean that. It could also mean that he probably lost feelings for that girl half way through that relationship and saw the fresh new you coming along and wanted to get with you. What if he does that? Considering the fac tthat he only likes you and not her? Would you respect his actions? Would you like the fact that the other girl will end up having an emotional fit?

[pachaas Paisa]

I take my chances with both of em' :dunno:

So in your case, it is possible to like two girls at a time. True player intentions, good

[ali_ak47]

So in your case, it is possible to like two girls at a time. True player intentions, good
Well yea, basically I can't limit my self to one perosn. The more the merrier :neutral:

[pachaas Paisa]

Well yea, basically I can't limit my self to one perosn. The more the merrier :neutral:

Committment is a long way for you to go.

[s11nyk]

Someone didnt answer me earlier, when I asked how do you justify falling in love before actually being with that person. Can YOU explain?


Well you can love someone without being loved back by that person.....

how can you justify it? Well if you know that person very well or you maybe be very close freinds, it may be possible....sometimes it's best to keep the feelings inside rather than to blurt them out as the pain of rejection would be possibly hard to take.

i'm no romantic, but have been there myself........you can love someone without beingloved back or even being together, trust me....it the hardest thing to do.

[pachaas Paisa]

Well you can love someone without being loved back by that person.....

how can you justify it? Well if you know that person very well or you maybe be very close freinds, it may be possible....sometimes it's best to keep the feelings inside rather than to blurt them out as the pain of rejection would be possibly hard to take.

i'm no romantic, but have been there myself........you can love someone without beingloved back or even being together, trust me....it the hardest thing to do.


You said one way love is the hardest thing to do, and yet you said, the pain of rejection is hard to take. Which one is harder? Do you think the burden, of having the pain from rejection and loving that person put together can possibly lead you to do something drastic to yourself? Or do you think it's better to take both hand in hand and let it burn?

[Monaa]

No it doesnt Possibly mean that. It could also mean that he probably lost feelings for that girl half way through that relationship and saw the fresh new you coming along and wanted to get with you. What if he does that? Considering the fac tthat he only likes you and not her? Would you respect his actions? Would you like the fact that the other girl will end up having an emotional fit?

well in tat case.. i shall make fwen wif THAT gurl... n we shall both tie his body up somewhere n let a gay fwen do his magic on him... :p

[Monaa]

Well yea, basically I can't limit my self to one perosn. The more the merrier :neutral:

:neutral:

[s11nyk]

You said one way love is the hardest thing to do, and yet you said, the pain of rejection is hard to take. Which one is harder? Do you think the burden, of having the pain from rejection and loving that person put together can possibly lead you to do something drastic to yourself? Or do you think it's better to take both hand in hand and let it burn?


Unless you thick as 2 shits then possible you may do something to yourself.....

Rejection is harder to take, as loving someone without them knowing is not gonna cause any harm to anyone (well apart from your wrist from constant jacking off).

Well you need to think about if it's worth making a move on her/him. Putting your cards onthe table may go either way, and in my case it went against me, but we wer such good friends that we still remain good friends....if it goes the other way, you have to consider living life without her speaking to you again.

Can you handle that Prat???

[pachaas Paisa]

well in tat case.. i shall make fwen wif THAT gurl... n we shall both tie his body up somewhere n let a gay fwen do his magic on him... :p

interesting.

Moving on...

[miss_khan]

no.4 and im too tired to explain :mrhappy: im hardly in that situation though.

[pachaas Paisa]

Unless you thick as 2 shits then possible you may do something to yourself.....

Rejection is harder to take, as loving someone without them knowing is not gonna cause any harm to anyone (well apart from your wrist from constant jacking off).

Well you need to think about if it's worth making a move on her/him. Putting your cards onthe table may go either way, and in my case it went against me, but we wer such good friends that we still remain good friends....if it goes the other way, you have to consider living life without her speaking to you again.

Can you handle that Prat???

Me? personally? It would depend on the level of me liking that person. My theories change, because I am unstable like that. But I can move on quickly, it's built in my nature to not value friendships that much. Since Ive had hard times with friends in my life, I don't put that as priority number one. Liking a girl is a different level of feelings for me and breaking a friendship due to being honest about your feelings just shows that the relationship between her and I are already unstable to begin with.

You're talking about it as if she;s the only person you would associate with often than other people. Sure thing that you will miss the good times youve had talking to her but how long will that torture you when you move onto better things in life. In your case, supposing you were good friends with her, and youve had feelings, after letting it out to her, and she rejected you. How long will the effect last? and how would you prefer moving on?

[pachaas Paisa]

no.4 and im too tired to explain :mrhappy: im hardly in that situation though.

yeah your signature explains my situation with you, you know :rolleyes: :(

[s11nyk]

Me? personally? It would depend on the level of me liking that person. My theories change, because I am unstable like that. But I can move on quickly, it's built in my nature to not value friendships that much. Since Ive had hard times with friends in my life, I don't put that as priority number one. Liking a girl is a different level of feelings for me and breaking a friendship due to being honest about your feelings just shows that the relationship between her and I are already unstable to begin with.

You're talking about it as if she;s the only person you would associate with often than other people. Sure thing that you will miss the good times youve had talking to her but how long will that torture you when you move onto better things in life. In your case, supposing you were good friends with her, and youve had feelings, after letting it out to her, and she rejected you. How long will the effect last? and how would you prefer moving on?

it lasted until 10pm i think in the local meat market club.....:rofl:

yeah i know what your saying, it's how you pick up the pieces after the rejection, or in the wort caase scenario, is which knife to use.

i was quite lucky, we both felt that yes if we took it further maybe it wont work and it may ruin out friendship.....and i guess i was lucky with it as we still have the close relationship even though we are both married.

