ahh..someone help me out with girl problem

[STUpendous]

so i've been good friends with this girl for like 8 months now, i cant remember the last day that i didnt talk to her for an hour +

but i just cant ask her out, im afraid of her saying yes, we go out for a while, she gets bored.. because i've already revealed way too much of my personality before.. so there's no sense of uncertainty and mystery.. so she goes all distant

its happened a few times to me, but im not letting this one get away.. if she stopped talking to me now, id probably hurt myself

how do you people in long relationships do it? im not only worried about her being bored of me, but id probably become bored of her in like 2 months as well

whats the secret?

[xsilent_watersx]

find a lesbian :idea:

lesbians would love you girl..i mean dawg :idea:

[ispeakadatruth!!]

sorry but i just cant help but :lol:

[aachoudhry]

find a lesbian :idea:

lesbians would love you girl..i mean dawg :idea:

hahaha

[BoO bOo]

love hurts!never expect too much from others. aahh i guess you learn it the hard way.

[0101]

You may get better answers on the 'Relationship' forum.

[STUpendous]

find a lesbian :idea:

lesbians would love you girl..i mean dawg :idea:

shes a bisexual :rishid:

they think im cuter because i look like a girl and a man combined in one

[STUpendous]

You may get better answers on the 'Relationship' forum.

ahh but i need it now

every night around this time, and basically in at random times during the day, i get all pissy and emotional about how ive been too much of a pussy to ask her out

only recently ive realized im afraid of losing what i have with her

[xsilent_watersx]

shes a bisexual :rishid:

they think im cuter because i look like a girl and a man combined in onean abnormal individual especially among the higher vertebrates having both male and female reproductive organs called also androgyne

[aachoudhry]

shes a bisexual :rishid:

they think im cuter because i look like a girl and a man combined in one

:sarb:


:anxious:

[poetichustla]

find a lesbian :idea:

lesbians would love you girl..i mean dawg :idea: that was hella funny.

[ispeakadatruth!!]

shes a bisexual :rishid:

they think im cuter because i look like a girl and a man combined in one


u have very interesting friends...:)

[Chinadoll]

my boyfriend is my best friend. thats how we do it.
that, and we try new things. we go new places together etc to keep things different at the same time creating new memories together.

[0101]

Would it be easier if I take her out to dinner?

[STUpendous]

u have very interesting friends...:)

haah yeah we have our moments, but its just suburban kids being as crazy and rebellious as fuck because life is boring

and yeah i consider myself androgenous, but in a totally natural, and not strange way

[0101]

my boyfriend is my best friend. thats how we do it.
that, and we try new things. we go new places together etc to keep things different at the same time creating new memories together.

I'm gonna do a movie based on that.

[STUpendous]

my boyfriend is my best friend. thats how we do it.
that, and we try new things. we go new places together etc to keep things different at the same time creating new memories together.

ahh im so envious

i want a girlfriend to do the same things with

one time i pulled a lisa simpson, and then i read a book with her at the same time, to see whod be the fastest, and then after every chapter we'd discuss it with each other

but there's only so far intellectual and travelling pursuits can go

what do you talk about when people know you too well?

[Chinadoll]

ahh im so envious

i want a girlfriend to do the same things with

one time i pulled a lisa simpson, and then i read a book with her at the same time, to see whod be the fastest, and then after every chapter we'd discuss it with each other

but there's only so far intellectual and travelling pursuits can go

what do you talk about when people know you too well?
well it doesnt just have to be intellectual.
my boyfriend and i went parasaling and jet skiing together which was really good to do because i was terrified at first and only did it for him, but the i ended up loving it. so just getting eachother to do things they wouldnt normally do is good to keeps things exciting.

and what do we talk about?
our future...umm things that are happening in our daily lives, just anything really.

if you know someone well and get along with them, you should never run out of things to talk about

[STUpendous]

well it doesnt just have to be intellectual.
my boyfriend and i went parasaling and jet skiing together which was really good to do because i was terrified at first and only did it for him, but the i ended up loving it. so just getting eachother to do things they wouldnt normally do is good to keeps things exciting.

and what do we talk about?
our future...umm things that are happening in our daily lives, just anything really.

ahh the more i hear, the more you guys sound like the perfect couple :hs:

we're still pretty young though, we just can't go out and do fun stuff all the time, im 18 and car-less, shes 16 and has still has school

my daily life is really boring, i usually avoid the minor details with her, and just tell her about the major things in really outrageous ways to keep her interest.. we're more of a live for today kinda people.. so we don't like to make plans for future, even if its just discussing

in my last relationship, we just hung out way too much, and we knew each other too well, and hated eachother as a result

i guess, only spending a bit of time with them each week will solve the problem? but id be so unhappy

[0101]

