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lil_desi_babe
June 2nd, 2007, 10:24 AM
:-s
You heard me! :neutral:

baby_gal_naz
June 2nd, 2007, 10:24 AM
You heard me! :neutral:
Huh? :|

lil_desi_babe
June 2nd, 2007, 10:26 AM
Huh? :|
:neutral:

baby_gal_naz
June 2nd, 2007, 10:27 AM
:neutral:
:neutral: :neutral:

lil_desi_babe
June 2nd, 2007, 10:27 AM
:neutral: :neutral:
:neutral:

ilyas@!!oops!!
June 5th, 2007, 05:44 AM
:roflbow: x 9986977268476

thank you.
:sarb: :sarb: i thought he was ur bro why did u not look out for him?

:no:

P4ki4Lyf
June 8th, 2007, 12:33 PM
:sarb: :sarb: i thought he was ur bro why did u not look out for him?

:no:
:| the fuck you talkin bout, sally? :ugh:

S.u.N.n.Y
June 13th, 2007, 04:45 PM
Word, I know someone with a lot of E-Girlfriends tut tut I guess he'll never learn :(

sarkar_jot
June 13th, 2007, 04:48 PM
:rofl:

soladylike
June 14th, 2007, 11:29 PM
Whateverrr.
I've found true love online like SO many times.
It's like seriously e-harmony.com.

versatil
June 16th, 2007, 12:27 AM
Whateverrr.
I've found true love online like SO many times.
It's like seriously e-harmony.com.

Believable.

Ch7IgBaz668

S.u.N.n.Y
June 16th, 2007, 03:02 PM
People That Fall In Love On The Internet = Ugly Dumb Asshole who Can't get pussy (or a jock) to save their life.

BadFingerBoogie
June 17th, 2007, 10:04 PM
People That Fall In Love On The Internet = Ugly Dumb Asshole who Can't get pussy (or a jock) to save their life.
dude:

you're dark

probably around 12

and the thickness of your birthgiven moustache has more hair than a sikh's ass.

sarkar_jot
June 17th, 2007, 10:16 PM
^ :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

S.u.N.n.Y
June 18th, 2007, 06:37 AM
dude:

you're dark

probably around 12

and the thickness of your birthgiven moustache has more hair than a sikh's ass.

LMAOOOO have I pissed you off because you fell in love with the internet LMAOOOO

BadFingerBoogie
June 18th, 2007, 07:27 PM
LMAOOOO have I pissed you off because you fell in love with the internet LMAOOOO

yeah i am in love with the solar eclipse that is on your lip.

S.u.N.n.Y
June 19th, 2007, 04:56 AM
:weird: okkkk then

desilicious73
September 7th, 2007, 07:22 AM
I do believe it happens and its possible to anyone. Love can grow while talking on the net to the opposite sex. It just depends on the people involved on what's gonna happen next. Its for them to decide if they want to go beyond the boundary or set a limit on what they feel for each other. Its rare to have a successful love affair on the net that ends into a happily ever after moment.But trust me its worth it.

-SyLpH-
September 11th, 2007, 06:10 AM
I think she's talking about her period being late. . . .
omg ur da mod ..u shud love all ur members in da love thread lol

-SyLpH-
September 11th, 2007, 06:13 AM
I DON'T BELIEVE IN LOVE ANYMORE!- just find it all fairytale!
aww!! ur life story will become a fairytale one day un worry !! :( :neutral:

lovindia
September 12th, 2007, 04:24 PM
Seriously, how can you fall in love with someone you've never met? Sure, I can understand connecting with someone on the net and feeling close to them. However, if your strongest bonds to other people are exclusively on the net, well, that's just sad.

:idea:
:werd:

baby_gal_naz
September 12th, 2007, 04:28 PM
:neutral:
Argh, come back! :crying:

lovindia
September 12th, 2007, 04:39 PM
Argh, come back! :crying:
chup :lalala:

-SyLpH-
September 13th, 2007, 03:07 PM
Argh, come back! :crying:
aw... true love never ends!! :(

baby_gal_naz
September 13th, 2007, 03:19 PM
chup :lalala:
NO!! :crying:

The little brat left me. :(

baby_gal_naz
September 13th, 2007, 03:19 PM
aw... true love never ends!! :(
She's meant to be my stalker. :crying:

candle23
September 13th, 2007, 03:33 PM
People that fall in love are retarded, period. :bitter:

kisha
September 13th, 2007, 04:23 PM
http://qwq

yazmeen
September 13th, 2007, 04:31 PM
People that fall in love are retarded, period. :bitter:

agreed....

A2N SL1CK
September 28th, 2007, 03:06 PM
agreed... you need to meet the person a good fewww times and get to know the real person, alottt of ppl act different over the net or phone, you gonna meet them and read their body language also if possible their friends to. You have an 'idea' of how the person is like by the friends they keep.

Or 6months later u'll be like 'oh I didn't know he was married'

I mean did you even try to find out who he was before you fell in love with him. Be patient I say.

XprtNYYKY
October 4th, 2007, 06:32 AM
whats wrong with online love and virtual sex? do they not satisfy u just the same? jhuh :o

jat_jatt_sardar
October 4th, 2007, 08:23 AM
people don't look the same as on the net, so don't be dissapointed people!! :D

SidMaster
October 12th, 2007, 01:04 PM
iknwo it just GAY

EyelashGal
October 31st, 2007, 09:37 AM
Seriously, how can you fall in love with someone you've never met? Sure, I can understand connecting with someone on the net and feeling close to them. However, if your strongest bonds to other people are exclusively on the net, well, that's just sad.

:idea:

TRUE SAY!!

TheDude
November 2nd, 2007, 08:18 AM
TRUE SAY!!

EyelashGal? are you EverBlazinGyal's cuzzin?

EyelashGal
November 2nd, 2007, 01:31 PM
EyelashGal? are you EverBlazinGyal's cuzzin?

dont know who that is.. so i'm gonna go wid ...no.. :rolleyes:

TheDude
November 2nd, 2007, 04:27 PM
dont know who that is.. so i'm gonna go wid ...no.. :rolleyes:

you do realize that those big ass stunnas makes rolling your eyes at me completely futile, right?

lovindia
November 3rd, 2007, 07:05 PM
cdU2GTby5uU pretty interesting video (not sure if it has been posted)

-SyLpH-
November 5th, 2007, 09:26 AM
whats wrong with online love and virtual sex? do they not satisfy u just the same? jhuh :o
virtual sex will one day replace real sex. ... technology :rofl:

jat_jatt_sardar
November 5th, 2007, 11:39 AM
:shock:

HeAvYmAcHiNeGuN
November 7th, 2007, 08:04 AM
people don't look the same as on the net, so don't be dissapointed people!! :D

some are

HeAvYmAcHiNeGuN
November 7th, 2007, 08:08 AM
virtual sex will one day replace real sex. ... technology :rofl:

reminds me of a movie
starring Sylvester Stallone + Sandra Bullock
i forgot da name :sarb:
i think it was Demolition Man :Pelvic2:

jat_jatt_sardar
November 7th, 2007, 09:18 AM
some are
yeh some

iceiceBABY
November 14th, 2007, 05:46 PM
EyelashGal? are you EverBlazinGyal's cuzzin?
Haha, jerk.

planetana
November 23rd, 2007, 09:09 AM
This is one topic none can be confident about.
You never know what might happen where & when & how!
There's no 100% NO or YES to 'Happenings of Love'.

Rema09
November 29th, 2007, 06:54 PM
Seriously, how can you fall in love with someone you've never met? Sure, I can understand connecting with someone on the net and feeling close to them. However, if your strongest bonds to other people are exclusively on the net, well, that's just sad.

:idea:

AGREE!!! Its sad, I mean a qyOter of thEse people are lyen! c'mon now people!!
Get ouT! Spell the flowers! sEriousliiiiiiii ,get a life!
:rolleyes:

BadFingerBoogie
November 29th, 2007, 06:55 PM
where do these idiots come from?

Rema09
November 29th, 2007, 06:58 PM
where do these idiots come from?

ThEy bEen Indoors online thats where they came from!
mAke A real FRIEND.. find someone thAt LivEs near by!! OR HEYY, atleast Some OnE thAt yOu mEt in PerSOn!!!

BadFingerBoogie
November 30th, 2007, 12:12 PM
stfu. you suck at typing. you came here for friends.

_true_definition
November 30th, 2007, 12:40 PM
Seriously, how can you fall in love with someone you've never met? Sure, I can understand connecting with someone on the net and feeling close to them. However, if your strongest bonds to other people are exclusively on the net, well, that's just sad.

:idea:


i guess women are more likely to fall in love with someone they haven't met! i think its because they build up an image of a man in their minds and fantasise about it...also words seem to have more of an affect on women and can be enough to arouse her, whereas men need more stimulation...visual stimulation!

badfish
November 30th, 2007, 12:56 PM
AGREE!!! Its sad, I mean a qyOter of thEse people are lyen! c'mon now people!!
Get ouT! Spell the flowers! sEriousliiiiiiii ,get a life!
:rolleyes:
spell the flowers, huh?


gtfo

-Nidhi-
November 30th, 2007, 01:01 PM
spell the flowers, huh?


gtfo
:rofl:

kucchnahi
December 31st, 2007, 04:42 AM
Great post! In this thread, Chunky, I am inclined to disagree with you on both the subject and the matter of presenting opinions as fact. Let me explain:

1. In the thread, you equate falling in love online as a retarded idea for retarded people. However, after stating your opinion, you go on to pose your opinion as superior for the only reason that you have given it. But I am not sure how you or anyone can claim any degree of authority on a subjective topic.

