why is love soooo hard :(???

[elina]

i think im gunna kill myself soon (actually allow that, thats bad)

well wats happend is that, i've fallen in love :D..butttttt i know u people myte go "omg shes so young how does she know love" well i do...i dnt think u need to be a certain age to be in love, you feel it when you feel it and your the onli person that actually knows that your in love. (hope that made sense)

anywayz....typical problem "PARENTS".. i know for a fact that i want to marry this guy n ma bf knows he wants to mary me. ok i know im young and hes young as well and we have our whole life ahead of us buttt we wuld love to get married.... we've even tlked bout it planin our wedding etc

but how wuld we tell our parents, i dont wanna upset ma parents coz they do sooooooo much for me (which parent doesnt ey??) andddd looking at other people like some of my cuzins and family friends (they all had love marriages) it never worked out and if it did they aren't rele living a happy.
insallah this wont happen wiv me n ma bf but im worried coz every couple says "i love u and we will lead a happy life" yet when they get married it doesnt go as well... i knw i knw i knw it doesnt happen 2 all couples but it does happen and i dont knw if it will happen 2 me or not!!!!

im rele worried man!!!!!

p.s dont b mad when u write stuff on here sum of you lot just take the piss but u knw i love u allllll xxxxxxxxxxxxxx now discuss my lil problem xxxx

[Ketamine-Abuse]

lol, thats no a problem. Starving kids in africa or terrorists killing people or iraqis dying everyday. They're problems this isn't

[elina]

Hmmm Is My Bloody Spelling Better????

[Ketamine-Abuse]

And to answer you question "Why is love soooo hard :(???, its because when I man loves a woman blood rushes to his cock....

[elina]

lol, thats no a problem. Starving kids in africa or terrorists killing people or iraqis dying everyday. They're problems this isn't

m8 u gt a serious prob against me always saying bad stuff i ask 4 help all u give me is shit!! werido

[Satya-Oblet]

ok first of all...if youre so worried about how your relationship with your bf will end up, why not spend more time with him before jumping straight into marriage....I mean the main reason why ur cuzins love marriages havent worked is that they probably rushed it as well..thats one of the worst mistakes u can make...

Im assuming ur goin into gr 11 or 12..which means that you are still EXTREMELYY young to be getting married..why do u wanna get married so bad if u can just spend some quality time with him as his gf for however long until you are old enough for marriage....ur parents will not a have a problem with u gettin married..and if they dont have outside pressures (other family members) trying to hold down the family image...their own traditionalist views also come into play...they just wouldnt feel right for u to get married right now...it would be nothin against ur bf..it just doesnt work like that..relaistically..

[cool_patelhere]

i think im gunna kill myself soon (actually allow that, thats bad)

well wats happend is that, i've fallen in love :D..butttttt i know u people myte go "omg shes so young how does she know love" well i do...i dnt think u need to be a certain age to be in love, you feel it when you feel it and your the onli person that actually knows that your in love. (hope that made sense)

anywayz....typical problem "PARENTS".. i know for a fact that i want to marry this guy n ma bf knows he wants to mary me. ok i know im young and hes young as well and we have our whole life ahead of us buttt we wuld love to get married.... we've even tlked bout it planin our wedding etc

but how wuld we tell our parents, i dont wanna upset ma parents coz they do sooooooo much for me (which parent doesnt ey??) andddd looking at other people like some of my cuzins and family friends (they all had love marriages) it never worked out and if it did they aren't rele living a happy.
insallah this wont happen wiv me n ma bf but im worried coz every couple says "i love u and we will lead a happy life" yet when they get married it doesnt go as well... i knw i knw i knw it doesnt happen 2 all couples but it does happen and i dont knw if it will happen 2 me or not!!!!

im rele worried man!!!!!

p.s dont b mad when u write stuff on here sum of you lot just take the piss but u knw i love u allllll xxxxxxxxxxxxxx now discuss my lil problem xxxx
"LOVE" is hard because its deep, and to reach its deepth is not so easy. love is above logical mind, intellegency, perfection, and great knowledge.
knowing this one gets the idea, how we could achive true love.
love is right front of us, but cannot catch it, till we walk with the perfection, logical mind, intellegency, this tools does not work.
we could recah to it, through our sense and feelings.
about ur parents, well! u already feel that ur parents would not agree, because for u to tell now is not a right time.
when u are quite older like after 18 or 21, and if u tell , ur parents would agree.
In such age, ur parents would think, that guy is playing n made u in love so on.
love marriage mostely does not work out, because the relatiosnhip mentality has grown up as a bf gf, and a relatiosnhip between wife /husband and bf /gf is too much difference. a lot difference.
u should observe how an arranged married and love married couple behave after they get married. arranged marriage breaks because either one of them becomes a cheater. but if they not cheater, they start to adopt eachother, with an respect as a wife to the husband and husband to his wife, in the real manner.
u know how it is in a bf/gf relatiosnhip, if not u will learn it :)