[girl_interrupted]

number 2 at first then finish on 4

[Monaa]

interesting.

Moving on...

ye n then he will finally realise not to screw arnd wif 2 gurls... :neutral:

[persian_angel]

the person you like has no interest in you whatsoever and actually likes someone else where your chances of being with him/her are totally slim.. what do you do then?
1) Continue talking to that person because you don't mind a mutual friendship.

2) Stop talking to that person because you are stuck and can't go any further.

3) Become bitter to that person because it shattered your pride.

4) Just continue talking to him/her once in a while with a hi or bye.

5) Other..

Pick one and explain why


id keep talking to them hoping that they'd loose interest in the other person they like and like meeeee :$

[miss_khan]

yeah your signature explains my situation with you, you know :rolleyes: :(


yeah i know... shit happens,its life. :cool:

[pachaas Paisa]

it lasted until 10pm i think in the local meat market club.....:rofl:

yeah i know what your saying, it's how you pick up the pieces after the rejection, or in the wort caase scenario, is which knife to use.

i was quite lucky, we both felt that yes if we took it further maybe it wont work and it may ruin out friendship.....and i guess i was lucky with it as we still have the close relationship even though we are both married.


that's good to see man. Hope you're having a good married life.

[pachaas Paisa]

number 2 at first then finish on 4

Despite of the fact that you may have liked him to death and you WANTED to be with him?

[pachaas Paisa]

id keep talking to them hoping that they'd loose interest in the other person they like and like meeeee :$

How "loose"? :p

I see, so you'd be patient to see what will happen in the future. Do you think if it happens nothing will change and you will start to like him more? or would you start to lose interest once you have seen that that long awaiting challenge has finally come to a point in your hands? (realistically speaking, this happens on many occasions, believe it or not.)

[pachaas Paisa]

yeah i know... shit happens,its life. :cool:
Poor prat. he had hopes with Miss khan :(

[miss_khan]

How "loose"? :p

I see, so you'd be patient to see what will happen in the future. Do you think if it happens nothing will change and you will start to like him more? or would you start to lose interest once you have seen that that long awaiting challenge has finally come to a point in your hands? (realistically speaking, this happens on many occasions, believe it or not.)



:rofl:

[pachaas Paisa]

ye n then he will finally realise not to screw arnd wif 2 gurls... :neutral:
you basically contradicted yourself. Re-read all your posts so far and analyze them.

[miss_khan]

Poor prat. he had hopes with Miss khan :(


doesn't everyone... :lol: :bhapi:

[s11nyk]

that's good to see man. Hope you're having a good married life.


Yeah, married life has been a good thing for me...4 years and all is rosey int he garden of eden.

[pachaas Paisa]

doesn't everyone... :lol: :bhapi:
Not you. You are evil.

[persian_angel]

How "loose"? :p

I see, so you'd be patient to see what will happen in the future. Do you think if it happens nothing will change and you will start to like him more? or would you start to lose interest once you have seen that that long awaiting challenge has finally come to a point in your hands? (realistically speaking, this happens on many occasions, believe it or not.)


aw bless he's learning hehe

well ive been in that situation nearly all me life ... i stil chat to someone who i was wid years back who i've never actually gotten over .. so me still waiting and waiting ... im stuupidd i know :D lol n yet i sit and laugh at myself :|

[pachaas Paisa]

Yeah, married life has been a good thing for me...4 years and all is rosey int he garden of eden.

man considering how curious I am I woulda asked more questions but then again Id hate to ask about someones personal life especially if they're married. But i will ask this though, have you and your wife shared almost everything that has happened in the past? Such as former relationships, hardships, feelings for other people etc? And how comfortable were you hearing or expressing all of those
?

[pachaas Paisa]

aw bless he's learning hehe

well ive been in that situation nearly all me life ... i stil chat to someone who i was wid years back who i've never actually gotten over .. so me still waiting and waiting ... im stuupidd i know :D lol n yet i sit and laugh at myself :|


we will work it out baby. :cuddle:

It's not that stupid, does he know that you still like him?

[Monaa]

you basically contradicted yourself. Re-read all your posts so far and analyze them.

No i meant..u said afta tyin him rite..isnt he suppost to realise smthg by now... :sarb:

[snak3]

i'd go with number one cause who knows?....she might change her mind later on..

[pachaas Paisa]

No i meant..u said afta tyin him rite..isnt he suppost to realise smthg by now... :sarb:

lol. Can you explain with something with a better substance to it? :lol:

[pachaas Paisa]

i'd go with number one cause who knows?....she might change her mind later on..

Assuming she does change her mind, but this time it's reverse, you stopped liking her (literally) but she likes you instead . What will you do then?

[:0(-_-)0: mirchi]

5) i usually tend to internalise their lack of interest into negative thinking about the deficiences in my personality/outer appearance blah blah

n the explaination is usually that i put the person that i like above myself occasionnally..but i dnt reallly like that often so its alrite

[s11nyk]

man considering how curious I am I woulda asked more questions but then again Id hate to ask about someones personal life especially if they're married. But i will ask this though, have you and your wife shared almost everything that has happened in the past? Such as former relationships, hardships, feelings for other people etc? And how comfortable were you hearing or expressing all of those
?