2. Moreover, you claim that what you have stated is the truth, and therefore, anyone who digresses from your standpoint is automatically wrong or naive. However, in the postmodern version of the world, multiple realities exist and each one is created by us. This means that no one person is wrong or right. It is simply a matter of opinion, since meaning does not exist outside of "us" but is created by us. So, while I respect you and your opinion, I don't think that you-are-wrong-because-I am-right attitude is constructive to a discussion.

3. You also say that methods of meeting people online are means of escapism for either those who are not bold enough to meet people in person or are delusional. But in saying so, you do not take into account people who get married subsequent to finding "online love" by means of online matrimonial sites because of various reasons including but not limited to time constraints, job pressures, religion and religiosity, residence in a particular region, etc. While I cannot claim to know of other religions, I know in Islam, dating is forbidden; so, sometimes "online love" (within boundaries of halal communication) is the only viable option.

4. Furthermore, everybody defines love differently. Two of my cousins met online and got married after exchanging emails and chatting. They did meet finally but only to ensure that the parents were involved in the process of finalizing their matches. Both were in "online love." And both couples are the happiest of any other couples I know. I do not want to take these specific examples here and make them sound like the general rule. But I do want to emphasize that cases like these are more frequent than anybody likes to realize.

5. Our notion as a society of how a person falls in love has evolved over time. And of course, having been influenced by the Western World, we have adopted their status quo notions. But, for example, in the 18th century and earlier in the Western World, parents typically arranged marriages within the urban elite echelon, often leaving no option for the prospective partners but to communicate through the means of writing letters. In fact, in that time, the method of writing letters and poetry was really common because people understood it to be the best medium of expression that allowed the person to freely show his/her feelings that are uncomplicated by filters (e.g. social conditioning, inhibitions, etiquette, fear of giving offense, etc.) that are unconsciously part of how we assume personas in front of people and behave.

6. Though I do not doubt your point or the others' when they say that people often present themselves differently online than they are online, I also have to say that there also genuine people who act and present themselves for who they truly are or close to how they would be in real life. Anyway, since I am new at RD, I cannot say how much "ingenuine vs. genuine" holds true for people here. But I do know that the great thing about the 21st century is how technology has allowed people to be open about who they are. Perhaps that is why avenues of self-expressions through mediums such as blogging and Myspace have become so common. There are many facets to a person's life and personality which a person is free to disclose online or make known because he or she is less likely to experience reprisal or be judged harshly for it. The same also holds true for online communication where relationships are likely to form and last: People can share their hopes, dreams, and most importantly, failures without any tangible fear.

7. Also, as someone else mentioned, everybody defines love differently. I have seen my male cousins who are middle-aged define love as settling down with someone now that they have a job and are of age. I have seen my friends define love as finding someone they can be with because they will truly listen. I have seen my female cousins defining love as just finding someone they can hold hands with for the rest of their lives and live a life of security. Everybody's definition varies. So, I certainly there is nothing questionable about some people believing that they can find love online. How is then "online love" delusional? Especially because to them, it is simply an idea that they "buy into" while you don't. It doesn't mean you are wrong and they are right or vice versa. What it does mean is that you agree to disagree.

8. Having said all this, I do think that the person should try to gauge whether the "online love" is something that can make a smooth transition to real life and is of substance through face-to-face encounters. So, seeing the situation under that light, meeting someone you supposedly are in love with online and feel attraction for in-person and real-life persona is a great opportunity. It is not for everyone though. But for those whom it works, kudos to them for finding what everybody is looking for while other people are still looking. And while I am not sure if I buy the whole "online love" scenario myself, after seeing it work for my cousins, I am not exacty knocking it down either. And I would also be careful about implying or saying never regarding online love. Because you know, "never" statements have an odd habit of negating itself in people's lifetimes.

BadFingerBoogie
January 2nd, 2008, 12:08 AM
:shock:.

supremed
January 2nd, 2008, 12:12 AM
i love badfingerboogie...am I retarded...or just a man...with a heart...and hard on

will rap 4 food
January 2nd, 2008, 12:16 AM
Great post! In this thread, Chunky, I am inclined to disagree with you on both the subject and the matter of presenting opinions as fact. Let me explain:

1. In the thread, you equate falling in love online as a retarded idea for retarded people. However, after stating your opinion, you go on to pose your opinion as superior for the only reason that you have given it. But I am not sure how you or anyone can claim any degree of authority on a subjective topic.

2. Moreover, you claim that what you have stated is the truth, and therefore, anyone who digresses from your standpoint is automatically wrong or naive. However, in the postmodern version of the world, multiple realities exist and each one is created by us. This means that no one person is wrong or right. It is simply a matter of opinion, since meaning does not exist outside of "us" but is created by us. So, while I respect you and your opinion, I don't think that you-are-wrong-because-I am-right attitude is constructive to a discussion.

3. You also say that methods of meeting people online are means of escapism for either those who are not bold enough to meet people in person or are delusional. But in saying so, you do not take into account people who get married subsequent to finding "online love" by means of online matrimonial sites because of various reasons including but not limited to time constraints, job pressures, religion and religiosity, residence in a particular region, etc. While I cannot claim to know of other religions, I know in Islam, dating is forbidden; so, sometimes "online love" (within boundaries of halal communication) is the only viable option.

4. Furthermore, everybody defines love differently. Two of my cousins met online and got married after exchanging emails and chatting. They did meet finally but only to ensure that the parents were involved in the process of finalizing their matches. Both were in "online love." And both couples are the happiest of any other couples I know. I do not want to take these specific examples here and make them sound like the general rule. But I do want to emphasize that cases like these are more frequent than anybody likes to realize.

5. Our notion as a society of how a person falls in love has evolved over time. And of course, having been influenced by the Western World, we have adopted their status quo notions. But, for example, in the 18th century and earlier in the Western World, parents typically arranged marriages within the urban elite echelon, often leaving no option for the prospective partners but to communicate through the means of writing letters. In fact, in that time, the method of writing letters and poetry was really common because people understood it to be the best medium of expression that allowed the person to freely show his/her feelings that are uncomplicated by filters (e.g. social conditioning, inhibitions, etiquette, fear of giving offense, etc.) that are unconsciously part of how we assume personas in front of people and behave.

6. Though I do not doubt your point or the others' when they say that people often present themselves differently online than they are online, I also have to say that there also genuine people who act and present themselves for who they truly are or close to how they would be in real life. Anyway, since I am new at RD, I cannot say how much "ingenuine vs. genuine" holds true for people here. But I do know that the great thing about the 21st century is how technology has allowed people to be open about who they are. Perhaps that is why avenues of self-expressions through mediums such as blogging and Myspace have become so common. There are many facets to a person's life and personality which a person is free to disclose online or make known because he or she is less likely to experience reprisal or be judged harshly for it. The same also holds true for online communication where relationships are likely to form and last: People can share their hopes, dreams, and most importantly, failures without any tangible fear.

7. Also, as someone else mentioned, everybody defines love differently. I have seen my male cousins who are middle-aged define love as settling down with someone now that they have a job and are of age. I have seen my friends define love as finding someone they can be with because they will truly listen. I have seen my female cousins defining love as just finding someone they can hold hands with for the rest of their lives and live a life of security. Everybody's definition varies. So, I certainly there is nothing questionable about some people believing that they can find love online. How is then "online love" delusional? Especially because to them, it is simply an idea that they "buy into" while you don't. It doesn't mean you are wrong and they are right or vice versa. What it does mean is that you agree to disagree.

8. Having said all this, I do think that the person should try to gauge whether the "online love" is something that can make a smooth transition to real life and is of substance through face-to-face encounters. So, seeing the situation under that light, meeting someone you supposedly are in love with online and feel attraction for in-person and real-life persona is a great opportunity. It is not for everyone though. But for those whom it works, kudos to them for finding what everybody is looking for while other people are still looking. And while I am not sure if I buy the whole "online love" scenario myself, after seeing it work for my cousins, I am not exacty knocking it down either. And I would also be careful about implying or saying never regarding online love. Because you know, "never" statements have an odd habit of negating itself in people's lifetimes.

hmmmm..wow..i didnt read all of that..but judging the length of it...you need a job =]

supremed
January 2nd, 2008, 12:20 AM
hmmmm..wow..i didnt read all of that..but judging the length of it...you need a job =]
:rofl:hahahah i actually loled lol

kucchnahi
January 2nd, 2008, 05:55 AM
:shock:.

Lol.

kucchnahi
January 2nd, 2008, 05:56 AM
hmmmm..wow..i didnt read all of that..but judging the length of it...you need a job =]

Or I need to write my senior thesis instead. Senior thesis it is.