dunno wat u have in ur faith, but i could say, keep on the relationship of bf gf, with an intension of marring eachother, and get marriedafter having an career, if it breaks, u will ur career have for self support.
and soemthing else, marriage is divine relationship, and to build this relationship, we need to give time, we need wise mind, and well built with the qualties of a real wife as well a mother, and a real husband and a father.
like its said "rome was not built in one day" :)
for it needs time, which our parents alreayd know, and so they wont agree,
just keep it away from ur parents, and be true to eachother.

btw i been through 4 relationship, been true and know how it is, why love is so hard.
because less are like us.
and something else, someone said me, people flirts till they met the right one.
even a player have to fall in his or her right one.
because everyone has heart and feelings, it just need to be felt.
:neutral: written much i guess so.
lol

[cool_patelhere]

lol, thats no a problem. Starving kids in africa or terrorists killing people or iraqis dying everyday. They're problems this isn't

"Starving kids in africa or terrorists killing people or iraqis dying everyday"
if this is a problem, then her problem is also a problem
:)

[DESI-PEACHES]

telling ur rents is hard because u love them so much and as u mentioned it, they did so much for u and u dnt wana hurt their feelings if u wana have love marriage. but ur rents will want u to be happy and have a bit of happiness and if the happiness is 'him' then tell your rents aba him....dnt tell ur rents that he is ur bf just say he is my friend and once ur rents get the idea of who he is and what does he do etc if u invite him over 4 dinner as a friends coruse then ur rents may respect him even more if u guys stay friends...who knows, ur rents may even consider him as ur ideal husband!!

hope this works!!

and do let us know hw things went

[cool_patelhere]

telling ur rents is hard because u love them so much and as u mentioned it, they did so much for u and u dnt wana hurt their feelings if u wana have love marriage. but ur rents will want u to be happy and have a bit of happiness and if the happiness is 'him' then tell your rents aba him....dnt tell ur rents that he is ur bf just say he is my friend and once ur rents get the idea of who he is and what does he do etc if u invite him over 4 dinner as a friends coruse then ur rents may respect him even more if u guys stay friends...who knows, ur rents may even consider him as ur ideal husband!!

hope this works!!

and do let us know hw things went
i like ur username
" desi peaches" hehehe

[elina]

ok first of all...if youre so worried about how your relationship with your bf will end up, why not spend more time with him before jumping straight into marriage....I mean the main reason why ur cuzins love marriages havent worked is that they probably rushed it as well..thats one of the worst mistakes u can make...

Im assuming ur goin into gr 11 or 12..which means that you are still EXTREMELYY young to be getting married..why do u wanna get married so bad if u can just spend some quality time with him as his gf for however long until you are old enough for marriage....ur parents will not a have a problem with u gettin married..and if they dont have outside pressures (other family members) trying to hold down the family image...their own traditionalist views also come into play...they just wouldnt feel right for u to get married right now...it would be nothin against ur bf..it just doesnt work like that..relaistically..


true and i will... im not getting married ryte now but i know for sure this is the guy i want to spend da rest of my with... tru bout the cuzins but i havent rele asked them i fink i myte go ask for help but not just yet they'll start giving me sum massive lecture on how young i am etc but iam gunna think bout this but at the moment ima concentrate on ma studies and get my life achivement of being a cardiologist :D den i'll think bout getting married hmmmmm i think thats what i myte do actually xx

[danemane]

i think im gunna kill myself soon (actually allow that, thats bad)

well wats happend is that, i've fallen in love :D..butttttt i know u people myte go "omg shes so young how does she know love" well i do...i dnt think u need to be a certain age to be in love, you feel it when you feel it and your the onli person that actually knows that your in love. (hope that made sense)

anywayz....typical problem "PARENTS".. i know for a fact that i want to marry this guy n ma bf knows he wants to mary me. ok i know im young and hes young as well and we have our whole life ahead of us buttt we wuld love to get married.... we've even tlked bout it planin our wedding etc

but how wuld we tell our parents, i dont wanna upset ma parents coz they do sooooooo much for me (which parent doesnt ey??) andddd looking at other people like some of my cuzins and family friends (they all had love marriages) it never worked out and if it did they aren't rele living a happy.
insallah this wont happen wiv me n ma bf but im worried coz every couple says "i love u and we will lead a happy life" yet when they get married it doesnt go as well... i knw i knw i knw it doesnt happen 2 all couples but it does happen and i dont knw if it will happen 2 me or not!!!!

im rele worried man!!!!!

p.s dont b mad when u write stuff on here sum of you lot just take the piss but u knw i love u allllll xxxxxxxxxxxxxx now discuss my lil problem xxxx
u r acti9ng like a typical English gal. " M in love n want ta marry dis guy". Yes u said it right dat u r only 16 however, perhaps u r in love. I have no objection n neither do I question ur love for dis guy.

