Confusion

[fireangel2007]

You know sometimes i don't understand why no one likes me likes me as in asks me out, wants to get to know me ya know??? wth is wrong with me??? wherever i go n whatever i do i don't feel like i fit in no matter how much i try to and even when i don't......

im 20 now, first n last bf when i was 15 n even then it felt as if we were just meant to be friends and we still are it was just a outta blue decision to go out....newayz getting back....im 20 no bf nothing....whats wrong with me? I like someone now and everytime i tell Allah ji that i wanna see him something happens n i don't get it and ive just been getting bad omens.....i think its not fair its really not.......

I don't even have guys come and talk to me and im friendly (just not a bimbo who likes to flirt)......am i ugly? am I not rich enough? am i not smart enough? am i really that insecure cuz i try to hide it but that just means im running from reality for the last 5 years of my life.........i honestly don't get it...i don't.......

i ifelt like talking to someone about it cuz all my friends don't understand and i guess maybe someone out there will.......


thanks guys

[krazii aqqie]

do you honestly want the drama of dating ??

[fireangel2007]

Okay i know lots of drama....

But I want someone to be in love with me, mesmerized by me, ya know???

I have confidence in myself but how do others perceive me?

To some extent none of this should matter but it does, n everyone knows it.......

[T.Dimera]

this is my 2 cents...

most guys would rather jump off a building then approach a girl they don't know and introduce themself and try and get her #. No one likes to get rejected...that being said...you may come off as intimidating to guys..thus no one approaches you and no one gets rejected. Most girls will NEVER approach guys they are attracted to...thus a girl's options of guys she can go out with is the ones that approach her...and in this case....guys aren't doing it.

My suggestion is to get friends of yours to introduce you to new people...and build up your social network....i'm a few years older then you, but thats what i'm doing to meet new people.

best of luck

[fireangel2007]

What if you never get an opportunity to talk to the person, i want to talk to him and i ve thought it all out and no hesitation but I never see him



Maybe fate has it we never meet.......

[T.Dimera]

What if you never get an opportunity to talk to the person, i want to talk to him and i ve thought it all out and no hesitation but I never see him



Maybe fate has it we never meet.......

i think i remember this....you posted a while back about this older man you were attracted to..he was a news anchor i believe.

what would you say to him if you approached him? Go.....

[fireangel2007]

I can't mention his name but Id say Hi ur XYZ right? Im Sumera XYZ nice to meet you and shake his hand....n i did email him already but no response just cuz he's busy covering a story right now bout a family homicide case....

[T.Dimera]

I can't mention his name but Id say Hi ur XYZ right? Im Sumera XYZ nice to meet you and shake his hand....n i did email him already but no response just cuz he's busy covering a story right now bout a family homicide case....

ok so you introduce yourself...you shake hands...what do you do next?....how are you going to close him for his contact info...or are you going to ask him out right there?...or you might have done all this in your email

[fireangel2007]

I was also gonna tell him to to come to more jk events and he would've said something and I would've said 'well thats great to hear! (noting what he said was positive) and i would have said 'Well maybe then I better i see you at XYZ event'

[fireangel2007]

thanks T DImera....i guess ive bored u


night

[T.Dimera]

thanks T DImera....i guess ive bored u


night

if you ever see him in jk...i would have suggested to approach him rather then email him....be confident its an extremely sexy quality...ask open ended questions...find things in common and build from there. best of luck

[Robiul]

awwwwww :hug:

[RoMeO6969]

What if you never get an opportunity to talk to the person, i want to talk to him and i ve thought it all out and no hesitation but I never see him



Maybe fate has it we never meet.......
we will meet one day i promise


im jk hmm weird dilema u got there


mayb u should jus do this

hes a ismaili guy u see in khane right?

well valentines day is comin up. and u no usually they have those vday dances or get togethers, if u really like him as much as u say u do, i suggest u go up to him and jus ask him to go with u to that, it will b a good thing to do for a first date kinda thing,

[hey_jay37]

You know sometimes i don't understand why no one likes me likes me as in asks me out, wants to get to know me ya know??? wth is wrong with me??? wherever i go n whatever i do i don't feel like i fit in no matter how much i try to and even when i don't......

im 20 now, first n last bf when i was 15 n even then it felt as if we were just meant to be friends and we still are it was just a outta blue decision to go out....newayz getting back....im 20 no bf nothing....whats wrong with me? I like someone now and everytime i tell Allah ji that i wanna see him something happens n i don't get it and ive just been getting bad omens.....i think its not fair its really not.......

