am i crazy or is he?

[Just Like Heaven]

my bf for the past year is a great guy, i mean he really cares about me, his parents know about me.. hes very sincere and loving. But sometimes i feel like he doesnt do all the stuff he use to, like be sappy, or call me all the time... spend all night talking to me etc... in fact we barely see each other.. even though hes only an hr and half away from me now... ( when we met he was 4hrs away and he wud drive up to see me more often... thats 8hrs of driving)
he loves me, its just that sometimes i feel like i dont get the attention i need from him... when we're together we're great but with the distance we fight alot...
so lately we've been fighting and breaking-up alot... i mean like every month we have to fight and break up and then get back together... the longest we've stayed broken up is a month... i thought it was really over that time... everytime we break up he starts to drink alot and get high and do drugs... he use to do alot of that stuff before he met me, but when we met he tried to change himself for me... and stoped drinking and even stopped weed for a bit... he got himself a job and stopped dealin and went back to school...i love him like insanely... but when we're together i feel like he can give me more and he chooses not to... so i bitc%$ alot... everytime i try to discuss our relationship he manipulates the conversation to make it about me and it turns into a big argument with tons of curses and yelling and crying... he says that i dont listen to him.. or try to understand him... he expects me to be a psychic and probe into his head and know wut he is feeling... where as im a very vocal person about my emotions... i feel hopeless because i feel like at times i still dont know him... and he knows me better than myself... because of this his mom told me to break up with him and that he doesnt deserve me or any1... so now we hide that we're together from his parents aswell as from mine... we're both different sects of islam... and i know my parents wudnt approve of him.. and his parents wud come around to it... but it wud still be hard... sometimes i feel like this is an impossible situation and it tears me up inside cuz i really dont know what we should do... any suggestions?

[Just Like Heaven]

iv'e tried forgetting about him, and have my friends think im crazy... cuz i turn down guys that treat me tons better.. and just keep going back to him...

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[shararthi_larki]

it felt kinda weird reading ur first post....cos i cld relate to quite a bit of it

jus sounds like u've gotten bored of each other....it cld even be dat ur bf doesn't realise dat he's not doing wat he used to do....u guys seem to hav a slight communication problem...u need to try nd get him to open up to u....but sumtyms guys can b real pig headed nd refuse to open up....altho how they xpect girls to knw wats goin on...i do not know...however i do realise dat chicks do da same thing sumtyms....but yea...for u i wld suggest try get him to tlk to u a lil more

nd as far as da fightin wen ur apart....dat cld jus stem from frustration....at not being with u...not seeing u enough.....are you guys just not seeing each other cos uc an't b bothered to...or are there other factors....nd other responsibilities which mean dat u can't see each other.....if ur used to ur parents knopwing...nd now ur havng to creep around behind their backs....dat cld be jus creating stress for da both of u? which could explain why things aren't going all that great

it does sound a bit like he doesn't appreciate nd realise ur worth though....i could be wrong though

[Just Like Heaven]

we dont get to see each other cuz he works and goes to school and now hes starting his own business and then he has to hide where hes going from the family and its just stressful... and then im doing med so its hard cuz i dont want him to affect my studies and im soo set on my career and hes so set on his...and that leads to alot of the arguments... when we actually see each other the spark and everything is still there...its just that we dont see each other often at all.. i dont think im bored of him or that hes bored of me... its just that we dont have the time we want to spend with each other available to us... he feels like theres no possible way of him coming more often and i feel hes not trying hard enough to see me... and i feel like hes neglecting me... when he feels he spends every chance he gets with me... its different be cause im in univ. and my friends bfs all live here and they see each other soo much more... it makes me feel neglected and alone... he expects me to just know how much he loves me and i want him to say it, he expects me to know how lonely he feels and how much he misses me and i dont know because he doesnt vocalize it... he is the quiet observant type and im the crazy talkative type.. and we clash cuz he listens and i talk... and ill ask him well how was ur day and he'll say a bit and ill think ok well thats all he has to say when he really wants me to just know how his day was without asking... he expects me to just know how he feels...