I have a feeling someone is gonna recite those Jay-Z lyrics....intuitions :think:

[Ms.Patel]

well it depends on what kinda relationship u want with her. i mean if ure already thinkin that ure gonna prolly get bored of her in 2 months... then i dont think its something u really need to waste ur time worrying about. but if ure serious about being with her, then put some trust into this. if u expect her to be someone who will get bored - then is she worth it? seriously... u shouldnt be worrying about what ure gonna say and do in a relationship to make it this way or that way.. cuz that just goes back to games and all that bullshit. try it out.. if it does turn out how u fear then its just something that wasnt gonna work. shit happens. it hurts. but u cant force urself into something that wasnt gonna work in the first place. if it doesnt work out then atleast u learned a lesson and can move on. and if it does - then voila. what a beautiful life. u actually have urself in a good position right now since u have someone who u can go on talkin to for days and be able to do some random ass shit with. i mean think about it - if u guys havent gotten bored of eachother after talkin for 8 months everyday for over and hour each day then what makes u think that u suddenly will once ure in a relationship. its not like u suddenly stop bein friends and turn into completely different ppl that the way u guys are together will change... just give it a go and try not to plan so much and force things into goin one way or another cuz the last thing u want is a superficial and artificial relationship (unless that is what ure actually lookin for? :neutral: )... good luck to u!

[RockinHarlot]

dont be a girl.


just tell her.


:drdodgy:

[hindu_heat]

you should dress up in drag, and ask her out.

[Chinadoll]

ahh the more i hear, the more you guys sound like the perfect couple :hs:

we're still pretty young though, we just can't go out and do fun stuff all the time, im 18 and car-less, shes 16 and has still has school

my daily life is really boring, i usually avoid the minor details with her, and just tell her about the major things in really outrageous ways to keep her interest.. we're more of a live for today kinda people.. so we don't like to make plans for future, even if its just discussing

in my last relationship, we just hung out way too much, and we knew each other too well, and hated eachother as a result

i guess, only spending a bit of time with them each week will solve the problem? but id be so unhappy
you don't have to do extravagant things.
even just going to the beach for a nice walk, or trying some different food together, just doing anything thats new for one or both of you.

tell her the minor details. you never know whats going to make her laugh or spark a long conversation.
most of the time thats what happens with my boyfriend and i. he mentions something small that happened that day and it turns into a big convo or if its funny i just get all silly and then he laughs at me hehe.

i've basically lived with my boyfriend on and off for a few months while he was here in Sydney and when i was with him in L.A. we never got sick of eachother.
it might be because we live so far away from eachother we appreciate eachothers company more.

every relationship is different. you have to approach each one a new way.
you can't not spend enough time with this girl because your last relationship ended because you spent too much time together.
she's not the same girl. and its not the same situation, so you shouldnt treat it like it is.

[HeRsHeE317]

dont be a girl.


just tell her.


:drdodgy:
the correct statement is 'take it like a man!'


:google:

[STUpendous]

well it depends on what kinda relationship u want with her. i mean if ure already thinkin that ure gonna prolly get bored of her in 2 months... then i dont think its something u really need to waste ur time worrying about. but if ure serious about being with her, then put some trust into this. if u expect her to be someone who will get bored - then is she worth it? seriously... u shouldnt be worrying about what ure gonna say and do in a relationship to make it this way or that way.. cuz that just goes back to games and all that bullshit. try it out.. if it does turn out how u fear then its just something that wasnt gonna work. shit happens. it hurts. but u cant force urself into something that wasnt gonna work in the first place. if it doesnt work out then atleast u learned a lesson and can move on. and if it does - then voila. what a beautiful life. u actually have urself in a good position right now since u have someone who u can go on talkin to for days and be able to do some random ass shit with. i mean think about it - if u guys havent gotten bored of eachother after talkin for 8 months everyday for over and hour each day then what makes u think that u suddenly will once ure in a relationship. its not like u suddenly stop bein friends and turn into completely different ppl that the way u guys are together will change... just give it a go and try not to plan so much and force things into goin one way or another cuz the last thing u want is a superficial and artificial relationship (unless that is what ure actually lookin for? :neutral: )... good luck to u!

wooah thats pretty good advice

but i just know things will change, its just who i am, and i cant change it

i dont like to go with the flow, especially when its screwed me over in the same way before

but i have no idea why i think things will change, it shouldnt, but anything can happen.. and i just cant take that chance

im just going to call it quits, i dont have the mental stability to go out with her, i know im going to be hurt one way or the other in this.. might as well take the easy way and give up and just be really good friends with her like now

[Chinadoll]

thats retarded to not take chance because your afraid to get hurt, or hurting her.
you can't predict the future so you have no idea how things will turn out.

