Wedding until Walima

[DESI-PEACHES]

After wedding night, what does the bride normally do in the morning? Does she just stay up in her bedroom with the girls and chats or go down and do some housework until Walima day comes?

I ask this cos everyone I knows do different things after wedding night. Am curious thats all :)

[*spoilt_brat*]

After wedding night, what does the bride normally do in the morning? Does she just stay up in her bedroom with the girls and chats or go down and do some housework until Walima day comes?

I ask this cos everyone I knows do different things after wedding night. Am curious thats all :)


aww well, i know alot about wedding's because got my cousin's wedding coming up..cant wait :joy: but you get dressed, and obviously, you gotta act shy etc, if you have a older sister-in-law, she takes you down stairs and thats when you gotta show the mother in law, what you can do, and yes you do have to cook, and its a very big tridition that you gotta make tea for the father in law, and you have to cut the FISH!!!!!!! NOTICE TO ALL BENGALI'S!!!


you gotta learn how to cut fish..thats a very big tridition in the bengali culture!! :)

and P.S your not sopposed to have sex on the wedding night, thats haram! :no: your sopposed to do it, after like 3 day's then fi you don't do it after 3 day's then your husband has the right to divorce you. ok i'm babberling on too much, but i think you got your answer, right!? if you want more please do ask, because ... i love answering these type of questions! :hug:

[Z4K5T4R]

aww well, i know alot about wedding's because got my cousin's wedding coming up..cant wait :joy: but you get dressed, and obviously, you gotta act shy etc, if you have a older sister-in-law, she takes you down stairs and thats when you gotta show the mother in law, what you can do, and yes you do have to cook, and its a very big tridition that you gotta make tea for the father in law, and you have to cut the FISH!!!!!!! NOTICE TO ALL BENGALI'S!!!


you gotta learn how to cut fish..thats a very big tridition in the bengali culture!! :)

and P.S your not sopposed to have sex on the wedding night, thats haram! :no: your sopposed to do it, after like 3 day's then fi you don't do it after 3 day's then your husband has the right to divorce you. ok i'm babberling on too much, but i think you got your answer, right!? if you want more please do ask, because ... i love answering these type of questions! :hug:Yeh the fish cutting is such a silly thing, i don't think everyone does that back home they still with that tradition.

Who said you had to have sex 3 days after? News to moi :neutral: I thought it was within a week you had to have sex. Anyways, yeh like Shammi said to be polite and all you have to go downstairs if you have a older sister in law who can take you or else it would be the sister or someone who is like a sister in law of the family to take you down, to greet the family.

When my uncle got married my sasi didn't come out the room til 11am :giggle: my mum was constantly knocking on the door etc etc but she took her time and we thought she was a traditional girl, looks can be deceiving. But because we aren't that backward we didn't think too much of it. Let them enjoy their first night/morning together :eyebrow:

[*spoilt_brat*]

Yeh the fish cutting is such a silly thing, i don't think everyone does that back home they still with that tradition.

Who said you had to have sex 3 days after? News to moi :neutral: I thought it was within a week you had to have sex. Anyways, yeh like Shammi said to be polite and all you have to go downstairs if you have a older sister in law who can take you or else it would be the sister or someone who is like a sister in law of the family to take you down, to greet the family.

When my uncle got married my sasi didn't come out the room til 11am :giggle: my mum was constantly knocking on the door etc etc but she took her time and we thought she was a traditional girl, looks can be deceiving. But because we aren't that backward we didn't think too much of it. Let them enjoy their first night/morning together :eyebrow:

:rofl: , yeah thats what happened with my bhabie, and what was worse is that, my dad went round shutting all the door's which led to there room, because they had like 3 or 4 door's which kinda led to there room..lol! and yeah read it in a islamic book, (see am being a good girl now afzi) ..:Oops:

but am not sure..but yeah my cousin she's really religious, and she tell's me these things coz she's got like got loads of books on about them! :)

gotta jet talk laters! :wavey:

[mwahhhhhhhh]

After wedding night, what does the bride normally do in the morning? Does she just stay up in her bedroom with the girls and chats or go down and do some housework until Walima day comes?

