JamesBitch
May 11th, 2006, 02:32 PM
Hi there
Re: www.speedintros.com
I just wanted to let you know of some recent information that has been given to me about the seedy goings-on at Speed Intros.
Whether one deems the event as halal or not, my concern relates to the lack of confidentiality and the attitude of the organisers.
A very good friend of mine (who has no reason to lie) informed me recently that the male organiser asks his university friends to participate in the events because of lack of males participants – therefore in order to make up the numbers, his friends are invited.
Many of them who turn up at each event, are known to have girlfriends, one of them has openly admitted this to a female participant and the true reason why he was at the event.
These men have no intention in looking for a spouse and attend only to help their friend out i.e. the male organiser.
Now for the bit about confidentiality.
On a form, each participant is asked to tick a box “yes” or “no” to each person they speak to. These forms are collected by the organiser at the end of the event and are not for public viewing.
His friends have been allowed to view these forms i.e. which female has ticked a “yes” or a “no” against their name. I assume they wanted to know for a laugh or to boost their ego. Curiosity does kill the cat as they say.
Would you really feel comfortable knowing that the organiser’s friends are looking over everyone’s forms; who ticked which person and how many got yes and how many got no.
I certainly wouldn’t!
This is certainly a breach of confidentiality and also makes a mockery of the whole event.
These types of events and such like were set up due to the lack of support from the community in searching for a suitable spouse and where the internet lacked the face-to-face approach.
However, what I have found is that individuals seem to be setting up events here and there to exploit the thousands of single people are who in search of a marriage partner.
I have always thought these events were a very good idea but the kind of misconduct that has occurred at SpeedIntros (and continues to do so), distresses me.
Furthermore, if you ever email them with feedback, they will not respond. I politely emailed them two years ago to inform them that their website had misleading information about what kind of food they were offering. They didn’t bother to amend their website. I waited a few weeks and still no action, so I wrote them another email, this time threatening to inform Trading Standards. Within a day or so of me sending that email, they removed the misleading information.
They claim their event is halal and with no free-mixing. One should look at the Islamic meaning of halal. Free mixing DOES occur and in fact, if you have never been to these events, the males (more so than the females), are very “informal” (for want of a better word but I’m sure you get what I mean), in the way they speak to the female participants.
Speed Intros are just in it for the money for as long as they can get people through the door. There is a continous influx of new people attending who have no idea of what actually goes on here and majority of them leave the event feeling let down at the poor quality of attendees and the behaviour of some individuals.
There are plenty of other events which although might be profit-making, are conducted in an honest manner.
I urge you tell all your friends and family not to attend Speed Intros events. I would rather see them close down so that people attend the other events where the organisers do not consider profit over morals!
Re: www.speedintros.com
I just wanted to let you know of some recent information that has been given to me about the seedy goings-on at Speed Intros.
Whether one deems the event as halal or not, my concern relates to the lack of confidentiality and the attitude of the organisers.
A very good friend of mine (who has no reason to lie) informed me recently that the male organiser asks his university friends to participate in the events because of lack of males participants – therefore in order to make up the numbers, his friends are invited.
Many of them who turn up at each event, are known to have girlfriends, one of them has openly admitted this to a female participant and the true reason why he was at the event.
These men have no intention in looking for a spouse and attend only to help their friend out i.e. the male organiser.
Now for the bit about confidentiality.
On a form, each participant is asked to tick a box “yes” or “no” to each person they speak to. These forms are collected by the organiser at the end of the event and are not for public viewing.
His friends have been allowed to view these forms i.e. which female has ticked a “yes” or a “no” against their name. I assume they wanted to know for a laugh or to boost their ego. Curiosity does kill the cat as they say.
Would you really feel comfortable knowing that the organiser’s friends are looking over everyone’s forms; who ticked which person and how many got yes and how many got no.
I certainly wouldn’t!
This is certainly a breach of confidentiality and also makes a mockery of the whole event.
These types of events and such like were set up due to the lack of support from the community in searching for a suitable spouse and where the internet lacked the face-to-face approach.
However, what I have found is that individuals seem to be setting up events here and there to exploit the thousands of single people are who in search of a marriage partner.
I have always thought these events were a very good idea but the kind of misconduct that has occurred at SpeedIntros (and continues to do so), distresses me.
Furthermore, if you ever email them with feedback, they will not respond. I politely emailed them two years ago to inform them that their website had misleading information about what kind of food they were offering. They didn’t bother to amend their website. I waited a few weeks and still no action, so I wrote them another email, this time threatening to inform Trading Standards. Within a day or so of me sending that email, they removed the misleading information.
They claim their event is halal and with no free-mixing. One should look at the Islamic meaning of halal. Free mixing DOES occur and in fact, if you have never been to these events, the males (more so than the females), are very “informal” (for want of a better word but I’m sure you get what I mean), in the way they speak to the female participants.
Speed Intros are just in it for the money for as long as they can get people through the door. There is a continous influx of new people attending who have no idea of what actually goes on here and majority of them leave the event feeling let down at the poor quality of attendees and the behaviour of some individuals.
There are plenty of other events which although might be profit-making, are conducted in an honest manner.
I urge you tell all your friends and family not to attend Speed Intros events. I would rather see them close down so that people attend the other events where the organisers do not consider profit over morals!