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zuiwaziri
October 19th, 2005, 10:15 AM
I hav a problem in my love life and would appriciate sum feedback.
Let me tell u wht happened.....
(I havent used real names tho)
Plz read and reply cuz i could do with help on this.

OK Well. ME n Diya's famly hav been friends for like 50 yrs and our dads are best friends. The kids of the famlys didnt really talk to each other until last year wen I got there MSN addys. I started talkin to Diya n we got to kno each other, so during summer I went o visit them n I fell in love wit her, but she wasnt as intersted in me. I left n jus after in September her sister got married in Paki n my dad n sister attended the wedding and my dad organised loads cuz her dad cudnt go. During the wedding, Diya's mom decided tht she wud tell her mother in law tht Diya's dad is bein a bad guy, hitting the sons n shit. My dad told her to shut up cuz it wasnt the time to be talkin bout all this, cuz they at a wedding. During this time my parents were goin thru sum troubles and wen we got back my sister told me tht Diya's mom had sed summut to her. Tht my dad had got remarried to sum nxt gurl they knew. Rumors were flying round tht it was true and my dad was protesting his innocence, Meanwhile wen Diya got back frm the wedding she told me tht she did hav strong feelings for me n we became a couple, abeit over the net. every1 knew we was together n getting married was on every1's lips. Life was great for me. My parents sorted there issues n they were happy too.
Im march this yr my dad went to Paki and so did Diya's dad. Jus b4 they went I told my dad to talk bout a Rishtha. Wen I got back he told me he didnt ask. I felt let down n pissed off. I got the impression he didnt want me to marry her. I found out it was cuz of wht Diya's mom had said bout him, but he made it sound like I didnt like Diya. So I packed my bags n ran away. Diya knew I was comin n so did her mom, cuz she wanted us to get married, but jus b4 I came they told me not to come cuz it wud cause problems. but I ran anyways to Diya. My dad found out where I was n told Diya’s dad to send me back, n my dad was upset n emotional and wanted a quick response, but all Diya dad sed was tht he was busy n he wud call him back. He never called n wen my dad talk to him again 3 days later they had a huge fight n swore at each other bad. My dad was also pissed cuz someone had told my dads brother in Pakistan tht I was engaged n my uncle was pissed cuz no1 told him. My aunt was close to Diya, my sister n Diya's sister (Meena), but the only person who cud hav sed this was Meena cuz she was living in Paki wit her husband. Meena blamed it on my sister n also sed she lied bout wht her mom had sed. Every1 believed Meena n hated my sister, including me. During the time I was at Diya’s place we was very on n off cuz of the problems and I was under stress and didn’t treat her right n was angry n moody, but tht was cuz I really wanted her attention n she wasn’t spending time wit me. By the time I had left me n Diya were done, but I was very much in love wit her, but she told me she hated n regretted bein wit me. I told her I wud fix everythin n we wud be Ok, but she wudnt believe me n jus listened to whtever her sister told her, tht I was a shit talker n was causing problems within there famly. On the day I left Diya’s mom had a one on one talk wit me. She told me tht she wud never let me marry her daughter n wud kill her b4 she married me. I was heart broken cuz she told me she wanted us married. I left n now all I hear is tht I started a fight n haven’t tried to fix it. So I tried to sort the problems between our dads but its turned into bizness related shit and I been told to stay out of it. I called Diya’s mom cuz I believe she manipulated me cuz she has a grudge against my dad cuz of wht happened between her n my dad. And I asked her if she wud take back wht she sed bout him getting remarried n she said NO!! and I told her I love her n her famly but she sed tht we don’t care bout u n not to talk to us anymore n leave us alone. I tried talking to Diya cuz my parents told me to finish skool n then we will get u married to her. And I sed I still hav 1% hope of marrying her, but I told Diya and now she hates me cuz I talked shit bout her mom. Meena has sum grudge on me too n totally hates me. She came on msn n sed summut tht really pissed me off so I sed I didn’t care bout her anymore. Then she called my mom n told her I Swore at her wen I didn’t. and Diya is pissed at me cuz of this too. And it was Meena who told my Uncles wife tht me n Diya was engaged cuz I asked my aunt, but Meena is blaming it on my sister n every1 is believing her.
The last thing I did was tell Diya’s mom tht she has No right to say I wont marry Diya cuz Only God knos our future and if God wants it then it will happen. Since then I hav really wanted to talk to Diya but she has deleted me frm msn n I don’t hav her cell number n I cant call her house cuz her famly is there.

Plz help me out, I kno u are all kind hearted ppl, i jus need help to find my Bollywood love story happy ending.

liltrinichick
October 19th, 2005, 10:27 AM
WoW.. that's a lot
just write the main details and i'll try and help :)

zuiwaziri
October 19th, 2005, 10:33 AM
Jus read the lot. It wont make sense to u otherwise. and plz help

liltrinichick
October 19th, 2005, 10:45 AM
ok so i just finished and i must say that would be a very good plot for a soap opera..lol..j/k

ok first question.. how old is Diya??

zuiwaziri
October 19th, 2005, 10:52 AM
She is 21 and so am I

liltrinichick
October 19th, 2005, 10:53 AM
She is 21 and so am I

ok well first of all.. It sounds to me like her family is really immature and just likes creating problems..