But lol. I do have a tendency to write long posts.

will rap 4 food
January 2nd, 2008, 10:50 AM
Or I need to write my senior thesis instead. Senior thesis it is.

But lol. I do have a tendency to write long posts.
lol o0o0o....yeah really really really long...you basically did an eessay but its ok..shows that ur not dumb atleast =]

dawg!!
January 2nd, 2008, 12:20 PM
Great post! In this thread, Chunky, I am inclined to disagree with you on both the subject and the matter of presenting opinions as fact. Let me explain:

1. In the thread, you equate falling in love online as a retarded idea for retarded people. However, after stating your opinion, you go on to pose your opinion as superior for the only reason that you have given it. But I am not sure how you or anyone can claim any degree of authority on a subjective topic.

2. Moreover, you claim that what you have stated is the truth, and therefore, anyone who digresses from your standpoint is automatically wrong or naive. However, in the postmodern version of the world, multiple realities exist and each one is created by us. This means that no one person is wrong or right. It is simply a matter of opinion, since meaning does not exist outside of "us" but is created by us. So, while I respect you and your opinion, I don't think that you-are-wrong-because-I am-right attitude is constructive to a discussion.

3. You also say that methods of meeting people online are means of escapism for either those who are not bold enough to meet people in person or are delusional. But in saying so, you do not take into account people who get married subsequent to finding "online love" by means of online matrimonial sites because of various reasons including but not limited to time constraints, job pressures, religion and religiosity, residence in a particular region, etc. While I cannot claim to know of other religions, I know in Islam, dating is forbidden; so, sometimes "online love" (within boundaries of halal communication) is the only viable option.

4. Furthermore, everybody defines love differently. Two of my cousins met online and got married after exchanging emails and chatting. They did meet finally but only to ensure that the parents were involved in the process of finalizing their matches. Both were in "online love." And both couples are the happiest of any other couples I know. I do not want to take these specific examples here and make them sound like the general rule. But I do want to emphasize that cases like these are more frequent than anybody likes to realize.

5. Our notion as a society of how a person falls in love has evolved over time. And of course, having been influenced by the Western World, we have adopted their status quo notions. But, for example, in the 18th century and earlier in the Western World, parents typically arranged marriages within the urban elite echelon, often leaving no option for the prospective partners but to communicate through the means of writing letters. In fact, in that time, the method of writing letters and poetry was really common because people understood it to be the best medium of expression that allowed the person to freely show his/her feelings that are uncomplicated by filters (e.g. social conditioning, inhibitions, etiquette, fear of giving offense, etc.) that are unconsciously part of how we assume personas in front of people and behave.

6. Though I do not doubt your point or the others' when they say that people often present themselves differently online than they are online, I also have to say that there also genuine people who act and present themselves for who they truly are or close to how they would be in real life. Anyway, since I am new at RD, I cannot say how much "ingenuine vs. genuine" holds true for people here. But I do know that the great thing about the 21st century is how technology has allowed people to be open about who they are. Perhaps that is why avenues of self-expressions through mediums such as blogging and Myspace have become so common. There are many facets to a person's life and personality which a person is free to disclose online or make known because he or she is less likely to experience reprisal or be judged harshly for it. The same also holds true for online communication where relationships are likely to form and last: People can share their hopes, dreams, and most importantly, failures without any tangible fear.

7. Also, as someone else mentioned, everybody defines love differently. I have seen my male cousins who are middle-aged define love as settling down with someone now that they have a job and are of age. I have seen my friends define love as finding someone they can be with because they will truly listen. I have seen my female cousins defining love as just finding someone they can hold hands with for the rest of their lives and live a life of security. Everybody's definition varies. So, I certainly there is nothing questionable about some people believing that they can find love online. How is then "online love" delusional? Especially because to them, it is simply an idea that they "buy into" while you don't. It doesn't mean you are wrong and they are right or vice versa. What it does mean is that you agree to disagree.

8. Having said all this, I do think that the person should try to gauge whether the "online love" is something that can make a smooth transition to real life and is of substance through face-to-face encounters. So, seeing the situation under that light, meeting someone you supposedly are in love with online and feel attraction for in-person and real-life persona is a great opportunity. It is not for everyone though. But for those whom it works, kudos to them for finding what everybody is looking for while other people are still looking. And while I am not sure if I buy the whole "online love" scenario myself, after seeing it work for my cousins, I am not exacty knocking it down either. And I would also be careful about implying or saying never regarding online love. Because you know, "never" statements have an odd habit of negating itself in people's lifetimes.


rogues got competition :rofl:

BurntToast
January 2nd, 2008, 12:22 PM
Lmaoaalamaoaao. Essays galore.

supremed
January 2nd, 2008, 12:24 PM
Lmaoaalamaoaao. Essays galore.
whatever, toast that is burnt

BurntToast
January 2nd, 2008, 12:32 PM
whatever, toast that is burnt

Your face, pervert.

BadFingerBoogie
January 2nd, 2008, 12:50 PM
i love badfingerboogie...am I retarded...or just a man...with a heart...and hard on

i love you.

:lulz:.

oomZOGMOGM

we've fallen in e-love on the interentzzz.

supremed
January 2nd, 2008, 12:52 PM
Your face, pervert.
lol

supremed
January 2nd, 2008, 12:52 PM
i love you.

:lulz:.

oomZOGMOGM

we've fallen in e-love on the interentzzz.
ZOMG ZOMG...lurvez the internetz and u :love:

chutney whore
January 2nd, 2008, 08:45 PM
rogues got competition :rofl:

I think she's better than rogue :shock:

L_A_X__addiction
January 2nd, 2008, 09:28 PM
Seriously, how can you fall in love with someone you've never met? Sure, I can understand connecting with someone on the net and feeling close to them. However, if your strongest bonds to other people are exclusively on the net, well, that's just sad.

:idea:


does this apply to me as well or no?

chunky
January 2nd, 2008, 11:23 PM
Great post! In this thread, Chunky, I am inclined to disagree with you on both the subject and the matter of presenting opinions as fact. Let me explain:

1. In the thread, you equate falling in love online as a retarded idea for retarded people. However, after stating your opinion, you go on to pose your opinion as superior for the only reason that you have given it. But I am not sure how you or anyone can claim any degree of authority on a subjective topic.

2. Moreover, you claim that what you have stated is the truth, and therefore, anyone who digresses from your standpoint is automatically wrong or naive. However, in the postmodern version of the world, multiple realities exist and each one is created by us. This means that no one person is wrong or right. It is simply a matter of opinion, since meaning does not exist outside of "us" but is created by us. So, while I respect you and your opinion, I don't think that you-are-wrong-because-I am-right attitude is constructive to a discussion.

3. You also say that methods of meeting people online are means of escapism for either those who are not bold enough to meet people in person or are delusional. But in saying so, you do not take into account people who get married subsequent to finding "online love" by means of online matrimonial sites because of various reasons including but not limited to time constraints, job pressures, religion and religiosity, residence in a particular region, etc. While I cannot claim to know of other religions, I know in Islam, dating is forbidden; so, sometimes "online love" (within boundaries of halal communication) is the only viable option.

4. Furthermore, everybody defines love differently. Two of my cousins met online and got married after exchanging emails and chatting. They did meet finally but only to ensure that the parents were involved in the process of finalizing their matches. Both were in "online love." And both couples are the happiest of any other couples I know. I do not want to take these specific examples here and make them sound like the general rule. But I do want to emphasize that cases like these are more frequent than anybody likes to realize.

5. Our notion as a society of how a person falls in love has evolved over time. And of course, having been influenced by the Western World, we have adopted their status quo notions. But, for example, in the 18th century and earlier in the Western World, parents typically arranged marriages within the urban elite echelon, often leaving no option for the prospective partners but to communicate through the means of writing letters. In fact, in that time, the method of writing letters and poetry was really common because people understood it to be the best medium of expression that allowed the person to freely show his/her feelings that are uncomplicated by filters (e.g. social conditioning, inhibitions, etiquette, fear of giving offense, etc.) that are unconsciously part of how we assume personas in front of people and behave.

6. Though I do not doubt your point or the others' when they say that people often present themselves differently online than they are online, I also have to say that there also genuine people who act and present themselves for who they truly are or close to how they would be in real life. Anyway, since I am new at RD, I cannot say how much "ingenuine vs. genuine" holds true for people here. But I do know that the great thing about the 21st century is how technology has allowed people to be open about who they are. Perhaps that is why avenues of self-expressions through mediums such as blogging and Myspace have become so common. There are many facets to a person's life and personality which a person is free to disclose online or make known because he or she is less likely to experience reprisal or be judged harshly for it. The same also holds true for online communication where relationships are likely to form and last: People can share their hopes, dreams, and most importantly, failures without any tangible fear.

7. Also, as someone else mentioned, everybody defines love differently. I have seen my male cousins who are middle-aged define love as settling down with someone now that they have a job and are of age. I have seen my friends define love as finding someone they can be with because they will truly listen. I have seen my female cousins defining love as just finding someone they can hold hands with for the rest of their lives and live a life of security. Everybody's definition varies. So, I certainly there is nothing questionable about some people believing that they can find love online. How is then "online love" delusional? Especially because to them, it is simply an idea that they "buy into" while you don't. It doesn't mean you are wrong and they are right or vice versa. What it does mean is that you agree to disagree.