[shararthi_larki]

gurl...trust me...i knw exactly wat u mean...wen ur together its like everything's goin perfect...or as close to perfect as it can get...yet wen ur apart....all u do is argue....i dnno abt youse two....but i knw with my guy it stems from frustration....him not being able to be with me....not seeing each other for long lengths of time....and den jus feeling like he can't b bothered nd doesn't think its worth it.....believe me...you really do need to tell him this....i knw u sed he turns it around nd makes it seem like ur always saying "me me me" but i wld jus say well seein as u always think i'm all abt me me me....maybe u shld actually let it b about me....sounds a lil harsh...but u need to get him to listen so dat he knows how ur feeling

i dunno about how ur gonna get him to talk tho....i'm a quiet person myself...nd da only tym i tlk is wen i'm ready to....u may jus need to be patient....but let him know ur there....whenever.....i knw my xcuse for not tlkng is cos i think he doesn't wanna hear it...cos its not dat big a deal for him...even tho it cld b for me....maybe dats how ur bf's feeling?

[Just Like Heaven]

he thinks, that idont care about what he has to say.. or that it wont affect me.. the thing is that with him, every flaw i see in him i love it because it makes him who he is, but everything he sees wrong in me, he wants to change it so that i can be the best person possible.. i see his flaws as things i will change subtly but things i can love because it makes him who he is... he wont talk to me unless hes drunk... in which case hes horny and all he talks about is physical stuff.. he met some girl off this site.. and in attempts of movingon with his life asked her out... turns out she has a bf and me and her ended up getting close... lol

[xxxplicit chica]

I don't think you two are getting bored of each other... IF that was the reason then you wouldn't be here making a thread about your situation. U'd prolly would be with some other guy "having fun", as would ur b/f.
All this is normal. A relationship consists on two people, both have different ways of dealing with things. Sorry to say, this stuff is prolly gonna happen a lot, but that doesn't mean you guys aren't good for each other, or that ur bored now. U two are just starting to take each other for granted, as another poster said above. And the distance isn't really helping any....if he doesn't make an effort to drive out more often and see you, why don't u go ahead n do so?

I know it's hard for us girls, but try not to get so emotional. .

[shararthi_larki]

jus make it clear dat u do care nd dat u do wanna hear about it...he jus needs reassurance....guys can b overly sensitive at times...nd well...u knw ur guy best....nd seein as u said he only tlkns to u wen he's drunk kinda goes to show dat a lil boost prolly is all dat he needs to tlk to u.....

da moving on part....i think dats just because he thinks he's not doin nething for u...nd so wants to move on nd get outta ur hair....or...well...i'm not too sure...i shld prolly stop tryna overanalyse everything here.....

about him changing u....dats summin u may need to tlk abt...if they're things dat r da essence of u....den maybe he shldn't be tryna change dem...if they're little things nd ur alright with changing for him....den i suppose go for it...but do think whether it's honestly worth changing jus for a guy....up to u to think how much he means to u....cos it sounds like he means a whole load to u

nd yea....i think xxxplicit chica may be right....do try make da effort to go see him...surprise him if u can...altho i understand he prolly is really busy....but jus a lil visit cld mean a lot to him....maybe he's feelin a lil unloved as well nd thinkin ur not making da effort to see him

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any suggestions?

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use paragraphs and line breaks PLEASE

i dont have the attention span otherwise =\

[Just Like Heaven]

so last nite he calls me after a week...

hes drunk of 3 bottles of 90 proof vodka straight
and he calls me to initially tell me off for never supporting him or listening etc...

which slowly turns into a... " i love u, i will do anything for, if u want me to kill someone i will.. i want to have 2 kids with and adopt 2... and when the molvi sahib askes u if u want to marry me and u get shy ill answer for u and say
'yes she does'...and i will convert to ur sect for u... i love u more than my mom i swear... i dont care about anyone but you.." which led to both of us crying ...

he kept saying that he didnt want to sleep cuz he wud wake up forgetting all of this and wud stay stubborn and stuck on his ego in the morning... but by 4 i was sleeping and i havent heard from him since 4am so lets see wut happens...

[BigPimpN]

so sveet.

[GoddessOfLove720]

ITS HIM.

he has issues, i no u care abt em a lot, n u gotta trust me on dis, its gonna hurt much more later on. i think u shud 4get abt him, b/c hes starting 2 b like da typical desi guys, once they think they have u, they dun havta do anything sweet 2 woo u, n das just not acceptable.

its da 21st century, n dere r desi guys out there who will love u 4ever, even after hes been w/ u 4 a long time, n i think u deserve dat, not a druggy who can fall outta love easily. i think ur parents r rite not 2 accept him, b/c hes not worth u n he wont make u happy.

sorry 2 sound so harsh, but das how i c it. u shud 4get him, as soon as possible, so its less painful, n find urself sum1 who cares 4 u just as much as u care 4 him.