Yes we have, it was one of the 1st things i did when we met, past is past but you wanna know if their is any excess baggage right.

She knows about me and my mate and so does my family.

This other girl was liked by everyone in the family and they also though something may happen in the long run, so it's better to bring it out inthe open rather than trying to justfy it after your married.

i give 100% of my time & love to her and my boy.....i guess we all grow up and move along.

[miss_khan]

Not you. You are evil.


im am so not evil...haaww hai. :lol:


actually...i like being evil,this way im happy. :evil_lau:

[persian_angel]

we will work it out baby. :cuddle:

It's not that stupid, does he know that you still like him?


nope i think hes clueless .. but i get mixed messages from him so dunoo ... i still think theres hope i dont give up that easyy

[:0(-_-)0: mirchi]

i wonder if im invisible...i wan in on an e-clique!

[:0(-_-)0: mirchi]

y does the thread die wen i post goddammit!

[pachaas Paisa]

5) i usually tend to internalise their lack of interest into negative thinking about the deficiences in my personality/outer appearance blah blah

n the explaination is usually that i put the person that i like above myself occasionnally..but i dnt reallly like that often so its alrite

That's completely normal.

By analyzing the cause of a rejection, don't you think it's kind of dangerous? Considering how emotional you can be, you might end up doing something really outrageous to yourself right?

You mentioned negative thinking, does this have to do with you still having feelings for that person and you want him regardless? or does this have to do with fixing up yourself so that the next person you come across will be interested in you no matter what?

[Monaa]

lol. Can you explain with something with a better substance to it? :lol:

:lol:

oh...nvm..i shall spare the details... :)

[pachaas Paisa]

nope i think hes clueless .. but i get mixed messages from him so dunoo ... i still think theres hope i dont give up that easyy

do you let that hope take advantage of you? If you don't get what I am saying, by having this hope, or by him gettin a little clue, don't you think he might take advantage of that and use it against you? Having hope is good, but too much of it with extra patience can lead to many problems don;t you think?

[fr00ti]

the person you like has no interest in you whatsoever and actually likes someone else where your chances of being with him/her are totally slim.. what do you do then?
1) Continue talking to that person because you don't mind a mutual friendship.

2) Stop talking to that person because you are stuck and can't go any further.

3) Become bitter to that person because it shattered your pride.

4) Just continue talking to him/her once in a while with a hi or bye.

5) Other..

Pick one and explain why
I choose 1:
Not everyone can have a happy ending... After all I considered this person a friend before I had feelings... Either way..I wouldn't want to ruin a friendship over that complication.. I mean what if it never works out...

[pachaas Paisa]

Yes we have, it was one of the 1st things i did when we met, past is past but you wanna know if their is any excess baggage right.

She knows about me and my mate and so does my family.

This other girl was liked by everyone in the family and they also though something may happen in the long run, so it's better to bring it out inthe open rather than trying to justfy it after your married.

i give 100% of my time & love to her and my boy.....i guess we all grow up and move along.

That;s awesome.

I am surprised to see many young married couple these days arent still that secure with their married life. Problems occuring due to past experiences are often prevalent and I wonder why people choose to marry right away before having the sense of a grown up individual.

[$H@MZ]

:slap2: u ignored my response :mad:

[:0(-_-)0: mirchi]

That's completely normal.

By analyzing the cause of a rejection, don't you think it's kind of dangerous? Considering how emotional you can be, you might end up doing something really outrageous to yourself right?

You mentioned negative thinking, does this have to do with you still having feelings for that person and you want him regardless? or does this have to do with fixing up yourself so that the next person you come across will be interested in you no matter what?
firstly, its very dangerous..ive liked twice..n the end rejection which was very public led to suicidal thoughts, running away from home twice n being on v.intense anti-depressants

n secondly, id say that the negative feelings come because i usually end up having this need to connect and attach mentally wit the person i like n wen that goes caput..it goes dwnhill...has nuthing to do wit the next one..the sea is very shallow n there arent very many good fish out there in my eyes so i tend not to look ahead

[snak3]

Assuming she does change her mind, but this time it's reverse, you stopped liking her (literally) but she likes you instead . What will you do then?

now that would be a tough situation..hmmmm...dunno what i would do...maybe play along and spare her feelings or flat out tell her.....it wont work between us.....

[pachaas Paisa]

I choose 1:
Not everyone can have a happy ending... After all I considered this person a friend before I had feelings... Either way..I wouldn't want to ruin a friendship over that complication.. I mean what if it never works out...
what is the big deal with people putting so much importance to friendship? Understood that it is important to a certain extent but really now, after knowing that you and that person cannot workout, how will you manage to have a regular friendship? As BMW racer mentioned before, wouldn;t it be a torture to yourself or are you willing to take it and slowly let yourself age with it?

[s11nyk]

That;s awesome.

I am surprised to see many young married couple these days arent still that secure with their married life. Problems occuring due to past experiences are often prevalent and I wonder why people choose to marry right away before having the sense of a grown up individual.

i see loads of people getting married in the early twenties cos they fell in love at uni, but as time goes on they find that the grass is greener onthe other side of the fence...........people need to take time about marriage, it's not like in the old days where girls were married off at the age of 16.....nowdays it's shifted towards the late 20's, so they cant say they were forced or had no choice.

I guess parents are now aware of this possible threat of divorce and are not pushing their children into marriage, and letting them decide for them selves.