8. Having said all this, I do think that the person should try to gauge whether the "online love" is something that can make a smooth transition to real life and is of substance through face-to-face encounters. So, seeing the situation under that light, meeting someone you supposedly are in love with online and feel attraction for in-person and real-life persona is a great opportunity. It is not for everyone though. But for those whom it works, kudos to them for finding what everybody is looking for while other people are still looking. And while I am not sure if I buy the whole "online love" scenario myself, after seeing it work for my cousins, I am not exacty knocking it down either. And I would also be careful about implying or saying never regarding online love. Because you know, "never" statements have an odd habit of negating itself in people's lifetimes.

great response. Let me make some clarifications!

1) Does it look like I care?

2) Multiple realities? Woman, are you schizo?

3) LMAO @ online love being halal. It's only halal if your parents are in the chatroom with you and your e-lover.

4) So your cousins are happy that they settled for less than what they could get? awesome!

5) Back in the old days, fornication with animals was really common too. Does that man it was better that way? :ugh:

6) I agree with you here. Girls can be whores online b/c mommy & daddy won't lay a whippin on them so long as they keep their photobuckets private.

7) You're starting to sound like a broken record. plz revisit #4

8) Meeting people online is fine. tricking yourself into believing it's love without meeting the person in the flesh is just that, trickery. :arrow:

chunky
January 2nd, 2008, 11:24 PM
Or I need to write my senior thesis instead. Senior thesis it is.

But lol. I do have a tendency to write long posts.

what is the topic of your senior thesis?

chunky
January 2nd, 2008, 11:24 PM
does this apply to me as well or no?

what, you fell in love with someone online? :ugh:

BadFingerBoogie
January 3rd, 2008, 12:22 AM
i think she wants some of your loving chunky.

:hs:.

L_A_X__addiction
January 3rd, 2008, 01:11 AM
what, you fell in love with someone online? :ugh:


forget it.

chutney whore
January 3rd, 2008, 06:39 AM
forget it.

:hug:

kucchnahi
January 4th, 2008, 06:27 PM
great response. Let me make some clarifications!

1) Does it look like I care?
I guess you don't.

2) Multiple realities? Woman, are you schizo?
I am arguing the postmodern perspective. And I was trying to say that you should not be saying that you're right and others wrong because that is not constructive to a discussion. No, I do not have schizophrenia.


3) LMAO @ online love being halal. It's only halal if your parents are in the chatroom with you and your e-lover.
Well, I don't know how my cousins did it; but yes, parents should ideally be involved in the process.

4) So your cousins are happy that they settled for less than what they could get? awesome!
I don't think they settled for less.

5) Back in the old days, fornication with animals was really common too. Does that man it was better that way? :ugh:
No, what I am trying to say is that just because some things might seem odd to us does not mean it is so; our perspectives have evolved. So, "online love" might seem wierd to us at first but we can see it as another form of communication, one comparable to the old.

6) I agree with you here. Girls can be whores online b/c mommy & daddy won't lay a whippin on them so long as they keep their photobuckets private.
I didn't say that; I am saying that it is easier for people to be honest, which means that online relationships might have an easier time starting off on a healtheir note.

7) You're starting to sound like a broken record. plz revisit #4
Online communication might not be a substitute for person-to-person communication, but it doesn't have to mean that "online love" is not true.

8) Meeting people online is fine. tricking yourself into believing it's love without meeting the person in the flesh is just that, trickery. :arrow:
I'm not sure why my cousins fell in love the way they did; but that does mean you or I have the right to question it. Yes, while "online love" might be a tricky road, I don't think it is self-trickery.


And my senior thesis is on how gravestones have evolved over time, marrying the insight of anthropology to archaeological phenomena.

DasJa
January 4th, 2008, 07:30 PM
kucchnahi, you turn me on :Oops:


Can I get ur nood please :Pray: ??

BadFingerBoogie
January 4th, 2008, 07:38 PM
dasja: you turn me on like a radio. can i have yoour noodz please?

DasJa
January 4th, 2008, 07:38 PM
dasja: you turn me on like a radio. can i have yoour noodz please?
Check PM :kekeke:

BadFingerBoogie
January 4th, 2008, 07:40 PM
BEST FRIED DAY EVER!

:cheers:.

kucchnahi
January 4th, 2008, 11:00 PM
kucchnahi, you turn me on :Oops:


Can I get ur nood please :Pray: ??

In desi culture, there's a saying: "A girl's best jewellery is her modesty." I certainly believe this to be true.

Now, for whatever reason, you felt compelled to insult me in this manner; and I don't know why.

But I have a question: If I was your sister, would you stand for some stranger asking me this? So, I recommend that you do not insult any girl in this manner in the future because all girls are someone's daughter, someone's sister, someone's friend, someone's pride and joy.

And next time, if you post something like this, I won't dignify your post with an answer. Thank you.

DasJa
January 4th, 2008, 11:09 PM
In desi culture, there's a saying: "A girl's best jewellery is her modesty." I certainly believe this to be true.

Now, for whatever reason, you felt compelled to insult me in this manner; and I don't know why.

But I have a question: If I was your sister, would you stand for some stranger asking me this? So, I recommend that you do not insult any girl in this manner in the future because all girls are someone's daughter, someone's sister, someone's friend, someone's pride and joy.

And next time, if you post something like this, I won't dignify your post with an answer. Thank you.
You can believe all you want sister, it ain't gonna change the fact that my post was in 100% sarcasm, the tone...if you had half a brain cell...woulda been enough to suffice that there ain't nothing I want from you.




Never mind the rest, i've heard that kisi ki beti, kisi ki maa shit in so many hindi movies I just go " :no: ".

Lol@dignify...

_Anarchist
January 4th, 2008, 11:11 PM
i completely agree with chunky but i must say, that essayist totally owned him. very well written, even if it is bullshit.

_Anarchist
January 4th, 2008, 11:14 PM
In desi culture, there's a saying: "A girl's best jewellery is her modesty." I certainly believe this to be true.

Now, for whatever reason, you felt compelled to insult me in this manner; and I don't know why.

But I have a question: If I was your sister, would you stand for some stranger asking me this? So, I recommend that you do not insult any girl in this manner in the future because all girls are someone's daughter, someone's sister, someone's friend, someone's pride and joy.

And next time, if you post something like this, I won't dignify your post with an answer. Thank you.
it's a joke sweet heart. get over it. also, i'm positive that you're at least slightly flattered. all girls get flattered when guys make comments about them, even if they act all offended.

kucchnahi
January 4th, 2008, 11:15 PM
You can believe all you want sister, it ain't gonna change the fact that my post was in 100% sarcasm, the tone...if you had half a brain cell...woulda been enough to suffice that there ain't nothing I want from you.




Never mind the rest, i've heard that kisi ki beti, kisi ki maa shit in so many hindi movies I just go " :no: ".

Lol@dignify...


If your post was a joke, I didn't find it funny. And I think that you should always keep in mind the person's sensibilities when joking, which is to say that there are limits to joking.

Secondly, this is not some scripted Hindi movie dialogue; I said what I felt from my heart because I did not appreciate your original post.

But anyway, you are free to insult my intelligence or lack thereof.

BadFingerBoogie
January 5th, 2008, 01:39 AM
If your post was a joke, I didn't find it funny. And I think that you should always keep in mind the person's sensibilities when joking, which is to say that there are limits to joking.

Secondly, this is not some scripted Hindi movie dialogue; I said what I felt from my heart because I did not appreciate your original post.

But anyway, you are free to insult my intelligence or lack thereof.

you need to realize this is only the internet. whatever philosophical ideals you may have don't really apply here. not everyone here acts like they do on here as they would in real life. (i hope you included)

i understand you're voicing your disdain and that's fine but you need to know that's how it works here and your disdain isn't worth shit. get the fuck off your pedestal you're no better than anyone else here.

DasJa
January 5th, 2008, 04:33 AM
If your post was a joke, I didn't find it funny. And I think that you should always keep in mind the person's sensibilities when joking, which is to say that there are limits to joking.

Secondly, this is not some scripted Hindi movie dialogue; I said what I felt from my heart because I did not appreciate your original post.

But anyway, you are free to insult my intelligence or lack thereof.
Alright auntyji...give it a rest now :wavey:

kucchnahi
January 5th, 2008, 01:35 PM
it's a joke sweet heart. get over it. also, i'm positive that you're at least slightly flattered. all girls get flattered when guys make comments about them, even if they act all offended.

I cannot speak for others, but I really don't like such things.

But that said, he said he did not mean it. And I accept his words.

kucchnahi
January 5th, 2008, 01:37 PM
you need to realize this is only the internet. whatever philosophical ideals you may have don't really apply here. not everyone here acts like they do on here as they would in real life. (i hope you included)

i understand you're voicing your disdain and that's fine but you need to know that's how it works here and your disdain isn't worth shit. get the fuck off your pedestal you're no better than anyone else here.