[SexyTemptress]

girl u can do better. dump him. he doesnt really show you he cares about you, he does drugs, DEALS which could land his ass in jail, drank 3 bottles of vodka straight, he's headed for trouble. seriously a guy like this will bring you down with him. he knows u dont like his lifestyle yet he still does it, that shows a lack of respect for what you want. do u really want to be married to someone like this???

[T.Dimera]

amazing...even a pothead can get a girl faster then me :neutral:

[SIXPAK GQ]

amazing...even a pothead can get a girl faster then me :neutral:

older girls dont go for druggies...

[Just Like Heaven]

older girls dont go for druggies...

how old ? im not sum lil 16yr old im in my 3rd year in univ. doing medicine its not about wut he is inside not his flaws.. as a person

[Just Like Heaven]

girl u can do better. dump him. he doesnt really show you he cares about you, he does drugs, DEALS which could land his ass in jail, drank 3 bottles of vodka straight, he's headed for trouble. seriously a guy like this will bring you down with him. he knows u dont like his lifestyle yet he still does it, that shows a lack of respect for what you want. do u really want to be married to someone like this???

he doesnt deal... he drinks thats legal and which guy doesnt do the occasional weed ok when hes stressed he may resort to excessive substances of intoxication...

[SIXPAK GQ]

how old ? im not sum lil 16yr old im in my 3rd year in univ. doing medicine its not about wut he is inside not his flaws.. as a person


i am talking about ladies who have good stable jobs and have friends that don't do drugs and are clean......most college students still have a HS mentality..i am talking bout 25+......

Drugs are bad for health and it be devastating in the long run as far as serious relationships go

[Xo_neha_Xo]

i would hate if a guy treated me like that :ashamed:

[SIXPAK GQ]

iv'e tried forgetting about him, and have my friends think im crazy... cuz i turn down guys that treat me tons better.. and just keep going back to him...

u are not using ur head.

people who drink and do drugs get nowhere in life. i know this from experience..some of my friends work in walmart for like 7 bucks per hour..they dropped out of HS and college...some of them had kids.....
i dont think u want a guy like this......long distance relationships have communication problems...u need someone within ur vicinity...there are much better guys out there for you.....what her mom said was ignorant that u don't deserve anyone else....

[Xo_neha_Xo]

you know what a relationship is never worth tears so if it doesn't work out just dump him and dont get back with him i know that a little mean but i am serious!

[SIXPAK GQ]

he thinks, that idont care about what he has to say.. or that it wont affect me.. the thing is that with him, every flaw i see in him i love it because it makes him who he is, but everything he sees wrong in me, he wants to change it so that i can be the best person possible.. i see his flaws as things i will change subtly but things i can love because it makes him who he is... he wont talk to me unless hes drunk... in which case hes horny and all he talks about is physical stuff.. he met some girl off this site.. and in attempts of movingon with his life asked her out... turns out she has a bf and me and her ended up getting close... lol

he has some self esteem issues...he will only talk to u when he is drunk...oh boy....


u need to cut this long distance relationship....put this relationship on a freeze and then when u guys are closer physically....let it resume.....

[SIXPAK GQ]

ITS HIM.

he has issues, i no u care abt em a lot, n u gotta trust me on dis, its gonna hurt much more later on. i think u shud 4get abt him, b/c hes starting 2 b like da typical desi guys, once they think they have u, they dun havta do anything sweet 2 woo u, n das just not acceptable.

its da 21st century, n dere r desi guys out there who will love u 4ever, even after hes been w/ u 4 a long time, n i think u deserve dat, not a druggy who can fall outta love easily. i think ur parents r rite not 2 accept him, b/c hes not worth u n he wont make u happy.

sorry 2 sound so harsh, but das how i c it. u shud 4get him, as soon as possible, so its less painful, n find urself sum1 who cares 4 u just as much as u care 4 him.


this guy has some serious issues

he will only talk to her when he is drunk
drinks a lot
does drug

i am still wondering if good girls go for guys like this?
on top of this the LD relationship is killing this even more.....
ok its not just desi guys...guys are guys period. it doesnt matter where ur from....

[SIXPAK GQ]

girl u can do better. dump him. he doesnt really show you he cares about you, he does drugs, DEALS which could land his ass in jail, drank 3 bottles of vodka straight, he's headed for trouble. seriously a guy like this will bring you down with him. he knows u dont like his lifestyle yet he still does it, that shows a lack of respect for what you want. do u really want to be married to someone like this???


co signs.....