I would suggest u dont tell dis to anyone yet n complete ur studies first. Once u have completed u studies n r of age, u can tell ur parrents n get married. As simple as dat. U dont need ta think hard.

[Gt_BabyGurl]

this is my advice to u get to Know this guy better, have a lovin, carin, fun relationship with him until u reach the point that says i cant do without u i have to hear and feel u every sec of the day and also know that the storng love that u have is build to such a level that u would do anything for each other and i mean anything and then think about marriage
i have a friend who really loves this guy and she thinks that she would wanna marry him but it comes to the parents problem is soooo young which in age dont really matter in Guyanese culture but the parents r stricked as any other desi parents and well she is going behind there backs and seein if this thing will work and she is ready really really ready to devote her life to this guy and she give anything for him and he would do the same for her then they'll both tell the parents and that how it has to be know that u would sacrifice anything in this world to be with him then u would know ok im wanna spend the rest of ma life with him no doubt and then tell ur parents so they know they cant stop u and they'll just have to accept ur decision but by then mostly u'll be the age of gettin married so yea

[DesiByChoice]

Take this with a grain of salt:

1. You are too young to be on here.

2. You literally cannot be in love at this age. The concept of love involves having a relationship at the spirit level, which even at my age I do not think I get yet. Love isn't about feeling like you want to spend your life with this person (yes, its part of it), but its also about understanding, learning, and growth. You are not in LOVE, you are infatuated with the IDEA of being in love hence your need to get married. SNAP out of it.

3. Give things time, people change as they grow up and realize that they want DIFFERENT things, especially around your age. What you want at 16 will probably be completely different than what you want at 20. Let me put it this way, lets say you get married to someone now or 18, and then at 25, you realize, shit, i've changed so much, I should have taken my time.

4. Marriage aint a joke, adds responsibilities, life style changes, frankly, you dont have a lifestyle yet, your parents dictate that. Get comfortable with your LIFE first, be able to be indepedant and make decisions.

5. Last but not least, marriage sadly isn't about just two people (I know I will get flamed) but oh well. Its about two families, unless you are really anti family oriented. Look at practicality over the heart, I see way too many love birds crying out there, thinking it was the best decision of their life. I know I am setting myself to be hit hard on this one but I believe in using the mind as much as the heart and balancing.

So, what can you take from the above, YOU CANNOT BE IN LOVE, trust me on this one, whatever you think you have is SPECIAL but your definition of LOVE will change over your life and hence my response is so shrude and crude.

Take it for what its worth, goto the arcade, play some xbox, and look at some cute boys.

:)
D

[FatGeezer]

i think im gunna kill myself soon (actually allow that, thats bad)

well wats happend is that, i've fallen in love :D..butttttt i know u people myte go "omg shes so young how does she know love" well i do...i dnt think u need to be a certain age to be in love, you feel it when you feel it and your the onli person that actually knows that your in love. (hope that made sense)

anywayz....typical problem "PARENTS".. i know for a fact that i want to marry this guy n ma bf knows he wants to mary me. ok i know im young and hes young as well and we have our whole life ahead of us buttt we wuld love to get married.... we've even tlked bout it planin our wedding etc

but how wuld we tell our parents, i dont wanna upset ma parents coz they do sooooooo much for me (which parent doesnt ey??) andddd looking at other people like some of my cuzins and family friends (they all had love marriages) it never worked out and if it did they aren't rele living a happy.
insallah this wont happen wiv me n ma bf but im worried coz every couple says "i love u and we will lead a happy life" yet when they get married it doesnt go as well... i knw i knw i knw it doesnt happen 2 all couples but it does happen and i dont knw if it will happen 2 me or not!!!!

im rele worried man!!!!!

p.s dont b mad when u write stuff on here sum of you lot just take the piss but u knw i love u allllll xxxxxxxxxxxxxx now discuss my lil problem xxxx


Get a molvi involved (if you look around on the net im sure youll be able to hire one but i dunno how your fols would take to an e-movi) who'll explain to your parents that in Islam if two people wanna get married and theer is no valid reason why they shouldnt then it should be done.

This only works if youre religious tho. Dont throw the books at your folks and then go down to the local to celebrate with a pint when youre parents finally agree....