I don't even have guys come and talk to me and im friendly (just not a bimbo who likes to flirt)......am i ugly? am I not rich enough? am i not smart enough? am i really that insecure cuz i try to hide it but that just means im running from reality for the last 5 years of my life.........i honestly don't get it...i don't.......

i ifelt like talking to someone about it cuz all my friends don't understand and i guess maybe someone out there will.......


thanks guys

How's it going? Can I get you an e-drink? My name's Jay, we should go out some time :naughty:

hehe, I'd definatly ask you out. I cannot believe you have a problem in this area.

[sweetest_sin]

Join the club... :| :tears:

[hey_jay37]

Join the club... :| :tears:

same with you! wats up with these hot girls not getting dates? girl, i'd buy you 40 drinks if i saw you in a club... not to get you drunk of course, just to be... ummm generous? lol jks :p

[fireangel2007]

we will meet one day i promise


im jk hmm weird dilema u got there


mayb u should jus do this

hes a ismaili guy u see in khane right?

well valentines day is comin up. and u no usually they have those vday dances or get togethers, if u really like him as much as u say u do, i suggest u go up to him and jus ask him to go with u to that, it will b a good thing to do for a first date kinda thing,
lol ur soo funny faheem

yea he does come to khane sometimes like i went five days in a row last week and he didn't come, i went to chaandrat and had to sit on paat and he came and i couldn't see him, its like everytime i have the courage to talk to him he's never there,

i wanna try asking him out for coffee or sumthing we'll see.....but im kinda scared but i will try i promise

bye hun

tc

[fireangel2007]

How's it going? Can I get you an e-drink? My name's Jay, we should go out some time :naughty:

hehe, I'd definatly ask you out. I cannot believe you have a problem in this area.

lol thanks, i find ur name funny cuz his pen name is Ray

[fireangel2007]

same with you! wats up with these hot girls not getting dates? girl, i'd buy you 40 drinks if i saw you in a club... not to get you drunk of course, just to be... ummm generous? lol jks :p
see i don't know about other girls but ive become depressed on many a occassion cuz of this you know like when you see all ur other friends get asked out, flirted with, talked to, i know i feel left out.....oh well maybe life really does suck.....newhooo moving on

[fireangel2007]

Join the club... :| :tears:

awww what happened?

[fireangel2007]

if you ever see him in jk...i would have suggested to approach him rather then email him....be confident its an extremely sexy quality...ask open ended questions...find things in common and build from there. best of luck
thanks i will try what you said....but i have to see him first right??? lol ill let u know how it goes!

thanks!

[sweetvirgogirl]

yeah join the club :crying:

[NEPHALIM]

Well seeing that your 20 I would'nt really sweat it your still waiting on the world to really find you. Until then its great building up yourself. Remember wisdom is what separates one from another so the more you mass that the more your self worth will increase. Sometimes when we want to be noticed so much I would say it affects our aura. Its the same thing when a guy is not looking because he has a girl all the women seem to be attracted all of a sudden. But when he makes himself single, women avoid him like the plague. Try to obtain the attitude of kowing everyone would love to know whats going on inside of you. Become a interesting person by becoming good at something you like. Even if its just throwing parties. Soon you will have the next problem...trying to get your friends to stop bothering you so much. The worlds so funny, Life's Great. Salaam

How can you hate what you did not create. 7 Infiite Wisdom

[T.Dimera]

see i don't know about other girls but ive become depressed on many a occassion cuz of this you know like when you see all ur other friends get asked out, flirted with, talked to, i know i feel left out.....oh well maybe life really does suck.....newhooo moving on

i went out with 2 of my good friends the other night and they brought along their g/f's/fiance...so i was the 5th wheel...that was pretty uncomfortable :neutral: but yeah life goes on

[ladoo ram]

relax gurl ur 20 n u have just crossed ur teens ..there is nothin wrong with u ..its just that ur like going threw different emotions ..as fas as having a bf is concerned ..he will come to u..just give it some time n it will be done..no one sail,s alone.Im 24 n have been single for wat 8-9 yrs ..n i dont care..enjoy life...go shoppin as gurls love to do that. Hang out with friends ..no 1 is ignoring u its just that ur tryin to hard..be cool n have fun..if u wanna chat with guys ..rd is the place..we r here.:D

[4mDubai]

just tell him yaar. how many guys 'd say no???
take my word for it

[Canadian_jatti]

ur not ugly! i'm like dat too but i think if u really want somefin u gotta chase it like i've had 2 bfs but it ended up bad with both and now i wish i neva dated to begin with so i woulda neva been hurt and at the same time it's like i wanna go from bf to bf like i'm afraid of bein single again