[Just Like Heaven]

the only reason he wud only talk to me when he was drunk was cuz we werent together...ie we broke up because i snaped at him and told him he wasnt doing enough for me.. which led to the accessive amount of alcohol and drugs...

ur mixing it all up
he doesnt drink normally
or do drugs
he drinks when hes upset or when we break up with me...

he quiet weed as of 3 weeks ago because i tried it for the first time in my life...
and he felt horrible

when we break up... which happens when we get into a serious fight ie i dont every 4-5 months if that... he gets all crazy and drinks and wont talk to me and tries to move on and i try to move on and then we both get to the pt where we know we are just hurting ourselves by not being together
so we get back together... and its over... and hes normal... the reason we initally fought was cuz of the distance... but the second we both try harder to see each other more and he comes up to vist me and spend the weekend or i go down to see him ( we arent that far away its only an hr and a half) it gets better... he was up here last nite... spent the nite with me... it was perfect again.. hes been sober and all... i dont think u can judge sum1s character based on wut he does when hes in pain or grief..
he doesnt have any family that supports him, he works and goes to school and has his own business.. the only person he has is me... his family is stuck in their own shit... and arent really their in his life... he doesnt live with his parents or anything either... so i am the only loved one in his life... if i get angry and him and we both snap at each other and break up out of anger... he gets upset and drinks a little too much... it doesnt mean hes a alcoholic druggie dealer.

hes a hardworking, intellgent, educated guy ... he has a job, he pays his own bills, and hes got his life together... its just that with out me he falls apart... and with out him i fall apart....

[Xo_neha_Xo]

i hope evertyhing works out

good luck <3

[Just Like Heaven]

i hope evertyhing works out

good luck <3

thanks

[Xo_neha_Xo]

thanks

yeah np

[punjabi*princess]

well me and my bf have been together for two years we fight and shit he tells me i dont uderstand him same as ur problem buttt girl we need to give them there own space.. u know what i mean i try to give him his space and not get all the attention from him now a days u need to commit to and try to talk to him about the fights and shit .. well thats all i can say .. i hide my relationship from my parents .. i know they wont excpet him i love him soo much and still u need that trust and stuff in ur relationship.. there is no realtionship that doesnt have a fightttttttt...........

[punjabi*princess]

and also my bf moved to texas and i live in bostn lol u tell me how i live without him its been 7 months to a year i havent even met him we talk on the phone or online... i moved here he moved there soo we sitll love each other .........

[_NoMi_]

my bf for the past year is a great guy, i mean he really cares about me, his parents know about me.. hes very sincere and loving. But sometimes i feel like he doesnt do all the stuff he use to, like be sappy, or call me all the time... spend all night talking to me etc... in fact we barely see each other.. even though hes only an hr and half away from me now... ( when we met he was 4hrs away and he wud drive up to see me more often... thats 8hrs of driving)
he loves me, its just that sometimes i feel like i dont get the attention i need from him... when we're together we're great but with the distance we fight alot...
so lately we've been fighting and breaking-up alot... i mean like every month we have to fight and break up and then get back together... the longest we've stayed broken up is a month... i thought it was really over that time... everytime we break up he starts to drink alot and get high and do drugs... he use to do alot of that stuff before he met me, but when we met he tried to change himself for me... and stoped drinking and even stopped weed for a bit... he got himself a job and stopped dealin and went back to school...i love him like insanely... but when we're together i feel like he can give me more and he chooses not to... so i bitc%$ alot... everytime i try to discuss our relationship he manipulates the conversation to make it about me and it turns into a big argument with tons of curses and yelling and crying... he says that i dont listen to him.. or try to understand him... he expects me to be a psychic and probe into his head and know wut he is feeling... where as im a very vocal person about my emotions... i feel hopeless because i feel like at times i still dont know him... and he knows me better than myself... because of this his mom told me to break up with him and that he doesnt deserve me or any1... so now we hide that we're together from his parents aswell as from mine... we're both different sects of islam... and i know my parents wudnt approve of him.. and his parents wud come around to it... but it wud still be hard... sometimes i feel like this is an impossible situation and it tears me up inside cuz i really dont know what we should do... any suggestions?
i'm sorry to say but i think its going to end soon

i had to go through the same problem...my ex thought it was me that was being distant but infact it was her. keeping secrets from me ...not being honest with me about whats going on in her mind. i was doing whatever i could to keep her happy ...meeting up with her whenever it was possible...going to see her whenever she needed me. in the end she left me for another guy 2 weeks after meeting him. told me that she loves him more than me. we were going out for 3 and a half years.

there may be a slight chance of ur relationship lasting but its highly unlikely that its gonna go on. im just being straight up with u because i had to go through the same shit.