and ok like you said only God knows the future so just give it time.. (remember time heals all wounds) give her time.. If it's ment to be it you'll get back together and get married, but first you too have a lot to talk about.. like ok you guys were a couple so she should have giving you the benefit of the doubt and listened to what you have to say instead of just backing up her family..I knows it's her fam and all but still she should have a little more faith in you that you wouldn't talk crap like that

liltrinichick
October 19th, 2005, 10:55 AM
is she like your first gf/ love?? if so trust me you'll find your soul mate when you least expect it.. like meeeeeeeeeeeeeeee :dance3: i found my bf online one night when i was bored outta mind and we've been together for a year and a month and we're still very much in love.. even though i wanna kick his ass sometimes :mad:

zuiwaziri
October 19th, 2005, 11:05 AM
First gf i hav loved. But i hav had a feelin bout her ever since she gave me a kiss at her uncles wedding.
we was 5 yrs old and i rember it like it was yesterday.

liltrinichick
October 19th, 2005, 11:12 AM
First gf i hav loved. But i hav had a feelin bout her ever since she gave me a kiss at her uncles wedding.
we was 5 yrs old and i rember it like it was yesterday.


awww that's sooo sweet :(
listen the only thing you can do right now is give her some time..let her think about all the good times you two shared and what you can do is send her flowers with a little poem in it and romantic things like that..GIRLS LOVE THAT..

zuiwaziri
October 19th, 2005, 11:16 AM
Umm i did tht 2 weeks ago on her bday, and even called her all day jus to say happy bday. I didnt want her to think i was bein obsesive, so i told her tht i was sending flowers n tht i ordered them wen we were still together.
I was best friends wit her brothers too, and now they hate me too. tht hurts too cuz i hav lost 3 guys who i treated like my brothers.
I want to call her famly on Eid, but i dont want a bad reaction. Do u think i shud, jus to show im still a person with good intentions ??

liltrinichick
October 19th, 2005, 11:21 AM
Umm i did tht 2 weeks ago on her bday, and even called her all day jus to say happy bday. I didnt want her to think i was bein obsesive, so i told her tht i was sending flowers n tht i ordered them wen we were still together.
I was best friends wit her brothers too, and now they hate me too. tht hurts too cuz i hav lost 3 guys who i treated like my brothers.
I want to call her famly on Eid, but i dont want a bad reaction. Do u think i shud, jus to show im still a person with good intentions ??

maybe you should send them a card or something like that.. but personally i wouldn't waste my time on someone that's being so immature, relationships have problems and it's up to the couple to solve them.. think about it when/if you to get married and her family starts acting stupid again how do you know that she wouldn't choose there side.. you have to think about things like that

zuiwaziri
October 19th, 2005, 11:28 AM
Cuz right now she belives I am not the right guy for her and so she choose her famly.
But when/if we get married (INSHALLAH) then i kno she will totally defend her man. I kno she is very possesive of the things she considers to be hers and doesnt lt anyone say anything bout them i.e i tease her bout shahrukh khan and she tottally had a tantrum at me.
she needs to be set free and realise tht her family is forcing her to hate me.
Im jus scared tht she will get over me or even worse marry sum1else and not even tell me. leaving me to be a fool in couple of yrs, cuz i wud ask her to marry me and she wud be like im already married.
Im terrified of tht happening.

liltrinichick
October 19th, 2005, 11:43 AM
Cuz right now she belives I am not the right guy for her and so she choose her famly.
But when/if we get married (INSHALLAH) then i kno she will totally defend her man. I kno she is very possesive of the things she considers to be hers and doesnt lt anyone say anything bout them i.e i tease her bout shahrukh khan and she tottally had a tantrum at me.
she needs to be set free and realise tht her family is forcing her to hate me.
Im jus scared tht she will get over me or even worse marry sum1else and not even tell me. leaving me to be a fool in couple of yrs, cuz i wud ask her to marry me and she wud be like im already married.
Im terrified of tht happening.


ok but if you two were considering marriage then she shouldn't just take her family's side.. personally i would and did stand by my man's side though all the crap we went through

suga suga
October 19th, 2005, 11:53 AM
omg....n this is why i really hate pakis sometimes...always starting BS n causin problems :mad:

newaysss buddy....i also suggest that you take your time...ur only 21 so u have plenty of it b4 u can get married....if it was meant to be then she'll come back to u. if not, then inshallah u'l have the strength to move on and find someone else.

Bipasha Basu
October 19th, 2005, 01:10 PM
The best way to mend a mans heart is to use super-glue

zuiwaziri
October 19th, 2005, 01:43 PM
Thanx but right now its not like i want anyone else.
Now im gettin shit frm her bro who keeps leaving lil comments on his MSN addy so i can read them. This the same bro who i treated like my own baby bro n the same guy who i helped thru a difficult relationaship.
I dont understand tht famly, nor will i ever, but i wud do anything to marry into it

zuiwaziri
October 26th, 2005, 07:36 PM
Can anyone else help on my Problem.
I cud really do with the help, cuz i cant sleep, eat and its really affecting my Education.
I get up in the morning but dont hav the desire to get out of Bed.
Any suggestions wud be most appreiciated.

da_fn_sho
October 26th, 2005, 09:44 PM
suicide?

GreenEyed
October 27th, 2005, 07:59 AM
Not trying to be rude, just honest but it doesnt look like u are gona get married to her! Everyone knows how these asian feuds get and it will take decades to resolve (a desi thing.) Its hard to accept and yeh only god knows but i really dont think its gona happen so ur gona have to do ur best to accept that and start to move on. You've tried now and if its going to happen, she will come to u. Dont force fate. Take care. Dee. x Its hard but you've gota start to accept it..