[persian_angel]

do you let that hope take advantage of you? If you don't get what I am saying, by having this hope, or by him gettin a little clue, don't you think he might take advantage of that and use it against you? Having hope is good, but too much of it with extra patience can lead to many problems don;t you think?


yess VERYY true i dont advise anyone to do what ive done .. its messed me up A LOT and ive lost loadza people over it but i cant seem to give up ... n yeh he can take advanatage over it im fully aware of that ... theres been tmes when hez actually done the unforgivable but i always let it go .. i guess im stil holding on .. i could sit here n tell u what ive done and how its changed my life but then you'd just b like WDF! Y! and i would have nooo answers to that :(


ahhh vellll lifes a bitch we jus gta fuck it ... me off to college now 8-| check up on this thread later ... bubyeee

[pachaas Paisa]

Erm well this guy done it to me yeh but we were just mates and then I told him that I liked him more than that yeah?

It took him two months to decide that he was not "good enough for me", which was the nice way of putting it i suppose lol. So he was like no point bla blaaa and told me stop chatting to him so I did. I was hurt but then I had no anger and what I did I just cursed it out when he was being nice.

On the other hand a long term relationship I was the one the broke it off and his idea of getting back at me was to tell everyone that I slept with him and label me ho... that was his idea of getting back at me when I told him I didnt love him after being with him for 3 years... LOL.

But it aint happened to me so I wouldnt know but hunny when it does ill post it on RD just for u!

three years and no love? :no:

Funny how you mark that as a funny experience and the two months worth of feelings and a small rejection kind of hit you badly.

[:0(-_-)0: mirchi]

now that would be a tough situation..hmmmm...dunno what i would do...maybe play along and spare her feelings or flat out tell her.....it wont work between us.....
you look a lil scary ji...in a gd way..if that makes sense

[pachaas Paisa]

i see loads of people getting married in the early twenties cos they fell in love at uni, but as time goes on they find that the grass is greener onthe other side of the fence...........people need to take time about marriage, it's not like in the old days where girls were married off at the age of 16.....nowdays it's shifted towards the late 20's, so they cant say they were forced or had no choice.

I guess parents are now aware of this possible threat of divorce and are not pushing their children into marriage, and letting them decide for them selves.


yeah time is precious when it comes to such decisions, i completely agree. putting aside your pasts and consider them as positive learning experiences in your life is the biggest approach before marriage. I say all this, yet I know that I am not ready to commit myself yet. But soon enough I will be.

[pachaas Paisa]

firstly, its very dangerous..ive liked twice..n the end rejection which was very public led to suicidal thoughts, running away from home twice n being on v.intense anti-depressants

n secondly, id say that the negative feelings come because i usually end up having this need to connect and attach mentally wit the person i like n wen that goes caput..it goes dwnhill...has nuthing to do wit the next one..the sea is very shallow n there arent very many good fish out there in my eyes so i tend not to look ahead

Hope you fix yourself regarding that.

[fr00ti]

what is the big deal with people putting so much importance to friendship? Understood that it is important to a certain extent but really now, after knowing that you and that person cannot workout, how will you manage to have a regular friendship? As BMW racer mentioned before, wouldn;t it be a torture to yourself or are you willing to take it and slowly let yourself age with it?
I am not the kind that gets jealous.. Feelings don't last for a long time.. I mean if I do ask the person out..and things tend to work out in the beginning... but what if it doesn't work out..? I will lose the friendship and the feelings... It hurts when you lose a friend over such a thing called infatuation.. There's more drama involved if after a relationship, when there's an attempt to keep a friendship...

I hate to be corny..but if it's not meant to be.. then it's not meant to be...

I've lost friends over the past with stupid feelings.. And I regretted it... So I don't want that to happen again.. :dunno:

[pachaas Paisa]

yess VERYY true i dont advise anyone to do what ive done .. its messed me up A LOT and ive lost loadza people over it but i cant seem to give up ... n yeh he can take advanatage over it im fully aware of that ... theres been tmes when hez actually done the unforgivable but i always let it go .. i guess im stil holding on .. i could sit here n tell u what ive done and how its changed my life but then you'd just b like WDF! Y! and i would have nooo answers to that :(


ahhh vellll lifes a bitch we jus gta fuck it ... me off to college now 8-| check up on this thread later ... bubyeee

Oh i dont wanna hear your life story anymore, You pretty much summed it up in a paragraph and thank you for that. Phew :p

[:0(-_-)0: mirchi]

Hope you fix yourself regarding that.
lolz..im on the case

[snak3]

you look a lil scary ji...in a gd way..if that makes sense

oh yea that makes sense alright :p .....thanks i guess

[pachaas Paisa]

I am not the kind that gets jealous.. Feelings don't last for a long time.. I mean if I do ask the person out..and things tend to work out in the beginning... but what if it doesn't work out..? I will lose the friendship and the feelings... It hurts when you lose a friend over such a thing called infatuation.. There's more drama involved if after a relationship, when there's an attempt to keep a friendship...

I hate to be corny..but if it's not meant to be.. then it's not meant to be...

I've lost friends over the past with stupid feelings.. And I regretted it... So I don't want that to happen again.. :dunno:

You;re basically saying that Losing your chance to be in a relationship is rather better than losing friendship. I see what you mean.

[pachaas Paisa]

now that would be a tough situation..hmmmm...dunno what i would do...maybe play along and spare her feelings or flat out tell her.....it wont work between us.....