I ask this cos everyone I knows do different things after wedding night. Am curious thats all :)
u only wanan kno wat do u after u gt married :p

[DESI-PEACHES]

aww well, i know alot about wedding's because got my cousin's wedding coming up..cant wait :joy: but you get dressed, and obviously, you gotta act shy etc, if you have a older sister-in-law, she takes you down stairs and thats when you gotta show the mother in law, what you can do, and yes you do have to cook, and its a very big tridition that you gotta make tea for the father in law, and you have to cut the FISH!!!!!!! NOTICE TO ALL BENGALI'S!!!


you gotta learn how to cut fish..thats a very big tridition in the bengali culture!! :)

and P.S your not sopposed to have sex on the wedding night, thats haram! :no: your sopposed to do it, after like 3 day's then fi you don't do it after 3 day's then your husband has the right to divorce you. ok i'm babberling on too much, but i think you got your answer, right!? if you want more please do ask, because ... i love answering these type of questions! :hug:

Acha :bhapi: thanks babygirl :)

Yea I heard all about cutting the fish both my bhabis have done it and fish stinks!! lol

Heard about sex within 3 days but I think its best to break that barrier as soon as possible otherwise it gets harder later on lol

Tell me more as am so clueless about these kind of stuff - am always chasing after boys rather than listening all these wedding stuff :rolleyes:

[DESI-PEACHES]

Yeh the fish cutting is such a silly thing, i don't think everyone does that back home they still with that tradition.

Who said you had to have sex 3 days after? News to moi :neutral: I thought it was within a week you had to have sex. Anyways, yeh like Shammi said to be polite and all you have to go downstairs if you have a older sister in law who can take you or else it would be the sister or someone who is like a sister in law of the family to take you down, to greet the family.

When my uncle got married my sasi didn't come out the room til 11am :giggle: my mum was constantly knocking on the door etc etc but she took her time and we thought she was a traditional girl, looks can be deceiving. But because we aren't that backward we didn't think too much of it. Let them enjoy their first night/morning together :eyebrow:

Yea we STILL cutting the fish up here so tradition is still there lol but I dont wana do it cos I have never cut a fish before in my entire life!!

LOL @ last paragraph - I think I wont be able to relax on my wedding night and most likely to wake up at 5.30am in the morning cos am a worrier about what my in-laws might think lolz

[DESI-PEACHES]

u only wanan kno wat do u after u gt married :p

Errr... yea lol I kinda knows everythin before and durin the wedding. just after the wedding, noone really mentioned after wedding, what to do etc :)

[mwahhhhhhhh]

Errr... yea lol I kinda knows everythin before and durin the wedding. just after the wedding, noone really mentioned after wedding, what to do etc :)
wel after ur married let me kno innit i'l take u thru it step my step :)

[DESI-PEACHES]

wel after ur married let me kno innit i'l take u thru it step my step :)

LOL i dont think my father-in-law or even my hubbie will be pleased wiv me if I huk up wiv u lol :p

[mwahhhhhhhh]

LOL i dont think my father-in-law or even my hubbie will be pleased wiv me if I huk up wiv u lol :p
tel ur hubby u will giv him a divorce if he stops u and tel da f in law u wont cook him baath and curry if he says a word against mighty aftab :p

[DESI-PEACHES]

tel ur hubby u will giv him a divorce if he stops u and tel da f in law u wont cook him baath and curry if he says a word against mighty aftab :p

:lol:

ur way too cute!!

So tell me anythin about Bengali weddings as am lacking info about it :rolleyes:

[mwahhhhhhhh]

:lol:

ur way too cute!!

So tell me anythin about Bengali weddings as am lacking info about it :rolleyes:
u get a lot of fit bengali single gurls der :p i dont c u on msn?

[DESI-PEACHES]

u get a lot of fit bengali single gurls der :p i dont c u on msn?

Am on crap pc hence gona be slow and crash every minute or so.... :(

[mwahhhhhhhh]

Am on crap pc hence gona be slow and crash every minute or so.... :(
lol no probs :p i jus goto hunt u down on here wen i wanna say sumthin :p

sum random gurl walked into and sat in ma car 2day :p

[The Anti Desi]

I think it is all personal discretion according to Islam.

Bengali women are required to cut fish????? I like fish, but I don't impose such a restriction (heavy metal is my most stringent).