I never said or meant to imply that I am better than anybody else. It is just that I don't like such things; and I am not going to say it is okay when I don't find it okay.

kucchnahi
January 5th, 2008, 01:37 PM
Alright auntyji...give it a rest now :wavey:

It's been given a rest. :)

flow-natural
January 5th, 2008, 01:41 PM
are you dissing sameer

BadFingerBoogie
January 5th, 2008, 03:13 PM
I never said or meant to imply that I am better than anybody else. It is just that I don't like such things; and I am not going to say it is okay when I don't find it okay.

yeah that's fine whatever. your pompous air is nothing short of implication.

kucchnahi
January 6th, 2008, 12:17 AM
yeah that's fine whatever. your pompous air is nothing short of implication.

Hmm, I never really thought about it; but I guess I can see how I might come off as pompous online. Except perhaps to say I'm not.

Anyway, what I am now about to say has to be taken with a grain of salt, some sugar, green chili, and jalapenos:

Well, if I get offended, it is also because this is my picture: I have tried hair remover cream, waxing, makeup, and I still look like this. And do you see the camera angle? No camera angles work to make me look--umm--thinner. So, obviously, how can I post any kind of picture without gaining RDers' disdain (as I have bravely done now)? So, that is why I was initially offended by DasJa's post before I accepted his words of it being a joke. And hmm, ugly people are not pompous. Now, look you've made me cry in talking about my ugliness. Oh, and I hope I have proven my point about not being pompous. :ntalking:

http://cashcampus.com/ftt/wp-content/images/gorilla.jpg

TheDude
January 6th, 2008, 12:18 AM
hi zucchini :Oops:

*indian angel*
January 9th, 2008, 03:32 PM
it's a joke sweet heart. get over it. also, i'm positive that you're at least slightly flattered. all girls get flattered when guys make comments about them, even if they act all offended.
i agree.

*indian angel*
January 9th, 2008, 03:35 PM
yea...i dont understand falling in love online either...you dont even know who that person is...wouldn't you rather have someone real?...i sure as hell would...there's some fcuken crazy people out there. :/

BadFingerBoogie
January 9th, 2008, 07:14 PM
:ugh:.

<3loveHL<3
January 13th, 2008, 07:52 AM
lolo

:wiggle:

versatil
January 15th, 2008, 02:57 AM
Hmm, I never really thought about it; but I guess I can see how I might come off as pompous online. Except perhaps to say I'm not.

Anyway, what I am now about to say has to be taken with a grain of salt, some sugar, green chili, and jalapenos:

Well, if I get offended, it is also because this is my picture: I have tried hair remover cream, waxing, makeup, and I still look like this. And do you see the camera angle? No camera angles work to make me look--umm--thinner. So, obviously, how can I post any kind of picture without gaining RDers' disdain (as I have bravely done now)? So, that is why I was initially offended by DasJa's post before I accepted his words of it being a joke. And hmm, ugly people are not pompous. Now, look you've made me cry in talking about my ugliness. Oh, and I hope I have proven my point about not being pompous. :ntalking:

http://cashcampus.com/ftt/wp-content/images/gorilla.jpg

Oh please. Just because you suffer from an exaggerated case of atavism doesn't mean you're not pompous.

Btw, are you single?

versatil
January 15th, 2008, 03:12 AM
8) Meeting people online is fine. tricking yourself into believing it's love without meeting the person in the flesh is just that, trickery. :arrow:
Depends on the people imo. For the layman it's more than just trickery or worse rather, it's like a stash of hidden porn where your soul is supposed to be. For others it's more like a matter of accuracy particularly when the person is very much so different in real life (how they are with you vs. their family, friends, face, hobos, lawn, etc.).

also fundamental thing is what you consider love to be. an individual, strong sensation? going by lightening-struck chemistry beyond one's typical period of infatuation/obsession..... is still a weak basis for discerning a life-changing/devastating emotion. most people just want sex/companionship hence belittling the term love, nevertheless the term gracefully degrades itself. marriage or even a co-dependent relationship ultimately totally slaughters what they're looking for. there are plenty of people that that particular distance between them is the foundation of stability in their relationship. so i would argue that for such people an online thing could work (love/relationship/stupidity/whatever). but im not going to make that argument b/c such people have no idea wtf they're doing with their life and are likely to change flavors with the seasons.

versatil
January 15th, 2008, 03:13 AM
i love you.

:lulz:.

oomZOGMOGM

we've fallen in e-love on the interentzzz.


OMG...
you mean you can fall in e-love outside the internats?!#

sfsud fhlisduf hihf

i just imagined Echelon expressing this mathematically. wtf.

BadFingerBoogie
January 15th, 2008, 11:45 PM
Ha!

kucchnahi
January 16th, 2008, 07:06 PM
Oh please. Just because you suffer from an exaggerated case of atavism doesn't mean you're not pompous.

Btw, are you single?

Hmm, as a pompous person, I don't know if I should really respond to this post or not. :-P

RajahTheKing
January 17th, 2008, 08:30 AM
Seriously, how can you fall in love with someone you've never met? Sure, I can understand connecting with someone on the net and feeling close to them. However, if your strongest bonds to other people are exclusively on the net, well, that's just sad.

:idea:

To some extent i concur that one cannot just fall in love with some one just by chatting or discussing online and through the internet.

It is often said that true chemistry develops only when you meety some one in person and you spend some time with the person. Unless this happens it is usually an attachment which can go away with time.

On the other way the chances of falling in love with some one whom you have connected with online increases since half the bridge of love has been crossed.

So in this free world my opinion would be that, one cannot fall in love with someone without meeting for a couple of times at least :-).

XxReMaLiCiOuSxX
January 17th, 2008, 10:31 AM
a coupl acrss me street met online and now are married and have a baby daughter all within 2 yers :shock: :neutral: :sarb: :rofl:

BadFingerBoogie
January 17th, 2008, 01:11 PM
^^ don't blow up my spot.

chunky
January 17th, 2008, 08:14 PM
1) I guess you don't.

2) I am arguing the postmodern perspective. And I was trying to say that you should not be saying that you're right and others wrong because that is not constructive to a discussion. No, I do not have schizophrenia.


3) Well, I don't know how my cousins did it; but yes, parents should ideally be involved in the process.

4) I don't think they settled for less.

5) No, what I am trying to say is that just because some things might seem odd to us does not mean it is so; our perspectives have evolved. So, "online love" might seem wierd to us at first but we can see it as another form of communication, one comparable to the old.

6) I didn't say that; I am saying that it is easier for people to be honest, which means that online relationships might have an easier time starting off on a healtheir note.

7) Online communication might not be a substitute for person-to-person communication, but it doesn't have to mean that "online love" is not true.

8) I'm not sure why my cousins fell in love the way they did; but that does mean you or I have the right to question it. Yes, while "online love" might be a tricky road, I don't think it is self-trickery.

And my senior thesis is on how gravestones have evolved over time, marrying the insight of anthropology to archaeological phenomena.
lol

1) yah, I don't really care.

2) In the post modern perspective, you should respect my right to speak in absolutes if I so desire. :arrow:

3) So your cousins are retarded?

4) How do you know they didn't settle for less? What if they were actually more likable in person, but due to the online hookup, they ended up with some kind of compromise? What makes your cousin(s) a good match for his/her e-mate?

5) I'm not dismissing online love b/c of the oddity of the internet relative to how things were in the past. In fact, I find nothing wrong with people meeting online as a prelude to meeting in person. However, proclaiming that you're in love with someone before you've met them is retarded. You're not in love with a person at that point. You're in love with all the 1s and 0s that constitute your "relationship." It's not a person, it's binary data. That is the bare truth.

6) If you can't be honest with people face to face, then you have bigger problems than what is being addressed in this thread.

7) What you're trying to do is argue the definition of love. Sure, you could call the bond that two people share online "love." However, what words remain to describe the feelings that exist between two lovers in the flesh? The emotions in real life and the emotions derived from online interaction are not even in the same ballpark. Even people who claim to be in love online have to admit to that. So let's try to avoid diluting the meaning of the word love.

8) I'm not questioning the way in which they fell in "love." I'm just telling you that it's retarded to think that they fell in love online.

Basically, any person that has ever felt love in real life and then tried to look for the same online will be severely disappointed. The only people arguing with me in this thread really are the ones that have yet to feel passionately about someone they know in person. If you're still struggling to find the definition of love, then keep looking instead of trying to pretend like you know what love is. One thing that amazes me about humans is that even though we are all different, the concept of love is remarkably uniform among those that have truly experienced it.

ps. so you're an anthropology major?

chunky
January 17th, 2008, 08:15 PM
i completely agree with chunky but i must say, that essayist totally owned him. very well written, even if it is bullshit.
LMAO what, just listen to yourself. how did she own me if she was spewing bullshit? :arrow:

RajahTheKing
January 18th, 2008, 07:57 AM
a coupl acrss me street met online and now are married and have a baby daughter all within 2 yers :shock: :neutral: :sarb: :rofl:

It does sound sweet and im hpy 4 them, But as k them if they actually fell in love online or they actuallt fell for the other when they actually met in person?