Isn't that she may have felt like when you liked her in the beginning, and you waited and hoped to see if somehting happens in the future. Well guess what, if you will do what you just mentioned, then you did the even cancellation. Fair and NOT fair at the same time, ask me how, you were the first one to initially have feelings and in the end when she felt the same way, You'd feel very fucked up if she continued to be friends with you, hoping for you to feel the same way one day.

[$H@MZ]

three years and no love? :no:

Funny how you mark that as a funny experience and the two months worth of feelings and a small rejection kind of hit you badly.

Course there was but that was my way of gettin rid of him! No point me saying its not working i dont think we shud be together but ill always love you....

So easy to just say i dont love you anymore and be done with it... easier for him to let go that way dont u think?

Small rejection didnt hit me bad was just a slap in the face... taste of my own medecine in a way!

[pachaas Paisa]

Course there was but that was my way of gettin rid of him! No point me saying its not working i dont think we shud be together but ill always love you....

So easy to just say i dont love you anymore and be done with it... easier for him to let go that way dont u think?

Small rejection didnt hit me bad was just a slap in the face... taste of my own medecine in a way!

So when you look back do you sort of feel that if you continued your relationship with the previous guy, it would have been better off?

Offtopic, what made you "stop" loving him?

[southystyle]

i pick option 6) kill her

[fr00ti]

You;re basically saying that Losing your chance to be in a relationship is rather better than losing friendship. I see what you mean.
:yes:

I just realised that I look like V- from Vendetta in your sig :p :p :p

[pachaas Paisa]

i pick option 6) kill her


You're a true tamil. You stick to your roots :p :p :p

[pachaas Paisa]

:yes:

I just realised that I look like V- from Vendetta in your sig :p :p :p
I just realized that you spelled realized like a Brit. Traitor :evil:

[snak3]

Isn't that she may have felt like when you liked her in the beginning, and you waited and hoped to see if somehting happens in the future. Well guess what, if you will do what you just mentioned, then you did the even cancellation. Fair and NOT fair at the same time, ask me how, you were the first one to initially have feelings and in the end when she felt the same way, You'd feel very fucked up if she continued to be friends with you, hoping for you to feel the same way one day.

true....well.....we just started talking and all that.....so it grew into somethin else over time...but yea your right.....ive wasted soo many opportunities before...all in the hope that someone better will show up....and that seriously hurt now that i think about it

[pachaas Paisa]

true....well.....we just started talking and all that.....so it grew into somethin else over time...but yea your right.....ive wasted soo many opportunities before...all in the hope that someone better will show up....and that seriously hurt now that i think about it

Good to see you've learned from your own mistakes.

[:0(-_-)0: mirchi]

i pick option 6) kill her
your the guy that sits in the back of the bus arent ya lolz

[suhailio]

If i like a person, and the person doesn't like me(aint happened yet, and hope it never does), i just move on. I mean what's the chance of the person changing their mind on you. It also very important to try and work out why the person doesn't like you before you move on, but if it is your looks then you are totally fucked because your looks aint changing which means the persons mind won't change too. Or on the other hand if its something you do which offends the other person, the way you behave and act then maybe their is a slight chance of making the person get to like you by changing yourself (i would only do that if im crazy in love). So yeah back to the point. I like someone, they don't like me, i realise what the problem is, if it is a minor i try and deal with it then go back to them, if its a major i build a bridge and get over it, move on.

[fr00ti]

I just realized that you spelled realized like a Brit. Traitor :evil:
Oh shatap.. If I had a Brit accent.. I'd charm you out of your fishbowl...

Too bad I have an all american white girl accent.. :neutral:

[pachaas Paisa]

If i like a person, and the person doesn't like me(aint happened yet, and hope it never does), i just move on. I mean what's the chance of the person changing their mind on you. It also very important to try and work out why the person doesn't like you before you move on, but if it is your looks then you are totally fucked because your looks aint changing which means the persons mind won't change too. Or on the other hand if its something you do which offends the other person, the way you behave and act then maybe their is a slight chance of making the person get to like you by changing yourself (i would only do that if im crazy in love). So yeah back to the point. I like someone, they don't like me, i realise what the problem is, if it is a minor i try and deal with it then go back to them, if its a major i build a birdge and get over it, move on.


Basically you're tellin me that you're insecure enough to change yourself for someone who didn't like you the way you were (considering that you're half decent with your life setup and personality, looks aside)

[s11nyk]

I just realized that you spelled realized like a Brit. Traitor :evil:


she's letting her true feeling out........

[pachaas Paisa]

Oh shatap.. If I had a Brit accent.. I'd charm you out of your fishbowl...

Too bad I have an all american white girl accent.. :neutral:

I love the valley accent you have, so sexy :love:

[impactcrew]

the person you like has no interest in you whatsoever and actually likes someone else where your chances of being with him/her are totally slim.. what do you do then?
1) Continue talking to that person because you don't mind a mutual friendship.

2) Stop talking to that person because you are stuck and can't go any further.

3) Become bitter to that person because it shattered your pride.

4) Just continue talking to him/her once in a while with a hi or bye.

5) Other..

Pick one and explain why

I would say number 1 as u never know what the future holds in store!

[Clueless_uk]

Move on mate....if she's not feeling it now...she never will

[suhailio]

Basically you're tellin me that you're insecure enough to change yourself for someone who didn't like you the way you were (considering that you're half decent with your life setup and personality, looks aside)

Kind of yeah. If i realise that the person i like doesn't like me back i will get offended. Yeah i know i'm a homo like that.

