harvey_mayway
May 1st, 2006, 02:25 PM
BOOK CLUB… If you Cant read then STOP reading this…..and dont leave any stupid coms..
There are commonly occurring conflicts between men and women. Men don’t understand what women need and want; women don’t understand what men need and want.
Overview
1. Men are from Mars, women are from Venus
Men and women differ in the ways they think, respond and behave to situations.
Understanding these differences will helps relationships.
‘We mistakenly think that if our BF/GF loves us they will react and behave in the same way we react and behave when we love someone.’
2. Men like Fixing things and Woman like talking about things.
Women complain that men don't listen, but are just looking to provide solutions.
Men complain that women are always trying to improve them and the way they do things.
Men value power, competence, and achievement. They need to achieve results by themselves.
Women value feelings and the quality of relationships.
Men must listen to women without offering solutions/Advice, but just listen and (say im their for you, you can tell me) in order to understand what she is going on with them.
3. Men back-off from situations and women want to talk about the situation
Men deal with stress by retreating to their caves: they become more focused and withdrawn.
Women become more overwhelmed and emotionally involved. They want to talk about problems.
Men don’t burden others with their problems
For women, sharing problems with others is a sign of trust.
4. Speaking different languages
The languages that men and women use have the same words but different and often confusing meanings.
Women speak in metaphors and generalizations. If men speak at all, it is very literal and they interpret women in the same literal way.
A man talks only to convey information. A woman talks for many more reasons and complain that men don’t talk.
5. Women are Like Waves
A woman's self-esteem rises and falls like waves. When her self-esteem is high, she has plenty of love to give. When she feels low, she is unable to be as appreciative and accepting of her partner. When a woman's wave crashes a man should go out of his way to support her. He must listen, validate her feelings and give reassurance.
6. Discovering our different emotional needs
Women need to receive care, understanding, respect, devotion, validation and reassurance. Men need to receive trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, encouragement. The best way to get what we need is by giving our partners what they need.
7. How to avoid arguments
They should be avoided at all costs—negotiate, don’t argue.
When a man feels challenged, he focuses on being right and forgets to be loving.
He upsets her and invalidates her feelings—usually by trying to solve her problems. We need to accept that our partners aren't perfect.
There are commonly occurring conflicts between men and women. Men don’t understand what women need and want; women don’t understand what men need and want.
Overview
1. Men are from Mars, women are from Venus
Men and women differ in the ways they think, respond and behave to situations.
Understanding these differences will helps relationships.
‘We mistakenly think that if our BF/GF loves us they will react and behave in the same way we react and behave when we love someone.’
2. Men like Fixing things and Woman like talking about things.
Women complain that men don't listen, but are just looking to provide solutions.
Men complain that women are always trying to improve them and the way they do things.
Men value power, competence, and achievement. They need to achieve results by themselves.
Women value feelings and the quality of relationships.
Men must listen to women without offering solutions/Advice, but just listen and (say im their for you, you can tell me) in order to understand what she is going on with them.
3. Men back-off from situations and women want to talk about the situation
Men deal with stress by retreating to their caves: they become more focused and withdrawn.
Women become more overwhelmed and emotionally involved. They want to talk about problems.
Men don’t burden others with their problems
For women, sharing problems with others is a sign of trust.
4. Speaking different languages
The languages that men and women use have the same words but different and often confusing meanings.
Women speak in metaphors and generalizations. If men speak at all, it is very literal and they interpret women in the same literal way.
A man talks only to convey information. A woman talks for many more reasons and complain that men don’t talk.
5. Women are Like Waves
A woman's self-esteem rises and falls like waves. When her self-esteem is high, she has plenty of love to give. When she feels low, she is unable to be as appreciative and accepting of her partner. When a woman's wave crashes a man should go out of his way to support her. He must listen, validate her feelings and give reassurance.
6. Discovering our different emotional needs
Women need to receive care, understanding, respect, devotion, validation and reassurance. Men need to receive trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, encouragement. The best way to get what we need is by giving our partners what they need.
7. How to avoid arguments
They should be avoided at all costs—negotiate, don’t argue.
When a man feels challenged, he focuses on being right and forgets to be loving.
He upsets her and invalidates her feelings—usually by trying to solve her problems. We need to accept that our partners aren't perfect.