XxReMaLiCiOuSxX
January 18th, 2008, 08:07 AM
they met for the first time during thier wedding prepration and second time on their wedding day..

their daughter is very cute bless her

RajahTheKing
January 18th, 2008, 08:16 AM
they met for the first time during thier wedding prepration and second time on their wedding day..

their daughter is very cute bless her

Some marriages are really made in heaven..... :neutral:

Clueless_uk
January 19th, 2008, 09:46 AM
Everyone here appears to be arguing about what "love" really is...and what it should be like....

I am pretty surprised....because no1 here can offer a general or universal definition of love....because there isn't one. Love is very individual to each person.

Yes there are certain ingredients that "may" require to be present...for instance caring for that person, wanting to see them happy if it means sacrificing little things for yourself...attraction....presence....ect...however these ingredients don't necessarily need to be there for certain people. For instance a disabled person who cannot communicate to the outer world....but only see and think like a normal person...may fall in love with a girl that gives him a smile each time he is taken past a bus stop....does that mean he is not really in "love"?

An old man...who never had a successful relationship all his life due to women not appreciating him may fall in love with a 24 yr old who converses with him like a person rather than an old man. And he may love her for that simple reason and not want anything else from her.....does that mean he is not in "love"?

Why does looks...physical presence...or even personality need to be required in love. If u loved someone in the beginning for these reasons...married them..and then they suddenly lost all these attributes due to a bad accident....will u stop loving them...because they can not be physical with u? because they don't look beautiful anymore...and because they don't even have a personality now?

What I am trying to get at is...there is no real definition for love...I think it is all in our head...brought through fairy tales...films...and stories. Love is just a chemical reaction released through our brains...bit like the same feeling as eating chocolates.....so give it whatever definition u like...it will be different each and everytime u fall in "love".

To me....love is just a wonderful feeling you get when u have someone appreciate you..and when you appreciate them....which will eventually wear off.....then what keeps you together is simply your principles in life.

tuddel
January 19th, 2008, 10:56 AM
Hmm, as a pompous person, I don't know if I should really respond to this post or not. :-P

:wavey:

TheDude
January 19th, 2008, 01:35 PM
Everyone here appears to be arguing about what "love" really is...and what it should be like....

I am pretty surprised....because no1 here can offer a general or universal definition of love....because there isn't one. Love is very individual to each person.

Yes there are certain ingredients that "may" require to be present...for instance caring for that person, wanting to see them happy if it means sacrificing little things for yourself...attraction....presence....ect...however these ingredients don't necessarily need to be there for certain people. For instance a disabled person who cannot communicate to the outer world....but only see and think like a normal person...may fall in love with a girl that gives him a smile each time he is taken past a bus stop....does that mean he is not really in "love"?

An old man...who never had a successful relationship all his life due to women not appreciating him may fall in love with a 24 yr old who converses with him like a person rather than an old man. And he may love her for that simple reason and not want anything else from her.....does that mean he is not in "love"?

Why does looks...physical presence...or even personality need to be required in love. If u loved someone in the beginning for these reasons...married them..and then they suddenly lost all these attributes due to a bad accident....will u stop loving them...because they can not be physical with u? because they don't look beautiful anymore...and because they don't even have a personality now?

What I am trying to get at is...there is no real definition for love...I think it is all in our head...brought through fairy tales...films...and stories. Love is just a chemical reaction released through our brains...bit like the same feeling as eating chocolates.....so give it whatever definition u like...it will be different each and everytime u fall in "love".

To me....love is just a wonderful feeling you get when u have someone appreciate you..and when you appreciate them....which will eventually wear off.....then what keeps you together is simply your principles in life.

and this is exhibit A for "Desi girls live in a fantasy world"

Whats_the_411?
January 19th, 2008, 01:38 PM
and this is exhibit A for "Desi girls live in a fantasy world"
Quiet. She makes alot more sense than u.

TheDude
January 19th, 2008, 01:41 PM
Quiet. She makes alot more sense than u.

only if you live in a fantasy world and believe santa claus is real

Clueless_uk
January 19th, 2008, 03:20 PM
and this is exhibit A for "Desi girls live in a fantasy world"

Not really....I just explained...love is a temporary feeling....what u want to make of that feeling...is entirely up to you.

TheDude
January 19th, 2008, 04:02 PM
Not really....I just explained...love is a temporary feeling....what u want to make of that feeling...is entirely up to you.

denial aint just a river in egypt

BurntToast
January 19th, 2008, 04:40 PM
denial aint just a river in egypt

Lulz.

Clueless_uk
January 19th, 2008, 05:32 PM
denial aint just a river in egypt

What exactly am I denying?

chunky
January 19th, 2008, 09:56 PM
denial aint just a river in egypt
:rofla:

dip06
January 20th, 2008, 05:25 AM
Word!!!!!!!!!!!! Word!!!!!!!!!!!!u = Rule!!ur Words Mean Everything To Me....!!

KurtaPyjama
January 21st, 2008, 01:03 PM
Everyone here appears to be arguing about what "love" really is...and what it should be like....

I am pretty surprised....because no1 here can offer a general or universal definition of love....because there isn't one. Love is very individual to each person.

Yes there are certain ingredients that "may" require to be present...for instance caring for that person, wanting to see them happy if it means sacrificing little things for yourself...attraction....presence....ect...however these ingredients don't necessarily need to be there for certain people. For instance a disabled person who cannot communicate to the outer world....but only see and think like a normal person...may fall in love with a girl that gives him a smile each time he is taken past a bus stop....does that mean he is not really in "love"?

An old man...who never had a successful relationship all his life due to women not appreciating him may fall in love with a 24 yr old who converses with him like a person rather than an old man. And he may love her for that simple reason and not want anything else from her.....does that mean he is not in "love"?

Why does looks...physical presence...or even personality need to be required in love. If u loved someone in the beginning for these reasons...married them..and then they suddenly lost all these attributes due to a bad accident....will u stop loving them...because they can not be physical with u? because they don't look beautiful anymore...and because they don't even have a personality now?

What I am trying to get at is...there is no real definition for love...I think it is all in our head...brought through fairy tales...films...and stories. Love is just a chemical reaction released through our brains...bit like the same feeling as eating chocolates.....so give it whatever definition u like...it will be different each and everytime u fall in "love".

To me....love is just a wonderful feeling you get when u have someone appreciate you..and when you appreciate them....which will eventually wear off.....then what keeps you together is simply your principles in life.

SMARTNEZZ POINT TALLY:
+1 for Essay
-10 for pink font
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-9 smartnezz total.

FAIL. :(

ProxDJ
January 21st, 2008, 09:14 PM
=============>

how do you like that now?

versatil
January 23rd, 2008, 03:04 PM
and this is exhibit A for "Desi girls live in a fantasy world"

Totally inaccurate. She was just pointing out how love is fleeting and how when she marries an old man she has to be careful not to be caught running around with the other guy.

versatil
January 23rd, 2008, 03:06 PM
Not really....I just explained...love is a temporary feeling....what u want to make of that feeling...is entirely up to you.

you have a lot to learn. less porn, more kitchen :arrow:

versatil
January 23rd, 2008, 03:09 PM
Hmm, as a pompous person, I don't know if I should really respond to this post or not. :-P

lol not only did you respond, you admitted you're pompous.

I admit I'm not even sure what pompous means.

I looked it up for me:
"adj.

1. Characterized by excessive self-esteem or exaggerated dignity; pretentious: pompous officials who enjoy giving orders.
2. Full of high-sounding phrases; bombastic: a pompous proclamation.
3. Chracterized by pomp or stately display; ceremonious: a pompous occasion."

So basically... you're a sadist. :neutral:
/ignore

dhinchaak
January 23rd, 2008, 03:10 PM
denial aint just a river in egypt
ur a clever copycat

kucchnahi
January 23rd, 2008, 08:58 PM
lol not only did you respond, you admitted you're pompous.

I admit I'm not even sure what pompous means.

I looked it up for me:
"adj.

1. Characterized by excessive self-esteem or exaggerated dignity; pretentious: pompous officials who enjoy giving orders.
2. Full of high-sounding phrases; bombastic: a pompous proclamation.
3. Chracterized by pomp or stately display; ceremonious: a pompous occasion."

So basically... you're a sadist. :neutral:
/ignore

Lol. You are funny. I was pulling your leg since you were being funny with your comment about me suffering from an advance case of atavism. I just merely wanted to return the favor by way of a joke. Silly goose. :)

Sadist? Yup; but I only like torturing myself. :)

versatil
January 24th, 2008, 10:24 PM
Lol. You are funny. I was pulling your leg since you were being funny with your comment about me suffering from an advance case of atavism. I just merely wanted to return the favor by way of a joke. Silly goose. :)

Sadist? Yup; but I only like torturing myself. :)

lol yah i know u couldn't resist posting. im known to have that effect of rendering people mindless all like, "Hrm.. how do I respond to that?" moments later you're all like, "Hrm... when did I respond to that?!"

i don't think i've ever been called a goose before. wait. you must be canadian :squint:

A sadist that only enjoys torturing itself... wouldn't that be a masochist? Wait. A self-torturing sadist that doesn't enjoy the pain inflicted by the torture... that's like.... that's like a dog chasing after its tail... nono a pschizophrenic dog fighting itself for dominion over a bone. nonono. nvm.
youtube it?

p.s. i detest zucchini.

kucchnahi
January 24th, 2008, 11:06 PM
lol yah i know u couldn't resist posting. im known to have that effect of rendering people mindless all like, "Hrm.. how do I respond to that?" moments later you're all like, "Hrm... when did I respond to that?!"

i don't think i've ever been called a goose before. wait. you must be canadian :squint:

A sadist that only enjoys torturing itself... wouldn't that be a masochist? Wait. A self-torturing sadist that doesn't enjoy the pain inflicted by the torture... that's like.... that's like a dog chasing after its tail... nono a pschizophrenic dog fighting itself for dominion over a bone. nonono. nvm.
youtube it?

p.s. i detest zucchini.