[s11nyk]

Oh shatap.. If I had a Brit accent.. I'd charm you out of your fishbowl...

Too bad I have an all american white girl accent.. :neutral:


I've only heard 1 american girl do a brit accent but i'm sure you could sell ice to eskimo's if you had a brit accent......:rofl:

[pachaas Paisa]

I would say number 1 as u never know what the future holds in store!

plain and simple, just like many other responses, they also chose number 1.

[pachaas Paisa]

Move on mate....if she's not feeling it now...she never will

This is not my situation currently (I mentioned it after). Next time dont just read the topic post, read a few other posts to prepare yourself before you post :p

[pachaas Paisa]

Kind of yeah. If i realise that the person i like doesn't like me back i will get offended. Yeah i know i'm a homo like that.

It's only natural for you. Plus it takes time to let things like that slide away with ease.

[Clueless_uk]

This is not my situation currently (I mentioned it after). Next time dont just read the topic post, read a few other posts to prepare yourself before you post :p

Too much effort...so ur okay now? Great :no:

[pachaas Paisa]

Too much effort...so ur okay now? Great :no:

what do you mean if I am okay? :sarb:

Put yourself in those shoes. So you're saying if a person doesnt like you at the moment, he will never like you? wjhaty kind of irrational assumption is that? Justify your answer

[fr00ti]

I've only heard 1 american girl do a brit accent but i'm sure you could sell ice to eskimo's if you had a brit accent......:rofl:
lol.. back when i was in syracuse.. and it was snowing heavily..i was ready to go out for a fraternity party.. i had the entire eskimo jacket with the fur hoody.. and i had eyemakeup on like an asian with a white toque..

i really passed for an eskimo..and there was this cute guy that says i look like a cute eskimo...i blushed in the cold :Oops:

okay i know that was random but i had to share that :p

Prat:.. i like your valley school boy accent better :p

[pachaas Paisa]

lol.. back when i was in syracuse.. and it was snowing heavily..i was ready to go out for a fraternity party.. i had the entire eskimo jacket with the fur hoody.. and i had eyemakeup on like an asian with a white toque..

i really passed for an eskimo..and there was this cute guy that says i look like a cute eskimo...i blushed in the cold :Oops:

okay i know that was random but i had to share that :p

Prat:.. i like your valley school boy accent better :p

syracuse = Thumbs down.

:p

My valley fob accent ya? :eyebrow:

[s11nyk]

lol.. back when i was in syracuse.. and it was snowing heavily..i was ready to go out for a fraternity party.. i had the entire eskimo jacket with the fur hoody.. and i had eyemakeup on like an asian with a white toque..

i really passed for an eskimo..and there was this cute guy that says i look like a cute eskimo...i blushed in the cold :Oops:

okay i know that was random but i had to share that :p

Prat:.. i like your valley school boy accent better :p


hahahah thanks for the info........i shall keep that in mind the next time i see some cute desi with a white eskimor jacket with fur hoody on.....

[fr00ti]

syracuse = Thumbs down.

:p

My valley fob accent ya? :eyebrow:
I know..but if you were there.. I'd take you snowboarding.. I'd love to hear you scream.. :p

and sunny- it's actually assamese girls..not desi girls..pssh..

[Clueless_uk]

what do you mean if I am okay? :sarb:

Put yourself in those shoes. So you're saying if a person doesnt like you at the moment, he will never like you? wjhaty kind of irrational assumption is that? Justify your answer

I havent read ur earlier posts...but what I am trying to say is...if a person does not fall for you after knwing you for a good period of time (no exes involved)...then there is little chances of them likeing u that way in the future...

However..if the person u like is hung up on someone else...and u have met her at this particular stage in her life...there is still a big chance she might like u....if u can handle all the "past" talks that is.

[impactcrew]

plain and simple, just like many other responses, they also chose number 1.

Well no need to make things complicated - just sit in there and if it is to happen it will, if not why loose a good friend!

[impactcrew]

I know..but if you were there.. I'd take you snowboarding.. I'd love to hear you scream.. :p

and sunny- it's actually assamese girls..not desi girls..pssh..

I thought u were from historic artisitic calcutta and not Assam! :sarb:

[pachaas Paisa]

I know..but if you were there.. I'd take you snowboarding.. I'd love to hear you scream.. :p

and sunny- it's actually assamese girls..not desi girls..pssh..

assamese girls.. :yum:

[s11nyk]

I know..but if you were there.. I'd take you snowboarding.. I'd love to hear you scream.. :p

and sunny- it's actually assamese girls..not desi girls..pssh..


assamese girls...i have never heard of that before.....i learn something new every day.......or maybe i'm just a thick shit overall.

[pachaas Paisa]

I havent read ur earlier posts...but what I am trying to say is...if a person does not fall for you after knwing you for a good period of time (no exes involved)...then there is little chances of them likeing u that way in the future...

However..if the person u like is hung up on someone else...and u have met her at this particular stage in her life...there is still a big chance she might like u....if u can handle all the "past" talks that is.


my point is you can't just assume the future and move on to a whole different direction without taking an appropriate move.

[fr00ti]

I thought u were from historic artisitic calcutta and not Assam! :sarb:
I am mixed.. :neutral:

I was born in assam..my mom's side is entirely assamese...

my father's side separates into two..

my father's mom (side)- is bengali (from calcutta)
my father's dad(side)- is nepali

hope that makes it clear.. :neutral:

[s11nyk]

assamese girls.. :yum:


yes...my mind was thinking the same thing, but my brain would not commuicate with my hands as i was typing my last message.