[The Anti Desi]

and P.S your not sopposed to have sex on the wedding night, thats haram! :no: your sopposed to do it, after like 3 day's then fi you don't do it after 3 day's then your husband has the right to divorce you. ok i'm babberling on too much, but i think you got your answer, right!? if you want more please do ask, because ... i love answering these type of questions! :hug:
Which book did you read???? :squint:

[DESI-PEACHES]

lol no probs :p i jus goto hunt u down on here wen i wanna say sumthin :p

sum random gurl walked into and sat in ma car 2day :p

awww u didnt have to hunt me down cos am quite hard to find :p

really? tell me what happened darn everythin always happened to u everyday lol :p

[DESI-PEACHES]

I think it is all personal discretion according to Islam.

Bengali women are required to cut fish????? I like fish, but I don't impose such a restriction (heavy metal is my most stringent).

Yea we have to cut the fish according to Bengali tradition its supposed to bring happiness and health to the newly-wedded couple

[mwahhhhhhhh]

awww u didnt have to hunt me down cos am quite hard to find :p

really? tell me what happened darn everythin always happened to u everyday lol :p
lol hard 2 find ey im sure i can hunt u down no matter wer u went i hav ma ways :p

lol wel in da mornin i went 2 pick ma mate up and we wet into this close and while i was turnin da car this polish gurl came opened da door and sat down and she sed sumthin in polish and i was like bitch wat do u want we dont shag hoes :p i dont think she understud but she realised she got into da worng car and went

[DESI-PEACHES]

lol hard 2 find ey im sure i can hunt u down no matter wer u went i hav ma ways :p

lol wel in da mornin i went 2 pick ma mate up and we wet into this close and while i was turnin da car this polish gurl came opened da door and sat down and she sed sumthin in polish and i was like bitch wat do u want we dont shag hoes :p i dont think she understud but she realised she got into da worng car and went

:p lol ha ha funny shit

[The Anti Desi]

Yea we have to cut the fish according to Bengali tradition its supposed to bring happiness and health to the newly-wedded couple
Huh???? I have been around Bengali people for a long, long, long time....and this is the first time I ever heard this superstition. :-s

You don't need to cut fish that way to be happy with me :eyebrow:

[mwahhhhhhhh]

:p lol ha ha funny shit
ma mate was like u shuda drove on wid her :p she was quite fit tho :p a blonde gurl mayb mid 20s

but wat i didnt get is how can u jump ino any1s car widout makin sure its da rite car.... like ok its coz i wasnt bothered but she mite 1 day jump into sum mad mans car dat mite lock da doors and take her 2 sum whore house

but yeh most whore houses in luton do bizness coz its da polish gurls dat provide it :p

[DESI-PEACHES]

Huh???? I have been around Bengali people for a long, long, long time....and this is the first time I ever heard this superstition. :-s

You don't need to cut fish that way to be happy with me :eyebrow:

OMG that is strange maybe its all depend on whether ur Sylethi or whatever :dunno:

lol :Oops: oh yeh u STILL havent seen me :eyebrow:

[DESI-PEACHES]

ma mate was like u shuda drove on wid her :p she was quite fit tho :p a blonde gurl mayb mid 20s

but wat i didnt get is how can u jump ino any1s car widout makin sure its da rite car.... like ok its coz i wasnt bothered but she mite 1 day jump into sum mad mans car dat mite lock da doors and take her 2 sum whore house

but yeh most whore houses in luton do bizness coz its da polish gurls dat provide it :p

yea but she Polish tho :neutral: lol

omg she prolly da nutter gal ormaybe she thought u were fit and u gona do somethin to her lol :p

[The Anti Desi]

OMG that is strange maybe its all depend on whether ur Sylethi or whatever :dunno:

lol :Oops: oh yeh u STILL havent seen me :eyebrow:
So this is a Syleth thing???? I am not Syleth, so I don't know :dunno:

So will you show me your pics :)

[DESI-PEACHES]

So this is a Syleth thing???? I am not Syleth, so I don't know :dunno:

So will you show me your pics :)

That prolly why..... so what are you then? Dhakati?