[T.Dimera]

i am talking about ladies who have good stable jobs and have friends that don't do drugs and are clean......most college students still have a HS mentality..i am talking bout 25+......

Drugs are bad for health and it be devastating in the long run as far as serious relationships go

i guess i'm going to stop focusing on girls under 25 now...i'm a clean abcd who plays sports, likes to go out with friends without getting high or drinking.

[Gt_BabyGurl]

Well all i can say that i have went through the part like u dont feel he is giving enough to u and what i did was give it sometime and it kinda worked like we both are really into each other now but we still think that we're too good for each other, as in he is too good for me and im too good for him it goes both ways, but mine was just starting urs has been going on for a while so maybe he is just scared of lettin go of his feelings because he hasnt met someone like u that love him soooo much and i guess he wants to see if it's real or what thats y. Thats pretty much the only reason for this that he is scared and if thats the case then it needs time and u guys have to stop the fighting and just enjoy what u have and if anything else is to come it will come and fit in when it's time.

[Just Like Heaven]

wow@ punjabi princess... and i complain about 2 weeks lol...
i think ur rite... i just expect alot from him when hes trying his best to become everything i want from him.. he tries his best to come see me as much its just that alot of my friends are seeing guys who go to univ with us and its easier for them to see them every single day and i see him every 2 weeks... but i forget that my relationship with him is much more meaningful then their flings...last nite he came up and spent the nite and stayed up all night watching me sleep... around 3am he woke up and said... maya i know ive asked u this before.... but its been a while.. and we've broken up in b.w so will u marry me?.... lol it was the sweetest thing... cuz he was just laying there.. and it was soo simple and beautiful... i guess every realtionship has its hard parts... its just hard seeing those bad parts.. when ur use to perfection...

nomi im sorry that happened to u... and maybe if i hadnt stop to think it wud have happened to us to.. but i do love him truely and we dont keep secrets... and i know he loves me...

GT babygirl.. i think we all go thru rough patches and dry spells.. we just need to realize how to communicate our feelings to each other without getting angry and bitchy about it...http://rutgers.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=30483832

[_NoMi_]

nomi im sorry that happened to u... and maybe if i hadnt stop to think it wud have happened to us to.. but i do love him truely and we dont keep secrets... and i know he loves me...


if u know that he loves u and u love him then i suggest u two sit down and have a serious discussion about ur future and most of all ur present state or else its just gonna get worse. u would fight....u would say nasty things but nothing will be solved. u both need to sit down and talk about this situation calmly weighing out the pros and cons about ur relationship. its not only love that holds a relationship together...u have to consider ur future also if its that serious between u two. as for his drinking habits and weed....he should stop that shit. not a great thing to be doing....ask him what is he going to get out of smoking and drinking. nothing right? be patient with him...i'm sure ur open with him about everything but remember everyone always has secrets even though they claim to say that they are always open with their significant other. maybe breaking up longer than a few months wont be such a bad idea either...distance makes the heart grow fonder. u both may realize that either the relationship is right for u or not.

[Just Like Heaven]

yea... we did that all last nite... and than had a nice make up session too lol... and i have the chocolate flowers and balloons to prove it... ( evertime we fight he has to go buy me stuff lol last time we fought i got a saphire diamond ring and necklace in white gold..from kay ( my favo)...

and now i dont want to u hear u guys say shit about me being some gold dIgger CAUSE I DIDNT ASK HIM TO GET ME ANYTHING

[sanipagal]

so last nite he calls me after a week...

hes drunk of 3 bottles of 90 proof vodka straight
and he calls me to initially tell me off for never supporting him or listening etc...

which slowly turns into a... " i love u, i will do anything for, if u want me to kill someone i will.. i want to have 2 kids with and adopt 2... and when the molvi sahib askes u if u want to marry me and u get shy ill answer for u and say
'yes she does'...and i will convert to ur sect for u... i love u more than my mom i swear... i dont care about anyone but you.." which led to both of us crying ...

he kept saying that he didnt want to sleep cuz he wud wake up forgetting all of this and wud stay stubborn and stuck on his ego in the morning... but by 4 i was sleeping and i havent heard from him since 4am so lets see wut happens...

why dont you call him?