[s11nyk]

I am mixed.. :neutral:

I was born in assam..my mom's side is entirely assamese...

my father's side separates into two..

my father's mom (side)- is bengali (from calcutta)
my father's dad(side)- is nepali

hope that makes it clear.. :neutral:

Overall a fine speciman you turned out to be.:love:

[:0(-_-)0: mirchi]

I am mixed.. :neutral:

I was born in assam..my mom's side is entirely assamese...

my father's side separates into two..

my father's mom (side)- is bengali (from calcutta)
my father's dad(side)- is nepali

hope that makes it clear.. :neutral:
heyy..im apparently half frm the border of nepal and india..okay, im a lil crazy atm..never mind me lolz

[bad_cheque]

the person you like has no interest in you whatsoever and actually likes someone else where your chances of being with him/her are totally slim.. what do you do then?
1) Continue talking to that person because you don't mind a mutual friendship.

2) Stop talking to that person because you are stuck and can't go any further.

3) Become bitter to that person because it shattered your pride.

4) Just continue talking to him/her once in a while with a hi or bye.

5) Other..

Pick one and explain why
Continue talking to her without bearing any expectation whatsoever that she will gain back an interest in me.

[impactcrew]

I am mixed.. :neutral:

I was born in assam..my mom's side is entirely assamese...

my father's side separates into two..

my father's mom (side)- is bengali (from calcutta)
my father's dad(side)- is nepali

hope that makes it clear.. :neutral:

Who do u think u look like then? Mom or dad?

Don't get me wrong but I have always thought of assamese girls too be dark skinned but maybe that is the image i have seen of them and not the other side after all i am human and liable to make mistakes in judgment! lol

[Clueless_uk]

my point is you can't just assume the future and move on to a whole different direction without taking an appropriate move.

Dnt assume...find out the facts....when the time is right ask her

[impactcrew]

assamese girls...i have never heard of that before.....i learn something new every day.......or maybe i'm just a thick shit overall.

:rofl:

Hows tings Sunny jim? :wavey:

[bad_cheque]

I am mixed.. :neutral:

I was born in assam..my mom's side is entirely assamese...

my father's side separates into two..

my father's mom (side)- is bengali (from calcutta)
my father's dad(side)- is nepali

hope that makes it clear.. :neutral:
Your surname is Sinha.

Sinhas are Biharis without any doubt.

[fr00ti]

Who do u think u look like then? Mom or dad?

Don't get me wrong but I have always thought of assamese girls too be dark skinned but maybe that is the image i have seen of them and not the other side after all i am human and liable to make mistakes in judgment! lol
sure..some assamese girls are dark..but other's are light.. Well I guess I come from the lighter bunch..

Usually the lighter assamese girls are pahari.. (mountain village)..that's where I was born..and raised till the age of 4..

Well.. my mother has unique looks from out of all her family members.. I have more her personality and her hair...

As per my father..he has nepali looks.. but I got my fair skin apparently from his side and the chinky eyes as well..

But if you see my family without any knowledge of what assamese, bengali, nepali is...

My mom looks filipino..My dad looks Vietnamese...and I look Chinese.. :neutral:

I also have a bit of Manipuri (specific part of Assam) blood in me too..

[bad_cheque]

heyy..im apparently half frm the border of nepal and india..okay, im a lil crazy atm..never mind me lolz
You must be Garhwali.

[s11nyk]

:rofl:

Hows tings Sunny jim? :wavey:

not bad, spent all night packing for the holiday...1 more day at work and then i am off for 10 days to southern spain.

apart from that all is good.

[fr00ti]

Your surname is Sinha.

Sinhas are Biharis without any doubt.
No.. Those are different Sinhas...

I am no Bihari.. But you are right... ppl tend to think only Sinha's are Biharis..but that's not a true fact..

[bad_cheque]

No.. Those are different Sinhas...

I am no Bihari.. But you are right... ppl tend to think only Sinha's are Biharis..but that's not a true fact..
Are you sure? I have never heard of a Sinha who coluldn't trace back his ancestry to Bihar/Jharkhand. Biharis tend to settle down in other parts a lot. Sinhas are Kayasthas.

[fr00ti]

Are you sure? I have never heard of a Sinha who coluldn't trace back his ancestry to Bihar/Jharkhand. Biharis tend to settle down in other parts a lot. Sinhas are Kayasthas.
Yes..they are under that cast.. but no.. there's majority of sinhas in bihar..

but the sinha surname we have is actually an alteration from my ancestors' real surname: singha. Don't ask me why they changed it.. but that's what my father told me..when I did a project on my family tree.. I did ask.. if my family has some bihari origin..but nope

[bad_cheque]

Yes..they are under that cast.. but no.. there's majority of sinhas in bihar..

but the sinha surname we have is actually an alteration from my ancestors' real surname: singha. Don't ask me why they changed it.. but that's what my father told me..when I did a project on my family tree.. I did ask.. if my family has some bihari origin..but nope
OK. Singhas are Nepalis. Maybe they changed to fit in.

[:0(-_-)0: mirchi]

You must be Garhwali.
umm no.

[MrCanuck]

If that person knows I liked her and she broke my heart I would probably talk to her less. If not, I would still try to attract that person without showing interest.