Nope, American.

Lol. But you have quite a sense of humor; I have been using words of "advance case of atavism" all over the RD Forums to describe myself. Beautiful choice, I might add. :)

Lol at your Youtube comment.

But yup, I add to that; I have never been a fan of zucchinis as well. ;)

versatil
January 25th, 2008, 02:11 AM
Nope, American.

Lol. But you have quite a sense of humor; I have been using words of "advance case of atavism" all over the RD Forums to describe myself. Beautiful choice, I might add. :)

Lol at your Youtube comment.

But yup, I add to that; I have never been a fan of zucchinis as well. ;)

true. sometimes i need other people to remind me that i'm hilarious. it's irksome telling myself "Wow I'm awesome." when noone else is around.

lol you should put that in your sig. or like, "Holy mother of atavism, BATMAN!" followed by a sound effect or a graphic with that thing from Cloverfield. attention-grabbing, utterly confusing, perfect.

so that's a no w/ teh youtube? :-|

how do you propose zucchinis be removed from this world? if it can happen to dodo birds certainly it can happen to zucchinis, except zucchinis wont even appear in cartoons. i'm afraid im not familiar with kitchen-ery. i tried to fry myself a burger last summer. i discovered i have decent fire-slaying reflexes and that burnt burgers are still edible (with flavor!) if you put the fire out in time and don't fling the pan at your mom.

kucchnahi
January 25th, 2008, 02:18 AM
true. sometimes i need other people to remind me that i'm hilarious. it's irksome telling myself "Wow I'm awesome." when noone else is around. :lol:

lol you should put that in your sig. or like, "Holy mother of atavism, BATMAN!" followed by a sound effect or a graphic with that thing from Cloverfield. attention-grabbing, utterly confusing, perfect. I should totally do something like that; at least none will ask for my pics. ;)


so that's a no w/ teh youtube? :-| No... :lol:

how do you propose zucchinis be removed from this world? if it can happen to dodo birds certainly it can happen to zucchinis, except zucchinis wont even appear in cartoons. i'm afraid im not familiar with kitchen-ery. i tried to fry myself a burger last summer. i discovered i have decent fire-slaying reflexes and that burnt burgers are still edible (with flavor!) if you put the fire out in time and don't fling the pan at your mom. :lol:

:hug: Please always keep others laughing; it is a gift. :)

versatil
January 25th, 2008, 02:26 AM
:hug: Please always keep others laughing; it is a gift. :)

well asceticism is a no-go in my religion. problem is people live outside, too much work to like......walk out of the house. i'm on an extended holiday, garage (my room) is nice this time of year :cool:

Clueless_uk
January 25th, 2008, 09:25 AM
you have a lot to learn. less porn, more kitchen :arrow:

I seriously need to stop watching that shit :ashamed:

kunnyfunt
January 25th, 2008, 12:20 PM
love in general ia gay... it doesnt really exist anymore... its just a bunch of overrated commercials to help sell stuff thats all it is really...

TheDude
January 25th, 2008, 12:21 PM
love in general ia gay... it doesnt really exist anymore... its just a bunch of overrated commercials to help sell stuff thats all it is really...

ohhhh and its not even clooose to valentine's day yet. :o

kunnyfunt
January 25th, 2008, 12:34 PM
ohhhh and its not even clooose to valentine's day yet. :osucks.. for a change after so many years now i dont have to spend money of junk like movies and gifts, i can just spend money on my car. atleast my car appreciates me spending time with it... O_o

TheDude
January 25th, 2008, 12:35 PM
sucks.. for a change after so many years now i dont have to spend money of junk like movies and gifts, i can just spend money on my car. atleast my car appreciates me spending time with it... O_o

lol you lucky bastard! you get to spend it however way you want!

kunnyfunt
January 25th, 2008, 12:42 PM
lol you lucky bastard! you get to spend it however way you want!lol ohh bro you'd be surprised as to how much drama my spending causes with my mom, and she lives like five-six hundred kilometres away!! so yeah... but what mama dont know wont hurt mama, therefore spending on the car is kept down to a hush =]

versatil
January 26th, 2008, 04:50 PM
I seriously need to stop watching that shit :ashamed:



yes yes
learn2cook

lol gluttony or lust, choose your poison :lol:
thing with gluttony is if u get lazy, u cant eat. with porn, if u get lazy, just watch re-runs or do it in your sleep.

happy valentines day? o_O

versatil
January 26th, 2008, 04:53 PM
love in general ia gay... it doesnt really exist anymore... its just a bunch of overrated commercials to help sell stuff thats all it is really...

so. love f's itself? lol @ overrated commercials. every other commercial is for a car i swear. i call it in the theatres, "Ok I bet you this trailer is going to have a car." ::vrooom, trailer for ironman ensues, versatil & co miss it b/c they're rofl::

Clueless_uk
January 26th, 2008, 08:23 PM
yes yes
learn2cook

lol gluttony or lust, choose your poison :lol:
thing with gluttony is if u get lazy, u cant eat. with porn, if u get lazy, just watch re-runs or do it in your sleep.

happy valentines day? o_O

Gluttony anyday!!!!!!!

Who needs love when I have chocolates? Their cheap, sweet and come in abundance!

mizz jassi
January 27th, 2008, 01:51 PM
:wave:

RacingSoul
January 27th, 2008, 01:52 PM
:wave:

Hi...i'm a fresh jatt from punjab...u know what u have to do :)

mizz jassi
January 27th, 2008, 01:56 PM
Hi...i'm a fresh jatt from punjab...u know what u have to do :)



:squint: shut up

kunnyfunt
January 28th, 2008, 04:47 AM
so. love f's itself? lol @ overrated commercials. every other commercial is for a car i swear. i call it in the theatres, "Ok I bet you this trailer is going to have a car." ::vrooom, trailer for ironman ensues, versatil & co miss it b/c they're rofl::i wishe they were car commercials, atleast thatd make tv more interesting!!

daaniya
January 28th, 2008, 05:34 AM
Seriously, how can you fall in love with someone you've never met? Sure, I can understand connecting with someone on the net and feeling close to them. However, if your strongest bonds to other people are exclusively on the net, well, that's just sad.

:idea: 100% agreed!!!...................its sooo stupid thing 2 do ever LOL....

musicchic33
February 23rd, 2008, 07:58 AM
he's so funny, i think he's serious.

hjahahha and that was his first post. it's like he's been stalking GC and finally came up with something to say.

lulz

musicchic33
February 23rd, 2008, 07:59 AM
Haha ok guys this is shameful bt tru...I was this grl u r tlking about falling 4 sum1 online...gosh it was umm wat is the wrd 'lame' but hey it happened...he was charming n I was very into it...now that I think about it I thought I was in love...haha dnt try to lite the torch on me...

Y do we always jump 2 the conclusion that sum1 who acts beyond the boundaries we consider normal is retarded? K sounds like I'm trying 2 defend myself...haha I was lame nt retarded but if u consider love 2 b an ideology than wat the hell do u live 4? If nt lov than lust rite

lolol

oh manz, I need to really go through this thread later on

bootyliciousbaby
February 23rd, 2008, 08:45 AM
haha this is hilarious...yeah i dont think LOVE really exists online...i think its retarded...lol but it is funny..only desperados find "love" on internet i think..as in they claim they love ethe person when they hav never met them...thers gotta b physical attraction, emotional, and mental compatibility...so many ppl are diff on the net then they are in person..therse no such thing and ppl are soo blinded by it on the net..wel not ALL PPL but many...id be emberessed to say i met my guy on the internet..lol i gues thas jus me tho...

IChuu
April 26th, 2008, 08:31 AM
No Doubt Love Is Really All Bullshit

jat_jatt_sardar
April 26th, 2008, 11:43 AM
Hi...i'm a fresh jatt from punjab...u know what u have to do :)
how fresh?