[_NoMi_]

yea... we did that all last nite... and than had a nice make up session too lol... and i have the chocolate flowers and balloons to prove it... ( evertime we fight he has to go buy me stuff lol last time we fought i got a saphire diamond ring and necklace in white gold..from kay ( my favo)...

and now i dont want to u hear u guys say shit about me being some gold dIgger CAUSE I DIDNT ASK HIM TO GET ME ANYTHING
why must u assume we would say ur a gold digger

yes make up sessions are the best :D no more for me but i remember the days. just hope that the conversation u had would stick this time.

[Just Like Heaven]

why must u assume we would say ur a gold digger

yes make up sessions are the best :D no more for me but i remember the days. just hope that the conversation u had would stick this time.

thanks :)

[SIXPAK GQ]

the only reason he wud only talk to me when he was drunk was cuz we werent together...ie we broke up because i snaped at him and told him he wasnt doing enough for me.. which led to the accessive amount of alcohol and drugs...

ur mixing it all up
he doesnt drink normally
or do drugs
he drinks when hes upset or when we break up with me...

he quiet weed as of 3 weeks ago because i tried it for the first time in my life...
and he felt horrible

when we break up... which happens when we get into a serious fight ie i dont every 4-5 months if that... he gets all crazy and drinks and wont talk to me and tries to move on and i try to move on and then we both get to the pt where we know we are just hurting ourselves by not being together
so we get back together... and its over... and hes normal... the reason we initally fought was cuz of the distance... but the second we both try harder to see each other more and he comes up to vist me and spend the weekend or i go down to see him ( we arent that far away its only an hr and a half) it gets better... he was up here last nite... spent the nite with me... it was perfect again.. hes been sober and all... i dont think u can judge sum1s character based on wut he does when hes in pain or grief..
he doesnt have any family that supports him, he works and goes to school and has his own business.. the only person he has is me... his family is stuck in their own shit... and arent really their in his life... he doesnt live with his parents or anything either... so i am the only loved one in his life... if i get angry and him and we both snap at each other and break up out of anger... he gets upset and drinks a little too much... it doesnt mean hes a alcoholic druggie dealer.

hes a hardworking, intellgent, educated guy ... he has a job, he pays his own bills, and hes got his life together... its just that with out me he falls apart... and with out him i fall apart....


lol..how do u know he does not do drugs or drink? ur not with him 24/7
he drinks b/c he is upset? looks like he has no other way out..this calls for low esteem.....
drinking and drugs changes ur personality.....
the problem is and its a LD relationship......

ummmmmm no i would not go as getting his life together when ur drinking and doing drugs....

[SIXPAK GQ]

well me and my bf have been together for two years we fight and shit he tells me i dont uderstand him same as ur problem buttt girl we need to give them there own space.. u know what i mean i try to give him his space and not get all the attention from him now a days u need to commit to and try to talk to him about the fights and shit .. well thats all i can say .. i hide my relationship from my parents .. i know they wont excpet him i love him soo much and still u need that trust and stuff in ur relationship.. there is no realtionship that doesnt have a fightttttttt...........
either u are confident that u will end up with this guy

or ur parents wont accept him and u will be hurt.....

pick one...

[SIXPAK GQ]

and also my bf moved to texas and i live in bostn lol u tell me how i live without him its been 7 months to a year i havent even met him we talk on the phone or online... i moved here he moved there soo we sitll love each other .........

what are teh chances u will see him again


long distance relationships are not healthy. unless u see each other frequently....

[Just Like Heaven]

lol..how do u know he does not do drugs or drink? ur not with him 24/7
he drinks b/c he is upset? looks like he has no other way out..this calls for low esteem.....
drinking and drugs changes ur personality.....
the problem is and its a LD relationship......

ummmmmm no i would not go as getting his life together when ur drinking and doing drugs....

i dont know... but i do trust him... and whose to say that just because some has a low self esteem u should break up with them?
I am not a quitter... and i dont walk away from something i believe in and some1 i truely care about and love...so i dont sit around picking flaws in him... because for me love is defined be loving some1 completely with his flaws... and accepting them... and trying ur best to make theperson a better person... i wont simply walk away from this all because i truely believe i wont ever love any1 as much as i love him... and vice versa...
if ur so much against LD relationships... define wut frequently see sum1 means? i see him every 2weeks sometimes more sometimes less... some people live in the same town and see each other once every week or more... so i really dont see much of a difference... an hr and half is not that long of a drive...