[STUpendous]

you don't have to do extravagant things.
even just going to the beach for a nice walk, or trying some different food together, just doing anything thats new for one or both of you.

tell her the minor details. you never know whats going to make her laugh or spark a long conversation.
most of the time thats what happens with my boyfriend and i. he mentions something small that happened that day and it turns into a big convo or if its funny i just get all silly and then he laughs at me hehe.

i've basically lived with my boyfriend on and off for a few months while he was here in Sydney and when i was with him in L.A. we never got sick of eachother.
it might be because we live so far away from eachother we appreciate eachothers company more.

every relationship is different. you have to approach each one a new way.
you can't not spend enough time with this girl because your last relationship ended because you spent too much time together.
she's not the same girl. and its not the same situation, so you shouldnt treat it like it is.


but its like that rat experiment where they get shocked for taking the cupcake

different rats, but they still keep going back for it time after time

and what you have sounds great, but its still a 20something year old relationship, while we're just teens

[Chinadoll]

but its like that rat experiment where they get shocked for taking the cupcake

different rats, but they still keep going back for it time after time

and what you have sounds great, but its still a 20something year old relationship, while we're just teens
comparing human behaviour to rat behaviour? :neutral:

every person and every relationship is different. if you respect this girl at all you should realise that and put it into practice.

i'm only 19...my boyfriend is 21...we're still young but its just progressed very fast.
probably because we both want to settle down.

you say your just teens...then stop stressing and just go for it. your worrying about it like its life or death. just take a chance and if it doesnt work out its a good learning curb, if it does thats even better.

[Ms.Patel]

thats retarded to not take chance because your afraid to get hurt, or hurting her.
you can't predict the future so you have no idea how things will turn out.
i agree with this. there are always risks involve and ppl get hurt. thats how they learn. if u arent willin to get hurt once in a while then ure just gonna let whatever is good for u.. pass u by. and think about it. what if shes thinkin what ure thinkin right at this moment? what if shes just itching for u to finally tell her that u feel just how she does. if u seriously are doubtin this so much then maybe u shouldnt get into it... or u arent ready for it. especially if u cant go with the flow. because thats just life. u cant have everything planned out. cuz frankly... shit happens. but i still think u shouldnt let something like this pass u by. like u said earlier - ure still young. and if it doesnt work out then ok. a lesson learned for the future. life is full of opportunities... so unless u plan on living behind a brick wall all ur life... take those opportunities.. because i dont kno if uve noticed. u dont catch a lot of good things passin by when ure behind a brick wall!

[STUpendous]

thats retarded to not take chance because your afraid to get hurt, or hurting her.
you can't predict the future so you have no idea how things will turn out.

well im all crazy and spontaneous one second, and all depressed the other

alot of people tell me i should get checked out for bipolar or something

it just wont be a normal breakup, it'll be the worse thing that ever happened to me in my life .. thats how much i like her, i've never said that about any other girl.. but extrapolating how i feel about her, i know i'll never be the same person again

im going to make my decision by this friday too, since im hanging out with some friends this friday, and she's tagging along.. it's one of the only times we've hung out that hasn't been at school or at the library

if i have a great night and she's not emotionally distant whatsoever, ill just kiss her out of nowhere or something and then ask her out .. or whatever crazy idea comes to my mind at the time

[RockinHarlot]

you should dress up in drag, and ask her out.
hah.


shat ap arshia


:drdodgy:

[ezbreezyfresh]

thats retarded to not take chance because your afraid to get hurt, or hurting her.
you can't predict the future so you have no idea how things will turn out.

hmm well ur right! but what if you do get hurt? that is the worst feeling ever!

[Chinadoll]

hmm well ur right! but what if you do get hurt? that is the worst feeling ever!
you learn from your mistakes.

i've been hurt emotionally and physically in past relationships, but i'm thankful for it because i learnt from those mistakes.

if i hadnt been in those hellish relationship with absolute assholes i wouldnt be able to fully appreciate what an amazing person my boyfriend is.
infact, i think if i had met my boyfriend before i had experienced any relationships, then i think i would've been a bitch to him and not have treat him how he deserves to be treated.
everything happens for a reason.

[ezbreezyfresh]

you learn from your mistakes.

i've been hurt emotionally and physically in past relationships, but i'm thankful for it because i learnt from those mistakes.

if i hadnt been in those hellish relationship with absolute assholes i wouldnt be able to fully appreciate what an amazing person my boyfriend is.
infact, i think if i had met my boyfriend before i had experienced any relationships, then i think i would've been a bitch to him and not have treat him how he deserves to be treated.
everything happens for a reason.

ooo your right! thanks for the insight! so all that hurting doesn't really last for ever!

yay

[0101]

I told you this thread be on 'relationship' forum :D