Sameera.
November 2nd, 2008, 12:55 AM
so that means i cant love chunks anymore </3

cookie_queen
November 2nd, 2008, 01:11 AM
I seriously agree. One of my friends was in a similar situation and she ended up meeting up with him and got the preggers.

selekio
November 2nd, 2008, 01:13 AM
Getting in love online, would be a stupid idea and silly-ness. At least meet them first and see what-a-gwan. Then let the love commence if you really have to.

bahar
January 13th, 2009, 08:44 PM
I dont believe in downloading my spouse..:sarb:

Siesta
January 14th, 2009, 01:30 PM
I seriously agree. One of my friends was in a similar situation and she ended up meeting up with him and got the preggers.
Is she still with the guy?

augustangel09
January 14th, 2009, 06:52 PM
agreed.

bingley13
January 14th, 2009, 06:54 PM
I seriously agree. One of my friends was in a similar situation and she ended up meeting up with him and got the preggers.

what a horrible thing to catch!

killuminati87
January 16th, 2009, 08:43 AM
what a horrible thing to catch!
LOL

i'd like to try give u the preggers :love:

sarkar_jot
January 16th, 2009, 10:26 AM
what a horrible thing to catch!:rofl:

jat_jatt_sardar
January 18th, 2009, 10:31 AM
what a horrible thing to catch!

babies are horrible? :shock:

HeAvYmAcHiNeGuN
January 18th, 2009, 01:23 PM
so that means i cant love chunks anymore </3

I knew it :no:

varun4all
February 8th, 2009, 03:01 AM
I knew it :no:

i do agree

Scarborough
February 9th, 2009, 10:14 PM
yep I agree threadmaker

miss mehrani
February 17th, 2009, 08:17 PM
and very insecure and desperate. :D :p


It's just easier for people to fall in love online.

chunky
February 19th, 2009, 02:39 PM
I dont believe in downloading my spouse..:sarb:

what about going down on your spouse?

Bincy
February 19th, 2009, 04:10 PM
It's just easier for people to fall in love online.

how? i mean for all you know it could be a 90 year old lesbian rapist on the other side, you can only go so far in talking to people on the net and taking them srsly.

TriNi27
February 19th, 2009, 08:10 PM
I agree! Don't see how it's possible.

mutzytutsy
April 12th, 2009, 07:46 PM
madhuri dixit and her husband fell on love over the internet, so it proves that it can work, it just depends on each person as everyone is different, personally i know it will never work for me.

.net
April 23rd, 2009, 05:28 PM
To each their own, I suppose. I don't necessarily agree that love HAS to be physical, but, whatever. Meh, don't care.

Bincy
April 23rd, 2009, 09:51 PM
hmm wow.

spartan002
April 27th, 2009, 10:05 PM
hmm wow.

very wow indeed

MaNi792
April 27th, 2009, 10:07 PM
my darling maaaary, u know i cant leave her aloooone, she makes me haaaappy, and they say loving her is wrooooong....if smokin weed is wrong, then let me BuRn in hell

_pakipari_
April 29th, 2009, 05:35 AM
a meet is required..
u dont know how they r in real lifE
they could totali b fakin it..:sarb:

BadFingerBoogie
April 29th, 2009, 10:24 AM
^ send me some pot in the mail, ya skank.

spartan002
April 29th, 2009, 10:26 AM
^ send me some pot in the mail, ya skank.

lol

Champachikla
July 5th, 2009, 10:21 PM
best of general chat

matunechka
August 17th, 2009, 10:53 AM
I consider such people stupid. How they can fall in love without meeting with the person from i-net?without speaking with him in live?

getyourkitsout
August 17th, 2009, 12:24 PM
start a thread so everyone can air their naivety... oh wait, we already have this one.

Parii-x
August 17th, 2009, 09:53 PM
I consider such people stupid. How they can fall in love without meeting with the person from i-net?without speaking with him in live?

EXACTLY. this isnt happening innit :D

ilikecheese
August 22nd, 2009, 12:41 AM
EXACTLY. this isnt happening innit :D
but pariii! i <3 u!

Parii-x
August 31st, 2009, 05:46 AM
but pariii! i <3 u!

Are you sure? :shock:

ilikecheese
September 2nd, 2009, 06:53 AM
Are you sure? :shock:
well each time i'm about to, u take me off ur list and i </3

koolaide
September 2nd, 2009, 09:19 AM
9MxmthbKZYU

xxzealousxx
September 21st, 2010, 09:45 PM
one can find like-minded people, but falling in love is out of question.

warmhearted_girl
September 21st, 2010, 11:50 PM
It's possible. Love is God, God is love. God is everywhere ( for believers). True love can be anywhere, but yeah you do need to meet the person as our lives these days are almost fully ruled by devil. People aren't always what they seem so a meeting is defo required.

xxzealousxx
September 22nd, 2010, 03:41 AM
^^ agreed!

kunnyfunt
September 22nd, 2010, 08:01 AM
doesnt matter if its online of offline...
'I like them fluffy - I know it's bad taste -
With fluffy soft looks and a flower at the waist,
With golden hair flying, like mist round the moon
And lips that seem sighing, "You must kiss me soon,"
Not huffy, or stuffy, not tiny or tall,
But fluffy, just fluffy, with no brains at all.'

no but seriously... am i the only person here who thinks that all you retards who fall in love have some serious psychological malfunctions?? yeah okay so that might seem like a rhetorical question given the self description but for a dude to fall in love is unnatural.. his need to get laid on a regular basis is not the same as love.. must'nt confuse the two.. what people need to understand is falling in love (regardless of being online or offline) is still a feminine attribute, the closest a guy can do is put on a show to make it look like he's in love when in reality he's just doing what he can to get laid...

but this whole new phase of falling in love online.. yeah look its not real.. you can like someone you meet online because you can like their personality and appreciate their manner of making conversation but thats as far as it can logically go!

on the other hand for all the poor bastards who have this illusion that the girl they're crazy about 'loves' them (back) i'm going to quote Florence Nightingale just so you lot have a valid source to refer to;
'Women have no sympathy... And my experience of women is almost as large as Europe. And it is so intimate too. Women crave for being loved, not for loving. They scream at you for sympathy all day long, they are incapable of giving any in return for they cannot remember your affairs long enough to do so.'

lol you poor bastards.. your illusion of love's screwed you over... :-|

evil_bitch102
September 22nd, 2010, 02:08 PM
How do u fall in love online? You can meet someone from the internet and eventually fall in love, but you cant be in love with a stranger. But I think you mean People who meet off the internet are retarded and when they fall in love its even more retarded.

AX Model
December 23rd, 2010, 12:55 PM
:p

nah... we had our beef... we got at each other ... neither one of us backed down really... it was entertaining... but lets face it... clearly..we both pimpin... maybe thats why we bumped heads... u cool ....its whatever..

haha wtf, i guess all of jersey posts here after all

zarahomme
December 23rd, 2010, 01:04 PM
doesnt matter if its online of offline...
'I like them fluffy - I know it's bad taste -
With fluffy soft looks and a flower at the waist,
With golden hair flying, like mist round the moon
And lips that seem sighing, "You must kiss me soon,"
Not huffy, or stuffy, not tiny or tall,
But fluffy, just fluffy, with no brains at all.'

no but seriously... am i the only person here who thinks that all you retards who fall in love have some serious psychological malfunctions?? yeah okay so that might seem like a rhetorical question given the self description but for a dude to fall in love is unnatural.. his need to get laid on a regular basis is not the same as love.. must'nt confuse the two.. what people need to understand is falling in love (regardless of being online or offline) is still a feminine attribute, the closest a guy can do is put on a show to make it look like he's in love when in reality he's just doing what he can to get laid...

but this whole new phase of falling in love online.. yeah look its not real.. you can like someone you meet online because you can like their personality and appreciate their manner of making conversation but thats as far as it can logically go!

on the other hand for all the poor bastards who have this illusion that the girl they're crazy about 'loves' them (back) i'm going to quote Florence Nightingale just so you lot have a valid source to refer to;
'Women have no sympathy... And my experience of women is almost as large as Europe. And it is so intimate too. Women crave for being loved, not for loving. They scream at you for sympathy all day long, they are incapable of giving any in return for they cannot remember your affairs long enough to do so.'

lol you poor bastards.. your illusion of love's screwed you over... :-|

"You and I are the same, Darien. We are smart enough not to buy in to the oldest myth running; love. Diction created by people to keep them from jumping out of windows" -GG

http://eggysweatsuit.files.wordpress.com/2010/09/wallstreet460.jpg

mzhartlezz
January 29th, 2011, 07:15 PM
lol @other person turnin out to be ur mum lol

irvinebenjamin80
February 24th, 2011, 06:30 AM
I have done it without even realizing that it was happening..
Thus it happens without any notice :neutral:

IndiraM
February 26th, 2011, 11:44 PM
I don't fall in love online, but I tent to like online people more than I should. I had even been attracted to one...

jassika
March 8th, 2011, 11:27 AM
there are some way faker people offline that people fall for than maybe online ones

IndiraM
March 10th, 2011, 04:02 PM
there are some way faker people offline that people fall for than maybe online ones

Said what?


-I

chunky
March 11th, 2011, 07:43 AM
I don't fall in love online, but I tent to like online people more than I should. I had even been attracted to one...
oh? do tell!

IndiraM
May 4th, 2011, 01:51 PM
oh? do tell!
:shhh: Its a secret.


-I

Laurens
December 23rd, 2011, 10:08 PM
How about those who decide to get married after months of having a relationship online"? Not to slam anyone, but that isn't the most clever way to go about deciding for what may be the most important decision of your life.
40 years later... "Your Grandpa and I met on this website..."
C'mon.