[SIXPAK GQ]

i dont know... but i do trust him... and whose to say that just because some has a low self esteem u should break up with them?
I am not a quitter... and i dont walk away from something i believe in and some1 i truely care about and love...so i dont sit around picking flaws in him... because for me love is defined be loving some1 completely with his flaws... and accepting them... and trying ur best to make theperson a better person... i wont simply walk away from this all because i truely believe i wont ever love any1 as much as i love him... and vice versa...
if ur so much against LD relationships... define wut frequently see sum1 means? i see him every 2weeks sometimes more sometimes less... some people live in the same town and see each other once every week or more... so i really dont see much of a difference... an hr and half is not that long of a drive...

its common sense...no one wants to be someone who has low self esteem...i doubt there any any women on this board who would go for a guy like that...i think u can do much better then that.....

it seems you are not happy with this situation and that i why u created this thread? so what are you going to do about it now? u should be seeing somone like twice a month if its LD......people got lives . there are other things to do then running a relationship.....

[Just Like Heaven]

its common sense...no one wants to be someone who has low self esteem...i doubt there any any women on this board who would go for a guy like that...i think u can do much better then that.....

it seems you are not happy with this situation and that i why u created this thread? so what are you going to do about it now? u should be seeing somone like twice a month if its LD......people got lives . there are other things to do then running a relationship.....

is it ok to not always have sumthing to talk about when ur with that person?
u know all my life ive gotten bored too easily.. my friends use to bet on how long one my bfs wud last.. if he passed a week it was a wow... when my present one passed a month they were like :O wtf.. when he passed 6months they thought i was a completely different person when he passed a year they thing.. she has to get bored sooner or later... i think im scared ill get bored of him...
i dont get wut ur saying at the end of seeing each other 2x a month etc..

[SIXPAK GQ]

is it ok to not always have sumthing to talk about when ur with that person?
u know all my life ive gotten bored too easily.. my friends use to bet on how long one my bfs wud last.. if he passed a week it was a wow... when my present one passed a month they were like :O wtf.. when he passed 6months they thought i was a completely different person when he passed a year they thing.. she has to get bored sooner or later... i think im scared ill get bored of him...
i dont get wut ur saying at the end of seeing each other 2x a month etc..

silence is good...but communication is very important in any type of relationship....if u get bored then maybe u oughta look elsewhere...and not even think about marriage........

well seeing twice a month is pretty good in my opinion..in a LD relationship......like u said u were on and off with him.......so that 1 year is not a full year.....

[Just Like Heaven]

silence is good...but communication is very important in any type of relationship....if u get bored then maybe u oughta look elsewhere...and not even think about marriage........

well seeing twice a month is pretty good in my opinion..in a LD relationship......like u said u were on and off with him.......so that 1 year is not a full year.....

yea but i guess when u get so comfortable and it gets soo serious its weird to just get up andleave... and when u feel very strongly about that person... u cant move on.. we've tried trust me.. atleast i have and its just gotten tot he pt where we both know its impossible for either of us to leave each other...

i dont know if im bored of him or not its like we dont have anything to say to each other on the phone.. when he comes to visit its a whole different story.. the sparks and everything is still there... i think im just not use to this LD thing hes my first LDbf... and i cant seem to get over this whole not seeing each other allt he time thing..

[SIXPAK GQ]

yea but i guess when u get so comfortable and it gets soo serious its weird to just get up andleave... and when u feel very strongly about that person... u cant move on.. we've tried trust me.. atleast i have and its just gotten tot he pt where we both know its impossible for either of us to leave each other...

i dont know if im bored of him or not its like we dont have anything to say to each other on the phone.. when he comes to visit its a whole different story.. the sparks and everything is still there... i think im just not use to this LD thing hes my first LDbf... and i cant seem to get over this whole not seeing each other allt he time thing..

u dont seem that strong anyways.....be realistic...and ur not benefiting any from being in this unstable relationship..no such thing is impossible......anything can happen....dont use the online/phone too much then......

[SIXPAK GQ]

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[SIXPAK GQ]

bump

[SpankingGT]

call me all the time... ?
I'm tempted to! :wavey:

[Just Like Heaven]

I'm tempted to! :wavey:

lol ur bad when did i say that ghanda! putting words in my mouth

[SIXPAK GQ]

bump

[Just Like Heaven]

bump
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wuts up with the bumps?

ok lets hear ur say on this...

we're together for 2 weeks..everythings fine.. the physical stuff is fine the emotional stuff etc etc hes buyin me the flowers and all.. coming to see me etc etc...

soo.....

he wants me to come see him... sumthing comes up and i cant... he gets angry at me and calls me the next morning to tell me off and than hangs up...


so i decide ill go see him that nite...drive 2hrs ( i never drive to see him, he always drives.. even when im in md for the summer...) drive to see him for the first time... call him when im 30mins away... he goes why are u coming, i dont feel good.. dont come... so i think ok hes still pissed at me ill just show up and he'll be fine..... hmmm wrong! i get there and hes all scruffy and u can smell weed on his breath, he quickly hides the bottle of vodka under his bed... i tell him off for doing that shit... he says i do it when i get upset... making me feel guilty because hes upset cause of me.. anyways the whole nite hes all horny and shit... and im exhausted and soo sleepy.. so i wake up in the morning to him humping my leg... long story short i make him happy... i wake up at 6am im out of his house around 6:45... i get back to my place around 8:20 and i have class at 9... i got to class.. and all...

he wakes up at 2pm.. and IMs me to tell me he missed his meeting cause of me... not oh thanks for coming i had a great nite i love u i miss u. when he cud have slept at nite cuz i was knockedout by 1... so i bitch at him we fight long story short we break up again... u know guys shudnt really seperate physical stuff in the relationship with the emotional shit... like if ur happy cuz i made u happy physically than u shud display that emotionally as well.. cuz it makes the girl feel soo unloved and shitty...

[The Only One]

Well I might sound harsh, but I'll tell you what I think. You guys are over. The 'happy' feeling of when you guys first got together isn't there anymore. You guys expect too much of eachother and give n receive less than expected. You guys fight and argue..thats not good. You guys break up and all. thats not good. save yourself the trouble and just take a break, see what you want, you're young...find out what you really want now because when u get older youll be miserable especially if its already like this. you understand what im sayin? take a nice break. less stress and emotions, clear head, and youll be happy. see other people..not as in get with them..meet new ppl to figure out what u really want..those are my 2 cents peace.

[ezbreezyfresh]

hmm u can do better! way better!

[SpankingGT]

I think You should forget that dude and go out with me! Oh baby I will rock your world!

[Just Like Heaven]

I think You should forget that dude and go out with me! Oh baby I will rock your world!

lol yea we can discuss the directly proportional relationship with the realese of aphrodisaics and chocolate... hey wut the heck we can do research on the triggers of those awesome pleasure hormones eh? meet u in the lab at 10 ;-) haha

[SpankingGT]

lol yea we can discuss the directly proportional relationship with the realese of aphrodisaics and chocolate... hey wut the heck we can do research on the triggers of those awesome pleasure hormones eh? meet u in the lab at 10 ;-) haha
Forget that, I'm cumin (opps) over now!

[SIXPAK GQ]

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wuts up with the bumps?

ok lets hear ur say on this...

we're together for 2 weeks..everythings fine.. the physical stuff is fine the emotional stuff etc etc hes buyin me the flowers and all.. coming to see me etc etc...

soo.....

he wants me to come see him... sumthing comes up and i cant... he gets angry at me and calls me the next morning to tell me off and than hangs up...


so i decide ill go see him that nite...drive 2hrs ( i never drive to see him, he always drives.. even when im in md for the summer...) drive to see him for the first time... call him when im 30mins away... he goes why are u coming, i dont feel good.. dont come... so i think ok hes still pissed at me ill just show up and he'll be fine..... hmmm wrong! i get there and hes all scruffy and u can smell weed on his breath, he quickly hides the bottle of vodka under his bed... i tell him off for doing that shit... he says i do it when i get upset... making me feel guilty because hes upset cause of me.. anyways the whole nite hes all horny and shit... and im exhausted and soo sleepy.. so i wake up in the morning to him humping my leg... long story short i make him happy... i wake up at 6am im out of his house around 6:45... i get back to my place around 8:20 and i have class at 9... i got to class.. and all...

he wakes up at 2pm.. and IMs me to tell me he missed his meeting cause of me... not oh thanks for coming i had a great nite i love u i miss u. when he cud have slept at nite cuz i was knockedout by 1... so i bitch at him we fight long story short we break up again... u know guys shudnt really seperate physical stuff in the relationship with the emotional shit... like if ur happy cuz i made u happy physically than u shud display that emotionally as well.. cuz it makes the girl feel soo unloved and shitty...


ok.....we dont need to hear the inside info..thats Too much info....we already got the point from ur initial topic.......and what are u trying to really tell us anyways?