It really is a disguisting feeling when you put your heart out on the table and it just gets stolen from you. But the best thing to do is act like it doesn't bother you at all. If that person doesn't know I liked her in that way, I wouldn't let her know either and make her realize what she's missing.

[bad_cheque]

umm no.
Gharwal is the border region between India and Nepal.

[$H@MZ]

So when you look back do you sort of feel that if you continued your relationship with the previous guy, it would have been better off?

Offtopic, what made you "stop" loving him?

When I look back I think I made a lucky escape, he was not right for me and we changed so much over the three years religion and surroundings changed us both and we went in the opposite directions.

Offtopic, A person who is incapable of loving your parents is not worthy of your love.

[pachaas Paisa]

When I look back I think I made a lucky escape, he was not right for me and we changed so much over the three years religion and surroundings changed us both and we went in the opposite directions.

Offtopic, A person who is incapable of loving your parents is not worthy of your love.

nice :gay:

[/brain malfunction mode]

hey baby :eyebrow:

[TheHibiscus]

Interesting topic Prats.

I move on. Plenty fish in the sea. And the residue of the almost-relationship almost always either fizzles out or.. fizzles out. Unless of course there could be a friendship but the friendship won't come until later, much later.

[desi_chickan]

the person you like has no interest in you whatsoever and actually likes someone else where your chances of being with him/her are totally slim.. what do you do then?
1) Continue talking to that person because you don't mind a mutual friendship.

2) Stop talking to that person because you are stuck and can't go any further.

3) Become bitter to that person because it shattered your pride.

4) Just continue talking to him/her once in a while with a hi or bye.

5) Other..

Pick one and explain why

Would not give up... wait for an opportunity where I have a chance again ..

But to do this, the goods have to be extremely high....!

[$H@MZ]

nice :gay:

[/brain malfunction mode]
hey baby :eyebrow:

Eh? I am aware of that male attribute and quit the ass licking
















:neutral:

[pachaas Paisa]

Eh? I am aware of that male attribute and quit the ass licking
















:neutral:

cant help it. :cuddle:

[$H@MZ]

cant help it. :cuddle:

Have you notcied when you flirt with girls they tend to go awww :love: and :naughty:....LOL.

Suppose I can see why... the ugly guys get the hot gals...:p

[pachaas Paisa]

Have you notcied when you flirt with girls they tend to go awww :love: and :naughty:....LOL.

Suppose I can see why... the ugly guys get the hot gals...:p

hey :dunno: it's all about the personality yo... my e-personna *pops collar*

:p

:ashamed:

you didnt have to rub it in that im soo ooglay

[$H@MZ]

hey :dunno: it's all about the personality yo... my e-personna *pops collar*

:p

:ashamed:

you didnt have to rub it in that im soo ooglay

Hai dont do those puppy dog eyes on me...:love:

you know you are hot you dont need e-bastards to tell u that lol.

[>MNT< clanz]

the person you like has no interest in you whatsoever and actually likes someone else where your chances of being with him/her are totally slim.. what do you do then?
1) Continue talking to that person because you don't mind a mutual friendship.

2) Stop talking to that person because you are stuck and can't go any further.

3) Become bitter to that person because it shattered your pride.

4) Just continue talking to him/her once in a while with a hi or bye.

5) Other..

Pick one and explain why

i dunno y...thats just how i am

[pachaas Paisa]

Hai dont do those puppy dog eyes on me...:love:

you know you are hot you dont need e-bastards to tell u that lol.



haha, so it worked... i was secretly fishin for compliments :tongue:

You'z the best shamz :love:

[$H@MZ]

haha, so it worked... i was secretly fishin for compliments :tongue:

You'z the best shamz :love:

Damn it... I am ashamed...

Oh fuck it! :naughty:

[the big d]

i continue to be friends and have become very good friends with this one person in particular. gotta admit, it was hard as f#$k at points, but i think this person is worth it. very interesting and intelligent person and i think we can both learn a lot from each other...

[pachaas Paisa]

Damn it... I am ashamed...

Oh fuck it! :naughty:

haha you're very straight to the point i see :dancen:

i ztillll liked your old avi better though :love:

[$H@MZ]

haha you're very straight to the point i see :dancen:

i ztillll liked your old avi better though :love:

Absence makes the heart grow fonder

And summer is here so let the hormones rule the world! :p

[lovestick]

i'd ignore them but remain civil.

[impactcrew]

sure..some assamese girls are dark..but other's are light.. Well I guess I come from the lighter bunch..

Usually the lighter assamese girls are pahari.. (mountain village)..that's where I was born..and raised till the age of 4..

Well.. my mother has unique looks from out of all her family members.. I have more her personality and her hair...

As per my father..he has nepali looks.. but I got my fair skin apparently from his side and the chinky eyes as well..

But if you see my family without any knowledge of what assamese, bengali, nepali is...

My mom looks filipino..My dad looks Vietnamese...and I look Chinese.. :neutral:

I also have a bit of Manipuri (specific part of Assam) blood in me too..

isn't it spelt Monipuri as u get them in the south of bangladesh mainly in the Chittagong hill tracts! I must admit i can see some of the Monipuri looks in you!

So in other words yr family all has small chinky eyes lol

Have u ever been mistaken for not being a desi then?

[Juuulia]

6) all of the above.

it totally depends on the person, your past, the level of hope, the person's value and values!

sometimes you're hurt, bored and so you become "disinterested" and force yourself to pick up and move on

other times you try to wait your way into making sure that one day you'll have