Yea PM ur addy

[mwahhhhhhhh]

yea but she Polish tho :neutral: lol

omg she prolly da nutter gal ormaybe she thought u were fit and u gona do somethin to her lol :p
polish gurls are pretty u kno wel sum of them are luton has this big generation of polish ppl

lol i dont thikn she cud speak english

wen she first was walkin ova i thort mayb shes cumin 2 ask sumthin lol didnt kno shes gonna get in da car widout sayin anythin

[DESI-PEACHES]

polish gurls are pretty u kno wel sum of them are luton has this big generation of polish ppl

lol i dont thikn she cud speak english

wen she first was walkin ova i thort mayb shes cumin 2 ask sumthin lol didnt kno shes gonna get in da car widout sayin anythin
Gosh that is strange maybe she was lost or somethin :sarb:

[mwahhhhhhhh]

Gosh that is strange maybe she was lost or somethin :sarb:
lol na i tyhink she lives on dat street coz she was wid a friend talkin in front of sum house but wen i went der da friend went in and she came into ma car

but i got rid of her :p

me and ma mate wer laufin abt her 4 quite a long time thne we saw this old friend at da bus stop and got chattin 2 her gve her a lift 2 her workplace and got 2 college 30 minz late :p but ma teacher is kool wid me so he didnt go on at me abt it

[The Anti Desi]

That prolly why..... so what are you then? Dhakati?

Yea PM ur addy
Dads from Shariatpur, Moms from Chittang.

[DESI-PEACHES]

lol na i tyhink she lives on dat street coz she was wid a friend talkin in front of sum house but wen i went der da friend went in and she came into ma car

but i got rid of her :p

me and ma mate wer laufin abt her 4 quite a long time thne we saw this old friend at da bus stop and got chattin 2 her gve her a lift 2 her workplace and got 2 college 30 minz late :p but ma teacher is kool wid me so he didnt go on at me abt it

aww she prolly wants u

[DESI-PEACHES]

Dads from Shariatpur, Moms from Chittang.

Acha no wonder u got the mixture of Bengalis feature :)

[mwahhhhhhhh]

aww she prolly wants u
who? da polish gyalie?

[yeahyeah]

ive never heard of the fish cuttin thing?? :sarb:

and i always thought they did it on the first night?? :dunno:

[*spoilt_brat*]

Acha :bhapi: thanks babygirl :)

Yea I heard all about cutting the fish both my bhabis have done it and fish stinks!! lol

Heard about sex within 3 days but I think its best to break that barrier as soon as possible otherwise it gets harder later on lol

Tell me more as am so clueless about these kind of stuff - am always chasing after boys rather than listening all these wedding stuff :rolleyes:

:lol: nah man, because i don't know but it kinda makes you look like a hoe, because you just met the guy, and you wanna have sex straight away..on the wedding night!? nope :no: unless it's a love marriage, but obviously, you can't tell them that!, (do you get me, or have i just confused both of us).. talk in a bit!

[*spoilt_brat*]

what's walima day? :sarb: :sarb:


thats like another celebration after 3 day's of the wedding, but the groom side celebrate it! :giggle:

[*spoilt_brat*]

oh cool

so is it like the reception we have in punjabi weddings? as in the groom's side arranges it and the bride's side is invited too?


good boy :yes: ( you are a boy right? ) well, yeah you took the word's straight out of my mouth :yes:

[*spoilt_brat*]

yep i am :salut:


:giggle:, wanna know any more!?

[Desi MC]

i loveeeeeeeee shy desi gals :love:

[*spoilt_brat*]

i loveeeeeeeee shy desi gals :love:

the best one's are, when they know how to act shy, face to face, but when it comes to the bussiness :eyebrow: they know how to get down and dirty :eyebrow:..:giggle:

[DESI-PEACHES]

:lol: nah man, because i don't know but it kinda makes you look like a hoe, because you just met the guy, and you wanna have sex straight away..on the wedding night!? nope :no: unless it's a love marriage, but obviously, you can't tell them that!, (do you get me, or have i just confused both of us).. talk in a bit!

Yea but its a good idea to break that 'barrier' sooner than later cos later on its would be harder i think... :think:

So tell me more babe about bengali weddings am so clueless still

[DESI-PEACHES]

oh cool

so is it like the reception we have in punjabi weddings? as in the groom's side arranges it and the bride's side is invited too?

Yep :yes: